10 Taboo Questions in the USA: NEVER ask these questions

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ไธ‹ใฎ่‹ฑ่ชžๅญ—ๅน•ใ‚’ใƒ€ใƒ–ใƒซใ‚ฏใƒชใƒƒใ‚ฏใ™ใ‚‹ใจๅ‹•็”ปใ‚’ๅ†็”Ÿใงใใพใ™ใ€‚ ็ฟป่จณใ•ใ‚ŒใŸๅญ—ๅน•ใฏๆฉŸๆขฐ็ฟป่จณใงใ™ใ€‚

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Be careful what you say, let's talk about it.
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ใ‚ใชใŸใŒ่จ€ใ†ใ“ใจใซๆณจๆ„ใ—ใฆใใ ใ•ใ„ใ€ใใ‚Œใซใคใ„ใฆ่ฉฑใ—ใพใ—ใ‚‡ใ† ใ€‚ ไป–ใฎๆ–‡ๅŒ–ใฎ
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When you have conversations with people from other cultures, it's really important to be
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ไบบใ€…ใจไผš่ฉฑใ™ใ‚‹ใจใใฏ
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respectful of that person's culture.
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ใ€ใใฎไบบใฎๆ–‡ๅŒ–ใ‚’ๅฐŠ้‡ใ™ใ‚‹ใ“ใจใŒ้žๅธธใซ้‡่ฆใงใ™ใ€‚
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Of course, when we're talking with people from our own culture, we should be respectful
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ใ‚‚ใกใ‚ใ‚“ใ€ ็งใŸใกใŒ่‡ชๅˆ†ใฎๆ–‡ๅŒ–ใฎไบบใ€…ใจ่ฉฑใ™ใจใใฏใ€็งใŸใกใ‚‚ๆ•ฌๆ„ใ‚’ๆ‰•ใ†ๅฟ…่ฆใŒใ‚ใ‚Š
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too, but it's a little bit more complicated when we're talking with people from different
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ใพใ™ใŒใ€็•ฐใชใ‚‹ใƒใƒƒใ‚ฏใ‚ฐใƒฉใ‚ฆใƒณใƒ‰ใฎไบบใ€…ใจ่ฉฑใ™ใจใใฏใ€
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backgrounds because maybe you don't know which topics are acceptable to talk about or which
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ใฉใฎ ใƒˆใƒ”ใƒƒใ‚ฏใŒๅ—ใ‘ๅ…ฅใ‚Œใ‚‰ใ‚Œใ‚‹ใ‹ใ‚ใ‹ใ‚‰ใชใ„ใŸใ‚ใ€ๅฐ‘ใ—่ค‡้›‘ใซใชใ‚Šใพใ™ ใฉใฎ
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topics are taboo.
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ใƒˆใƒ”ใƒƒใ‚ฏใŒใ‚ฟใƒ–ใƒผใงใ‚ใ‚‹ใ‹ใซใคใ„ใฆ่ฉฑใ—ใพใ™ใ€‚
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Taboo means that if you talk about that topic in the wrong context, people will feel really
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ใ‚ฟใƒ–ใƒผใจใฏใ€ใใฎใƒˆใƒ”ใƒƒใ‚ฏใซใคใ„ใฆ ้–“้•ใฃใŸๆ–‡่„ˆใง่ฉฑใ™ใจใ€ไบบใ€…ใฏๆœฌๅฝ“ใซ
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uncomfortable.
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ไธๅฟซใซๆ„Ÿใ˜ใ‚‹ใ“ใจใ‚’ๆ„ๅ‘ณใ—ใพใ™ใ€‚
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It's inappropriate, it's just not polite.
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ใใ‚Œใฏไธ้ฉๅˆ‡ใงใ™ใ€ใใ‚ŒใฏใŸใ ็คผๅ„€ๆญฃใ—ใใ‚ใ‚Šใพใ›ใ‚“ใ€‚
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Today I'd like to help you learn 10 questions that you absolutely should not ask in American
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ไปŠๆ—ฅใฏ ใ€ใ‚ขใƒกใƒชใ‚ซใฎๆ–‡ๅŒ–ใงใฏ็ตถๅฏพใซ่žใ„ใฆใฏใ„ใ‘ใชใ„10ใฎ่ณชๅ•ใ‚’ๅญฆใถใŠๆ‰‹ไผใ„ใ‚’ใ—ใŸใ„ใจๆ€ใ„ใพใ™
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culture.
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These topics might be okay if you're talking with someone who you're really, really close
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ใ“ใ‚Œใ‚‰ใฎใƒˆใƒ”ใƒƒใ‚ฏใฏ ใ€ใ‚ใชใŸใŒๆœฌๅฝ“ใซใ€ๆœฌๅฝ“ใซ่ฟ‘ใใซใ„ใ‚‹่ชฐใ‹ใจ่ฉฑใ—ใฆใ„ใ‚‹ใชใ‚‰ๅคงไธˆๅคซใ‹ใ‚‚ใ—ใ‚Œ
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to, but that's not really the situation that we're talking about here.
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ใพใ›ใ‚“ใŒใ€ใใ‚Œ ใฏ็งใŸใกใŒใ“ใ“ใง่ฉฑใ—ใฆใ„ใ‚‹็Šถๆณใงใฏใ‚ใ‚Šใพใ›ใ‚“ใ€‚
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For this lesson, we're going to imagine three situations.
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ใ“ใฎใƒฌใƒƒใ‚นใƒณใงใฏใ€3ใคใฎ็Šถๆณใ‚’ๆƒณๅƒใ—ใพใ™ ใ€‚
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Number one, you run across someone that you know at the grocery store, don't ask these
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็ฌฌไธ€ใซใ€ ้ฃŸๆ–™ๅ“ๅบ—ใง็Ÿฅใ‚Šๅˆใ„ใซๅ‡บใใ‚ใ—ใŸใ‚Šใ€ใ“ใ‚Œใ‚‰ใฎ
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questions, or you are talking with a coworker in the office, don't ask these questions,
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่ณชๅ•ใ‚’ใ—ใŸใ‚Šใ—ใชใ„ใงใใ ใ•ใ„ใ€‚ใพใŸใฏใ€ใ‚ชใƒ•ใ‚ฃใ‚นใฎๅŒๅƒšใจ่ฉฑใ—ใฆใ„ใ‚‹ใ€ ใ“ใ‚Œใ‚‰ใฎ่ณชๅ•ใ‚’ใ—
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or maybe you're going out for coffee with a new friend or a coworker or someone you
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ใชใ„ใงใใ ใ•ใ„ใ€‚ใ‚ใ‚‹ใ„ใฏใ€ใ‚ณใƒผใƒ’ใƒผใ‚’้ฃฒใฟใซๅ‡บใ‹ใ‘ใ‚‹ๅ ดๅˆใ‚‚ใ‚ใ‚Šใพใ™ใ€‚ ๆ–ฐใ—ใ„ๅ‹้”ใ‚„ๅŒๅƒšใ€ใพใŸใฏ
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don't know that well, don't ask these questions.
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ใ‚ˆใ็Ÿฅใ‚‰ใชใ„ไบบใฏใ€ใ“ใ‚Œใ‚‰ใฎ่ณชๅ•ใ‚’ใ—ใชใ„ใงใใ ใ•ใ„ใ€‚
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Let's go to our first topic and question, topic number one is politics.
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ๆœ€ๅˆใฎใƒˆใƒ”ใƒƒใ‚ฏใจ่ณชๅ•ใซ่กŒใใพใ—ใ‚‡ใ† ใ€‚ใƒˆใƒ”ใƒƒใ‚ฏ1ใฏๆ”ฟๆฒปใงใ™ใ€‚
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The main questions that you should not ask are, "Who are you voting for?"
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ใ‚ใชใŸใŒๅฐ‹ใญใ‚‹ในใใงใฏใชใ„ไธปใช่ณชๅ• ใฏใ€ใ€Œใ‚ใชใŸใฏ่ชฐใซๆŠ•็ฅจใ—ใพใ™ใ‹๏ผŸใ€ใงใ™ใ€‚
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Or, "Who did you vote for?"
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ใพใŸใฏใ€ใ€Œ่ชฐใซๆŠ•็ฅจใ—ใพใ—ใŸใ‹๏ผŸใ€
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This just depends when the election was, if it was in the past or if it's going to be
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ใ“ใ‚Œใฏใ€้ธๆŒ™ใŒใ„ใคใ ใฃใŸใ‹ ใ€้ŽๅŽปใ ใฃใŸใ‹
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in the future.
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ใ€ๅฐ†ๆฅใซใชใ‚‹ใ‹ใซใ‚ˆใฃใฆ็•ฐใชใ‚Šใพใ™ใ€‚
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Even though this year is a presidential election year in the US and if you turn on the news
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ไปŠๅนดใฏ็ฑณๅ›ฝใฎๅคง็ตฑ้ ˜้ธๆŒ™ใฎ ๅนดใงใ‚ใ‚Šใ€ใƒ‹ใƒฅใƒผใ‚นใ‚’ใ‚ชใƒณใซใ™ใ‚‹ใจใ€
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you'll see so much information about this, we don't really talk about our personal voting
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ใ“ใ‚Œใซ้–ขใ™ใ‚‹ๅคšใใฎๆƒ…ๅ ฑใŒ่กจ็คบใ•ใ‚Œใพใ™ใŒใ€ ็งใŸใกใฎๅ€‹ไบบ็š„ใชๆŠ•็ฅจใฎ
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choices, unless it's with really, really, really close friends.
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้ธๆŠžใซใคใ„ใฆใฏใ€ๆœฌๅฝ“ใซใ€ๆœฌๅฝ“ใซใ€ๆœฌๅฝ“ใซ่ฟ‘ใ„ๅ ดๅˆใ‚’้™คใ„ใฆใ€ๅฎŸ้š›ใซใฏ่ฉฑใ—ใพใ›ใ‚“ใ€‚ ๅ‹้”ใ€‚
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On the other hand, Americans love bumper stickers and yard signs.
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ไธ€ๆ–นใ€ใ‚ขใƒกใƒชใ‚ซไบบใฏใƒใƒณใƒ‘ใƒผใ‚นใƒ†ใƒƒใ‚ซใƒผ ใ‚„ๅบญใฎ็œ‹ๆฟใŒๅคงๅฅฝใใงใ™ใ€‚
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So you might see on the back of someone's car, Biden, or on the back of someone's car,
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ใ—ใŸใŒใฃใฆใ€่ชฐใ‹ใฎ่ปŠใฎๅพŒใ‚ใซใ‚ใ‚‹ Bidenใ€่ชฐใ‹ใฎ่ปŠใฎๅพŒใ‚ใซใ‚ใ‚‹
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Trump, or a sign in someone's yard that says something similar about who they're voting
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Trumpใ€ใพใŸใฏ่ชฐใ‹ใฎๅบญใซใ‚ใ‚‹ใ€ ่ชฐใซๆŠ•็ฅจใ™ใ‚‹ใ‹ใซใคใ„ใฆไผผใŸใ‚ˆใ†ใชใ“ใจใ‚’็คบใ™็œ‹ๆฟใŒ่กจ็คบใ•ใ‚Œใ‚‹ๅ ดๅˆใŒใ‚ใ‚Šใพใ™
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for.
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But even if someone has a bumper sticker or a sign in their yard, they probably don't
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ใ—ใ‹ใ—ใ€่ชฐใ‹ใŒ่‡ชๅˆ†ใฎๅบญใซใƒใƒณใƒ‘ใƒผใ‚นใƒ†ใƒƒใ‚ซใƒผใ‚„็œ‹ๆฟใ‚’ๆŒใฃใฆใ„ใŸใจใ—ใฆใ‚‚ใ€่ชฐใซ
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want to debate you about who you should vote for or who they're voting for.
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ๆŠ•็ฅจใ™ในใใ‹ใ€่ชฐใซๆŠ•็ฅจใ™ใ‚‹ใ‹ใซใคใ„ใฆใ€ใŠใใ‚‰ใใ‚ใชใŸใซ่ญฐ่ซ–ใ—ใŸใใชใ„ใงใ—ใ‚‡ใ† ใ€‚
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Usually, this is still considered an inappropriate topic to ask about.
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้€šๅธธใ€ใ“ใ‚Œใฏใพใ ่ณชๅ•ใ™ใ‚‹ใฎใซไธ้ฉๅˆ‡ใช ใƒˆใƒ”ใƒƒใ‚ฏใจ่ฆ‹ใชใ•ใ‚Œใพใ™ใ€‚
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Topic number two, family.
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ใƒˆใƒ”ใƒƒใ‚ฏ2ใ€ๅฎถๆ—ใ€‚
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Are you married?
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ใ‚ใชใŸใฏ็ตๅฉšใ—ใฆใ„ใพใ™ใ‹๏ผŸ
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Why not?
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ใชใœใ ใ‚ใงใ™ใ‹๏ผŸ
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Do you have kids?
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ๅญไพ›ใฏใ„ใพใ™ใ‹๏ผŸ
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Why not?
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ใชใœใ ใ‚ใงใ™ใ‹๏ผŸ
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Are you pregnant?
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ใ‚ใชใŸใŒๅฆŠๅจ ใ—ใฆใ„ใ‚‹๏ผŸ
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These topics are considered personal, especially if it's somebody who you've just met.
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ใ“ใ‚Œใ‚‰ใฎใƒˆใƒ”ใƒƒใ‚ฏใฏๅ€‹ไบบ็š„ใชใ‚‚ใฎใจ่ฆ‹ใชใ•ใ‚Œใพใ™ใ€‚็‰นใซ ใ€ไผšใฃใŸใฐใ‹ใ‚Šใฎไบบใฎๅ ดๅˆใฏใใ†ใงใ™ใ€‚
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I know that these types of family questions are considered no problem in other cultures,
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ใ“ใ‚Œใ‚‰ใฎใ‚ฟใ‚คใƒ—ใฎๅฎถๆ—ใฎ่ณชๅ• ใฏไป–ใฎๆ–‡ๅŒ–ใงใฏๅ•้กŒใชใ„ใจ่€ƒใˆใ‚‰ใ‚Œใฆใ„ใ‚‹ใ“ใจใ‚’็งใฏ็Ÿฅใฃใฆใ„ใพใ™
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but in the US these are personal and sensitive.
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ใŒใ€็ฑณๅ›ฝใงใฏใ“ใ‚Œใ‚‰ใฏๅ€‹ไบบ็š„ใงๆ•ๆ„Ÿใงใ™ใ€‚
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Imagine this situation, someone really wants to have kids and they've been trying to have
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ใ“ใฎ็Šถๆณใ‚’ๆƒณๅƒใ—ใฆใฟใฆใใ ใ•ใ„ใ€‚่ชฐใ‹ใŒๆœฌๅฝ“ใซๅญไพ›ใ‚’็”ฃใฟใŸใ„ใจๆ€ใฃ ใฆใ„ใฆใ€ๅญไพ›ใ‚’็”ฃใ‚‚ใ†ใจใ—ใฆใ„ใฆใ€
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kids and they can't, or they had a miscarriage, which means that they were pregnant and then
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ๅญไพ›ใ‚’็”ฃใ‚€ใ“ใจใŒใงใใชใ„ใ‹ใ€ๆต็”ฃใ—ใพใ— ใŸใ€‚ใคใพใ‚Šใ€ๅฆŠๅจ ใ—ใฆใ‹ใ‚‰
03:02
the baby died.
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่ตคใกใ‚ƒใ‚“ใŒไบกใใชใ‚Šใพใ—ใŸใ€‚
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This is a really sensitive situation and if you casually ask them, "Oh, why don't you
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ใ“ใ‚Œใฏๆœฌๅฝ“ใซใƒ‡ใƒชใ‚ฑใƒผใƒˆใช็Šถๆณใง ใ€ใ•ใ‚Šใ’ใชใใ€Œใ‚ใ‚ใ€
03:09
have kids?" or, "When are you going to have kids?" this really touches something inside
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ๅญไพ›ใŒใ„ใชใ„ใฎ๏ผŸใ€ใจ่žใใจใ€‚ ใพใŸใฏใ€ใ€Œใ„ใค ๅญไพ›ใ‚’็”ฃใ‚€ใฎใงใ™ใ‹๏ผŸใ€ ใ“ใ‚Œใฏ
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of them that's hard to talk about.
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ใ€ๅฝผใ‚‰ใฎไธญใซใ‚ใ‚‹ใ€่ฉฑใ™ใฎใŒ้›ฃใ—ใ„ไฝ•ใ‹ใซๆœฌๅฝ“ใซ่งฆใ‚Œใฆใ„ใพใ™ใ€‚
03:19
Unless you are a really, really close friend, I recommend not asking, "Are you married?
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ใ‚ใชใŸใŒๆœฌๅฝ“ใซใ€ๆœฌๅฝ“ใซ่ฆชใ—ใ„ๅ‹ไบบใงใชใ„้™ใ‚Šใ€ ็งใฏใ€Œใ‚ใชใŸใฏ็ตๅฉšใ—ใฆใ„ใพใ™ใ‹๏ผŸ
03:24
Why not?
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ใชใœใใ†ใงใฏใ‚ใ‚Šใพใ›ใ‚“ใ‹
03:25
Do you have kids?
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๏ผŸใ‚ใชใŸใซใฏๅญไพ›ใŒใ„ใพใ™ใ‹๏ผŸ
03:26
Why not?"
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ใชใœใใ†ใงใฏใ‚ใ‚Šใพใ›ใ‚“ใ‹๏ผŸใ€ใจๅฐ‹ใญใชใ„ใ“ใจใ‚’ใŠๅ‹งใ‚ใ—ใพใ™ใ€‚
03:28
Just as a little notice, especially as someone who recently had a baby a couple months ago,
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ใกใ‚‡ใฃใจใ—ใŸ้€š็ŸฅใจๅŒใ˜ใ‚ˆใ†ใซใ€็‰นใซ ๆ•ฐใ‹ๆœˆๅ‰ใซๆœ€่ฟ‘่ตคใกใ‚ƒใ‚“ใ‚’
03:34
never, never, never ask a woman if she is pregnant.
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็”ฃใ‚“ใ ไบบใฎใ‚ˆใ†ใซใ€ๆฑบใ—ใฆใ€ๆฑบใ—ใฆใ€ๆฑบใ—ใฆใ€ๆฑบใ—ใฆๅฅณๆ€งใซๅฆŠๅจ ใ—ใฆใ„ใ‚‹ใ‹ใฉใ†ใ‹ๅฐ‹ใญใชใ„ใงใใ ใ•ใ„ ใ€‚
03:38
Do you know what this means?
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ใ“ใ‚ŒใŒไฝ•ใ‚’ๆ„ๅ‘ณใ™ใ‚‹ใ‹็Ÿฅใฃใฆใ„ใพใ™ใ‹๏ผŸ
03:39
This means your tummy is visibly big.
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ใ“ใ‚Œใฏใ‚ใชใŸใฎใŠใชใ‹ใŒ็›ฎใซ่ฆ‹ใˆใฆๅคงใใ„ใ“ใจใ‚’ๆ„ๅ‘ณใ—ใพใ™ใ€‚
03:44
Well, they could be pregnant, but what if they're not?
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ใพใ‚ใ€ๅฝผใ‚‰ใฏๅฆŠๅจ ใ—ใฆใ„ใ‚‹ๅฏ่ƒฝๆ€งใŒใ‚ใ‚Šใพใ™ใŒใ€ใใ†ใงใชใ„ๅ ดๅˆใฏใฉใ† ใชใ‚Šใพใ™ใ‹๏ผŸ
03:48
What if they're just a little bit overweight or what if they just had a baby and they still
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ๅฝผใ‚‰ใŒใปใ‚“ใฎๅฐ‘ใ—ๅคชใ‚Šใ™ใŽใฎ ๅ ดๅˆใ€ใพใŸใฏๅฝผใ‚‰ใŒใกใ‚‡ใ†ใฉ่ตคใกใ‚ƒใ‚“ใ‚’็”ฃใ‚“ใงใ„ใฆใ€ๅฝผใ‚‰ใŒใพใ ๅฐ‘ใ—ใŠใชใ‹ใ‚’ๆŒใฃใฆใ„ใ‚‹ๅ ดๅˆใฏใฉใ†ใชใ‚Š
03:53
have a little tummy?
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ใพใ™ใ‹๏ผŸ
03:54
Well, this could be a really uncomfortable situation.
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ใพใ‚ใ€ใ“ใ‚Œใฏๆœฌๅฝ“ใซไธๅฟซใช็Šถๆณใ‹ใ‚‚ใ—ใ‚Œใพใ›ใ‚“ ใ€‚
03:58
I saw a funny quote once that said, "Never ask a woman if she's pregnant.
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ใ€Œ ๅฆŠๅจ ใ—ใฆใ„ใ‚‹ใ‹ใฉใ†ใ‹ใฏ็ตถๅฏพ
04:03
Even if she is actively in labor, don't ask her until you see the baby."
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ใซ่žใ‹ใชใ„ใงใใ ใ•ใ„ใ€‚ๅ‡บ็”ฃใŒๆดป็™บใชๅ ดๅˆใงใ‚‚ ใ€่ตคใกใ‚ƒใ‚“ใŒ่ฆ‹ใˆใ‚‹ใพใงใฏ่žใ‹ใชใ„ใงใใ ใ•ใ„ใ€ใจใ„ใ†ใŠใ‹ใ—ใช่จ€่‘‰ใ‚’ไธ€ๅบฆ่ฆ‹ใพใ—ใŸใ€‚
04:09
Maybe this is a little bit of an exaggeration, but if you ask someone are you pregnant, you'd
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ใ“ใ‚Œใฏๅฐ‘ใ—่ช‡ๅผตใ‹ใ‚‚ใ—ใ‚Œใพใ› ใ‚“ใŒใ€่ชฐใ‹ใซใ‚ใชใŸใŒๅฆŠๅจ ใ—ใฆใ„ใ‚‹ใจๅฐ‹ใญใ‚‹ๅ ดๅˆใฏ
04:14
better be 100% sure that they are pregnant.
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ใ€ๅฝผใ‚‰ใŒๅฆŠๅจ ใ—ใฆใ„ใ‚‹ใ“ใจใ‚’100๏ผ…็ขบไฟกใ—ใฆใ„ใ‚‹ๆ–นใŒใ‚ˆใ„ใงใ—ใ‚‡ใ†ใ€‚ ใจใซใ‹ใ
04:19
It's a little bit safer to let them bring up this topic anyway.
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ๅฝผใ‚‰ใซใ“ใฎใƒˆใƒ”ใƒƒใ‚ฏใ‚’ๅ–ใ‚ŠไธŠใ’ใ•ใ›ใ‚‹ๆ–นใŒๅฐ‘ใ—ๅฎ‰ๅ…จ ใงใ™ใ€‚
04:23
Maybe if you're having a conversation and you see that they're probably pregnant, wait
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ใŸใถใ‚“ใ€ไผš่ฉฑ ใ‚’ใ—ใฆใ„ใฆใ€ใŠใใ‚‰ใๅฆŠๅจ ใ—ใฆใ„ใ‚‹ใ“ใจใŒใ‚ใ‹ใฃใŸใ‚‰
04:27
until they say, "Oh yeah, I've been feeling really tired lately," or, "I'm feeling the
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ใ€ใ€Œใ‚ใ‚ใ€ๆœ€่ฟ‘ๆœฌๅฝ“ใซ็–ฒใ‚Œใฆใ„ใ‚‹ใ€ใพใŸใฏใ€Œ่ตคใกใ‚ƒใ‚“ใฎใ‚ญใƒƒใ‚ฏใ‚’ๆ„Ÿใ˜ใฆใ„ใ‚‹ใ€ใจ่จ€ใ‚ใ‚Œใ‚‹ใพใงๅพ…ใฃใฆใใ ใ•ใ„ใ€‚
04:32
baby's kicks," okay, now it's a safe topic.
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ใ€ไปŠใงใฏๅฎ‰ๅ…จใชใƒˆใƒ”ใƒƒใ‚ฏใงใ™ใ€‚
04:36
Our next taboo topic is sexuality.
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ๆฌกใฎใ‚ฟใƒ–ใƒผใƒˆใƒ”ใƒƒใ‚ฏใฏใ‚ปใ‚ฏใ‚ทใƒฅใ‚ขใƒชใƒ†ใ‚ฃใงใ™ใ€‚
04:38
If a man mentions something about his boyfriend or a woman mentions something about her girlfriend,
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็”ทๆ€งใŒๅฝผใฎใƒœใƒผใ‚คใƒ•ใƒฌใƒณใƒ‰ ใซใคใ„ใฆไฝ•ใ‹ใ‚’่จ€ๅŠใ—ใŸใ‚Šใ€ๅฅณๆ€งใŒๅฝผๅฅณใฎใ‚ฌใƒผใƒซใƒ•ใƒฌใƒณใƒ‰ใซใคใ„ใฆไฝ•ใ‹ใ‚’่จ€ๅŠใ—ใŸใ‚Šใ™ใ‚‹ๅ ดๅˆ
04:45
do not ask, "Oh, are you gay?"
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ใ€ใ€Œใ‚ใ‚ใ€ใ‚ใชใŸใฏใ‚ฒใ‚คใงใ™ใ‹๏ผŸใ€ใจๅฐ‹ใญใชใ„ใงใใ ใ•ใ„ใ€‚
04:47
This is the 21st century, it is not shocking, or it should not be shocking, when someone
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ใ“ใ‚Œใฏ21ไธ–็ด€ใงใ‚ใ‚Šใ€ ่ชฐใ‹ใŒๅŒๆ€งๆ„›่€…ใงใ‚ใ‚‹ๅ ดๅˆใ€่กๆ’ƒ็š„ใงใฏใชใ„ใ‹ใ€่กๆ’ƒ็š„ใงใ‚ใฃใฆใฏใชใ‚Šใพใ›ใ‚“
04:52
is gay.
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ใ€‚
04:53
Just a little quick note.
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ใกใ‚‡ใฃใจใ—ใŸใƒกใƒขใ€‚
04:54
If a man or woman says my partner talking about the person who they live with, this
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็”ทๆ€งใพใŸใฏๅฅณๆ€งใŒ็งใฎใƒ‘ใƒผใƒˆใƒŠใƒผ ใŒๅฝผใ‚‰ใจไธ€็ท’ใซไฝใ‚“ใงใ„ใ‚‹ไบบใซใคใ„ใฆ่ฉฑใ—ใฆใ„ใ‚‹ใจ่จ€ใฃใŸๅ ดๅˆใ€ใ“ใ‚Œ
05:00
doesn't always mean that it's a same-sex partner.
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ใฏๅฟ…ใšใ—ใ‚‚ใใ‚ŒใŒๅŒๆ€งใฎใƒ‘ใƒผใƒˆใƒŠใƒผใงใ‚ใ‚‹ใ“ใจใ‚’ๆ„ๅ‘ณใ™ใ‚‹ใ‚ใ‘ใงใฏใ‚ใ‚Šใพใ›ใ‚“ใ€‚
05:04
It might mean this, but it could just mean that they are in a committed long-term relationship.
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ใใ‚Œใฏใ“ใ‚Œใ‚’ๆ„ๅ‘ณใ™ใ‚‹ใ‹ใ‚‚ใ—ใ‚Œใพใ›ใ‚“ใŒใ€ใใ‚Œใฏ ๅฝผใ‚‰ใŒใ‚ณใƒŸใƒƒใƒˆใ•ใ‚ŒใŸ้•ทๆœŸ็š„ใช้–ขไฟ‚ใซใ‚ใ‚‹ใ“ใจใ‚’ๆ„ๅ‘ณใ™ใ‚‹ใ‹ใ‚‚ใ—ใ‚Œใพใ›ใ‚“ใ€‚
05:10
Sometimes if you are living with someone and you are committed to them, you don't want
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ใ‚ใชใŸใŒ่ชฐใ‹ใจไธ€็ท’ใซไฝใ‚“ใงใ„ใฆใ€ ใ‚ใชใŸใŒๅฝผใ‚‰ใซใ‚ณใƒŸใƒƒใƒˆใ—ใฆใ„ใ‚‹ใชใ‚‰ใ€ใ‚ใชใŸใฏ
05:14
to call them just your boyfriend or your girlfriend.
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ๅฝผใ‚‰ใ‚’ใ‚ใชใŸใฎใƒœใƒผใ‚คใƒ•ใƒฌใƒณใƒ‰ใ‚„ใ‚ใชใŸใฎใ‚ฌใƒผใƒซใƒ•ใƒฌใƒณใƒ‰ใ ใ‘ใจๅ‘ผใณใŸใใชใ„ใ“ใจใŒใ‚ใ‚Šใพใ™ใ€‚
05:18
In this way, it's a little bit casual, it's not so serious.
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ใ“ใฎใ‚ˆใ†ใซใ€ใใ‚Œใฏๅฐ‘ใ—ใ‚ซใ‚ธใƒฅใ‚ขใƒซใงใ™ใ€ใใ‚Œ ใฏใใ‚Œใปใฉๆทฑๅˆปใงใฏใ‚ใ‚Šใพใ›ใ‚“ใ€‚
05:22
If you are in a same-sex relationship, or if you are not and you just aren't married,
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ใ‚ใชใŸใŒๅŒๆ€งใฎ้–ขไฟ‚ใซใ‚ใ‚‹ๅ ดๅˆใ€ใพใŸใฏ ใ‚ใชใŸใŒใใ†ใงใฏใชใใ€ใ‚ใชใŸใŒ็ตๅฉšใ—ใฆใ„ใชใ„ๅ ดๅˆใฏใ€
05:27
well, you could call them my partner.
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ใพใ‚ใ€ใ‚ใชใŸใฏๅฝผใ‚‰ใ‚’็งใฎใƒ‘ใƒผใƒˆใƒŠใƒผใจๅ‘ผใถใ“ใจใŒใงใใพใ™ใ€‚
05:30
If you happen to be talking with someone and they say, "Oh yeah, I need to call my partner
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ใ‚‚ใ—ใ‚ใชใŸใŒใŸใพใŸใพ่ชฐใ‹ใจ่ฉฑใ—ใฆใ„ ใฆใ€ๅฝผใ‚‰ใŒใ€Œใใ†ใใ†ใ€็งใฏ็งใฎใƒ‘ใƒผใƒˆใƒŠใƒผใซ้›ป่ฉฑใ—ใฆใ“ใ‚Œใซใคใ„ใฆๅฝผใ‚‰ใซๅฐ‹ใญใ‚‹ๅฟ…่ฆใŒใ‚ใ‚‹ใ€ใจ่จ€ใฃใŸใจใ—ใฆใ‚‚ใ€
05:34
and ask them about this," it doesn't mean necessarily that it's a same-sex partner.
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ใใ‚Œใฏๅฟ…ใšใ—ใ‚‚ๅŒๆ€งใฎใƒ‘ใƒผใƒˆใƒŠใƒผใงใ‚ใ‚‹ใจใ„ใ†ๆ„ๅ‘ณใงใฏใ‚ใ‚Šใพใ›ใ‚“ ใ€‚
05:39
It might mean that it might not.
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ใใ‚Œใฏใใ†ใงใฏใชใ„ใ‹ใ‚‚ใ—ใ‚Œใชใ„ใ“ใจใ‚’ๆ„ๅ‘ณใ™ใ‚‹ใ‹ใ‚‚ใ—ใ‚Œใพใ›ใ‚“ใ€‚
05:41
But in any situation, it's not polite to say, "Oh, are you gay?"
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ใ—ใ‹ใ—ใ€ใฉใ‚“ใช็Šถๆณใงใ‚‚ใ€ ใ€Œใ‚ใ‚ใ€ใ‚ใชใŸใฏๅŒๆ€งๆ„›่€…ใงใ™ใ‹๏ผŸใ€ใจ่จ€ใ†ใฎใฏ็คผๅ„€ๆญฃใ—ใใ‚ใ‚Šใพใ›ใ‚“ใ€‚
05:46
Just take it in stride.
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ใŸใ ใใ‚Œใ‚’ไธ€ๆญฉ่ธใฟๅ‡บใ—ใฆใใ ใ•ใ„ใ€‚
05:48
Our next taboo topic is religion.
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ๆฌกใฎใ‚ฟใƒ–ใƒผใƒˆใƒ”ใƒƒใ‚ฏใฏๅฎ—ๆ•™ใงใ™ใ€‚
05:51
I don't recommend asking, "Do you go to church?" or saying, "Don't do this, it's a sin."
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ใ€Œๆ•™ไผšใซ่กŒใใพใ™ใ‹๏ผŸใ€ใจๅฐ‹ใญใ‚‹ใ“ใจใฏใŠๅ‹งใ‚ใ—ใพใ›ใ‚“ใ€‚ ใพใŸใฏใ€ใ€Œใ“ใ‚Œใ‚’ใ—ใชใ„ใงใใ ใ•ใ„ใ€ใใ‚Œใฏ็ฝชใงใ™ใ€ใจ่จ€ใ„ใพใ™ใ€‚
05:59
Even though the US has a reputation for being potentially more religious than some other
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็ฑณๅ›ฝใฏ ไป–ใฎๅ›ฝใ‚ˆใ‚Šใ‚‚ๆฝœๅœจ็š„ใซๅฎ—ๆ•™็š„ใงใ‚ใ‚‹ใจใ„ใ†่ฉ•ๅˆคใŒใ‚ใ‚Šใพใ™ใŒ
06:04
countries, it's still not considered acceptable to ask someone what their religion is.
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ใ€ใใ‚Œใงใ‚‚ ่ชฐใ‹ใซๅฝผใ‚‰ใฎๅฎ—ๆ•™ใŒไฝ•ใงใ‚ใ‚‹ใ‹ใ‚’ๅฐ‹ใญใ‚‹ใ“ใจใฏๅ—ใ‘ๅ…ฅใ‚Œใ‚‰ใ‚Œใชใ„ใจ่€ƒใˆใ‚‰ใ‚Œใฆใ„ใพใ™ใ€‚
06:10
Now, Americans will sometimes mention, "Oh, after I went to church, we went to the park,"
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ใ•ใฆใ€ใ‚ขใƒกใƒชใ‚ซไบบใฏๆ™‚ใ€…ใ€Œใ‚ใ‚ใ€ ็งใŒๆ•™ไผšใซ่กŒใฃใŸๅพŒใ€็งใŸใกใฏๅ…ฌๅœ’ใซ่กŒใฃใŸใ€
06:15
something about going to church.
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ใจ่จ€ใ†ใงใ—ใ‚‡ใ†ใ€ๆ•™ไผšใซ่กŒใใ“ใจใซใคใ„ใฆไฝ•ใ‹ใ€‚
06:18
It's acceptable to mention it yourself, but not really to ask someone else about it.
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่‡ชๅˆ†ใง่จ€ๅŠใ™ใ‚‹ใ“ใจใฏ่จฑๅฎนใ•ใ‚Œใพใ™ใŒใ€ ๅฎŸ้š›ใซใฏไป–ใฎไบบใซใใ‚Œใซใคใ„ใฆๅฐ‹ใญใ‚‹ใ“ใจใฏใงใใพใ›ใ‚“ใ€‚
06:24
Where I live in the south of the US, it's generally more a religious place, but that's
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็งใŒใ‚ขใƒกใƒชใ‚ซๅ—้ƒจใซไฝใ‚“ใงใ„ใ‚‹ใจใ“ใ‚ใฏใ€ ไธ€่ˆฌ็š„ใซๅฎ—ๆ•™็š„ใชๅ ดๆ‰€ใงใ™ใŒใ€ใใ‚Œ
06:29
because the majority of people are Protestant Christians, so they expect that everyone else
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ใฏๅคงๅคšๆ•ฐใฎไบบใ€…ใŒใƒ—ใƒญใƒ†ใ‚นใ‚ฟใƒณใƒˆใฎ ใ‚ญใƒชใ‚นใƒˆๆ•™ๅพ’ใงใ‚ใ‚‹ใŸใ‚ใงใ™ใ€‚ใ—ใŸใŒใฃใฆใ€ไป–ใฎใ™ในใฆใฎไบบใŒๅŒใ˜ๅฎ—ๆ•™ใ‚’ๆŒใฃใฆใ„ใ‚‹ใ“ใจใ‚’ๆœŸๅพ…ใ—ใฆใ„ใพใ™
06:35
has the same religion, which is not quite a realistic but that's the mindset.
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ใ€‚ใ“ใ‚Œใฏ็พๅฎŸ็š„ใงใฏใ‚ใ‚Šใพใ›ใ‚“ใŒใ€ ใใ‚ŒใŒ่€ƒใˆๆ–นใงใ™ใ€‚
06:42
When my family first moved to the south of the US, the maintenance man who was installing
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็งใฎๅฎถๆ—ใŒๆœ€ๅˆใซใ‚ขใƒกใƒชใ‚ซๅ—้ƒจใซๅผ•ใฃ่ถŠใ—ใŸใจใใ€็งใŸใกใฎๅ†ท่”ตๅบซ ใ‚’่จญ็ฝฎใ—ใฆใ„ใŸใƒกใƒณใƒ†ใƒŠใƒณใ‚นใƒžใƒณ
06:47
our refrigerator asked my mom, "Have you found a church yet?"
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ใŒ็งใฎๆฏใซใ€Œใ‚ใชใŸใฏใ‚‚ใ†ๆ•™ไผšใ‚’่ฆ‹ใคใ‘ใพใ— ใŸใ‹๏ผŸใ€ใจๅฐ‹ใญใพใ—ใŸใ€‚ ็ฑณๅ›ฝ
06:52
We were shocked, because in the north of the US this is not common to talk about.
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ๅŒ—้ƒจใงใฏ ใ“ใ‚Œใซใคใ„ใฆ่ฉฑใ™ใฎใฏไธ€่ˆฌ็š„ใงใฏใชใ„ใฎใงใ€็งใŸใกใฏใ‚ทใƒงใƒƒใ‚ฏใ‚’ๅ—ใ‘ใพใ—ใŸใ€‚
06:57
It's not expected that you would go to church, and it's especially not expected that you
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ใ‚ใชใŸใŒๆ•™ไผšใซ่กŒใใ“ใจใฏๆœŸๅพ…ใ•ใ‚Œใฆใ„ใพใ›ใ‚“ใ€ ใใ—ใฆใ‚ใชใŸใŒใ“ใ‚Œใซใคใ„ใฆ่ชฐใ‹ใซๅฐ‹ใญใ‚‹ใ“ใจใฏ็‰นใซๆœŸๅพ…ใ•ใ‚Œใฆใ„ใพใ›
07:02
would ask someone about this.
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07:04
So even if you're in the south of the US and someone asks you, I don't recommend you asking
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ใงใ™ใ‹ใ‚‰ใ€ใ‚ใชใŸใŒ็ฑณๅ›ฝๅ—้ƒจใซใ„ใฆ ่ชฐใ‹ใŒใ‚ใชใŸใซๅฐ‹ใญใŸใจใ—ใฆใ‚‚ใ€
07:10
yourself, because it's a little bit less acceptable.
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ใใ‚Œใฏๅฐ‘ใ—ๅ—ใ‘ๅ…ฅใ‚Œใ‚‰ใ‚Œใชใ„ใฎใงใ€ใ‚ใชใŸ่‡ช่บซใซๅฐ‹ใญใ‚‹ใ“ใจใฏใŠๅ‹งใ‚ใ—ใพใ›ใ‚“ใ€‚
07:15
Our next taboo topic is race.
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ๆฌกใฎใ‚ฟใƒ–ใƒผใƒˆใƒ”ใƒƒใ‚ฏใฏไบบ็จฎใงใ™ใ€‚
07:18
I don't recommend asking, "Where are you really from?"
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ใ€Œใ‚ใชใŸใฏๆœฌๅฝ“ใซใฉใ“ใ‹ใ‚‰ๆฅใŸใฎ๏ผŸใ€ใจๅฐ‹ใญใ‚‹ใ“ใจใฏใŠๅ‹งใ‚ใ—ใพใ›ใ‚“ ใ€‚
07:23
especially when someone is obviously from the US.
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็‰นใซ่ชฐใ‹ใŒๆ˜Žใ‚‰ใ‹ ใซ็ฑณๅ›ฝๅ‡บ่บซใฎๅ ดๅˆใ€‚
07:27
The US is such a diverse place, people come from all sorts of backgrounds, all sorts of
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ใ‚ขใƒกใƒชใ‚ซใฏใจใฆใ‚‚ๅคšๆง˜ใชๅ ดๆ‰€ใงใ€ไบบใ€… ใฏใ‚ใ‚‰ใ‚†ใ‚‹็จฎ้กžใฎ่ƒŒๆ™ฏใ€ใ‚ใ‚‰ใ‚†ใ‚‹็จฎ้กžใฎ้บ็”ฃใ‹ใ‚‰ๆฅใฆใ„ใพใ™
07:31
types of heritage, even if it was their great-great grandparents who moved to the US, a lot of
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ใ€‚ใŸใจใˆใใ‚ŒใŒ ใ‚ขใƒกใƒชใ‚ซใซ็งปไฝใ—ใŸๆ›ฝ็ฅ–็ˆถๆฏใงใ‚ใฃใŸใจใ—ใฆใ‚‚ใ€ๅคšใใฎ
07:38
people have different, looks, different backgrounds, different cultures, but they're still all
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ไบบใ€…ใฏ็•ฐใชใฃใŸใ€่ฆ‹ใŸ็›ฎใ€็•ฐใชใฃใŸ่ƒŒๆ™ฏใ‚’ๆŒใฃใฆใ„ใพใ™ใ€ ็•ฐใชใ‚‹ๆ–‡ๅŒ–ใงใ™ใŒใ€ใใ‚Œใงใ‚‚ใ™ในใฆ
07:44
American.
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ใ‚ขใƒกใƒชใ‚ซไบบใงใ™ใ€‚
07:45
This question often gets asked to my Asian-American friends.
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ใ“ใฎ่ณชๅ•ใฏใ€็งใฎใ‚ขใ‚ธใ‚ข็ณปใ‚ขใƒกใƒชใ‚ซไบบใฎๅ‹ไบบใซใ‚ˆใ่žใ‹ใ‚Œ ใพใ™ใ€‚
07:47
For example, I have a friend who, when I first met her, I thought, oh, she looks Korean,
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ใŸใจใˆใฐใ€็งใŒๆœ€ๅˆ ใซๅฝผๅฅณใซไผšใฃใŸใจใใ€ๅฝผๅฅณใฏ้Ÿ“ๅ›ฝไบบใซ่ฆ‹ใˆใ‚‹ใจๆ€ใฃใŸๅ‹ไบบใŒใ„ใพใ™
07:54
but she didn't have any type of accent.
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ใŒใ€ๅฝผๅฅณใซใฏใฉใ‚“ใช็จฎ้กžใฎใ‚ขใ‚ฏใ‚ปใƒณใƒˆใ‚‚ใ‚ใ‚Šใพใ›ใ‚“ใงใ—ใŸใ€‚
07:57
She seemed completely like someone from the US, so I didn't really ask her, "Are you Korean?"
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ๅฝผๅฅณใฏใพใ‚‹ใงใ‚ขใƒกใƒชใ‚ซไบบใฎใ‚ˆใ†ใ ใฃ ใŸใฎใงใ€็งใฏๅฝผๅฅณใซใ€Œใ‚ใชใŸใฏ้Ÿ“ๅ›ฝไบบใงใ™ใ‹๏ผŸใ€ใจใฏใ‚ใพใ‚Šๅฐ‹ใญใพใ›ใ‚“ใงใ—ใŸใ€‚
08:03
That would have been a little bit rude and presumptive.
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ใใ‚Œใฏๅฐ‘ใ—ๅคฑ็คผใงๆŽจๆธฌ็š„ใ ใฃใŸใงใ—ใ‚‡ใ† ใ€‚
08:07
Instead, I just didn't say anything.
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ไปฃใ‚ใ‚Šใซใ€็งใฏไฝ•ใ‚‚่จ€ใ‚ใชใ‹ใฃใŸใ€‚
08:10
I didn't even ask her, "What's your heritage?"
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็งใฏๅฝผๅฅณใซใ€Œใ‚ใชใŸใฎ้บ็”ฃใฏไฝ•ใงใ™ใ‹๏ผŸใ€ใจใ•ใˆๅฐ‹ใญใพใ›ใ‚“ใงใ—ใŸใ€‚
08:13
This is a slightly more polite question, but only when you're talking about your family's
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ใ“ใ‚Œใฏใ‚‚ใ†ๅฐ‘ใ—ไธๅฏงใช่ณชๅ• ใงใ™ใŒใ€ๅฎถๆ—ใฎ่ƒŒๆ™ฏใซใคใ„ใฆใ™ใงใซ่ฉฑใ—ใฆใ„ใ‚‹ๅ ดๅˆใซ้™ใ‚Šใพใ™
08:19
background already.
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08:21
Instead of asking her this, I just thought it doesn't matter, why would I need to ask
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ๅฝผๅฅณใซใ“ใ‚Œใ‚’ๅฐ‹ใญใ‚‹ไปฃใ‚ใ‚Šใซใ€็งใฏ ใใ‚ŒใŒๅ•้กŒใงใฏใชใ„ใจๆ€ใฃใŸใฎใงใ™ใŒใ€ใชใœ็งใฏใ“ใ‚Œใ‚’ๅฐ‹ใญใ‚‹ๅฟ…่ฆใŒใ‚ใ‚‹ใฎใงใ—ใ‚‡ใ†
08:26
this?
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08:27
One day when I was at her house, I saw a little picture or painting on the wall with some
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ใ‚ใ‚‹ๆ—ฅใ€ๅฝผๅฅณใฎๅฎถใซใ„ใŸใจใ ใ€ๅฃใซ
08:32
Korean writing and I said, "Oh, cool.
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้Ÿ“ๅ›ฝ่ชžใฎๆ–‡็ซ ใŒๆ›ธใ‹ใ‚ŒใŸๅฐใ•ใช็ตตใ‚„็ตตใ‚’่ฆ‹ใฆใ€ใ€Œใ‚ใ‚ใ€ใ‹ใฃใ“ใ„ใ„ใ€‚
08:34
I used to live in Korea.
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้Ÿ“ๅ›ฝใซไฝใ‚“ใง
08:36
Have you been there?
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08:37
I saw that picture in your kitchen with some Korean writing."
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้Ÿ“ๅ›ฝ่ชžใฎๆ–‡็ซ ใŒๆ›ธใ‹ใ‚ŒใŸใ‚ญใƒƒใƒใƒณใ€‚ใ€
08:40
She said, "Oh, my mom was adopted from Korea."
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ๅฝผๅฅณใฏใ€Œใ‚ใ‚ใ€็งใฎๆฏใฏ้Ÿ“ๅ›ฝใ‹ใ‚‰้คŠๅญ็ธ็ต„ใ•ใ‚ŒใŸใ€ใจ่จ€ใฃใŸใ€‚
08:45
This type of situation is extremely common in the US.
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ใ“ใฎ็จฎใฎ็Šถๆณใฏใ€็ฑณๅ›ฝใงใฏ้žๅธธใซไธ€่ˆฌ็š„ ใงใ™ใ€‚
08:48
My friend has pretty much no cultural connection to Korea.
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็งใฎๅ‹ไบบใฏ้Ÿ“ๅ›ฝใจใฏใปใจใ‚“ใฉๆ–‡ๅŒ–็š„ใชใคใชใŒใ‚Š ใŒใ‚ใ‚Šใพใ›ใ‚“ใ€‚
08:53
Her mom has almost no cultural connection to Korea, too, except that she lived there
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ๅฝผๅฅณใฎๆฏ่ฆชใฏใ€้คŠๅญ็ธ็ต„ใ•ใ‚Œใ‚‹ๅ‰ใฎ้žๅธธใซ่‹ฅใ„้ ƒใซ ้Ÿ“ๅ›ฝใซไฝใ‚“ใงใ„ใŸใ“ใจใ‚’้™คใ„ใฆใ€้Ÿ“ๅ›ฝใจใฎๆ–‡ๅŒ–็š„ใชใคใชใŒใ‚Šใ‚‚ใปใจใ‚“ใฉใ‚ใ‚Šใพใ›ใ‚“
08:59
when she was very, very young before she was adopted.
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09:03
If I had asked my friend, "Hey, where are you really from?
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ๅ‹้”ใซใ€Œใญใˆใ€ ๆœฌๅฝ“ใฏใฉใ“ใ‹ใ‚‰ๆฅใŸใฎ
09:06
Are you from Korea?" she probably would have felt like, "I don't belong here.
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๏ผŸ้Ÿ“ๅ›ฝใ‹ใ‚‰ๆฅใŸใฎ๏ผŸใ€ใจ่žใ„ใŸใ‚‰ใ€‚ ๅฝผๅฅณใฏใŠใใ‚‰ใ ใ€Œ็งใฏใ“ใ“ใซๅฑžใ—ใฆใ„ใชใ„ใ€‚
09:12
This isn't my home," but really it is.
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09:14
She is American just like anybody else.
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ๅฝผๅฅณใฏไป–ใฎไบบใจๅŒใ˜ใ‚ˆใ†ใซใ‚ขใƒกใƒชใ‚ซไบบใงใ™ใ€‚
09:17
This question can make people feel pretty uncomfortable.
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09:20
I personally recommend waiting until they mention something, or just don't worry about
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09:26
it.
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09:27
Don't ask about it, and if they mentioned something, cool, if they don't, go with the
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09:32
flow.
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09:33
Our next taboo topic is money.
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09:34
I don't recommend asking, "How much money do you make?" or how much was some kind of
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09:41
expensive item, maybe like a car.
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ใ€่ปŠใฎใ‚ˆใ†ใช้ซ˜ไพกใชใ‚ขใ‚คใƒ†ใƒ ใฏใ„ใใ‚‰ใงใ—ใŸใ‹ใ€‚ ใŠ้‡‘ใซใคใ„ใฆ
09:44
Sometimes people will add this expression, "If you don't mind me asking," before asking
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09:50
about money.
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09:51
I did this a couple of weeks ago when my neighbor hired a babysitter and I was curious how much
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09:56
she charged or how much the babysitter charged to watch her kids.
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10:01
I didn't really want to directly ask her, "Hey, how much money did you give the babysitter?"
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10:07
so I asked, "If you don't mind me asking, can I ask how much she charged?"
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ใใ‚Œใง็งใฏใ€ใ€Œ็งใซ่žใ„ใฆใ‚‚ๆง‹ใ‚ใชใ„ใฎใชใ‚‰ใ€ ๅฝผๅฅณใŒใ„ใใ‚‰่ซ‹ๆฑ‚ใ—ใŸใ‹่žใ„ใฆใ‚‚ใ„ใ„ใงใ™ใ‹๏ผŸใ€ใจๅฐ‹ใญใพใ—ใŸใ€‚
10:13
This is very indirect.
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10:16
I'm asking her about the purchase of potentially an expensive thing, some babysitting services,
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็งใฏๅฝผๅฅณใซๆฝœๅœจ ็š„ใซ้ซ˜ไพกใชใ‚‚ใฎใฎ่ณผๅ…ฅใ€ใ„ใใคใ‹ใฎใƒ™ใƒ“ใƒผใ‚ทใƒƒใ‚ฟใƒผใ‚ตใƒผใƒ“ใ‚นใซใคใ„ใฆ
10:22
but I'm asking her in an indirect way.
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ๅฐ‹ใญใฆใ„ใพใ™ใŒใ€็งใฏๅฝผๅฅณใซ้–“ๆŽฅ็š„ใชๆ–นๆณ•ใงๅฐ‹ใญใฆใ„ใพใ™ใ€‚
10:25
When I hired that babysitter, I could say, "Well, how much do you charge?"
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็งใŒใใฎใƒ™ใƒ“ใƒผใ‚ทใƒƒใ‚ฟใƒผใ‚’้›‡ใฃใŸใจใใ€็งใฏ ใ€Œใพใ‚ใ€ใ‚ใชใŸใฏใ„ใใ‚‰่ซ‹ๆฑ‚ใ—ใพใ™ใ‹๏ผŸใ€ใจ่จ€ใ†ใ“ใจใŒใงใใพใ—ใŸใ€‚
10:31
This is very direct.
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10:32
It's fine, this is a business transaction.
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ๅคงไธˆๅคซใงใ™ใ€ใ“ใ‚Œใฏๅ•†ๅ–ๅผ•ใงใ™ใ€‚
10:34
But when it's someone else who's making that purchase, it's better to use this expression,
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ใ—ใ‹ใ—ใ€ใใฎ่ณผๅ…ฅใ‚’ใ—ใฆใ„ใ‚‹ใฎใŒไป–ใฎ่ชฐใ‹ใงใ‚ใ‚‹ๅ ดๅˆ ใฏใ€ใ“ใฎ่กจ็พใ‚’ไฝฟ็”จใ™ใ‚‹
10:39
or just not ask at all.
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10:40
We never really ask how much money do you make talking directly about personal income.
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10:46
Yeah, it's not really a popular topic or a comfortable topic.
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10:51
Our final taboo topic is appearance.
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็งใŸใกใฎๆœ€ๅพŒใฎใ‚ฟใƒ–ใƒผใƒˆใƒ”ใƒƒใ‚ฏใฏๅค–่ฆณใงใ™ใ€‚
10:53
I don't recommend asking, "Are you feeling tired today?
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ใ€Œ ไปŠๆ—ฅใฏ็–ฒใ‚Œใฆใ„ใพใ™ใ‹๏ผŸใ‚ใ‚ใ€็–ฒใ‚Œใฆใ„ใ‚‹ใ‚ˆใ†ใงใ™
10:58
Oh, you look tired.
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10:59
Are you feeling okay?
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11:01
Did you lose weight?
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11:03
Did you gain weight?"
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ๆธ›ใ‚Šใพใ—ใŸใ‹๏ผŸไฝ“้‡ใŒๅข—ใˆใพใ—ใŸใ‹๏ผŸใ€ใจๅฐ‹ใญใ‚‹ใ“ใจใฏใŠๅ‹งใ‚ใ—ใพใ›ใ‚“ใ€‚
11:05
Not acceptable.
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ๅ—ใ‘ไป˜ใ‘ใงใใพใ›ใ‚“ใ€‚
11:06
If you're really concerned about someone, maybe one of your coworkers is looking a lot
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ใ‚ใชใŸใŒ่ชฐใ‹ใ‚’ๆœฌๅฝ“ใซๅฟƒ้…ใ—ใฆใ„ใ‚‹ใชใ‚‰ใ€ ๅคšๅˆ†ใ‚ใชใŸใฎๅŒๅƒšใฎไธ€ไบบใŒใ„ใคใ‚‚ใ‚ˆใ‚Šใšใฃใจ็–ฒใ‚Œใฆใ„ใ‚‹ใ‚ˆใ†ใซ่ฆ‹ใˆใ‚‹ใ‹ใ€ๅคšๅˆ†ใ‚ใชใŸใฏ
11:10
more tired than usual or maybe you realize that they really lost a lot of weight and
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ๅฝผใ‚‰ใŒๆœฌๅฝ“ใซใŸใใ•ใ‚“ใฎไฝ“้‡ใ‚’ๆธ›ใ‚‰ใ—ใŸใ“ใจใซๆฐ—ใฅใใใ—ใฆ
11:15
you're seriously concerned about them, we don't talk about this in just casual passing
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ใ‚ใชใŸใฏๅฝผใ‚‰ใซใคใ„ใฆ็œŸๅ‰ฃใซๅฟƒ้…ใ—ใฆใ„ใพใ™ใ€็งใŸใก ใฏใ“ใ‚Œใซใคใ„ใฆ่ฉฑใ—ใพใ›ใ‚“ ใ•ใ‚Šใ’ใชใ้€šใ‚Šใ™ใŒใ‚Šใฎ
11:20
conversation.
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11:21
Instead, pull them aside or talk with them privately.
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ไปฃใ‚ใ‚Šใซใ€ใใ‚Œใ‚‰ใ‚’่„‡ใซ็ฝฎใใ‹ใ€ ๅ€‹ไบบ็š„ใซ่ฉฑใ—ใพใ™ใ€‚
11:25
With a lot of care in your heart, you can ask them, "Hey, I'm a little worried about
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11:30
you.
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11:31
You look a lot more tired than usual the last couple of days.
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11:34
What's going on.
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11:35
Are you okay?"
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ใงใ™ใ‹ใ€‚ๅคงไธˆๅคซใงใ™ใ‹๏ผŸใ€ใจ่žใใ“ใจใŒใงใใพใ™ใ€‚
11:37
Did you notice the tone of my voice is very serious.
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็งใฎๅฃฐใฎใƒˆใƒผใƒณใŒ้žๅธธใซๆทฑๅˆปใงใ‚ใ‚‹ใ“ใจใซๆฐ—ใฅใใพใ—ใŸใ‹ ใ€‚
11:40
This is not casual conversation, you're not just asking because you care, instead, you
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11:45
are very serious and you are telling them personally.
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้žๅธธใซ็œŸๅ‰ฃใงใ€ๅ€‹ไบบ็š„ใซ่ฉฑใ—ใฆใ„ใ‚‹ใฎ ใงใ™ใ€‚
11:49
Make sure that if you ask these questions, it is in the correct context with someone
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11:53
who you really care about, not just in passing.
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ใ‚ใชใŸใŒๆœฌๅฝ“ใซๆฐ—ใซใ‹ใ‘ใฆใ„ใ‚‹่ชฐใ‹ใจใฎๆญฃใ—ใ„ๆ–‡่„ˆใซใ‚ใ‚‹ใ“ใจใ‚’็ขบ่ชใ—ใฆใใ ใ•ใ„ใ€‚
11:56
A little special note.
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11:58
Talking about appearance, especially for men directing comments towards women, I don't
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่ฆ‹ใŸ็›ฎใซใคใ„ใฆ่ฉฑใ™ใจใ€็‰นใซ็”ทๆ€งใŒ ๅฅณๆ€งใซใ‚ณใƒกใƒณใƒˆใ‚’ๅ‘ใ‘ใ‚‹ๅ ดๅˆ
12:04
recommend saying something so direct as, "Wow, you look really beautiful."
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ใ€ใ€Œใ†ใ‚ใƒผใ€ใ‚ใชใŸใฏๆœฌๅฝ“ใซ็พŽใ—ใ่ฆ‹ใˆใ‚‹ใ€ใจใ„ใ†ใ‚ˆใ†ใช็›ดๆŽฅ็š„ใชใ“ใจใ‚’่จ€ใ†ใ“ใจใฏใŠๅ‹งใ‚ใ—ใพใ›ใ‚“ ใ€‚
12:09
This is usually considered flirting.
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ใ“ใ‚Œใฏ้€šๅธธใ€ใ„ใกใ‚ƒใคใใจ่ฆ‹ใชใ•ใ‚Œใพใ™ใ€‚
12:12
If you are flirting with them and you went to ask them out on a date, okay, go ahead,
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12:17
but if you're just in the office and you notice, "Oh, wow.
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12:22
You look great today," be careful being so enthusiastic about it, "Wow, you look so beautiful
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ใใ ใ•ใ„ใ€‚ ใ€ŒไปŠๆ—ฅใฏ ใจใฆใ‚‚็พŽใ—ใ่ฆ‹ใˆใพใ™ใ€ใจ็†ฑ็‹‚ใ—ใฆ
12:29
today."
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12:30
Instead, it's considered more polite to compliment maybe their haircut or their clothes.
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ไปฃใ‚ใ‚Šใซใ€ใŠใใ‚‰ใๅฝผใ‚‰ใฎๆ•ฃ้ซชใ‚„ๅฝผใ‚‰ใฎๆœใ‚’่ค’ใ‚ใ‚‹ใ“ใจใฏใ‚ˆใ‚Š็คผๅ„€ๆญฃใ—ใ„ใจ่€ƒใˆใ‚‰ใ‚Œใฆใ„ใพใ™ ใ€‚
12:36
"Oh, did you get a new haircut?
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ใ€Œใ‚ใ‚ใ€ใ‚ใชใŸใฏๆ–ฐใ—ใ„ๆ•ฃ้ซชใ‚’ใ—ใพใ—ใŸใ‹๏ผŸ
12:37
It looks great."
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ใใ‚Œใฏ็ด ๆ™ดใ‚‰ใ—ใ่ฆ‹ใˆใพใ™ใ€‚ใ€
12:38
Wonderful.
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12:39
Or, "Oh, that's a nice shirt.
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ใพใŸใฏใ€ใ€Œใ‚ใ‚ใ€ใใ‚Œใฏ็ด ๆ•ตใชใ‚ทใƒฃใƒ„ใงใ™ใ€‚
12:41
I love those colors."
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็งใฏใใ‚Œใ‚‰ใฎ่‰ฒใŒๅคงๅฅฝใใงใ™ใ€‚ใ€
12:42
This is more indirect.
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ใ“ใ‚Œใฏใ‚ˆใ‚Š้–“ๆŽฅ็š„ใงใ™ใ€‚
12:44
If you want to compliment someone's appearance, especially for a man directed towards a woman,
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็‰นใซๅฅณๆ€งใซๅ‘ใ‘ใ‚‰ใ‚ŒใŸ็”ทๆ€งใฎๅ ดๅˆใ€่ชฐใ‹ใฎๅค–่ฆ‹ใ‚’่ค’ใ‚
12:49
and you don't want them to feel uncomfortable because you're just coworkers or you're just
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ใŸใใฆ ใ€ใ‚ใชใŸใŒใŸใ ใฎๅŒๅƒšใงใ‚ใ‚‹ใ‹ใ€ใ‚ใชใŸใŒใŸใ ใฎ
12:53
friends and you're not trying to be romantic towards them, well, you can compliment them
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ๅ‹้”ใงใ‚ใ‚Šใ€ๅฝผใ‚‰ใซๅฏพใ—ใฆใƒญใƒžใƒณใƒใƒƒใ‚ฏใซใชใ‚ใ†ใจใ—ใฆใ„ใชใ„ใฎใงใ€ ๅฝผใ‚‰ใซไธๅฟซๆ„Ÿใ‚’ไธŽใˆใŸใใชใ„ๅ ดๅˆ ใ€ใพใ‚ใ€ใ‚ใชใŸใฏๅฝผใ‚‰ใ‚’้–“ๆŽฅ็š„ใซ่ค’ใ‚ใ‚‹ใ“ใจใŒใงใใพใ™
12:58
indirectly, their hair, their clothes, something like this.
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ใ€ๅฝผใ‚‰ใฎ้ซชใ€ๅฝผใ‚‰ใฎๆœใ€ ใ“ใฎใ‚ˆใ†ใชใ‚‚ใฎใ€‚
13:02
Actually, that was not the last topic.
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ๅฎŸ้š›ใ€ใใ‚Œใฏๆœ€ๅพŒใฎใƒˆใƒ”ใƒƒใ‚ฏใงใฏใ‚ใ‚Šใพใ›ใ‚“ใงใ—ใŸใ€‚ ่ตคใกใ‚ƒใ‚“ใŒๆณฃใ„ใฆ
13:04
I got a little distracted because I heard my baby crying, so he's going to join me for
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ใ„ใ‚‹ใฎใ‚’่žใ„ใฆๅฐ‘ใ—ๆฐ—ใŒๆ•ฃใฃ ใŸใฎใงใ€ๅฝผใฏ
13:08
this last taboo topic.
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ใ“ใฎๆœ€ๅพŒใฎใ‚ฟใƒ–ใƒผใƒˆใƒ”ใƒƒใ‚ฏใซๅ‚ๅŠ ใ—ใพใ™ใ€‚
13:10
We're going to end on a light note, death.
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่ปฝใ„ใƒกใƒขใ€ๆญปใง็ต‚ใ‚ใ‚Šใพใ™ใ€‚
13:14
I do not recommend asking, "Do you think he's going to die soon?" or, "I think he's going
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ใ€Œๅฝผใฏใ‚‚ใ†ใ™ใๆญปใฌใจๆ€ใ„ใพใ™ใ‹๏ผŸใ€ใจๅฐ‹ใญใ‚‹ใ“ใจใฏใŠๅ‹งใ‚ใ—ใพใ›ใ‚“ ใ€‚ ใพใŸใฏใ€ใ€Œๅฝผใฏใ‚‚ใ†ใ™ใๆญปใฌใจๆ€ใ„ใพใ™
13:20
to die soon."
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13:22
This is too direct, too rude.
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ใ“ใ‚Œใฏใ‚ใพใ‚Šใซใ‚‚็›ดๆŽฅ็š„ใงใ€ใ‚ใพใ‚Šใซใ‚‚ๅคฑ็คผใงใ™ใ€‚
13:24
Yes, death is an essential part of being alive, being a human being, a being, but we do not
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ใฏใ„ใ€ๆญปใฏ็”Ÿใใฆ ใ„ใ‚‹ใ“ใจใ€ไบบ้–“ใงใ‚ใ‚‹ใ“ใจใ€ๅญ˜ๅœจใงใ‚ใ‚‹ใ“ใจใฎๆœฌ่ณช็š„ใช้ƒจๅˆ†ใงใ™ใŒใ€็งใŸใกใฏ
13:32
say it in such direct terms.
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ใใฎใ‚ˆใ†ใช็›ดๆŽฅ็š„ใช่จ€่‘‰ใงใใ‚Œใ‚’่จ€ใ„ใพใ›ใ‚“ใ€‚
13:34
Instead, if you want to talk about death, you can use a more indirect expression to
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ไปฃใ‚ใ‚Šใซใ€ๆญปใซใคใ„ใฆ่ฉฑใ— ใŸใ„ๅ ดๅˆใฏใ€ใ‚ˆใ‚Š้–“ๆŽฅ็š„ใช่กจ็พใ‚’ไฝฟ็”จใ—ใฆๆญปใฌใ“ใจใŒใงใ
13:39
pass away.
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ใพใ™ใ€‚
13:41
You might say, "Sorry I was gone from work last week.
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ใ€Œๅ…ˆ้€ฑใ€ไป•ไบ‹ใ‚’่พžใ‚ใพใ—ใŸใ€‚็ฅ–ๆฏใŒไบกใใชใ‚Šใ€่‘ฌๅผใฎใŸใ‚ใซใ‚ซใƒชใƒ•ใ‚ฉใƒซใƒ‹ใ‚ขใซ่กŒใ‹ใชใ‘ใ‚Œใฐใชใ‚Šใพใ›ใ‚“ใงใ—ใŸใ€ใจ่จ€ใ†ใ‹ใ‚‚ใ—ใ‚Œใพใ›ใ‚“
13:44
My grandmother passed away and I had to travel to California for the funeral."
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13:49
In this situation, you're saying pass away, much more polite to say.
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ใ“ใฎ็Šถๆณใงใฏใ€ใ‚ใชใŸใฏไบกใใชใฃ ใŸใจ่จ€ใฃใฆใ„ใพใ™ใ€‚
13:54
If someone says this to you, how can you react to show that you care?
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่ชฐใ‹ใŒใ‚ใชใŸใซใ“ใ‚Œใ‚’่จ€ใฃใŸๅ ดๅˆใ€ใ‚ใชใŸใฏ ใ‚ใชใŸใŒๆฐ—ใซใ‹ใ‘ใฆใ„ใ‚‹ใ“ใจใ‚’็คบใ™ใŸใ‚ใซใฉใฎใ‚ˆใ†ใซๅๅฟœใ™ใ‚‹ใ“ใจใŒใงใใพใ™ใ‹๏ผŸ
13:59
You can simply say, "Oh, I'm so sorry," or, "I'm sorry for your loss."
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ใ€Œใ‚ใ‚ใ€ใ”ใ‚ใ‚“ใชใ•ใ„ใ€ใพใŸใฏ ใ€Œๅคฑใใ—ใฆใ”ใ‚ใ‚“ใชใ•ใ„ใ€ใจ็ฐกๅ˜ใซ่จ€ใ†ใ“ใจใŒใงใใพใ™ใ€‚
14:04
You don't need to go on and on, those two common polite expressions are really enough.
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ไฝ•ๅบฆใ‚‚็ถšใ‘ใ‚‹ๅฟ…่ฆใฏใ‚ใ‚Šใพใ›ใ‚“ใ€‚ใ“ใ‚Œใ‚‰2ใคใฎ ไธ€่ˆฌ็š„ใชไธๅฏงใช่กจ็พใงๅๅˆ†ใงใ™ใ€‚
14:09
You say it from your heart and you mean it.
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ใ‚ใชใŸใฏใใ‚Œใ‚’ใ‚ใชใŸใฎๅฟƒใ‹ใ‚‰่จ€ใ„ใ€ใ‚ใชใŸใฏใใ‚Œใ‚’ๆ„ๅ‘ณใ—ใพใ™ใ€‚
14:11
Now you might be wondering if I can't talk about all these taboo topics, what can I talk
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ไปŠใ€็งใŒใ“ใ‚Œใ‚‰ใ™ในใฆใฎใ‚ฟใƒ–ใƒผใƒˆใƒ”ใƒƒใ‚ฏใซใคใ„ใฆ่ฉฑใ™ใ“ใจใŒใงใใชใ„ใ‹ใฉใ†ใ‹็–‘ๅ•ใซๆ€ใ†ใ‹ใ‚‚ใ—ใ‚Œใพใ›ใ‚“ใ€็งใฏ ไฝ•ใซใคใ„ใฆ่ฉฑใ™ใ“ใจใŒใงใ
14:16
about?
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ใพใ™ใ‹๏ผŸ
14:17
Well, really the possibilities are endless.
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ใพใ‚ใ€ๆœฌๅฝ“ใซๅฏ่ƒฝๆ€งใฏ็„ก้™ๅคงใงใ™ใ€‚
14:20
You could talk about your weekend plans, you could talk about that time you broke your
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้€ฑๆœซใฎ่จˆ็”ป ใซใคใ„ใฆ่ฉฑใ—ใŸใ‚Š
14:24
arm when you fell out of a tree as a kid, you could talk about how you wish you could
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ใ€ๅญไพ›ใฎ้ ƒใซๆœจใ‹ใ‚‰่ฝใกใŸใจใใซ่…•ใ‚’้ชจๆŠ˜ใ—ใŸใจใ ใซใคใ„ใฆ่ฉฑใ—ใŸใ‚Š
14:28
go to New York on a vacation, you could talk about how octopuses are pretty much the smartest
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ใ€ไผ‘ๆš‡ใงใƒ‹ใƒฅใƒผใƒจใƒผใ‚ฏใซ่กŒใใŸใ„ใจๆ€ใฃใฆใ„ใ‚‹ใ“ใจใซใคใ„ใฆ่ฉฑใ—ใŸใ‚Šใ€่ฉฑใ—ใŸใ‚Šใ™ใ‚‹ใ“ใจใŒใงใใพใ™ใ€‚ ใ‚ฟใ‚ณใฏ
14:33
animal in the world.
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ไธ–็•Œใงๆœ€ใ‚‚่ณขใ„ๅ‹•็‰ฉใงใ™ใ€‚
14:34
The possibilities are endless.
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ๅฏ่ƒฝๆ€งใฏ็„ก้™ๅคงใ€‚
14:36
If you'd like to know how to start a conversation with anyone, I made a video about this that
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่ชฐใ‹ใจไผš่ฉฑใ‚’ๅง‹ใ‚ใ‚‹ๆ–นๆณ•ใ‚’็Ÿฅใ‚ŠใŸใ„ๅ ดๅˆ ใฏใ€ใ“ใ“ใงใƒใ‚งใƒƒใ‚ฏใงใใ‚‹ใƒ“ใƒ‡ใ‚ชใ‚’ไฝœๆˆ
14:41
you can check out up here.
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14:42
This is especially useful for starting conversations in the US, but really you can use these for
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ใ“ใ‚Œใฏ็ฑณๅ›ฝใงไผš่ฉฑใ‚’ๅง‹ใ‚ใ‚‹ใฎใซ็‰นใซไพฟๅˆฉใงใ™ ใŒใ€ๅฎŸ้š›ใซใฏใ€ใŠใใ‚‰ใใ‚ใชใŸ่‡ช่บซใฎๆฏๅ›ฝ่ชžใงใ‚‚ไผš่ฉฑใ‚’ๅง‹ใ‚ใ‚‹ใŸใ‚ใซใ“ใ‚Œใ‚‰ใ‚’ไฝฟ็”จใ™ใ‚‹ใ“ใจใŒใงใใพใ™
14:47
starting conversations maybe even in your own native language as well.
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14:52
And now I have a question for you.
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ใใ—ใฆไปŠใ€็งใฏใ‚ใชใŸใซ่ณชๅ•ใŒใ‚ใ‚Šใพใ™ใ€‚
14:53
I'm curious, what are some taboo topics in your country?
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็งใฏ่ˆˆๅ‘ณใŒใ‚ใ‚Šใพใ™ใ€ใ‚ใชใŸใฎๅ›ฝใฎใ„ใใคใ‹ใฎใ‚ฟใƒ–ใƒผใƒˆใƒ”ใƒƒใ‚ฏใฏไฝ• ใงใ™ใ‹๏ผŸ
14:57
Let me know in the comments, let us know what your country is and what are some taboo topics.
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ใ‚ณใƒกใƒณใƒˆใงๆ•™ใˆใฆ ใใ ใ•ใ„ใ€ใ‚ใชใŸใฎๅ›ฝใŒไฝ•ใงใ‚ใ‚‹ใ‹ใ€ใใ—ใฆใ„ใใคใ‹ใฎใ‚ฟใƒ–ใƒผใƒˆใƒ”ใƒƒใ‚ฏใฏไฝ•ใงใ™ใ‹๏ผŸ
15:02
This could help other people as well if they travel to your country or if they meet people
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ใ“ใ‚Œใฏใ€ไป–ใฎไบบ ใŒใ‚ใชใŸใฎๅ›ฝใซๆ—…่กŒใ—ใŸใ‚Šใ€ใ‚ใชใŸใฎๅ›ฝใฎไบบใจๅ‡บไผšใฃใŸใ‚Šใ—ใŸๅ ดๅˆใซใ‚‚ๅฝน็ซ‹ใก
15:07
who are from your country.
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15:08
Thanks so much for learning English with me and with my baby.
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็งใจ่ตคใกใ‚ƒใ‚“ใจไธ€็ท’ใซ่‹ฑ่ชžใ‚’ๅญฆใ‚“ใงใใ‚Œใฆใ‚ใ‚ŠใŒใจใ† ใ€‚
15:12
I'll see you again next Friday for a new lesson here on my YouTube channel.
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15:16
Bye.
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15:17
Do you want to say goodbye?
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15:18
Oh, you got my hair.
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ใ‚ใ‚ใ€ใ‚ใชใŸใฏ็งใฎ้ซชใ‚’ๆ‰‹ใซๅ…ฅใ‚Œใพใ—ใŸใ€‚
15:21
Say bye.
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15:23
The next step is to download my free ebook, Five Steps to Becoming a Confident English
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ๆฌกใฎใ‚นใƒ†ใƒƒใƒ—ใฏใ€็งใฎ็„กๆ–™ใฎ้›ปๅญใƒ–ใƒƒใ‚ฏ ใ€่‡ชไฟกใ‚’ๆŒใฃใฆ่‹ฑ่ชžใ‚’่ฉฑใ™ไบบใซใชใ‚‹ใŸใ‚ใฎ5ใคใฎใ‚นใƒ†ใƒƒใƒ—ใ‚’ใƒ€ใ‚ฆใƒณใƒญใƒผใƒ‰ใ™ใ‚‹ใ“ใจ
15:28
Speaker.
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15:29
You'll learn what you need to do to speak confidently and fluently.
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ใซ่ฉฑใ™ใŸใ‚ใซไฝ•ใ‚’ใ™ใ‚‹ๅฟ…่ฆใŒใ‚ใ‚‹ใ‹ใ‚’ๅญฆใณใพใ™ ใ€‚ ใ‚ˆใ‚Šๅคšใใฎ็„กๆ–™ใƒฌใƒƒใ‚นใƒณใฎใŸใ‚
15:34
Don't forget to subscribe to my YouTube channel for more free lessons.
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ใซ็งใฎYouTubeใƒใƒฃใƒณใƒใƒซใ‚’่ณผ่ชญใ™ใ‚‹ใ“ใจใ‚’ๅฟ˜ใ‚Œใชใ„ใงใใ ใ•ใ„ ใ€‚
15:37
Thanks so much, bye.
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