Conversation Skills: DON'T BE SHY!

Hi, there. My name is Ronnie. Today, I'm going to teach you something very fun and exciting

大家好。我叫罗妮。今天，我将教你一些有趣又刺激

and important. It's how to improve your speaking. Whether you're speaking English or whether

而且重要的东西。就是如何提高你的口语。无论你是否说英语，无论你打算做

you're doing public speaking in front of people or whether you're just speaking to a neighbor,

公共演讲，还是只是要和邻居或者

someone on the bus, someone in a store, or a taxi driver, you might be shy. What does

公交车上的人，商店里的人，或者跟出租车司机交谈，你可能会害羞胆怯。什么是

"shy" mean? "Shy" means you don't like -- or you're nervous -- to speak to strangers or

“害羞”呢？“害羞”的含义是你不喜欢—或者你很紧张—去和陌生人或者

to speak to other people. So if you are naturally a shy person, I'm sure you've heard people

别人说话。如果你天生就是一个害羞的人，我确定你早就听过人们

over and over again say, "Don't be shy! Come on. Don't be shy!" Easier said than done,

一次次地对你说：“别害羞！来嘛。别害羞！“说着容易做起来难，

isn't it, shy people? So I want to give you some tips or some pointers maybe to help you

是吧，害羞的人？所以我想给你一些小小的秘诀来帮助你

to be less shy. It's impossible to be 100 percent outgoing if you are naturally a shy

克服害羞。如果你天生是个害羞的人，

person.

尝试变的外向，这非常重要。

So today's lesson is how you improve your speaking. Don't be shy!

那么，今天的课程是如何改善你的口语，别害羞了！

The first thing that you have to do is think about why. "Why am I shy?" There may be many

首先，你得想想为什么。“为啥俺这么害羞捏？”可能有许多

different reasons. I'm just going to go through a couple of them. The number one reason, probably,

不同的原因。我拿上就能想到好几条。第一条，可能

if you're watching these videos, is because you are trying to speak a new language. Maybe

因为你在试着说一种你刚刚开始学习的语言，比如英语。

it is English. And you are shy to make a mistake. You don't want to say something bad, funny,

你担心犯错误。你害怕说出一些错误的，不好的，粗鲁的和令人尴尬的话。

rude, embarrassing. You don't want your face to go red and they'll go, "Ha ha! You said

你不想闹个大红脸，让人嘲笑你：“哈哈，你很古怪”

a funny word!" Okay. That will happen. And you know what? Who cares? It happens all the

好吧。。。这很可能会发生。但是呢，你就说了咋地？

time. I say funny things a lot, too.

这不是啥稀罕事。我也常常会犯这些错误。

Another reason why you may be shy is because you "talk funny". Lots of people have different

另一个原因可能是你的腔调。有些人

problems with their mouths. Some people have a speech impediment. Some people have a lisp,

大舌头，有些人口吃，有些人口齿不清，

so they don't pronounce words probably like me. Maybe you have a very strange or different

可能他们不能像我一样发音。可能你跟身边的人相比，有很奇怪的，很重的口音。

accent than the other people around you. People often ask me, "Ronnie, where are you from?"

人们常常问我：“罗妮，你哪儿人？”

And I say, "Canada." And they say, "No, you're not." "Yes, I am." "But you have an accent."

我回答：“加拿大人。”他们说：“不是吧？”呃。。。可我真是。

"Yes. I have an accent. I talk funny. Who cares? I'm from Canada. Nice to meet you."

他们会说：“你有口音哦～”。我有口音，咋了？我是加拿大人，很高兴认识你。

So even if you do talk funny or you do have an accent, rock with it. Yeah. You speak differently.

即使你说话古怪有口音，只管说呗。

Good. Don't be like other people. Other people are boring.

别跟他们一般见识，有些人很无聊。

This is a problem. Maybe you just don't like to talk. Okay? Maybe you are quiet. Maybe

这有啥问题？可能你就是不喜欢说话。可能你比较沉默，

you don't want to talk to anyone ever, at all. That's cool. If you don't like people

可能你不想跟任何人说话。酷！如果你遇到讨厌的人，不想跟他说话

and you don't like to talk, don't force yourself to talk. Maybe you could write something.

那就别说。你可以用写下来，

Maybe you could text message or email someone. But that's not going to improve your speaking.

发信息或者发邮件的方式，但这无助于提高你的口语。

If you do not like to talk to people, that's your choice. But I'm trying to help you overcome

如果你不想说话，冇问题。但我在试图帮助你克服你的害羞。

your shyness. So let's go through a couple ways to actually do this. Don't be shy!

那么我们用几种方法来试试，好不？

Just say, "Hi!" So if you're standing at a bus stop or the subway station or anywhere,

只管打招呼。如果你站在巴士站或地铁站或者其他啥地方，

and there's another human being beside you -- let's say that you're at a bar, and there's

有个陌生人就在你旁边，只管跟他打个招呼。如果你在酒吧，

a beautiful girl or a very handsome boy. The quickest, the easiest, and the best way to

边上有个帅锅或者美吕，最好最快最容易套近乎的方法就是打个招呼--

speak to someone is just to say, "Hi! My name is Ronnie." Don't use "Ronnie", though. That's

“Hi，我是罗妮。”--别说罗妮，罗妮是俺名字，

my name. You have to use your name. So just say "hi" to people. If they want to speak

你说你的名字。只管跟人打招呼，如果他们想跟你聊，他们会跟你聊下去。

to you, they will start the conversation. They will say, "Oh, hi. My name is --. Nice

他们会说：“Hi，我是XX，很高兴认识你”

to meet you." "Oh, nice to meet you, too." Uh-oh! And then, your shyness sets in because

接下来可能你的尴尬症要犯了，

-- "What do I say? Shoes. I have shoes. Do you have shoes? Oh, God. I'm such an idiot.

我该说啥？鞋子。“我穿鞋了，你穿了木有？”天哪，这真傻B。

I can't even speak." Maybe the other person will have asked you a person. You can always

可能人家会问你问题，一些基本的问题

ask people basic questions, like, "Where are you from? Why do you talk funny? Why are you

比如说，你哪儿人？为啥你说话这么滑稽，

shy?" All those fun questions.

为啥你这么害羞？诸如此类。

When you're actually speaking to someone, it's really important that you choose a topic

事实上当你跟人交谈时，很重要的一点是你得选一个你喜欢的主题。

that you like. So if I were to meet someone -- "Hi. My name is Ronnie." "Hi." "Cool. So

要是我的话，我会说：“Hi，我是罗妮”。“Hi”。。。。

-- oh, I like music. Do you like the Sex Pistols?" "Yeah." "Me, too. Oh, my God. No way! What

“哦，我喜欢音乐。你喜欢 Sex Pistols 乐队不？” --“我也喜欢” --不会吧？

other kind of music to you like?" So I like to talk to people about music. The only problem

“你喜欢哪种类型的音乐？” 我喜欢跟人谈论音乐方面的事儿。唯一的问题是，

is not a lot of people like the same music I do. So you have to choose a topic that you

很少有人喜欢我喜欢的音乐流派。所以，选个你喜欢谈论的话题，运气好的话，

like to talk about. If you're lucky, the other person will also like the topic.

人家可能正好也喜欢这个话题。

The next one: Get a job. Now, this might be very strange for you to even comprehend, but

下一个：找个工作。这个你这会儿可能很难理解。

I -- right here -- am shy. When I was a child, I wasn't shy. I would do anything and go anywhere.

我，人家，其实是个很害羞的银哦。我小时候倒是不害羞，整天疯跑。

But as I got older -- high school, university -- I just didn't want to talk to people. I

后来我大了点，上高中大学的时候，我变的不想跟人打交道。

think people are boring, and I'd rather think by myself and think about things. So I became

那会儿我觉得人们都很无聊。我就想一个人呆着胡思乱想。从那时起，我变害羞了。

shy. I didn't want to talk to people. People would talk to me, and I'd rather be, like,

我不想跟别人说话，人们跟我说话的时候，我心想，

"I don't know what to say. Hi." One thing that I did do when I was in high school, I

“我不知道说啥，Hi” 我上高中的时候，

got a job as a waitress. Gulp. So guess what. Every time somebody came into my restaurant,

我找了个当服务员的工作。你猜咋了？每次有客人进了我们餐厅，

I had to talk to them. I had to be nice to them. I had to smile. I don't want to smile,

我不得不跟他说话。我得对人友善，我得笑对顾客。我不想笑，

but I had to. Getting a job where you have to talk to people, like being a waiter or

但我必须笑。找个必须跟人打交道的工作，比如当服务员，

a waitress, even something in the back like working in a kitchen, working in a store -- if

即使在后台的工作比如在厨房，在仓库工作。

you can get a job where you are forced to talk to people, I guarantee you, you will

如果你能找个必须跟人打交道的工作，我敢保证，你会

overcome your shyness because you are forced to talk to people. Please also be careful

克服你的害羞，因为你被逼得跟人说话。注意，

-- people are boring, as I mentioned before.

我前边说过，有些人很无聊，你得小心应对。

The next one is: Get a dog. "Get a dog? What? Are you going to talk to the dog?" No. But

下一个：养条狗。啥？你打算跟狗聊天？不不不，

guess what? I don't know why, but people who have dogs always like to talk to other people

你才咋样？我不知道为啥啊，但是汪星人总是喜欢跟汪星人交谈。

who have dogs. For example, in the morning, when I walk my dog, people talk to me about

比如，早上你遛狗的时候，别人会问你一些关于狗的愚蠢问题。

stupid things about my dog. "How old is your dog?" "Who cares?" "What's your dog's name?"

你的狗几岁了？ --关你鸟事。 你得狗狗叫啥名？

"Why? Are you going to send it a birthday card?" Okay. People that have dogs are usually

---咋？你打算给我的狗送个生日贺卡？ 汪星人通常

friendly, and it forces you to interact with other people. Sometimes, people ask me questions,

比较友善，养狗会强制你跟别人交流。有时候，别人问我问题，

and I say, "Yes. Seven. Good. Okay." And I just stare at my dog. "Come on, dog. Come

我说：“（我的狗）7岁，好，行。”然后我就瞪我的狗，“走走走，走吧”

on, dog. Let's go, dog. Come on. I don't want to talk to these people." But getting a dog

“我不想跟这些人说话。” 养狗能帮你

will help you walk around the neighborhood. It will help you talk to people. It's an interesting

在邻里之间走动，能帮你跟人交谈。很有趣的是，

idea that if you have a cat, or if you're a cat person, you're shy. But people that

如果你是喵星人，你一定很害羞。但如果

have dogs are usually -- but not always -- more friendly. Are you a cat person or a dog person?

你是汪星人，你通常对人很友善。你是汪星人还是喵星人呢？

This is one of my favorite things in the world, ever. Travel. Okay? Leave your house; get

这是我最喜欢的了。旅行！离开你的家

on an airplane -- get some money, first; get a job; get some money; jump on an airplane;

登上飞机--别忘了带钱。找个工作，挣点钱，然后跳上飞机

and go traveling. Do it alone. How scary! If you travel by yourself without anyone -- that

去旅行吧。别跟团，一个人去。“一个人旅行好可怕！”如果你独自旅行，

means alone -- you are forced to talk to people. You're going to be lonely. You're going to

你将被迫跟别人交谈。你会变的孤独，你会

want to talk to people. You're going to go to restaurants by yourself and sit there and

想跟人说说话。你将独自走进餐厅坐下，独自研究菜单。

look at the menu all alone. You're going to see other people talking, and you'll go, "I

你会看到别人正在聊天，你会想：

wish I had a friend." All you have to do is talk to people. Say the magic word, "Hi!"

真希望我身边也有个朋友。你需要做的只是找个人，说出那个有魔力的词：“Hi”

And start a conversation. When you travel, you're forced to talk to people. When you

开始跟他交谈。当你旅行时，你被迫得跟人说话：

check in at a hotel, when you take a bus, when you're asking for directions. And I guarantee

登记旅馆，乘公交，问路。。。我保证

you will make some really good friends. You'll probably meet a lot of crazy people, too.

你能交到一些真正的朋友，可能你也会遇到很多疯子。

They're the best.

这很棒。

And last, but not least, when you're traveling alone, when you have a dog, when you're at

最后，不是最少，当你独自旅行，养狗，工作之后，

your job, get drunk. Oh, yeah. There's a reason why alcohol has a name, Like "Six-Pack Attack"

喝高几次。对，为啥酒精还有一些别名，比如“六波攻势”

or "Liquid Lunch", because when you drink actual -- "Social Lubricant" is a good one.

“液体午餐”捏？因为当你喝上几本，“社交润滑剂”就会发挥作用。

When you drink alcohol, you are not as shy as you were. Now, I am being a little bit

当你喝酒之后，你就变的不那么害羞了。现在我说让你喝高不是在挖苦你，

sarcastic when I say, "Get drunk." If you have one or two drinks, you're going to feel

如果你喝了一两杯，你就会感觉没那么害羞了

less shy. When I write here, "Get drunk", I don't mean, like -- and throw up. That's

我在这写“喝高”的意思并不是醉成这样，吐了一地。

not cool. Nobody wants to talk to you. So have one or two alcoholic drinks -- or just

那一点都不酷。那样没人想跟你说话。所以只喝个一两杯，或者

some coke -- and you will become less shy naturally. It will happen. It's fun.

只喝点可乐，你自然会没那么害羞了。真的，很有意思。

Are you shy? Don't be shy. Follow these tips. Figure out why you are shy. And please, write

你害羞吗？别害羞了，按这些秘诀行事。找出你害羞的原因，请把它写在评论里。

in the comments and tell me why you are shy. Maybe I can help you. Maybe I can't. Maybe

也许我能给你一些帮助，也许不能。

you're just shy. If you are, good luck. Bye.

也许你只是习惯了害羞。如果是那样，只能祝你好运了。Bye。