Peachy Liv: How to protect your mental well-being online -- from a Gen-Zer | TED
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翻译人员: Rocky Stone
校对人员: Yanyan Hong
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When I was 12, I had a dream
to tell one million young people
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在 12 岁的时候,
我就梦想着告诉 100 万年轻人,
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that it is possible to close the gap
between how learning should feel like
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我们可以缩短以下差距:
学习应给人的感觉
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and how it actually feels.
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与实际给人的感觉之间的差距。
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All my friends went to school
out of pressure to compete
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出于竞争压力,
我的所有朋友都去上学,
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in gaining the highest grades,
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希望获得最高分,
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which leads to depending
their self-worth on numbers,
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这导致他们
依靠分数来实现自我价值,
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normalizing cheating and hating school.
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使作弊成为常态,并且讨厌上学。
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I had this mission
because I wanted young people
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我做这个演讲,
是因为我希望年轻人
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to fight for our right
to have an education
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为教育权利做出抗争;
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that encourages us to learn
out of internal curiosity
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教育应鼓励我们出于内在好奇心,
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instead of external pressure,
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而不是外在压力去学习;
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and one that feels rewarding, fun,
self-fulfilling and collaborative.
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应让我们感到获得回报、
有趣、实现自我,并相互协作。
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So I thought if I could talk
in front of a thousand people at a time,
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因此,我想,如果我能够
一次向一千人做演讲,
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I would just need to do
that a thousand times
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我只需要演讲一千次,
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and then I would reach
a million people, right?
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就可以影响 100 万人,不是吗?
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Until I realized that I could reach
millions of people all at once online.
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后来我认识到,通过在线演讲,
我一次就可以影响 100 万人。
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For me, realizing that
felt like finding a superpower.
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对我来说,认识到那一点
就像发现了超能力。
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That's when I started my journey
as an educational content creator
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在那以后,
我开始成为一名教育内容创作者
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and changemaker.
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和变革者。
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So I created videos that challenge
students to find the subjects
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于是我制作视频,鼓励学生们找到
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they are curious and passionate about,
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让他们感到好奇并喜欢的科目;
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provided tips on making learning fun
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提供激发学习兴趣的窍门,
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and demonstrated how technology
could transform how we learn
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并说明技术
如何改变我们的学习方式,
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and help us reach our fullest potentials.
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帮助我们发挥最大潜力。
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Since then, my videos on YouTube have been
viewed more than 55 million times.
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之后,我在 YouTube 上的视频的
播放量超过了 5500 万次。
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Plus, I've helped create social activism
through my online work,
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而且,我通过自己的在线作品
帮助推动社会活动,
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starting online movements
that encourage young people
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从而发起网上行动来鼓励年轻人
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to speak up about
their own concerns in education
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表达自己对于教育的担忧,
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and share how they take
action to solve them.
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并分享观点,告诉他们
应如何采取行动来消除顾虑。
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I also became more involved
with the online community of UNICEF
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此外,我还更多地参与了 UNICEF
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and U-Report Indonesia.
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和印度尼西亚 U-Report 的在线社区。
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As a U-Report ambassador,
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作为 U-Report 大使,
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I initiated large projects
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我发起了一些大型项目,
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and invited other changemakers
to join forces.
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并邀请其他变革者一起行动。
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For example, I coordinated
a workshop on digital tools
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例如,我协调举办了一次研讨会,
介绍数字化工具
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and other 21st century skills
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和其他 21 世纪技能,
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to help build the capacity
of hundreds of young people.
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帮助数百名年轻人培养能力。
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I've had so many wonderful opportunities
through UNICEF and U-Report
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通过 UNICEF、U-Report 和
我自己的 YouTube 频道,
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and my own YouTube channel
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我创造了许多机会,
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to try to positively
shape the world for the better.
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努力让世界变得更美好。
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But I also discovered some downsides.
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但是,我也受到了一些负面影响。
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The downsides that I’m afraid
too many young people have experienced
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我想,恐怕许多年轻人都在网上
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from being online.
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受到了这种负面影响。
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If you have a strong voice online,
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如果你在网上有很大的话语权,
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especially as a young person
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特别是作为一个年轻人,
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and especially as someone
trying to make change in the world,
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尤其是作为一个努力改变世界的人,
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there is definitely pushback.
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你肯定会遇到阻力。
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It's like by giving advice,
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这就好比是,通过提供建议,
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people think you're putting
yourself on a pedestal,
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人们觉得你好像高高在上,
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and so people try to knock you down.
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于是设法把你打倒。
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For instance, one of the things
I've talked about a lot
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例如,我曾多次讲过,
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is the possibility for Indonesian students
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印度尼西亚学生可以
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to study abroad.
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去国外留学。
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Of course, that meant people
expected me to prove it was possible
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当然,那就意味着,
人们希望我通过自己去国外留学,
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by studying abroad myself,
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来证明这种可能性,
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and I really wanted to.
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并且我确实想这样做。
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Although I got into
my dream university in Canada,
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虽然我考取了在加拿大的梦校,
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I didn't get the scholarship
I needed to afford attending.
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但我并没有拿到就读所需的奖学金。
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And when people kept
posting online, saying things like,
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于是,人们一直在网上发帖,这样说:
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"Why are you not in Canada?
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“你为什么没去加拿大呀?
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That's why you shouldn't
be dreaming too high,"
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是因为你不该期望过高吧!”
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I felt embarrassed
and so insecure about myself.
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我感到很尴尬,
对自己失去了信心。
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Whether you have one follower
on social media or one million,
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无论你在社交媒体上
有 1 个还是 100 万关注者,
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you've probably known this feeling.
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你都可能知道这种感觉。
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Or maybe you don't post
the truth about your life
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或者,你可能不会
公布自己真实的生活,
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because you're afraid to be judged.
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因为你担心被评判。
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I think the first part of the solution
comes from within.
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我认为,解决办法的
第一部分来自内心。
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It starts with self-awareness.
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首先是自我意识。
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When we feel pressured
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我们由于他人强加的某种预期
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by a certain expectation
imposed by others,
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而感到压力时,
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it usually indicates
that that same expectation
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通常这表示我们自己内心
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is also coming from within us.
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也有着相同的预期。
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I was disappointed in myself and sad
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我对自己感到失望和难过,
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that I couldn't live up
to my own expectations.
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因为我无法满足自己的预期。
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I realized that I expected myself
to be an excellent role model
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我意识到,我期望自己
成为一个出色的榜样,
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who could prove
that everything is possible,
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她能够证明一切皆有可能,
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which is the actual source of why I felt
this massive pressure in the first place.
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这是我从一开始
就感受到巨大压力的根源。
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The other part we need to work on
inside ourselves is self-acceptance,
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另一方面,我们需要
从内心深处进行自我接纳,
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which means embracing
our flaws and failures
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这意味着包容我们的缺点和失败,
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as important parts of what makes us human.
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把它作为我们人类的重要特点。
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Through time, I was able to accept
that I am allowed to make mistakes,
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慢慢地,我开始接受,
应该允许我犯错误,
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that the only people who don't fail
are the people who don't try.
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唯一不会失败的人
是那些不去尝试的人。
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And I was trying to do great things,
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我正尝试做的事情非常重要,
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so, of course, I would face
some challenges, right?
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因此,我当然
会面临一些挑战,对不对?
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I think if we all find some self-awareness
and self-acceptance,
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我认为,如果我们都能够
认识自我并接纳自己,
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then we can adjust.
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我们就能做出调整。
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It is so, so important
to adjust our expectations
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至关重要的是,我们应调整预期,
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to be more aligned and realistic
to our own current situation.
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使它符合我们当前的情况,
变得更加实际。
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So instead of expecting myself
to prove everything is possible,
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因此,我不期望
自己证明一切都有可能,
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now I focus more on proving that we can
always learn from our failures
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现在,我会集中精力,
证明我们总是能从失败中学习,
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and use what we've learned
to help other people.
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并利用汲取的经验帮助他人。
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But let's be clear, we can't address
the hardships of social media,
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但是,很明显,
仅仅通过自我调整,
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especially things like cyberbullying,
with individual resilience alone.
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我们无法解决社交媒体存在的问题,
尤其是网络欺凌。
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Because worldwide,
more than one-third of young people
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因为据报道,全球三分之一以上的年轻人
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have reported experiencing
cyberbullying online.
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都遭遇过网络欺凌。
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And so the other thing we must do
is treat each other better in social media
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因此,我们必须做的另一件事,
就是对彼此更好一些,
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and online communities in general.
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无论是在社交媒体
还是普通的在线社区中。
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After all, I've been attacked,
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毕竟,我曾受到攻击、
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criticized and harassed even when I posted
things out of good intentions.
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批评和骚扰,
即使我发贴是出于好意。
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In some cases, I've received some
very extreme and disturbing messages.
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在某些情况下,我收到了
一些非常极端且令人不安的消息。
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Being bullied online
feels especially humiliating
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遭受网络欺凌让人很没面子,
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because of the scale:
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因为它的范围更广:
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more people attacking you online
than you even know in real life.
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与现实生活中认识的人相比,
在网上攻击你的人要多得多。
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And this happens to everyone
in some way online,
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在网络上,
人人都会遇到这种情况,
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not just to people with big followings.
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而不只是那些大 V 们。
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So I really think if we want
better online spaces,
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因此,我想,如果我们想要
更理性的在线空间,
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we have to each play a role
in creating them
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我们所有人都必须
在创建空间时发挥作用,
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by committing to treat each other
with kindness and respect,
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承诺对彼此带有善意和尊重,
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even when we disagree.
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即使我们的观点并不一致。
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So before we leave a comment,
we should always ask ourselves:
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因此,在做出评论之前,
我们应总是问自己:
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How would I feel if I were
the one receiving this comment?
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如果你是看到这条评论的人,
你会是什么感觉?
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And if you are being harassed
or bullied online or offline,
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如果你正受到骚扰,
或在线上或线下遭到欺凌,
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please, please, please
ask for help and support.
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请立即寻求帮助和支持。
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Being resilient does not mean
we have to face things alone.
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学会自我调整并不意味着
我们必须单独面对。
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We could be vulnerable at the same time,
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同时,虽然受到伤害,
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reaching out and talking
to trusted people
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我们可以向外求助,
与信任的人交流,
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like our parents, best friends,
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例如我们的父母、好朋友、
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teachers or even psychologists.
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老师,甚至是心理医生。
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In my case, I told my parents
what I was going through,
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就我来说,我向父母
讲述了我经历的一切,
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and they kept me strong in resisting
the urge to quit social media.
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他们让我保持强大,
克制住了退出社交媒体的冲动。
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I also went to a psychologist to help me
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我还去见了心理医生,
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overcome the mental health issues
I faced due to cyberbullying.
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她帮助我解决了
网络欺凌所导致的心理问题。
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She suggested that I take
a break from social media,
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她建议我暂时离开社交媒体,
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to ground myself instead
of quitting for good,
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定下心来,而不是永远退出,
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and that was actually great advice.
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那是个很好的建议。
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It helped me gain
some important perspective.
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这帮助我找回了一些重要的东西。
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To be sure, there are
bigger dynamics at play
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当然,有一些更重大的
事情正在发生,
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that require the leadership
of social media platforms
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那需要社交媒体平台
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and the government
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和政府的领导层
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to make sure we're
as safe as possible online,
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确保我们在网上尽可能安全,
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especially in the case of kids.
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特别是对未成年人来说。
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These are complex issues,
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这些问题非常复杂,
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and while we can work as individuals
to be more resilient
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虽然作为个体,
我们可以提高自我调整的能力;
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and as communities to be more kind
and careful with each other,
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作为社区,彼此之间
可以更加宽容和友好,
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systemic problems
ultimately need systemic solutions.
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但是,系统问题
最终需要系统性的解决方案。
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These technologies are our future,
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这些技术是我们的未来,
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and we need to make sure
that future is healthy and safe for us.
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我们需要确保
我们拥有健康而安全的未来。
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In the end, for me,
when I took a break from social media,
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最后,当我暂时离开社交媒体时,
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it helped me to really reflect
on why I do this,
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这帮助我反思我这样做的原因,
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why I use online tools
to educate and engage my peers.
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我使用在线工具对同龄人进行培训,
并与他们互动的原因。
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And I realized my motivation
used to be extrinsic,
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我认识到,过去,
我的动机来自外部,
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wanting people to be helped
and be inspired.
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就是希望人们
得到帮助,受到启发。
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I hadn't really meant to,
but by posting content for other people,
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我没有真正发自内心地去做;
但是,通过为其他人发布内容,
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I was depending my sense of impact
and even self-worth
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我的影响力甚至是自我价值,
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to what other people
thought or said about me.
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取决于其他人对我的看法。
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But now I've realized my motivation
is and should always be intrinsic,
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但现在,我意识到动机所在,
它应该始终发自内心,
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wanting to try my best
in sharing what I've learned
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就是尽最大的努力
分享我学到的经验,
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because it gives me
fulfillment and purpose.
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因为这给了我成就感,
让一切都有了意义。
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There is a difference.
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这带来了不同。
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Extrinsic motivations depend on results
that are out of our control
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外在动机依赖于
我们无法控制的结果,
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while intrinsic motivations
depend on things we could do
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而内在动机取决于
我们能够做到的事情,
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that are under our control.
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那受我们控制。
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We will be less likely
to take external feedback to heart
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如果我们出于内在动机
开展网络活动,
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if we do things online
out of intrinsic motivations.
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就不会在意外界的反馈。
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What we do online and offline,
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我们在线上和线下所做的事情,
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we should do simply because
we believe it is the right thing to do.
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我们这样做,
只是因为我们认为这是正确的。
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So I have a question for you.
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因此,我有个问题要问大家。
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What’s your personal mission
for being on social media,
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你使用社交媒体的个人目的是什么?
09:10
and what will you do to fight for it?
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为了获得这种权利,
你会做些什么来抗争?
09:13
I would love to see more young people
becoming catalysts of change
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我希望看到,
通过利用社交媒体的力量,
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by harnessing the power of social media --
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有更多年轻人成为变革的催化剂——
09:20
and do so not by sacrificing
our mental health
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这样做不会牺牲我们的心理健康,
09:24
but by being equipped
with self-sustaining tools
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而是为我们提供保持真我的工具,
09:28
and engaging on platforms
that are nurturing and strengthening
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并与那些扶持并增强
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for individuals and our world.
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个人和整个世界的平台合作。
09:35
I may not be going to Canada,
but I am going to the future.
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我可能不会去加拿大,
但我正奔向未来。
09:40
No matter what.
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不管出现什么情况。
09:41
Technology is my generation's tool
to fight for the future we want to see.
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科技是我们这一代人的工具,
为我们争取想要的未来。
09:47
It should help us, not hurt us.
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它应该帮助我们,而非造成伤害。
09:51
Thank you.
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谢谢大家!
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