10 Taboo Questions in the USA: NEVER ask these questions

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์•„๋ž˜ ์˜๋ฌธ์ž๋ง‰์„ ๋”๋ธ”ํด๋ฆญํ•˜์‹œ๋ฉด ์˜์ƒ์ด ์žฌ์ƒ๋ฉ๋‹ˆ๋‹ค. ๋ฒˆ์—ญ๋œ ์ž๋ง‰์€ ๊ธฐ๊ณ„ ๋ฒˆ์—ญ๋ฉ๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.

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Hi, I'm Vanessa from SpeakEnglishWithVanessa.com.
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์•ˆ๋…•ํ•˜์„ธ์š”, ์ €๋Š” SpeakEnglishWithVanessa.com์˜ Vanessa์ž…๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.
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Be careful what you say, let's talk about it.
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๋ง ์กฐ์‹ฌํ•ด, ์–˜๊ธฐํ•˜์ž . ๋‹ค๋ฅธ ๋ฌธํ™”
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When you have conversations with people from other cultures, it's really important to be
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์—์„œ ์˜จ ์‚ฌ๋žŒ๋“ค๊ณผ ๋Œ€ํ™”๋ฅผ ๋‚˜๋ˆŒ ๋•Œ
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respectful of that person's culture.
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๊ทธ ์‚ฌ๋žŒ์˜ ๋ฌธํ™”๋ฅผ ์กด์ค‘ํ•˜๋Š” ๊ฒƒ์ด ์ •๋ง ์ค‘์š”ํ•ฉ๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.
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Of course, when we're talking with people from our own culture, we should be respectful
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๋ฌผ๋ก  ์šฐ๋ฆฌ ๋ฌธํ™”๊ถŒ์˜ ์‚ฌ๋žŒ๋“ค๊ณผ ๋Œ€ํ™”ํ•  ๋•Œ๋„ ์˜ˆ์˜๋ฅผ ๊ฐ–์ถ”์–ด์•ผ ํ•˜์ง€๋งŒ ๋ฐฐ๊ฒฝ์ด
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too, but it's a little bit more complicated when we're talking with people from different
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๋‹ค๋ฅธ ์‚ฌ๋žŒ๋“ค๊ณผ ์ด์•ผ๊ธฐํ•  ๋•Œ๋Š” ์ข€ ๋” ๋ณต์žกํ•ฉ๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.
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backgrounds because maybe you don't know which topics are acceptable to talk about or which
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00:33
topics are taboo.
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๊ธˆ๊ธฐ์‹œ๋˜๋Š” ์ฃผ์ œ์— ๋Œ€ํ•ด ์ด์•ผ๊ธฐํ•˜์‹ญ์‹œ์˜ค.
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Taboo means that if you talk about that topic in the wrong context, people will feel really
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๊ธˆ๊ธฐ๋Š” ์ž˜๋ชป๋œ ๋งฅ๋ฝ์—์„œ ๊ทธ ์ฃผ์ œ์— ๋Œ€ํ•ด ์ด์•ผ๊ธฐํ•˜๋ฉด ์‚ฌ๋žŒ๋“ค์ด ์ •๋ง
00:41
uncomfortable.
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๋ถˆํŽธํ•˜๊ฒŒ ๋Š๋‚„ ๊ฒƒ์ด๋ผ๋Š” ์˜๋ฏธ์ž…๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.
00:42
It's inappropriate, it's just not polite.
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๋ถ€์ ์ ˆํ•˜๊ณ  ์˜ˆ์˜๊ฐ€ ์•„๋‹™๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.
00:45
Today I'd like to help you learn 10 questions that you absolutely should not ask in American
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์˜ค๋Š˜ ์ €๋Š” ๋ฏธ๊ตญ ๋ฌธํ™”์—์„œ ์ ˆ๋Œ€๋กœ ๋ฌป์ง€ ๋ง์•„์•ผ ํ•  10๊ฐ€์ง€ ์งˆ๋ฌธ์„ ๋ฐฐ์šฐ๋„๋ก ๋•๊ณ  ์‹ถ์Šต๋‹ˆ๋‹ค
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culture.
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00:51
These topics might be okay if you're talking with someone who you're really, really close
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์ด ์ฃผ์ œ๋Š” ๋‹น์‹ ์ด ์ •๋ง๋กœ ์•„์ฃผ ๊ฐ€๊นŒ์šด ์‚ฌ๋žŒ๊ณผ ์ด์•ผ๊ธฐํ•˜๊ณ  ์žˆ๋‹ค๋ฉด ๊ดœ์ฐฎ์„ ์ˆ˜
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to, but that's not really the situation that we're talking about here.
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์žˆ์ง€๋งŒ ์šฐ๋ฆฌ๊ฐ€ ์—ฌ๊ธฐ์„œ ์ด์•ผ๊ธฐํ•˜๋Š” ์ƒํ™ฉ์€ ์•„๋‹™๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.
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For this lesson, we're going to imagine three situations.
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์ด ์ˆ˜์—…์—์„œ ์šฐ๋ฆฌ๋Š” ์„ธ ๊ฐ€์ง€ ์ƒํ™ฉ์„ ์ƒ์ƒํ•  ๊ฒƒ์ž…๋‹ˆ๋‹ค .
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Number one, you run across someone that you know at the grocery store, don't ask these
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์ฒซ์งธ, ์‹๋ฃŒํ’ˆ์ ์—์„œ ์•„๋Š” ์‚ฌ๋žŒ์„ ๋งŒ๋‚ฌ์„ ๋•Œ, ์ด๋Ÿฌํ•œ
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questions, or you are talking with a coworker in the office, don't ask these questions,
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์งˆ๋ฌธ์„ ํ•˜์ง€ ๋งˆ์‹ญ์‹œ์˜ค. ๋˜๋Š” ์‚ฌ๋ฌด์‹ค์—์„œ ๋™๋ฃŒ์™€ ์ด์•ผ๊ธฐํ•˜๊ณ  ์žˆ์„ ๋•Œ , ์ด๋Ÿฌํ•œ ์งˆ๋ฌธ์„ ํ•˜์ง€ ๋งˆ์‹ญ์‹œ์˜ค.
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or maybe you're going out for coffee with a new friend or a coworker or someone you
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์ƒˆ๋กœ์šด ์นœ๊ตฌ๋‚˜ ์ง์žฅ ๋™๋ฃŒ ๋˜๋Š”
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don't know that well, don't ask these questions.
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์ž˜ ์•Œ์ง€ ๋ชปํ•˜๋Š” ์‚ฌ๋žŒ์—๊ฒŒ๋Š” ์ด๋Ÿฌํ•œ ์งˆ๋ฌธ์„ ํ•˜์ง€ ๋งˆ์‹ญ์‹œ์˜ค.
01:22
Let's go to our first topic and question, topic number one is politics.
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์ฒซ ๋ฒˆ์งธ ์ฃผ์ œ์™€ ์งˆ๋ฌธ์œผ๋กœ ๊ฐ€๋ด…์‹œ๋‹ค. ์ฒซ ๋ฒˆ์งธ ์ฃผ์ œ๋Š” ์ •์น˜์ž…๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.
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The main questions that you should not ask are, "Who are you voting for?"
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๋ฌป์ง€ ๋ง์•„์•ผ ํ•  ์ฃผ์š” ์งˆ๋ฌธ์€ "๋ˆ„๊ตฌ์—๊ฒŒ ํˆฌํ‘œํ•˜๊ณ  ์žˆ์Šต๋‹ˆ๊นŒ?"์ž…๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.
01:35
Or, "Who did you vote for?"
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๋˜๋Š” "๋ˆ„๊ตฌ์—๊ฒŒ ํˆฌํ‘œํ–ˆ์Šต๋‹ˆ๊นŒ?"
01:37
This just depends when the election was, if it was in the past or if it's going to be
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์ด๊ฒƒ์€ ๋‹จ์ง€ ์„ ๊ฑฐ๊ฐ€ ์–ธ์ œ์˜€๋Š”์ง€, ๊ณผ๊ฑฐ์— ์žˆ์—ˆ๋Š”์ง€ ๋˜๋Š”
01:41
in the future.
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๋ฏธ๋ž˜์— ์žˆ์„ ๊ฒƒ์ธ์ง€์— ๋‹ฌ๋ ค ์žˆ์Šต๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.
01:42
Even though this year is a presidential election year in the US and if you turn on the news
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์˜ฌํ•ด๊ฐ€ ๋ฏธ๊ตญ ๋Œ€์„ ์˜ ํ•ด์ด๊ณ  ๋‰ด์Šค๋ฅผ ์ผœ๋ฉด
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you'll see so much information about this, we don't really talk about our personal voting
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์ด๊ฒƒ์— ๋Œ€ํ•œ ๋งŽ์€ ์ •๋ณด๋ฅผ ๋ณผ ์ˆ˜ ์žˆ์ง€๋งŒ ์ •๋ง, ์ •๋ง, ์ •๋ง ๊ฐ€๊นŒ์šด ๊ฒฝ์šฐ๊ฐ€ ์•„๋‹ˆ๋ฉด ๊ฐœ์ธ์ ์ธ ํˆฌํ‘œ ์„ ํƒ์— ๋Œ€ํ•ด ์ด์•ผ๊ธฐํ•˜์ง€ ์•Š์Šต๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.
01:51
choices, unless it's with really, really, really close friends.
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์นœ๊ตฌ.
01:56
On the other hand, Americans love bumper stickers and yard signs.
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๋ฐ˜๋ฉด์— ๋ฏธ๊ตญ์ธ๋“ค์€ ๋ฒ”ํผ ์Šคํ‹ฐ์ปค ์™€ ๋งˆ๋‹น ํ‘œ์ง€ํŒ์„ ์ข‹์•„ํ•ฉ๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.
02:01
So you might see on the back of someone's car, Biden, or on the back of someone's car,
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๊ทธ๋ž˜์„œ ์—ฌ๋Ÿฌ๋ถ„์€ ๋ˆ„๊ตฐ๊ฐ€์˜ ์ฐจ ๋’ค์—์„œ ๋ฐ”์ด๋“ , ๋ˆ„๊ตฐ๊ฐ€์˜ ์ฐจ ๋’ค์—์„œ
02:06
Trump, or a sign in someone's yard that says something similar about who they're voting
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ํŠธ๋Ÿผํ”„, ๋˜๋Š” ๋ˆ„๊ตฐ๊ฐ€์˜ ๋งˆ๋‹น์—์„œ ๊ทธ๋“ค์ด ๋ˆ„๊ตฌ์—๊ฒŒ ํˆฌํ‘œํ•˜๋Š”์ง€์— ๋Œ€ํ•ด ๋น„์Šทํ•œ ๊ฒƒ์„ ๋งํ•˜๋Š” ํ‘œ์ง€ํŒ์„ ๋ณผ ์ˆ˜ ์žˆ์Šต๋‹ˆ๋‹ค
02:11
for.
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02:12
But even if someone has a bumper sticker or a sign in their yard, they probably don't
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ํ•˜์ง€๋งŒ ๋ˆ„๊ตฐ๊ฐ€ ์ž์‹ ์˜ ๋งˆ๋‹น์— ๋ฒ”ํผ ์Šคํ‹ฐ์ปค๋‚˜ ํ‘œ์ง€ํŒ์„ ๊ฐ€์ง€๊ณ  ์žˆ๋”๋ผ๋„ ๊ทธ๋“ค์€
02:18
want to debate you about who you should vote for or who they're voting for.
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๋‹น์‹ ์ด ๋ˆ„๊ตฌ์—๊ฒŒ ํˆฌํ‘œํ•ด์•ผ ํ•˜๋Š”์ง€ ๋˜๋Š” ๊ทธ๋“ค์ด ๋ˆ„๊ตฌ์—๊ฒŒ ํˆฌํ‘œํ•˜๋Š”์ง€์— ๋Œ€ํ•ด ๋‹น์‹ ๊ณผ ๋…ผ์Ÿํ•˜๊ณ  ์‹ถ์–ดํ•˜์ง€ ์•Š์„ ๊ฒƒ์ž…๋‹ˆ๋‹ค .
02:23
Usually, this is still considered an inappropriate topic to ask about.
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์ผ๋ฐ˜์ ์œผ๋กœ ์ด๊ฒƒ์€ ์—ฌ์ „ํžˆ ์งˆ๋ฌธํ•˜๊ธฐ์— ๋ถ€์ ์ ˆํ•œ ์ฃผ์ œ๋กœ ๊ฐ„์ฃผ๋ฉ๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.
02:27
Topic number two, family.
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๋‘ ๋ฒˆ์งธ ์ฃผ์ œ, ๊ฐ€์กฑ.
02:30
Are you married?
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๊ฒฐํ˜ผํ•˜์…จ๋‚˜์š”?
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Why not?
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์™œ ์•ˆ ๋ผ?
02:32
Do you have kids?
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์ž๋…€๊ฐ€ ์žˆ์Šต๋‹ˆ๊นŒ?
02:34
Why not?
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์™œ ์•ˆ ๋ผ?
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Are you pregnant?
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๋‹น์‹ ์ด ์ž„์‹ ?
02:37
These topics are considered personal, especially if it's somebody who you've just met.
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์ด๋Ÿฌํ•œ ์ฃผ์ œ๋Š” ํŠนํžˆ ๋ฐฉ๊ธˆ ๋งŒ๋‚œ ์‚ฌ๋žŒ์ธ ๊ฒฝ์šฐ ๊ฐœ์ธ์ ์ธ ๊ฒƒ์œผ๋กœ ๊ฐ„์ฃผ๋ฉ๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.
02:42
I know that these types of family questions are considered no problem in other cultures,
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์ด๋Ÿฌํ•œ ์œ ํ˜•์˜ ๊ฐ€์กฑ ์งˆ๋ฌธ์€ ๋‹ค๋ฅธ ๋ฌธํ™”์—์„œ๋Š” ๋ฌธ์ œ๊ฐ€ ๋˜์ง€ ์•Š๋Š” ๊ฒƒ์œผ๋กœ ๊ฐ„์ฃผ๋˜์ง€๋งŒ
02:48
but in the US these are personal and sensitive.
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๋ฏธ๊ตญ์—์„œ๋Š” ์ด๋Ÿฌํ•œ ์œ ํ˜•์˜ ์งˆ๋ฌธ์ด ๊ฐœ์ธ์ ์ด๊ณ  ๋ฏผ๊ฐํ•ฉ๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.
02:52
Imagine this situation, someone really wants to have kids and they've been trying to have
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์ด๋Ÿฐ ์ƒํ™ฉ์„ ์ƒ์ƒํ•ด ๋ณด์„ธ์š”. ์–ด๋–ค ์‚ฌ๋žŒ์ด ์ •๋ง ์•„์ด๋ฅผ ๊ฐ–๊ณ  ์‹ถ์–ดํ•˜๋Š”๋ฐ ์•„์ด๋ฅผ ๊ฐ–๊ธฐ ์œ„ํ•ด ๋…ธ๋ ฅํ–ˆ์ง€๋งŒ
02:57
kids and they can't, or they had a miscarriage, which means that they were pregnant and then
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์•„์ด๋ฅผ ๊ฐ€์งˆ ์ˆ˜ ์—†๊ฑฐ๋‚˜ ์œ ์‚ฐ์„ ํ–ˆ์Šต๋‹ˆ๋‹ค. ์ฆ‰, ์ž„์‹ ํ–ˆ๋Š”๋ฐ
03:02
the baby died.
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์•„๊ธฐ๊ฐ€ ์ฃฝ์—ˆ๋‹ค๋Š” ๋œป์ž…๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.
03:03
This is a really sensitive situation and if you casually ask them, "Oh, why don't you
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์ด๊ฑด ์ •๋ง ๋ฏผ๊ฐํ•œ ์ƒํ™ฉ์ธ๋ฐ ์•„๋ฌด๋ ‡์ง€๋„ ์•Š๊ฒŒ ๋ฌผ์–ด๋ณด๋ฉด "์•„, ์™œ
03:09
have kids?" or, "When are you going to have kids?" this really touches something inside
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์•„์ด๊ฐ€ ์—†์ง€?" ๋˜๋Š” "์–ธ์ œ ์•„์ด๋ฅผ ๊ฐ€์งˆ ์˜ˆ์ •์ž…๋‹ˆ๊นŒ ?" ์ด๊ฒƒ์€ ์ •๋ง๋กœ ์ด์•ผ๊ธฐํ•˜๊ธฐ ์–ด๋ ค์šด ๊ทธ๋“ค ๋‚ด๋ถ€์˜ ๋ฌด์–ธ๊ฐ€๋ฅผ ๋งŒ์ง‘๋‹ˆ๋‹ค
03:15
of them that's hard to talk about.
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.
03:19
Unless you are a really, really close friend, I recommend not asking, "Are you married?
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์ •๋ง ์ •๋ง ์นœํ•œ ์นœ๊ตฌ๊ฐ€ ์•„๋‹Œ ์ด์ƒ "๊ฒฐํ˜ผํ–ˆ์–ด์š”?
03:24
Why not?
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์™œ ์•ˆ ๋ผ์š”?
03:25
Do you have kids?
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์•„์ด ์žˆ์–ด์š”?
03:26
Why not?"
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์™œ ์•ˆ ๋ผ์š”?"๋ผ๊ณ  ๋ฌป์ง€ ์•Š๋Š” ๊ฒƒ์ด ์ข‹์Šต๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.
03:28
Just as a little notice, especially as someone who recently had a baby a couple months ago,
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ํŠนํžˆ ๋ช‡ ๋‹ฌ ์ „์— ์ตœ๊ทผ์— ์•„๊ธฐ๋ฅผ ๋‚ณ์€ ์‚ฌ๋žŒ์œผ๋กœ์„œ ์•ฝ๊ฐ„์˜ ์ฃผ์˜๋ฅผ ๊ธฐ์šธ์ด๋“ฏ์ด
03:34
never, never, never ask a woman if she is pregnant.
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์—ฌ์„ฑ์—๊ฒŒ ์ž„์‹  ์—ฌ๋ถ€๋ฅผ ์ ˆ๋Œ€, ์ ˆ๋Œ€, ์ ˆ๋Œ€ ๋ฌป์ง€ ๋งˆ์„ธ์š” .
03:38
Do you know what this means?
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์ด๊ฒƒ์ด ๋ฌด์—‡์„ ์˜๋ฏธํ•˜๋Š”์ง€ ์•„์‹ญ๋‹ˆ๊นŒ?
03:39
This means your tummy is visibly big.
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์ด๊ฒƒ์€ ๋‹น์‹ ์˜ ๋ฐฐ๊ฐ€ ๋ˆˆ์— ๋„๊ฒŒ ํฌ๋‹ค๋Š” ๊ฒƒ์„ ์˜๋ฏธํ•ฉ๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.
03:44
Well, they could be pregnant, but what if they're not?
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๊ธ€์Ž„์š”, ๊ทธ๋“ค์€ ์ž„์‹ ํ–ˆ์„ ์ˆ˜๋„ ์žˆ์ง€๋งŒ ๊ทธ๋ ‡์ง€ ์•Š๋‹ค๋ฉด์š”?
03:48
What if they're just a little bit overweight or what if they just had a baby and they still
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๊ทธ๋“ค์ด ์•ฝ๊ฐ„ ๊ณผ์ฒด์ค‘์ด๊ฑฐ๋‚˜ ๋ฐฉ๊ธˆ ์•„๊ธฐ๋ฅผ ๋‚ณ์•˜๋Š”๋ฐ ์—ฌ์ „ํžˆ
03:53
have a little tummy?
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๋ฐฐ๊ฐ€ ์กฐ๊ธˆ ์žˆ์œผ๋ฉด ์–ด๋–จ๊นŒ์š”?
03:54
Well, this could be a really uncomfortable situation.
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๊ธ€์Ž„, ์ด๊ฒƒ์€ ์ •๋ง ๋ถˆํŽธํ•œ ์ƒํ™ฉ์ด ๋  ์ˆ˜ ์žˆ์Šต๋‹ˆ๋‹ค .
03:58
I saw a funny quote once that said, "Never ask a woman if she's pregnant.
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" ์—ฌ์„ฑ์—๊ฒŒ ์ž„์‹  ์—ฌ๋ถ€๋ฅผ ๋ฌป์ง€ ๋งˆ์‹ญ์‹œ์˜ค. ์ง„ํ†ต์ด
04:03
Even if she is actively in labor, don't ask her until you see the baby."
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์ง„ํ–‰์ค‘์ด๋”๋ผ๋„ ์•„๊ธฐ๋ฅผ ๋ณผ ๋•Œ๊นŒ์ง€ ๋ฌป์ง€ ๋งˆ์‹ญ์‹œ์˜ค."๋ผ๋Š” ์žฌ๋ฏธ์žˆ๋Š” ์ธ์šฉ๋ฌธ์„ ๋ณธ ์ ์ด ์žˆ์Šต๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.
04:09
Maybe this is a little bit of an exaggeration, but if you ask someone are you pregnant, you'd
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์•ฝ๊ฐ„ ๊ณผ์žฅ์ผ ์ˆ˜๋„ ์žˆ์ง€๋งŒ ๋ˆ„๊ตฐ๊ฐ€์—๊ฒŒ ์ž„์‹ ํ–ˆ๋ƒ๊ณ  ๋ฌป๋Š”๋‹ค๋ฉด
04:14
better be 100% sure that they are pregnant.
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100% ์ž„์‹ ์ด๋ผ๊ณ  ํ™•์‹ ํ•˜๋Š” ๊ฒƒ์ด ์ข‹์Šต๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.
04:19
It's a little bit safer to let them bring up this topic anyway.
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์–ด์จŒ๋“  ๊ทธ๋“ค์ด ์ด ์ฃผ์ œ๋ฅผ ์ œ๊ธฐํ•˜๋„๋ก ํ•˜๋Š” ๊ฒƒ์ด ์กฐ๊ธˆ ๋” ์•ˆ์ „ํ•ฉ๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.
04:23
Maybe if you're having a conversation and you see that they're probably pregnant, wait
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๋งŒ์•ฝ ๋‹น์‹ ์ด ๋Œ€ํ™”๋ฅผ ํ•˜๊ณ  ์žˆ๋Š”๋ฐ ๊ทธ๋“ค์ด ์ž„์‹ ํ–ˆ์„ ๊ฐ€๋Šฅ์„ฑ์ด ์žˆ๋‹ค๋Š” ๊ฒƒ์„ ์•Œ๊ฒŒ ๋œ๋‹ค๋ฉด,
04:27
until they say, "Oh yeah, I've been feeling really tired lately," or, "I'm feeling the
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๊ทธ๋“ค์ด "์˜ค ๊ทธ๋ž˜, ์š”์ฆ˜ ์ •๋ง ํ”ผ๊ณคํ•ด" ๋˜๋Š” "
04:32
baby's kicks," okay, now it's a safe topic.
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์•„๊ธฐ ๋ฐœ๊ธธ์งˆ์ด ๋Š๊ปด์ ธ"๋ผ๊ณ  ๋งํ•  ๋•Œ๊นŒ์ง€ ๊ธฐ๋‹ค๋ฆฌ์„ธ์š”. , ์ด์ œ ์•ˆ์ „ํ•œ ์ฃผ์ œ์ž…๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.
04:36
Our next taboo topic is sexuality.
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์šฐ๋ฆฌ์˜ ๋‹ค์Œ ๊ธˆ๊ธฐ ์ฃผ์ œ๋Š” ์„น์Šˆ์–ผ๋ฆฌํ‹ฐ์ž…๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.
04:38
If a man mentions something about his boyfriend or a woman mentions something about her girlfriend,
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๋‚จ์ž๊ฐ€ ๋‚จ์ž ์นœ๊ตฌ์— ๋Œ€ํ•ด ์–ธ๊ธ‰ํ•˜๊ฑฐ๋‚˜ ์—ฌ์ž๊ฐ€ ์—ฌ์ž ์นœ๊ตฌ์— ๋Œ€ํ•ด ์–ธ๊ธ‰ํ•˜๋Š” ๊ฒฝ์šฐ
04:45
do not ask, "Oh, are you gay?"
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"์˜ค, ๊ฒŒ์ด์ž…๋‹ˆ๊นŒ?"๋ผ๊ณ  ๋ฌป์ง€ ๋งˆ์‹ญ์‹œ์˜ค.
04:47
This is the 21st century, it is not shocking, or it should not be shocking, when someone
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์ง€๊ธˆ์€ 21์„ธ๊ธฐ์ž…๋‹ˆ๋‹ค. ๋ˆ„๊ตฐ๊ฐ€๊ฐ€ ๋™์„ฑ์• ์ž์ธ ๊ฒƒ์€ ์ถฉ๊ฒฉ์ ์ด์ง€ ์•Š์œผ๋ฉฐ ์ถฉ๊ฒฉ์ ์ด์–ด์„œ๋„ ์•ˆ๋ฉ๋‹ˆ๋‹ค
04:52
is gay.
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04:53
Just a little quick note.
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์•ฝ๊ฐ„์˜ ๋น ๋ฅธ ๋ฉ”๋ชจ์ž…๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.
04:54
If a man or woman says my partner talking about the person who they live with, this
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๋‚จ์ž๋‚˜ ์—ฌ์ž๊ฐ€ ๋‚ด ํŒŒํŠธ๋„ˆ๊ฐ€ ํ•จ๊ป˜ ์‚ฌ๋Š” ์‚ฌ๋žŒ์— ๋Œ€ํ•ด ์ด์•ผ๊ธฐํ•œ๋‹ค๊ณ  ํ•ด์„œ
05:00
doesn't always mean that it's a same-sex partner.
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ํ•ญ์ƒ ๋™์„ฑ ํŒŒํŠธ๋„ˆ๋ผ๋Š” ์˜๋ฏธ๋Š” ์•„๋‹™๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.
05:04
It might mean this, but it could just mean that they are in a committed long-term relationship.
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์ด๊ฒƒ์„ ์˜๋ฏธํ•  ์ˆ˜๋„ ์žˆ์ง€๋งŒ, ๋‹จ์ง€ ๊ทธ๋“ค์ด ํ—Œ์‹ ์ ์ธ ์žฅ๊ธฐ์ ์ธ ๊ด€๊ณ„์— ์žˆ๋‹ค๋Š” ๊ฒƒ์„ ์˜๋ฏธํ•  ์ˆ˜๋„ ์žˆ์Šต๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.
05:10
Sometimes if you are living with someone and you are committed to them, you don't want
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๋•Œ๋•Œ๋กœ ๋‹น์‹ ์ด ๋ˆ„๊ตฐ๊ฐ€์™€ ํ•จ๊ป˜ ์‚ด๊ณ  ์žˆ๊ณ  ๊ทธ๋“ค์—๊ฒŒ ํ—Œ์‹ ์ ์ด๋ผ๋ฉด
05:14
to call them just your boyfriend or your girlfriend.
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๊ทธ๋“ค์„ ๋‹จ์ง€ ๋‹น์‹ ์˜ ๋‚จ์ž ์นœ๊ตฌ ๋˜๋Š” ๋‹น์‹ ์˜ ์—ฌ์ž ์นœ๊ตฌ๋ผ๊ณ  ๋ถ€๋ฅด๊ณ  ์‹ถ์ง€ ์•Š์Šต๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.
05:18
In this way, it's a little bit casual, it's not so serious.
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์ด๋Ÿฐ ์‹์œผ๋กœ ์•ฝ๊ฐ„ ์บ์ฃผ์–ผํ•˜๊ณ  ๊ทธ๋ ‡๊ฒŒ ์‹ฌ๊ฐํ•˜์ง€ ์•Š์Šต๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.
05:22
If you are in a same-sex relationship, or if you are not and you just aren't married,
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๋‹น์‹ ์ด ๋™์„ฑ ๊ด€๊ณ„์— ์žˆ๊ฑฐ๋‚˜ ๊ทธ๋ ‡์ง€ ์•Š๊ณ  ๊ฒฐํ˜ผํ•˜์ง€ ์•Š์•˜๋‹ค๋ฉด
05:27
well, you could call them my partner.
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์Œ, ๊ทธ๋“ค์„ ๋‚ด ํŒŒํŠธ๋„ˆ๋ผ๊ณ  ๋ถ€๋ฅผ ์ˆ˜ ์žˆ์Šต๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.
05:30
If you happen to be talking with someone and they say, "Oh yeah, I need to call my partner
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๋‹น์‹ ์ด ๋ˆ„๊ตฐ๊ฐ€์™€ ์ด์•ผ๊ธฐ๋ฅผ ํ•˜๋‹ค๊ฐ€ ๊ทธ๋“ค์ด "๊ทธ๋ž˜, ๋‚ด ํŒŒํŠธ๋„ˆ์—๊ฒŒ ์ „ํ™”ํ•ด์„œ
05:34
and ask them about this," it doesn't mean necessarily that it's a same-sex partner.
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์ด๊ฒƒ์— ๋Œ€ํ•ด ๋ฌผ์–ด๋ด์•ผ๊ฒ ์–ด"๋ผ๊ณ  ๋งํ•œ๋‹ค๊ณ  ํ•ด์„œ ๊ทธ๊ฒƒ์ด ๋ฐ˜๋“œ์‹œ ๋™์„ฑ ํŒŒํŠธ๋„ˆ๋ผ๋Š” ์˜๋ฏธ๋Š” ์•„๋‹™๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.
05:39
It might mean that it might not.
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์•„๋‹ ์ˆ˜๋„ ์žˆ๋‹ค๋Š” ์˜๋ฏธ์ผ ์ˆ˜๋„ ์žˆ์Šต๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.
05:41
But in any situation, it's not polite to say, "Oh, are you gay?"
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ํ•˜์ง€๋งŒ ์–ด๋–ค ์ƒํ™ฉ์—์„œ๋“  "์•„, ๊ฒŒ์ด์•ผ? "๋ผ๊ณ  ๋งํ•˜๋Š” ๊ฒƒ์€ ์˜ˆ์˜๊ฐ€ ์•„๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.
05:46
Just take it in stride.
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๊ทธ๋ƒฅ ๋‹น๋‹นํ•˜๊ฒŒ ๋ฐ›์•„๋“ค์ด์„ธ์š”.
05:48
Our next taboo topic is religion.
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๋‹ค์Œ ๊ธˆ๊ธฐ ์ฃผ์ œ๋Š” ์ข…๊ต์ž…๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.
05:51
I don't recommend asking, "Do you go to church?" or saying, "Don't do this, it's a sin."
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๋‚˜๋Š” "๋‹น์‹ ์€ ๊ตํšŒ์— ๊ฐ€์‹ญ๋‹ˆ๊นŒ?"๋ผ๊ณ  ๋ฌป๋Š” ๊ฒƒ์„ ๊ถŒ์žฅํ•˜์ง€ ์•Š์Šต๋‹ˆ๋‹ค. ๋˜๋Š” "์ด๋Ÿฌ์ง€ ๋งˆ์„ธ์š”. ์ฃ„์ž…๋‹ˆ๋‹ค."
05:59
Even though the US has a reputation for being potentially more religious than some other
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๋ฏธ๊ตญ์ด ๋‹ค๋ฅธ ์ผ๋ถ€ ๊ตญ๊ฐ€๋ณด๋‹ค ์ž ์žฌ์ ์œผ๋กœ ๋” ์ข…๊ต์ ์ด๋ผ๋Š” ํ‰ํŒ์„ ๊ฐ€์ง€๊ณ  ์žˆ์ง€๋งŒ
06:04
countries, it's still not considered acceptable to ask someone what their religion is.
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๋ˆ„๊ตฐ๊ฐ€์—๊ฒŒ ๊ทธ๋“ค์˜ ์ข…๊ต๊ฐ€ ๋ฌด์—‡์ธ์ง€ ๋ฌป๋Š” ๊ฒƒ์€ ์—ฌ์ „ํžˆ โ€‹โ€‹ํ—ˆ์šฉ๋˜์ง€ ์•Š๋Š” ๊ฒƒ์œผ๋กœ ๊ฐ„์ฃผ๋ฉ๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.
06:10
Now, Americans will sometimes mention, "Oh, after I went to church, we went to the park,"
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์ž, ๋ฏธ๊ตญ์ธ๋“ค์€ ๋•Œ๋•Œ๋กœ "์˜ค, ๋‚ด๊ฐ€ ๊ตํšŒ์— ๊ฐ„ ํ›„, ์šฐ๋ฆฌ๋Š” ๊ณต์›์— ๊ฐ”๋‹ค"๋ผ๊ณ  ๋งํ•  ๊ฒƒ์ž…๋‹ˆ๋‹ค
06:15
something about going to church.
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06:18
It's acceptable to mention it yourself, but not really to ask someone else about it.
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์ง์ ‘ ์–ธ๊ธ‰ํ•˜๋Š” ๊ฒƒ์€ ํ—ˆ์šฉ๋˜์ง€๋งŒ ์‹ค์ œ๋กœ ๋‹ค๋ฅธ ์‚ฌ๋žŒ์—๊ฒŒ ์งˆ๋ฌธํ•˜๋Š” ๊ฒƒ์€ ํ—ˆ์šฉ๋˜์ง€ ์•Š์Šต๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.
06:24
Where I live in the south of the US, it's generally more a religious place, but that's
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๋ฏธ๊ตญ ๋‚จ๋ถ€์— ์‚ฌ๋Š” ๊ณณ์€ ์ผ๋ฐ˜์ ์œผ๋กœ ์ข…๊ต์ ์ธ ๊ณณ์ด์ง€๋งŒ
06:29
because the majority of people are Protestant Christians, so they expect that everyone else
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๋Œ€๋‹ค์ˆ˜์˜ ์‚ฌ๋žŒ๋“ค์ด ๊ฐœ์‹ ๊ต ๊ธฐ๋…๊ต์ธ์ด๊ธฐ ๋•Œ๋ฌธ์— ๋‹ค๋ฅธ ๋ชจ๋“  ์‚ฌ๋žŒ์ด
06:35
has the same religion, which is not quite a realistic but that's the mindset.
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๊ฐ™์€ ์ข…๊ต๋ฅผ ๊ฐ€์งˆ ๊ฒƒ์œผ๋กœ ๊ธฐ๋Œ€ํ•˜๊ธฐ ๋•Œ๋ฌธ์— ํ˜„์‹ค์ ์ด์ง€๋Š” ์•Š์ง€๋งŒ ์‚ฌ๊ณ  ๋ฐฉ์‹์ž…๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.
06:42
When my family first moved to the south of the US, the maintenance man who was installing
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์šฐ๋ฆฌ ๊ฐ€์กฑ์ด ๋ฏธ๊ตญ ๋‚จ๋ถ€๋กœ ์ฒ˜์Œ ์ด์ฃผํ–ˆ์„ ๋•Œ ๋ƒ‰์žฅ๊ณ ๋ฅผ ์„ค์น˜ํ•˜๋˜ ์ •๋น„์‚ฌ๊ฐ€
06:47
our refrigerator asked my mom, "Have you found a church yet?"
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์—„๋งˆ์—๊ฒŒ " ์•„์ง ๊ตํšŒ๋ฅผ ์ฐพ์•˜๋‚˜์š”?"๋ผ๊ณ  ๋ฌผ์—ˆ์Šต๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.
06:52
We were shocked, because in the north of the US this is not common to talk about.
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์šฐ๋ฆฌ๋Š” ์ถฉ๊ฒฉ์„ ๋ฐ›์•˜์Šต๋‹ˆ๋‹ค. ์™œ๋ƒํ•˜๋ฉด ๋ฏธ๊ตญ ๋ถ๋ถ€์—์„œ๋Š” ์ด๊ฒƒ์ด ์ผ๋ฐ˜์ ์ด์ง€ ์•Š๊ธฐ ๋•Œ๋ฌธ์ž…๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.
06:57
It's not expected that you would go to church, and it's especially not expected that you
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๋‹น์‹ ์ด ๊ตํšŒ์— ๊ฐˆ ๊ฒƒ์ด๋ผ๊ณ  ๊ธฐ๋Œ€ํ•˜์ง€ ์•Š์œผ๋ฉฐ ํŠนํžˆ
07:02
would ask someone about this.
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๋ˆ„๊ตฐ๊ฐ€์—๊ฒŒ ์ด๊ฒƒ์— ๋Œ€ํ•ด ๋ฌผ์–ด๋ณผ ๊ฒƒ์ด๋ผ๊ณ  ๊ธฐ๋Œ€ํ•˜์ง€ ์•Š์Šต๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.
07:04
So even if you're in the south of the US and someone asks you, I don't recommend you asking
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๊ทธ๋ž˜์„œ ๋‹น์‹ ์ด ๋ฏธ๊ตญ ๋‚จ๋ถ€์— ์žˆ๊ณ  ๋ˆ„๊ตฐ๊ฐ€๊ฐ€ ๋‹น์‹ ์—๊ฒŒ ๋ฌป๋Š”๋‹ค๋ฉด, ์Šค์Šค๋กœ์—๊ฒŒ ๋ฌผ์–ด๋ณด๋Š” ๊ฒƒ์„ ์ถ”์ฒœํ•˜์ง€ ์•Š์Šต๋‹ˆ๋‹ค
07:10
yourself, because it's a little bit less acceptable.
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.
07:15
Our next taboo topic is race.
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๋‹ค์Œ ๊ธˆ๊ธฐ ์ฃผ์ œ๋Š” ์ธ์ข…์ž…๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.
07:18
I don't recommend asking, "Where are you really from?"
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"๋‹น์‹ ์€ ์ •๋ง ์–ด๋””์—์„œ ์™”์Šต๋‹ˆ๊นŒ?"๋ผ๊ณ  ๋ฌป์ง€ ์•Š๋Š” ๊ฒƒ์ด ์ข‹์Šต๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.
07:23
especially when someone is obviously from the US.
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ํŠนํžˆ ๋ˆ„๊ตฐ๊ฐ€๊ฐ€ ๋ถ„๋ช…ํžˆ ๋ฏธ๊ตญ ์ถœ์‹ ์ธ ๊ฒฝ์šฐ .
07:27
The US is such a diverse place, people come from all sorts of backgrounds, all sorts of
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๋ฏธ๊ตญ์€ ์ •๋ง ๋‹ค์–‘ํ•œ ๊ณณ์ž…๋‹ˆ๋‹ค. ์‚ฌ๋žŒ๋“ค์€ ์˜จ๊ฐ– ๋ฐฐ๊ฒฝ๊ณผ
07:31
types of heritage, even if it was their great-great grandparents who moved to the US, a lot of
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์œ ์‚ฐ์„ ๊ฐ€์ง€๊ณ  ์žˆ์Šต๋‹ˆ๋‹ค. ์ฆ์กฐ๋ถ€๋ชจ๋‹˜์ด ๋ฏธ๊ตญ์œผ๋กœ ์ด์ฃผํ•˜์…จ๋”๋ผ๋„ ๋งŽ์€
07:38
people have different, looks, different backgrounds, different cultures, but they're still all
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์‚ฌ๋žŒ๋“ค์ด ์„œ๋กœ ๋‹ค๋ฅธ ์™ธ๋ชจ์™€ ๋ฐฐ๊ฒฝ์„ ๊ฐ€์ง€๊ณ  ์žˆ์Šต๋‹ˆ๋‹ค. ๋ฌธํ™”๋Š” ๋‹ค๋ฅด์ง€๋งŒ ์—ฌ์ „ํžˆ ๋ชจ๋‘
07:44
American.
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๋ฏธ๊ตญ์ธ์ž…๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.
07:45
This question often gets asked to my Asian-American friends.
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์ด ์งˆ๋ฌธ์€ ์•„์‹œ์•„๊ณ„ ๋ฏธ๊ตญ์ธ ์นœ๊ตฌ๋“ค์—๊ฒŒ ์ž์ฃผ ๋ฌป๋Š” ์งˆ๋ฌธ์ž…๋‹ˆ๋‹ค .
07:47
For example, I have a friend who, when I first met her, I thought, oh, she looks Korean,
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์˜ˆ๋ฅผ ๋“ค์–ด ์ œ ์นœ๊ตฌ๊ฐ€ ์žˆ๋Š”๋ฐ ์ฒ˜์Œ ๋งŒ๋‚ฌ์„ ๋•Œ ์•„, ํ•œ๊ตญ ์‚ฌ๋žŒ์ฒ˜๋Ÿผ ์ƒ๊ฒผ๋Š”๋ฐ
07:54
but she didn't have any type of accent.
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์–ต์–‘์ด ์ „ํ˜€ ์—†๋‹ค๊ณ  ์ƒ๊ฐํ–ˆ์–ด์š”.
07:57
She seemed completely like someone from the US, so I didn't really ask her, "Are you Korean?"
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๊ทธ๋…€๋Š” ์™„์ „ํžˆ ๋ฏธ๊ตญ์—์„œ ์˜จ ์‚ฌ๋žŒ ๊ฐ™์•˜๊ธฐ ๋•Œ๋ฌธ์— "๋‹น์‹ ์€ ํ•œ๊ตญ ์‚ฌ๋žŒ์ž…๋‹ˆ๊นŒ?"๋ผ๊ณ  ๋ฌป์ง€ ์•Š์•˜์Šต๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.
08:03
That would have been a little bit rude and presumptive.
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๊ทธ๊ฒƒ์€ ์•ฝ๊ฐ„ ๋ฌด๋ก€ํ•˜๊ณ  ์ถ”์ •์ ์ด์—ˆ์„ ๊ฒƒ์ž…๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.
08:07
Instead, I just didn't say anything.
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๋Œ€์‹  ์•„๋ฌด ๋ง๋„ ํ•˜์ง€ ์•Š์•˜๋‹ค.
08:10
I didn't even ask her, "What's your heritage?"
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๋‚˜๋Š” ๊ทธ๋…€์—๊ฒŒ "๋‹น์‹ ์˜ ์œ ์‚ฐ์€ ๋ฌด์—‡์ž…๋‹ˆ๊นŒ?"๋ผ๊ณ  ๋ฌป์ง€๋„ ์•Š์•˜์Šต๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.
08:13
This is a slightly more polite question, but only when you're talking about your family's
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์ด๊ฒƒ์€ ์•ฝ๊ฐ„ ๋” ์ •์ค‘ํ•œ ์งˆ๋ฌธ์ด์ง€๋งŒ ์ด๋ฏธ ๊ฐ€์กฑ์˜ ๋ฐฐ๊ฒฝ์— ๋Œ€ํ•ด ์ด์•ผ๊ธฐํ•  ๋•Œ๋งŒ ๊ฐ€๋Šฅํ•ฉ๋‹ˆ๋‹ค
08:19
background already.
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08:21
Instead of asking her this, I just thought it doesn't matter, why would I need to ask
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๊ทธ๋…€์—๊ฒŒ ์ด๊ฒƒ์„ ๋ฌป๋Š” ๋Œ€์‹ ์—, ๋‚˜๋Š” ๊ทธ๊ฒƒ์ด ์ค‘์š”ํ•˜์ง€ ์•Š๋‹ค๊ณ  ์ƒ๊ฐํ–ˆ๋Š”๋ฐ, ๋‚ด๊ฐ€ ์™œ ์ด๊ฒƒ์„ ๋ฌผ์–ด์•ผ ํ•ฉ๋‹ˆ๊นŒ
08:26
this?
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08:27
One day when I was at her house, I saw a little picture or painting on the wall with some
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์–ด๋Š ๋‚  ๊ทธ๋…€์˜ ์ง‘์— ์žˆ์„ ๋•Œ ๋ฒฝ์— ํ•œ๊ธ€์ด ์ ํžŒ ์ž‘์€ ๊ทธ๋ฆผ์ด๋‚˜ ๊ทธ๋ฆผ์„ ๋ณด๊ณ 
08:32
Korean writing and I said, "Oh, cool.
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"์˜ค, ๋ฉ‹์ง€๋‹ค.
08:34
I used to live in Korea.
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ํ•œ๊ตญ์— ์‚ด์•˜๋Š”๋ฐ ๊ฑฐ๊ธฐ
08:36
Have you been there?
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๊ฐ€๋ดค์–ด?
08:37
I saw that picture in your kitchen with some Korean writing."
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์•ฝ๊ฐ„์˜ ํ•œ๊ตญ์–ด ๊ธ€์”จ๊ฐ€ ์žˆ๋Š” ๋ถ€์—Œ."
08:40
She said, "Oh, my mom was adopted from Korea."
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๊ทธ๋…€๋Š” "์•„, ์šฐ๋ฆฌ ์—„๋งˆ๊ฐ€ ํ•œ๊ตญ์—์„œ ์ž…์–‘๋์–ด."๋ผ๊ณ  ๋งํ–ˆ์Šต๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.
08:45
This type of situation is extremely common in the US.
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์ด๋Ÿฌํ•œ ์œ ํ˜•์˜ ์ƒํ™ฉ์€ ๋ฏธ๊ตญ์—์„œ ๋งค์šฐ ์ผ๋ฐ˜์ ์ž…๋‹ˆ๋‹ค .
08:48
My friend has pretty much no cultural connection to Korea.
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์ œ ์นœ๊ตฌ๋Š” ํ•œ๊ตญ๊ณผ ๋ฌธํ™”์ ์œผ๋กœ ๊ฑฐ์˜ ์—ฐ๊ฒฐ๋˜์–ด ์žˆ์ง€ ์•Š์Šต๋‹ˆ๋‹ค .
08:53
Her mom has almost no cultural connection to Korea, too, except that she lived there
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๊ทธ๋…€์˜ ์–ด๋จธ๋‹ˆ๋Š” ์ž…์–‘๋˜๊ธฐ ์ „ ์•„์ฃผ ์•„์ฃผ ์–ด๋ ธ์„ ๋•Œ ํ•œ๊ตญ์—์„œ ์‚ด์•˜๋‹ค๋Š” ์ ์„ ์ œ์™ธํ•˜๊ณ ๋Š” ํ•œ๊ตญ๊ณผ ๋ฌธํ™”์  ์—ฐ๊ด€์„ฑ์ด ๊ฑฐ์˜ ์—†์Šต๋‹ˆ๋‹ค
08:59
when she was very, very young before she was adopted.
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09:03
If I had asked my friend, "Hey, where are you really from?
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์นœ๊ตฌ์—๊ฒŒ "์•ผ ๋„ˆ ์ง„์งœ ์–ด๋””์„œ ์™”์–ด?
09:06
Are you from Korea?" she probably would have felt like, "I don't belong here.
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ํ•œ๊ตญ์—์„œ ์™”์–ด?" ๊ทธ๋…€๋Š” ์•„๋งˆ๋„ "๋‚˜๋Š” ์—ฌ๊ธฐ์— ์†ํ•˜์ง€ ์•Š์•„.
09:12
This isn't my home," but really it is.
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์—ฌ๊ธฐ๋Š” ๋‚ด ์ง‘์ด ์•„๋‹ˆ์•ผ"๋ผ๊ณ  ๋Š๊ผˆ์„ ๊ฒƒ์ž…๋‹ˆ๋‹ค. ํ•˜์ง€๋งŒ ์‹ค์ œ๋กœ๋Š” ๊ทธ๋ ‡์Šต๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.
09:14
She is American just like anybody else.
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๊ทธ๋…€๋Š” ๋‹ค๋ฅธ ๋ˆ„๊ตฌ์™€ ๋งˆ์ฐฌ๊ฐ€์ง€๋กœ ๋ฏธ๊ตญ์ธ์ž…๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.
09:17
This question can make people feel pretty uncomfortable.
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์ด ์งˆ๋ฌธ์€ ์‚ฌ๋žŒ๋“ค์„ ์ƒ๋‹นํžˆ ๋ถˆํŽธํ•˜๊ฒŒ ๋งŒ๋“ค ์ˆ˜ ์žˆ์Šต๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.
09:20
I personally recommend waiting until they mention something, or just don't worry about
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๊ฐœ์ธ์ ์œผ๋กœ ๊ทธ๋“ค์ด ๋ฌด์–ธ๊ฐ€๋ฅผ ์–ธ๊ธ‰ํ•  ๋•Œ๊นŒ์ง€ ๊ธฐ๋‹ค๋ฆฌ๊ฑฐ๋‚˜ ๊ฑฑ์ •ํ•˜์ง€ ์•Š๋Š” ๊ฒƒ์ด ์ข‹์Šต๋‹ˆ๋‹ค
09:26
it.
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09:27
Don't ask about it, and if they mentioned something, cool, if they don't, go with the
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๊ทธ๊ฒƒ์— ๋Œ€ํ•ด ๋ฌป์ง€ ๋ง๊ณ  ๊ทธ๋“ค์ด ๋ฌด์–ธ๊ฐ€๋ฅผ ์–ธ๊ธ‰ํ–ˆ๋‹ค๋ฉด ๋ฉ‹์ง€๊ณ  ๊ทธ๋ ‡์ง€ ์•Š์œผ๋ฉด ํ๋ฆ„์„ ๋”ฐ๋ผ ๊ฐ€์‹ญ์‹œ์˜ค
09:32
flow.
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09:33
Our next taboo topic is money.
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๋‹ค์Œ ๊ธˆ๊ธฐ ์‚ฌํ•ญ์€ ๋ˆ์ž…๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.
09:34
I don't recommend asking, "How much money do you make?" or how much was some kind of
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"๋ˆ์„ ์–ผ๋งˆ๋‚˜ ๋ฒŒ์–ด์š”?"๋ผ๊ณ  ๋ฌป์ง€ ์•Š๋Š” ๊ฒƒ์ด ์ข‹์Šต๋‹ˆ๋‹ค. ๋˜๋Š”
09:41
expensive item, maybe like a car.
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์ž๋™์ฐจ์™€ ๊ฐ™์€ ๊ฐ’ ๋น„์‹ผ ๋ฌผ๊ฑด์€ ์–ผ๋งˆ์ž…๋‹ˆ๊นŒ?
09:44
Sometimes people will add this expression, "If you don't mind me asking," before asking
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๋•Œ๋•Œ๋กœ ์‚ฌ๋žŒ๋“ค์€ ๋ˆ์— ๋Œ€ํ•ด ๋ฌป๊ธฐ ์ „์— "If you don't mind me ask ask"๋ผ๋Š” ํ‘œํ˜„์„ ๋ง๋ถ™์ผ ๊ฒƒ์ž…๋‹ˆ๋‹ค
09:50
about money.
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09:51
I did this a couple of weeks ago when my neighbor hired a babysitter and I was curious how much
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๋‚˜๋Š” ๋ช‡ ์ฃผ ์ „์— ๋‚ด ์ด์›ƒ์ด ๋ฒ ์ด๋น„์‹œํ„ฐ๋ฅผ ๊ณ ์šฉํ–ˆ์„ ๋•Œ ์ด ์ž‘์—…์„ ์ˆ˜ํ–‰ํ–ˆ๋Š”๋ฐ
09:56
she charged or how much the babysitter charged to watch her kids.
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๊ทธ๋…€๊ฐ€ ์–ผ๋งˆ๋ฅผ ์ฒญ๊ตฌํ–ˆ๋Š”์ง€ ๋˜๋Š” ๋ฒ ์ด๋น„์‹œํ„ฐ๊ฐ€ ์ž๋…€๋ฅผ ๋Œ๋ณด๊ธฐ ์œ„ํ•ด ์–ผ๋งˆ๋ฅผ ์ฒญ๊ตฌํ–ˆ๋Š”์ง€ ๊ถ๊ธˆํ–ˆ์Šต๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.
10:01
I didn't really want to directly ask her, "Hey, how much money did you give the babysitter?"
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"์•ผ ๋ฒ ์ด๋น„์‹œํ„ฐํ•œํ…Œ ๋ˆ ์–ผ๋งˆ ์คฌ์–ด?"
10:07
so I asked, "If you don't mind me asking, can I ask how much she charged?"
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๊ทธ๋ž˜์„œ ์ œ๊ฐ€ ๋ฌผ์—ˆ์Šต๋‹ˆ๋‹ค. "๊ดœ์ฐฎ์œผ์‹œ๋‹ค๋ฉด ์–ผ๋งˆ๋ฅผ ์ฒญ๊ตฌํ–ˆ๋Š”์ง€ ์—ฌ์ญค๋ด๋„ ๋ ๊นŒ์š”?"
10:13
This is very indirect.
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์ด๊ฒƒ์€ ๋งค์šฐ ๊ฐ„์ ‘์ ์ž…๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.
10:16
I'm asking her about the purchase of potentially an expensive thing, some babysitting services,
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๋‚˜๋Š” ๊ทธ๋…€์—๊ฒŒ ์ž ์žฌ์ ์œผ๋กœ ๊ฐ’๋น„์‹ผ ๋ฌผ๊ฑด์˜ ๊ตฌ๋งค, ์ผ๋ถ€ ํƒ์•„ ์„œ๋น„์Šค์— ๋Œ€ํ•ด ๋ฌป๊ณ 
10:22
but I'm asking her in an indirect way.
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์žˆ์ง€๋งŒ ๊ฐ„์ ‘์ ์ธ ๋ฐฉ์‹์œผ๋กœ ๊ทธ๋…€์—๊ฒŒ ๋ฌป๊ณ  ์žˆ์Šต๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.
10:25
When I hired that babysitter, I could say, "Well, how much do you charge?"
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์ œ๊ฐ€ ๊ทธ ๋ฒ ์ด๋น„์‹œํ„ฐ๋ฅผ ๊ณ ์šฉํ–ˆ์„ ๋•Œ ์ €๋Š” ์ด๋ ‡๊ฒŒ ๋งํ•  ์ˆ˜ ์žˆ์—ˆ์Šต๋‹ˆ๋‹ค. "์Œ, ์š”๊ธˆ์€ ์–ผ๋งˆ์ฃ ?"
10:31
This is very direct.
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์ด๊ฒƒ์€ ๋งค์šฐ ์ง์ ‘์ ์ž…๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.
10:32
It's fine, this is a business transaction.
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๊ดœ์ฐฎ์•„, ์ด๊ฑด ๋น„์ฆˆ๋‹ˆ์Šค ๊ฑฐ๋ž˜์•ผ.
10:34
But when it's someone else who's making that purchase, it's better to use this expression,
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ํ•˜์ง€๋งŒ ๊ตฌ๋งคํ•˜๋Š” ์‚ฌ๋žŒ์ด ๋‹ค๋ฅธ ์‚ฌ๋žŒ์ด๋ผ๋ฉด ์ด ํ‘œํ˜„์„ ์‚ฌ์šฉํ•˜๊ฑฐ๋‚˜
10:39
or just not ask at all.
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์ „ํ˜€ ๋ฌป์ง€ ์•Š๋Š” ๊ฒƒ์ด ์ข‹์Šต๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.
10:40
We never really ask how much money do you make talking directly about personal income.
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์šฐ๋ฆฌ๋Š” ๊ฐœ์ธ ์†Œ๋“์— ๋Œ€ํ•ด ์ง์ ‘ ์ด์•ผ๊ธฐํ•˜๋ฉด์„œ ์–ผ๋งˆ๋‚˜ ๋งŽ์€ ๋ˆ์„ ๋ฒŒ๊ณ  ์žˆ๋Š”์ง€ ๋ฌป์ง€ ์•Š์Šต๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.
10:46
Yeah, it's not really a popular topic or a comfortable topic.
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๋„ค, ๋ณ„๋กœ ์ธ๊ธฐ ์žˆ๋Š” ์ฃผ์ œ๋„ ์•„๋‹ˆ๊ณ  ํŽธ์•ˆํ•œ ์ฃผ์ œ๋„ ์•„๋‹™๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.
10:51
Our final taboo topic is appearance.
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์šฐ๋ฆฌ์˜ ๋งˆ์ง€๋ง‰ ๊ธˆ๊ธฐ ์ฃผ์ œ๋Š” ์™ธ๋ชจ์ž…๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.
10:53
I don't recommend asking, "Are you feeling tired today?
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" ์˜ค๋Š˜ ํ”ผ๊ณคํ•ด?
10:58
Oh, you look tired.
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์•„, ํ”ผ๊ณคํ•ด ๋ณด์—ฌ.
10:59
Are you feeling okay?
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๊ดœ์ฐฎ๋‹ˆ?
11:01
Did you lose weight?
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์‚ด์ด ๋น ์กŒ๋‹ˆ?
11:03
Did you gain weight?"
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์‚ด์ด ์ช˜๋‹ˆ?"
11:05
Not acceptable.
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๋ฐ›์•„ ๋“œ๋ฆด ์ˆ˜์—†๋Š”.
11:06
If you're really concerned about someone, maybe one of your coworkers is looking a lot
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๋‹น์‹ ์ด ๋ˆ„๊ตฐ๊ฐ€์— ๋Œ€ํ•ด ์ •๋ง๋กœ ๊ฑฑ์ •ํ•˜๊ณ  ์žˆ๋‹ค๋ฉด, ์•„๋งˆ๋„ ๋‹น์‹ ์˜ ๋™๋ฃŒ ์ค‘ ํ•œ ๋ช…์ด
11:10
more tired than usual or maybe you realize that they really lost a lot of weight and
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ํ‰์†Œ๋ณด๋‹ค ํ›จ์”ฌ ๋” ํ”ผ๊ณคํ•ด ๋ณด์ด๊ฑฐ๋‚˜, ๊ทธ๋“ค์ด ์ •๋ง๋กœ ๋งŽ์€ ์ฒด์ค‘์„ ๊ฐ๋Ÿ‰ํ–ˆ๋‹ค๋Š” ๊ฒƒ์„ ๊นจ๋‹ซ๊ณ 
11:15
you're seriously concerned about them, we don't talk about this in just casual passing
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๋‹น์‹ ์ด ๊ทธ๋“ค์„ ์‹ฌ๊ฐํ•˜๊ฒŒ ๊ฑฑ์ •ํ•˜๊ณ  ์žˆ๋‹ค๋ฉด, ์šฐ๋ฆฌ๋Š” ์ด๊ฒƒ์— ๋Œ€ํ•ด ์ด์•ผ๊ธฐํ•˜์ง€ ์•Š์Šต๋‹ˆ๋‹ค. ๊ทธ๋ƒฅ ์ง€๋‚˜๊ฐ€๋Š”
11:20
conversation.
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๋Œ€ํ™”์—์„œ.
11:21
Instead, pull them aside or talk with them privately.
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๋Œ€์‹  ๊ทธ๋“ค์„ ์˜†์œผ๋กœ ์น˜์šฐ๊ฑฐ๋‚˜ ๊ทธ๋“ค๊ณผ ๊ฐœ์ธ์ ์œผ๋กœ ์ด์•ผ๊ธฐํ•˜์‹ญ์‹œ์˜ค.
11:25
With a lot of care in your heart, you can ask them, "Hey, I'm a little worried about
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๋งˆ์Œ์— ๋งŽ์€ ๊ด€์‹ฌ์„ ๊ฐ€์ง€๊ณ  ๊ทธ๋“ค์—๊ฒŒ ๋ฌผ์–ด๋ณผ ์ˆ˜ ์žˆ์Šต๋‹ˆ๋‹ค. "์ด๋ด, ๋‚˜๋Š” ๋‹น์‹ ์ด ์กฐ๊ธˆ ๊ฑฑ์ •๋ฉ๋‹ˆ๋‹ค
11:30
you.
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.
11:31
You look a lot more tired than usual the last couple of days.
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๋‹น์‹ ์€ ์ง€๋‚œ ๋ฉฐ์น  ๋™์•ˆ ํ‰์†Œ๋ณด๋‹ค ํ›จ์”ฌ ๋” ํ”ผ๊ณคํ•ด ๋ณด์ž…๋‹ˆ๋‹ค .
11:34
What's going on.
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๋ฌด์Šจ ์ผ์ด ์ผ์–ด๋‚˜๊ณ  ์žˆ์Šต๋‹ˆ๊นŒ?
11:35
Are you okay?"
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๊ดœ์ฐฎ์Šต๋‹ˆ๊นŒ?"
11:37
Did you notice the tone of my voice is very serious.
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๋‚ด ๋ชฉ์†Œ๋ฆฌ ํ†ค์ด ๋งค์šฐ ์‹ฌ๊ฐํ•˜๋‹ค๋Š” ๊ฒƒ์„ ๋ˆˆ์น˜์ฑ„์…จ๋‚˜์š”?
11:40
This is not casual conversation, you're not just asking because you care, instead, you
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์ด๊ฒƒ์€ ์ผ์ƒ์ ์ธ ๋Œ€ํ™”๊ฐ€ ์•„๋‹™๋‹ˆ๋‹ค. ๊ด€์‹ฌ์ด ์žˆ๊ธฐ ๋•Œ๋ฌธ์— ๋ฌป๋Š” ๊ฒƒ์ด ์•„๋‹ˆ๋ผ
11:45
are very serious and you are telling them personally.
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๋งค์šฐ ์ง„์ง€ํ•˜๊ณ  ๊ฐœ์ธ์ ์œผ๋กœ ์ด์•ผ๊ธฐํ•˜๊ณ  ์žˆ์Šต๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.
11:49
Make sure that if you ask these questions, it is in the correct context with someone
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์ด๋Ÿฌํ•œ ์งˆ๋ฌธ์„ ํ•˜๋Š” ๊ฒฝ์šฐ ๊ทธ๋ƒฅ ์ง€๋‚˜์น˜๋Š” ๊ฒƒ์ด ์•„๋‹ˆ๋ผ ์ •๋ง ๊ด€์‹ฌ ์žˆ๋Š” ์‚ฌ๋žŒ์—๊ฒŒ ์˜ฌ๋ฐ”๋ฅธ ๋งฅ๋ฝ์—์„œ ์งˆ๋ฌธํ•ด์•ผ ํ•ฉ๋‹ˆ๋‹ค
11:53
who you really care about, not just in passing.
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.
11:56
A little special note.
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์กฐ๊ธˆ ํŠน๋ณ„ํ•œ ์ฐธ๊ณ  ์‚ฌํ•ญ.
11:58
Talking about appearance, especially for men directing comments towards women, I don't
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์™ธ๋ชจ์— ๋Œ€ํ•ด ์ด์•ผ๊ธฐํ•  ๋•Œ, ํŠนํžˆ ์—ฌ์„ฑ์— ๋Œ€ํ•œ ์–ธ๊ธ‰์„ ํ•˜๋Š” ๋‚จ์„ฑ๋“ค์—๊ฒŒ
12:04
recommend saying something so direct as, "Wow, you look really beautiful."
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"์™€, ์ •๋ง ์•„๋ฆ„๋‹ค์›Œ"์™€ ๊ฐ™์ด ์ง์ ‘์ ์œผ๋กœ ๋งํ•˜๋Š” ๊ฒƒ์„ ๊ถŒ์žฅํ•˜์ง€ ์•Š์Šต๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.
12:09
This is usually considered flirting.
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์ด๊ฒƒ์€ ์ผ๋ฐ˜์ ์œผ๋กœ ์œ ํ˜น์œผ๋กœ ๊ฐ„์ฃผ๋ฉ๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.
12:12
If you are flirting with them and you went to ask them out on a date, okay, go ahead,
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๋‹น์‹ ์ด ๊ทธ๋“ค๊ณผ ์ถ”ํŒŒ๋ฅผ ๋˜์ง€๊ณ  ๊ทธ๋“ค์—๊ฒŒ ๋ฐ์ดํŠธ ์‹ ์ฒญ์„ ํ•˜๋Ÿฌ ๊ฐ”๋‹ค๋ฉด, ์ข‹์•„์š”, ๊ณ„์†ํ•˜์„ธ์š”.
12:17
but if you're just in the office and you notice, "Oh, wow.
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ํ•˜์ง€๋งŒ ๋‹น์‹ ์ด ์‚ฌ๋ฌด์‹ค์— ์žˆ์„ ๋•Œ "์˜ค, ์™€์šฐ.
12:22
You look great today," be careful being so enthusiastic about it, "Wow, you look so beautiful
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์˜ค๋Š˜ ๋ฉ‹์ ธ ๋ณด์—ฌ์š”." "์™€, ์˜ค๋Š˜ ๋„ˆ๋ฌด ์˜ˆ๋ป์š”
12:29
today."
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."
12:30
Instead, it's considered more polite to compliment maybe their haircut or their clothes.
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๋Œ€์‹  ๋จธ๋ฆฌ ๋ชจ์–‘์ด๋‚˜ ์˜ท์„ ์นญ์ฐฌํ•˜๋Š” ๊ฒƒ์ด ๋” ์˜ˆ์˜ ๋ฐ”๋ฅธ ๊ฒƒ์œผ๋กœ ๊ฐ„์ฃผ๋ฉ๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.
12:36
"Oh, did you get a new haircut?
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"์˜ค, ๋จธ๋ฆฌ ์ƒˆ๋กœ ํ–ˆ์–ด?
12:37
It looks great."
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๋ฉ‹์ ธ ๋ณด์—ฌ."
12:38
Wonderful.
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์•„์ฃผ ๋ฉ‹์ง„.
12:39
Or, "Oh, that's a nice shirt.
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๋˜๋Š” "์˜ค, ์ข‹์€ ์…”์ธ ๋„ค์š”.
12:41
I love those colors."
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์ € ์ƒ‰์ด ๋„ˆ๋ฌด ์ข‹์•„์š”."
12:42
This is more indirect.
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์ด๊ฒƒ์€ ๋” ๊ฐ„์ ‘์ ์ž…๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.
12:44
If you want to compliment someone's appearance, especially for a man directed towards a woman,
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๋ˆ„๊ตฐ๊ฐ€์˜ ์™ธ๋ชจ๋ฅผ ์นญ์ฐฌํ•˜๊ณ  ์‹ถ์€ ๊ฒฝ์šฐ, ํŠนํžˆ ์—ฌ์„ฑ์„ ํ–ฅํ•œ ๋‚จ์„ฑ์˜ ๊ฒฝ์šฐ ๋™๋ฃŒ ๋˜๋Š” ์นœ๊ตฌ์ผ ๋ฟ์ด๋ฉฐ
12:49
and you don't want them to feel uncomfortable because you're just coworkers or you're just
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๋‚ญ๋งŒ์ ์ธ ํƒœ๋„๋ฅผ ์ทจํ•˜๋ ค๋Š” ๊ฒƒ์ด ์•„๋‹ˆ๊ธฐ ๋•Œ๋ฌธ์— ์ƒ๋Œ€๋ฐฉ์ด ๋ถˆํŽธํ•จ์„ ๋Š๋ผ๊ณ  ์‹ถ์ง€ ์•Š์€ ๊ฒฝ์šฐ
12:53
friends and you're not trying to be romantic towards them, well, you can compliment them
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, ์Œ, ๋‹น์‹ ์€ ๊ทธ๋“ค์„ ๊ฐ„์ ‘์ ์œผ๋กœ ์นญ์ฐฌํ•  ์ˆ˜ ์žˆ์Šต๋‹ˆ๋‹ค
12:58
indirectly, their hair, their clothes, something like this.
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, ๊ทธ๋“ค์˜ ๋จธ๋ฆฌ์นด๋ฝ, ๊ทธ๋“ค์˜ ์˜ท, ์ด์™€ ๊ฐ™์€ ๊ฒƒ.
13:02
Actually, that was not the last topic.
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์‚ฌ์‹ค ๊ทธ๊ฒŒ ๋งˆ์ง€๋ง‰ ์ฃผ์ œ๊ฐ€ ์•„๋‹ˆ์—ˆ์–ด์š”. ์•„๊ธฐ๊ฐ€ ์šฐ๋Š” ์†Œ๋ฆฌ๋ฅผ
13:04
I got a little distracted because I heard my baby crying, so he's going to join me for
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๋“ฃ๊ณ  ์กฐ๊ธˆ ์ •์‹ ์ด ํŒ”๋ ค์„œ
13:08
this last taboo topic.
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์ด ๋งˆ์ง€๋ง‰ ๊ธˆ๊ธฐ ์ฃผ์ œ์— ๋‚˜์™€ ํ•จ๊ป˜ ํ•  ๊ฒƒ์ž…๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.
13:10
We're going to end on a light note, death.
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์šฐ๋ฆฌ๋Š” ๊ฐ€๋ฒผ์šด ๋ฉ”๋ชจ, ์ฃฝ์Œ์œผ๋กœ ๋๋‚ผ ๊ฒƒ์ž…๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.
13:14
I do not recommend asking, "Do you think he's going to die soon?" or, "I think he's going
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๋‚˜๋Š” "๊ทธ๊ฐ€ ๊ณง ์ฃฝ์„ ๊ฒƒ์ด๋ผ๊ณ  ์ƒ๊ฐํ•ฉ๋‹ˆ๊นŒ? "๋ผ๊ณ  ๋ฌป์ง€ ์•Š๋Š” ๊ฒƒ์ด ์ข‹์Šต๋‹ˆ๋‹ค. ๋˜๋Š” "
13:20
to die soon."
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๊ณง ์ฃฝ์„ ๊ฒƒ ๊ฐ™์•„์š”."
13:22
This is too direct, too rude.
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์ด๊ฒƒ์€ ๋„ˆ๋ฌด ์ง์„ค์ ์ด๊ณ  ๋ฌด๋ก€ํ•ฉ๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.
13:24
Yes, death is an essential part of being alive, being a human being, a being, but we do not
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์˜ˆ, ์ฃฝ์Œ์€ ์‚ด์•„ ์žˆ์Œ, ์ธ๊ฐ„ ์กด์žฌ, ์กด์žฌ์˜ ๋ณธ์งˆ์ ์ธ ๋ถ€๋ถ„์ด์ง€๋งŒ ์šฐ๋ฆฌ๋Š”
13:32
say it in such direct terms.
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๊ทธ๊ฒƒ์„ ๊ทธ๋ ‡๊ฒŒ ์ง์ ‘์ ์ธ ์šฉ์–ด๋กœ ๋งํ•˜์ง€ ์•Š์Šต๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.
13:34
Instead, if you want to talk about death, you can use a more indirect expression to
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๋Œ€์‹  ์ฃฝ์Œ์— ๋Œ€ํ•ด ์ด์•ผ๊ธฐํ•˜๊ณ  ์‹ถ๋‹ค๋ฉด ๋” ๊ฐ„์ ‘์ ์ธ ํ‘œํ˜„์„ ์‚ฌ์šฉํ•˜์—ฌ pass away๋ฅผ ์‚ฌ์šฉํ•  ์ˆ˜ ์žˆ์Šต๋‹ˆ๋‹ค
13:39
pass away.
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.
13:41
You might say, "Sorry I was gone from work last week.
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"์ง€๋‚œ์ฃผ์— ์ผ์„ ๋ชป ํ•ด์„œ ๋ฏธ์•ˆํ•ด .
13:44
My grandmother passed away and I had to travel to California for the funeral."
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ํ• ๋จธ๋‹ˆ๊ฐ€ ๋Œ์•„๊ฐ€์…”์„œ ์žฅ๋ก€์‹ ๋•Œ๋ฌธ์— ์บ˜๋ฆฌํฌ๋‹ˆ์•„๋กœ ๊ฐ€์•ผ ํ–ˆ์–ด."
13:49
In this situation, you're saying pass away, much more polite to say.
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์ด ์ƒํ™ฉ์—์„œ ๋‹น์‹ ์€ pass away๋ผ๊ณ  ๋งํ•˜๊ณ  ์žˆ๋Š” ๊ฒƒ์ž…๋‹ˆ๋‹ค .
13:54
If someone says this to you, how can you react to show that you care?
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๋ˆ„๊ตฐ๊ฐ€๊ฐ€ ๋‹น์‹ ์—๊ฒŒ ์ด๋Ÿฐ ๋ง์„ ํ•œ๋‹ค๋ฉด, ๋‹น์‹  ์ด ๊ด€์‹ฌ์„ ๊ฐ–๊ณ  ์žˆ๋‹ค๋Š” ๊ฒƒ์„ ๋ณด์—ฌ์ฃผ๊ธฐ ์œ„ํ•ด ์–ด๋–ป๊ฒŒ ๋ฐ˜์‘ํ•  ์ˆ˜ ์žˆ์Šต๋‹ˆ๊นŒ?
13:59
You can simply say, "Oh, I'm so sorry," or, "I'm sorry for your loss."
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"์˜ค, ์ •๋ง ์ฃ„์†กํ•ฉ๋‹ˆ๋‹ค." ๋˜๋Š” "์žƒ์–ด๋ฒ„๋ ค์„œ ์ฃ„์†กํ•ฉ๋‹ˆ๋‹ค."๋ผ๊ณ  ๊ฐ„๋‹จํžˆ ๋งํ•  ์ˆ˜ ์žˆ์Šต๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.
14:04
You don't need to go on and on, those two common polite expressions are really enough.
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๊ณ„์†ํ•ด์„œ ๋งํ•  ํ•„์š”๊ฐ€ ์—†์Šต๋‹ˆ๋‹ค. ์ด ๋‘ ๊ฐ€์ง€ ์ผ๋ฐ˜์ ์ธ ์ •์ค‘ํ•œ ํ‘œํ˜„์œผ๋กœ ์ •๋ง ์ถฉ๋ถ„ํ•ฉ๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.
14:09
You say it from your heart and you mean it.
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๋‹น์‹ ์€ ๋‹น์‹ ์˜ ๋งˆ์Œ์—์„œ ๊ทธ๊ฒƒ์„ ๋งํ•˜๊ณ  ์ง„์‹ฌ์ž…๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.
14:11
Now you might be wondering if I can't talk about all these taboo topics, what can I talk
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์ด์ œ ์—ฌ๋Ÿฌ๋ถ„์€ ๋‚ด๊ฐ€ ์ด ๋ชจ๋“  ๊ธˆ๊ธฐ ์‚ฌํ•ญ์— ๋Œ€ํ•ด ์ด์•ผ๊ธฐํ•  ์ˆ˜ ์—†๋Š”์ง€ ๊ถ๊ธˆํ•˜์‹ค ๊ฒƒ์ž…๋‹ˆ๋‹ค. ๋ฌด์—‡์— ๋Œ€ํ•ด ์ด์•ผ๊ธฐํ•  ์ˆ˜ ์žˆ์Šต๋‹ˆ๊นŒ
14:16
about?
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?
14:17
Well, really the possibilities are endless.
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์Œ, ์ •๋ง ๊ฐ€๋Šฅ์„ฑ์€ ๋ฌดํ•œํ•ฉ๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.
14:20
You could talk about your weekend plans, you could talk about that time you broke your
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์ฃผ๋ง ๊ณ„ํš์— ๋Œ€ํ•ด ์ด์•ผ๊ธฐํ•  ์ˆ˜ ์žˆ๊ณ ,
14:24
arm when you fell out of a tree as a kid, you could talk about how you wish you could
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์–ด๋ ธ์„ ๋•Œ ๋‚˜๋ฌด์—์„œ ๋–จ์–ด์กŒ์„ ๋•Œ ํŒ”์ด ๋ถ€๋Ÿฌ์กŒ๋˜ ๋•Œ,
14:28
go to New York on a vacation, you could talk about how octopuses are pretty much the smartest
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ํœด๊ฐ€ ๋•Œ ๋‰ด์š•์— ๊ฐ€๊ณ  ์‹ถ์—ˆ๋˜ ๋•Œ, ๋‹ค์Œ์— ๋Œ€ํ•ด ์ด์•ผ๊ธฐํ•  ์ˆ˜ ์žˆ์Šต๋‹ˆ๋‹ค. ๋ฌธ์–ด๋Š”
14:33
animal in the world.
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์„ธ์ƒ์—์„œ ๊ฐ€์žฅ ๋˜‘๋˜‘ํ•œ ๋™๋ฌผ์ž…๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.
14:34
The possibilities are endless.
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๊ฐ€๋Šฅ์„ฑ์€ ๋ฌดํ•œํ•ฉ๋‹ˆ๋‹ค. ๋ˆ„๊ตฐ๊ฐ€์™€
14:36
If you'd like to know how to start a conversation with anyone, I made a video about this that
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๋Œ€ํ™”๋ฅผ ์‹œ์ž‘ํ•˜๋Š” ๋ฐฉ๋ฒ•์„ ์•Œ๊ณ  ์‹ถ๋‹ค๋ฉด ์—ฌ๊ธฐ์—์„œ ํ™•์ธํ•  ์ˆ˜ ์žˆ๋Š” ์ด์— ๋Œ€ํ•œ ๋น„๋””์˜ค๋ฅผ ๋งŒ๋“ค์—ˆ์Šต๋‹ˆ๋‹ค
14:41
you can check out up here.
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This is especially useful for starting conversations in the US, but really you can use these for
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์ด๊ฒƒ์€ ๋ฏธ๊ตญ์—์„œ ๋Œ€ํ™”๋ฅผ ์‹œ์ž‘ํ•˜๋Š” ๋ฐ ํŠนํžˆ ์œ ์šฉ ํ•˜์ง€๋งŒ ์‹ค์ œ๋กœ๋Š” ๋ชจ๊ตญ์–ด๋กœ ๋Œ€ํ™”๋ฅผ ์‹œ์ž‘ํ•˜๋Š” ๋ฐ์—๋„ ์‚ฌ์šฉํ•  ์ˆ˜ ์žˆ์Šต๋‹ˆ๋‹ค
14:47
starting conversations maybe even in your own native language as well.
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14:52
And now I have a question for you.
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์ด์ œ ์งˆ๋ฌธ์ด ์žˆ์Šต๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.
14:53
I'm curious, what are some taboo topics in your country?
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๊ถ๊ธˆํ•ฉ๋‹ˆ๋‹ค. ํ•œ๊ตญ์—์„œ ๊ธˆ๊ธฐ์‹œ๋˜๋Š” ์ฃผ์ œ๋Š” ๋ฌด์—‡์ž…๋‹ˆ๊นŒ ?
14:57
Let me know in the comments, let us know what your country is and what are some taboo topics.
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์˜๊ฒฌ์„ ํ†ตํ•ด ์•Œ๋ ค์ฃผ์„ธ์š”. ๊ท€ํ•˜์˜ ๊ตญ๊ฐ€๊ฐ€ ๋ฌด์—‡์ธ์ง€, ๊ธˆ๊ธฐ์‹œ๋˜๋Š” ์ฃผ์ œ๊ฐ€ ๋ฌด์—‡์ธ์ง€ ์•Œ๋ ค์ฃผ์„ธ์š”.
15:02
This could help other people as well if they travel to your country or if they meet people
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์ด๊ฒƒ์€ ๋‹ค๋ฅธ ์‚ฌ๋žŒ๋“ค์ด ๋‹น์‹ ์˜ ๋‚˜๋ผ๋ฅผ ์—ฌํ–‰ํ•˜๊ฑฐ๋‚˜ ๋‹น์‹ ์˜ ๋‚˜๋ผ์—์„œ ์˜จ ์‚ฌ๋žŒ๋“ค์„ ๋งŒ๋‚˜๋Š” ๊ฒฝ์šฐ์—๋„ ๋„์›€์ด ๋  ์ˆ˜ ์žˆ์Šต๋‹ˆ๋‹ค
15:07
who are from your country.
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15:08
Thanks so much for learning English with me and with my baby.
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์ €์™€ ์ œ ์•„๊ธฐ์™€ ํ•จ๊ป˜ ์˜์–ด๋ฅผ ๋ฐฐ์›Œ ์ฃผ์…”์„œ ์ •๋ง ๊ฐ์‚ฌํ•ฉ๋‹ˆ๋‹ค .
15:12
I'll see you again next Friday for a new lesson here on my YouTube channel.
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๋‹ค์Œ ์ฃผ ๊ธˆ์š”์ผ์— ์ œ YouTube ์ฑ„๋„์—์„œ ์ƒˆ๋กœ์šด ์ˆ˜์—…์œผ๋กœ ๋‹ค์‹œ ๋ต™๊ฒ ์Šต๋‹ˆ๋‹ค .
15:16
Bye.
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์•ˆ๋…•.
15:17
Do you want to say goodbye?
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์ž‘๋ณ„ ์ธ์‚ฌ๋ฅผ ํ•˜์‹œ๊ฒ ์Šต๋‹ˆ๊นŒ?
15:18
Oh, you got my hair.
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์˜ค, ๋‹น์‹ ์€ ๋‚ด ๋จธ๋ฆฌ๋ฅผ ์–ป์—ˆ๋‹ค.
15:21
Say bye.
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์•ˆ๋…•ํžˆ ๊ณ„์‹ญ์‹œ์˜ค.
15:23
The next step is to download my free ebook, Five Steps to Becoming a Confident English
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๋‹ค์Œ ๋‹จ๊ณ„๋Š” ์ €์˜ ๋ฌด๋ฃŒ ์ „์ž์ฑ…์ธ ์ž์‹ ๊ฐ ์žˆ๋Š” ์˜์–ด ๊ตฌ์‚ฌ์ž๊ฐ€ ๋˜๊ธฐ ์œ„ํ•œ ๋‹ค์„ฏ ๋‹จ๊ณ„๋ฅผ ๋‹ค์šด๋กœ๋“œํ•˜๋Š” ๊ฒƒ์ž…๋‹ˆ๋‹ค
15:28
Speaker.
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15:29
You'll learn what you need to do to speak confidently and fluently.
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์ž์‹ ๊ฐ ์žˆ๊ณ  ์œ ์ฐฝํ•˜๊ฒŒ ๋งํ•˜๊ธฐ ์œ„ํ•ด ๋ฌด์—‡์„ ํ•ด์•ผ ํ•˜๋Š”์ง€ ๋ฐฐ์šฐ๊ฒŒ ๋  ๊ฒƒ์ž…๋‹ˆ๋‹ค. ๋” ๋งŽ์€ ๋ฌด๋ฃŒ ๋ ˆ์Šจ์„ ๋ฐ›์œผ๋ ค๋ฉด
15:34
Don't forget to subscribe to my YouTube channel for more free lessons.
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์ œ ์œ ํŠœ๋ธŒ ์ฑ„๋„์„ ๊ตฌ๋…ํ•˜๋Š” ๊ฒƒ์„ ์žŠ์ง€ ๋งˆ์„ธ์š” .
15:37
Thanks so much, bye.
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์ •๋ง ๊ณ ๋งˆ์›Œ, ์•ˆ๋…•.
์ด ์›น์‚ฌ์ดํŠธ ์ •๋ณด

์ด ์‚ฌ์ดํŠธ๋Š” ์˜์–ด ํ•™์Šต์— ์œ ์šฉํ•œ YouTube ๋™์˜์ƒ์„ ์†Œ๊ฐœํ•ฉ๋‹ˆ๋‹ค. ์ „ ์„ธ๊ณ„ ์ตœ๊ณ ์˜ ์„ ์ƒ๋‹˜๋“ค์ด ๊ฐ€๋ฅด์น˜๋Š” ์˜์–ด ์ˆ˜์—…์„ ๋ณด๊ฒŒ ๋  ๊ฒƒ์ž…๋‹ˆ๋‹ค. ๊ฐ ๋™์˜์ƒ ํŽ˜์ด์ง€์— ํ‘œ์‹œ๋˜๋Š” ์˜์–ด ์ž๋ง‰์„ ๋”๋ธ” ํด๋ฆญํ•˜๋ฉด ๊ทธ๊ณณ์—์„œ ๋™์˜์ƒ์ด ์žฌ์ƒ๋ฉ๋‹ˆ๋‹ค. ๋น„๋””์˜ค ์žฌ์ƒ์— ๋งž์ถฐ ์ž๋ง‰์ด ์Šคํฌ๋กค๋ฉ๋‹ˆ๋‹ค. ์˜๊ฒฌ์ด๋‚˜ ์š”์ฒญ์ด ์žˆ๋Š” ๊ฒฝ์šฐ ์ด ๋ฌธ์˜ ์–‘์‹์„ ์‚ฌ์šฉํ•˜์—ฌ ๋ฌธ์˜ํ•˜์‹ญ์‹œ์˜ค.

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