Phrases for Conversation 😫 English Idioms & Phrases about STRESS

Hey there I'm Emma from mmmEnglish!

There are a lot of reasons why our stress levels

have been on the rise lately.

Our lives are incredibly busy, full of information,

ambition, problems and challenges to overcome.

For me, for you, for all of us, it is so important

to recognise stress and to try and manage it.

It's also really important to talk about it with others

and so that is exactly what this lesson is gonna

focus on, thirteen common English expressions

to talk about stress.

So get your pens out, get ready to take some notes.

I really want you to be thinking about

how these expressions could apply to your life.

I'll be sharing idioms, verbs, phrases to help you explain

and express stress so let's get into it.

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Like I said earlier,

we all live pretty busy lives. We work, study,

family, responsibility,

not enough money, not enough time, not enough sleep.

All of these things. I'm certain

that you have felt stressed at some point.

If not today,

then yesterday or last week or maybe a few months ago

and this is how we describe people when they're

tired, anxious or grumpy because they just have

too much going on.

We can feel stressed. We can look stressed.

We can be stressed.

And it's stressed not

but stressed.

So I know that it's really odd to pronounce -ed as a T

sound but that's a really common feature of English

pronunciation.

When the consonant before -ed is an unvoiced sound

like

This is an unvoiced sound so -ed is then pronounced

Stressed.

This is true for the adjective and also for the

past tense form of the verb 'stress' and I've got a whole

pronunciation lesson about this actually,

about past tense regular verbs.

You can watch it up

here if you're interested to learn a bit more about it.

But it's also really common to hear "stressed out"

and stressed out means exactly the same thing,

the phrases are really interchangeable.

Stressed. Stressed out.

I'm always stressed out at the end of the month

when our accounts are due.

Are you doing okay? You look a bit stressed.

What's stressing you out? What is it

that is stressing you out?

We use this phrase in the past and the present

to talk about what's causing stress, what creates stress.

For me, traffic always stresses me out.

Being in such a big crowd yesterday stressed me out.

You're stressing me out!

I don't want to do it because I know it will stress me out.

So did you notice how with all of those examples,

I was using them across tenses?

It's a really useful expression to remember,

to try and put into use.

Another synonym to describe how you're feeling

when you're stressed

is to be or to feel burnt out.

So when you're really tired and you're stressed

because you've been working hard

for way too long, you don't have any energy left

to do anything else, that's when you're burnt out.

By the end of final exams, both the teachers

and the students are completely burnt out.

And you also hear the noun 'burnout' used for that

complete exhaustion.

You always want to try and avoid burnout right

by taking time off and relaxing a little.

I feel like I've just created this whole lesson to offer

advice to myself.

Try to avoid burnout. Don't get stressed out.

Now when you're worried about lots of things

you know you're thinking about them all the time,

it's really distracting.

You can't focus and you're really mentally tired.

That is when you have a lot on your mind.

Okay so you know if you forget something

really important or you find yourself

not listening or not paying attention

to someone who's talking to you,

then this can be a really good way to excuse yourself.

Don't take what he said personally.

He's got so much on his mind at the moment.

I'm sure he's just really stressed out.

So a similar expression is 'to have a lot'

or 'too much on your plate'.

So think about going to a buffet right

and you've got your plate, you load up so much stuff

onto that plate. There's lots of delicious things

that you want to try

but you overdo it and everything starts

spilling off the sides of the plate right.

So if someone asks you to do something extra,

you know, on top of everything else you've got to do

that day, you might even say

"I'm sorry, I can't do it. I've just got

too much on my plate right now."

Are you sure you want to volunteer at the local church?

You've already got so much on your plate.

So again, when you feel stressed because you've got

too much to do or too many responsibilities

you're under pressure.

Okay you can use this phrase on its own

without any further explanation.

You can say "I don't know what's wrong with him.

I think he's under a lot of pressure at work."

You don't need to explain more detail

or you can be more specific and include an action.

You can say 'under pressure to do something' you know

to explain what is creating that stress and pressure.

He's under pressure to get

board approval by Wednesday.

It's also really common to hear that someone

put another person under pressure.

My boss has put me under a lot of pressure

to present the results by Friday.

I just don't think we can do it.

Do you feel under any pressure at the moment?

Is someone putting you under pressure?

Tell me about it down in the comments below.

Okay so this is very similar to 'under pressure'

but perhaps a little less formal right.

If you're under the pump,

it usually means that you have a specific task

that you need to do and there's a limited amount of

time that you have to finish it in so there's

urgency right? It's not just that you have

a lot of work to do

but you also have a limited amount of time

to get it done.

I won't be home by five tonight.

I'm under the pump to get this report finished today.

This expression has some great imagery.

What happens if you burn a candle

at both ends?

Very quickly, there won't be any candle left, right?

So if you're waking up early, going to bed late

in order to get more work done, then you are probably

burning the candle at both ends and you're probably

feeling exhausted and very quickly,

you'll completely run out of energy and enthusiasm

to get the task done right so this expression is great

for when you are doing a lot,

you're still coping but right now

you know that you can't continue to work at this rate

for much longer, right?

You're burning the candle at both ends.

Please try to take it easy over the weekend.

I'm worried you're burning the candle at both ends

and we need you to perform at Monday's meeting.

This is definitely not a good scenario when you

overload your schedule and trying to finish everything

but you completely exhaust yourself.

You burn yourself out by working too hard.

That's when you're working yourself into the ground.

Or you could say you're running yourself into the ground,

it's the same thing.

And interestingly this expression is usually reflexive

so the subject and the object are the same.

We say

I ran myself into the ground.

Or he worked himself into the ground.

I know I got sick

because I worked myself into the ground.

And that's when you're at breaking point.

Oh no, you can tell that things are getting worse

by the second here right?

This is bad when you've reached breaking point.

It's that moment when the build-up of stress

is so big inside of you that you break.

For me, this usually ends up in a whole lot of

tears and stressful crying.

Can you think of the last time

that you were at breaking point?

Hopefully, it's not too recently

or it doesn't happen too often

but have you ever been at breaking point?

Let me know about it.

To come apart at the seams.

This is another really fun idiom to imagine.

So imagine a stuffed toy, one that's been loved

for many years. He's very worn out and the seams,

the stitching starts to come undone,

and the stuffing starts to come out.

You know that he's not going to last for much longer

right, eventually the whole thing falls apart

and that is the feeling behind this phrase.

Everything is falling apart. Everything's going wrong.

Our customer complaints are up thirty per cent

since our manager resigned.

Everything is coming apart at the seams.

So you can use this expression in your home life,

personal relationships and also at work as well.

It's really versatile.

To snap.

This is a really great verb, it's a reaction

to being stressed or under pressure right.

So stress sometimes causes us to lose control

and we snap.

In an instant, we're not our normal selves,

we're annoyed, we're frustrated, we're angry.

And if we snap at someone,

we yell at them usually without warning,

usually it's quite unfair.

Stop watching TV! You've done nothing else all day.

That was me snapping at you because I'm stressed out.

I'm sorry I snapped at you. I've just had a really long day.

And an even more aggressive response would be

'to bite someone's head off'.

Sounds dangerous. Of course it's not a literal expression

but it's a great way to say that someone's really

freaked out and lost control because of stress.

They're annoyed, they're frustrated,

they yelled at someone who was probably innocent

and not asking for it.

And it's like whoa,

okay,

calm down.

My boss basically bit my head off

when I tried to ask for an extension!

It was a bit unreasonable.

So I hope that this lesson wasn't too stressful for you

and that you did learn a few new

and interesting expressions that you're able to

practise and explore this week.

Now I know that I shouldn't be getting you excited

about seeing someone stressed but try to

look out for this type of behaviour this week.

You know if you see your boss or a family member

stressed out about something

see if you can

apply some of these expressions you know.

Keep a notepad handy, a journal, just write them down.

If you're feeling stressed as well

it's actually good stress relief to write down

and to vent and to let all these things go

but try to use some of these expressions as you do.

And for your final challenge today, I want you to choose

three of the idioms or expressions

that I shared in today's lesson

and write a short paragraph using them

down in the comments below this video.

I'm going to come down, check them out

and give you some feedback if you need it very soon.

Thank you for joining me.

Like I said, I hope I didn't stress you out

or you're not too stressed

but it is important to be able to talk about

how you're feeling right.

Make sure you check back for new videos

full of everyday useful English expressions

just like these ones.

I will see you in the next one.

Bye for now!