How to learn English if you are shy

害羞的人怎么开口说好英语

Hi there.

My name is Emma, and in today's video I am going to help you become a better speaker,

大家好！

我的名字是Emma，今天的视频我将帮助大家如何更好的将英语说出来，

especially if you are shy.

特别是如果你性格很害羞。

Okay? So, a lot of people when they learn new languages, they're very embarrassed and they're too shy

如何？所以，很多人们他们学习新的语言他们会很尬尴，他们太害羞

to speak.

开口说出来。

This video will help you with good tips and strategies on how to become more confident

这个视频将提供技巧和策略让你怎么更加自信的

in your speaking.

开口说英语。

So let's get started.

让我们开始吧。

Okay, so the first thing I like to tell shy people, so people who are afraid to speak,

首先，第一件事我希望告诉那些害羞的，不敢开口说出英语的人的是，

is: You need to find your strengths.

你需要找到你的长处（或者是侧重点）

You need to ask yourself: "What am I good at?"

你需要自问：“我最擅长做什么？”

Because a lot of the times, shy people, they think:

因为很多时候，害羞的人们他们会想：

"Oh my goodness, I'm not good at speaking, I'm terrible at English,

“我的上帝，我不是很擅长口语，我口语很糟，”

I'll never learn this language",

我永远学不会这个语言”，

and they feel really sad.

他们会感到很难过。

But that's not usually true.

但是这通常并不是事实。

Usually shy people are good at many different things, they just don't realize it.

通常害羞的人会有很多其他长处，他们并没有意识到而已。

So remember: English is not only speaking.

所以（请记住）请划重点：英语并不只是口语。

Speaking is part of it, but there are other skills, too.

口语是它的一部分，但它还有很多其他的技能部分。

Maybe you're a great listener.

也许你很擅长听力。

Okay?

Maybe you're good at grammar.

如何？

也许你很擅长英语语法。

Maybe you're not good at all grammar,

也许你并不懂得所有语法，

but you're amazing at the present perfect or the

但是你惊奇的发现自己擅长现在完成时态和

simple past.

一般过去时态。

You know, maybe you're good at reading or writing.

你知道，也许你很擅长阅读和写作。

So it's good to recognize what you're good at so you don't feel so sad when you're learning

所以让你认识到自己的长处才能更好的学习 （让你学习时不会感到那么难受，我怎么学不懂呢哈哈）

English, because you might be good at a lot of different things.

你可能擅长英语的其他一些部分。

So, you can always write down on a piece of paper: "I am able to",

所以，你找一张纸来写下：“我擅长做的是：”

you know, listen very well, or: "I am able to do well on my grammar test."

我的听力很好，或：“我很擅长语法”。

Okay? So think about: What are your strengths?

如何？所以请想想：你的擅长的是什么？

My next tip is probably one of the most important tips.

我的下一个技巧大概是它们中最重要的一个。

When you're trying to learn a language, especially when you're shy, it's good to make goals and

当你学习一门新语言特别是你性格很害羞，你就自己给自己定一个目标

to write them down.

把它们写下来。

Okay? So what do I mean by goals?

Okay? 怎么定义我的目标？

Well, for example, I have three goals here and I'm going to talk about each of them.

好吧，举个栗子，我这里有3个目标，我来一个个说。

Somebody's goal might be: "I will be a better speaker."

有些人的目标可能会是：“我成为一个更好的口语者。”

Or they might say: "I will say two things in class today."

其他的人或许会是：“我今天要在课堂说两件事。”

Or: "I will ask two people: 'How is your day going?'"

或者：“我要问两个人：他们今天过的如何？”

So these are all goals, but these goals are not all great goals.

这里的3个目标，并不是最好的。

What do I mean by that?

我的意思是什么呢？

Well, this first goal: "I will be a better speaker", you will not know if you've become

来吧，看第一个：“我要成为一个更好的口语者”，你并不知道你以后会不会是一个

a better speaker or not.

更好的口语者。

This goal, it's too big so I would not use this goal.

这个目标太大了所以我不想要用这个目标。

Okay?

Okay?

When you make a goal it's good to make something where you have a number in it, and you can

你制定目标的时候最好定一个有数字的目标，这样你就能

tell very easily: Did you do it or didn't you do it?

更清楚知道，这件事你做了，那件事你没做。

So, for example: "I will say two things in class today",

举个栗子：“我今天要在课堂讲两件事”，

this is a great goal because

这是个很好的目标因为

you know: "Okay, I said two things in class, I met my goal for the day."

你知道：“Okay, 我在课堂说了两件事，我今天的目标达成了。”

This will really help you with speaking, especially if you're shy.

这将很好的帮助你的口语，特别是如果你是一个害羞腼腆的人。

Maybe you're too shy even to say two things in class, so maybe you can say one thing in

也许你很害羞不能在课堂用英语说两件事，所以你可以在课堂用英语说一件事

class or maybe for the first class you can just listen and try for the next class to

或者也许今天课堂我就只听，下堂课

say one thing.

我再说一件事。

Okay?

Okay?

Another example of a great goal is: "I will ask two", and again, this can be any number.

另一个很好的栗子是：“我今天要问两个人”，这里的两个可以是任意数字。

"I will ask two people: 'How is your day going today?'"

“我要问两个人：你今天过的怎么样？”

So just by making goals, it can really encourage you to speak and practice your English, and

所以定制目标可以真正的鼓励你，让你练习口语

you will improve this way because it is important to speak as much as you can.

你将通过这种方法来提高自己，这里很重要：你说的越多练得越快。

This way, you know, it's not too difficult, it's something you can do.

这个方法你知道并不是很困难，这是你能做到的。

The other key point here is: Write down your goals.

另一个关键在这里：写下你的目标。

I think it's great to have a journal or a diary where you write down your daily goal,

我认为通过日记来记录你每天的目标是很好的。

and then at the end of the week you can check it off and see: Did I meet this goal?

到了周末你就能检查自己这周目标是否达成？

Hopefully you did, and that way you can actually monitor your English progress.

希望你都做到了，这个方法能事实上可以让你检查自己的英语进度。

So now let's look at some more tips.

现在来让我们看一些其他的技巧。

Okay, so my next tip is very important, too: Don't compare yourself to extroverts.

Okay, 下一个技巧也很重要：别和开朗的人比较。

So, what is an extrovert?

什么是开朗的人(extrovert)？

It's the opposite of a shy person.

和害羞的人性格相反的那种人。

So, an extrovert is somebody who everybody pays attention to because they love to talk,

性格开朗的人是每个人的关注对象，因为他们喜欢聊天，

they're great in social situations, they're usually with friends or out with people.

他们对社交很擅长，通常身边常伴朋友。

So, an extrovert is somebody who's not really shy.

所以，开朗者从不害羞。

So, what a lot of shy people do is they compare themselves.

所以，很多害羞的人喜欢把自己和别人比较。

They see the extrovert, and they think: "Wow, I wish I was just like that person.

他们看着开朗者，然后想：“Wow，我如果是那个人就好了。

That person's speaking is so good.

那个人的口语真好。

Why can't I speak like that?"

为什么我不能说的那样好？”

It's very common to compare yourself, but it's not a good idea, because number one,

比较自己是很常见的，但这并不是一个好主意，因为第一

it's possible that person is making a lot of mistakes.

这个人可能英语上翻过很多错误。

You just don't realize it.

你没意识到而已。

And it's great that they have confidence, but you know, it's not good to compare yourself

他们有强大的自信，但是你要知道，不要和人家比

because there are things you're doing that are probably very good that you're not really

因为有些事你能做的更好你只是没想到

thinking about.

而已

Okay?

Okay?

So if you compare yourself, you'll just feel sad and you won't learn as much.

如果你和别人对比，你就会感到很伤心，这让你学不好英语。

It's better to try to feel better and not compare yourself.

不和别人对比这会让你更专心学习。

Another thing is: Learn key phrases.

另一件事：学习关键词组。

The more you practice certain sentences, the easier they are to say.

某些句子练得越多，就越容易说。

So this way, you don't have to spend all your time thinking:

这个方法让你不会浪费你的时间考虑：

"Oh my god, what am I going to say?

“我的老天，我要怎么说才好？

I don't know what to say. I'm really nervous."

我不知道怎么说，我很紧张。”

Instead, if you practice key sentences enough, then it becomes very easy to say them.

相反，如果你练习关键句子足够多，这就会让你更容易把他们说出口。

You won't have to think about them so hard.

你就不用那么费劲地去想了。

So an example of this is when you meet somebody and you're trying to, you know, talk to them

这里有个栗子，当你和某个外国人见面，你尝试着和他说话

about their day:

关于他们的今天做了啥：

"What is keeping you busy these days?" or "How is your day going so far?"

“最近忙啥呢？”或者“今天过的怎么样了？”

So you can...

所以你能

You can ask these types of questions, and when you say them enough you don't have to

如果你之前练习足够多的这类对话，你就会担心

worry about the grammar, you don't...

语法啊，

You won't have to worry about your pronunciation.

你的发音啊。

You can just practice.

你狂做这类场合的练习。

Or, you know, for when you're at a restaurant:

或者，你知道，当你在一家餐厅：

"I'd like a tea please.", "I'd like a coffee please.", "I'd like milk please."

“我想点杯茶，谢谢”，“我想点杯咖啡。”，“我想点杯牛奶。”

So just memorizing key sentences can really help you, especially if you're shy

想一想关键句子真的能帮助你，特别是你是个害羞的人

and a shy speaker.

一个害怕把英语说出口的人。

Okay, my next tip: Visualize.

Okay,我的下一个技巧：在大脑里想象。

So what does this mean?

这是什么意思呢？

When you visualize you close your eyes and in your head you imagine something.

当你闭上眼你的大脑想象一些事。

So it's not real, it's in your head, but visualizing is very, very...

它并不是真实的，只是你想象的

It's a good way to practice your English.

在大脑里想象是个很好的能帮助你练习英语的方法。

So what I recommend is actually imagine you're in a conversation with somebody, and you can

所以我推荐你想象一下你处于一个和他人的谈话中：

imagine: What are you going to say and what will the person say?

你会说些什么？对方会怎么回应你？

This is a great way to practice, and there's a lot of science behind how...

这是个很好的练习方法，这背后有很多科学道理...

How amazing visualizing something can be and how it can really help you learn.

在大脑里预先想象真的很神奇，它能够真正的帮助你学习提高。

Okay?

So if you have a presentation, before the presentation imagine what you're going to say.

Okay?

如果你有一个演讲，在演讲之前想象一下你要讲什么。

If you're meeting somebody for the first time, imagine what you're going to say and what

如果你要和某人见面，先想象一下见面时候说什么

they're going to say.

然后对方会怎么说。

This will help you be less nervous and it can really help you in terms of your language

这会很好的帮助你减少紧张和让你在交谈中

using better language in those situations.

更好的使用恰当的词汇

Okay, my next tip, it's similar to this one, a little bit different, is:

Okay,我的下一个技巧，和上一个有点类似，也有一点不同：

Talk to yourself in front of a mirror.

和镜子里的自己对话。

A lot of the times you might be too shy to talk to somebody.

很多时候你会太害羞开口和人说英语。

You might feel your heart beat very quickly and you might feel a lot of stress, so you

你也许心脏跳动加速，你会压力山大，所以你

can practice first by talking to yourself in front of a mirror.

先对着镜子里的自己练习。

This way you can feel comfortable and you're still learning.

这个方式让你更舒服，并且你仍然处于学习中。

You know, practicing those phrases in front of a mirror means you're actually, you know,

你知道，对着镜子练习这些用语实际上，你知道，

still learning them and still using them, and they will then become easier to use.

仍然处在学习中使用它们，这使你更容易使用它们。

So I highly recommend this tip.

所以我强力推荐这个技巧。

All right, now let's look at some more tips on how to learn when we are shy.

好的让我们看一些其他的技巧，害羞的人怎么学习。

Okay, so my next tip has to do with the environment you're in.

Okay，我的下一个技巧是和你所处的环境有关

Okay? So if you are in a bar, or maybe you're in a classroom, or maybe a meeting, and my tip

Okay? 如果你在一家酒吧，一间教室，或者你正在和某人会面，我的技巧是：

is: Become comfortable in the environment you're going to speak in.

适应你所处的环境。

A lot of people feel very nervous before they speak, and that's okay.

很多人说英语时候感到很紧张，这没事。

One way to help you make your, like, you know, to become less nervous is to get used to the

一个方法让你减少紧张，比如，你知道，要变得不那么紧张，

environment where you're going to speak in.

就是要适应你要发言的环境。

So what do I mean by this?

我什么意思呢？

Well, for example, imagine you're going to be giving a meeting...

好吧，又举个栗子，想象一下你正要开会...

Or, sorry, not a meeting.

或者，对不起，不是开会。

A presentation.

一场演讲(或者作报告)。

Try to look at the room before you give the presentation.

在你要演讲之前先去看一眼演讲室。

Try to see how it all looks like.

看下它是什么样的。

Get used to that environment.

先熟悉下环境。

The more used to an environment you are, the less you will feel stressed when you're speaking in it.

越是习惯了一个环境，当你在这个环境中说话的时候，你就越不会觉得压力大。

Same with a bar, you know, maybe you could go to the same bar and get used to that environment

同理，也许你经常去同一家酒吧，你很熟悉那里的环境。

so then you're less nervous when you speak.

这就让你在那里交谈更无压力。

Okay?

Okay?

So try to become comfortable with your environment.

所以越熟悉环境越让你感觉良好。

If you can't go to the environment, you can at least maybe look at pictures online, you

如果你不处在那样的环境，你至少在网上找下相关图片，你知道

know, Google images for example and maybe you can do some visualization.

Google图片，展开你的想象。

So even though you're not there, you can imagine yourself there.

所以尽管你不在那样的环境，你也能自己展开想象自己处于那里面。

That can also help.

这同样也能帮助你。

Okay, the next tip: Find other shy people.

Okay，下一个技巧：找一个同样害羞说英语的人。

A lot of the times students are looking for conversation buddies.

很多时候学生会寻找一个英语会话练习搭档。

If you're shy it's sometimes good to have a shy conversation buddy because that way,

如果你很害羞，有时候找一个害羞的聊天伙伴也是不错的，因为这样一来。

you know, you can both understand each other better and you don't have one person talking

你知道，你两都能更好的明白对方，你也不必自己

the whole time where you're just listening.

一个人整天只是坐着听。

So if you find another shy conversation buddy you're probably going to speak a bit more.

所以如果你能找到另一个害羞的朋友，这也许会让你话更多一些。

It's also good to have extroverted friends, you know, sometimes that takes off pressure

有外向的朋友也是很好的，有时可以减压，

because you don't have to speak then.

因为那时候你就不用说话了。（你就站着听他说）

But I would recommend finding other shy people, maybe shy people in your class or shy people

但是我会推荐你找一个害羞的朋友，也许你教室里就有一个

in a conversation circle, that way you can really benefit from the understanding you

或者是你的朋友圈，这样你就能真正从你们两个人在

both have of each other.

对对方的了解中受益。

This is also sort of similar: Find people with the same hobbies as yourself.

这也有点类似上一条：从自己的兴趣圈子里找一个搭档。

A lot of the times when we speak about things we like, it's easier for us to talk than when

很多时候我们说自己知道的事情比

we speak about things we don't know about.

不知道的更容易说出口。

So if you go to a conversation circle, you know, try to find somebody who has the same

所以从和你有相同爱好的人们中

hobbies as you.

找一个

If you like reading, maybe you could join a book club.

比如你喜欢阅读，也许你可以加入一个读书俱乐部。

Or if you like movies, maybe you could join a film club.

或者你喜欢看电影，你就找一个电影俱乐部。

If you like skiing, you can join a ski club.

如果你喜欢滑雪，那就加入滑雪俱乐部。

Or you can find people who have similar interests.

你可以找到有类似兴趣的人。

There's a lot of great meetup groups that, you know, you can find people who are interested

有很多很棒的聚会团体，你知道，你可以找到兴趣。

in the same things as you.

和你一样的人。

Okay, my next tip has to do with what your body is doing while you're speaking.

好了，我的下一个技巧是关于你说话的时候，你的身体在做什么。

There's a lot of science behind how a smile can really make you feel better.

你微笑着说话这会让你感觉良好这背后有很多科学依据。

So when you're speaking, it's good to do something called the smile breathing technique.

所以在说话的时候，做一个叫微笑呼吸法的动作是很好的。

This is where you smile and you breathe.

这就是你的微笑，你的呼吸。

Okay?

Okay?

It takes a little time, maybe, to get used to that, but when you're breathing it makes

也许需要一点时间来适应，但当你在呼吸的时候，它就会让你...

you less nervous and when you're smiling it makes you less nervous.

你会减少紧张，当你微笑的时候你也会减少紧张。

So be aware of your body language.

所以注意你的身体语言。

If you're like this, you're going to feel a lot more nervous than if you're bigger,

如果你像这样，你就会承受更多压力，如果你放松，

and you're taking deep breaths, and you're smiling.

然后做一个深呼吸，然后微笑。

Okay?

Okay?

You can also do power poses before any speaking.

当你说话前，你同时也可以摆一个酷一点的姿势。

I have a video on this.

这里有个视频。

You can find it in the links in the description, and there you will see some great poses you

你能通过这个衔接说明进入，你会找到很多很好的姿势

can do before you speak to somebody.

和人们说英语前先摆上几个POSE。

These body movements will make you feel more confident before you go out and speak, so

这些肢体动作让你出去和人说英语时更加自信，所以

I recommend that video.

我推荐那个视频。

Another thing you can do is you can choose conversation topics you're comfortable with.

另一件你能做的事就是找一个你感觉舒服的话题讨论。

So if you're going to a bar, think about some things you would like to talk about.

如果你走入一家酒吧，想一想将要说些什么。

Maybe you love talking about cooking or maybe, you know, again, you're really into movies.

也许你很喜欢讨论烹饪或者，你知道，你对电影入迷。

So finding conversations you can have with people on subjects you're comfortable with

所以找一个你感觉舒服的话题交谈

will help you feel less nervous than if you're talking about something you have no idea about.

比你聊一件让你没头绪的事情会帮助你让你减少紧张感。

Okay, my next tip: Make mistakes.

Okay，下一个技巧：说错话。

A lot of people who are shy are also afraid to make mistakes.

很多害羞的人害怕说错话。

They worry that if they make a mistake it will be embarrassing for them.

他们害怕如果说错话会让他们处在尬尴中。

Now, it's really hard to do this, but you have to get used to making mistakes.

这件事很难做到，但是你要习惯说错话。

Making mistakes is very, very important for learning a language.

学习语言中避免不了说错话，这很重要。(不要害怕犯错)

So one thing you can do is you can tell yourself every day, you know, when you wake up:

所以这有件事你每天早上醒来都能做，起床时候对自己说：

"Today I want to make some mistakes.

“今天我也许会在练习口语中说错话。

It's okay to make mistakes.

但这没事。

There's nothing wrong with making mistakes."

说错话没什么大不了的。”

This can also help with your confidence.

这同样有助你提高信心。

If you tell yourself you can make mistakes then it will probably give you more chance

如果你告诉自己，我不怕说错话，这也许会给你更多机会去说

to speak because you won't be so afraid of making mistakes.

因为你将不会害怕说话时候犯错。

Another tip is the FORD technique.

另一个技巧是FORD Technique。

I have a video that you can get through the links in the description about what's called

我有一个视频，你可以通过描述中的链接获得关于它为什么叫

the FORD technique.

Ford technique。

This is a great way to make small talk or to talk to people you don't know well.

这是一个很好的方法，可以和不熟悉的人进行小范围的交谈，也可以和不熟悉的人聊天。

I have a whole video on how you can improve your conversation using the FORD technique,

整个视频讲的是你将如何在聊天里使用Ford Technique.

so I hope you check out that video and it will actually really help you in terms of

所以我希望你看一下那个视频，这将真正帮助你，让你知道什么时候说什么

knowing what to talk about when it's quiet or knowing what to talk about when you don't

知道什么时候该做个倾听者，或是

really know somebody that well.

当你对对方并不太了解时候该谈些什么

Okay, so again...

Okay,我们继续....

Actually, one more tip I don't have on the board, but my last tip I would say is:

实际上，还有一个我在黑板上没有的技巧，但我要说的最后一个技巧是：

Make sure when you're shy and you actually speak, reward yourself.

确保当你处在害羞腼腆中你还是完成了对话练习，奖励你自己。

Okay?

好吗？

You know, if you have a goal: "Today I'm going to speak two times in class",

你知道，如果你有个目标：“今天我要在课堂上讲两遍，”

and you do it, do something nice for yourself.

然后你做到了，给自己个奖励吧。(买件衣服，吃顿好的)

It's very easy when you're shy to be very hard on yourself and to constantly tell yourself,

当你害羞的时候，很容易对自己很苛刻，你会不断地告诉自己，

oh, you know: "I wish I was more confident, there's something wrong with me.

哦，你知道的。"我希望我更有自信，我肯定哪里没做好。

You know, I don't like this about myself."

我有问题，我不喜欢这样的自己"

Be a little bit easier on yourself and reward yourself because it's not easy learning a

自己放松一点，奖励一下自己，因为当你害羞的时候，

language when you're shy.

学习一门语言并不容易。

It's good to recognize that and to also, you know...

认识到这一点是很好的，而且，你知道.....

To also reward yourself so you know you're doing good.

同时要奖励自己，这样你就知道你做得很好。

Okay?

Because you are.

Okay?

因为你确实做的很好！

Following these tips and making goals are a great way in order to help you with your

按照这些技巧制定目标是个很好的办法，帮助你克服

shyness.

害羞问题。

You know, a lot of the times it will never go away completely and that's okay.

你知道，很多时候，它永远不会完全消失，但这没关系。

What you really want to do is just improve so you're able to talk more in conversations.

你所有真正要做的就是不断改善，所以你就能掌握更多对话了。

Okay?

Okay?

You're able to meet more people.

你能够认识更多的人。

You don't have to be perfect at conversation.

你不一定要在谈话中完美无缺。

What you're trying to do is you're trying to get better at conversation, and these tips

你要做的就是试着让对话更好更流畅，这些技巧

will really help you with that.

将真正帮助你。

So for more tips and more resources, I invite you to subscribe to my channel.

更多的技巧更多资源，我邀请你订阅我们的频道。

I have a lot on speaking, a lot on pronunciation, on listening, on grammar, and vocabulary,

我有很多关于口语，发音，听力，语法和词汇，

and many more topics.

以及更多英语相关主题。

So I recommend you check that out.

推荐你们看看。

I also recommend you come visit our website at www.engvid.com.

同时推荐你们访问我们的网站 www.engvid.com

There, we actually have a quiz where you can practice all the tips you learned today and

在那里，我们有一个小测验，你可以在那里练习今天所学的所有技巧

you can also check out more resources on a variety of topics by many different teachers.

你也可以查看更多的资源，由许多不同的老师提供的各种题目。

Thank you so much for watching.

感谢你观看.

I hope you've enjoyed this video,

我希望你能喜欢这个视频，

and until next time, take care.

下次见，保重。 (中文字幕由董二狗翻译)