3 Things Men Can Do to Promote Gender Equity | Jimmie Briggs | TED

翻译人员: 新 陈 校对人员: 潘 可儿

The world can be a toxic place.

这个世界有时真会伤人。

No one knows this more than women and girls,

妇女、女孩、

cis and trans,

顺性别者、跨性别者 和非二元性别者

as well as nonbinary people.

对此最有发言权。

I am a journalist

我是一名记者,

with 30 years’ experience

有着报道全球女性及其他群体 遭遇不公的 30 年经验。

reporting on the injustices women and others face around the world.

I’m a co-founder of the Man Up Campaign

我联合发起了“像个男子汉一样” （the Man Up Campaign）运动，

to energize youth activism against sexual and gender-based violence.

该运动旨在激励青年行动起来 反对性暴力和性别暴力。

I’m a father to two daughters,

我是两个女儿的父亲，

I’m a life partner to a woman

是我妻子的终身伴侣，

and I’m a Black man in America.

是美国的一位黑人男性。

Holding these identities --

带着这些身份——

and many more --

以及其他多重身份——

I say this call to action to you

我满怀真诚

with the deepest sincerity

十分严肃地

and utmost gravity.

向你们发出行动倡议。

It is time for a gender reckoning,

是时候来一场性别清算了，

beginning with men authentically confronting our internal selves

从男性突破深植内心的 有毒的男子气概，

and each other

和坦诚面对内在自我和彼此开始。

through the toxicity within us.

Against the backdrop of Black Lives Matter protest,

在“黑人的命也是命”（Black Lives Matter） 抗议活动的背景下，

cries for a racial reckoning have echoed throughout the world,

进行种族清算的呼声 得到世界各国的响应，

at times seeming premature

有时提出的时机尚未成熟，

and largely misunderstood.

而且大多数遭受误解。

I believe a true gender reckoning must be the center

我相信任何一场争取 社会公平正义的变革性运动

of any transformative movement for social justice and equity.

都必须围绕真正 意义上的性别清算进行。

But what is a reckoning?

但什么是“清算”呢？

Dictionaries say it means to resolve a bill or a debt.

字典将它定义为 “结清账单或债务”。

In other words, to settle an account.

换句话说，就是“清算旧账”。

In the case of women and girls,

那对于妇女和女孩来说，

what is the debt owed to them?

对她们欠下的债务是什么？

Who’s to pay it?

谁来偿还它？

And how?

怎么偿还？

The consequences of male toxicity continue building

有毒的男子气概使得我所说的

the debt to which I refer,

债务雪球越滚越大，

including, among others,

具体指性别财富鸿沟，

a gender wealth gap most affecting women who care for their families

既要照顾家庭， 又是家庭主要收入来源的女性

as well as act as the primary income generators

for their households.

受到的影响最大。

Today, in the United States and abroad,

今天，在美国国内外，

threats to reproductive justice endanger the lives and hard-fought rights of women

对生殖正义的威胁严重危及 女性的生存以及来之不易的

in regards to their bodily, sexual and gender autonomy,

身体自主权，性自主权 和性别自决权。

impacting the most disenfranchised community in society.

影响了社会中权利被剥夺最严重的的群体。

And violence against women,

针对女性的任何形式的暴力，

in all of its forms,

still represents an existential challenge,

至今仍旧是女性生存的威胁。

as we’ve seen domestic violence rise in the pandemic,

疫情期间家庭暴力事件骤增，

as people were confined to their homes,

因为人们被限制在家中活动。

we’ve seen online and public harassment flourish,

网络和公众骚扰滋长，

unabated.

此起彼伏。

The sexual trafficking,

性贩卖，

prostitution,

卖淫，

exploitation of women and girls thrives as ever before.

对妇女和女孩的剥削空前猖獗。

这种毒性文化从何而来

From where does this toxicity come

and why?

缘何产生呢？

Men are not endangered,

男性就没有受到威胁，

we’re not under assault,

没有受到攻击，

we’re not being unfairly maligned.

也没有遭受不公正的诽谤。

In fact, it’s men, or certain types of masculinity, that are the issue.

实际上正是男性，或者说是 某种男性气质，才是问题的根源。

To be clear,

需要明确一点，

being a man does not make me

男性这个生理身份并不使我

or anyone else who identifies as a man

或任何一个自认为是男性的人

inherently toxic.

自然而然地“有毒”，

But masculinity,

但某些形式的男性特质

in certain forms,

如果通过某些形式表现出来，

can harm women,

如暴力，支配性的权利， 以及控制等，

girls,

nonbinary people

and men

就会伤害到女人，女孩， 非二元性别者，甚至男性自己。

through violence,

dominating power

and control.

So how do we address this?

那我们该如何解决这个问题呢？

How can we men step up

男性怎样才能站出来

and better support our daughters,

更好地帮助我们的女儿， 姐妹，女性伴侣，

our sisters,

our female partners,

our colleagues, neighbors and friends?

女性同事、邻居和朋友呢？

Through what means can men both instigate and lead a gender reckoning?

又可以通过哪些途径发动并 领导一场性别清算呢？

First, we must tell the truth.

首先，我们必须坦诚。

We must tell the truth.

真的必须坦诚。

Men grow into this world becoming who we’re expected to be

在成长过程中，

or who we think we’re expected to be

受到文化建构和 不准确的历史叙事的影响，

based on cultural expectations

男性逐渐“成为”

and inaccurate historical narratives.

社会期待成为或自己认为 社会期待成为的那种人。

As a short, chubby Black kid wearing glasses growing up,

作为一个又矮又胖带着眼镜的黑人男孩， 在我的成长过程中，

I was repeatedly told I cried too much.

人们经常说我太容易哭了。

I’m too emotional,

太感性了，

too soft.

太柔弱了。

It was ingrained in me that to prove my masculinity

我因此固执地认为， 要证明男性气质，

I had to display physical prowess --

我必须展现强壮的体魄--

intimidation.

令人恐惧。

Because of that indoctrination,

因为被灌输这种思想，

as an adult,

成年后的我

I refused to seek help facing escalating health challenges,

拒绝寻求他人的帮助， 即使身体状况每况愈下，

including high blood pressure

既患有高血压，

and mental trauma.

又经历心理创伤。

The archetype of manhood nearly killed me.

我差点因为“男子气概”而丧命。

I say that as a survivor of two heart attacks,

我之所以那么说是因为 我曾两次差点死于心脏病，

four years on dialysis

四年靠透析维持生存，

and a kidney transplant ...

做过一次肾移植手术……

aside from the physical risk I put myself into

这还不包括我为了 报道世界各地的战争

covering wars around the world.

而不得已置身的危险。

The injury we do to ourselves

我们对自己和身边女性的伤害

and the women around us

comes from fear of losing control,

源于对失控的恐惧

of lack of external affirmation

对缺乏外在认可的恐惧

and simply out of shame.

有时仅仅出于羞耻感。

Manhood is a spectrum of identities.

男子气概是多元的，

There is no one way to be a man.

并非被唯一的标准所限定。

And sometimes, discovering one’s true manhood is a lifelong journey.

有时，一个人可能要用一生 去探索发现真正的男子气概。

Secondly,

第二，

we must be consistent.

我们要守望相助。

Men,

男性，

especially men of color,

尤其是有色人种男性，

cannot expect women to stand up for us,

不要指望在我们为女性做得不够多的情况下，

with us in the face of systemic oppressions

她们会在我们面临系统性的压迫时 为我们发声。

when too often we do not do the same for them.

(Applause and cheers)

（鼓掌声和欢呼声）

(Applause)

（鼓掌声）

The Black Lives Matter movement for example,

以“黑人的命也是命”运动为例，

founded, named and led by queer women of color,

它由有色人种中的酷儿女性 发起、命名并领导的，

still centers Black men’s well-being

核心问题一直是黑人男性

in the face of unfair policing

在不公正的治安和刑事 司法体制的压迫下的处境。

and criminal justice systems.

And where’s the reciprocal support from those men,

而受益于此的黑人男性，

including myself,

包括我自己在内，

in addressing intercommunity violence against women of color,

有转而为有色人种女性 遭受的种族间暴力、

maternal health inequity,

生殖健康不公 和经济差距挺身而出吗？

economic disparity?

How and where do men show up for women?

男性在哪儿呢？又做了什么呢？

I wonder ...

我想知道,

how many men stood with women on the steps of the US Supreme Court

在女性争取生殖权利的时候，

as they fought for reproductive rights?

有多少男性和女性一起 站在美国最高法院的台阶上？

How many men should have been there?

多少男性应该挺身而出而没有的？

Finally, there can be no reckoning without accountability.

最后，没有问责就没有清算。

There can be no reckoning without accountability.

没有问责就没有清算。

Men who commit acts of violence against women must be held accountable

那些暴力侵害女性的男性必须

by formal systems of justice

受到正式的司法体制以及其他男性的问责。

as well as other men.

Silence in the face of misogynistic behavior and language is complicity.

面对厌女言行保持沉默就相当于共犯。

We men need to break free from the pack,

我们男性应该摆脱世俗风气，

take concrete actions to stop violence,

为制止暴力， 创建安全、平等的环境采取具体行动。

create safety

and build equity.

And most importantly,

最重要的是，

say something.

要发声。

To be sure,

不可否认，

bold men around us are actively working to disrupt the narrative of male toxicity.

我们身边有一些勇敢的男性正积极 致力于推翻有毒的男子气概的叙事。

After the 2010 earthquake in Haiti,

2010 年海地地震后，

a local organization,

当地的一个组织，

KOFAVIV,

KOFAVIV,

invited men to be defenders of women and girls in displacement camps,

呼吁男性守卫流离失所者 营地里的女人和女孩，

women and girls who were at risk of sexual assault.

以防止她们受到性骚扰。

Scores of men answered the call

几十位男性响应了号召，

and can continue to do so today.

一直坚持到今天。

In New York City,

在纽约，

CONNECT NYC,

一位黑人男性

led by a Black man,

发起了“联动纽约” （CONNECT NYC）的运动，

actively engages community partners across civil society

积极吸收公民社会中的社区成员

to address family violence.

去解决家庭暴力问题。

And in a profession not known generally for its advocacy against gender violence,

一位为华盛顿足球队 效力的专业球员，

a professional player for the Washington Football Team

虽然自身并不从事性别暴力工作，

has become an unabashed advocate

却光明正大主张男性要了解

for men to learn

and actively change behaviors regarding sexual and physical violence.

并积极改变性暴力 和人身暴力相关行为。

There is hope;

希望犹在，

there is light.

光明犹在。

Men around the world are putting in the work

全世界的男性正为

to catalyze a true gender reckoning.

推动一场真正意义上 的性别清算而努力。

But far more are needed.

但这些还远远不够。

What I want to say to you today is this.

今天我想告诉你们的是，

Too many of us --

我们中有太多人， 太多男人

too many men --

don’t understand

并未意识到

that equity,

为妇女、女孩及非二元性别者所争取的

justice,

inclusivity,

safety for women, girls and nonbinary people

平等，公正，包容和安全，

serves and saves us all.

实际能造福和拯救我们所有人。

Broken masculinity harms societies,

畸形的男性特质会伤害很多群体，

full stop.

就是这样。

When we men reckon with that truth,

当男性认识到这一事实，

we will finally find our shared humanity.

就会发现彼此共通的人性。

Women,

妇女，

girls,

女孩，

nonbinary people,

非二元性别者，

men

男人，

standing together on equal footing

在安全的环境下，

with mutual respect

相互尊重，

in safe environments

平等地站在一起，

is the greatest gender reckoning we can create.

是我们能做到的最伟大的性别清算。

Thank you.

谢谢各位。

(Applause and cheers)

（鼓掌声和欢呼声）