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English with Ronnie


ไธ‹ใฎ่‹ฑ่ชžๅญ—ๅน•ใ‚’ใƒ€ใƒ–ใƒซใ‚ฏใƒชใƒƒใ‚ฏใ™ใ‚‹ใจๅ‹•็”ปใ‚’ๅ†็”Ÿใงใใพใ™ใ€‚ ็ฟป่จณใ•ใ‚ŒใŸๅญ—ๅน•ใฏๆฉŸๆขฐ็ฟป่จณใงใ™ใ€‚

00:00
Hello.
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ใ“ใ‚“ใซใกใฏใ€‚
00:01
My name's Ronnie.
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็งใฎๅๅ‰ใฏใƒญใƒ‹ใƒผใงใ™ใ€‚
00:03
Are you a mother or a father, or a teacher or someone?
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ใ‚ใชใŸใฏๆฏ่ฆชใงใ™ใ‹ใ€ใใ‚Œใจใ‚‚็ˆถ่ฆชใงใ™ใ‹ใ€ใใ‚Œใจใ‚‚ๆ•™ๅธซ ใงใ™ใ‹ใ€ใใ‚Œใจใ‚‚่ชฐใ‹ใงใ™ใ‹ใ€‚
00:08
Are you someone?
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ใ‚ใชใŸใฏ่ชฐใ‹ใงใ™ใ‹๏ผŸ
00:09
Are you a human?
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ใ‚ใชใŸใฏไบบ้–“ใงใ™ใ‹๏ผŸ
00:10
Me too.
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็งใ‚‚ใ€‚
00:12
I want to tell you something that's really, really cool and amazing.
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ๆœฌๅฝ“ใซใ‚ฏใƒผใƒซใง็ด ๆ™ดใ‚‰ใ—ใ„ใ“ใจใ‚’ใŠไผใˆใ—ใŸใ„ใจๆ€ใ„ใพใ™ ใ€‚
00:17
The way that we speak to students or the way that you speak to children or even other people,
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็งใŸใกใŒๅญฆ็”Ÿใซ่ฉฑใ™ๆ–นๆณ•ใ€ใพใŸใฏ ๅญไพ›ใ‚„ไป–ใฎไบบใซ่ฉฑใ™ๆ–นๆณ•ใ€ใ‚ใชใŸใŒไธŠๅธใงใ‚ใ‚‹
00:25
if you're a boss or you are a manager of someone or of a company - it's very, very important
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ๅ ดๅˆใ€ใพใŸใฏ่ชฐใ‹ใพใŸใฏไผš็คพใฎใƒžใƒใƒผใ‚ธใƒฃใƒผใง
00:34
the way that you speak to people because if you are very direct with people, they will
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ใ‚ใ‚‹ๅ ดๅˆใ€ไบบใ€…ใจ่ฉฑใ™ๆ–นๆณ•ใฏ้žๅธธใซ้‡่ฆใงใ™. ใ‚ใชใŸใŒไบบใ€…ใซ้žๅธธใซ็›ดๆŽฅ็š„ใงใ‚ใ‚‹ใชใ‚‰
00:41
not respond to you, and they will close down, they will lose their confidence, and they
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ใฐใ€ๅฝผใ‚‰ใฏใ‚ใชใŸใซๅๅฟœ
00:48
will not do what you need them to do.
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ใ—ใพใ›ใ‚“.
00:52
I'm a teacher.
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็งใฏๅ…ˆ็”Ÿใงใ™ใ€‚
00:54
Surprise.
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ใ‚ตใƒ—ใƒฉใ‚คใ‚บใ€‚
00:56
And in a classroom, there is certain language that you can use to help students motivate them...
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ๆ•™ๅฎคใงใฏใ€ ็”Ÿๅพ’ใฎใ‚„ใ‚‹ๆฐ—ใ‚’ๅผ•ใๅ‡บใ™ใฎใซๅฝน็ซ‹ใค็‰นๅฎšใฎ่จ€่‘‰ใŒใ‚ใ‚Šใพใ™... ็”Ÿๅพ’ใฎ
01:03
To help motivate students, and there's also certain language that you can use with children
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ใ‚„ใ‚‹ๆฐ—ใ‚’ๅผ•ใๅ‡บใ™ใฎใซๅฝน็ซ‹ใกใพใ™ใ€‚ใพใŸ ใ€ๅญไพ›
01:09
or with employees to help motivate them or encourage them.
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ใ‚„ๅพ“ๆฅญๅ“กใซๅฏพใ—ใฆใ€ใ‚„ใ‚‹ๆฐ—ใ‚’่ตทใ“ใ•ใ› ใŸใ‚ŠๅŠฑใพใ™ใŸใ‚ใซไฝฟ็”จใงใใ‚‹็‰นๅฎšใฎ่จ€่‘‰ใ‚‚ใ‚ใ‚Šใพใ™ใ€‚
01:13
So, what I'm going to teach you today is English phrases that you probably use, and maybe they're
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ใงใ™ใ‹ใ‚‰ใ€ไปŠๆ—ฅ็งใŒใ‚ใชใŸใซๆ•™ใˆใ‚ˆใ†ใจใ—ใฆใ„ใ‚‹ใฎใฏ ใ€ใ‚ใชใŸใŒใŠใใ‚‰ใไฝฟ็”จใ™ใ‚‹่‹ฑ่ชžใฎใƒ•ใƒฌใƒผใ‚บใง
01:22
not getting the results that you need in your place of work, at home with children, or in
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ใ‚ใ‚Šใ€ใ‚ใชใŸ ใฎ่ทๅ ดใ€ๅญไพ›ใŒใ„ใ‚‹ๅฎถใ€
01:27
a classroom.
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ใพใŸใฏๆ•™ๅฎคใงๅฟ…่ฆใช็ตๆžœใ‚’ๅพ—ใ‚‰ใ‚Œใชใ„ใ‹ใ‚‚ใ—ใ‚Œใพใ›ใ‚“.
01:29
And the reason why is it's because how people react to what you say.
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ใใฎ็†็”ฑใฏใ€ไบบใ€…ใŒ ใ‚ใชใŸใฎ็™บ่จ€ใซใฉใฎใ‚ˆใ†ใซๅๅฟœใ™ใ‚‹ใ‹ใงใ™ใ€‚
01:34
If someone throws you negative energy, you're not going to respond very well to them.
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่ชฐใ‹ใŒใ‚ใชใŸใซ่ฒ ใฎใ‚จใƒใƒซใ‚ฎใƒผใ‚’ๆŠ•ใ’ใ‹ใ‘ใŸๅ ดๅˆใ€ใ‚ใชใŸใฏ ๅฝผใ‚‰ใซใ†ใพใๅๅฟœใ—ใพใ›ใ‚“.
01:40
For example, if you're upset and someone says: -"Just relax.
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ใŸใจใˆใฐใ€ใ‚ใชใŸใŒๅ‹•ๆบใ—ใฆใ„ใฆใ€่ชฐใ‹ ใŒใ€ŒใŸใ ใƒชใƒฉใƒƒใ‚ฏใ‚น
01:47
Don't worry."
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ใ—ใฆใใ ใ•ใ„ใ€‚ๅฟƒ้…ใ—ใชใ„ใงใใ ใ•ใ„ใ€ใจ่จ€ใฃใŸใจใ—ใพใ™ใ€‚
01:48
-"Don't tell me to relax.
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-ใ€Œใƒชใƒฉใƒƒใ‚ฏใ‚นใ™ใ‚‹ใ‚ˆใ†ใซ่จ€ใ‚ใชใ„ใงใใ ใ•ใ„ใ€‚
01:49
I'm angry."
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็งใฏๆ€’ใฃใฆใ„ใพใ™ใ€‚ใ€
01:50
The worst thing you can do is tell someone to relax, because it makes it worse.
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ใ‚ใชใŸใŒใงใใ‚‹ๆœ€ๆ‚ชใฎใ“ใจใฏใ€่ชฐใ‹ ใซใƒชใƒฉใƒƒใ‚ฏใ‚นใ™ใ‚‹ใ‚ˆใ†ใซ่จ€ใ†ใ“ใจใงใ™ใ€‚
01:55
So, I'm going to go through some harsh phrases and how to make them softer to encourage people
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ใใ“ใงใ€ใ„ใใคใ‹ใฎๅŽณใ—ใ„่จ€ใ„ๅ›žใ— ใจใ€ใใฎ่จ€ใ„ๅ›žใ—ใ‚’ๆŸ”ใ‚‰ใ‹ใใ—ใฆใ€ไบบใ€…ใŒใ‚„ใ‚ŠใŸใ„ใ“ใจใ‚’ใ‚„ใ‚‰ใ›ใฆใใ‚Œใ‚‹ใ‚ˆใ†ใซใ™ใ‚‹ๆ–นๆณ•ใซใคใ„ใฆ่ชฌๆ˜Žใ—
02:03
to get them to do what you want.
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ใพใ™ใ€‚
02:05
"Manipulation" is another word.
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ใ€Œๆ“ไฝœใ€ใฏๅˆฅใฎ่จ€่‘‰ใงใ™ใ€‚
02:08
So, as a teacher, I know that sometimes students do not understand something.
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ใงใ™ใ‹ใ‚‰ใ€ๆ•™ๅธซใจใ—ใฆใ€็”Ÿๅพ’ใŒไฝ•ใ‹ใ‚’็†่งฃใ—ใฆใ„ใชใ„ใ“ใจใŒใ‚ใ‚‹ใ“ใจใ‚’็งใฏ็Ÿฅใฃใฆ ใ„ใพใ™ใ€‚
02:15
Now, I know because of their faces; they have a blank stare, or they look around, or they
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ไปŠใ€็งใฏๅฝผใ‚‰ใฎ้ก”ใฎใŸใ‚ใซ็Ÿฅใฃใฆใ„ใพใ™ใ€‚ ๅฝผใ‚‰ใฏใผใ‚“ใ‚„ใ‚Šใจ่ฆ‹ใคใ‚ใ‚‹ใ‹ใ€ๅ‘จใ‚Šใ‚’่ฆ‹ๅ›žใ™ใ‹
02:22
look at the ground.
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ใ€ๅœฐ้ขใ‚’่ฆ‹ใพใ™ใ€‚
02:24
So, as a teacher, you say: "Okay.
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ใงใ™ใ‹ใ‚‰ใ€ๆ•™ๅธซใจใ—ใฆใ€ใ€Œใ‚ใ‹ใ‚Šใพใ—ใŸใ€‚
02:27
Do you have any questions?"
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่ณชๅ•ใฏใ‚ใ‚Šใพใ™ใ‹?ใ€ใจ่จ€ใ„ใพใ™ใ€‚
02:29
And, of course, you are shy.
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ใใ—ใฆใ‚‚ใกใ‚ใ‚“ใ€ใ‚ใชใŸใฏๆฅใšใ‹ใ—ใŒใ‚Šๅฑ‹ใงใ™ใ€‚
02:34
You don't want to ask the teacher a question.
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ๅ…ˆ็”Ÿใซ่ณชๅ•ใ—ใŸใใชใ„ใ€‚ ๅ…ˆ็”Ÿใซ
02:37
Maybe you will look stupid if you ask the teacher a question.
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่ณชๅ•ใ—ใŸใ‚‰ใƒใ‚ซใซใ•ใ‚Œใ‚‹ใ‹ใ‚‚ ใ€‚
02:41
So, teachers, instead of saying: "Do you have any questions?" and waiting in silence, it
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ๅ…ˆ็”Ÿๆ–นใ€ใ€Œ ไฝ•ใ‹่ณชๅ•ใฏใ‚ใ‚Šใพใ™ใ‹๏ผŸใ€ใจ่จ€ใ†ไปฃใ‚ใ‚Šใซใ€‚ ้ป™ใฃใฆๅพ…ใฃใฆใ„ใ‚‹
02:49
would be better to say: "I'm here to help.
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ใชใ‚‰ใ€ใ€ŒๅŠฉใ‘ใซๆฅใพใ—ใŸใ€‚่žใ„ใฆใใ ใ•ใ„ใ€ใจ่จ€ใฃใŸใปใ†ใŒใ„ใ„ใงใ—ใ‚‡ใ†
02:52
Please ask me."
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ใ€‚
02:55
It's the same thing if you are in a job, or you are the manager of someone, or you are
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ไป•ไบ‹ ใ‚’ใ—ใฆใ„ใฆใ‚‚ใ€่ชฐใ‹ใฎใƒžใƒใƒผใ‚ธใƒฃใƒผใงใ‚‚ใ€
03:04
the boss of someone.
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่ชฐใ‹ใฎไธŠๅธใงใ‚‚ๅŒใ˜ใงใ™ใ€‚
03:06
Instead of saying: "Do you have any questions?" you can be nice and say: "I'm here to help
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ใ€Œไฝ•ใ‹่ณชๅ•ใฏใ‚ใ‚Šใพใ™ใ‹๏ผŸใ€ใจ่จ€ใ†ไปฃใ‚ใ‚Šใซ๏ผš ใ‚ใชใŸใฏ่ฆชๅˆ‡ใซใ€ใ€Œ็งใฏใ‚ใชใŸใ‚’ๅŠฉใ‘ใ‚‹ใŸใ‚ใซใ“ใ“ใซ
03:09
you, so please ask me questions.
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ใ„ใ‚‹ใฎใงใ€่ณชๅ•ใ—ใฆใใ ใ•ใ„ใ€‚้ ๆ…ฎใชใ่ณชๅ•ใ—ใฆ
03:12
Feel free to ask me questions."
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ใใ ใ•ใ„ใ€ใจ่จ€ใ†ใ“ใจใŒใงใใพใ™.
03:14
This makes you more approachable.
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ใ“ใ‚Œใซใ‚ˆใ‚Šใ€ใ‚ˆใ‚Š่ฆชใ—ใฟใ‚„ใ™ใใชใ‚Šใพใ™ใ€‚
03:17
"Approachable" means easier to talk to, because you need to make sure that the people respect
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ใ€Œ่ฆชใ—ใฟใ‚„ใ™ใ„ใ€ใจใฏใ€่ฉฑใ—ใ‚„ใ™ใ„ใ“ใจใ‚’ๆ„ๅ‘ณใ—ใพใ™ใ€‚ใชใœใชใ‚‰ ใ€ไบบใ€…ใŒใ‚ใชใŸใ‚’ๅฐŠ้‡ใ—ใฆใ„ใ‚‹ใ“ใจใ‚’็ขบ่ชใ™ใ‚‹ๅฟ…่ฆใŒใ‚ใ‚‹ใŸใ‚ใงใ™ใ€‚ใใ†
03:23
you, and then you can have a good relationship, whether it be in the classroom, at a job,
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ใ™ใ‚Œใฐใ€ๆ•™ๅฎคใงใ‚ใ‚ใ†ใจใ€ไป•ไบ‹ใง
03:29
or with your children, or anyone really.
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ใ‚ใ‚ใ†ใจใ€ๅญไพ›ใŸใกใจใงใ‚ใ‚ใ†ใจใ€ใพใŸใฏๅฎŸ้š›ใซ่ชฐใจใงใ‚ใ‚ใ†ใจใ€่‰ฏใ„้–ขไฟ‚ใ‚’็ฏ‰ใใ“ใจใŒใงใใพใ™ใ€‚
03:32
"Why don't you understand?
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ใ€Œใฉใ†ใ—ใฆๅˆ†ใ‹ใ‚‰ใชใ„ใฎ๏ผŸ
03:35
Oh my god, you're so stupid."
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ใชใ‚“ใฆใ“ใฃใŸใ€ใ‚ใชใŸใฏใจใฆใ‚‚ๆ„šใ‹ใงใ™ใ€‚ใ€
03:39
So, obviously there is a problem; maybe with instructions, or language, or communication.
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ใ—ใŸใŒใฃใฆใ€ๆ˜Žใ‚‰ใ‹ใซๅ•้กŒใŒใ‚ใ‚Šใพใ™ใ€‚ ใŸใถใ‚“ใ€ ๆŒ‡็คบใ€่จ€่ชžใ€ใพใŸใฏใ‚ณใƒŸใƒฅใƒ‹ใ‚ฑใƒผใ‚ทใƒงใƒณใงใ€‚
03:48
Instead of asking the person: "Why don't you understand?" because they don't know why they
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ใใฎไบบใซใ€Œใฉใ†ใ—ใฆใ‚ใ‹ใ‚‰ใชใ„ใฎ๏ผŸใ€ใจๅฐ‹ใญใ‚‹ไปฃใ‚ใ‚Šใซ ใ€‚ ใชใœ็†่งฃใ—ใฆใ„ใ‚‹ใฎใ‹ใ‚ใ‹ใ‚‰ใชใ„ใฎใง
03:53
understand, you could say something like: "Oh, hey.
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ใ€ๆฌกใฎใ‚ˆใ†ใซ่จ€ใ†ใ“ใจใŒใงใใพใ™ ใ€‚
03:57
Let me show you again."
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03:59
Or: "Let me tell you again how to do it."
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ใพใŸใฏ๏ผšใ€Œใใฎๆ–นๆณ•ใ‚’ใ‚‚ใ†ไธ€ๅบฆๆ•™ใˆใฆใใ ใ•ใ„ใ€‚ใ€
04:02
Again, you're taking the person and making them help you.
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็นฐใ‚Š่ฟ”ใ—ใพใ™ใŒใ€ใ‚ใชใŸใฏใใฎไบบใ‚’้€ฃใ‚Œใฆ่กŒใใ€ ๅฝผใ‚‰ใซใ‚ใชใŸใ‚’ๅŠฉใ‘ใ•ใ›ใฆใ„ใพใ™ใ€‚
04:07
You want to help the person.
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ใ‚ใชใŸใฏใใฎไบบใ‚’ๅŠฉใ‘ใŸใ„ใจๆ€ใฃใฆใ„ใพใ™ใ€‚
04:09
You don't want the person to feel stupid or feel not good about themselves; you want to
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ใ‚ใชใŸใฏใ€ใใฎไบบใŒๆ„šใ‹ใ ใจๆ„Ÿใ˜ใŸใ‚Šใ€่‡ชๅˆ†่‡ช่บซใซใคใ„ใฆๆฐ—ๅˆ†ใŒๆ‚ชใ„ใจๆ„Ÿใ˜ใŸใ‚Šใ—ใŸใใ‚ใ‚Šใพใ›ใ‚“ ใ€‚
04:16
encourage people in a classroom, you want to encourage your children to learn.
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ๆ•™ๅฎคใงไบบใ€… ใ‚’ๅŠฑใพใ—ใŸใ‚Šใ€ๅญไพ›ใŸใกใซๅญฆ็ฟ’ใ‚’ไฟƒใ—ใŸใ‚Šใ—ใพใ™ใ€‚
04:21
As soon as you stop doing that, people shut off; they don't want to learn from you, they
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ใ‚ใชใŸใŒใใ‚Œใ‚’ใ‚„ใ‚ใ‚‹ใ‚„ใ„ใชใ‚„ใ€ไบบใ€…ใฏๅฃใ‚’้–‰ใ–ใ— ใพใ™ใ€‚ ๅฝผใ‚‰ใฏใ‚ใชใŸใ‹ใ‚‰ๅญฆใณ
04:25
don't want to take guidance from you, especially in a job.
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ใŸใใชใ„ใ€็‰นใซไป•ไบ‹ใซใŠใ„ใฆใ‚ใชใŸใ‹ใ‚‰ๆŒ‡ๅฐŽใ‚’ๅ—ใ‘ใŸใใ‚ใ‚Šใพใ›ใ‚“ ใ€‚ ใƒžใƒใƒผใ‚ธใƒฃใƒผ
04:29
You're supposed to be a leader if you're a manager.
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ใชใ‚‰ใ€ใƒชใƒผใƒ€ใƒผใซใชใ‚‹ในใใงใ™ ใ€‚
04:32
You're supposed to give people guidance.
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ไบบใซๆŒ‡ๅฐŽใ™ใ‚‹็พฉๅ‹™ใŒใ‚ใ‚Šใพใ™ใ€‚
04:34
And if you don't do that properly, no one's going to follow you.
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ใใ—ใฆใ€ใใ‚Œใ‚’้ฉๅˆ‡ใซ่กŒใ‚ใชใ„ใจใ€่ชฐใ‚‚ใ‚ใชใŸใซใคใ„ใฆๆฅใพใ› ใ‚“ใ€‚
04:38
Your team, it's not going to work too well.
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ใ‚ใชใŸใฎใƒใƒผใƒ ใ€ใ†ใพใใ„ใใพใ›ใ‚“ใ€‚
04:42
So: "Shut up!
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ใ ใ‹ใ‚‰๏ผšใ€Œ้ป™ใ‚Œ
04:44
Oh my god!"
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๏ผใชใ‚“ใฆใ“ใฃใŸ๏ผใ€
04:46
I understand, as a parent, children are loud, or in a classroom the classroom gets crazy;
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็งใฏ่ฆชใจใ—ใฆใ€ๅญไพ›ใŸใกใŒ้จ’ใ€…ใ—ใ„ใ€ใพใŸใฏๆ•™ๅฎคใงๆ•™ๅฎคใŒ็‹‚ใฃใฆใ„ใ‚‹ใ“ใจใ‚’็†่งฃใ—ใฆใ„ ใพใ™ใ€‚
04:53
students are loud.
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ๅญฆ็”Ÿใฏใ†ใ‚‹ใ•ใ„ใงใ™ใ€‚
04:54
You want to just scream: "Shut up!" or "Be quiet!"
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ใ‚ใชใŸใฏใŸใ ๅซใณใŸใ„ใฎใงใ™๏ผšใ€Œ้ป™ใ‚Œ๏ผใ€ ใพใŸใฏใ€Œ ้™ใ‹ใซใ—ใฆใใ ใ•ใ„๏ผใ€
04:59
Okay, do it.
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ใ‚ˆใ—ใ€ใ‚„ใ‚ใ†ใ€‚
05:01
But if that doesn't work, another method you could say is, especially to children: "Please
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ใ—ใ‹ใ—ใ€ใใ‚ŒใŒใ†ใพใใ„ใ‹ใชใ„ๅ ดๅˆ ใฏใ€็‰นใซๅญไพ›ใŸใกใซใ€Œใ‚‚ใฃใจ
05:07
speak in a quieter voice."
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้™ใ‹ใชๅฃฐใง่ฉฑใ—ใฆใใ ใ•ใ„ใ€ใจ่จ€ใ†ใ“ใจใŒใงใใ‚‹ๅˆฅใฎๆ–นๆณ•ใŒใ‚ใ‚Šใพใ™.
05:10
So, maybe your kids are running around the house, screaming and yelling, or they're just
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ใ ใ‹ใ‚‰ใ€ใ‚ใชใŸใฎๅญไพ›ใŸใกใฏ ๅฎถใฎไธญใ‚’่ตฐใ‚Šๅ›žใฃใŸใ‚Šใ€ๅซใ‚“ใ ใ‚Šใ€ๅคงๅฃฐใงๅซใ‚“ใง
05:16
so excited: "Wah!
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05:17
Oh my god!"
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ใ„ใ‚‹ใ‹ใ‚‚ใ—ใ‚Œใพใ›ใ‚“ใ€‚
05:18
That's good.
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ใใ‚Œใฏ่‰ฏใ„ใ€‚
05:19
It's good to show excitement, but it's better to say to them: "Please talk in a quieter
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็››ใ‚ŠไธŠใŒใ‚‹ใฎใ‚‚ใ„ใ„ ใงใ™ใŒใ€ใ€Œใ‚‚ใฃใจ้™ใ‹ใชๅฃฐใง่ฉฑใ—ใฆ
05:26
voice.
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05:27
Please be more quiet.
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ใใ ใ•ใ„ใ€‚ใ‚‚ใฃใจ้™ใ‹ใซใ—ใฆใใ ใ•ใ„ใ€‚
05:28
You don't have to stop talking, but just keep the level down."
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่ฉฑใ™ใฎใ‚’ใ‚„ใ‚ใ‚‹ๅฟ…่ฆใฏใ‚ใ‚Šใพใ›ใ‚“ใŒ ใ€ใƒฌใƒ™ใƒซใ‚’ไธ‹ใ’ใฆใใ ใ•ใ„ใ€ใจ่จ€ใฃใŸใปใ†ใŒใ‚ˆใ„ใงใ—ใ‚‡ใ†ใ€‚
05:32
There's something I think from The Simpsons, and they had a thing: "Inside voice and outside voice."
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ใ‚ถใƒปใ‚ทใƒณใƒ—ใ‚ฝใƒณใ‚บใ‹ใ‚‰ๆ€ใ†ใ“ใจใŒใ‚ใ‚Šใพใ™ใŒ ใ€ๅฝผใ‚‰ใซใฏใ€Œๅ†…ใชใ‚‹ๅฃฐใจๅค–ใฎๅฃฐใ€ใจใ„ใ†ใ‚‚ใฎใŒใ‚ใ‚Šใพใ™ใ€‚
05:40
So, when you go outside, you have to speak louder because there's more interference;
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ใใฎใŸใ‚ใ€ๅค–ใซๅ‡บใ‚‹ใจใใฏใ€ ๅนฒๆธ‰ใŒๅข—ใˆใ‚‹ใŸใ‚ใ€ใ‚ˆใ‚Šๅคงใใชๅฃฐใง่ฉฑใ™ๅฟ…่ฆใŒใ‚ใ‚Šใพใ™ใ€‚
05:45
when you're inside, your voice should be quieter.
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ไธญใซใ„ใ‚‹ใจใใฏใ€ๅฃฐใ‚’ๅฐใ•ใใ™ใ‚‹ๅฟ…่ฆใŒใ‚ใ‚Šใพใ™ใ€‚
05:48
So, some people say: "Use your inside voice", which means be a little quieter.
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ใงใ™ใ‹ใ‚‰ใ€ใ€Œๅ†…ใชใ‚‹ๅฃฐใ‚’ไฝฟใฃใฆใใ ใ•ใ„ใ€ใจ่จ€ใ†ไบบใ‚‚ใ„ใพใ™ ใ€‚ใ“ใ‚Œใฏใ€ใ‚‚ใ†ๅฐ‘ใ—้™ใ‹ใซใ™ใ‚‹ใ“ใจใ‚’ๆ„ๅ‘ณใ—ใพใ™ใ€‚ ใ„ใคใ‚‚
05:55
Do you know people that use their outside voice all the time?
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ๅค–ใฎๅฃฐใ‚’ไฝฟใฃใฆใ„ใ‚‹ไบบใ‚’็Ÿฅใฃ ใฆใ„ใพใ™ใ‹?
05:59
Like on the phone: "Hey, Mom!
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้›ป่ฉฑใฎใ‚ˆใ†ใซ๏ผšใ€Œใƒžใƒžใ€
06:01
How's it go-..."
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ใŠๅ…ƒๆฐ—ใงใ™ใ‹โ€ฆใ€
06:02
Hey.
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ใญใˆใ€‚
06:03
Don't yell at the phone; your Mom can hear you.
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้›ป่ฉฑใงๆ€’้ณดใ‚‰ใชใ„ใงใใ ใ•ใ„ใ€‚ ใ‚ใชใŸใฎใŠๆฏใ•ใ‚“ใฏใ‚ใชใŸใฎๅฃฐใ‚’่žใใ“ใจใŒใงใ ใพใ™ใ€‚
06:08
This is a problem with children, with other people who aren't children (adults) - a lot
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ใ“ใ‚Œใฏใ€ๅญไพ› ใ ใ‘ใงใชใใ€ๅญไพ›ใงใฏใชใ„ไป–ใฎไบบใ€… (ๅคงไบบ) ใฎๅ•้กŒใงใ‚‚ใ‚ใ‚Š
06:15
of kids like to say bad words.
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ใพใ™ใ€‚ๅคšใใฎๅญไพ›ใฏๆ‚ชใ„่จ€่‘‰ใ‚’่จ€ใ†ใฎใŒๅฅฝใใงใ™ใ€‚
06:17
I say bad words.
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ๆ‚ชๅฃใ‚’่จ€ใ„ใพใ™ใ€‚
06:20
But you don't want your child to go to school and tell someone off or use bad words to children
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ใ—ใ‹ใ—ใ€ใ‚ใชใŸใฎๅญไพ›ใŒๅญฆๆ ก ใซ่กŒใฃใฆ่ชฐใ‹ใ‚’้ž้›ฃใ—ใŸใ‚Šใ€ๅญไพ›ใซๆ‚ชใ„่จ€่‘‰ใ‚’ไฝฟใฃใŸใ‚Šใ™ใ‚‹
06:27
because it's not cool.
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ใฎใฏใ‚ฏใƒผใƒซใงใฏใชใ„ใ‹ใ‚‰ใงใ™.
06:29
So, you can say to your child: "Hey, hey, hey.
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ใ ใ‹ใ‚‰ใ€ใ‚ใชใŸใฏใ‚ใชใŸใฎๅญไพ›ใซ่จ€ใ†ใ“ใจใŒใงใใพใ™๏ผšใ€Œใญใˆใ€ใญใˆใ€ ใญใˆใ€‚
06:33
Do you know what?
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ใ‚ใชใŸใฏไฝ•ใ‚’็Ÿฅใฃใฆใ„ใพใ™ใ‹? ไป–ใฎไบบใซ
06:34
Let's... let's please speak with respect to other people.
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ๆ•ฌๆ„ใ‚’ๆŒใฃใฆ่ฉฑใ—ใพใ—ใ‚‡ใ† .
06:38
You might be angry right now or you might have a problem, but bad words do not solve anything.
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ใ‚ใชใŸใฏไปŠๆ€’ใฃ ใฆใ„ใ‚‹ใ‹ใ‚‚ใ—ใ‚Œใพใ›ใ‚“ใ—ใ€ๅ•้กŒใ‚’ๆŠฑใˆใฆใ„ใ‚‹ใ‹ใ‚‚ใ—ใ‚Œใพใ›ใ‚“ใŒใ€ๆ‚ชใ„่จ€่‘‰. ไฝ•ใ‚‚่งฃๆฑบใ—ใพใ›ใ‚“ใ€‚
06:45
Let's talk with respect and try and work out the problem."
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ๆ•ฌๆ„ใ‚’ๆŒใฃใฆ่ฉฑใ— ใ€ๅ•้กŒใ‚’่งฃๆฑบใ—ใ‚ˆใ†ใจใ—ใพใ—ใ‚‡ใ†ใ€‚ใ€
06:49
It's the same in an office.
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ใ‚ชใƒ•ใ‚ฃใ‚นใงใ‚‚ๅŒใ˜ใงใ™ใ€‚
06:50
If two office...
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ใ‚ชใƒ•ใ‚ฃใ‚นใŒ 2 ใคใ‚ใ‚‹ๅ ดๅˆ...
06:51
If co-workers are going crazy, and they're...
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ๅŒๅƒšใŒๆฐ—ใŒ็‹‚ใฃใฆใ„ใ‚‹ๅ ดๅˆใ€ๅฝผใ‚‰ใฏ...
06:53
They're: "Ah!"
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ๅฝผใ‚‰ใฏ:ใ€Œใ‚ใ‚!ใ€
06:54
They hate each other, they want to kill each other or there's a problem - don't use bad
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ๅฝผใ‚‰ใฏใŠไบ’ใ„ใ‚’ๆ†Žใฟๅˆใฃใฆใ„ใ‚‹ใ€ๆฎบใ—ๅˆใ„ใŸใ„ใ€ ใพใŸใฏๅ•้กŒใŒใ‚ใ‚‹ - ๆ‚ชใ„่จ€่‘‰ใ‚’ไฝฟใ‚ใชใ„ใงใใ ใ•ใ„ใ€‚
06:59
words because, again, that escalates into violence.
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็นฐใ‚Š่ฟ”ใ—ใซใชใ‚Šใพใ™ใŒใ€ใใ‚ŒใฏๆšดๅŠ›ใซ็™บๅฑ•ใ— ใพใ™ใ€‚
07:02
Oh, that's chaos.
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ใ‚ใ‚ใ€ใใ‚ŒใฏๆททๆฒŒใงใ™ใ€‚
07:04
Not that bad, but it just has bad energy.
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ๆ‚ชใใฏใชใ„ใŒใ€ใŸใ ใ‚จใƒใƒซใ‚ฎใƒผใŒๆ‚ชใ„ใ ใ‘ใ ใ€‚
07:08
So, try and get the person to use a calmer voice and talk about things.
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ใงใ™ใ‹ใ‚‰ใ€ใใฎไบบใซ่ฝใก็€ใ„ใŸ ๅฃฐใง็‰ฉไบ‹ใซใคใ„ใฆ่ฉฑใ—ใฆใ‚‚ใ‚‰ใ†ใ‚ˆใ†ใซใ—ใฆใใ ใ•ใ„ใ€‚
07:15
This is really good for children because kids love to do this.
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ๅญไพ›ใŸใกใฏใ“ใ‚Œใ‚’ใ™ใ‚‹ใฎใŒๅคงๅฅฝใใชใฎใงใ€ใ“ใ‚Œใฏๅญไพ›ใŸใกใซใจใฃใฆๆœฌๅฝ“ใซ่‰ฏใ„ ใ“ใจใงใ™ใ€‚
07:19
I guess I'm a kid; I like to make a mess, too.
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็งใฏๅญไพ›ใ ใจๆ€ใ„ใพใ™ใ€‚ ็งใ‚‚ใ‚ใกใ‚ƒใใกใ‚ƒใซใ™ใ‚‹ใฎใŒๅฅฝใ ใงใ™ใ€‚
07:22
So, kids like to make a mess.
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ใ ใ‹ใ‚‰ใ€ๅญไพ›ใŸใกใฏๆททไนฑใ™ใ‚‹ใฎใŒๅฅฝใใงใ™ใ€‚
07:25
"Make a mess" means put things everywhere, get things dirty, colour on things, leave
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ใ€Œๆ•ฃใ‚‰ใ‹ใ™ใ€ใจใฏใ€็‰ฉใ‚’ใ‚ใกใ“ใกใซ็ฝฎใใ€ ๆฑšใ™ใ€่‰ฒใ‚’ๅก—ใ‚‹ใ€
07:32
toys everywhere.
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ใŠใ‚‚ใกใ‚ƒใ‚’ใ‚ใกใ“ใกใซๆฎ‹ใ™ใจใ„ใ†ๆ„ๅ‘ณใงใ™ใ€‚
07:34
Kids do this; it's natural.
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ๅญไพ›ใŸใกใฏใ“ใ‚Œใ‚’่กŒใ„ใพใ™ใ€‚ ใใ‚Œใฏ่‡ช็„ถใชใ“ใจใงใ™ใ€‚
07:36
And you get angry because you have to clean it.
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ใใ—ใฆใ€ใใ‚Œใ‚’ๆŽƒ้™คใ—ใชใ‘ใ‚Œใฐใชใ‚‰ใชใ„ใฎใงใ€ใ‚ใชใŸใฏ่…นใ‚’็ซ‹ใฆใพใ™ใ€‚
07:40
But, hey, how about you get your kid to clean it?
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ใงใ‚‚ใญใ€ใŠๅญใ•ใ‚“ใซๆŽƒ้™คใ—ใฆใ‚‚ใ‚‰ใฃใŸใ‚‰ใฉใ†ใงใ™ใ‹๏ผŸ ่‡ชๅˆ†ใฎ็‰ฉ
07:44
How about you teach them how to be responsible with their things?
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ใซ่ฒฌไปปใ‚’ๆŒใคๆ–นๆณ•ใ‚’ๅฝผใ‚‰ใซๆ•™ใˆใฆใฟใพใ› ใ‚“ใ‹?
07:48
So, instead of saying: "Ah, you made a mess!" you can say: "Woo!
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ใ ใ‹ใ‚‰ใ€ใ€Œใ‚ใ‚ใ€ใ‚ใชใŸใฏๅฐ็„กใ—ใซใ—ใŸ๏ผใ€ใจ่จ€ใ†ไปฃใ‚ใ‚Šใซใ€‚
07:53
It looks like you had fun today.
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ๆฌกใฎใ‚ˆใ†ใซ่จ€ใ†ใ“ใจใŒใงใใพใ™ใ€‚
07:57
Let's clean it up now.
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07:59
I'll help you."
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08:00
Or: "You'll clean this up and it'll be better."
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ใพใŸใฏ๏ผšใ€Œใ“ใ‚Œใ‚’็‰‡ไป˜ใ‘ใ‚Œใฐใ€ใ‚‚ใฃใจ่‰ฏใใชใ‚‹ใงใ—ใ‚‡ใ†ใ€‚ใ€
08:04
You want to encourage the child to clean up his or her own mess.
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ใ‚ใชใŸใฏๅญไพ›ใซ่‡ชๅˆ†ใฎๆททไนฑใ‚’็‰‡ไป˜ใ‘ใ‚‹ใ‚ˆใ†ใซๅ‹งใ‚ใŸใ„ .
08:10
Not you; you're not the maid of your child.
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ใ‚ใชใŸใงใฏใ‚ใ‚Šใพใ›ใ‚“ใ€‚ ใ‚ใชใŸใฏใ‚ใชใŸใฎๅญไพ›ใฎใƒกใ‚คใƒ‰ใงใฏใ‚ใ‚Šใพใ›ใ‚“ใ€‚
08:15
You want to teach the kid responsibility and how to do things for themselves; very important.
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ใ‚ใชใŸใฏๅญไพ›ใซ่ฒฌไปปใจ ่‡ชๅˆ†ใง็‰ฉไบ‹ใ‚’่กŒใ†ๆ–นๆณ•ใ‚’ๆ•™ใˆใŸใ„ใจๆ€ใฃใฆใ„ใพใ™ใ€‚ ้žๅธธใซ้‡่ฆใงใ™ใ€‚
08:20
Next one.
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ๆฌกใฎใ€‚
08:22
Now, this is something that is very frustrating.
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ใ•ใฆใ€ใ“ใ‚Œใฏ้žๅธธใซใ‚คใƒฉใ‚คใƒฉใ™ใ‚‹ใ‚‚ใฎใงใ™ใ€‚
08:27
You give people instructions at a job, in a classroom, or for anyone, and they do it
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ไป•ไบ‹ใง ใ€ๆ•™ๅฎคใงใ€ใพใŸใฏ่ชฐใ‹ใฎใŸใ‚ใซๆŒ‡็คบใ‚’ๅ‡บใ™ใจใ€ๅฝผใ‚‰ใฏ
08:35
wrong or they just don't do it, and you say: "Oh my god.
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้–“้•ใฃใŸใ“ใจใ‚’ใ—ใŸใ‚Šใ€ๅ˜ใซ
08:40
I already told you how to do this.
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ๆŒ‡็คบใ‚’ๅ‡บใ•ใชใ‹ใฃใŸใ‚Šใ—ใพใ™ใ€‚
08:45
Why didn't you do it the correct way?
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ๆญฃใ—ใ„ใ‚„ใ‚Šๆ–นใ˜ใ‚ƒใชใ„ใฎ๏ผŸ
08:48
What's wrong with you?"
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ไฝ•ใŒๆ‚ชใ„ใฎ๏ผŸใ€
08:50
So this shuts the person down; they will not want to do anything for you again.
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ใ—ใŸใŒใฃใฆใ€ใ“ใ‚Œใฏใใฎไบบใ‚’ใ‚ทใƒฃใƒƒใƒˆใƒ€ใ‚ฆใƒณใ—ใพใ™ใ€‚ ๅฝผใ‚‰ใฏ ไบŒๅบฆใจใ‚ใชใŸใฎใŸใ‚ใซไฝ•ใ‚‚ใ—ใŸใใชใ„ใงใ—ใ‚‡ใ†.
08:55
So, instead of saying this, you can say: "Oh, do you know what?
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ใงใ™ใ‹ใ‚‰ใ€ใ“ใ‚Œใ‚’่จ€ใ†ไปฃใ‚ใ‚Šใซใ€ๆฌกใฎใ‚ˆใ†ใซ่จ€ใ†
08:59
Let me give you another example of how I want you to do this or how this could be done."
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09:05
Maybe the person didn't really understand you, and that's why they didn't do it the
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ใใฎไบบใฏใ‚ใชใŸใฎใ“ใจใ‚’ๆœฌๅฝ“ใซ็†่งฃใ—ใฆใ„ใชใ‹ใฃใŸใฎใ‹ใ‚‚ใ—ใ‚Œใพใ›ใ‚“
09:12
way you wanted them to, or they're just being disrespectful.
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09:17
You always have to find out the proper situation first.
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ๅธธใซๆœ€ๅˆใซ้ฉๅˆ‡ใช็Šถๆณใ‚’่ฆ‹ใคใ‘ใชใ‘ใ‚Œใฐใชใ‚Šใพใ›ใ‚“ใ€‚
09:22
Is the person doing this because they just want to, or do they clearly not understand
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ใใฎไบบใฏใŸใ ใใ†ใ— ใŸใ„ใ‹ใ‚‰ใใ†ใ—ใฆ
09:30
what's happened?
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ใ„ใ‚‹ใฎใงใ—ใ‚‡ใ†ใ‹ใ€ใใ‚Œใจใ‚‚ไฝ•ใŒ่ตทใ“ใฃใŸใฎใ‹ใ‚’ๆ˜Žใ‚‰ใ‹ใซ็†่งฃใ—ใฆใ„ใชใ„ใฎใงใ—ใ‚‡ใ†ใ‹?
09:31
If that's the case, give them another example, tell them again, help them.
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ใใฎๅ ดๅˆใฏใ€ๅˆฅใฎไพ‹ใ‚’็คบใ—ใ€ ใ‚‚ใ†ไธ€ๅบฆไผใˆใ€ๅŠฉใ‘ใฆใใ ใ•ใ„ใ€‚
09:36
If you help them, they help you; it's a two-way street.
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ใ‚ใชใŸใŒๅฝผใ‚‰ใ‚’ๅŠฉใ‘ใ‚Œใฐใ€ๅฝผใ‚‰ใ‚‚ใ‚ใชใŸใ‚’ๅŠฉใ‘ใพใ™ใ€‚ ใใ‚ŒใฏๅŒๆ–นๅ‘ใฎ้€šใ‚Šใงใ™ใ€‚
09:41
This is a big one, too.
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ใ“ใ‚Œใ‚‚ๅคงใใ„ใงใ™ใญใ€‚
09:43
Now, people overreact all the time.
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ไปŠใ€ไบบใ€…ใฏๅธธใซ้Žๅ‰ฐๅๅฟœใ—ใฆใ„ใพใ™ใ€‚
09:47
And as I told you at the beginning: "Relax.
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ใใ—ใฆใ€ๆœ€ๅˆใซ่จ€ใฃใŸใ‚ˆใ†ใซใ€ใ€Œใƒชใƒฉใƒƒใ‚ฏใ‚นใ—ใฆใใ ใ•ใ„ใ€‚
09:49
Oh my god.
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ใชใ‚“ใฆใ“ใฃใŸใ€‚
09:50
You're taking life too seriously."
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ใ‚ใชใŸใฏไบบ็”Ÿใ‚’็œŸๅ‰ฃใซ่€ƒใˆใ™ใŽใฆใ„ใพใ™ใ€‚ใ€
09:52
Well, everyone is entitled to their own emotions.
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ใพใ‚ใ€่ชฐใ‚‚ใŒ่‡ชๅˆ†ใฎๆ„Ÿๆƒ…ใ‚’ๆŒใคๆจฉๅˆฉใŒใ‚ใ‚Šใพใ™ใ€‚
09:57
If something makes you angry or something makes you sad, that's fine; those are your
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ไฝ•ใ‹ใŒใ‚ใชใŸใ‚’ๆ€’ใ‚‰ใ›ใŸใ‚Šใ€ไฝ•ใ‹ ใŒใ‚ใชใŸใ‚’ๆ‚ฒใ—ใพใ›ใŸใ‚Šใ—ใฆใ‚‚ใ€ใใ‚Œใฏๅ•้กŒใ‚ใ‚Šใพใ›ใ‚“ใ€‚ ใใ‚Œใ‚‰ใฏใ‚ใชใŸใฎ
10:02
emotions, and you have the right to express them any way you want.
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ๆ„Ÿๆƒ…ใงใ‚ใ‚Šใ€ใ‚ใชใŸใซใฏๅฅฝใใชใ‚ˆใ†ใซ่กจ็พใ™ใ‚‹ๆจฉๅˆฉใŒใ‚ใ‚Š ใพใ™ใ€‚
10:05
But if you tell someone: "You're overreacting!
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ใ—ใ‹ใ—ใ€่ชฐใ‹ใซใ€Œใ‚ใชใŸใฏ้Žๅ‰ฐๅๅฟœใ—ใฆใ„ใ‚‹!
10:08
Relax!
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ใƒชใƒฉใƒƒใ‚ฏใ‚นใ—ใฆ!
10:09
Calm down!" this makes the person sadder, makes them cry more, or it makes them more angry.
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่ฝใก็€ใ„ใฆ!ใ€ใจ่จ€ใฃใŸใ‚‰ใ€ ใ“ใ‚Œใฏใ€ใใฎไบบใ‚’ใ‚ˆใ‚Šๆ‚ฒใ—ใใ•ใ›ใ€ ใ‚ˆใ‚Šๆณฃใ‹ใ›ใ€ใ‚ˆใ‚Šๆ€’ใ‚‰ใ›ใพใ™ใ€‚
10:18
You don't want to do that.
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ใ‚ใชใŸใฏใใ‚Œใ‚’ใ—ใŸใใ‚ใ‚Šใพใ›ใ‚“ใ€‚
10:19
You want the person to relax, but without telling them.
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ใ‚ใชใŸใฏใใฎไบบใซใƒชใƒฉใƒƒใ‚ฏใ‚นใ—ใฆใ‚‚ใ‚‰ใ„ใŸใ„ใฎใงใ™ใŒใ€ ๅฝผใ‚‰ใซ่จ€ใ‚ใšใซ.
10:23
So, you can say: "Hey, hey, hey.
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ใ ใ‹ใ‚‰ใ€ใ‚ใชใŸใฏ่จ€ใ†ใ“ใจใŒใงใใพใ™๏ผšใ€Œใญใˆใ€ใญใˆใ€ใญใˆใ€‚
10:25
Don't worry."
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10:26
Maybe you give your child a task to do and they can't do it, say: "Don't worry.
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ๅญไพ›ใซใ‚„ใ‚‹ในใ่ชฒ้กŒใ‚’ไธŽใˆใฆใ‚‚ใ€ๅญไพ› ใŒใงใใชใ„ใ‹ใ‚‚ใ—ใ‚Œใพใ›ใ‚“ใ€‚
10:32
Try it again.
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10:33
You can do it."
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10:35
You need to encourage children, you need to encourage people if they fail to do it again,
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10:43
and again, and again.
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10:45
By this time, just give up.
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10:47
I mean, come on.
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ใคใพใ‚Šใ€ใ•ใ‚ใ€‚
10:48
They're never going to do it.
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ๅฝผใ‚‰ใฏๆฑบใ—ใฆใใ‚Œใ‚’ใ™ใ‚‹ใคใ‚‚ใ‚Šใฏใ‚ใ‚Šใพใ›ใ‚“ใ€‚
10:49
But you need to tell them to at least try to do it.
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ใ—ใ‹ใ—ใ€ๅฐ‘ใชใใจใ‚‚ใใ†ใ—ใ‚ˆใ†ใจใ™ใ‚‹ใ‚ˆใ†ใซไผใˆใ‚‹ๅฟ…่ฆใŒใ‚ใ‚Šใพใ™ใ€‚
10:52
It's kind of like me and math.
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ใใ‚Œใฏ็งใจๆ•ฐๅญฆใฎใ‚ˆใ†ใชใ‚‚ใฎใงใ™ใ€‚
10:55
I'm terrible in math, and I just gave up.
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็งใฏๆ•ฐๅญฆใŒ่‹ฆๆ‰‹ใงใ€ใ‚ใใ‚‰ใ‚ใพใ—ใŸใ€‚
10:59
Now I have a calculator.
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ไปŠใ€็งใฏ้›ปๅ“ใ‚’ๆŒใฃใฆใ„ใพใ™ใ€‚
11:01
Yes.
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11:02
Thank you, cell phones.
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11:03
Math teachers, I don't need your help.
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ๆ•ฐๅญฆใฎๅ…ˆ็”Ÿใ€ใ‚ใชใŸใฎๅŠฉใ‘ใฏๅฟ…่ฆใ‚ใ‚Šใพใ›ใ‚“ใ€‚
11:06
Another thing that we do because we understand more than a student, or more than a child,
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็งใŸใกใŒๅญฆ็”ŸไปฅไธŠใ€ๅญไพ›ไปฅไธŠใ€ใ‚ใ‚‹ใ„ใฏๅŠดๅƒ่€…ไปฅไธŠใฎใ“ใจใ‚’็†่งฃใ—ใฆใ„ใ‚‹ใŸใ‚ใซ็งใŸใกใŒ่กŒใ†ใ‚‚ใ† 1 ใคใฎใ“ใจใฏใ€
11:14
or maybe more than a worker is we tell people: "What?
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ไบบใ€…ใซๆฌกใฎใ‚ˆใ†ใซ
11:18
It's not hard; it's easy.
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่จ€ใ†ใ“ใจใงใ™ใ€‚
11:20
Come on.
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11:22
Why can't you do this?"
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11:24
So, this makes the person feel stupid.
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ใ ใ‹ใ‚‰ใ€ใ“ใ‚Œใฏใใฎไบบใ‚’ๆ„šใ‹ใซๆ„Ÿใ˜ใ•ใ›ใพใ™ใ€‚
11:28
"Oh my god.
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11:29
I can't do this."
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11:30
Especially children, if you say: "Come on, you can...
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็‰นใซๅญไพ›ใŸใกใฏใ€ใ€Œใ•ใ‚ใ€ ใงใใพใ™...
11:34
Why can't you do this?" the child feels like they don't want to try even.
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ใชใœใ“ใ‚ŒใŒใงใใชใ„ใฎใงใ™ใ‹?ใ€ใจ่จ€ใ†ใชใ‚‰ใ€‚ ๅญไพ› ใฏ่ฉฆใ—ใŸใใชใ„ใ‚ˆใ†ใชๆฐ—ใŒใ—ใพใ™ใ€‚
11:39
So, again, you're going to encourage them.
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็นฐใ‚Š่ฟ”ใ—ใพใ™ใŒใ€ใ‚ใชใŸใฏๅฝผใ‚‰ใ‚’ๅŠฑใพใ™ใคใ‚‚ใ‚Šใงใ™ใ€‚
11:41
Say: "Do you know what?
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ๆฌกใฎใ‚ˆใ†
11:42
Oh, this is hard for you; that's okay.
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11:46
Let me help you.
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11:48
You can do it."
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11:49
Again, when you encourage people, it makes them want to try the thing again.
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็นฐใ‚Š่ฟ”ใ—ใซใชใ‚Šใพใ™ใŒใ€ไบบใ‚’ๅŠฑใพใ™ ใจใ€ใ‚‚ใ†ไธ€ๅบฆใ‚„ใ‚Š็›ดใ—ใŸใ„ใจๆ€ใ†ใ‚ˆใ†ใซใชใ‚Šใพใ™ใ€‚
11:56
So, if you are a teacher in a classroom and you're having control issues with your class,
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ใ—ใŸใŒใฃใฆใ€ใ‚ใชใŸใŒๆ•™ๅฎคใฎๆ•™ๅธซ ใงใ€ใ‚ฏใƒฉใ‚นใฎใ‚ณใƒณใƒˆใƒญใƒผใƒซใซๅ•้กŒ
12:02
or if you are a mother or a father or a babysitter or you have kids around you and you need them
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ใŒใ‚ใ‚‹ๅ ดๅˆใ€ใพใŸใฏๆฏ่ฆชใ€็ˆถ่ฆชใ€ใพใŸใฏใƒ™ใƒ“ใƒผใ‚ทใƒƒใ‚ฟใƒผใงใ‚ใ‚‹ ๅ ดๅˆใ€ใพใŸใฏๅ‘จใ‚Šใซๅญไพ›ใŒใ„ใฆใ€ๅฝผใ‚‰
12:09
to follow your instructions and respect you, if you're a boss at a job or a manager and
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ใŒใ‚ใชใŸใฎๆŒ‡็คบใซๅพ“ใ„ใ€ใ‚ใชใŸใ‚’ๅฐŠ้‡ใ™ใ‚‹ๅฟ…่ฆใŒใ‚ใ‚‹ๅ ดๅˆ. ใ€ ใ‚ใชใŸใŒ่ทๅ ดใฎไธŠๅธใ‚„ใƒžใƒใƒผใ‚ธใƒฃใƒผใง
12:16
the employees aren't working well together - I want you to examine yourself.
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ใ€ๅพ“ๆฅญๅ“กใŒใ†ใพใๆฉŸ่ƒฝใ—ใฆใ„ใชใ„ ๅ ดๅˆใฏใ€่‡ชๅˆ†่‡ช่บซใ‚’่ชฟในใฆใปใ—ใ„.
12:21
I want you to look to see if you are a good leader; if you are using language that actually
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ใ‚ใชใŸใŒๅ„ชใ‚ŒใŸใƒชใƒผใƒ€ใƒผใงใ‚ใ‚‹ใ‹ใฉใ†ใ‹ใ‚’็ขบ่ชใ—ใฆใใ ใ•ใ„ ใ€‚ ใ‚ใชใŸใŒๅฎŸ้š›ใซไบบใ€…ใ‚’ๅŠฑใพใ™่จ€่‘‰ใ‚’ไฝฟใฃใฆใ„ใ‚‹ๅ ดๅˆใ€
12:28
encourages people or most of the time-and I do this, too-we use language that makes
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ใพใŸใฏใปใจใ‚“ใฉใฎๅ ดๅˆ- ็งใ‚‚ใใ†ใ—ใฆใ„ใพใ™-็งใŸใกใฏ
12:35
people close up and not want to help.
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ไบบใ€…ใ‚’ใ‚ฏใƒญใƒผใ‚บใ‚ขใƒƒใƒ—ใ•ใ›ใ€ๅŠฉใ‘ใŸใใชใ„่จ€่‘‰ใ‚’ไฝฟ็”จใ—ใพใ™.
12:38
So, take a look at yourself, and then you can help the people that need your guidance.
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ใใ† ใ™ใ‚Œใฐใ€ใ‚ใชใŸใฎๅฐŽใใ‚’ๅฟ…่ฆใจใ—ใฆใ„ใ‚‹ไบบใ€…ใ‚’ๅŠฉใ‘ใ‚‹ใ“ใจใŒใงใใพใ™ใ€‚
12:44
This is all the tips I have for today.
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ใ“ใ‚ŒใŒไปŠๆ—ฅใฎใ™ในใฆใฎใƒ’ใƒณใƒˆใงใ™ใ€‚
12:46
Go out, have fun at work, and encourage people to be good.
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ๅค–ใซๅ‡บใฆใ€ไป•ไบ‹ใ‚’ๆฅฝใ—ใฟใ€ ไบบใ€…ใŒๅ–„่‰ฏใงใ‚ใ‚‹ใ‚ˆใ†ใซๅฅจๅŠฑใ—ใฆใใ ใ•ใ„ใ€‚
12:50
Don't be evil.
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