Family life conversation (My son doesn't want to get married) English Conversation Practice

Oscar your mother sent me to ask you  if you're ready to Oscar what happened

奥斯卡你妈妈派我来问你是否准备好去奥斯卡发生了什么

hello that I'm sorry I'm  really sorry I can't do it

你好对不起我真的很抱歉我做不到

what do you mean you can't do it  Oscar everyone is waiting for you

你什么意思你做不到奥斯卡每个人都在等你

and why haven't you gotten dressed  you're getting married in one hour

为什么你还没有穿好衣服你一小时后就要结婚了

I know I know today is my wedding but  I'm scared that I don't know what to do

我知道我知道今天是我的婚礼但我害怕我不知道该怎么做

oh my boy I think we need to talk  about what's happening let's see

哦我的孩子我想我们需要谈谈发生了什么让我们看看

all right tell me what's  happening why are you so scared

好吧告诉我发生了什么事为什么你这么害怕

that I'm scared I know I love Clara I  love her so much she's the love of my life  

我害怕我知道我爱克拉拉我非常爱她她是我生命中的爱好

okay you love Clara we all know that  son you are one of the cutest couples

吧你爱克拉拉我们都知道儿子你是最可爱的夫妻之一

then what is the matter if you are so sure you  love her why are you scared what's going on  

那又怎么了 如果你这么确定你爱她 你为什么害怕 发生了什么事

that's the thing I love her so much that  I want her to be happy the happiest woman  

这就是我如此爱她以至于我希望她快乐 最快乐的女人

I want to make her happy but I'm not sure if  I'm the one the right one what if I mess it up  

我想让她快乐 但我不确定如果我是对的人 如果我搞砸了怎么办

I'm in my 20s is it still too early  to get married am I making a mistake

我才 20 多岁 现在结婚还为时过早 我是否犯了一个错误

I'm about to start my own family  children a new house a dog oh damn

我要开始我自己的家庭孩子了ren a new house a dog oh damn

okay stop that now Oscar what you're  feeling now is something very normal son

okay stop that now Oscar 你现在的感觉是非常正常的孩子，

you just got cold feet that's  it I don't think it's gamophobia

你只是胆怯了，就是这样，我不认为这是 gamophobia

gamophobia what is that am I  sick or is something like that

gamophobia 那是什么我生病了还是类似的东西

of course not gamophobia is a  fear of commitment or marriage

当然，同性恋恐惧症不是对承诺或婚姻的恐惧，

but that's not your case I told you you  just got cold feet and that's normal

但那 不是

you feel too frightened to do something that  you had planned to do something important

你的情况 认真

but let me tell you something I also  got cold feet before getting married

地结婚前退缩了

seriously but you and Mom you  have an awesome marriage life

，但是你和妈妈的婚姻生活真棒

you love each other so much that I always  dreamed of having a marriage like yours

你们彼此如此相爱，以至于我一直梦想着拥有像你这样的婚姻

well we've been together for more than 30 years  and hasn't been easy but we love each other

我们已经在一起 30 多年了，这并不容易但我们彼此相爱

but as I was telling you I was also  frightened one day before getting married

但正如我告诉过你的，我在结婚前一天也很害怕，

my dad came to me and talked to me back  then and he gave me some tips about marriage

当时我爸爸来找我和我交谈，他给了我一些关于婚姻的建议

and now I will tell you the same things  he told me back then also my experience

，现在我会告诉你他告诉过的同样的话那时的我也是我的经历经历过

the first thing you should understand is  that marriage is not easy it's not perfect

你应该明白的第一件事是婚姻并不容易它并不完美

you will have arguments many times but  you will have to talk about those problems

你会多次争论但你将不得不谈论这些问题

because that's the key to have a good  marriage communication you understand

因为这是进行良好婚姻沟通的关键你明白

I understand Clara and I always try  to talk when something bothers us

我理解克拉拉并且我总是尝试当一些事情困扰我们时谈论

that's great now that you live with her  those arguments will probably more often  

这很棒现在你和她住在一起这些争论可能会更频繁

but if you learn how to communicate well you  won't have any problem solving that issue

但是如果你学会如何很好地沟通你不会有任何问题

with love and good communication I'm  sure you'll have a great relationship son

用爱和良好的沟通来解决这个问题我相信你会的有一个很好的关系，儿子

that's it it's not all I have to do  to have a perfect marriage like yours

，这不是我要做的就拥有像你这样的完美婚姻

well there are some other things you should  do if you want to improve your relationship

还有一些其他的事情，如果你想改善你们的关系，你应该做，

for example you can tell your spouse that  you're thankful for having her in your life

例如，你可以告诉你的配偶你很感激让她在你的生活中

appreciate each other your relationship  your family and your lives together always

互相欣赏你的关系你的家人和你的生活在一起

show gratitude when your partner  cooks dinner helps the kids with  

当你的伴侣做饭帮助孩子们做

their homework or does the grocery shopping  

家庭作业或做杂货店时，总是表现出感激之情opp

take a few minutes each evening to tell each  other at least one thing you appreciated that day  

每天晚上花几分钟时间告诉对方至少一件你那天很感激的事情，

that will help you have a better relationship and  your partner will feel you really appreciate her

这将帮助你们建立更好的关系，你的伴侣会觉得你真的很感激她

I like that I love Clara so much I tell her  I love her every day and that I'm so lucky

我喜欢这一点我非常爱克拉拉我告诉她我爱她每一天，我很幸运，我会

well keep doing that then also  make time for you as a couple

继续这样做，然后也为你这对夫妇腾出时间，同时

with work and family responsibilities  it can be easy to lose the Romans Factor

兼顾工作和家庭责任，很容易失去罗马人因素

plan special dates either to go out or just  stay at home but always spend time together

计划的特殊日期，要么出去，要么呆在家里，但总是花时间在一起，

if you have children send them on a play date  while you relax talk and enjoy each other's  

如果你有孩子 在你放松的

company many people believe that because they  have children they have to forget about Romans

时候让 他们 出去玩耍

and that's not true you're a still husband  and wife and you have to show your love

必须表达你的爱

but what is also so important is to plan  for some personal time just for yourself

，但同样重要的是计划一些私人时间，只为你自己

alone time is just as important as couple  time everyone needs time to rechurch think  

一个人的时间和情侣时间一样重要，每个人都需要时间重新思考

or just enjoy personal interests that  time is often lost when you're married

或享受个人兴趣，而这些时间通常是结婚后迷路，

especially if you have kids go out with  friends take a class or do volunteer work

尤其是如果你有孩子和朋友出去上课或做志愿者工作

whatever you find enriching when you're back  

当你

together with your spouse you'll  appreciate each other even more

和你的配偶重新在一起时，无论你觉得充实了什么，你们都会更加欣赏对方，

that kind of makes sense we have talked  about that and we have our own friends too

我们已经讨论过这一点是有道理的，我们也有自己的朋友，

that's good also you need to  understand that it's okay to disagree

这很好，你也需要明白，不同意是可以的

you won't agree on everything but it is important  to be fair and respectful during disagreements

您不会在所有事情上都达成一致，但在分歧期间保持公平和尊重很重要

listen to your exposed point  of view try not to get angry  

倾听您公开的观点 尽量不要生气

and don't let yourself become too frustrated

，也不要让自己变得过于沮丧

walk away and calm down if you need  to then discuss the problem again

如果您需要讨论，请走开并冷静下来问题再次

compromise on problems so that you both  give a little remember that now you are one

在问题上妥协，这样你们都给一点记住，现在你们是一个人

and you have to solve your problems  as a couple oh also build trust

，你们必须作为一对夫妻解决你们的问题哦，还要建立信任，

the more you engage in this destructive  activities the more likely you are to divorce

你越是参与这种破坏性的活动，你就越有可能离婚

you have to take responsibility for  your actions always it's very important

你有始终对自己的行为负责，这一点非常重要，

do not blame just your wife when you fight  because you probably has responsibility to

当你们吵架时，不要只责怪你的妻子，因为你可能有责任，

and last but not least you should learn to  forgive that's something really important

最后但并非最不重要的一点是，你应该学会原谅，这是一件很重要的事情。 盟友 很重要

everyone makes mistakes your spouse may hurt  your feelings or do something that upsets you

每个人都会犯错误你的配偶可能会伤害你的感情或做一些让你心烦意乱的事情

and that may make you angry even Furious but  it's important to deal with your feelings

，这可能会让你生气甚至愤怒但处理你的感情很重要让

let them go and move on don't keep  bringing up the past it doesn't work

他们过去并继续前进不要继续提起过去它不会'不工作

remember to remain committed to your expose your  family and the life that you have built together

记得继续致力于暴露你的家庭和你们共同建立的生活

support each other emotionally and  in everyday ways support your spouse

在情感上和日常生活中支持你的配偶

you you're exposed and your relationship May  grow and change with the time that's for sure

你和你的关系可能会随着时间的推移而发展和变化，这是肯定的，

but these ideas can help your marriage stay  successful over the years like your mom and me

但这些想法可以帮助你的婚姻像你妈妈和我一样多年来保持成功

wow you know a lot thank you so much that  I think I feel much better now thank you  

哇你知道很多非常感谢你我想我现在感觉好多了谢谢你

remember I will always be here for you my son  and now get up and get ready to get married  

记住我将永远在这里为你我的儿子现在起床并得到准备好结婚了

you're right that I will get dressed right  now I will be the best husband in the world

你是对的，我现在就穿好衣服我将成为世界上最好的丈夫

you mean the second best husband  because I am the best one

你的意思是第二好的丈夫因为我是最好的

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我希望你喜欢这次谈话如果你能提高你的英语水平再多一点

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