Peachy Liv: How to protect your mental well-being online -- from a Gen-Zer | TED

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翻译人员: Rocky Stone 校对人员: Yanyan Hong

When I was 12, I had a dream to tell one million young people

在 12 岁的时候， 我就梦想着告诉 100 万年轻人，

that it is possible to close the gap between how learning should feel like

我们可以缩短以下差距： 学习应给人的感觉

and how it actually feels.

与实际给人的感觉之间的差距。

All my friends went to school out of pressure to compete

出于竞争压力， 我的所有朋友都去上学，

in gaining the highest grades,

希望获得最高分，

which leads to depending their self-worth on numbers,

这导致他们 依靠分数来实现自我价值，

normalizing cheating and hating school.

使作弊成为常态，并且讨厌上学。

I had this mission because I wanted young people

我做这个演讲， 是因为我希望年轻人

to fight for our right to have an education

为教育权利做出抗争；

that encourages us to learn out of internal curiosity

教育应鼓励我们出于内在好奇心，

instead of external pressure,

而不是外在压力去学习；

and one that feels rewarding, fun, self-fulfilling and collaborative.

应让我们感到获得回报、 有趣、实现自我，并相互协作。

So I thought if I could talk in front of a thousand people at a time,

因此，我想，如果我能够 一次向一千人做演讲，

I would just need to do that a thousand times

我只需要演讲一千次，

and then I would reach a million people, right?

就可以影响 100 万人，不是吗？

Until I realized that I could reach millions of people all at once online.

后来我认识到，通过在线演讲， 我一次就可以影响 100 万人。

For me, realizing that felt like finding a superpower.

对我来说，认识到那一点 就像发现了超能力。

That's when I started my journey as an educational content creator

在那以后， 我开始成为一名教育内容创作者

and changemaker.

和变革者。

So I created videos that challenge students to find the subjects

于是我制作视频，鼓励学生们找到

they are curious and passionate about,

让他们感到好奇并喜欢的科目；

provided tips on making learning fun

提供激发学习兴趣的窍门，

and demonstrated how technology could transform how we learn

并说明技术 如何改变我们的学习方式，

and help us reach our fullest potentials.

帮助我们发挥最大潜力。

Since then, my videos on YouTube have been viewed more than 55 million times.

之后，我在 YouTube 上的视频的 播放量超过了 5500 万次。

Plus, I've helped create social activism through my online work,

而且，我通过自己的在线作品 帮助推动社会活动，

starting online movements that encourage young people

从而发起网上行动来鼓励年轻人

to speak up about their own concerns in education

表达自己对于教育的担忧，

and share how they take action to solve them.

并分享观点，告诉他们 应如何采取行动来消除顾虑。

I also became more involved with the online community of UNICEF

此外，我还更多地参与了 UNICEF

and U-Report Indonesia.

和印度尼西亚 U-Report 的在线社区。

As a U-Report ambassador,

作为 U-Report 大使，

I initiated large projects

我发起了一些大型项目，

and invited other changemakers to join forces.

并邀请其他变革者一起行动。

For example, I coordinated a workshop on digital tools

例如，我协调举办了一次研讨会， 介绍数字化工具

and other 21st century skills

和其他 21 世纪技能，

to help build the capacity of hundreds of young people.

帮助数百名年轻人培养能力。

I've had so many wonderful opportunities through UNICEF and U-Report

通过 UNICEF、U-Report 和 我自己的 YouTube 频道，

and my own YouTube channel

我创造了许多机会，

to try to positively shape the world for the better.

努力让世界变得更美好。

But I also discovered some downsides.

但是，我也受到了一些负面影响。

The downsides that I’m afraid too many young people have experienced

我想，恐怕许多年轻人都在网上

from being online.

受到了这种负面影响。

If you have a strong voice online,

如果你在网上有很大的话语权，

especially as a young person

特别是作为一个年轻人，

and especially as someone trying to make change in the world,

尤其是作为一个努力改变世界的人，

there is definitely pushback.

你肯定会遇到阻力。

It's like by giving advice,

这就好比是，通过提供建议，

people think you're putting yourself on a pedestal,

人们觉得你好像高高在上，

and so people try to knock you down.

于是设法把你打倒。

For instance, one of the things I've talked about a lot

例如，我曾多次讲过，

is the possibility for Indonesian students

印度尼西亚学生可以

to study abroad.

去国外留学。

Of course, that meant people expected me to prove it was possible

当然，那就意味着， 人们希望我通过自己去国外留学，

by studying abroad myself,

来证明这种可能性，

and I really wanted to.

并且我确实想这样做。

Although I got into my dream university in Canada,

虽然我考取了在加拿大的梦校，

I didn't get the scholarship I needed to afford attending.

但我并没有拿到就读所需的奖学金。

And when people kept posting online, saying things like,

于是，人们一直在网上发帖，这样说：

"Why are you not in Canada?

“你为什么没去加拿大呀？

That's why you shouldn't be dreaming too high,"

是因为你不该期望过高吧！”

I felt embarrassed and so insecure about myself.

我感到很尴尬， 对自己失去了信心。

Whether you have one follower on social media or one million,

无论你在社交媒体上 有 1 个还是 100 万关注者，

you've probably known this feeling.

你都可能知道这种感觉。

Or maybe you don't post the truth about your life

或者，你可能不会 公布自己真实的生活，

because you're afraid to be judged.

因为你担心被评判。

I think the first part of the solution comes from within.

我认为，解决办法的 第一部分来自内心。

It starts with self-awareness.

首先是自我意识。

When we feel pressured

我们由于他人强加的某种预期

by a certain expectation imposed by others,

而感到压力时，

it usually indicates that that same expectation

通常这表示我们自己内心

is also coming from within us.

也有着相同的预期。

I was disappointed in myself and sad

我对自己感到失望和难过，

that I couldn't live up to my own expectations.

因为我无法满足自己的预期。

I realized that I expected myself to be an excellent role model

我意识到，我期望自己 成为一个出色的榜样，

who could prove that everything is possible,

她能够证明一切皆有可能，

which is the actual source of why I felt this massive pressure in the first place.

这是我从一开始 就感受到巨大压力的根源。

The other part we need to work on inside ourselves is self-acceptance,

另一方面，我们需要 从内心深处进行自我接纳，

which means embracing our flaws and failures

这意味着包容我们的缺点和失败，

as important parts of what makes us human.

把它作为我们人类的重要特点。

Through time, I was able to accept that I am allowed to make mistakes,

慢慢地，我开始接受， 应该允许我犯错误，

that the only people who don't fail are the people who don't try.

唯一不会失败的人 是那些不去尝试的人。

And I was trying to do great things,

我正尝试做的事情非常重要，

so, of course, I would face some challenges, right?

因此，我当然 会面临一些挑战，对不对？

I think if we all find some self-awareness and self-acceptance,

我认为，如果我们都能够 认识自我并接纳自己，

then we can adjust.

我们就能做出调整。

It is so, so important to adjust our expectations

至关重要的是，我们应调整预期，

to be more aligned and realistic to our own current situation.

使它符合我们当前的情况， 变得更加实际。

So instead of expecting myself to prove everything is possible,

因此，我不期望 自己证明一切都有可能，

now I focus more on proving that we can always learn from our failures

现在，我会集中精力， 证明我们总是能从失败中学习，

and use what we've learned to help other people.

并利用汲取的经验帮助他人。

But let's be clear, we can't address the hardships of social media,

但是，很明显， 仅仅通过自我调整，

especially things like cyberbullying, with individual resilience alone.

我们无法解决社交媒体存在的问题， 尤其是网络欺凌。

Because worldwide, more than one-third of young people

因为据报道，全球三分之一以上的年轻人

have reported experiencing cyberbullying online.

都遭遇过网络欺凌。

And so the other thing we must do is treat each other better in social media

因此，我们必须做的另一件事， 就是对彼此更好一些，

and online communities in general.

无论是在社交媒体 还是普通的在线社区中。

After all, I've been attacked,

毕竟，我曾受到攻击、

criticized and harassed even when I posted things out of good intentions.

批评和骚扰， 即使我发贴是出于好意。

In some cases, I've received some very extreme and disturbing messages.

在某些情况下，我收到了 一些非常极端且令人不安的消息。

Being bullied online feels especially humiliating

遭受网络欺凌让人很没面子，

because of the scale:

因为它的范围更广：

more people attacking you online than you even know in real life.

与现实生活中认识的人相比， 在网上攻击你的人要多得多。

And this happens to everyone in some way online,

在网络上， 人人都会遇到这种情况，

not just to people with big followings.

而不只是那些大 V 们。

So I really think if we want better online spaces,

因此，我想，如果我们想要 更理性的在线空间，

we have to each play a role in creating them

我们所有人都必须 在创建空间时发挥作用，

by committing to treat each other with kindness and respect,

承诺对彼此带有善意和尊重，

even when we disagree.

即使我们的观点并不一致。

So before we leave a comment, we should always ask ourselves:

因此，在做出评论之前， 我们应总是问自己：

How would I feel if I were the one receiving this comment?

如果你是看到这条评论的人， 你会是什么感觉？

And if you are being harassed or bullied online or offline,

如果你正受到骚扰， 或在线上或线下遭到欺凌，

please, please, please ask for help and support.

请立即寻求帮助和支持。

Being resilient does not mean we have to face things alone.

学会自我调整并不意味着 我们必须单独面对。

We could be vulnerable at the same time,

同时，虽然受到伤害，

reaching out and talking to trusted people

我们可以向外求助， 与信任的人交流，

like our parents, best friends,

例如我们的父母、好朋友、

teachers or even psychologists.

老师，甚至是心理医生。

In my case, I told my parents what I was going through,

就我来说，我向父母 讲述了我经历的一切，

and they kept me strong in resisting the urge to quit social media.

他们让我保持强大， 克制住了退出社交媒体的冲动。

I also went to a psychologist to help me

我还去见了心理医生，

overcome the mental health issues I faced due to cyberbullying.

她帮助我解决了 网络欺凌所导致的心理问题。

She suggested that I take a break from social media,

她建议我暂时离开社交媒体，

to ground myself instead of quitting for good,

定下心来，而不是永远退出，

and that was actually great advice.

那是个很好的建议。

It helped me gain some important perspective.

这帮助我找回了一些重要的东西。

To be sure, there are bigger dynamics at play

当然，有一些更重大的 事情正在发生，

that require the leadership of social media platforms

那需要社交媒体平台

and the government

和政府的领导层

to make sure we're as safe as possible online,

确保我们在网上尽可能安全，

especially in the case of kids.

特别是对未成年人来说。

These are complex issues,

这些问题非常复杂，

and while we can work as individuals to be more resilient

虽然作为个体， 我们可以提高自我调整的能力；

and as communities to be more kind and careful with each other,

作为社区，彼此之间 可以更加宽容和友好，

systemic problems ultimately need systemic solutions.

但是，系统问题 最终需要系统性的解决方案。

These technologies are our future,

这些技术是我们的未来，

and we need to make sure that future is healthy and safe for us.

我们需要确保 我们拥有健康而安全的未来。

In the end, for me, when I took a break from social media,

最后，当我暂时离开社交媒体时，

it helped me to really reflect on why I do this,

这帮助我反思我这样做的原因，

why I use online tools to educate and engage my peers.

我使用在线工具对同龄人进行培训， 并与他们互动的原因。

And I realized my motivation used to be extrinsic,

我认识到，过去， 我的动机来自外部，

wanting people to be helped and be inspired.

就是希望人们 得到帮助，受到启发。

I hadn't really meant to, but by posting content for other people,

我没有真正发自内心地去做； 但是，通过为其他人发布内容，

I was depending my sense of impact and even self-worth

我的影响力甚至是自我价值，

to what other people thought or said about me.

取决于其他人对我的看法。

But now I've realized my motivation is and should always be intrinsic,

但现在，我意识到动机所在， 它应该始终发自内心，

wanting to try my best in sharing what I've learned

就是尽最大的努力 分享我学到的经验，

because it gives me fulfillment and purpose.

因为这给了我成就感， 让一切都有了意义。

There is a difference.

这带来了不同。

Extrinsic motivations depend on results that are out of our control

外在动机依赖于 我们无法控制的结果，

while intrinsic motivations depend on things we could do

而内在动机取决于 我们能够做到的事情，

that are under our control.

那受我们控制。

We will be less likely to take external feedback to heart

如果我们出于内在动机 开展网络活动，

if we do things online out of intrinsic motivations.

就不会在意外界的反馈。

What we do online and offline,

我们在线上和线下所做的事情，

we should do simply because we believe it is the right thing to do.

我们这样做， 只是因为我们认为这是正确的。

So I have a question for you.

因此，我有个问题要问大家。

What’s your personal mission for being on social media,

你使用社交媒体的个人目的是什么？

and what will you do to fight for it?

为了获得这种权利， 你会做些什么来抗争？

I would love to see more young people becoming catalysts of change

我希望看到， 通过利用社交媒体的力量，

by harnessing the power of social media --

有更多年轻人成为变革的催化剂——

and do so not by sacrificing our mental health

这样做不会牺牲我们的心理健康，

but by being equipped with self-sustaining tools

而是为我们提供保持真我的工具，

and engaging on platforms that are nurturing and strengthening

并与那些扶持并增强

for individuals and our world.

个人和整个世界的平台合作。

I may not be going to Canada, but I am going to the future.

我可能不会去加拿大， 但我正奔向未来。

No matter what.

不管出现什么情况。

Technology is my generation's tool to fight for the future we want to see.

科技是我们这一代人的工具， 为我们争取想要的未来。

It should help us, not hurt us.

它应该帮助我们，而非造成伤害。

Thank you.

谢谢大家！