Steven Sharp Nelson: How to find peace with loss through music | TED

Transcriber:

Translator: aditya prayogi Reviewer: Maria Nainggolan

(Alunan musik Bach’s “Cello Suite No. 1 in G Major, Prelude”)

(Plays Bach's "Cello Suite No. 1 in G Major, Prelude")

(Memainkan The Piano Guys’ “Cello Song”)

(Plays The Piano Guys' "Cello Song")

(Sorak tepuk tangan)

(Cheers and applause)

(Tepuk tangan berakhir)

Terima kasih. Terima kasih banyak

Victor Borge pernah berkata,

“Aku berterima kasih kepada orang tuaku karena telah menyukseskan acara ini,

(Applause ends)

dan kepada anakku yang ikut membuatnya berarti.”

Thank you. Thank you so much.

As Victor Borge used to say,

(Tertawa)

"I'd like to thank my parents for making this performance possible,

Orang-orang terdekat kita membuat hidup lebih berwarna --

and my children for making it necessary."

dan bermakna untuk dijalani.

(Laughter)

Aku akan membawamu dalam perjalanan musik

So many people in our lives make our life purpose possible --

yang bisa menyatukanmu dengan orang tersebut,

seseorang yang sangat kita cintai,

and necessary.

seseorang yang ingin kita rengkuh lebih lama,

I'd like to take you on a musical journey

that connects you with one of those people,

seseorang yang diharapkan masih bersama kita.

someone you love dearly,

Ini adalah ibuku.

someone you wanted to have a little more time to love,

Beliau cantik, bukan?

someone you wish was still with you.

dan si kecil ini (mendehem).

This is my mom.

Yah. Dia adalah aku.

Isn't she beautiful?

Nah, jangan terpedaya akan senyum polos dan gaya rambut keren ala Beatlesnya:

And then there's this guy. (Clears throat)

Aku ini anak yang bermasalah.

Yeah. I'm afraid that's me.

Tapi coba lihat, aku tampak bahagia saat bersama ibuku.

Now, don't let that childlike grin and superstylish Beatles haircut fool you:

Beliau adalah jenis sopran termerdu yang pernah ada,

I was trouble.

But as you could see, I was happy when I was with my mom.

dianugerahi bakat suara setara malaikat.

Beliau bisa saja jadi pusat perhatian dimana pun -- bahkan dunia --

She's one of the greatest lyrical sopranos that's ever lived,

sayang, beliau melepaskannya begitu saja

ineffably gifted with the voice of an angel.

demi diriku.

She could have had center stage anywhere -- anywhere in the world --

Panggung ini diserahkan padaku.

Beliau selalu ada di sisiku saat aku tengah gugup luar biasa

but she gave that up

mementaskan acara besar,

to be my mom.

berkeliling dunia bersama The Piano Guys,

She gave me this stage with you today.

atau saat usai pementasan

She's been by my side when I've been particularly nervous

hingga berjuang keras melawan kecemasan dan depresi.

for a big performance,

touring the world with The Piano Guys,

Atau saat aku merasa dikendalikan

or when I've been off the stage

oleh iblis jahat yang dikenal sebagai rasa tidak mampu

and struggling and at the mercy of anxiety and depression.

yang biasa kita hadapi.

Or when I felt like I'm under the thumb

Beliau mendorongku lembut

of this perniciously pervasive demon known as inadequacy

pada saat aku sudah ingin menyerah.

that so many of us are fighting.

Aku menjadi musisi hingga saat ini, bukan hanya apa yang dilepaskan demi aku,

She's gently nudged me forward

right at the moment when I've felt like giving up.

melainkan juga karena apa yang tak henti-henti beliau berikan.

Dukungan adalah kekuatan terhebat.

So I'm a musician today, not only because of what she gave up for me,

Mengapa?

but also because of what she continues to give me.

Karena hal itu berasal dari tempat yang sulit kita ketahui.

And that support is profound and especially powerful.

Tak lama saat foto pertamaku diambil,

Why?

Because it comes from a place about which we know very little.

ibuku mendadak jatuh pingsan, sungguh mengerikan.

Not long after that first picture I showed you was taken,

Momen penuh ketegangan.

my mother fell to the floor of our home suddenly, in this really scary seizure.

Ayahku bergegas ke ruang gawat darurat:

Tumor otak.

Such an intense moment.

Tak disangka.

Dokter tidak tahu berapa lama beliau dapat bertahan

My dad rushed her to the ER:

mungkin satu sampai tiga tahun.

brain tumor.

A big one.

Tetapi, berkat kekuatannya dan keajaiban maha kuasa,

The doctors didn't know how long we'd have with her --

one, two, maybe three years before we'd lose her.

beliau dapat berjuang melawan tumor otak yang menggeranyanginya

But due to her strength and a series of indescribable miracles,

selama 18 tahun.

(tepuk tangan)

she defied that prognosis and fought that brain tumor

Terima kasih.

Akan kusampaikan pujian itu padanya. Terima kasih.

for 18 years.

(Applause)

Thank you.

Beliau berjuang melawan tumor otak selama 18 tahun, coba pikir:

I'll let her know. Thank you.

Tahun-tahun yang dilewati pastinya sulit untuk kita bayangkan.

Tapi, kami senantiasa belajar bersyukur.

She fought that brain tumor for 18 years, but think about it:

some of those years were really rough, as you can imagine.

Kini, saat perjuangannya usai, berat sekali menerimanya,

But we learned to be grateful for every day.

karena aku tak siap kehilangannya.

Usai ibuku meninggal, kukurung diri dalam kemarahan, kegetiran, kebencian

Now, when her final curtain call came, I couldn't applaud,

because I wasn't ready for it to end.

dan kebingungan, saat segalanya direnggut dariku,

So after she passed away, I spent some time being angry, bitter, resentful,

Aku takkan lagi mendengar suara sopran dari wanita cantik ini;

confused at these years that were stolen from me,

mendengarkannya beryanyi lantang tanpa beban;

at the chance I never had to know the soprano in this beautiful woman;

ikut memeriahkan panggung bersama -- oh, aku selalu ingin

to hear her sing in full voice without pain;

bermain musik cello bersamanya,

menatap wajah cantiknya kala bernyayi.

Oh, aku selalu ingin mendapatkan kesempatan itu.

to perform with her -- oh, I would have loved that,

Sayang, tak pernah kesampaian.

just me playing the cello right next to her,

just looking up at her beautiful face singing.

Tapi aku berjuang sampai titik ini, sungguh.

Oh, I would have loved that chance.

Lalu, aku menyadari sesuatu,

I never got that chance.

sesuatu yang memaksaku berada di atas panggung ini,

So I struggled with this, I really did.

But then, I discovered something,

mencurahkan isi hatiku hari ini.

Apakah benar melodis terdalam hidup kita biasa dituangkan

something that has compelled me to be on this stage,

pada simfoni kegelapan dari perjuangan kita?

talking with you today.

Dalam simfoni gelap ini, aku menemukan obat penawar seorang ibu?

Isn't it true that our life's most sublime melodies tend to be written

during the dark symphonies of our struggle?

Hal yang membuatku luka adalah hal sama yang membuatku terobati:

And in this dark symphony, I found the healing for Mother --?

yaitu kekuatan musik.

The very thing that had wounded me was the same thing that healed me:

Sejak itu, kuhabiskan waktu-waktu berharga bersama ibuku.

the power of music.

Lewat musik, aku mendapati

orang-orang yang meninggalkan kita, sama sekali tak meninggalkan kita,

You see, since then, I've spent some very special time with my mom.

dan lubang yang ditinggalkan dari dalam diri kita

Through music, I've discovered

bukan dimaksudkan untuk diisi orang atau hal lain.

that the people we've lost aren't lost at all,

and the holes their absence leaves inside us

Melainkan, sengaja dibiarkan, menjadi tempat kedamaian,

are not meant to be filled by someone or something else.

kita disuruh mengungsi ke lokasi tersebut,

supaya terhubung dan berkumpul kembali dengan orang yang kita cintai

Instead, they are intentional, mindful places,

untuk menemukan mereka, cukup menyenangkan, cukup berarti

meant for us to go to take refuge,

dan entah mengapa, masih berhubungan dengan sendi hidup kita.

to reconnect and to reunite with our loved ones,

to find them there, still interested, still invested

Dengan cara ini kutemukan ibuku.

and somehow, still involved in the details of our lives.

Aku tak bisa membuktikannya secara ilmiah;

karena tidak ada kesempatan saja.

That is where I found my mom.

Tetapi secara spiritual, membantuku mengambil langkah pertama,

Now, I can't prove this to you with science;

pada akhirnya, kita harus ke sana dengan cara kita sendiri.

there's no chance.

And spirituality helped me take the first step,

Musik dan kekuatannya bisa bertindak sebagai alat penuntun

but ultimately, you just have to go there yourself in your own way.

dalam sebuah perjalanan luar- biasa bermakna.

And music, the power of music, can act as a guide for you

Jika mau, akan kubimbing kalian ke sana sekarang.

on this incredible, important journey.

Dan kuingin menunjukan pada kalian kalau-kalau dibutuhkan nantinya,

If you're willing, I'd like to go there together right now.

saat kau ingin menyendiri,

dan putarlah lagu sesuai dengan kepribadianmu,

And I want to show this to you because if you need to use this later on,

akan kutunjukan cara kerjanya.

Silahkan, kuingin kalian memejamkan mata.

when you're on your own in a quiet place,

and you've got a song that's personal to you,

Bayangkan sosok yang kalian cintai, yang ingin kalian temui.

I want to show you how this can work.

I'd like you to close your eyes if you would, please.

Sosok yang selalu kalian pikirkan, sama sepertiku.

Choose a loved one you want to connect with.

Kuingin kalian juga membayangkan tempat menyenangkan

It could be someone you've already been thinking about as I've been talking.

tempat penuh kedamaian.

Sebuah tempat yang kalian berdua sukai.

I want you to picture a favorite place,

Coba bayangkan, sosok tercinta itu duduk atau berdiri di depan kalian

a relaxing place.

It could be a place that you both adored together.

Bayangkan sedetil mungkin; itu penting.

Apa yang mereka kenakan?

Now picture your loved one sitting or standing across from you.

Bagaimana postur tubuh, raut wajah mereka?

Make this as detailed as you can; it's important.

apakah itu senyuman?

What are they wearing?

Apakah tatapannya menghangatkan?

What is their posture, their expression?

Atau adakah harapan di matanya?

Kuingin kalian merengkuh sosok ini,

Is it a smile?

Is it a look of concern?

kalian bisa terus membayangkan selagi mata kalian terpejam,

Or is hope written in their eyes?

atau membukanya: terserah kalian.

Tapi, kuingin kalian membayangkan tinggal di tempat ini

I want you to hold this image in your mind,

selagi kumainkan sebuah musik.

and you could do so continually with your eyes closed,

Musik ini belum pernah kupentaskan di publik.

or you can open them; it's up to you.

Mengapa? Karena kutakut hal itu tak adil bagiku.

But I want you to live in this place

while I play for you one more piece of music.

Ini adalah musik favorit ibuku.

It's a piece I've never performed in public.

Dan selagi kumainkan musik, kuingin kalian bercakap-cakap

Why? Because I feared that I wouldn't do it justice.

dengan sosok menawan ini di depan kalian.

Kuingin kau menggenggam tangannya, merengkuhnya lebih lama,

It's my mom's favorite.

And as I play, I want you to have a conversation

with this beautiful person across from you.

meminta maaflah,

atau jika perlu, maafkanlah mereka.

I want you to hold their hand, share a long hug,

Mintailah pertolongan pada seseorang yang tengah berjuang bersama kalian.

ask for forgiveness

or finally give of it freely if you need to.

Sampaikan rasa syukur kepada mereka karena telah membuat hidup kalian

Ask for help with something you're struggling with.

berwarna dan bermakna.

At the very least, express gratitude for how they've made you possible

Ekspresikan cinta.

Teruntuk ibuku seorang soprano,

and necessary.

Express love.

dengan bakat suara bak malaikat

My mother is a soprano,

dan suaranya masih terdengar manis

mengalun bersama gagap gempita.

with the voice of an angel.

Selagi kumainkan musik, simaklah suara dari sosok malaikat kalian

And that voice for me is still sweet

and rings with a resounding relevance.

dan biarkan musik menemukan sosok tersebut.

And as I play, I hope you can hear the voice of your own angel

and let music find someone you've lost.

(Musik memainkan Puccini’s “Nessun dorma”)

(Plays Puccini's "Nessun dorma")

(Musik memainkan Puccini’s “Nessun dorma”)

(Plays Puccini's "Nessun dorma")

(Musik memainkan Puccini’s “Nessun dorma”)

(Plays Puccini's "Nessun dorma")

(Sorak tepuk tangan)

(Cheers and applause)