How to be an upstander instead of a bystander | Angélique Parisot-Potter

Transcriber: TED Translators Admin Reviewer: Rhonda Jacobs

譯者: Sabrina Thomas 審譯者: Helen Chang

Let me tell you a story, where you'll meet the characters

讓我告訴你們一個故事 裡面你們會遇見主角

who I'll call Bilal and Brenda.

我稱他們為比拉爾和布倫達

I was working in a most remarkable part of the world.

當時，我在世界上最卓越的地方工作

And one unremarkable morning,

在一個平凡的早晨

a colleague came to see me.

一位同事前來探訪我

She told me that Bilal, one of our senior executives,

她告訴我，比拉爾 我們資深高管之一

had been telling everyone I was being removed

已經告訴每個人 我被迫離開原本職位

because I'd been messing with the wrong people.

是因為惹到不該惹的人

And now, I was going to face the consequences.

如今，我將面對後果

I wasn't alarmed,

我那時表現冷靜

because I knew I had done what I'd been hired to do:

因為我知道我已完成 自己受僱需做的事：

my job,

我的工作

dealing with thorny issues head on

處理當前棘手問題

and leaving no stone unturned.

並竭盡全力尋求解決方案

In fact, in the months prior to this,

事實上，在事情發生的幾個月前

we'd overturned more than just a few stones.

我們全力以赴解決難題

Those details are for another time.

這些細節下次再說

I called my husband, James,

我打給我老公，詹姆士

to tell him about this bizarre conversation,

告訴他這奇怪的對話

and with what proved to be great foresight,

憑著遠見卓識

he said, "Angélique, pack your things and call Brenda, in that order."

他說：「安潔莉克，整理你的東西， 然後致電給布倫達。」

I called Brenda.

我打給了布倫達

I'd worked with her for a number of years,

我跟她共事已好些年了

and I trusted her.

我信任她

She was the person who'd recommended me for that job.

當初是她推薦我這份工作

I cut to the chase,

我直接切入正題

because my husband's reaction made me realize

因為我老公的反應 讓我明白

this was more than just the usual stuff I'd encountered before.

這不僅僅是我過去常經歷的事

And I say usual, but in that moment of clarity,

雖然我說常經歷的事 但在那清晰的時刻

it dawned on me what James had already recognized:

我突然明白詹姆斯早已知曉的事

none of this was usual.

沒有任何一件是尋常的

These irregularities, part of a pattern I'd failed to notice,

這些不正當的行為 正是我沒有注意到的模式的一環

were what I now know as open secrets

我現在知道這是公開的秘密

living beneath those proverbial stones I'd had the audacity to overturn.

這些秘密藏在 我有膽量推翻的石頭下方

To my shock, I learned that this was happening

令我震驚的是 我了解到這正在發生

because I hadn't tried hard enough to operate in the "gray space."

因為我不夠努力 讓自己在「灰色空間」裡產生影響

I didn't seem to know when to kick things into the long grass.

我似乎不知道何時 將問題擱置一旁

And I didn't understand that this was how the system worked.

我也不知道 拖延是這個系統的運作模式

The message, the implied threat,

這則訊息，隱含在內的威脅

was clear.

是清晰可見的

Over the next few weeks,

在這接下來的幾周

I was replaced by a convenient yes-man while I was still there.

當我還在那兒時 我被一個便於叫喚的應聲蟲取代

I suffered from terrible gastritis,

我患了可怕的胃炎

and I pretended to our two young daughters

我對兩個幼小女兒假裝

that I still had that job.

我仍然保有工作

Leaving home every morning, dressed up as if for work,

每天早上離家 打扮得像要上班一樣

to drop them to school, for six months.

帶她們上學 長達六個月

I did not submit,

我沒有順從

but I won't pretend that it was easy to speak up

但我不會假裝 說出實情很容易

or beneficial in any way to me, to my family or to my career.

或是對我、 我的家庭或工作上有益

When we speak up in the workplace despite policies to the contrary,

與此相反，儘管有政策的情況下 當我們在工作場所發聲時

whilst we may not lose our jobs,

雖然我們可能不會失業

但我們可能會失去 同事間的情誼

we are likely to lose the camaraderie of our coworkers.

Disbelieved, ostracized,

不被相信，被排斥

面對不被注意的罷凌行為

faced with under-the-radar bullying.

You know the kind when you walk into a room and everyone stops talking?

你知道那種當你走進房間 大家馬上安靜的感覺嗎？

We think: It's not my responsibility to say anything.

我們會想： 我沒有責任去說什麼

So why did I choose to act despite the risks to my family and to me?

我為什麼要選擇出聲 雖然這會帶給我家人和我危害呢？

The sin of omission is a failure to do what you know is right.

疏忽之罪指的是不做 你知道是對的事

When you stay quiet,

當你保持沉默時

even though you're not guilty of wrongdoing yourself,

雖然你不對做錯事感到罪惡

what will you have to live with if you don't take action?

如果你不採取行動的話 那你之後該忍受什麼呢？

So who are you in this lineup of actors?

所以，你在這個演員陣容中是誰呢？

The bad actor, the wrongdoer?

糟糕的演員、壞人？

The bad stander who benefits directly or indirectly

直接或間接獲益

and acts as a puppet for the bad actor?

然後當壞演員的傀儡的那種壞人？

The bystander, aware of the open secrets

知道公開秘密

but not actually doing anything wrong or the upstander?

但其實沒做錯什麼事的旁觀者 還是當個正直的人？

This is the person we want to see when we look in the mirror.

這是我們照鏡子時想成為的人

I've learned three things:

我學到了三件事：

One, don't second guess yourself.

第一，不要質疑自己

When you see something amiss, ask questions,

當你看見不對勁的事 主動詢問

because it is okay to challenge those in authority.

因為挑戰權威者是沒有問題的

Two, don't be complicit.

第二，不要串通

You always have the power to say no in the face of wrongdoing.

在面對不正確的行為時 你一直都有說不的權力

And three, be an upstander.

第三，作個正直的人

Speaking up is not about being brave.

發聲與勇敢無關

It's not about not feeling scared.

也和不感到懼怕無關

But when you do what you know is right, you can be at peace with yourself.

但當你做自己知道是正確的事 你能感到心安理得

Yes, it is hard to say what you feel in the moment.

是的，在此刻很難說你的感受

Do it anyway. Be fearless.

無論如何就做吧 當個無畏的人

Martin Luther King said,

馬丁·路德·金曾說：

"In the end, we will remember not the words of our enemies,

「到最後，我們忘記會敵人所說的話，

but the silence of our friends."

但我們會記得朋友的沉默。」

So when you look in the mirror,

所以當你照鏡子時

who will you see?

你會看到誰？

A bystander, keeper of open secrets?

旁觀者、保守公開秘密的人

Or will the person looking back at you be an upstander?

或鏡中是一個正直的人？

I know who I see.

我知道我看見了誰

I know who my daughters see.

我知道我女兒看見了誰

The choice is yours.

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