Learn 20+ words to talk about personality & character in English

It's a beautiful day in the neighbourhood.

♬ ロジャーさんちは〜 良い天気♬

I'm Ronnie.

I'm not Mr. Rogers.

ロニーよ

ロジャーじゃないわ

I'm going to teach you something today that's I think kind of interesting, and I would like

今日は ちょっと面白いこと教えるわ

to know your opinion; if you agree or disagree with this theory.

あなたは この学説に共感する？しない？ ご意見 聞きたいわ

This is a psychological theory.

心理学なの

Let's dive into your brain.

脳内にダイブしましょう

サイコーね

Delicious.

birth order と言うものが 数多く 研究されている

There's been many studies done on what we call "birth order".

So, "birth order" means if you were born first, second, or third.

birth order は 最初に生まれたか ２番目か ３番目か そういう意味

We also call it, like, the middle-baby syndrome.

真ん中の子症候群 とも言うかしら

I've just made that up.

言ってみただけ 😄

But if you're... if you're the middle kid, you have disadvantages; there's TV shows about

でも 真ん中の子なら不利よね ほら テレビ番組あるでしょ

it, called Malcolm in the Middle.

「天才少年 マルコム奮闘記」

There's been so many things, so much research done about this, and I'm just going to share

ここに たくさんの事柄や 研究結果があるので シェアしましょう

this with you, and you can learn some vocabulary, and you can learn something about yourself,

語彙やあなた自身について いくらか学べるわ

and if you are a parent you can maybe learn something about your children.

あなたが親なら 子どもの事も分かるかも

Why are they so crazy?

なんで あいつら いかれてるの？

イタズラっ子ども なぜ こんな事する？

Why are those little devils doing that?

Or why is my child an angel?

私の子は なぜ天使なの？

So, this is called "birth order".

これが birth order

And the first thing I want to teach you is few slang words in regard to parenting.

まず最初に 育児に関する スラングを ちょっと教えるわね

So, one of them is called a "mama's boy".

じゃあ これ mama's boy（ママっ子）

You probably have this in your language.

たぶん あなたの 母国語にも あると思う

"Mama's boy" is a boy who always depends on their mother.

Mama's boy は いつも ママにべったりな男の子のこと

So, a mama's boy will never really become fully independent.

だから mama's boy は いつまでも 完全に独り立ちできないわ

ママが 洗濯も 朝昼晩の食事も ぜーんぶ 世話しちゃって

His mother will always do his laundry; cook his dinner, and lunch, and breakfast; and

basically never, ever grow up.

つまり いつまでも 成長しないの

So, you don't actually want to produce a mama's boy and you don't actually want to be a mama's

あなたは そんな子に育てたり mama's boy になりたくないでしょ

boy because, in the future, it will cause problems in relationships because no one can

大きくなれば 誰もママのように接してくれないわ だから 人間関係でこじらすことになる

ever replace your mother and... oh, so the trauma begins.

そして ああ… トラウマが始まる

So, "mama's boy" are boys who depend too much on their mothers.

mama's boy は ママに 過剰に依存する男の子のこと

だから ママさん達 息子を 赤ちゃん扱いしないで

So, mamas, stop babying your son.

Make him do the cooking and the laundry.

料理や洗濯させて

Relax.

気楽に

Take a bubble bath.

お風呂 入って

Eat some bonbons.

チョコボンボン 食べて

Let that kid do the washing up.

子どもに お掃除させてね

Okay, the other one is a new sensation called "helicopter parenting".

次は 目新しいかな helicopter parenting （ヘリコプター教育）

So, in our society, because it has become more dangerous, parents now have to actually

私たちの社会は より物騒になってきてるから

今は 親が子どもを連れて 学校に行かなきゃ いけないわ

walk their children to school.

When I was a child, I got to go to school by myself-yay-and cross the road, and I survived.

私が子どもの頃は 自分で 道を渡って 学校に行ったものね

で 生き残った

But, again, our society is getting more dangerous, depending on where you live.

でも 住んでる所によるけど 社会が危険になってきてるので

Now parents must walk the kids to school and pick them up.

今は 親が子どもを連れて 学校に行き ひろって帰る

So, this obviously would interfere with having a job and properly maybe a life.

仕事に就いて 良い人生を 送るには 明らかに負担よね

So, "helicopter parenting" means that the parents watch the children too much.

で、 helicopter parenting の意味は 過剰に 子どもを監視すること

以前は overprotective （過保護） と言ったわ

Before it was called being "overprotective".

So, if you have an overprotective mother or father, they're always watching what you're

過保護なママやパパは いつも あなたのやる事を見ていて

doing, they're always worried, and it's really annoying because you want your freedom.

いつも心配してるから 自由になりたい！って イライラしちゃうわね

So, helicopter parenting is just being overprotective about your children.

helicopter parenting は 子どもに過保護になってしまうこと

Of course, it's your natural instinct to protect your children, but sometimes it gets too much.

もちろん 子どもを守るのは自然な本能よ でも時々 やり過ぎちゃうのね

ほかの例として 子どもの誕生日パーティ

Another example of this is for children's birthday parties.

私が子どもの頃は 自分で行くか 親に送ってもらったりして

When I was a child, I would go to my friend's birthday party by myself, maybe my mother

パーティ行って 数時間遊んで

and father would drop me off, and I would play for a couple of hours, eat some cake,

ケーキ食べて 帰ったけど

go home.

Now the parents actually go to the kids' birthday parties.

今は 親まで パーティに 同席するのよ

You guys just want cake.

ケーキ食べたいだけだよね

I get it.

わかる

Good idea.

うまい手ね

Yeah.

"I'm protecting my children."

「子どもを 守ってるんだ」

You're protecting your stomach from the cake.

ケーキから 胃を守ってるのね

Okay, I get it.

わかったわ

So, this is parent... helicopter parenting.

これが helicopter parenting なのね

Negative, positive?

ネガティブ？ ポジティブ？

あなたが決めて

You decide.

So, let's start with the "first born"; your very first baby.

じゃ First born いくわ 最初の子ども

So, you are really excited for the very first baby but you are also very, very, very nervous

初めての子どもなの 大興奮 でも同時に とても とても

ナーバスになっちゃう だって 生き残ってほしいから

because you want the baby to survive.

So, as a parent, the first baby you don't know what to do, of course; you've never done

親としてやることは もちろん 何もわからない 最初の子どもなの

したことないから

this before.

So, you have very strict rules and everything is crazy.

だから 親はガチガチのルール固めて もう すべてが大変

赤ちゃんが 風邪ひいたら

If the baby is sick: "Oh my god!

神さま！ 緊急事態！

It's an emergency!"

That's normal.

それが普通

So, what the effect of this is: The first born are always going to have the most strict

そういうことでね First born の人は 親がとても厳しくて

parents and the most strict rules.

厳しいしつけを 身につける

Okay?

いい？

And that's wonderful.

すごいわね

The baby grows up, then-doo-doo-doo-doo-surprise - you have another child.

赤ちゃんが成長したら サプライズ！ もう一人子どもができた

So, what happens is with the birth of the second child, the first born is going to learn

では 二人目の子どもが 生まれておきること

First born は 本当に 本当に役立つことを 学ぶわ

really, really positive things.

The child is going to learn to nurture and love-hopefully-his or her baby brother or

赤ちゃん ― 弟や妹を育てたり 好きになる そうあってほしいわね

sister.

彼らは 子どもに教えること 子どもを好きになることを 教わる

So, they are taught to teach the child, and they are taught to love them.

So, you see little boys and little girls are very excited for their little baby brothers

弟や妹ができて 幼い男の子 女の子が おおはしゃぎ

わかるでしょ

or baby sisters.

Till they be born, they ask their Mom or Dad: "Mom, I want a baby brother for Christmas."

生まれるまで ママやパパにお願いするの 「クリスマスに弟がほしいの」

Uh-oh.

あらら 😄

So, this is a very positive thing.

とても素晴らしいことよ

They also are very eager or they want to please others.

彼らは 熱心に 人を喜ばせたいと願う

They want to please their mother and father; they want their parents to be happy, so this

ママやパパを喜ばせたいと願う 両親が幸せになってほしい

is good.

良いことね

When the new baby is born, they understand other people's needs, so they think: "Oh,

彼らは 赤ちゃんが生まれると ほかの人が求めるものを 理解する

「子どもは ボクだけじゃない」

hey, I'm not the only kid here.

There's another person, and oh... oh, hey.

「ここには 自分以外の子がいる」

「この子も 僕のおもちゃで 遊びたいんだね」

This little guy wants to use my toys, too.

「いいよ」

Okay."

So they learn to be more adaptive; they learn to share things, they learn to take care of

それで より適応すること シェアすること お世話することを 学ぶの

other people.

They like to teach, some of them.

彼らの 何割かは 教えたがる

This, of course, is not everyone.

もちろん 全部が そうじゃないわ 😄

So they like to teach their little brother and sister how to do things because they're

責任感があるから 好んで 弟や妹に いろいろ教えたがる

the responsible one.

And they like to lead; they like to be leaders.

そして リードしたがり リーダーに なりたがる

So, most of them like to teach them because they feel proud.

自尊心が満たされるから 大半の子は 教えたがるのね

So, these are the very positive aspects about being the first born and then having another

これが First born に 弟や妹ができて ポジティブな面ね

little baby.

But there are bad things, and this is where you have to watch out if you are a parent.

でも 悪い事もある 親なら 気をつけないといけないわ

So, of course, with a new baby, the first baby is going to be jealous because all of

新しい赤ちゃんに すべての注目が 集まるから First born は

the attention is now given to the new baby.

当然 うらやむことになるわ

So, the new baby will get toys and the first born won't get any toys.

新しい赤ちゃんは おもちゃがもらえるのに First born はもらえない

So, a lot of parents buy a toy for the baby and for the older brother or sister.

多くの親は 赤ちゃんに買ってあげて それから 兄や姉に買ってあげるわね

They're going to experience a sense of loss, and this is losing their toys, this is losing

彼らは 喪失感を覚えるわ おもちゃを失い

ママやパパは かまってくれない そのことが 本当に悲しくて

all of the attention from the mother and father as well, and they feel really sad about this

嫉妬しちゃう

and jealous.

ちゃんと彼らも 見てあげてね 親の愛情は 分かち合う必要があるわ

They need to share the attention or share the love of the mother and father; they don't

like this.

孤独は嫌よね

And they feel a lot of pressure because they always need help; they always need to help

あと いつも助けが必要なので 大きなプレッシャーを感じている

いつも 両親を 手伝う必要がある

the mother and father.

So, the mother... maybe you're busy and you say: "Oh, okay, come on.

お母さんは たぶん 忙しくて 言うの

Let's... let's... help... help me do this.

「ほら… これするの 手伝って」

I need you to help me", so they feel a lot of responsibility.

「手伝ってちょうだい」 それで 責任を感じるのね

その子によるわ お手伝いが好きだったり 遊びたいのに面倒 と思ったり

Depending on the child, they might really like this, or they might find it awful because

they just want to play, but: "Oh my god, I have to help my baby brother" or "my baby

「あーあ！赤ちゃんを みなきゃいけないんだ」

sister".

発達段階の子どもの脳内で 起きることを 知りましょう

So, we have to be aware of what happens in the developmental brain of a child.

なぜ そう ふるまうか

Why are they acting out?

Why are they doing this?

なぜ そう するのか

理由がある

These are the reasons.

うらやましいの

They're jealous.

The "second born".

で Second born

So, if you're the second born - wow, you get one thing that's really cool, is your mother

あなたが Second born なら ママやパパは すでに育児経験あるから

and father have done this already; they're cool.

落ち着いてる それは本当に良いことね

So, if you sneeze, you're not going to run to the hospital; they know you just have a

くしゃみしても 病院に駆け込んだりせず 風邪ひいただけと 分かる

cold.

So, the parents are calmer, they learn more, they've done this already.

親は 落ち着いていて よく学んで すでに経験がある

起きたこと よく知ってる

They know what happened.

You get to learn from your older sibling.

あなたは older sibling から学べる

So, "sibling" means brother or sister.

sibling は 兄弟姉妹のこと

So, hopefully your older brother and sister will help you do things, and that's fun; you

うまくいけば 兄や姉が 助けてくれる

良いね 兄や姉から学べるの

can learn from them.

兄や姉の助けで あなたは 読解や学習が 速くなる

Because of this, theory has it that you read and you can develop faster because it's the

help of your older brother or sister.

学説では そうなっているわ…

Now, maybe if your older brother or sister doesn't help you, you can't read faster.

じゃあ… 兄や姉が頼りないなら 速くならないのかな 😄

That's fine.

なるほど…

I have an older brother.

私 兄がいるけど

[Clears throat].

* ゴホン *

学説では 年長者が助けてくれるので 弟や妹は速く 上達するの

So, in theory, the older one will help the younger one and they will develop faster.

でも人生全体では Second born になると いくつか不利益なことや

But with everything in life, there are some drawbacks or some negative things about being

ネガティブな事もある

the second born.

The first one is because your sibling is older, they can obviously do more things, so you

まず 兄や姉は年上なので うまく 物事をこなせるわね

なので 年下の者は inadequate を感じ始める

or the baby would begin to feel inadequate.

"Inadequate" means you feel like you can't do something.

Inadequate は 無力さを 感じることよ

So, depending on the age, if a 5-year-old can do something, a 2-year-old can't do it

歳相応よね ５歳児のできることは ２歳児にはできない

私たちは 論理的に理解できるけど 子どもは 分からないのね

- logically we can understand this, but the child doesn't.

So, we need to guide the child and say: "Oh, yeah, yeah, but look it: Your brother is 5

なので 導いてあげて 「ほら お兄ちゃんは５歳」

「君 まだ２歳だよ」

and you're only 2.

「兄ちゃんは 描けるけど 君は…」

Your brother can paint and draw, and you just eat crayons.

「クレヨン食べてる 😱」 「仕方ない」

That's fine; you're only 2 years old."

「２歳だもの」

もう一つ Second born は 兄や姉を imitate しようとする

Another thing they do is they try to imitate the older brother or sister.

So, you might think: "Oo, okay".

あなたは こう思うかも 「平気だよ」って

"Imitate" means they copy what the older brother or sister does.

Imitate は人の真似をする って意味ね

これはネガティブな場合があるわ 兄や姉が 悪いことするかもしれない

Sometimes this is negative because maybe the older brother and sister do bad things, so

of course, the child would like to do the same as the brother and sister - this could

そうなると その子まで兄や姉と 同じこと したがるから

２倍になるのよ 😄 トラブルが２倍

be double; double trouble.

兄や姉のほうも 真似されて いらだつわね

And also it annoys the older brother or sister.

And, of course, they're jealous.

あと その子も うらやましがる

子どもは皆 うらやましがるの

All kids are jealous.

They're jealous of the older brother or sister, because the older brother and sister can do

兄や姉が かっこいい事できるから うらやましく思うの

cool things; they can go with their friends and you can't, or they can do different things,

兄や姉は お友だちと 出かけるのに 僕はできない

兄や姉が いろんな事 いろんな活動してるのに 僕はできない

different activities that you can't do.

So, there's a big loss here and they... they're very competitive.

それが大きな喪失感になり 競争心を持つようになる

「兄ちゃん 姉ちゃん みたいになりたい」

"I want to be like my brother and sister."

They have a drive.

野心を持つ

Maybe this helps you in real life because you are competitive.

負けず嫌いだからね たぶん それは人生に役立つわ

The last one-me-is the "last born" or the baby of the family.

最後は 私 Last born （末っ子）

家族の中の the baby （最年少者、末っ子）

あー

この単語 imitate … つづり間違ってる 本当なら m はひとつね

This word: "imitate" I've spelt wrong, actually only has one "m", so: "I imitate" is only

imitate は m ひとつだけ

with one "m".

二つにしたくなる 間違い

I like to put in two m's; it's fun, but it's wrong.

imitate ね

So: "imitate".

The last one or the baby is what I am, so I have one older brother-thank god only one-and

末っ子、最年少者 ― 私がそう

私は 兄ひとり 一人でいいわ

I am the baby of the family.

で 末っ子なのね

The babies... are they the coolest?

末っ子たちは… 一番クールかな？

Maybe.

たぶんね

I think so.

そう思う 😄

So, the babies will never grow up in the parents' eyes.

末っ子は 親から見ると いつまでも 子どもなのよね

So, the cool thing about this is the parents now have amazing confidence; they've done

この良いところは 親が見事なほど 自信に満ちてること

なにせ 前に育てたのは 一度じゃない 二度だから

this not one time before, but two times before, so: "Hey, kid, if you want to run with scissors

「おーいぼうず 暴れたいなら」

down the hall, go ahead.

「廊下のむこうで やりな」

We're cool.

I'm going to have a bubble bath while you do that."

「それで問題ない」

「風呂入ってるからな」

So, parents have more confidence; therefore, maybe you have fewer rules or the rules are

親は より自信を持ってるから ルールが少なくなっていたり

前とは違ったりする

different.

So, the child has more freedom.

それで Last born は より自由になるわ

で これはポジティブ？ ネガティブ？

Now, is this positive or negative?

I think it's cool.

私は良いと思うわ

They get more attention from the mother and father because they're the baby.

ママやパパからは より注目されるのよ 一番年下だからね

Maybe they're a surprise baby.

もしかしたら その子たち surprise baby かもしれないね

Now, a "surprise baby" means that the mother and father didn't really plan on having a

surprise baby は ママやパパが 予定してないのに できた子どものこと

笑えるけど びっくりするわね 😫

baby-that's funny-but you're surprised.

So, surprise babies-"Woo-hoo, we're having another brother and sister"-this can be difficult

「うわー もうひとり 弟や妹 できちゃった」

for the first and the second born.

First born や Second born には 理解しがたいかも

But the baby also develops skills faster than the second one because now they have two kids

末っ子も Second born より 速く 発達するわ

教えてくれる 子どもが 二人だからね

to teach them, and they have two kids to look up to or two kids to admire.

見習うべき 子どもが 二人いるわけ

"I want to be like my baby brother" or "my older brother or sister".

「弟みたいになりたいな」

「兄さん姉さんみたいに なりたいな」

They tend to be more creative, probably because, again, they have more freedom.

自由なので Last born は 創造性 豊かになる傾向があるわ

They are more confident; again, no helicopter parenting.

それに より大胆なの helicopter parenting じゃないから

And a really cool skill is they can be alone because they have a sense of security in the

家族に守られて 安心感があるので 彼らは お留守番もできる

クールな能力ね

family.

Okay, then we come to the negative things about being a baby.

じゃあ次 赤ちゃんになると ネガティブな事 いきましょう

たぶん あなたはいつも 家族の中で the baby （最年少）になるよね

Maybe you will always be the baby in the family.

だから それを… 😄

So, you can use this and you can do this crazy thing called "be manipulative".

利用すると このクレイジーな事ができる be manipulative と言うわね

You can manipulate people.

人を操れる

So, because you're the baby, like: "I'm the baby.

あなたは 一番年下だから

「ワタシはベビーなの 何もできない」

I can't do anything", so you always get your older brother and sister to do it for you.

そうやって いつも兄や姉に 自分の事を やってもらうの

This causes you to be very lazy, and may cause you to be irresponsible.

そのせいで とても怠惰になったり 無責任になったりするわね

So, you always depend on someone else to do what you should be doing.

あなたがやるべき事なのに いつも 人に頼るのよ

"Ah, you know, that other person will do it; I don't need to do it."

「ほら 他の人がやるから やる必要ないわ」

Guess what, baby?

ベビーだって？

Yes, you do.

そうよ

You're not a baby anymore; you're an adult.

ベビーじゃない もう大人でしょ

Come on.

何言ってるの やりな

Do it.

They also tend to be dare devils.

彼らは dare devils にもなりがちね

What's a "dare devil"?

dare devil って何？

A "dare devil" is someone who does something a little bit dangerous; bungee jumping - no

dare devil はちょっと 危険な事を する人のこと

バンジージャンプ へっちゃら

problem.

いい？

Okay?

They like to test the rules; also, they're rebellious.

彼らはルールに 挑みたがるわ 従順ではないのよ

So, the parents give them a rule and they think: "Pfft, whatever.

だから 親がルールを課すと

「フンッ…😠 どうでもいいや こんなルール 従う必要ない」

I don't need to follow that rule."

So, they test the parents because you have fewer rules, they feel more freedom, they

ルールが少ないから 親は試される

自由だし トラブルに 巻き込まれることもあるわね

can get into trouble.

Yeah, they can climb a tree and break their leg.

そう 木に登って 足を折ったり

So, you dare devil babies, be careful.

dare devil ベビーなら 気をつけてね 😄

Do you agree with this?

あなたは この学説 共感する？

What's your opinion of this?

ご意見は？

What baby are you?

あなたは何番目？

Are you the first, second, third, fourth, fifth?

１、２、３、４、… ５番目？

How many brothers and sisters do you have?

あなた何人 兄弟姉妹が いるの？ 😄

Or how many children do you have?

お子さん 何人います？

If you do have children, good luck.

お子さんがいるなら がんばってね

Please take care of them and give them all the love you can.

かまってあげて できる限り 愛してあげてね

Till next time, I'm outta here.

それでは また次回

Mommy.

ママ〜