Why Body Language Is the Key to Self-Expression — and Hot Selfies | David Suh | TED

譯者: Lilian Chiu 審譯者: 麗玲 辛

It is so great being up on here.

能在台上真的是太棒了。

I also want to make sure I commemorate and take a quick TED selfie.

我也想確保有留下紀念， 拍一張 TED 自拍照。

Hold on, sorry, don't mind me.

等等，對不起，別理我。

What was my best selfie angle again?

再告訴我一次， 我最好的自拍角度是？

Anyone else have that question?

還有誰也有這個疑問？

A few, a few, OK.

有幾個人，好吧。

Well, it's a question I get asked all the time as a posing coach.

我是個擺姿勢教練， 大家總會問我這個問題。

And it's so silly because it's really simple,

這很蠢，因為答案很簡單。

there's chin up and chin down.

有抬下巴、收下巴。

Matter of fact, can we try this from our seats real quick?

其實，各位能不能 在座位上快速試一下？

Everyone just do a simple chin up.

請大家做個簡單的抬下巴。

Let me take a look.

讓我看看。好。

Alright, OK.

Let me try to figure this out for everyone here.

讓我試著為大家想個辦法。

Chin down.

收下巴。對，很好，好。

Yeah, great, OK

How does everyone look good in both angles?

大家的這兩個角度都很好看嗎？

(Laughter)

（笑聲）

But before I go on to solve the world's mystery of selfies

但，在我開始為大家解開 關於自拍的世界之謎之前，

for you today,

let's address the elephant in the room, shall we?

咱們先來談談大家 避而不談的明顯問題好嗎？

Because I have a feeling that not everyone here

因為我感覺到，

在座並非每個人天天都花很多心力 要拍出最好看的自拍照。

is so deeply invested in taking the cutest selfie every day.

But that's OK, that's OK.

但，沒關係，這樣也很好，

This is still going to be good

because I'll take a bet in saying

因為我敢說，

that every single one of you here

在座的每一個人

deserves a powerful headshot that not only reflects your identity

都值得擁有一張有震撼力的大頭照， 不只能反映出你們的身分，

but your ambition and success.

也反映出你們的雄心和成功。

For the past decade,

在過去的十年裡，我拍攝了 至少數千人的照片。

I've been photographing over thousands of people.

A few you may recognize.

各位可能認識其中幾個人。

Celebrities.

有名人、有執行長。

CEOs.

But mainly people.

但主要就是人，

People like you and me who have a simple human desire

和你我一樣有著簡單人類慾望的人，

to be seen and heard.

想要被看見和聽見。

And there's something

而這種追求外在認可的 自拍文化有一個特點，

this external-validation-seeking culture of selfies

that I learned

是我自己學到的， 這種文化並沒有教我。

that this culture hasn't taught me.

It's that posing for a photo

那就是：為拍照擺姿勢

doesn't have to be this terrifying experience

不必然是令人畏懼的經驗， 或是讓你屈從於美貌標準。

that subjects you to beauty standards.

In fact, posing should be natural

事實上，擺姿勢應該是自然的，

because it's something that you've been speaking.

因為擺姿勢就是你一生 一直不斷在說的一種語言。

It's a language you've been speaking your entire life.

Body language.

肢體語言。

And I'm here to show you

我來此就是要展示給各位看，

that our body is so interconnected with our hearts and our identity.

我們的身、心和我們的身分認同 是緊密地相互連結在一起。

Take a look this time, let me just show you, OK?

這次讓我示範給各位看看，好嗎？

I'll say a little hello from here,

我在這裡打招呼，

and then a little chin up and, hey.

接著是抬下巴的版本，嘿。

And then also a little chin down and, hey.

然後是收下巴的版本，嘿，

(Laughter)

（笑聲）

Whoa.

哇。剛才發生了什麼事？

What just happened?

Perhaps on the chin-up, you felt a sense of confidence.

也許各位會覺得 抬下巴的版本有種自信感。

Maybe on the chin-down,

也許收下巴的版本會像是 我在舞台上跟各位調情。

you felt like I was flirting with you from the stage.

I told you, everyone looks so good here.

我剛說過，從這裡看， 大家都很好看。

But how does something so mechanical start to express emotions?

但，要怎麼讓這麼機械式的做法 也能把情緒表達出來？

It's not voodoo magic

這不是邪門歪道， 因為人人都能做到，不如，

because this is something that we can all do.

Matter of fact, let's try this all together one more time.

我們大家再一起試一次。

Everyone, this time just relax your shoulders with me, yeah.

各位，這次和我一起放鬆肩膀。

Let's take a deep breath through your nose

透過鼻子深深吸氣，

and out through the mouth.

用嘴巴吐氣。

Beautiful.

很棒。

Chin up, very slowly with me, feeling powerful.

跟我一起慢慢把下巴 抬起來，感覺很強勢。

Back down to neutral.

回到正常位置。

Chin down just a touch,

收一點點下巴，

head tilt to the side,

頭歪向側邊，

nose around slightly,

略微環顧四周。

and just the eyes down towards the ground beneath you.

只有眼睛向下看， 看著你下方的地板。

And just the eyes again, slowly bringing up back to me.

還是只動眼睛， 把視線慢慢帶回我身上。

Ooh, OK.

哦，好。

(Laughter)

（笑聲）

If you felt something in here in your body, my friends,

朋友們，如果你們覺得 體內有某種感受，

you felt a fraction of the power of posing.

那就是略微感受到了 一點點擺姿勢的力量。

Just using your chin up.

光用抬下巴就做到了。

Imagine what you can do when you use your entire body.

想像一下全身都用上時 你們能做到什麼。

By the end of this talk, I want to show you

這場演說結束後，我會讓各位看到， 你們想要成為任何人都行，

that you can become whoever you want to become

through a single pose.

只靠一個姿勢就能做到。

But how did David get here,

但是，大衛是怎麼蛻變成 可以指揮一整間美好的觀眾

where he can orchestrate a whole room full of beautiful people

to just flirt with him in a matter of seconds?

在幾秒鐘之內就跟他調情起來？

(Laughter)

（笑聲）

It started in high school.

是從高中開始的。不是指調情。

Not the flirting.

It was a passion, it was a simple passion

那時單純就只是一種熱情，

of taking a photo for someone else that they would love.

想要幫別人拍一張 他們會喜歡的照片。

And it's an honorable passion.

這是種高尚的熱忱， 但有一個大問題。

But there was a big problem.

Posing.

擺姿勢。

David, what do I do with my hands?

大衛，我的手該怎麼擺？

別看我，我只是個躲在 相機後面的害羞韓國孩子。

Don't look at me,

I'm just a shy Korean kid hiding behind his camera.

(Laughter)

（笑聲）

I know, it's very cute, very cute.

我知道，這張照片超可愛。

(Laughter)

（笑聲）

But because they didn't know how to pose,

但人們因為不知道怎麼擺姿勢，

they felt awkward,

所以覺得彆扭，

therefore, they looked awkward.

因此，他們看起來就很彆扭，

And then they saw the awkward photo

接著他們看到了這張彆扭的照片： 「喔，又來了，我看起來好彆扭！」

where they said, "Oh, once again, I look awkward."

Further validating their limiting beliefs.

進一步強化他們自我侷限的信念。

But it's OK because high-school David had a solution.

但沒關係，因為高中時的 大衛有個解決方案。

He went to Google and typed in "top three poses for a woman."

他去 Google 搜尋關鍵字 「女性的前三名姿勢」。

The guys in the high school didn't want photos that much.

高中生沒有那麼想要照片， 這樣就很夠了。

So David memorized pose one.

所以大衛記住了姿勢一、

Pose two.

姿勢二，

And pose three.

以及姿勢三。

(Laughter)

（笑聲）

Easy peasy, right?

很容易吧？

Nope.

不。

Because David learned that everyone has different body types.

因為大衛發現每個人 都有不同的身型。

I mean, how can he -- OK, that makes sense.

我的意思是，他怎麼能—— 好，那是合理的。

But what if David learns the top three poses

但如果這樣呢：

大衛針對宇宙中每種能想到的身型， 把相對應的前三名姿勢學起來。

for every conceivable body type out there in the universe?

Surely he would be set up for success, right?

他肯定為成功奠定了基礎，對嗎？

Nope.

錯。

Because even if two people have the same body types,

因為即使兩個人的身型一樣，

how they perceive themselves

他們對自己的看法以及希望別人 怎麼看他們，都會有很大的差異。

and how they want to be seen can be drastically different.

This is a problem with today's definition of posing.

現今對於擺姿勢的定義 就有這方面的問題。

It boxes you in

這個定義會根據你的身體特徵 和標籤把你侷限住。

based on your physical traits and your labels.

Ah, you are a woman,

啊，你是女人，

this is how you need to present your body.

那你應該這樣展現你的身體。

Yeah, let's not get cancelled on the TED stage my first time here.

沒錯，咱們別弄到第一次 上 TED 舞台就被取消。

(Laughter)

（笑聲）

That's me, by the way.

順道一提，那是我。

(Laughter)

（笑聲）

There's a client that taught me this lesson really well.

有位客戶讓我牢牢記住了這一課。

She was an ex dominatrix, now author.

她曾是調教女王，現在是作家。

I know, really cool.

我知道，真的很酷。

So she was getting her hair and makeup done, and I went over and I said,

她正在整理頭髮和化妝， 我走過去，說：

"Miss Client, how would you like to be photographed today?"

「客戶小姐，今天你想要怎麼拍？」

She looked dead straight at me and said,

她直視著我，說：

"David, I want to be a bisexual assassin."

「大衛，我想當雙性戀刺客。」

(Laughter)

（笑聲）

"Yeah, let's do that."

「好，就這麼辦吧。」

And as I slowly walked out of the makeup room,

我慢慢走出化妝室時，

immense panic just -- whew.

一陣巨大的恐慌感就——呼。

What does that even mean?

那到底是什麼意思啊？

David went to his laptop and typed

大衛拿出他的筆電，鍵入

"top three poses for bisexual assassins."

「雙性戀刺客的前三名姿勢」。

Immediately regretted it.

馬上就後悔了。

(Laughter)

（笑聲）

Eventually, I had no other options.

最終，我別無選擇。 我不得不仰賴我的流程。

I had to trust my process.

大衛「逐肢」指導她，

So David guided her limb by limb,

intentionally, to feel within her body.

有意地去感覺她的內在。

And I nervously presented a photo to her, and she said,

我很緊張，拿了張照片給她看，

她說：「大衛，這就是我。」

"David, this is me."

I learned that day --

那天我了解到——謝謝，謝謝。

Thank you, thank you.

(Applause)

（掌聲）

I learned that day that it wasn't my job

那天我了解到，我的工作並不包括

to teach her how to be a bisexual assassin.

教她如何成為雙性戀刺客。

All I had to do was give her space to be who she already was.

我要做的就是給她空間， 讓她扮演她自己：

The baddest bisexual assassin in the world.

世界上最狠的雙性戀刺客。

重點不是要扭曲你的身體 以符合別人對你的看法。

It's not about contorting your body to fit someone else's idea of you.

It also doesn't matter if you see

在這裡，你們是否看到 你們心目中的雙性戀刺客並不重要，

a version of what you believe is bisexual assassin here or not,

because Krista connected with herself.

因為克莉絲塔和她自己建立了連結。

That is what posing is.

這就是擺姿勢的意義。

It's a declaration of self.

擺姿勢是一種自我宣言。

Telling the world that you belong,

告訴世界你屬於這裡，

that you are deserving of self-exploration,

你值得去探索自我、 接受自我，和表達自我。

self acceptance and self expression.

A playful promise to tell yourself that I will see myself as a work of art,

擺姿勢是一種趣味的承諾，告訴自己

我會將自己視為藝術品，獨一無二的。

a one of one.

So with that being said -- thank you --

所以說到這——謝謝你們——

Let's make this declaration together.

咱們一起來做宣言。 我邀請大家參與。

I invite you all.

I'm going to grab my trusty chair here real quick.

讓我快速拿一下我可靠的椅子。

Like, what is going on?

這是怎麼回事？

Let me just ...

讓我……

Let's make this declaration through what I call posing yoga, poga.

咱們用我所謂的擺伽 （擺姿勢瑜伽）來做宣言。

I'm going to be your mirror.

我跟各位是鏡面方向。

So if you wave at me real quick, this should be your left hand.

如果各位快速地揮手， 這應該是你們的左手。

Just mirror, mirror.

就是鏡面。

Yep, I should be able to go up to you and high five, right?

是的，我走過去能跟你們 擊掌的方向就對了。

We're going to embody the leaders that we are

我們要來展現出

我們現在以及未來是怎樣的領導者。

and the leaders that we are becoming.

So first, starting with everyone that has skirts on.

先從穿著裙子的人開始。

Being mindful, right?

保持覺察，對吧？

Sit on the edge of the seat for me.

麻煩有穿裙子的人坐在椅子的邊緣。

Just the people with the skirts.

I'm going to have you go for a little leg cross.

我要請你們把一隻腳跨過另一隻。

This hand leaning towards the knee.

這隻手靠向膝蓋。

感覺重心移向膝蓋， 放鬆這隻手的手腕，

Feel that shift of the balance onto that knee relaxing this wrist,

this hand just placing on top of that wrist.

這隻手放在另一隻手的手腕上。

Bring your shoulder around ever so slightly towards your chin.

肩膀稍稍朝下巴的方向轉動。

And wait for me right here.

然後在這個姿勢等我。

Everyone else in the trousers and the pants,

其他人穿長褲的人，

let's still sit on the edge of the seat

咱們也坐到椅子的邊緣，

and go for a wider stance on the legs.

雙腳打開一點。

Be mindful of your neighbors.

小心旁邊的人。

Let’s go for a little tippy toe to raise this platform on the knee.

咱們稍微踮腳尖， 把大腿水平抬高超過膝蓋。

And this hand we’re going to lean over, really shifting that balance.

我們要靠向這隻手，明顯改變重心。

Rely on your body, relax that wrist.

用身體靠著，放鬆手腕。

This hand we're just going to go right over here.

這隻手放到這裡。

And everyone with me,

所有人跟我一起把下巴抬高一點點。

let's bring our chin up ever so slightly.

Deep breath in through the nose

用鼻子深深吸氣，

and out through the mouth.

用嘴巴吐氣。

And just the eyes to me.

只把視線轉向我。

I wish I can take a photo of everyone right now.

我真希望能把現在這個畫面拍下來。

(Laughter)

（笑聲）

End scene, you can relax.

場景結束，各位可以放鬆了。

(Applause)

（掌聲）

This is how posing should feel.

擺姿勢的感覺應該是這樣的，應該 會讓人有紮實且充滿力量的感覺。

It should feel grounding.

It should feel empowering.

And this is how the shy Korean kid that you saw earlier on

這就是各位先前看到的 害羞韓國小孩如何變成

came to be him today.

現今的他，舞台上的我。

Me on stage.

(Applause and cheers)

（掌聲和歡呼）

I mean, don't get me wrong, both Davids are beautiful.

別誤會我的意思， 兩個大衛都很美好。

But this David saw posing as a tool to look good,

但以前的大衛認為 擺姿勢是一種工具，

幾乎是用假裝的方式 讓人看起來更好。

to almost pretend.

Me now, I see posing as a way to embody who I've become

現在的我認為擺姿勢是用來呈現 我已經變成什麼樣的人

and who I'm destined to become.

以及我注定成為什麼樣的人。

So the next time you are in front of the camera,

因此，各位下次面對相機時，

whether it's for a selfie or a headshot,

不論是自拍或拍大頭照，

please remember that you deserve to take up space,

請記住，你值得擁有自己的空間，

shift your balance to comfort your body,

移動重心，讓你的身體更舒服，

and remember David asking you,

且別忘了大衛問過你，

how are you and your future self showing up for you today in your body?

今天，你和未來的你要如何 在你的身體中展現出來。

Thank you for coming to my TED Talk.

謝謝來聽我的 TED 演講。

(Applause and cheers)

（掌聲和歡呼）