Part 3: Learn How to Disagree Politely in English | Video with Subtitles

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Learn English with Bob the Canadian


ไธ‹ใฎ่‹ฑ่ชžๅญ—ๅน•ใ‚’ใƒ€ใƒ–ใƒซใ‚ฏใƒชใƒƒใ‚ฏใ™ใ‚‹ใจๅ‹•็”ปใ‚’ๅ†็”Ÿใงใใพใ™ใ€‚ ็ฟป่จณใ•ใ‚ŒใŸๅญ—ๅน•ใฏๆฉŸๆขฐ็ฟป่จณใงใ™ใ€‚

00:07
Hi Bob the Canadian here.
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ใ“ใ‚“ใซใกใฏใ€ใ‚ซใƒŠใƒ€ไบบใฎใƒœใƒ–ใงใ™ใ€‚ ่ชฐใ‹
00:09
There will times when you are having an English conversation when you will need to disagree
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ใจๆ„่ฆ‹ใ‚’็•ฐใซใ™ใ‚‹ๅฟ…่ฆใŒใ‚ใ‚‹ใจใใ€ใ‚ใชใŸใŒ่‹ฑไผš่ฉฑใ‚’ใ—ใฆใ„ใ‚‹ๆ™‚ใŒใ‚ใ‚Šใพใ™
00:14
with somebody.
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00:15
But you will want to do it in a way where you still show respect for the other person,
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ใ—ใ‹ใ—ใ€็›ธๆ‰‹ใฎ่ฆ‹ๆ–นใซๅŒๆ„ใ—ใชใใฆใ‚‚ใ€็›ธๆ‰‹ใ‚’ๅฐŠ้‡ใ™ใ‚‹ใ‚ˆใ†ใชใ‚„ใ‚Šๆ–นใงใ‚„ใ‚ŠใŸใ„ใจๆ€ใ†ใงใ—ใ‚‡ใ†
00:21
even if you don't agree with their point of view.
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00:25
So you'll want to do a few things to make the conversation be more like a discussion
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ใ—ใŸใŒใฃใฆ ใ€ไผš่ฉฑใ‚’่ญฐ่ซ–ใฎใ‚ˆใ†ใซใ€่ญฐ่ซ–ใฎ
00:31
and less like an argument.
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ใ‚ˆใ†ใซใ—ใชใ„ใ‚ˆใ†ใซใ™ใ‚‹ใŸใ‚ใซใ€ใ„ใใคใ‹ใฎใ“ใจใ‚’่กŒใ†ๅฟ…่ฆใŒใ‚ใ‚Šใพใ™ใ€‚
00:34
First of all, relax.
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ใพใšใ€ใƒชใƒฉใƒƒใ‚ฏใ‚นใ—ใฆใใ ใ•ใ„ใ€‚
00:36
Calm down.
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่ฝใก็€ใ‘ใ€‚
00:37
Be reasonable in your approach.
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ใ‚ใชใŸใฎใ‚ขใƒ—ใƒญใƒผใƒใงๅˆ็†็š„ใงใ‚ใ‚‹ใ€‚
00:41
Getting upset and raising your voice never helps with a conversation.
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ๅ‹•ๆบใ—ใฆๅฃฐใ‚’ไธŠใ’ใ‚‹ใ“ใจ ใฏใ€ไผš่ฉฑใซๅฝน็ซ‹ใคใ“ใจใฏใ‚ใ‚Šใพใ›ใ‚“ใ€‚
00:46
If you can, find a spot where the two of you can sit down.
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ใงใใ‚Œใฐใ€ไบŒไบบใงๅบงใ‚Œใ‚‹ๅ ดๆ‰€ใ‚’่ฆ‹ใคใ‘ใพใ—ใ‚‡ ใ†ใ€‚
00:50
Sitting down is a less aggressive approach to having a conversation with someone.
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ๅบงใ‚‹ใ“ใจใฏใ€่ชฐใ‹ใจไผš่ฉฑใ™ใ‚‹ใ“ใจใธใฎใใ‚Œใปใฉ็ฉๆฅต็š„ใชใ‚ขใƒ—ใƒญใƒผใƒใงใฏใ‚ใ‚Šใพใ›ใ‚“ ใ€‚
00:56
Take your time.
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ใ‚†ใฃใใ‚Šใ—ใฆใใ ใ•ใ„ใ€‚
00:58
Make sure you listen to their point of view.
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ใ‚ใชใŸใŒๅฝผใ‚‰ใฎ่ฆ–็‚นใซ่€ณใ‚’ๅ‚พใ‘ใ‚‹ใ“ใจใ‚’็ขบ่ชใ—ใฆใใ ใ•ใ„ใ€‚
01:01
And don't interrupt them when they are talking.
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ใใ—ใฆใ€ๅฝผใ‚‰ใŒ่ฉฑใ—ใฆใ„ใ‚‹ใจใใซๅฝผใ‚‰ใ‚’้‚ช้ญ”ใ—ใชใ„ใงใใ ใ•ใ„ใ€‚
01:04
Here are a few things that you can say during this conversation that are extremely polite
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ใ“ใฎไผš่ฉฑใฎไธญใงใ€้žๅธธใซไธๅฏงใงใ‚ใ‚Š
01:11
but still allow you to express your point of view.
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ใชใŒใ‚‰ใ€่‡ชๅˆ†ใฎ่ฆ–็‚นใ‚’่กจ็พใงใใ‚‹ใ„ใใคใ‹ใฎใ“ใจใ‚’ใ“ใ“ ใซ็คบใ—ใพใ™ใ€‚
01:15
You could say:
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ใ‚ใชใŸใฏ่จ€ใ†ใ“ใจใŒใงใใพใ™๏ผš
01:17
I see Dave, but in my opinion we shouldn't have to pay for water.
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็งใฏใƒ‡ใ‚คใƒ–ใ‚’่ฆ‹ใพใ™ใ€ใ—ใ‹ใ—็งใฎๆ„่ฆ‹ใงใฏ็ง้”ใฏ ๆฐดใซใŠ้‡‘ใ‚’ๆ‰•ใ†ๅฟ…่ฆใฏใชใ„ใฏใšใงใ™ใ€‚
01:22
It should be free.
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ใใ‚Œใฏ็„กๆ–™ใงใชใ‘ใ‚Œใฐใชใ‚Šใพใ›ใ‚“ใ€‚
01:24
Or, you could say:
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ใพใŸใฏใ€ๆฌกใฎใ‚ˆใ†ใซ่จ€ใ†ใ“ใจใ‚‚ใงใใพใ™ใ€‚
01:27
I understand where you are coming from Dave, but I think dogs in the park should always
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ใƒ‡ใ‚คใƒ–ใ‹ใ‚‰ๆฅใฆใ„ใ‚‹ๅ ดๆ‰€ใฏ ใ‚ใ‹ใ‚Šใพใ™ใŒใ€ๅ…ฌๅœ’ใฎ็Šฌใฏ
01:33
be on a leash.
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ๅธธใซใฒใ‚‚ใซใคใชใ„ใงใŠใๅฟ…่ฆใŒใ‚ใ‚Šใพใ™ใ€‚
01:35
You could also say:
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01:37
Dave, I see your point of view, but I think it would be better if we spent the money on
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ใƒ‡ใ‚คใƒ–ใ€ใ‚ใชใŸใฎ่ฆ‹ๆ–นใฏใ‚ใ‹ใ‚Šใพใ™ใŒ ใ€ๆ–ฐใ—ใ„ๆœใซใŠ้‡‘ใ‚’ใ‹ใ‘ใŸใปใ†ใŒใ„ใ„ใจๆ€ใ„ใพใ™
01:44
new clothing.
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01:47
And if you're looking for a few other options, you could also say things like:
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ใพใŸใ€ไป–ใฎใ„ใใคใ‹ใฎใ‚ชใƒ—ใ‚ทใƒงใƒณใ‚’ๆŽขใ—ใฆใ„ใ‚‹ๅ ดๅˆใฏใ€ ๆฌกใฎใ‚ˆใ†ใซ่จ€ใ†ใ“ใจใ‚‚ใงใใพใ™
01:51
Hmmm.
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ใ€‚ใ†ใƒผใ‚“ใ€‚
01:52
That's interesting, but the way I see it, it would be better if we went to the mall
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ใŠใ‚‚ใ—ใ‚ใ„ใงใ™ใŒใ€่ฆ‹ๆ–นใ‚’ ใ™ใ‚Œใฐใ€ๅค–้ฃŸใ™ใ‚‹ๅ‰ใซใƒขใƒผใƒซใซ่กŒใฃใŸๆ–นใŒใ„ใ„ใจๆ€ใ„ใพใ™
01:58
before we went out to eat.
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02:01
And finally you could also say: Dave, I'm not sure I agree with that.
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ใใ—ใฆๆœ€ๅพŒใซใ‚ใชใŸใ‚‚่จ€ใ†ใ“ใจใŒใงใใพใ™๏ผš ใƒ‡ใ‚คใƒ–ใ€็งใฏใใ‚ŒใซๅŒๆ„ใ™ใ‚‹ใ‹ใฉใ†ใ‹ใ‚ใ‹ใ‚Šใพใ›ใ‚“ใ€‚ ๅคใ„่ปŠใ‚’ใ‚‚ใ†ไธ€ๅนด้‹่ปขใ™ใ‚‹
02:06
I think we would be better off buying a new car instead of driving the old car for another
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ใ‚ˆใ‚Šใ‚‚ใ€ๆ–ฐใ—ใ„่ปŠใ‚’่ฒทใ†ใปใ†ใŒใ„ใ„ใจๆ€ใ„ใพใ™
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year.
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ใ€‚ ่ชฐใ‹
02:14
There are also a few things that you SHOULDN'T say when you are having a discussion with
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ใจ่ฉฑใ—ๅˆใฃใฆใ„ใ‚‹ใจใใซ่จ€ใฃใฆใฏใ„ใ‘ใชใ„ใ“ใจใ‚‚ใ„ใใค
02:18
someone.
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ใ‹ใ‚ใ‚Šใพใ™ใ€‚
02:19
You SHOULDN'T outright say:
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ใ‚ใชใŸใฏๅฎŒๅ…จใซ่จ€ใ†ในใใงใฏใ‚ใ‚Šใพใ›ใ‚“๏ผš
02:21
You are wrong!
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ใ‚ใชใŸใฏ้–“้•ใฃใฆใ„ใพใ™๏ผ
02:22
This is very impolite in English.
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ใ“ใ‚Œใฏ่‹ฑ่ชžใงใฏ้žๅธธใซๅคฑ็คผใงใ™ใ€‚
02:25
You should never say to someone outright:
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ใ‚ใชใŸใฏๆฑบใ—ใฆ่ชฐใ‹ใซใฏใฃใใ‚Šใจ่จ€ใ†ในใใงใฏใ‚ใ‚Šใพใ›ใ‚“๏ผš
02:28
I disagree with you!
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็งใฏใ‚ใชใŸใซๅŒๆ„ใ—ใพใ›ใ‚“๏ผ
02:29
This is also somewhat impolite in English.
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ใ“ใ‚Œใ‚‚่‹ฑ่ชžใงใฏใ‚„ใ‚„ๅคฑ็คผใงใ™ใ€‚
02:32
And you should certainly never say:
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ใใ—ใฆใ€ใ‚ใชใŸใฏ็ขบใ‹ใซๆฑบใ—ใฆ่จ€ใ†ในใใงใฏใ‚ใ‚Šใพใ›ใ‚“๏ผšใฐใ‹ใ ใ‘ใŒใใ‚Œใ‚’
02:35
Only an idiot would say that!
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่จ€ใ†ใงใ—ใ‚‡ใ†๏ผ
02:37
Because that is an outright insult.
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ใใ‚Œใฏใ‚ใ‹ใ‚‰ใ•ใพใชไพฎ่พฑใ ใ‹ใ‚‰ใงใ™ใ€‚
02:40
Bob the Canadian here.
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02:42
That's a few ways that you can have a disagreement with someone in English and have a resolution
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ใใ‚Œใฏใ‚ใชใŸใŒ ่‹ฑ่ชžใง่ชฐใ‹ใจๆ„่ฆ‹ใฎ็›ธ้•ใ‚’ๆŒใกใ€่ญฐ่ซ–
02:49
at the end of a discussion instead of having an argument.
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ใ‚’ใ™ใ‚‹ไปฃใ‚ใ‚Šใซ่ญฐ่ซ–ใฎ็ต‚ใ‚ใ‚Šใซๆฑบ่ญฐใ‚’ใ™ใ‚‹ใ“ใจใŒใงใใ‚‹ใ„ใใคใ‹ใฎๆ–นๆณ•ใงใ™ ใ€‚
02:53
Bob the Canadian here.
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02:54
Learn English with Bob the Canadian
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ใ‚ซใƒŠใƒ€ไบบใฎใƒœใƒ–ใจไธ€็ท’ใซ่‹ฑ่ชžใ‚’ๅญฆใณ
02:56
Have a great day.
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