How to resolve racially stressful situations | Howard C. Stevenson

翻译人员: Tianchao Shen 校对人员: Rui Cao

There's an African proverb that goes,

非洲有一句谚语是这样说的，

"The lion's story will never be known

"只要猎人是讲故事的人

as long as the hunter is the one to tell it."

狮子的故事就永远不会为人所知。“

More than a racial conversation, we need a racial literacy

除了关于种族的对话， 我们还需要关于种族的知识

to decode the politics of racial threat in America.

来解读美国的种族威胁。

Key to this literacy is a forgotten truth,

这个概念的关键在于 一个被遗忘的事实——

that the more we understand

我们应该更多的认识到，

that our cultural differences represent the power

我们的文化差异代表着

to heal the centuries

一种治愈几个世纪以来的

of racial discrimination,

种族歧视，

dehumanization and illness.

非人化和疾病的力量。

Both of my parents were African-American.

我的父母都是非裔美国人。

My father was born in Southern Delaware,

我父亲生于特拉华州南部，

my mother, North Philadelphia,

我母亲来自费城北部，

and these two places are as different from each other as east is from west,

而这两个地方非常不同， 就像东方和西方，

as New York City is from Montgomery, Alabama.

就像纽约市和 亚拉巴马州的蒙哥马利。

My father's way of dealing with racial conflict

我父亲处理种族冲突的方法

was to have my brother Bryan, my sister Christy and I in church

就是让我哥哥布莱恩， 我姐姐克里斯缇，还有我

what seemed like 24 hours a day, seven days a week.

每周 7 天，每天 24 小时 都在教堂里呆着。

(Laughter)

（笑声）

If anybody bothered us because of the color of our skin,

如果任何人因为肤色找我们麻烦，

he believed that you should pray for them,

他坚信你应该为他们祈祷，

knowing that God would get them back in the end.

因为上帝最终会报复他们。

(Laughter)

（笑声）

You could say that his racial-coping approach was spiritual --

你可以说他应对种族问题的方法 是精神上的——

for later on, one day,

很有前瞻性，

like Martin Luther King.

就如马丁·路·德金 （主张非暴力抵抗）。

My mother's coping approach was a little different.

我母亲的应对方法则有些不同。

She was, uh, you could say, more relational --

怎么说呢，她的方式更直接——

right now, like, in your face,

就地反击，

right now.

咄咄逼人。

More like Malcolm X.

更像是马尔科姆· X （批评者认为他散布暴力、仇恨）

(Laughter)

（笑声）

She was raised from neighborhoods

她成长的社区

in which there was racial violence and segregation,

存在种族暴力和隔离，

where she was chased out of neighborhoods,

她被逐出了这个社区，

and she exacted violence to chase others out of hers.

然后她也以暴力回敬， 把其他人驱逐出她的社区。

When she came to Southern Delaware,

当她来到特拉华州南部时，

she thought she had come to a foreign country.

她以为自己到了国外。

She didn't understand anybody,

她谁都不理解，

particularly the few black and brown folks

特别是少数的黑人和棕色人种，

who were physically deferential and verbally deferential

他们在白人在场时

in the presence of whites.

唯唯诺诺。

Not my mother.

我母亲可不是这样，

When she wanted to go somewhere, she walked.

当她想去某个地方时，她就去。

She didn't care what you thought.

她不在乎你怎么想。

And she pissed a lot of people off with her cultural style.

而且她的文化风格 让很多人感到愤怒。

Before we get into the supermarket,

在我们进超市之前，

she would give us the talk:

她会跟我们说，

"Don't ask for nothin',

“什么都别要，

don't touch nothin'.

什么都别碰。

Do you understand what I'm saying to you?

懂了吗？

I don't care if all the other children are climbing the walls.

我不管其他小孩 是不是都在爬墙。

They're not my children.

他们不是我的孩子。

Do you understand what I'm saying to you?"

你们听懂我在说什么了吗？”

In three-part harmony:

我们仨异口同声道：

"Yes, Mom."

“听懂了，妈妈。”

Before we'd get into the supermarket,

在我们进超市之前，

that talk was all we needed.

只需要那段谈话。

Now, how many of you ever got that talk?

你们多少人被这样教育过？

How many of you ever give that talk?

多少人说过这样的话？

(Laughter)

（笑声）

How many of you ever give that talk today?

你们中多少人 至今为止还在这样说？

My mother didn't give us the talk because she was worried about money

我母亲跟我们这样谈话 不是因为她担心钱

或是名声，

or reputation

or us misbehaving.

或是我们捣乱。

We never misbehaved.

我们从来不捣乱。

We were too scared.

我们太怕了。

We were in church 24 hours a day,

我们一天 24 小时，一周七天

seven days a week.

都呆在教堂里。

(Laughter)

（笑声）

She gave us that talk to remind us

她跟我们谈话是为了提醒我们——

that some people in the world would interpret us as misbehaving

这世界上有人会 认为我们在捣乱，

just by being black.

仅仅因为我们是黑人。

Not every parent has to worry about their children being misjudged

不是每一个家长 都要担心他们的孩子

because of the color of their skin,

由于肤色被误解，

just by breathing.

哪怕仅仅只是呼吸。

So we get into the supermarket,

我们走进超市，

and people look at us --

然后人们看向我们——

stare at us as if we just stole something.

盯着我们好像， 我们刚偷了什么东西。

Every now and then, a salesperson would do something or say something

时不时的，某个营业员会 做些什么或者说些什么，

because they were pissed with our cultural style,

因为他们对我们的 文化风格感到愤怒，

and it would usually happen at the conveyor belt.

而这一般会发生在 超时结账时的传送带前，

And the worst thing they could do was to throw our food into the bag.

而他们能做的最糟的事 就是把我们的食物扔进袋子里。

And when that happened, it was on.

而当这样的事发生时，就起火了。

(Laughter)

（笑声）

My mother began to tell them who they were,

我母亲会开始告诉他们 他们是什么东西，

who their family was,

他们家里人是什么东西，

where to go,

应该下几层地狱，

how fast to get there.

以多快的速度可以下去。

(Laughter)

（笑声）

If you haven't been cursed out by my mother, you haven't lived.

如果你没有被我母亲骂过， 那你可是白活了。

(Laughter)

（笑声）

The person would be on the floor,

那个人会倒在地上，

writhing in utter decay and decomposition,

在极度的羞辱和崩溃中扭动身体，

whimpering in a pool of racial shame.

并在一汪种族羞愧中呜咽。

(Laughter)

（笑声）

Now, both my parents were Christians.

我的双亲都是基督徒。

The difference is my father prayed before a racial conflict

区别是，我父亲会 在一场种族冲突之前祈祷，

and my mother prayed after.

我母亲在之后祈祷。

(Laughter)

（笑声）

There is a time, if you use both of their strategies,

有时候，你可以把 他们俩的战略都用上，

if you use them in the right time and the right way.

如果你在对的地方 以对的方式用它们。

But it's never a time --

但是从来没有这个时候——

there's a time for conciliation,

有和解的时候，

there's a time for confrontation,

有冲突的时候——

but it's never a time to freeze up like a deer in the headlights,

但从来没有像车灯前的鹿 一样僵住的时候，

and it's never a time to lash out in heedless, thoughtless anger.

也从来没有在不顾后果、 不加思考的愤怒中进行攻击的时候。

The lesson in this is

这里面的教训是——

that when it comes to race relations,

当问题涉及种族关系时，

sometimes, we've got to know how to pray,

有时，我们需要知道怎么去祷告，

think through, process, prepare.

深思，处理，准备。

And other times, we've got to know how to push,

而其它时候， 我们需要知道怎么去推动，

how to do something.

怎么去做一些事，

And I'm afraid that neither of these two skills --

而恐怕这两种技巧——

preparing,

预备，

pushing --

推动——

are prevalent in our society today.

在我们当今社会里都不普遍。

If you look at the neuroscience research

如果你查看神经学研究，

which says that when we are racially threatened,

其中说到， 当我们因为种族而被威胁，

our brains go on lockdown,

我们的大脑封闭了，

and we dehumanize black and brown people.

而且我们扼杀了 黑人和棕色人种的人性。

Our brains imagine that children and adults are older than they really are,

我们大脑种想象的孩子和大人 都比他们的真实年龄要老，

larger than they really are

比他们真实的体型要大，

and closer than they really are.

比他们真实的距离更近。

When we're at our worst, we convince ourselves

在最差的状态下， 我们会说服自己，

that they don't deserve affection or protection.

他们不该得到关爱或是保护。

At the Racial Empowerment Collaborative,

在种族授权合作机构，

we know that some of the scariest moments are racial encounters,

我们知道一些最可怕的时刻 就是种族接触，

some of the scariest moments that people will ever face.

人们会经历的一些 最可怕的时刻。

If you look at the police encounters that have led to some wrongful deaths

如果你看这个国家 导致印第安人

of mostly Native Americans and African-Americans in this country,

和非裔屈死的涉警事件，

they've lasted about two minutes.

它们仅仅持续了两分钟左右。

Within 60 seconds,

60 秒内，

our brains go on lockdown.

我们的大脑就被封闭了。

And when we're unprepared,

而当我们没有准备时，

we overreact.

我们会反应过度。

At best, we shut down.

最好的情况下，我们停止思考。

At worst, we shoot first and ask no questions.

最坏的情况下，我们在不进行 问询的情况下就会先开枪。

Imagine if we could reduce the intensity of threat

想象一下如果我们可以 在那 60 秒内

within those 60 seconds

降低威胁感的激烈程度，

and keep our brains from going on lockdown.

并且阻止我们的大脑继续封闭会如何。

Imagine how many children would get to come home from school

想象一下有多少孩子 可以从学校或者便利店

or 7-Eleven

安全回到家里，

without getting expelled or shot.

没有被开除或是受到枪击。

Imagine how many mothers and fathers wouldn't have to cry.

想象一下有多少父母不用为此哭泣。

Racial socialization can help young people negotiate 60-second encounters,

种族的社交可以帮助年轻人 顺利渡过 60 秒的冲突时刻，

but it's going to take more than a chat.

但这需要的不仅是一个交谈，

It requires a racial literacy.

也需要种族素养。

Now, how do parents have these conversations,

父母怎么去开展这样的谈话？

and what is a racial literacy?

什么又是种族素养呢？

Thank you for asking.

谢谢你问了。

(Laughter)

（笑声）

A racial literacy involves the ability to read,

种族素养包括解读、

recast and resolve a racially stressful encounter.

改变并解决紧张的 种族接触的能力。

Reading involves recognizing when a racial moment happens

“理解”包括意识到 一个种族时刻的发生，

and noticing our stress reactions to it.

并且注意到我们对它的压力反应。

Recasting involves

“反应”包括

taking mindfulness and reducing my tsunami interpretation of this moment

注意并减轻我 对于这个时刻的过度解读，

and reducing it to a mountain-climbing experience,

然后把它降为一个爬山经历，

one that is --

一个——

from impossible situation to one that is much more doable

从完全不可能的情况 到一个可执行并且

and challenging.

有挑战的情况。

Resolving a racially stressful encounter involves

“解决”一次种紧张的族性接触包括

being able to make a healthy decision

能够做出有益的决定，

that is not an underreaction, where I pretend, "That didn't bother me,"

这不代表可以轻描淡写， 假装“我不在乎这事儿”，

or an overreaction, where I exaggerate the moment.

也不代表要有过激反应， 去夸张这个时刻的紧张感。

Now, we can teach parents and children how to read, recast and resolve

那么，我们可以通过 一个有意识的策略，我们称之为

using a mindfulness strategy we call: "Calculate, locate, communicate,

“计算、设置、沟通、吸气和呼气“， 教父母和孩子们怎么去

breathe and exhale."

解读、改变和解决。

Stay with me.

听我慢慢说。

"Calculate" asks,

“计算”问的是

"What feeling am I having right now,

“我现在有什么感受,

and how intense is it on a scale of one to 10?"

从 1 到 10，它的紧张程度是多少？”

"Locate" asks, "Where in my body do I feel it?"

“设置”问的是“我在身体里的 什么地方能感受到它？”

And be specific,

再具体一点，

like the Native American girl at a Chicago fifth-grade school said to me,

就像是芝加哥一个五年级的 印第安女孩告诉我的那样，

"I feel angry at a nine because I'm the only Native American.

“我现在九级愤怒， 因为我是唯一的印第安人。

And I can feel it in my stomach,

而且我可以在胃里感受到它，

like a bunch of butterflies are fighting with each other,

像是一群蝴蝶在打架，

so much so that they fly up into my throat and choke me."

如此激烈，甚至飞进 我的喉咙然后噎住了我。“

The more detailed you can be,

你说得越详细，

the easier it is to reduce that spot.

就越容易减轻那种感觉。

"Communicate" asks,

“沟通”问的是

"What self-talk and what images are coming in my mind?"

“我的脑海中在产生什么样的 自言自语和画面？”

And if you really want help, try breathing in

如果你真的想要改善情况， 试试看吸气，

and exhaling slowly.

然后缓慢地呼气。

With the help of my many colleagues at the Racial Empowerment Collaborative,

在族授权合作机构 许多同事的帮助下，

we use in-the-moment stress-reduction

我们在一些研究和治疗项目中

in several research and therapy projects.

使用了实境减压方法。

One project is where we use basketball to help youth manage their emotions

在一个项目中， 我们用篮球在球场上帮助年轻人

during 60-second eruptions on the court.

在 60 秒内控制他们的情绪。

Another project, with the help of my colleagues Loretta and John Jemmott,

另一个项目中，在我同事 洛雷塔和约翰·杰莫特的帮助下，

we leverage the cultural style of African-American barbershops,

我们利用非裔美国人 理发店的文化风格

where we train black barbers to be health educators in two areas:

训练黑人理发师成为 两个领域的健康导师：

one, to safely reduce the sexual risk in their partner relationships;

第一，大大减少同伴关系中的性风险；

and the other,

另一个则是

to stop retaliation violence.

停止报复性的暴力行为。

The cool part is the barbers use their cultural style

炫酷的是，这些理发师在理发时，

to deliver this health education to 18- to 24-year-old men

会利用他们的文化风格 将健康教育知识传达给

while they're cutting their hair.

18 到 24 岁的人。

Another project is where we teach teachers

再另外一个项目中，我们训练老师

how to read, recast and resolve stressful moments in the classroom.

如何解读、改变和化解 课堂上的紧张时刻。

And a final project, in which we teach parents and their children separately

在最后一个项目中， 我们在帮助家长和孩子们

to understand their racial traumas

一起解决日常生活中 微小的冒犯问题之前，

before we bring them together to problem-solve daily microaggressions.

会先让他们分别 各自理解他们的种族创伤。

Now, racially literate conversations with our children can be healing,

和我们的孩子谈论种族素养 可以是治愈性的，

but it takes practice.

但它需要实践。

And I know some of you are saying, "Practice?

我知道你们有人在问了： “实践？

Practice?

真的吗？

We're talking about practice?"

我们在讲实践？”

Yes, we are talking about practice.

是的，我们是在讲实践。

I have two sons.

我有两个儿子。

My oldest, Bryan, is 26,

大儿子布莱恩，26 岁，

and my youngest, Julian, is 12.

小儿子朱利安，12 岁。

And we do not have time to talk about how that happened.

我们没空谈论这是怎么回事

(Laughter)

（笑声）

But,

但是，

when I think of them,

在我的概念中，

they are still babies to me,

他们仍然是小宝宝，

and I worry every day that the world will misjudge them.

我每天都在担心 这个世界会误解他们。

In August of 2013,

在 2013 年 8 月，

Julian, who was eight at the time, and I were folding laundry,

8 岁的朱利安和我在叠衣服，

which in and of itself is such a rare occurrence,

这本来就是个难得的时刻，

I should have known something strange was going to happen.

我本应该知道一些怪事就要发生的。

On the TV were Trayvon Martin's parents,

电视里播着黑人少年 塔拉万·马丁的父母因为

and they were crying

协警乔治·齐默尔曼 巡逻时无故射杀了马丁

because of the acquittal of George Zimmerman.

却被无罪释放而哭泣的画面。

And Julian was glued to the TV.

朱利安一直盯着电视看，

He had a thousand questions, and I was not prepared.

心中满是疑问，而我毫无准备。

He wanted to know why:

他想知道为什么：

Why would a grown man stalk and hunt down and kill

为什么一个成年人 会穷追猛打并杀害

an unarmed 17-year-old boy?

一个没有武装的 17 岁男孩？

And I did not know what to say.

而我并不知道该说什么，

我绞尽脑汁回答道：

The best thing that could come out of my mouth was,

“朱利安，有时在这世上会有人

"Julian, sometimes in this world, there are people

who look down on black and brown people

瞧不起黑色和棕色人种，

and do not treat them -- and children, too --

并且不会把他们， 包括他们的孩子

do not treat them as human."

当作人类看待。”

He interpreted the whole situation as sad.

他认为这很悲哀。

(Voice-over) Julian Stevenson: That's sad.

（录音）朱利安·史蒂文森： 真悲哀。

“我们才不在乎， 你们跟我们不是一类。”

"We don't care. You're not our kind."

HS: Yes.

爸爸：是的。

儿子：就好像， “我们就是比你们高等。”

JS: It's like, "We're better than you."

HS: Yes.

爸爸：是的。

JS: "And there's nothing you can do about that.

儿子：“而你们对此却无能为力。

And if you scare me, or something like that,

如果你们把我吓到了， 或是类似的事情，

I will shoot you because I'm scared of you."

我就会向你们开枪， 因为我害怕你们。”

HS: Exactly.

爸爸：正是如此。

But if somebody's stalking you --

但如果有人在跟着你......

JS: It's not the same for everyone else.

儿子：“人们不是平等的。”

HS: It's not always the same, no. You've got to be careful.

爸爸：不一直是平等的，不。 你要小心。

儿子：恩，因为人们可以不尊重你。

JS: Yeah, because people can disrespect you.

爸爸：是的。

HS: Exactly.

JS: And think that you're,

儿子：而且他们认为你是——

"You don't look -- you don't look like you're ..."

“你看上去不像是......”

It's like they're saying that "You don't look right,

好像他们在说：“你看上去不对劲，

so I guess I have the right to disrespect you."

所以我想我有不尊重你的权利。”

HS: Yeah, and that's what we call,

爸爸：是的，这就是我们所谓的

we call that racism.

种族主义。

And we call that racism, Julian,

朱利安，我们把它称为种族主义，

and yes, some people -- other people -- can wear a hoodie,

是的，有些人—— 其他人——可以穿连帽衫，

and nothing happens to them.

他们并不会有事，

But you and Trayvon might,

但换成你和塔拉万 可能就会有事了。

and that's why Daddy wants you to be safe.

这就是为什么 爸爸想让你们安全行事。

(Voice-over) HS: And that's why --

（录音）爸爸：这就是为什么......

儿子：所以你的意思是， 当你说“其他人”，

JS: So you mean like, when you said "other people,"

you mean, like if Trayvon was a white,

你说的是，如果塔拉万是白种人，

um, that he wouldn't be disrespected like that?

呃...他就不会那样不被人尊重了？

HS: Yes, Julian, Daddy meant white people

爸爸：是的，朱利安， 当爸爸说“其他人”的时候，

爸爸指的是白种人。

when I said, "other people," all right?

So there was a way in which I was so awkward in the beginning,

刚开始，我猝不及防，

but once I started getting my rhythm and my groove,

但我渐入佳境，

I started talking about stereotypes and issues of discrimination,

开始讨论刻板印象与种族歧视，

and just when I was getting my groove on,

说得正起劲的时候，

Julian interrupted me.

朱利安打断了我。

(Voice-over) HS: ... dangerous, or you're a criminal because you're black,

（录音）爸爸：因为你是黑人， 你就很危险，或者是个罪犯，

可能你就是个小孩——

and you're a child or a boy --

这不对！不管谁这么做。

That is wrong, it doesn't matter who does it.

JS: Dad, I need to stop you there.

儿子：爸爸，停一下。

HS: What?

爸爸：什么？

儿子：还记得吗......

JS: Remember when we were ...

HS: So he interrupts me to tell me a story

爸爸：他让我打住，给我讲了个故事，

about when he was racially threatened at a swimming pool with a friend

他和朋友在泳池 因为种族而受到了

by two grown white men,

两个成年白人的威胁，

which his mother confirmed.

他妈妈证实了这个故事。

And I felt happy that he was able to talk about it;

我感到开心，因为他能够谈论这件事，

it felt like he was getting it.

这说明他正在理解我的观点。

We moved from the sadness of Trayvon's parents

我们从塔拉万父母的悲伤中抽离出来，

and started talking about George Zimmerman's parents,

并开始谈论乔治·齐默尔曼的父母，

which, I read in a magazine,

我从杂志得知，

condoned the stalking of Trayvon.

他们宽恕了齐默尔曼 跟踪塔拉万的行为。

And Julian's reaction to me was priceless.

而朱利安的反应对我弥足珍贵。

It made me feel like he was getting it.

这让我觉得他正在理解这样的行为。

(Voice-over) JS: What did they say about him?

（录音）儿子：他们对 自己的儿子怎么评价？

爸爸：我觉得他们认为 儿子这种跟踪和穷追不舍的行为

HS: Well, I think they basically felt that he was justified

to follow and stalk --

是正当的。

JS: What the -- ?

儿子：什么！

HS: Yeah, I think that's wrong.

爸爸：是的，我认为这不对。

JS: That's -- one minute.

儿子：等一下。

So they're saying he has the right to follow a black kid,

他们的意思是齐默尔曼有权 跟踪一个黑人孩子，

get in a fight with him and shoot him?

陷入对峙并射杀他？

HS: As Julian was getting it,

爸爸：就在朱利安 开始理解的时候，

I started to lose it.

我开始失控了。

Because in my mind's eye, I was thinking:

因为我在想：

What if my Julian or Bryan was Trayvon?

如果我的两个孩子就是塔拉万呢？

I calculated my anger at a 10.

我的愤怒指数达到了10。

I found, located, my right leg was shaking uncontrollably

我发现我的右腿开始不自觉颤抖，

like I was running.

好像我在跑步似的。

And in my mind's eye, I could see somebody chasing Julian,

我脑海中出现了 有群人在追着朱利安，

and I was chasing them.

而我在追着他们的画面。

And the only thing that could come out of my mouth

我能说的唯一的话

was if anybody tries to bother my child ...

就是：如果有人试着 找我孩子的麻烦......

(Voice-over) HS: If anybody tries to bother my child ...

(录音）爸爸：如果有人 试着找我孩子麻烦......

mmm, mmm, mmm.

哼......

JS: What will happen?

儿子：会发生什么？

HS: Well, they better run.

爸爸：呵呵，他们赶快跑吧。

JS: Because what? HS: I'm gonna get 'em.

儿子：为什么？ 爸爸：我会揍他们。

JS: See? (Laughs)

儿子：啥？（大笑）

HS: I'm gonna get 'em. JS: Really?

爸爸：我会揍他们。 儿子：真的吗？

爸爸：当然了。

HS: Oh, yeah.

儿子：然后他们会反击， 因为他们可能有武器。

JS: Then they're gonna get you because they might have weapons.

爸爸：我知道，我会报警的， 我也应该这么做。

HS: Well, you know what, I'm gonna call police, too, like I should.

但我更想把他们痛扁一顿，

But I feel like I wanna get 'em.

但不行，你是对的， 你不能就那么追着人跑。

But you can't; you're right, you can't just go chasing people.

儿子：他们可能有武器的！

JS: They can be armed.

HS: Yeah, you right. Yeah, you right.

爸爸：是的，你是对的，你是对的。

I feel like I wanna chase 'em.

我就感觉我想追着他们......

儿子：他们可能惹不起。

JS: Plus they could be an army or something.

爸爸：我知道， 他们敢惹我儿子，我就想揍他们。

HS: I know -- I feel like I wanna go get 'em, messing with my son.

I don't like that.

我不喜欢这样。

JS: Um ...

儿子：哦......

HS: But you right. You gotta be careful.

爸爸：但你是对的，得小心点，

And um, you gotta be careful.

得小心点。

You never know what some crazy people will think about you.

你永远不会知道 一些疯子会怎么看你。

Just as long as you believe you're beautiful

只要你相信你是出色的，

like Daddy believes you're beautiful and handsome,

就像爸爸眼中的你一样， 你是出色又帅气的，

and Mommy believes you're beautiful and handsome and smart.

妈妈认为你出色帅气还聪明，

And you deserve to be on this planet,

那么你就有权生活在这星球上，

just as happy and beautiful and smart as you want to be.

想要多开心，多出色， 多机智都可以。

You can do anything you want, baby.

你可以做任何你想做的事，孩子。

HS: Racial socialization is not just what parents teach their children.

种族社会化不仅是 父母对孩子的教育，

It's also how children respond to what their parents teach.

也关于孩子如何 对父母的教育做出反应。

Is my child prepared?

我的孩子准备好了吗？

Can they recognize when a racial elephant shows up in a room?

房间里种族主义大象出现时， 他们可以意识到吗？

Can they reduce their tsunami interpretation

他们能把海啸似的过度解读

down to a mountain-climbing adventure

化解为爬山似的经历，

that they can engage and not run away?

在他们掌控之内， 不会失控的解读吗？

Can they make a healthy and just decision in 60 seconds?

60 秒内，他们可以 做出合理正当的决定吗？

Can I?

我可以吗？

Can you?

你们可以吗？

Yes, we can.

是的，我们可以！

We can build healthier relationships around race

我们可以建立更健康的种族关系，

if we learn to calculate, locate communicate, breathe and exhale

如果我们试着在最危险的时刻

in the middle of our most threatening moments,

计算、设置、沟通，吸气与呼气，

when we come face-to-face with our lesser selves.

并怀着更少的私心。

If you take the centuries of racial rage

如果你能淡化几世纪积淀下来的 体内沸腾着的、

that boils up in all of our bodies, minds and souls --

影响到我们身心乃至灵魂的，

and anything that affects our bodies, minds and souls affects our health --

影响到我们健康的愤怒，

we could probably use gun control for our hearts.

我们的心绪便会更容易得到控制。

I just want what all parents want for their children

我只是想像其他所有父母一样，

when we're not around:

当我们不在孩子身边时，

affection and protection.

孩子可以得到关爱与保护。

When police and teachers see my children,

当警察与老师看见我的孩子时，

I want them to imagine their own,

我希望他们想想自己的孩子，

because I believe if you see our children as your children,

因为我相信，如果你能 视我的孩子如己出，

you won't shoot them.

你就不会射杀他们了。

With racial literacy, and yes, practice,

有了种族素养，当然，还有实践，

we can decode the racial trauma from our stories,

我们就能解读故事中的种族创伤，

and our healing will come in the telling.

在讲述过程中，创伤便得以治愈。

But we must never forget

但我们不能忘记，

that our cultural differences are full of affection and protection,

我们的文化差异中 充满关爱与保护，

and remember always that the lion's story will never be known

永远要记住， 只要猎人是讲故事的人，

as long as the hunter is the one to tell it.

狮子的故事就永远不会为人所知。

Thank you very much.

非常感谢。

(Applause)

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