5 Parenting Tips for Raising Resilient, Self-Reliant Kids | Tameka Montgomery | TED

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ูŠุฑุฌู‰ ุงู„ู†ู‚ุฑ ู†ู‚ุฑู‹ุง ู…ุฒุฏูˆุฌู‹ุง ููˆู‚ ุงู„ุชุฑุฌู…ุฉ ุงู„ุฅู†ุฌู„ูŠุฒูŠุฉ ุฃุฏู†ุงู‡ ู„ุชุดุบูŠู„ ุงู„ููŠุฏูŠูˆ.

ุงู„ู…ุชุฑุฌู…: Nawal Sharabati ุงู„ู…ุฏู‚ู‘ู‚: Shimaa Nabil
00:04
How do we raise self-reliant kids
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ูƒูŠู ู„ู†ุง ุฃู† ู†ุฑุจูŠ ุฃุทูุงู„ู‹ุง ูŠุนุชู…ุฏูˆู† ุนู„ู‰ ุฃู†ูุณู‡ู…
00:08
who have initiative, who are resilient,
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ุงู„ุฐูŠู† ูŠุชู…ุชุนูˆู† ุจุงู„ู…ุจุงุฏุฑุฉ ูˆุงู„ู…ุฑูˆู†ุฉุŒ
00:11
and who could be problem solvers?
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ูˆุงู„ุฐูŠู† ูŠุณุชุทูŠุนูˆู† ุญู„ ุงู„ู…ุดูƒู„ุงุชุŸ
00:13
Kids who have the skills and the courage to step outside of their comfort zone
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ุงู„ุฃุทูุงู„ ุงู„ุฐูŠู† ูŠุชู…ุชุนูˆู† ุจุงู„ู…ู‡ุงุฑุงุช ูˆุงู„ุดุฌุงุนุฉ ู„ู„ุฎุฑูˆุฌ ุจุนูŠุฏู‹ุง ุนู† ู†ุทุงู‚ ุฑุงุญุชู‡ู…
00:19
and take advantage of what life has to offer.
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ูˆุงู„ุงุณุชูุงุฏุฉ ุจู…ุง ุชู‚ุฏู…ู‡ ุงู„ุญูŠุงุฉ.
00:23
I'm a mom to these three boys.
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ุฃู†ุง ุฃู… ู„ู‡ุคู„ุงุก ุงู„ุตุจูŠุงู† ุงู„ุซู„ุงุซุฉ.
00:26
And if you're a parent like me,
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ูˆุฅู† ูƒู†ุชู… ุฃุญุฏ ุฃูˆู„ูŠุงุก ุงู„ุฃู…ูˆุฑ ู…ุซู„ูŠุŒ
00:28
you've probably asked yourself those very same questions.
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ุฑุจู…ุง ู‚ุฏ ุณุฃู„ุชู… ุฃู†ูุณูƒู… ู†ูุณ ุชู„ูƒ ุงู„ุฃุณุฆู„ุฉ ุชู…ุงู…ู‹ุง.
00:33
And while I'm sure that every caring parent
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ูˆุจูŠู†ู…ุง ุฃู†ุง ู…ุชุฃูƒุฏุฉ ุฃู† ูƒู„ ูˆู„ูŠ ุฃู…ุฑ ู…ู‡ุชู…
00:36
wants those same things for their children,
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ูŠุฑูŠุฏ ู†ูุณ ุชู„ูƒ ุงู„ุฃุดูŠุงุก ู„ุฃุทูุงู„ู‡.
00:40
I think we're going about it the wrong way.
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ุฃุนุชู‚ุฏ ุฃู†ู†ุง ุณู†ุชุนุงู…ู„ ู…ุน ุงู„ุฃู…ุฑ ุจุทุฑูŠู‚ุฉ ุฎุงุทุฆุฉ.
00:44
We want our kids to be happy and successful.
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ู†ุฑูŠุฏ ู…ู† ุฃุทูุงู„ู†ุง ุฃู† ูŠูƒูˆู†ูˆุง ุณุนุฏุงุก ูˆู†ุงุฌุญูŠู†.
00:48
So our instinct is to shield them from hurt and disappointment.
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ูุบุฑูŠุฒุชู†ุง ู‡ูŠ ุฃู† ู†ุญู…ูŠู‡ู… ู…ู† ุงู„ุฃุฐู‰ ูˆุฎูŠุจุฉ ุงู„ุฃู…ู„.
00:56
We worry about their self-esteem, so we praise them for everything.
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ู†ู‚ู„ู‚ู ุจุดุงู† ุชู‚ุฏูŠุฑู‡ู… ู„ุฐูˆุงุชู‡ู…ุŒ ูˆู„ุฐู„ูƒ ู†ุญู† ู†ู…ุฏุญู‡ู… ููŠ ูƒู„ ุดูŠุก.
01:01
We are concerned about whether or not they fit in,
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ู†ู‚ู„ู‚ู ุจุดุฃู† ููŠู…ุง ุฅุฐุง ุชุฃู‚ู„ู…ูˆุง ุฃูˆ ู„ุงุŒ
01:05
so we indulge them.
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ู„ุฐู„ูƒ ูู†ุญู† ู†ุฏู„ู„ู‡ู….
01:08
And we don't want them to fail,
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ูˆู„ุง ู†ุฑูŠุฏ ู…ู†ู‡ู… ุฃู† ูŠูุดู„ูˆุงุŒ
01:10
so we step in and take over.
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ู„ุฐู„ูƒ ู†ุชู‚ุฏู… ูˆู†ุชูˆู„ู‰ ุงู„ู…ุณุคูˆู„ูŠุฉ ู†ูŠุงุจุฉ ุนู†ู‡ู….
01:14
And we do all of this in an attempt to curate a perfect life for them.
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ูˆู†ู‚ูˆู… ุจูƒู„ ู‡ุฐุง ููŠ ู…ุญุงูˆู„ุฉ ู„ุชูˆููŠุฑ ุญูŠุงุฉ ู…ุซุงู„ูŠุฉ ู„ู‡ู….
01:21
But what we're really doing
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ู„ูƒู† ู…ุง ู†ู‚ูˆู… ููŠู‡ ุญู‚ู‹ุง
01:23
is raising kids who are afraid to take risks
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ู‡ูˆ ุชุฑุจูŠุฉ ุงู„ุฃุทูุงู„ ุงู„ุฐูŠู† ูŠุฎุดูˆู† ุงู„ู…ุฎุงุทุฑุฉ
01:26
because they fear failure;
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ู„ุฃู†ู‡ู… ูŠุฎุงููˆู† ุงู„ูุดู„ุŒ
01:29
kids who lack the confidence in their ability to figure things out;
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ุงู„ุฃุทูุงู„ ุงู„ุฐูŠู† ูŠูุชู‚ุฑูˆู† ุฅู„ู‰ ุงู„ุซู‚ุฉ ููŠ ู‚ุฏุฑุชู‡ู… ุนู„ู‰ ุงูƒุชุดุงู ุงู„ุฃู…ูˆุฑุŒ
01:34
and then young people who are afraid to launch into adulthood.
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ูˆู…ู† ุซู… ุงู„ุดุจุงุจ ุงู„ุฐูŠู† ูŠุฎุดูˆู† ุงู„ุฏุฎูˆู„ ููŠ ู…ุฑุญู„ุฉ ุงู„ุจู„ูˆุบ.
01:41
More young adults are living at home and for longer stretches.
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ูŠุนูŠุด ุงู„ู…ุฒูŠุฏ ู…ู† ุงู„ุดุจุงุจ ููŠ ุงู„ู…ู†ุฒู„ ูˆู„ูุชุฑุงุช ุทูˆูŠู„ุฉ.
01:48
And this was occurring even before the pandemic.
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ูˆูƒุงู† ูŠุญุฏุซ ุฐู„ูƒ ุญุชู‰ ู‚ุจู„ ุงู„ุฌุงุฆุญุฉ.
01:52
A Pew Research study found that 52 percent of young adults
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ูˆุฌุฏุช ุฏุฑุงุณุฉ ุฃุฌุฑุงู‡ุง ู…ุฑูƒุฒ ุจูŠูˆ ู„ู„ุฃุจุญุงุซ ุฃู† 52 ููŠ ุงู„ู…ุงุฆุฉ ู…ู† ุงู„ุดุจุงุจ
01:56
are living at home,
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ูŠุนูŠุดูˆู† ููŠ ุงู„ู…ู†ุฒู„ุŒ
01:58
which is the highest percentage since the Great Depression.
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ูˆู‡ูŠ ุฃุนู„ู‰ ู†ุณุจุฉ ู…ู†ุฐ ุงู„ูƒุณุงุฏ ุงู„ูƒุจูŠุฑ.
02:03
And what we're finding is that young adults are stuck
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ูˆู…ุง ูˆุฌุฏู†ุงู‡ ู‡ูˆ ุฃู† ุงู„ุดุจุงุจ ุนุงู„ู‚ูˆู†
02:08
between adolescence and adulthood.
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ุจูŠู† ุงู„ู…ุฑุงู‡ู‚ุฉ ูˆุงู„ุจู„ูˆุบ.
02:12
And that's the generation of people that we're raising.
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ูˆู‡ุฐุง ู‡ูˆ ุงู„ุฌูŠู„ ุงู„ุฐูŠ ู†ุฑุจูŠู‡.
02:16
And in fact,
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ูˆููŠ ุงู„ุญู‚ูŠู‚ุฉุŒ
02:17
we hear this in the language that young adults even use
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ู†ุณู…ุน ู‡ุฐุง ุญุชู‰ ููŠ ุงู„ู„ุบุฉ ุงู„ุชูŠ ูŠุณุชุฎุฏู…ู‡ุง ุงู„ุดุจุงุจ
02:21
when they have to make responsible adult decisions.
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ุนู†ุฏู…ุง ูŠู†ุจุบูŠ ุนู„ูŠู‡ู… ุงุชุฎุงุฐ ุงู„ู‚ุฑุงุฑุงุช ุงู„ู…ุณุคูˆู„ุฉ ู„ู„ุจุงู„ุบูŠู†.
02:25
There's a term for it.
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ู‡ู†ุงูƒ ู…ุตุทู„ุญ ู„ุฐู„ูƒ.
02:26
Who knows what that is?
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ู…ูŽู† ูŠุนุฑู ู…ุง ู‡ูˆุŸ
02:28
Adulting, yes.
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ุงู„ุชุตุฑู ูƒุดุฎุต ุฑุงุดุฏุŒ ู†ุนู….
02:30
The practice of behaving
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ู…ู…ุงุฑุณุฉ ุงู„ุชุตุฑู
02:32
in a characteristic of a responsible adult.
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ูƒุตูุฉ ุดุฎุต ุจุงู„ุบ ู…ุณุคูˆู„.
02:38
So I am convinced that as parents and caregivers,
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ู„ุฐู„ูƒ ูุฃู†ุง ู…ู‚ุชู†ุนุฉ ุฃู†ู†ุง ูƒุฃูˆู„ูŠุงุก ุฃู…ูˆุฑ ูˆู…ู‚ุฏู…ูŠ ุฑุนุงูŠุฉ
02:43
we are missing out on a great opportunity
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ู†ูุชู‚ุฏ ุงู„ูุฑุตุฉ ุงู„ูƒุจูŠุฑุฉ
02:46
to raise kids who are resilient
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ู„ุชุฑุจูŠุฉ ุงู„ุฃุทูุงู„ ุงู„ุฐูŠู† ูŠุชู…ุชุนูˆู† ุจุงู„ู…ุฑูˆู†ุฉ
02:50
and can take hold of their future,
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ูˆูŠู…ูƒู†ู‡ู… ุงู„ุชู…ุณูƒ ุจู…ุณุชู‚ุจู„ู‡ู…ุŒ
02:52
kids who can step outside of their comfort zone
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ุงู„ุฃุทูุงู„ ุงู„ุฐูŠู† ูŠุฎุฑุฌูˆู† ุจุนูŠุฏู‹ุง ุนู† ู†ุทุงู‚ ุฑุงุญุชู‡ู…
02:56
and do amazing things.
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ูˆุงู„ู‚ูŠุงู… ุจุฃุดูŠุงุก ู…ุฐู‡ู„ุฉ.
03:00
Now, these are skills that are necessary
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ุงู„ุขู†ุŒ ู‡ุฐู‡ ู…ู‡ุงุฑุงุช ุถุฑูˆุฑูŠุฉ
03:04
not only for them to lead fulfilling lives and live out their potential,
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ู„ูŠุณ ูู‚ุท ุจุงู„ู†ุณุจุฉ ุฅู„ูŠู‡ู… ู„ูŠุนูŠุดูˆุง ุญูŠุงุฉ ู…ูุฑุถูŠุฉ ูˆุงู„ุนูŠุด ุฃุจุนุฏ ู…ู† ุฅู…ูƒุงู†ูŠุงุชู‡ู…ุŒ
03:10
but those are skills that are also necessary
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ู„ูƒู† ุชู„ูƒ ู…ู‡ุงุฑุงุช ุงู„ุชูŠ ู‡ูŠ ุถุฑูˆุฑูŠุฉ ุฃูŠุถู‹ุง
03:12
for our changing world.
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ุจุงู„ู†ุณุจุฉ ุฅู„ู‰ ุนุงู„ู…ู†ุง ุงู„ู…ุชุบูŠุฑ.
03:16
So back to my original question.
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ู„ุฐู„ูƒ ู„ู†ุนูˆุฏ ุฅู„ู‰ ุณุคุงู„ูŠ ุงู„ุฃุตู„ูŠ.
03:18
How do we raise self-reliant kids who have initiative,
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ูƒูŠู ู„ู†ุง ุฃู† ู†ุฑุจูŠ ุฃุทูุงู„ู‹ุง ูŠุนุชู…ุฏูˆู† ุนู„ู‰ ุฃู†ูุณู‡ู… ูˆู„ุฏูŠู‡ู… ุงู„ู…ุจุงุฏุฑุฉ
03:22
are resilient and can be problem solvers?
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ุงู„ุฐูŠู† ูŠุชู…ุชุนูˆู† ุจุงู„ู…ุฑูˆู†ุฉ ูˆูŠุณุชุทูŠุนูˆู† ุญู„ ุงู„ู…ุดุงูƒู„ุŸ
03:27
I believe we do that by raising kids
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ุฃุนุชู‚ุฏ ุฃู†ู†ุง ู†ู‚ูˆู… ุจุฐู„ูƒ ุนู† ุทุฑูŠู‚ ุชุฑุจูŠุฉ ุงู„ุฃุทูุงู„
03:30
who can think and act entrepreneurially.
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ุงู„ุฐูŠู† ูŠู…ูƒู†ู‡ู… ุงู„ุชููƒูŠุฑ ูˆุงู„ุชุตุฑู ุจุดูƒู„ ุฑูŠุงุฏูŠ.
03:34
Kids who have the opportunity or have the skill set
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ุงู„ุฃุทูุงู„ ุงู„ุฐูŠู† ูŠุบุชู†ู…ูˆู† ุงู„ูุฑุตุฉ ุฃูˆ ู„ุฏูŠู‡ู… ู…ุฌู…ูˆุนุฉ ู…ู‡ุงุฑุงุช
03:39
to view the world from an entrepreneurial mindset.
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ู„ุฑุคูŠุฉ ุงู„ุนุงู„ู… ู…ู† ุนู‚ู„ูŠุฉ ุฑูŠุงุฏูŠุฉ.
03:44
So let me tell you how I came to this conclusion.
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ู„ุฐู„ูƒ ุฏุนูˆู†ูŠ ุฃู† ุฃุฎุจุฑูƒู… ูƒูŠู ุชูˆุตู„ุช ุฅู„ู‰ ู‡ุฐู‡ ุงู„ู†ุชูŠุฌุฉ.
03:48
So for more than 20 years,
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ู„ุฐุง ู„ุฃูƒุซุฑ ู…ู† 20 ุนุงู…ู‹ุงุŒ
03:50
my work was centered around supporting adult entrepreneurs.
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ุชู…ุญูˆุฑ ุนู…ู„ูŠ ุญูˆู„ ุฏุนู… ุฑูˆุงุฏ ุงู„ุฃุนู…ุงู„ ุงู„ุจุงู„ุบูŠู†.
03:56
Providing them with training and technical assistance
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ู…ุฒูˆุฏุฉ ุฅูŠุงู‡ู… ุจุงู„ุชุฏุฑูŠุจ ูˆุงู„ู…ุณุงุนุฏุฉ ุงู„ุชู‚ู†ูŠุฉ
03:59
and resources to help them start and grow their businesses.
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ูˆุงู„ู…ุตุงุฏุฑ ุงู„ุชูŠ ุชุณุงุนุฏู‡ู… ููŠ ุจุฏุก ุฃุนู…ุงู„ู‡ู… ุงู„ุชุฌุงุฑูŠุฉ ูˆุชู†ู…ูŠุชู‡ุง.
04:04
And something I would observe.
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ูˆุดูŠุก ุฃูˆุฏ ู…ู„ุงุญุธุชู‡.
04:06
We'd have two individuals come into our office seeking assistance.
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ู„ุฏูŠู†ุง ุดุฎุตุงู† ุญุถุฑุง ุฅู„ู‰ ู…ูƒุชุจู†ุง ู„ุทู„ุจ ุงู„ู…ุณุงุนุฏุฉ.
04:09
And on the surface,
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ูˆููŠ ุงู„ุธุงู‡ุฑุŒ
04:11
it appeared that those individuals were at the same level
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ุงุชุถุญ ุฃู† ู‡ุฐูŠู† ุงู„ุดุฎุตูŠู† ูƒุงู†ุง ููŠ ู†ูุณ ุงู„ู…ุณุชูˆู‰
04:13
in terms of resources, capabilities,
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ู…ู† ุญูŠุซ ุงู„ู…ุตุงุฏุฑ ูˆุงู„ู‚ุฏุฑุงุชุŒ
04:17
skills and business acumen.
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ูˆุงู„ู…ู‡ุงุฑุงุช ูˆุงู„ูุทู†ุฉ ุงู„ุชุฌุงุฑูŠุฉ.
04:20
But what we would find
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ู„ูƒู† ุงู„ุฐูŠ ุณู†ุฌุฏู‡
04:21
is that one individual would take that information
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ู‡ูˆ ุฃู† ูุฑุฏู‹ุง ูˆุงุญุฏู‹ุง ุณูŠุฃุฎุฐ ุชู„ูƒ ุงู„ู…ุนู„ูˆู…ุงุช
04:24
and go with it,
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ูˆุณูŠุฐู‡ุจ ุจู‡ุงุŒ
04:25
and then the other individual would just seem to have trouble
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ูˆู…ู† ุซู… ุงู„ุดุฎุต ุงู„ุขุฎุฑ ุณูŠุจุฏูˆ ุฃู†ู‡ ูŠูˆุงุฌู‡ ู…ุดูƒู„ุฉ
04:29
really getting traction and getting going.
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ููŠ ุงู„ุญุตูˆู„ ุญู‚ู‹ุง ุนู„ู‰ ู‚ูˆุฉ ุฌุฐุจ ูˆุงู„ู…ุถูŠ ู‚ุฏู…ู‹ุง.
04:33
And what I realized was that it had nothing to do
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ูˆูƒุงู† ู…ุง ุฃุฏุฑูƒุชู‡ ู„ูŠุณ ู„ู‡ ุนู„ุงู‚ุฉ
04:37
with skill or capability.
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ุจุงู„ู…ู‡ุงุฑุฉ ุฃูˆ ุงู„ู‚ุฏุฑุฉ.
04:40
What it came down to was the mindset of that individual.
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ูˆูƒุงู† ู…ุง ุฃุตุจุญ ุฃู…ุฑู‹ุง ูˆุงู‚ุนู‹ุง ู‡ูˆ ุทุฑูŠู‚ุฉ ุชููƒูŠุฑ ุฐู„ูƒ ุงู„ูุฑุฏ.
04:47
And observing this got me thinking:
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ูˆู…ู„ุงุญุธุฉ ุฐู„ูƒ ุฌุนู„ู†ูŠ ุฃููƒุฑ:
04:52
How might I raise my children
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ูƒูŠู ูŠู…ูƒู†ู†ูŠ ุชุฑุจูŠุฉ ุฃุทูุงู„ูŠ
04:55
such that they can view the world like an entrepreneur?
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ุจุญูŠุซ ูŠู…ูƒู†ู‡ู… ุฑุคูŠุฉ ุงู„ุนุงู„ู… ู…ุซู„ู…ุง ูŠุฑุงู‡ุง ุตุงุญุจ ุงู„ุนู…ู„ุŸ
05:02
That they would have the courage to step out
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ูˆุจุญูŠุซ ุณูŠุชู…ุชุนูˆู† ุจุงู„ุดุฌุงุนุฉ ู„ู„ู…ุถูŠ ู‚ุฏู…ู‹ุง
05:05
and to change the world with an entrepreneurial lens.
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ูˆุชุบูŠูŠุฑ ุงู„ุนุงู„ู… ุจู†ุธุฑุฉ ุฑูŠุงุฏุฉ ุงู„ุฃุนู…ุงู„.
05:11
So that set us out,
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ูˆูŠุถุนู†ุง ุฐู„ูƒุŒ
05:12
my husband and I,
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ุฃู†ุง ูˆุฒูˆุฌูŠุŒ
05:14
on a 15-year journey to raise entrepreneurial kids.
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ุจุดุฃู† ุฑุญู„ุฉ ู…ุฏุชู‡ุง 15 ุนุงู…ู‹ุง ู„ุชุฑุจูŠุฉ ุฃุทูุงู„ ุฑูŠุงุฏูŠูŠู†.
05:18
And we really saw this come together
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ูˆุฑุฃูŠู†ุง ู‡ุฐุง ูŠุชู„ุงู‚ู‰ ู…ุนู‹ุง ููŠ ุงู„ุญู‚ูŠู‚ุฉ
05:21
when my eldest son, Silas, was nine years old.
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ุนู†ุฏู…ุง ูƒุงู† ุงุจู†ูŠ ุงู„ุฃูƒุจุฑุŒ ุณุงูŠู„ุณุŒ ููŠ ุงู„ุชุงุณุนุฉ ู…ู† ุนู…ุฑู‡.
05:26
We had been living here in Maryland for about two years,
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ู†ุญู† ู†ุนูŠุด ู‡ู†ุง ููŠ ู…ูŠุฑูŠู„ุงู†ุฏ ู…ู†ุฐ ุณู†ุชูŠู† ุชู‚ุฑูŠุจู‹ุงุŒ
05:29
and my husband was planning to travel back to Colorado
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ูˆูƒุงู† ูŠุฎุทุท ุฒูˆุฌูŠ ุฅู„ู‰ ุงู„ุนูˆุฏุฉ ุฅู„ู‰ ูƒูˆู„ูˆุฑุงุฏูˆ
05:32
to visit his mother.
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ู„ุฒูŠุงุฑุฉ ูˆุงู„ุฏุชู‡.
05:34
And so Silas asked me, he said, "Hey, mom,
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ูˆุณุฃู„ู†ูŠ ุณุงูŠู„ุณ ู‚ุงุฆู„ู‹ุง: โ€œู…ู‡ู„ู‹ุง ูŠุง ุฃู…ูŠุŒ
05:36
can me and my brothers also go with Dad to visit grandma?"
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ู‡ู„ ูŠู…ูƒู†ู†ูŠ ูˆุฃุฎูˆุชูŠ ุฃู† ู†ุฐู‡ุจ ุฃูŠุถู‹ุง ู…ุน ูˆุงู„ุฏูŠ ู„ุฒูŠุงุฑุฉ ุฌุฏุชู†ุงุŸโ€
05:40
And I said, "Well, you know, Silas,
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ูˆู‚ู„ุชู: โ€œุญุณู†ู‹ุงุŒ ูƒู…ุง ุชุนุฑูู ูŠุง ุณุงูŠู„ุณุŒ
05:42
four airline tickets were not in the budget,
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ู„ู… ุชูƒู† ุฃุฑุจุน ุชุฐุงูƒุฑ ุทูŠุฑุงู† ููŠ ุงู„ู…ูŠุฒุงู†ูŠุฉ
05:45
but you can go
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ู„ูƒู† ูŠู…ูƒู†ูƒ ุงู„ุฐู‡ุงุจ
05:48
if you can buy your own ticket."
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ุฅุฐุง ุงุณุชุทุนุช ุดุฑุงุก ุชุฐูƒุฑุชูƒ ุจู†ูุณูƒ.โ€
05:50
So he paused for a moment, and he said,
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ูุชูˆู‚ู ู„ู„ุญุธุฉุŒ ูˆู‚ุงู„:
05:52
"OK, well, how much are airline tickets?"
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โ€œุญุณู†ู‹ุงุŒ ูƒู… ุชูƒู„ู ุชุฐุงูƒุฑ ุงู„ุทูŠุฑุงู†ุŸโ€
05:55
And I said, "About 300 dollars."
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ูˆู‚ู„ุช: โ€œ300 ุฏูˆู„ุงุฑ ุชู‚ุฑูŠุจู‹ุง.โ€
05:57
And so his next question, I have to say, it literally blew my mind.
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ูˆู„ุฐุง ูุฅู† ุณุคุงู„ู‡ ุงู„ุชุงู„ูŠุŒ ูŠู†ุจุบูŠ ุฃู† ุฃู‚ูˆู„ุŒ ุฃุฏู‡ุดู†ูŠ ุชู…ุงู…ู‹ุง.
06:02
So he said, "OK.
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ูˆู‚ุงู„: โ€œุญุณู†ู‹ุงุŒ
06:05
Can I find free stuff on Craigslist and then resell it?"
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ู‡ู„ ูŠู…ูƒู†ู†ูŠ ุฅูŠุฌุงุฏ ุฃุดูŠุงุก ู…ุฌุงู†ูŠุฉ ุนุจุฑ ูƒุฑูŠุฌุฒู„ูŠุณุช ูˆู…ู† ุซู… ุฃุนูŠุฏ ุจูŠุนู‡ุงุŸโ€
06:11
Yeah, I was like, "Yeah, you can."
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ู†ุนู…ุŒ ูƒุงู† ุฑุฏูŠ: โ€œู†ุนู… ูŠู…ูƒู†ูƒ ุฐู„ูƒ.โ€
06:15
And so then, over the course of that summer,
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ูˆุจุงู„ุชุงู„ูŠุŒ ุนู„ู‰ ู…ุฏู‰ ุฐู„ูƒ ุงู„ุตูŠูุŒ
06:18
that's exactly what he did.
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ู‡ุฐุง ู…ุง ู‚ุงู… ุจู‡ ุจุงู„ุถุจุทุŒ
06:20
You know, he would get online and research Craigslist.
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ูƒู…ุง ุชุนู„ู…ูˆู†ุŒ ูƒุงู† ูŠุตู„ ุฅู„ู‰ ุงู„ุฅู†ุชุฑู†ุช ูˆูŠุจุญุซ ููŠ ุดุจูƒุฉ ูƒุฑูŠุฌุฒู„ูŠุณุช.
06:23
My husband would take him to go pick up those things,
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ูƒุงู† ุฒูˆุฌูŠ ูŠุตุทุญุจู‡ ู„ุฅุญุถุงุฑ ุชู„ูƒ ุงู„ุฃุดูŠุงุกุŒ
06:26
and then I would help him take pictures and post them online.
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ูˆูƒู†ุช ุฃุณุงุนุฏู‡ ููŠ ุงู„ุชู‚ุงุท ุงู„ุตูˆุฑ ูˆู†ุดุฑู‡ุง ุนุจุฑ ุงู„ุฅู†ุชุฑู†ุช.
06:29
But then he also did some other things that summer, he hustled.
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ู„ูƒู† ุจุนุฏ ุฐู„ูƒ ู‚ุงู… ุฃูŠุถู‹ุง ุจุจุนุถ ุงู„ุฃู…ูˆุฑ ุงู„ุฃุฎุฑู‰ ููŠ ุฐู„ูƒ ุงู„ุตูŠูุŒ ู‚ุงู… ุจุฃุนู…ุงู„ ุฌุงู†ุจูŠุฉ.
06:32
So he baked and sold cookies.
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ูƒุงู† ูŠุฎุจุฒ ุงู„ูƒุนูƒ ูˆูŠุจูŠุนู‡.
06:35
And then he also washed cars.
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ูˆู…ู† ุซู… ู‚ุงู… ุจุบุณู„ ุงู„ุณูŠุงุฑุงุช ุฃูŠุถู‹ุง.
06:37
And throughout that entire process,
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ูˆุทูŠู„ุฉ ุชู„ูƒ ุงู„ุนู…ู„ูŠุฉ ุจุฃูƒู…ู„ู‡ุงุŒ
06:40
my husband and I, we guided him along.
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ูƒู†ุง ุฃู†ุง ูˆุฒูˆุฌูŠ ู†ูˆุฌู‡ู‡ ุนู„ู‰ ุทูˆู„.
06:44
We were there to coach and encourage him,
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ูƒู†ุง ู‡ู†ุงูƒ ู„ู†ุฏุฑุจู‡ ูˆู†ุดุฌุนู‡ุŒ
06:47
but we allowed him to take the lead.
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ู„ูƒู† ุณู…ุญู†ุง ู„ู‡ ุจุฃุฎุฐ ุฒู…ุงู… ุงู„ู…ุจุงุฏุฑุฉ.
06:51
When it was time for him to make his sales pitch,
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ุนู†ุฏู…ุง ุญุงู† ุงู„ูˆู‚ุช ุจุงู„ู†ุณุจุฉ ุฅู„ูŠู‡ ู„ูŠู‚ูˆู… ุจุนุฑุถ ู…ุจูŠุนุงุชู‡ุŒ
06:54
you know, we coached him on how to make the pitch,
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ูƒู…ุง ุชุนู„ู…ูˆู†ุŒ ุฏุฑุจู†ุงู‡ ุจุดุฃู† ูƒูŠููŠุฉ ุนู…ู„ ุงู„ุนุฑุถุŒ
06:57
but when it was time to knock on the doors,
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ู„ูƒู† ุนู†ุฏู…ุง ุญุงู† ุงู„ูˆู‚ุช ู„ุทุฑู‚ ุงู„ุฃุจูˆุงุจุŒ
06:59
he stood forward, and we stepped back.
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ู…ุถู‰ ู‚ุฏู…ู‹ุง ูˆุชุฑุงุฌุนู†ุง ุฅู„ู‰ ุงู„ุฎู„ู.
07:03
And that summer he raised the money.
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ูˆุฌู…ุน ุงู„ุฃู…ูˆุงู„ ููŠ ุฐู„ูƒ ุงู„ุตูŠู.
07:05
He earned the money to purchase his airline ticket.
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ูˆูƒุณุจ ุงู„ุฃู…ูˆุงู„ ู„ุดุฑุงุก ุชุฐูƒุฑุชู‡ ู„ู„ุทูŠุฑุงู†.
07:08
And he made a little bit more.
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ูˆูƒุณุจ ุฃูƒุซุฑ ู…ู† ุฐู„ูƒ ู‚ู„ูŠู„ู‹ุง.
07:11
And he bought me a gift.
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ูˆุงุดุชุฑู‰ ู‡ุฏูŠุฉ ู„ูŠ.
07:13
But, you know, I'm like,
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ู„ูƒู†ุŒ ูƒู…ุง ุชุนู„ู…ูˆู†ุŒ ุฃู†ุง ู…ุซู„ุŒ
07:14
I don't know really who he was thinking about
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ู„ุง ุฃุนู„ู… ุญู‚ู‹ุง ุจู…ุงุฐุง ูƒุงู† ูŠููƒุฑ ุญูˆู„ู‡
07:17
when he bought that gift.
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ุนู†ุฏู…ุง ุงุดุชุฑู‰ ุชู„ูƒ ุงู„ู‡ุฏูŠุฉ.
07:19
If it was, like, me or him, I don't know.
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ุฅู† ูƒุงู†ุชุŒ ู…ุซู„ุŒ ุฃู†ุง ุฃูˆ ู‡ูˆุŒ ู„ุง ุฃุนุฑู.
07:21
(Laughter)
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(ุถุญูƒ)
07:23
But think about the confidence
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ู„ูƒู† ููƒุฑูˆุง ููŠ ุงู„ุซู‚ุฉ
07:26
that this put in him at nine years old.
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ุงู„ุชูŠ ู…ู†ุญุชู‡ ูˆู‡ูˆ ููŠ ุงู„ุชุงุณุนุฉ ู…ู† ุนู…ุฑู‡.
07:29
That he can have a big goal,
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ุฃู†ู‡ ูŠู…ูƒู† ุฃู† ูŠูƒูˆู† ู„ุฏูŠู‡ ู‡ุฏู ูƒุจูŠุฑุŒ
07:31
and that he could persevere to achieve that goal.
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ูˆุฃู†ู‡ ูŠุณุชุทูŠุน ุงู„ู…ุซุงุจุฑุฉ ู„ุชุญู‚ูŠู‚ ุฐู„ูƒ ุงู„ู‡ุฏู.
07:36
Amazing.
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ู…ุฐู‡ู„!
07:38
But when I share that story with other parents,
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ู„ูƒู† ุนู†ุฏู…ุง ุฃุดุงุฑูƒ ุชู„ูƒ ุงู„ู‚ุตุฉ ู…ุน ุฃูˆู„ูŠุงุก ุงู„ุฃู…ูˆุฑ ุงู„ุขุฎุฑูŠู†ุŒ
07:42
many of them shake their head and say, "You know what?
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ูŠู‡ุฒ ุงู„ุนุฏูŠุฏ ู…ู†ู‡ู… ุฑุคูˆุณู‡ู… ูˆูŠู‚ูˆู„ูˆู†: โ€œู‡ู„ ุชุนุฑููŠู†ุŸ
07:45
My kid could never do that
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ู„ุง ูŠู…ูƒู† ู„ุทูู„ูŠ ุฃู† ูŠู‚ูˆู… ุจุฐู„ูƒ
07:46
because my kids don't have the entrepreneurial gene."
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ู„ุฃู† ุฃุทูุงู„ูŠ ู„ู… ูŠุฑุซูˆุง ุฐู„ูƒ ุงู„ุฌูŠู† ุงู„ุฑูŠุงุฏูŠ.โ€
07:52
Well, being entrepreneurial is not genetic.
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ุญุณู†ู‹ุงุŒ ู„ูŠูƒูˆู† ุงู„ู…ุฑุก ุฑุงุฆุฏ ุฃุนู…ุงู„ ู„ูŠุณ ูˆุฑุงุซูŠู‹ุง.
07:57
It is a set of behaviors
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ุฅู†ู‡ ู…ุฌู…ูˆุนุฉ ู…ู† ุงู„ุชุตุฑูุงุช
08:00
that can be learned when given the opportunity.
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ุงู„ุชูŠ ูŠู…ูƒู† ุชุนู„ู…ู‡ุง ุนู†ุฏู…ุง ุชูุชุงุญ ุงู„ูุฑุตุฉ.
08:05
Entrepreneurs are not born.
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ู„ุง ูŠูˆู„ุฏ ุฃุตุญุงุจ ุงู„ุฃุนู…ุงู„.
08:07
The skills and the experiences that cause a person to be entrepreneurial
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ุงู„ู…ู‡ุงุฑุงุช ูˆุงู„ุฎุจุฑุงุช ู‡ูŠ ุงู„ุชูŠ ุชุฌุนู„ ุงู„ุดุฎุต ู„ูŠูƒูˆู† ุฑุงุฆุฏ ุฃุนู…ุงู„
08:13
can be taught, and they can be nurtured.
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ูŠู…ูƒู† ุชุนู„ูŠู…ู‡ุง ูˆู…ู† ุซู… ุตู‚ู„ู‡ุง.
08:18
Now, raising entrepreneurial kids
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ุงู„ุขู†ุŒ ุชุฑุจูŠุฉ ุฃุทูุงู„ ุฑูŠุงุฏูŠูŠู† ุฃุนู…ุงู„
08:21
is more than just teaching them how to start a business
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ู‡ูˆ ุฃูƒุซุฑ ุจูƒุซูŠุฑ ู…ู† ู…ุฌุฑุฏ ุชุนู„ูŠู…ู‡ู… ูƒูŠููŠุฉ ุงู„ุจุฏุก ุจุนู…ู„ ุชุฌุงุฑูŠ
08:24
so they can earn money.
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ุญุชู‰ ูŠุชู…ูƒู†ูˆุง ู…ู† ูƒุณุจ ุงู„ุฃู…ูˆุงู„.
08:26
Raising entrepreneurial kids is really about preparing kids for life.
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ุชุฑุจูŠุฉ ุฃุทูุงู„ ุฑูŠุงุฏูŠูŠ ุนู…ู„ ู‡ูˆ ููŠ ุงู„ุญู‚ูŠู‚ุฉ ุญูˆู„ ุชุญุถูŠุฑ ุงู„ุฃุทูุงู„ ู„ู„ุญูŠุงุฉ.
08:34
Equipping them with everything that they need, with the confidence,
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ุชุฌู‡ูŠุฒู‡ู… ุจูƒู„ ุดูŠุก ุงู„ุฐูŠ ูŠุญุชุงุฌูˆู† ุฅู„ูŠู‡ ุจุซู‚ุฉุŒ
08:38
with the ability to speak up,
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ู…ุน ุงู„ู‚ุฏุฑุฉ ุนู„ู‰ ุงู„ุชุญุฏุซุŒ
08:40
to persevere, to have tenacity,
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ูˆุงู„ู…ุซุงุจุฑุฉ ูˆุงู„ุฅุตุฑุงุฑุŒ
08:43
to bounce back from fear and rejection.
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ูˆุงู„ุชุนุงููŠ ู…ู† ุงู„ุฎูˆู ูˆุงู„ุฑูุถ.
08:47
Those are the things that are required in our world to live to one's potential.
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ู‡ุฐู‡ ู‡ูŠ ุงู„ุฃุดูŠุงุก ุงู„ู„ุงุฒู…ุฉ ููŠ ุนุงู„ู…ู†ุง ู„ู„ุนูŠุด ุจู…ูˆุฌุจ ุฅู…ูƒุงู†ูŠุงุช ุงู„ุดุฎุต.
08:55
So in order for me to learn as much as I could
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ู„ุฐู„ูƒุŒ ูˆู„ูƒูŠ ุฃุชุนู„ู… ุจู‚ุฏุฑ ู…ุง ุฃุณุชุทูŠุน
08:59
about raising entrepreneurial kids,
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ุญูˆู„ ุชุฑุจูŠุฉ ุฃุทูุงู„ ุฑูŠุงุฏูŠูŠ ุฃุนู…ุงู„ุŒ
09:02
I interviewed dozens of parents and kids to find out what they were doing.
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ุฃุฌุฑูŠุชู ู…ู‚ุงุจู„ุงุช ู…ุน ุงู„ุนุดุฑุงุช ู…ู† ุฃูˆู„ูŠุงุก ุงู„ุฃู…ูˆุฑ ูˆุงู„ุฃุทูุงู„ ู„ู…ุนุฑูุฉ ู…ุง ุงู„ุฐูŠ ู‚ุงู…ูˆุง ุจู‡.
09:08
And so I want to share with you what I learned,
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ูˆู„ุฐู„ูƒ ุฃุฑุบุจ ููŠ ู…ุดุงุฑูƒุฉ ู…ุง ุชุนู„ู…ุชู‡ ู…ุนูƒู…ุŒ
09:11
and I want to share with you five strategies
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ูˆุฃุฑุบุจ ููŠ ู…ุดุงุฑูƒุชูƒู… ุฎู…ุณ ุฎุทุท ุงุณุชุฑุงุชูŠุฌูŠุฉ
09:14
that I'm actually doing with my children
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ุงู„ุชูŠ ุฃู‚ูˆู… ุจู‡ุง ููŠ ุงู„ูˆุงู‚ุน ู…ุน ุฃุทูุงู„ูŠ
09:17
and that honestly,
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ูˆู‡ุฐุง ุจุตุฑุงุญุฉุŒ
09:18
I think every parent should be doing with their children
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ุฃุนุชู‚ุฏ ุฃู†ู‡ ูŠุชุนูŠู† ุนู„ู‰ ูƒู„ ูˆู„ูŠ ุฃู…ุฑ ุงู„ู‚ูŠุงู… ุจุฐู„ูƒ ู…ุน ุฃุทูุงู„ู‡
09:22
to disrupt our conventional way of parenting.
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ู„ุชุนุทูŠู„ ุทุฑูŠู‚ุชู†ุง ุงู„ุชู‚ู„ูŠุฏูŠุฉ ููŠ ุงู„ุฃุจูˆุฉ ูˆุงู„ุฃู…ูˆู…ุฉ.
09:28
So, number one,
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ู„ุฐู„ูƒุŒ ุฃูˆู„ู‹ุงุŒ
09:30
don't give them an allowance.
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ู„ุง ุชุนุทูˆู‡ู… ู…ุตุฑูˆูู‹ุง.
09:32
(Applause)
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(ุชุตููŠู‚)
09:33
That's what I'm talking about, too, yes.
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ู‡ุฐุง ู…ุง ุฃุชุญุฏุซ ุญูˆู„ู‡ ุฃูŠุถู‹ุงุŒ ู†ุนู….
09:36
Don't give them an allowance.
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ู„ุง ุชุนุทูˆู‡ู… ู…ุตุฑูˆูู‹ุง.
09:38
Instead, challenge them to start a business
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ุจุฏู„ู‹ุง ุนู† ุฐู„ูƒุŒ ุชุญุฏูˆู‡ู… ู„ู„ุจุฏุก ููŠ ุนู…ู„ ุชุฌุงุฑูŠ
09:42
to earn their spending money.
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ู„ูƒุณุจ ุฃู…ูˆุงู„ ู†ูู‚ุงุชู‡ู….
09:43
So this is my boys, and this is one of the ways
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ู‡ูˆู„ุงุก ู‡ู… ุฃูˆู„ุงุฏูŠุŒ ูˆู‡ุฐู‡ ู‡ูŠ ุฅุญุฏู‰ ุงู„ุทุฑู‚
09:46
that they've earned money,
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ุงู„ุชูŠ ูƒุณุจูˆุง ููŠู‡ุง ุฃู…ูˆุงู„ู‹ุงุŒ
09:48
their own spending money, is they make bracelets.
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ุฃู…ูˆุงู„ู‡ู… ู„ู„ุฅู†ูุงู‚ ู‡ูŠ ู‚ูŠุงู…ู‡ู… ุจุตู†ุน ุงู„ุฃุณุงูˆุฑ.
09:51
And there is no better lesson around the value of a dollar
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ูˆู„ุง ูŠูˆุฌุฏ ู‡ู†ุงูƒ ุฏุฑุณ ุฃูุถู„ ุนู† ู‚ูŠู…ุฉ ุงู„ุฏูˆู„ุงุฑ
09:56
than when you have to work hard to earn each one of them.
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ุฃูƒุซุฑ ู…ู† ุนู†ุฏู…ุง ูŠุชูˆุฌุจ ุนู„ูŠูƒู… ุงู„ุนู…ู„ ุจุฌุฏ ู„ูƒุณุจ ูƒู„ ุฏูˆู„ุงุฑ ู…ู†ู‡ุง.
10:01
And through this process,
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ูˆุฎู„ุงู„ ู‡ุฐู‡ ุงู„ุนู…ู„ูŠุฉุŒ
10:03
our kids will learn confidence, financial literacy,
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ุณูŠุชุนู„ู… ุฃุทูุงู„ู†ุง ุงู„ุซู‚ุฉ ูˆูƒูŠููŠุฉ ุชุนู„ู‘ู… ูƒุณุจ ุงู„ู…ุงู„ุŒ
10:06
public speaking, how to convince people,
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ูˆุงู„ุชุญุฏุซ ุฃู…ุงู… ุงู„ุฌู…ู‡ูˆุฑ ูˆูƒูŠููŠุฉ ุฅู‚ู†ุงุน ุงู„ู†ุงุณุŒ
10:09
all skills that are valuable for the world that we live in.
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ุฌู…ูŠุน ุงู„ู…ู‡ุงุฑุงุช ุงู„ู…ููŠุฏุฉ ู„ู„ุนุงู„ู… ุงู„ุฐูŠ ู†ุนูŠุด ููŠู‡.
10:13
So don't give them an allowance.
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ู„ุฐุง ู„ุง ุชุนุทูˆู‡ู… ู…ุตุฑูˆูู‹ุง.
10:16
The next thing is make them pay for their wants.
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ุงู„ุดูŠุก ุงู„ุขุฎุฑ ู‡ูˆ ุฌุนู„ู‡ู… ูŠุฏูุนูˆู† ุซู…ู† ุงุญุชูŠุงุฌุงุชู‡ู….
10:22
You know, key to entrepreneurship
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ูƒู…ุง ุชุนู„ู…ูˆู†ุŒ ุงู„ุฃุณุงุณ ู„ุฑูŠุงุฏุฉ ุงู„ุฃุนู…ุงู„
10:23
is about personal responsibility and ownership.
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ู‡ูˆ ุงู„ู…ุณุคูˆู„ูŠุฉ ุงู„ุดุฎุตูŠุฉ ูˆุงู„ู…ู„ูƒูŠุฉ.
10:29
And it is amazing how,
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ูˆู…ู† ุงู„ู…ุฏู‡ุด ูƒูŠูุŒ
10:31
when you put the responsibility on someone else
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ุนู†ุฏู…ุง ุชูˆูƒู„ู ุงู„ู…ุณุคูˆู„ูŠุฉ ุฅู„ู‰ ุดุฎุต ุขุฎุฑ
10:33
to buy that thing that they said they really wanted,
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ู„ุดุฑุงุก ุฐู„ูƒ ุงู„ุดูŠุก ุงู„ุฐูŠ ู‚ุงู„ูˆุง ุฃู†ู‡ู… ุฃุฑุงุฏูˆู‡ ุญู‚ู‹ุงุŒ
10:37
kind of shifts a little bit, right?
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ู†ูˆุน ู…ู† ุงู„ุชุญูˆู„ ู‚ู„ูŠู„ู‹ุงุŒ ุฃู„ูŠุณ ูƒุฐู„ูƒุŸ
10:40
It really, really does.
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ุฅู†ู‡ ูŠุนู…ู„ ุญู‚ู‹ุง ูˆูุนู„ู‹ุง.
10:41
It's no different with the kids.
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ู„ุง ูŠุฎุชู„ู ุงู„ุฃู…ุฑ ู…ุน ุงู„ุฃุทูุงู„.
10:44
And so we actually started this quite early with our children.
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ูˆู„ุฐู„ูƒ ุจุฏุฃู†ุง ู‡ุฐุง ููŠ ุงู„ุญู‚ูŠู‚ุฉ ู…ุจูƒุฑู‹ุง ู†ูˆุนู‹ุง ู…ุง ู…ุน ุฃุทูุงู„ู†ุง.
10:47
So when Silas was about four years old,
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ูุนู†ุฏู…ุง ูƒุงู† ุณุงูŠู„ุณ ููŠ ุงู„ุฑุงุจุนุฉ ู…ู† ุนู…ุฑู‡ ุชู‚ุฑูŠุจู‹ุงุŒ
10:50
I created โ€œdaddy dollars.โ€
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ุตู†ุนุชู โ€œุฏูˆู„ุงุฑุงุช ุงู„ุฃุจ.โ€
10:53
(Laughter)
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(ุถุญูƒ)
10:55
And the boys would earn daddy dollars for doing things such as chores,
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ูˆุณูŠูƒุณุจ ุงู„ุฃูˆู„ุงุฏ ุฏูˆู„ุงุฑุงุช ุงู„ุฃุจ ุนู† ู‚ูŠุงู…ู‡ู… ุจุฃู…ูˆุฑ ู…ุซู„ ุงู„ุฃุนู…ุงู„ ุงู„ู…ู†ุฒู„ูŠุฉุŒ
10:59
for exhibiting positive behavior and for also reading books.
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ูˆุนู† ุฅุธู‡ุงุฑู‡ู… ุณู„ูˆูƒู‹ุง ุฅูŠุฌุงุจูŠู‹ุง ูˆุนู† ู‚ุฑุงุกุชู‡ู… ูƒุชุจู‹ุง ุฃูŠุถู‹ุง.
11:05
And Silas actually purchased his first bike
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ูˆุงุดุชุฑู‰ ุณุงูŠู„ุณ ููŠ ุงู„ูˆุงู‚ุน ุฏุฑุงุฌุชู‡ ุงู„ุฃูˆู„ู‰
11:11
from using daddy dollars.
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ู…ู† ุงุณุชุฎุฏุงู… ุฏูˆู„ุงุฑุงุช ุงู„ุฃุจ.
11:13
He had to earn 250 daddy dollars,
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ูƒุงู† ุนู„ูŠู‡ ุฃู† ูŠูƒุณุจ 250 ู…ู† ุฏูˆู„ุงุฑุงุช ุงู„ุฃุจุŒ
11:16
and that allowed him to purchase his first bike.
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ู…ู…ุง ุณู…ุญ ู„ู‡ ุฐู„ูƒ ุดุฑุงุก ุฏุฑุงุฌุชู‡ ุงู„ุฃูˆู„ู‰.
11:19
Now, yeah, you know, these are not real dollars.
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ุงู„ุขู†ุŒ ู†ุนู…ุŒ ูƒู…ุง ุชุนู„ู…ูˆู†ุŒ ู„ูŠุณุช ู‡ุฐู‡ ุฏูˆู„ุงุฑุงุช ุญู‚ูŠู‚ูŠุฉ.
11:23
But to Silas, that experience of working hard to earn that money
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ู„ูƒู† ุจุงู„ู†ุณุจุฉ ุฅู„ู‰ ุณุงูŠู„ุณุŒ ุชู„ูƒ ุงู„ุชุฌุฑุจุฉ ู…ู† ุงู„ุนู…ู„ ุงู„ุฌุงุฏ ู„ูƒุณุจ ุฐู„ูƒ ุงู„ู…ุงู„
11:29
and to buy that bike
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ูˆุดุฑุงุก ุชู„ูƒ ุงู„ุฏุฑุงุฌุฉ
11:30
was a very real experience for him.
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ูƒุงู†ุช ุชุฌุฑุจุฉ ุญู‚ูŠู‚ูŠุฉ ู„ู„ุบุงูŠุฉ ุจุงู„ู†ุณุจุฉ ุฅู„ูŠู‡.
11:34
Also, in 2019, our family decided to take a trip to Tanzania.
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ุฃูŠุถู‹ุงุŒ ููŠ 2019ุŒ ู‚ุฑุฑุช ุฃุณุฑุชู†ุง ุงู„ู‚ูŠุงู… ููŠ ุฑุญู„ุฉ ุฅู„ู‰ ุชู†ุฒุงู†ูŠุง.
11:40
And so, you know, the boys were really excited about it.
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ูˆุจุฐู„ูƒุŒ ูƒู…ุง ุชุนู„ู…ูˆู†ุŒ ูƒุงู† ุงู„ุฃูˆู„ุงุฏ ู…ุชุญู…ุณูŠู† ุฌุฏู‹ุง.
11:44
And I said, "Now, if you want to go to Tanzania --
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ูˆู‚ู„ุช: โ€œุงู„ุขู†ุŒ ุฅุฐุง ูƒู†ุชู… ุชุฑูŠุฏูˆู† ุงู„ุฐู‡ุงุจ ุฅู„ู‰ ุชู†ุฒุงู†ูŠุงุŒ
11:47
your dad and I are going --
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ุฃู†ุง ูˆูˆุงู„ุฏูƒู… ุฐุงู‡ุจุงู†ุŒ
11:48
but if you want to go to Tanzania, you know what you got to do?"
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ู„ูƒู† ุฅู† ูƒู†ุชู… ุชุฑูŠุฏูˆู† ุงู„ุฐู‡ุงุจ ุฅู„ู‰ ุชู†ุฒุงู†ูŠุงุŒ ุฃู†ุชู… ุชุนุฑููˆู† ู…ุง ูŠุชุนูŠู† ุนู„ูŠูƒู… ุงู„ู‚ูŠุงู… ุจู‡ุŸโ€
11:52
What do you think I told them?
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ู…ุงุฐุง ุชุนุชู‚ุฏูˆู† ู‚ู„ุช ู„ู‡ู…ุŸ
11:55
They're going to have to buy their own airline ticket, yes.
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ุณูŠุชุนูŠู† ุนู„ูŠูƒู… ุดุฑุงุก ุชุฐุงูƒุฑ ุงู„ุทูŠุฑุงู† ุจุฃู†ูุณูƒู…ุŒ ู†ุนู….
11:58
Now, the tickets to Tanzania were not cheap.
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ุงู„ุขู†ุŒ ู„ู… ูŠูƒู† ุซู…ู† ุชุฐุงูƒุฑ ุงู„ุทูŠุฑุงู† ุฅู„ู‰ ุชู†ุฒุงู†ูŠุง ุฑุฎูŠุตู‹ุง.
12:01
They were 900 dollars apiece.
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ูƒุงู† ุซู…ู† ุงู„ุชุฐูƒุฑุฉ ุงู„ูˆุงุญุฏุฉ 900 ุฏูˆู„ุงุฑ.
12:03
Yeah.
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ู†ุนู….
12:04
But check this out.
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ู„ูƒู† ุชุญู‚ู‚ูˆุง ู…ู† ุฐู„ูƒ.
12:05
This is what I just loved, was when I told the boys
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ู‡ุฐุง ู‡ูˆ ุงู„ุฐูŠ ุฃุญุจุจุชู‡ ูู‚ุทุŒ ูƒุงู† ุนู†ุฏู…ุง ุฃุฎุจุฑู†ูŠ ุงู„ุฃูˆู„ุงุฏ
12:08
that they were going to have to buy their own ticket,
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ุฃู†ู‡ู… ุณูŠุฐู‡ุจูˆู† ู„ุดุฑุงุก ุชุฐุงูƒุฑู‡ู… ู„ู„ุทูŠุฑุงู†ุŒ
12:11
Silas, remembering back to what he had done
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ุณุงูŠู„ุณุŒ ุชุฐูƒุฑูˆู† ู…ุงุฐุง ูุนู„ ููŠ ุงู„ุณุงุจู‚
12:14
when he was about nine years old,
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ุนู†ุฏู…ุง ูƒุงู† ููŠ ุงู„ุชุงุณุนุฉ ู…ู† ุนู…ุฑู‡ุŒ
12:16
he said to his brothers,
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ู‚ุงู„ ู„ุฃุฎูˆุชู‡:
12:18
"That's easy, don't worry about it.
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โ€œู‡ุฐุง ุดูŠุก ุณู‡ู„ุŒ ู„ุง ุชู‚ู„ู‚ูˆุง ุจุดุฃู†ู‡.
12:20
I'll show you how to do it."
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ุณุฃุฑูŠูƒู… ูƒูŠููŠู‡ ุงู„ู‚ูŠุงู… ุจุฐู„ูƒ.โ€
12:22
(Laughter)
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(ุถุญูƒ)
12:24
Yes.
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ู†ุนู….
12:25
And sure enough,
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ูˆู…ู† ุงู„ู…ุคูƒุฏ ุจู…ุง ููŠู‡ ุงู„ูƒูุงูŠุฉุŒ
12:28
they worked hard over several months, and they did just that.
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ุนู…ู„ูˆุง ุจุฌุฏ ุนู„ู‰ ู…ุฏู‰ ุนุฏุฉ ุดู‡ูˆุฑุŒ ูˆู‚ุงู…ูˆุง ุจุนู…ู„ ุฐู„ูƒ ูู‚ุท ู„ุง ุบูŠุฑ.
12:32
They were able to earn enough money
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ูƒุงู†ูˆุง ู‚ุงุฏุฑูŠู† ุนู„ู‰ ูƒุณุจ ู…ุง ูŠูƒููŠ ู…ู† ุงู„ู…ุงู„
12:35
by selling their bracelets that I showed you earlier,
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ุนู† ุทุฑูŠู‚ ุจูŠุน ุฃุณุงูˆุฑู‡ู… ุงู„ุชูŠ ุนุฑุถุชู‡ุง ู„ูƒู… ุณุงุจู‚ู‹ุงุŒ
12:38
and they all were able to go with their parents to Tanzania.
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ูˆูƒุงู† ุฌู…ูŠุนู‡ู… ู‚ุงุฏุฑูŠู† ุนู„ู‰ ุงู„ุฐู‡ุงุจ ู…ุน ูˆุงู„ุฏูŠู‡ู… ุฅู„ู‰ ุชู†ุฒุงู†ูŠุง.
12:44
So I would encourage you to make your kids pay
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ู„ุฐุง ุฃุฑุบุจ ุฃู† ุฃุดุฌุนูƒู… ุนู„ู‰ ุฌุนู„ ุฃุทูุงู„ูƒู… ูŠุฏูุนูˆู†
12:47
for the things that they say they want.
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ู„ู„ุฃุดูŠุงุก ุงู„ุชูŠ ูŠู‚ูˆู„ูˆู† ุฃู†ู‡ู… ุจุญุงุฌุฉ ุฅู„ูŠู‡ุง.
12:50
The next is to reduce their prosperity.
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ุงู„ุดูŠุก ุงู„ุชุงู„ูŠ ู‡ูˆ ุงู„ุชู‚ู„ูŠู„ ู…ู† ุฑูุงู‡ูŠุชู‡ู….
12:54
Now let's admit it,
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ุฏุนูˆู†ุง ุงู„ุขู† ุฃู† ู†ุนุชุฑู ุจุฐู„ูƒุŒ
12:55
kids today have a lot of stuff, right?
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ู„ุฏู‰ ุฃุทูุงู„ ุงู„ูŠูˆู… ุงู„ูƒุซูŠุฑ ู…ู† ุงู„ุฃุดูŠุงุกุŒ ุฃู„ูŠุณ ูƒุฐู„ูƒุŸ
13:01
And when you think about it,
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ูˆุนู†ุฏู…ุง ุชููƒุฑูˆู† ุจุงู„ุฃู…ุฑุŒ
13:04
I understand this need and this desire as parents
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ุฃุชูู‡ู… ู‡ุฐู‡ ุงู„ุญุงุฌุฉ ูˆู‡ุฐู‡ ุงู„ุฑุบุจุฉ ูƒุฃูˆู„ูŠุงุก ุฃู…ูˆุฑ
13:07
to want to give our kids experiences and things
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ุฃู†ู†ุง ู†ุฑูŠุฏ ู…ู†ุญ ุฃุทูุงู„ู†ุง ุงู„ุชุฌุงุฑุจ ูˆุงู„ุฃุดูŠุงุก
13:10
that maybe we did not have when we were children.
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ุงู„ุชูŠ ุฑุจู…ุง ู„ู… ุชูƒู† ู„ุฏูŠู†ุง ุนู†ุฏู…ุง ูƒู†ุง ุฃุทูุงู„ู‹ุง.
13:14
But when we choose a parenting style of overindulging our children
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ู„ูƒู† ุนู†ุฏู…ุง ู†ุฎุชุงุฑ ุฃุณู„ูˆุจ ุงู„ุฃุจูˆุฉ ูˆุงู„ุฃู…ูˆู…ุฉ ููŠ ุชุฏู„ูŠู„ ุฃุทูุงู„ู†ุง ุจุฅูุฑุงุท
13:20
by providing them with too much, too soon, for too long,
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ุนู† ุทุฑูŠู‚ ุชูˆููŠุฑ ุงู„ูƒุซูŠุฑ ู„ู‡ู…ุŒ ูˆููŠ ูˆู‚ุชู ู…ุจูƒุฑ ู„ู„ุบุงูŠุฉ ูˆู„ูุชุฑุงุช ุทูˆูŠู„ุฉ ุฌุฏู‹ุงุŒ
13:26
with no effort on their part,
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ุฏูˆู† ุจุฐู„ ุฃูŠ ุฌู‡ุฏ ู…ู† ุฌุงู†ุจู‡ู…ุŒ
13:29
what we do is actually raise young people who are self-centered and entitled.
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ุงู„ุฐูŠ ู†ู‚ูˆู… ุจู‡ ู‡ูˆ ููŠ ุงู„ูˆุงู‚ุน ุชุฑุจูŠุฉ ุงู„ุตุบุงุฑ ุงู„ุฐูŠู† ู‡ู… ุฃู†ุงู†ูŠูˆู† ูˆู…ุคู‡ู„ูˆู†.
13:37
And so when we, instead ...
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ูˆู„ุฐู„ูƒ ุนู†ุฏู…ุงุŒ ุจุฏู„ู‹ุง ู…ู† ุฐู„ูƒุŒ
13:40
In the [1800s],
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ููŠ ุณู†ูˆุงุช [1800s]
13:41
it's interesting because Frederick Douglass made a statement
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ุฅู†ู‡ ู…ุซูŠุฑ ู„ู„ุงู‡ุชู…ุงู… ู„ุฃู† ูุฑูŠุฏุฑูŠูƒ ุฏูˆุบู„ุงุณ ุฃู„ู‚ู‰ ุจุจูŠุงู†
13:46
that I thought was profound even in the [1800s],
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ุงู„ุฐูŠ ุงุนุชู‚ุฏุช ุฃู†ู‡ ูƒุงู† ุนู…ูŠู‚ู‹ุง ุญุชู‰ ููŠ ุณู†ูˆุงุช [1800s]ุŒ
13:48
because we're dealing with it today.
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ู„ุฃู†ู†ุง ู†ุชุนุงู…ู„ ู…ุนู‡ุง ุงู„ูŠูˆู…ุŒ
13:50
And he said,
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ูˆู‚ุงู„:
13:51
"If you wish to make your son helpless,
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โ€œุฅู† ูƒู†ุชู… ุชุฑุบุจูˆู† ููŠ ุฌุนู„ ุฃุจู†ุงุฆูƒู… ู‚ู„ูŠู„ูŠ ุงู„ุญูŠู„ุฉุŒ
13:54
you need not cripple him with a bullet or a bludgeon,
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ุฃู†ุชู… ู„ุง ุชุญุชุงุฌูˆู† ุฅู„ู‰ ุดู„ู‘ู‡ู… ุจุฑุตุงุตุฉ ุฃูˆ ู‡ุฑุงูˆุฉุŒ
13:58
but simply place him beyond the reach of necessity
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ู„ูƒู† ุจุจุณุงุทู‡ ุถุนูˆู‡ู… ุจุนูŠุฏู‹ุง ุนู† ู…ุชู†ุงูˆู„ ุงู„ุถุฑูˆุฑูŠุงุช
14:03
and surround him with luxury and ease."
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ูˆุฃุญูŠุทูˆู‡ู… ุจุงู„ุฑูุงู‡ูŠุฉ ูˆุงู„ุฑุงุญุฉ.โ€
14:08
Still true today.
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ู„ุง ูŠุฒุงู„ ุตุญูŠุญู‹ุง ุงู„ูŠูˆู….
14:10
Steve Jobs in a graduation speech,
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ุณุชูŠู ุฌูˆุจุฒ ููŠ ุฎุทุงุจ ุงู„ุชุฎุฑุฌุŒ
14:15
told the graduates to stay hungry.
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ุฃุฎุจุฑ ุงู„ุฎุฑูŠุฌูŠู† ุงู„ุจู‚ุงุก ุฌูˆุนู‰.
14:19
And what we love about entrepreneurs is their hustle.
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ูˆู…ุง ู†ุญุจู‡ ุจุดุฃู† ุฑูˆุงุฏ ุงู„ุนู…ู„ ู‡ูˆ ู†ุดุงุทู‡ู….
14:22
And oftentimes that hustle is rooted in a hunger for something.
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ูˆุบุงู„ุจู‹ุง ู…ุง ูŠูƒูˆู† ุฐู„ูƒ ุงู„ู†ุดุงุท ู…ุชุฃุตู„ู‹ุง ููŠ ุงู„ุชูˆู‚ ู„ุนู…ู„ ุดูŠุก ู…ุง.
14:28
But if our kids never want for anything,
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ู„ูƒู† ุฅุฐุง ู„ู… ูŠุฑุบุจ ุฃุทูุงู„ู†ุง ู…ุทู„ู‚ู‹ุง ุฃูŠ ุดูŠุกุŒ
14:32
what's going to motivate them to take action?
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ูู…ุง ุงู„ุฐูŠ ุณูŠุญูุฒู‡ู… ู„ู„ู‚ูŠุงู… ุจุนู…ู„ ู…ุงุŸ
14:36
So I encourage you to reduce your kids' prosperity.
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ู„ู‡ุฐุง ุฃุดุฌุนูƒู… ุนู„ู‰ ุงู„ุชู‚ู„ูŠู„ ู…ู† ุฑูุงู‡ูŠุฉ ุฃุทูุงู„ูƒู….
14:40
Next is to let them be delight-directed.
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ุงู„ุชุงู„ูŠ ู‡ูˆ ุฅุนุทุงุคู‡ู… ุงู„ูุฑุตุฉ ู„ู„ู…ุชุนุฉ ุงู„ู…ูˆุฌู‡ุฉ.
14:45
Entrepreneurs are lifelong learners.
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ูŠุฑุบุจ ุฑูˆุงุฏ ุงู„ุนู…ู„ ููŠ ุงู„ุชุนู„ู‘ู… ู…ุฏู‰ ุงู„ุญูŠุงุฉ.
14:48
They learn to do, not simply to know.
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ูŠุชุนู„ู…ูˆู† ู„ู„ุนู…ู„ ูˆู„ูŠุณ ุงู„ู…ุนุฑูุฉ ูู‚ุท.
14:54
And when we encourage our children to seek out learning
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ูˆุนู†ุฏู…ุง ู†ุดุฌุน ุฃุทูุงู„ู†ุง ู„ู„ุณุนูŠ ูˆุฑุงุก ุชุนู„ู‘ู…
14:57
for the things that they are most interested in,
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ุฃุดูŠุงุก ุชุซูŠุฑ ุงู‡ุชู…ุงู…ุงุชู‡ู… ูƒุซูŠุฑู‹ุงุŒ
15:00
they become learners who seek to learn to do
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ูŠุตุจุญูˆู† ู…ุชุนู„ู…ูŠู† ูŠุณุนูˆู† ุฅู„ู‰ ุงู„ุชุนู„ู… ู„ู„ู‚ูŠุงู… ุจุฐู„ูƒ
15:04
because they're teaching themselves
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ู„ุฃู†ู‡ู… ูŠุนู„ู…ูˆู† ุฃู†ูุณู‡ู…
15:05
as opposed to just simply pouring in information,
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ู„ูŠุณ ูู‚ุท ุชุฏูู‚ ุงู„ู…ุนู„ูˆู…ุงุชุŒ
15:08
which is sometimes what we get in our education system.
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ุงู„ุชูŠ ููŠ ูƒุซูŠุฑ ู…ู† ุงู„ุฃุญูŠุงู† ู†ุญุตู„ ุนู„ูŠู‡ุง ููŠ ู†ุธุงู…ู†ุง ุงู„ุชุนู„ูŠู…ูŠ.
15:12
And so this is my my son Isaiah.
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ูˆู‡ุฐุง ู‡ูˆ ุงุจู†ูŠ ุฃูŠุฒูŠุง.
15:16
His delight is drawing.
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ุณุนุงุฏุชู‡ ููŠ ุงู„ุฑุณู….
15:18
And so he spends hours drawing, and he seeks out classes
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ู„ุฐู„ูƒ ูู‡ูˆ ูŠู‚ุถูŠ ุณุงุนุงุช ูŠุฑุณู… ูˆูŠุจุญุซ ุนู† ุงู„ุฏุฑูˆุณ
15:21
[that] teach him how to draw.
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[ุงู„ุชูŠ] ุชุนู„ู…ู‡ ูƒูŠููŠุฉ ุงู„ุฑุณู….
15:23
And he was recently awarded
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ูˆุญุงุฒ ู…ุคุฎุฑู‹ุง ุนู„ู‰ ุฌุงุฆุฒุฉ
15:27
an award by the Smithsonian Museum of African Art for creating --
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ุฌุงุฆุฒุฉ ุนู† ุทุฑูŠู‚ ู…ุชุญู ุณู…ูŠุซุณูˆู†ูŠุงู† ู„ู„ูู† ุงู„ุฃูุฑูŠู‚ูŠ ู„ุฅู†ุชุงุฌุŒ
15:32
(Applause)
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(ุชุตููŠู‚)
15:33
this superhero,
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ู‡ุฐุง ุงู„ุจุทู„ ุงู„ุฎุงุฑู‚ุŒ
15:35
from looking at a piece of art in the museum.
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ู…ู† ุงู„ู†ุธุฑ ุฅู„ู‰ ุงู„ู‚ุทุนุฉ ุงู„ูู†ูŠุฉ ููŠ ุงู„ู…ุชุญู.
15:38
And he designed this.
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ูˆุตู…ู… ู‡ุฐู‡.
15:40
But now Isaiah is designing logos for people.
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ู„ูƒู† ุฃูŠุฒูŠุง ูŠุตู…ู… ุงู„ุขู† ุดุนุงุฑุงุช ู„ู„ู†ุงุณ.
15:44
Yeah, yeah, I love it.
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ู†ุนู…ุŒ ู†ุนู…ุŒ ุฃู†ุง ุฃุญุจู‡ุง.
15:47
So give them room and space to follow their delights.
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ู„ุฐู„ูƒ ุงู…ู†ุญูˆู‡ู… ุงู„ู…ุชุณุน ูˆุงู„ู…ูƒุงู† ู„ู„ุณุนู‰ ูˆุฑุงุก ู…ุง ูŠุณุนุฏู‡ู….
15:53
And then lastly,
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ูˆู…ู† ุซู… ุฃุฎูŠุฑู‹ุงุŒ
15:54
let them solve their own problems.
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ุงุณู…ุญูˆุง ู„ู‡ู… ุจุญู„ ู…ุดุงูƒู„ู‡ู….
15:57
Entrepreneurs are problem solvers,
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ุฑูˆุงุฏ ุงู„ุฃุนู…ุงู„ ุญู„ู‘ุงู„ูˆ ุงู„ู…ุดูƒู„ุงุชุŒ
16:00
and as parents it is our natural instinct
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ูˆูƒุฃูˆู„ูŠุงุก ุฃู…ูˆุฑุŒ ุฅู†ู‡ุง ุบุฑูŠุฒุชู†ุง ุงู„ุทุจูŠุนูŠุฉ
16:03
to want to step in and help our kids solve their problems.
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ู„ุฃู† ู†ุฑุบุจ ููŠ ุงู„ุชุฏุฎู„ ู„ู…ุณุงุนุฏุฉ ุฃุทูุงู„ู†ุง ููŠ ุญู„ ู…ุดุงูƒู„ู‡ู….
16:06
But when we do that all of the time,
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ู„ูƒู† ุนู†ุฏู…ุง ู†ู‚ูˆู… ุจุนู…ู„ ุฐู„ูƒ ุทูˆุงู„ ุงู„ูˆู‚ุชุŒ
16:10
we kind of squelch the potential that they have
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ูุฅู†ู†ุง ู†ุฎู…ุฏู ู†ูˆุนู‹ุง ู…ุง ุงู„ุฅู…ูƒุงู†ูŠุฉ ุงู„ุชูŠ ู„ุฏูŠู‡ู…
16:13
to discover new things about themselves
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ู„ุงูƒุชุดุงู ุฃุดูŠุงุก ุฌุฏูŠุฏุฉ ุนู† ุฃู†ูุณู‡ู…
16:15
new capabilities that they might have.
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ูˆู‚ุฏุฑุงุช ุฌุฏูŠุฏุฉ ุงู„ุชูŠ ู‚ุฏ ูŠุชู…ุชุนูˆู† ุจู‡ุง.
16:18
It squelches their ability to go out
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ุฅู†ู‡ุง ุชุฎู…ุฏ ู‚ุฏุฑุชู‡ู… ู„ู„ุฎุฑูˆุฌ
16:20
and find the answers for themselves.
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ูˆุงู„ุนุซูˆุฑ ุนู„ู‰ ุฃุฌูˆุจุฉ ู„ุฃู†ูุณู‡ู….
16:25
So I want you to think about those five things
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ู„ุฐู„ูƒ ุฃุฑูŠุฏ ู…ู†ูƒู… ุงู„ุชููƒูŠุฑ ููŠ ุชู„ูƒ ุงู„ุฃุดูŠุงุก ุงู„ุฎู…ุณุฉ
16:28
as you begin to raise up young people.
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ุนู†ุฏู…ุง ุชุจุฏุฃูˆู† ููŠ ุชุฑุจูŠุฉ ุงู„ุดุจุงุจ ุงู„ุตุบุงุฑ.
16:33
And yeah, you know what?
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ูˆู†ุนู…ุŒ ู‡ู„ ุชุนู„ู…ูˆู† ู…ุงุฐุงุŸ
16:35
It's very likely that my boys may not choose business ownership
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ู…ู† ุงู„ู…ุฑุฌุญ ูƒุซูŠุฑู‹ุง ุฃู† ุฃูˆู„ุงุฏูŠ ู‚ุฏ ู„ุง ูŠุฎุชุงุฑูˆู† ู…ู„ูƒูŠุฉ ุงู„ุนู…ู„ ุงู„ุชุฌุงุฑูŠ
16:39
when they grow up.
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ุนู†ุฏู…ุง ูŠูƒุจุฑูˆู†.
16:41
And thatโ€™s OK.
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ูˆู„ุง ุจุฃุณ ููŠ ู‡ุฐุง.
16:43
Because whether a child chooses to build a company
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ู„ุฃู†ู‡ ู…ุง ุฅุฐุง ูƒุงู† ุงู„ุทูู„ ูŠุฎุชุงุฑ ุชุฃุณูŠุณ ุดุฑูƒุฉ
16:47
or become an employee,
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ุฃูˆ ุฃู† ูŠุตุจุญ ู…ูˆุธูู‹ุงุŒ
16:49
it doesn't matter,
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ู„ุง ูŠู‡ู… ุงู„ุฃู…ุฑุŒ
16:50
because every kid needs to learn how to think like an entrepreneur.
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ู„ุฃู† ูƒู„ ุทูู„ ูŠุญุชุงุฌ ุฅู„ู‰ ุชุนู„ู‘ู… ูƒูŠู ูŠููƒุฑ ูƒุฑุงุฆุฏ ุนู…ู„.
16:57
And the sooner we do this as parents,
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ูˆูƒู„ู…ุง ู‚ู…ู†ุง ุจุฐู„ูƒ ููŠ ูˆู‚ุชู ู…ุจูƒุฑ ูƒุฃูˆู„ูŠุงุก ุฃู…ูˆุฑุŒ
16:59
create an environment at home where they have the opportunity
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ููŠ ุฎู„ู‚ ุจูŠุฆุฉ ู…ู†ุฒู„ูŠุฉ ุญูŠุซ ุชุชุงุญ ู„ู‡ู… ุงู„ูุฑุตุฉ
17:04
and multiple occasions to challenge their beliefs
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ูˆู…ู†ุงุณุจุงุช ู…ุชุนุฏุฏุฉ ู„ุชุญุฏูŠ ู‚ู†ุงุนุงุชู‡ู…
17:07
about what's possible within them,
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ุญูˆู„ ุฅู…ูƒุงู†ูŠุงุชู‡ู… ุงู„ุฏุงุฎู„ูŠุฉุŒ
17:11
to step outside of their comfort zone,
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ู„ู„ุฎุฑูˆุฏ ุจุนูŠุฏู‹ุง ุนู† ู…ู†ุทู‚ุชู‡ู… ุงู„ู…ุฑูŠุญุฉุŒ
17:13
to take risks,
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ูˆู„ุชุญู…ู„ ุงู„ู…ุฎุงุทุฑุŒ
17:14
to learn from failure, to bounce back from rejection,
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ูˆุงู„ุชุนู„ู… ู…ู† ุงู„ูุดู„ ูˆุงู„ุชุนุงููŠ ู…ู† ุงู„ุฑูุถุŒ
17:18
then the sooner we'll put them on the path
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ูƒู„ู…ุง ุฃุณุฑุนู†ุง ููŠ ูˆุถุนู‡ู… ููŠ ุงู„ู…ุณุงุฑ
17:21
of living out their potential
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ู„ู„ุนูŠุด ุฎุงุฑุฌ ุฅู…ูƒุงู†ูŠุงุชู‡ู…
17:23
to lead very fulfilling and successful lives.
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ู„ู‚ูŠุงุฏุฉ ุญูŠุงุชู‡ู… ุงู„ู…ุฑุถูŠุฉ ูˆุงู„ู†ุงุฌุญุฉ ุฌุฏู‹ุง.
17:27
Thank you.
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ุดูƒุฑู‹ุง ู„ูƒู…!
17:28
(Applause)
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ุญูˆู„ ู‡ุฐุง ุงู„ู…ูˆู‚ุน

ุณูŠู‚ุฏู… ู„ูƒ ู‡ุฐุง ุงู„ู…ูˆู‚ุน ู…ู‚ุงุทุน ููŠุฏูŠูˆ YouTube ุงู„ู…ููŠุฏุฉ ู„ุชุนู„ู… ุงู„ู„ุบุฉ ุงู„ุฅู†ุฌู„ูŠุฒูŠุฉ. ุณุชุฑู‰ ุฏุฑูˆุณ ุงู„ู„ุบุฉ ุงู„ุฅู†ุฌู„ูŠุฒูŠุฉ ุงู„ุชูŠ ูŠุชู… ุชุฏุฑูŠุณู‡ุง ู…ู† ู‚ุจู„ ู…ุฏุฑุณูŠู† ู…ู† ุงู„ุฏุฑุฌุฉ ุงู„ุฃูˆู„ู‰ ู…ู† ุฌู…ูŠุน ุฃู†ุญุงุก ุงู„ุนุงู„ู…. ุงู†ู‚ุฑ ู†ู‚ุฑู‹ุง ู…ุฒุฏูˆุฌู‹ุง ููˆู‚ ุงู„ุชุฑุฌู…ุฉ ุงู„ุฅู†ุฌู„ูŠุฒูŠุฉ ุงู„ู…ุนุฑูˆุถุฉ ุนู„ู‰ ูƒู„ ุตูุญุฉ ููŠุฏูŠูˆ ู„ุชุดุบูŠู„ ุงู„ููŠุฏูŠูˆ ู…ู† ู‡ู†ุงูƒ. ูŠุชู… ุชู…ุฑูŠุฑ ุงู„ุชุฑุฌู…ุงุช ุจุงู„ุชุฒุงู…ู† ู…ุน ุชุดุบูŠู„ ุงู„ููŠุฏูŠูˆ. ุฅุฐุง ูƒุงู† ู„ุฏูŠูƒ ุฃูŠ ุชุนู„ูŠู‚ุงุช ุฃูˆ ุทู„ุจุงุช ุŒ ูŠุฑุฌู‰ ุงู„ุงุชุตุงู„ ุจู†ุง ุจุงุณุชุฎุฏุงู… ู†ู…ูˆุฐุฌ ุงู„ุงุชุตุงู„ ู‡ุฐุง.

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