Family life conversation (My son doesn't want to get married) English Conversation Practice

Oscar your mother sent me to ask you  if you're ready to Oscar what happened

hello that I'm sorry I'm  really sorry I can't do it

what do you mean you can't do it  Oscar everyone is waiting for you

and why haven't you gotten dressed  you're getting married in one hour

I know I know today is my wedding but  I'm scared that I don't know what to do

oh my boy I think we need to talk  about what's happening let's see

all right tell me what's  happening why are you so scared

that I'm scared I know I love Clara I  love her so much she's the love of my life  

okay you love Clara we all know that  son you are one of the cutest couples

then what is the matter if you are so sure you  love her why are you scared what's going on  

that's the thing I love her so much that  I want her to be happy the happiest woman  

I want to make her happy but I'm not sure if  I'm the one the right one what if I mess it up  

I'm in my 20s is it still too early  to get married am I making a mistake

I'm about to start my own family  children a new house a dog oh damn

okay stop that now Oscar what you're  feeling now is something very normal son

you just got cold feet that's  it I don't think it's gamophobia

gamophobia what is that am I  sick or is something like that

of course not gamophobia is a  fear of commitment or marriage

but that's not your case I told you you  just got cold feet and that's normal

you feel too frightened to do something that  you had planned to do something important

but let me tell you something I also  got cold feet before getting married

seriously but you and Mom you  have an awesome marriage life

you love each other so much that I always  dreamed of having a marriage like yours

well we've been together for more than 30 years  and hasn't been easy but we love each other

but as I was telling you I was also  frightened one day before getting married

my dad came to me and talked to me back  then and he gave me some tips about marriage

and now I will tell you the same things  he told me back then also my experience

the first thing you should understand is  that marriage is not easy it's not perfect

you will have arguments many times but  you will have to talk about those problems

because that's the key to have a good  marriage communication you understand

I understand Clara and I always try  to talk when something bothers us

that's great now that you live with her  those arguments will probably more often  

but if you learn how to communicate well you  won't have any problem solving that issue

with love and good communication I'm  sure you'll have a great relationship son

that's it it's not all I have to do  to have a perfect marriage like yours

well there are some other things you should  do if you want to improve your relationship

for example you can tell your spouse that  you're thankful for having her in your life

appreciate each other your relationship  your family and your lives together always

show gratitude when your partner  cooks dinner helps the kids with  

their homework or does the grocery shopping  

take a few minutes each evening to tell each  other at least one thing you appreciated that day  

that will help you have a better relationship and  your partner will feel you really appreciate her

I like that I love Clara so much I tell her  I love her every day and that I'm so lucky

well keep doing that then also  make time for you as a couple

with work and family responsibilities  it can be easy to lose the Romans Factor

plan special dates either to go out or just  stay at home but always spend time together

if you have children send them on a play date  while you relax talk and enjoy each other's  

company many people believe that because they  have children they have to forget about Romans

and that's not true you're a still husband  and wife and you have to show your love

but what is also so important is to plan  for some personal time just for yourself

alone time is just as important as couple  time everyone needs time to rechurch think  

or just enjoy personal interests that  time is often lost when you're married

especially if you have kids go out with  friends take a class or do volunteer work

whatever you find enriching when you're back  

together with your spouse you'll  appreciate each other even more

that kind of makes sense we have talked  about that and we have our own friends too

that's good also you need to  understand that it's okay to disagree

you won't agree on everything but it is important  to be fair and respectful during disagreements

listen to your exposed point  of view try not to get angry  

and don't let yourself become too frustrated

walk away and calm down if you need  to then discuss the problem again

compromise on problems so that you both  give a little remember that now you are one

and you have to solve your problems  as a couple oh also build trust

the more you engage in this destructive  activities the more likely you are to divorce

you have to take responsibility for  your actions always it's very important

do not blame just your wife when you fight  because you probably has responsibility to

and last but not least you should learn to  forgive that's something really important

everyone makes mistakes your spouse may hurt  your feelings or do something that upsets you

and that may make you angry even Furious but  it's important to deal with your feelings

let them go and move on don't keep  bringing up the past it doesn't work

remember to remain committed to your expose your  family and the life that you have built together

support each other emotionally and  in everyday ways support your spouse

you you're exposed and your relationship May  grow and change with the time that's for sure

but these ideas can help your marriage stay  successful over the years like your mom and me

wow you know a lot thank you so much that  I think I feel much better now thank you  

remember I will always be here for you my son  and now get up and get ready to get married  

you're right that I will get dressed right  now I will be the best husband in the world

you mean the second best husband  because I am the best one

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