Have better conversations using the FORD method

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English with Emma


ไธ‹ใฎ่‹ฑ่ชžๅญ—ๅน•ใ‚’ใƒ€ใƒ–ใƒซใ‚ฏใƒชใƒƒใ‚ฏใ™ใ‚‹ใจๅ‹•็”ปใ‚’ๅ†็”Ÿใงใใพใ™ใ€‚ ็ฟป่จณใ•ใ‚ŒใŸๅญ—ๅน•ใฏๆฉŸๆขฐ็ฟป่จณใงใ™ใ€‚

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Hello.
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My name is Emma, and in today's video I am going to teach you how to be better at conversation
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ใ“ใ‚“ใซใกใฏใ€‚
็งใฎๅๅ‰ใฏใ‚จใƒžใงใ™ใ€‚ไปŠๆ—ฅใฎใƒ“ใƒ‡ใ‚ชใงใฏ ใ€ไผš่ฉฑใจใ‚นใƒ”ใƒผใ‚ญใƒณใ‚ฐใŒไธŠๆ‰‹ใซใชใ‚‹ๆ–นๆณ•ใ‚’ๆ•™ใˆใพใ™
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and speaking.
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00:09
Okay?
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ใ‚ใ‹ใฃใŸ๏ผŸ
00:10
So, in this video I'm going to teach you about how to become better at conversation with a technique.
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ใจใ„ใ†ใ“ใจใงใ€ใ“ใฎๅ‹•็”ป ใงใฏใƒ†ใ‚ฏใƒ‹ใƒƒใ‚ฏใ‚’ไฝฟใฃใฆไผš่ฉฑใŒไธŠๆ‰‹ใซใชใ‚‹ๆ–นๆณ•ใ‚’ใŠๆ•™ใˆใ—ใพใ™ใ€‚
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We call the technique "F-O-R-D" or "FORD".
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็งใŸใกใฏใ“ใฎๆŠ€่ก“ใ‚’ ใ€ŒF-O-R-Dใ€ใพใŸใฏใ€ŒFORDใ€ใจๅ‘ผใ‚“ใงใ„ใพใ™ใ€‚
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This technique will really help you if you're shy, if when you meet people for the first
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ใ“ใฎใƒ†ใ‚ฏใƒ‹ใƒƒใ‚ฏใฏ ใ€ๆฅใšใ‹ใ—ใŒใ‚Šๅฑ‹ใงใ€ๅˆใ‚ใฆไบบใซไผšใฃใŸใจใใซ
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time you don't know what to say, if you feel very uncomfortable at parties or in meetings
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ไฝ•ใ‚’่จ€ใˆใฐใ„ใ„ใ‹ใ‚ใ‹ใ‚‰ใชใ„ๅ ดๅˆ ใ€ใƒ‘ใƒผใƒ†ใ‚ฃใƒผใ‚„ไผš่ญฐใ€็คพไบค่กŒไบ‹ใง้žๅธธใซไธๅฟซใซๆ„Ÿใ˜ใ‚‹ๅ ดๅˆใซ้žๅธธใซๅฝน็ซ‹ใกใพใ™
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or any social events.
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00:39
This is a great technique.
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ใ“ใ‚Œใฏ็ด ๆ™ดใ‚‰ใ—ใ„ใƒ†ใ‚ฏใƒ‹ใƒƒใ‚ฏใงใ™ใ€‚
00:40
Even if you're amazing at socializing, this video can still really help you even improve
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ใ‚ใชใŸใŒ็คพไบคใซ้•ทใ‘ใฆใ„ใ‚‹ใจใ—ใฆใ‚‚ใ€ใ“ใฎ ใƒ“ใƒ‡ใ‚ชใฏใ€ใ‚ใชใŸใŒใ™ใงใซใงใใ‚‹ไปฅไธŠใฎใ“ใจใ‚’ๆ”นๅ–„ใ™ใ‚‹ใฎใซๅฝน็ซ‹ใก
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more than what you already can do.
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ใพใ™.
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So let's get started.
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ใใ‚Œใงใฏๅง‹ใ‚ใพใ—ใ‚‡ใ†ใ€‚
00:52
Okay, so the first thing I want to talk about is we use FORD as a way of small talk.
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ใงใฏใ€ๆœ€ๅˆใซใŠ่ฉฑใ—ใ—ใŸใ„ใฎ ใฏใ€ไธ–้–“่ฉฑใฎๆ‰‹ๆฎตใจใ—ใฆ FORD ใ‚’ไฝฟ็”จใ—ใฆใ„ใ‚‹ใ“ใจใงใ™ใ€‚
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So, what is small talk?
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ใงใฏใ€ไธ–้–“่ฉฑใจใฏ๏ผŸ
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Okay?
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ใ‚ใ‹ใฃใŸ๏ผŸ
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Small talk is the type of conversation we have with people we don't know well or strangers.
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ไธ–้–“่ฉฑใฏใ€ ใ‚ˆใ็Ÿฅใ‚‰ใชใ„ไบบใ‚„่ฆ‹็Ÿฅใ‚‰ใฌไบบใจ่กŒใ†ไผš่ฉฑใฎไธ€็จฎใงใ™ใ€‚
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So, you might make small talk with your neighbours, you might make small talk with your boss,
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ใงใ™ใ‹ใ‚‰ใ€่ฟ‘ๆ‰€ใฎไบบใ‚„ ไธŠๅธ
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with your colleagues, maybe if you're, you know, going to a coffee shop you might make
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ใ‚„ๅŒๅƒšใจ ไธ–้–“่ฉฑใ‚’ใ™ใ‚‹ใ‹ใ‚‚ใ—ใ‚Œใพใ›ใ‚“ใ—ใ€ๅ–ซ่Œถๅบ—ใซ่กŒใใชใ‚‰ใ€
01:24
small talk with the store clerk.
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ๅบ—ๅ“กใจไธ–้–“่ฉฑใ‚’ใ™ใ‚‹ใ‹ใ‚‚ใ—ใ‚Œใพใ›ใ‚“ใ€‚
01:27
So, you make small talk with people you don't know well and it's just a way to make people
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ใงใ™ใ‹ใ‚‰ใ€ ใ‚ˆใ็Ÿฅใ‚‰ใชใ„ไบบ
01:33
feel comfortable in conversation and to create a connection with people.
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ใจ้›‘่ซ‡ใ‚’ ใ—ใพใ™ใŒใ€ใใ‚Œใฏใ€ไบบใ€…ใŒไผš่ฉฑใ‚’ๅฟซ้ฉใซๆ„Ÿใ˜ใ€ไบบใ€…ใจใฎใคใชใŒใ‚Šใ‚’็ฏ‰ใใŸใ‚ใฎๆ–นๆณ•ใซใ™ใŽใพใ›ใ‚“ใ€‚
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A lot of conversation is small talk.
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ๅคšใใฎไผš่ฉฑ ใฏไธ–้–“่ฉฑใงใ™ใ€‚
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If anyone has ever talked to you about the weather, sports, you know, all sorts of different
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่ชฐใ‹ใŒ ๅคฉๆฐ—ใ€ใ‚นใƒใƒผใƒ„ใ€ใ‚ใ‚‰ใ‚†ใ‚‹็จฎ้กžใฎใ•ใพใ–ใพใช
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topics - these are usually small talk topics.
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ใƒˆใƒ”ใƒƒใ‚ฏใซใคใ„ใฆ่ฉฑใ—ใŸใ“ใจใŒใ‚ใ‚‹ๅ ดๅˆใ€ใใ‚Œใ‚‰ใฏ้€šๅธธใ€ไธ–้–“ ่ฉฑใฎใƒˆใƒ”ใƒƒใ‚ฏใงใ™ใ€‚
01:51
So, again, you might make small talk at parties, in elevators, at meetings, even if you're
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็นฐใ‚Š่ฟ”ใ—ใซใชใ‚Šใพใ™ใŒใ€ใƒ‘ใƒผใƒ†ใ‚ฃใƒผ ใ‚„ใ‚จใƒฌใƒ™ใƒผใ‚ฟใƒผใ€ไผš่ญฐใงไธ–้–“่ฉฑใ‚’ใ™ใ‚‹ใ‹ใ‚‚ใ—ใ‚Œใพใ›ใ‚“ใ€‚
01:59
taking English classes you will probably make small talk there as well.
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่‹ฑ่ชžใฎๆŽˆๆฅญใ‚’ๅ—ใ‘ใฆ ใ„ใฆใ‚‚ใ€ใใ“ใงไธ–้–“่ฉฑใ‚’ใ™ใ‚‹ใ“ใจใฏใ‚ใ‚‹ใงใ—ใ‚‡ใ†ใ€‚
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So, how do we get good at small talk?
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ใงใฏใ€ใฉใ†ใ™ใ‚Œใฐ ไธ–้–“่ฉฑใŒไธŠๆ‰‹ใซใชใ‚‹ใฎใงใ—ใ‚‡ใ†ใ‹ใ€‚
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What do we talk about when we don't know what to talk about?
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ไฝ•ใ‚’่ฉฑใ›ใฐใ„ใ„ใฎใ‹ใ‚ใ‹ใ‚‰ใชใ„ใจใใ€็งใŸใกใฏไฝ•ใซใคใ„ใฆ่ฉฑใ—ใพใ™ใ‹?
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Well, that's where FORD comes in.
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ใใ“ใงใ€ FORD ใฎๅ‡บ็•ชใงใ™
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FORD is a technique which will help you know what to talk about when you really have no idea.
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ใ€‚FORD ใฏใ€ ไฝ•ใซใคใ„ใฆ่ฉฑใ›ใฐใ‚ˆใ„ใ‹ๅˆ†ใ‹ใ‚‰ใชใ„ใจใใซใ€ไฝ•ใ‚’่ฉฑใ›ใฐใ‚ˆใ„ใ‹ใ‚’ๆ•™ใˆใฆใใ‚Œใ‚‹ใƒ†ใ‚ฏใƒ‹ใƒƒใ‚ฏใงใ™ใ€‚
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So maybe this has been you before.
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ใงใ™ใ‹ใ‚‰ใ€ใ“ใ‚Œใฏไปฅๅ‰ใฎใ‚ใชใŸใ‹ใ‚‚ใ—ใ‚Œใพใ›ใ‚“ ใ€‚
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Okay? Maybe this is you: "What should I talk about? Ah."
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ใ‚ใ‹ใฃใŸ๏ผŸ ๅคšๅˆ†ใ“ใ‚Œใฏใ‚ใชใŸใงใ™๏ผšใ€Œ ็งใฏไฝ•ใซใคใ„ใฆ่ฉฑใ™ในใใงใ™ใ‹๏ผŸใ‚ใ‚ใ€‚ใ€
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Or, you know, maybe it's just a bunch of question marks.
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ใ‚ใ‚‹ใ„ใฏใ€ใ‚ฏใ‚จใ‚นใƒใƒงใƒณ ใƒžใƒผใ‚ฏใฎ้›†ใพใ‚Šใ‹ใ‚‚ใ—ใ‚Œใพใ›ใ‚“ ใ€‚
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"I don't know what to say."
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ใ€Œไฝ•ใ‚’่จ€ใˆใฐใ„ใ„ใฎใ‹ใ‚ใ‹ใ‚‰ใชใ„ใ€
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It's totally silent. It's awkward.
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ๅฎŒๅ…จใซ็„ก้Ÿณใงใ™ใ€‚ ใŽใ“ใกใชใ„ใงใ™ใ€‚
02:31
So, how can we fix this situation?
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ใงใฏใ€ใ“ใฎ็Šถๆณใ‚’ใฉใฎใ‚ˆใ†ใซไฟฎๆญฃใงใ ใพใ™ใ‹?
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Well, FORD stands for four things.
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FORD ใฏ 4 ใคใฎใ“ใจใ‚’่กจใ—ใฆใ„ใพใ™ใ€‚
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"F" stands for "family".
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ใ€ŒFใ€ใฏใ€Œๅฎถๆ—ใ€ใ‚’ๆ„ๅ‘ณใ—ใพใ™ใ€‚
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You can talk about family, and I'm going to give you some great questions you can use
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ๅฎถๆ—ใซใคใ„ใฆ่ฉฑใ™ใ“ใจใŒใงใใพใ™ใ€‚็งใฏ
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to ask about somebody's family.
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ใ€่ชฐใ‹ใฎๅฎถๆ—ใซใคใ„ใฆๅฐ‹ใญใ‚‹ใฎใซไฝฟ็”จใงใใ‚‹็ด ๆ™ดใ‚‰ใ—ใ„่ณชๅ•ใ‚’ใ„ใใคใ‹็ดนไป‹ใ—ใพใ™ใ€‚
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"O" stands for "occupation" or job.
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ใ€ŒOใ€ใฏ ใ€Œ่ทๆฅญใ€ใพใŸใฏไป•ไบ‹ใ‚’่กจใ—ใพใ™ใ€‚ ไผš่ฉฑใ‚’็ถšใ‘ใ‚‹ใŸใ‚ใซใ€ใ‚ˆใ็Ÿฅใ‚‰ใชใ„ไบบ
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I'm going to give you some great questions about occupation that you can ask somebody
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ใซๅฐ‹ใญใ‚‹ใ“ใจใŒใงใใ‚‹ใ€่ทๆฅญใซ้–ขใ™ใ‚‹็ด ๆ™ดใ‚‰ใ—ใ„่ณชๅ•ใ‚’ใ„ใใค
02:54
you don't know well to keep the conversation going.
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ใ‹็ดนไป‹ใ— ใพใ™ใ€‚
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"R" stands for "recreation", this is like hobbies, sports, movies, Netflix, TV. Okay?
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ใ€ŒRใ€ใฏใ€Œใƒฌใ‚ฏใƒชใ‚จใƒผใ‚ทใƒงใƒณใ€ใฎ็•ฅใงใ€ใ“ใ‚Œใฏ ่ถฃๅ‘ณใ€ใ‚นใƒใƒผใƒ„ใ€ๆ˜ ็”ปใ€ใƒใƒƒใƒˆใƒ•ใƒชใƒƒใ‚ฏใ‚นใ€ใƒ†ใƒฌใƒ“ใฎใ‚ˆใ†ใชใ‚‚ใฎใงใ™ใ€‚ ใ‚ใ‹ใฃใŸ๏ผŸ
03:06
So I'm going to give you some great questions for hobbies or recreation.
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ใงใฏใ€่ถฃๅ‘ณใ‚„ใƒฌใ‚ฏใƒชใ‚จใƒผใ‚ทใƒงใƒณใซ้–ขใ™ใ‚‹็ด ๆ™ดใ‚‰ใ—ใ„่ณชๅ•ใ‚’ใ„ใใคใ‹ใ—ใฆใ„ใใพใ™ ใ€‚
03:10
And finally, "D" stands for "dreams".
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ใใ—ใฆๆœ€ๅพŒใซใ€ใ€ŒDใ€ ใฏใ€Œๅคขใ€ใ‚’ๆ„ๅ‘ณใ—ใพใ™ใ€‚
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This is when you ask somebody about their future goals or, you know, something they
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ใ“ใ‚Œใฏใ€่ชฐใ‹ใซ ๅฐ†ๆฅใฎ็›ฎๆจ™ใ‚„ใ€
03:19
want to do.
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ใ‚„ใ‚ŠใŸใ„ใ“ใจใซใคใ„ใฆๅฐ‹ใญใ‚‹ใจใใงใ™ใ€‚
03:21
This does not...
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ใ“ใ‚Œใฏใใ†ใงใฏใ‚ใ‚Šใพใ›ใ‚“...
03:22
Dreams does not mean when you go to sleep, if you have some weird dream and you share
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ๅคขใฏใ€ใ‚ใชใŸใŒ็œ ใ‚Šใซใคใใจใ ใ€ๅฅ‡ๅฆ™ใชๅคขใ‚’่ฆ‹ใฆใ€
03:26
it with somebody.
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ใใ‚Œใ‚’่ชฐใ‹ใจๅ…ฑๆœ‰ใ™ใ‚‹ใ“ใจใ‚’ๆ„ๅ‘ณใ™ใ‚‹ใ‚‚ใฎใงใฏใ‚ใ‚Šใพใ›ใ‚“.
03:27
I'm not talking about that.
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็งใฏใใ‚Œใซใคใ„ใฆ่ฉฑใ—ใฆใ„ใ‚‹ใฎใงใฏใ‚ใ‚Šใพใ›ใ‚“ใ€‚
03:28
I'm talking about your dreams in life.
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็งใฏ ใ‚ใชใŸใฎไบบ็”Ÿใฎๅคขใซใคใ„ใฆ่ฉฑใ—ใฆใ„ใ‚‹.
03:31
What are your goals?
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ใ‚ใชใŸใฎ็›ฎๆจ™ใฏไฝ•ใงใ™ใ‹๏ผŸ
03:32
Okay?
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03:33
So using the FORD technique will make you better at small talk.
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ใ—ใŸใŒใฃใฆใ€FORD ใƒ†ใ‚ฏใƒ‹ใƒƒใ‚ฏใ‚’ไฝฟ็”จใ™ใ‚‹ใจใ€ ไธ–้–“่ฉฑใŒไธŠๆ‰‹ใซใชใ‚Šใพใ™ใ€‚
03:38
So, now let's look at some specific questions you can ask when you're socializing with somebody
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ใงใฏใ€ใ‚ใพใ‚Šใ‚ˆใ็Ÿฅใ‚‰ใชใ„ไบบใจไบคๆตใ—ใฆใ„ใ‚‹ใจใใซๅฐ‹ใญใ‚‰ใ‚Œใ‚‹ๅ…ทไฝ“็š„ใช่ณชๅ•ใ‚’ใ„ใใคใ‹่ฆ‹ใฆใฟใพใ—ใ‚‡ใ†
03:44
who you don't know that well.
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03:46
Okay, so again, the "F" in FORD stands for "family".
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ใƒ•ใ‚ฉใƒผใƒ‰ใฎใ€ŒFใ€ ใฏใ€Œใƒ•ใ‚กใƒŸใƒชใƒผใ€ใ‚’ๆ„ๅ‘ณใ—ใพใ™ใ€‚
03:53
Family is a great thing to talk about, but remember to keep it light and easy.
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ๅฎถๆ—ใซใคใ„ใฆ่ฉฑใ™ใฎใฏ็ด ๆ™ดใ‚‰ใ—ใ„ใ“ใจใงใ™ใŒใ€่ปฝใใฆ็ฐกๅ˜ใชใ‚‚ใฎใซใ™ใ‚‹ใ“ใจใ‚’ ๅฟ˜ใ‚Œใชใ„ใงใใ ใ•ใ„.
03:58
Okay?
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ใ‚ใ‹ใฃใŸ๏ผŸ
03:59
You want to talk about things people are comfortable with.
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ใ‚ใชใŸใฏไบบใ€…ใŒๅฟซ้ฉใซๆ„Ÿใ˜ใ‚‰ใ‚Œใ‚‹ใ“ใจใซใคใ„ใฆ่ฉฑใ—ใŸใ„ใจๆ€ใฃใฆ ใ„ใพใ™ใ€‚
04:03
So don't ask them any private questions, you know, like:
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ใงใ™ใ‹ใ‚‰ใ€ใƒ—ใƒฉใ‚คใƒ™ใƒผใƒˆใช่ณชๅ•ใฏ
04:08
"Oh, is it true so-and-so cheated on so-and-so?"
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ใ—ใชใ„ใงใใ ใ•ใ„ใ€‚
04:11
No, no, no. Keep it light, simple, and easy.
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ใƒ€ใƒกใƒ€ใƒกใƒ€ใƒกใ€‚ ่ปฝใใ€ใ‚ทใƒณใƒ—ใƒซใซใ€ใใ—ใฆ็ฐกๅ˜ใซใ—ใฆใใ ใ•ใ„ใ€‚
04:14
And also share about your own family, too.
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ใพใŸใ€ ใ‚ใชใŸ่‡ช่บซใฎๅฎถๆ—ใซใคใ„ใฆใ‚‚ๅ…ฑๆœ‰ใ—ใฆใใ ใ•ใ„ใ€‚
04:17
Okay?
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ใ‚ใ‹ใฃใŸ๏ผŸ
04:18
That's also very important.
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ใใ‚Œใ‚‚้žๅธธใซ้‡่ฆใงใ™ใ€‚ FBI ใŒ่ชฐใ‹ใ‚’ๅฐ‹ๅ•
04:20
You don't want to sound like the FBI interrogating somebody.
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ใ—ใฆใ„ใ‚‹ใ‚ˆใ†ใซ่žใ“ใˆใŸใใ‚ใ‚Šใพใ›ใ‚“ ใ€‚
04:24
You want to have a conversation, so each time they say something, you can say something
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ใ‚ใชใŸใฏไผš่ฉฑใ‚’ใ—ใŸใ„ใฎใงใ€ ๅฝผใ‚‰ใŒไฝ•ใ‹ใ‚’่จ€ใ†ใŸใณใซใ€ใ‚ใชใŸ่‡ช่บซใซใคใ„ใฆไฝ•ใ‹ใ‚’่จ€ใ†ใ“ใจใŒใงใ
04:30
about yourself.
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ใพใ™.
04:31
So keep it kind of balanced.
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ใ ใ‹ใ‚‰ใ€ใใ‚Œใ‚’ใƒใƒฉใƒณใ‚นใฎใจใ‚ŒใŸใ‚‚ใฎใซใ—ใฆใใ ใ•ใ„ใ€‚
04:33
Okay, so one easy question you can talk about: "Where are you from originally?"
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ใงใฏใ€็ฐกๅ˜ใช่ณชๅ•ใ‚’ 1 ใคๆŒ™ใ’ ใฆใฟใพใ—ใ‚‡ใ†ใ€‚ใ€Œๅ‡บ่บซๅœฐใฏใฉใ“ใงใ™ใ‹?ใ€
04:41
Okay? "Where are you from?
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ใ‚ใ‹ใฃใŸ๏ผŸ ใ€Œใ‚ใชใŸใฏใฉใ“ใ‹ใ‚‰ๆฅใพใ—ใŸ
04:42
Are you from Toronto?
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ใ‹? ใƒˆใƒญใƒณใƒˆใ‹ใ‚‰ๆฅใพใ—ใŸใ‹?
04:43
Are you from Tokyo?
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ๆฑไบฌ
04:45
Are you from Istanbul?
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ใ‹ใ‚‰ๆฅใพใ—ใŸใ‹? ใ‚คใ‚นใ‚ฟใƒณใƒ–ใƒผใƒซใ‹ใ‚‰ๆฅใพใ—ใŸใ‹?
04:47
Where are you from?"
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ใฉใ“ใ‹ใ‚‰ๆฅใพใ—ใŸใ‹?ใ€
04:49
This question is great because you can really talk about the difference between your cities
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ใ“ใฎ่ณชๅ•ใฏ็ด ๆ™ดใ‚‰ใ—ใ„ใงใ™ใ€‚ใชใœใชใ‚‰ใ€ใ‚ใชใŸใฏ ใ‚ใชใŸใฎ้ƒฝๅธ‚
04:53
and, you know, maybe some of your experiences growing up.
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ใจใ€ใŠใใ‚‰ใ ใ‚ใชใŸใฎๆˆ้•ทใ—ใŸ็ตŒ้จ“ใฎ้•ใ„ใซใคใ„ใฆๆœฌๅฝ“ใซ่ฉฑใ™ใ“ใจใŒใงใใ‚‹ใ‹ใ‚‰ใงใ™.
04:57
Similarly: "Where did you grow up?"
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ๅŒๆง˜ใซใ€ใ€Œใฉใ“ใง ่‚ฒใกใพใ—ใŸใ‹๏ผŸใ€
05:00
A lot of people have moved a lot, so maybe they were born in this city, then they moved
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ๅคšใใฎไบบใŒใŸใใ•ใ‚“ๅผ•ใฃ่ถŠใ—ใฆใ ใŸใฎใงใ€ใ“ใฎ่ก—ใง็”Ÿใพใ‚Œใ€
05:05
to Mexico, and then they moved here.
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ใƒกใ‚ญใ‚ทใ‚ณ ใซ็งปใ‚Šใ€ใ“ใ“ใซๅผ•ใฃ่ถŠใ—ใŸใฎใ‹ใ‚‚ใ—ใ‚Œใพใ›ใ‚“ใ€‚
05:08
So that's also another interesting question.
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ใ“ใ‚Œใ‚‚ ่ˆˆๅ‘ณๆทฑใ„่ณชๅ•ใงใ™ใ€‚
05:11
"Do you still have family there?
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ใ€Œใใ“ใซๅฎถๆ—ใฏใ„ใพใ™ใ‹๏ผŸ
05:14
Do you still have family in Tokyo?
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ๆฑไบฌใซ
05:16
Do you still have family in Istanbul?"
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ๅฎถๆ—ใฏใ„ใพใ™ใ‹๏ผŸใ‚คใ‚นใ‚ฟใƒณใƒ–ใƒผใƒซใซๅฎถๆ—ใฏใ„ใพใ™ใ‹๏ผŸใ€
05:18
Okay?
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ใ‚ใ‹ใฃใŸ๏ผŸ
05:19
"How did you meet your boyfriend?", "How did you meet your girlfriend?",
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ใ€Œๅฝผๆฐใจใฏใฉใ†ใ‚„ใฃใฆ็Ÿฅใ‚ŠๅˆใฃใŸใฎ ๏ผŸใ€ใ€Œๅฝผๅฅณใจใฏใฉใ†ใ‚„ใฃใฆ็Ÿฅใ‚ŠๅˆใฃใŸใฎ๏ผŸใ€ใ€Œ
05:25
"How did you meet your husband/your wife/your partner?"
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ๅคซ/ๅฆป/ใƒ‘ใƒผใƒˆใƒŠใƒผใจใฏใฉใ†ใ‚„ใฃใฆ็Ÿฅใ‚ŠๅˆใฃใŸใฎ๏ผŸใ€
05:30
Okay? Even your friend.
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ใ‚ใ‹ใฃใŸ๏ผŸ ใ‚ใชใŸใฎๅ‹ไบบใงใ•ใˆใ€‚
05:32
So this is a great question because it makes the other person tell a story.
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ใงใ™ใ‹ใ‚‰ใ€ใ“ใ‚Œใฏ็ด ๆ™ดใ‚‰ใ—ใ„่ณชๅ•ใงใ™ใ€‚ใชใœใชใ‚‰ใ€ใใ‚Œ ใฏไป–ใฎไบบใซ็‰ฉ่ชžใ‚’่ชžใ‚‰ใ›ใ‚‹ใ‹ใ‚‰ใงใ™ใ€‚
05:38
You know, and usually the stories are quite interesting.
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ใ”ๅญ˜็Ÿฅใฎใ‚ˆใ†ใซใ€้€šๅธธใ€ ใ‚นใƒˆใƒผใƒชใƒผใฏ้žๅธธใซ่ˆˆๅ‘ณๆทฑใ„ใ‚‚ใฎใงใ™ใ€‚
05:40
You know, so this will make the conversation a bit longer which is good.
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ใงใ™ใ‹ใ‚‰ใ€ใ“ใ‚Œใง ไผš่ฉฑใŒๅฐ‘ใ—้•ทใใชใ‚Šใพใ™ใ€‚ใ“ใ‚Œใฏ่‰ฏใ„ใ“ใจใงใ™ใ€‚
05:47
"Do you have any brothers or sisters?",
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ใ€Œ ๅ…„ๅผŸๅง‰ๅฆนใฏใ„ใพใ™ใ‹๏ผŸใ€
05:51
"Do you come from a big family or a small family?"
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ใ€Œๅคง ๅฎถๆ—ใงใ™ใ‹ใ€ใใ‚Œใจใ‚‚ๅฐๅฎถๆ—ใงใ™ใ‹๏ผŸใ€
05:55
Okay?
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ใ‚ใ‹ใฃใŸ๏ผŸ
05:56
This is a great opener, because then people can talk about their cousins, their aunts,
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ใ“ใ‚Œใฏใ€ไบบใ€… ใŒใ„ใจใ“ใ€ใŠใฐ
06:00
their uncles, what it's like to grow up in a big family.
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ใ€ใŠใ˜ใซใคใ„ใฆ ใ€ๅคงๅฎถๆ—ใง่‚ฒใคใจใฏใฉใ†ใ„ใ†ใ“ใจใ‹ใซใคใ„ใฆ่ฉฑใ™ใ“ใจใŒใงใใ‚‹ใฎใงใ€็ด ๆ™ดใ‚‰ใ—ใ„ใ‚ชใƒผใƒ—ใƒ‹ใƒณใ‚ฐใงใ™ใ€‚
06:04
Or maybe they grew up in a small family.
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ใ‚ใ‚‹ใ„ใฏใ€ๅฝผใ‚‰ใฏๅฐใ•ใชๅฎถๆ—ใง่‚ฒใฃใŸใฎใ‹ใ‚‚ใ—ใ‚Œใพใ›ใ‚“ ใ€‚
06:07
And you can compare your stories.
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ใใ—ใฆใ€ใ‚ใชใŸใฎ็‰ฉ่ชžใ‚’ๆฏ”่ผƒใ™ใ‚‹ใ“ใจใŒใงใ ใพใ™ใ€‚
06:10
If you grew up in a small family, maybe you always wondered what it was like to grow up
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ๅฐใ•ใชๅฎถๆ—ใง่‚ฒใฃใŸๅ ดๅˆใ€ๅคงๅฎถๆ—ใง ่‚ฒใคใจใฏใฉใ†ใ„ใ†ใ“ใจใ‹
06:15
in a big family, or vice versa.
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ใ€ใพใŸใฏใใฎ้€†ใฎใ“ใจใ‚’ใ„ใคใ‚‚่€ƒใˆใฆใ„ใŸใ‹ใ‚‚ใ—ใ‚Œใพใ›ใ‚“ใ€‚
06:17
So it's a great way to show similarities and differences.
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ใ—ใŸใŒใฃใฆใ€้กžไผผ็‚นใจ็›ธ้•็‚นใ‚’็คบใ™ใฎใซๆœ€้ฉใชๆ–นๆณ• ใงใ™ใ€‚
06:21
"How is your family?"
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"ใ‚ใชใŸใฎๅฎถๆ—ใฏๅ…ƒๆฐ—ใงใ™ใ‹๏ผŸ"
06:23
So if you've met the person before, you can ask them this.
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ใใฎใŸใ‚ใ€ไปฅๅ‰ใซใใฎไบบใซไผšใฃใŸใ“ใจใŒใ‚ใ‚‹ๅ ดๅˆใฏใ€ ใ“ใฎใ‚ˆใ†ใซๅฐ‹ใญใ‚‹ใ“ใจใŒใงใใพใ™ใ€‚
06:27
"How's your family?
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ใ€Œใ”ๅฎถๆ—ใฏใŠๅ…ƒๆฐ—ใงใ™ใ‹๏ผŸ
06:29
How are they doing?"
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ใŠๅ…ƒๆฐ—ใงใ™ใ‹๏ผŸใ€
06:31
If the person has children, people love talking about their kids usually: "How are your children?"
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ใใฎไบบใซๅญไพ›ใŒใ„ใ‚‹ๅ ดๅˆใ€ไบบใ€… ใฏ้€šๅธธใ€ๅญไพ›ใซใคใ„ใฆ่ฉฑใ™ใฎใŒๅคงๅฅฝใใงใ™ใ€‚
06:36
Okay?
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ใ‚ใ‹ใฃใŸ๏ผŸ
06:37
"How are your children doing?
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ใ€Œใ‚ใชใŸใฎๅญไพ›ใฏๅ…ƒๆฐ—ใงใ™ใ‹๏ผŸ
06:38
How old are your children?"
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ใ‚ใชใŸใฎๅญไพ›ใฏไฝ•ๆญณใงใ™ใ‹๏ผŸใ€
06:40
These questions are really good to ask.
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ใ“ใ‚Œใ‚‰ใฎ่ณชๅ•ใฏ ๆœฌๅฝ“ใซ่‰ฏใ„่ณชๅ•ใงใ™ใ€‚
06:43
Finally, some people might not have children or maybe, you know...
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ๆœ€ๅพŒใซใ€ๅญไพ›ใ‚’ๆŒใŸใชใ„ไบบใ‚‚ใ„ใ‚‹ใ‹ใ‚‚ใ—ใ‚Œ
06:48
Maybe they have different types of family.
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ใพใ›ใ‚“ใ€‚
06:50
Maybe you're on an elevator with somebody and you see they have a dog.
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่ชฐใ‹ใจไธ€็ท’ใซใ‚จใƒฌใƒ™ใƒผใ‚ฟใƒผใซไน—ใฃ ใฆใ„ใฆใ€ๅฝผใ‚‰ใŒ็Šฌใ‚’้ฃผใฃใฆใ„ใ‚‹ใฎใ‚’่ฆ‹ใŸใจใ—ใพใ™ใ€‚
06:54
People also love talking about their pets, and pets are family, too, so feel free to
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06:58
ask about: "What's your dog's name?
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ใงใ™ใ€‚ใ€Œ ใ‚ใชใŸใฎ็Šฌใฎๅๅ‰ใฏ๏ผŸใ‚ใชใŸใฎ็Šฌใฏ
07:01
How old's your dog?"
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07:02
You know, all of this...
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ใ”ๅญ˜็Ÿฅใฎใ‚ˆใ†ใซใ€
07:05
All of these are really good questions to ask.
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ใ“ใ‚Œใ‚‰ใฏใ™ในใฆ... ใ“ใ‚Œใ‚‰ใฏใ™ในใฆใ€ ๅฐ‹ใญใ‚‹ใฎใซๆœฌๅฝ“ใซ่‰ฏใ„่ณชๅ•ใงใ™ใ€‚
07:07
Okay, so now let's look at the "O" which stands for "occupation".
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ใงใฏใ€ใ€Œ่ทๆฅญใ€ใ‚’่กจใ™ใ€ŒOใ€ใ‚’่ฆ‹ใฆใฟใพใ—ใ‚‡ใ† ใ€‚
07:13
Okay, so "O", "occupation".
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ใงใฏใ€ใ€ŒใŠใ€ใ€ใ€Œ่ทๆฅญใ€ใงใ™ใ€‚
07:17
What is occupation?
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่ทๆฅญใจใฏ๏ผŸ
07:19
Well, usually when we talk about occupation we're talking about jobs or careers, or sometimes
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้€šๅธธใ€็งใŸใกใŒ่ทๆฅญใซใคใ„ใฆ่ฉฑใ™ใจใใฏใ€ ไป•ไบ‹ใ‚„ใ‚ญใƒฃใƒชใ‚ขใ€ๆ™‚ใซใฏๆ•™่‚ฒใซใคใ„ใฆใ‚‚่ฉฑใ—ใพใ™
07:27
even education.
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ใ€‚ ๅธธใซใใ†ใงใ‚ใ‚‹ๅฟ…่ฆใฏใ‚ใ‚Šใพใ›ใ‚“ใŒ
07:28
It's pretty much what you're doing to either make money or, you know, towards a career,
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ใ€ใŠ้‡‘ใ‚’็จผใใŸใ‚ใ€ใพใŸใฏใ‚ญใƒฃใƒชใ‚ขใซๅ‘ใ‘ใฆใ‚„ใฃใฆ
07:34
although it doesn't always have to be.
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07:36
So, we like to talk about occupation because people know about what they're doing; they
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ใงใ™ใ‹ใ‚‰ใ€่ทๆฅญใซใคใ„ใฆ่ฉฑใ™ใฎใŒๅฅฝใใงใ™ใ€‚ใชใœใชใ‚‰ใ€ ไบบใ€…ใฏ่‡ชๅˆ†ใŒไฝ•ใ‚’ใ—ใฆใ„ใ‚‹ใ‹ใ‚’็Ÿฅใฃใฆใ„ใ‚‹ใ‹ใ‚‰ใงใ™ใ€‚ ๅฝผใ‚‰
07:43
know about their job, they know about what they're studying.
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ใฏ่‡ชๅˆ†ใฎไป•ไบ‹ใซใคใ„ใฆ็Ÿฅใฃใฆ ใŠใ‚Šใ€่‡ชๅˆ†ใŒๅ‹‰ๅผทใ—ใฆใ„ใ‚‹ใ“ใจใซใคใ„ใฆ็Ÿฅใฃใฆใ„ใพใ™ใ€‚ ๅฟซ้ฉใชใƒˆใƒ”ใƒƒใ‚ฏใง
07:46
So it's good because it makes the person comfortable with a comfortable topic.
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ไบบใ‚’ๅฟซ้ฉใซใ™ใ‚‹ใฎใงใ€ใใ‚Œใฏ่‰ฏใ„ใ“ใจ ใงใ™ใ€‚
07:51
So, again, that's the purpose of small talk.
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็นฐใ‚Š่ฟ”ใ—ใพใ™ใŒใ€ใใ‚ŒใŒ้›‘่ซ‡ใฎ ็›ฎ็š„ใงใ™ใ€‚
07:53
We're trying to keep the person feeling comfortable.
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็งใŸใกใฏใใฎไบบใŒๅฟซ้ฉใซ้Žใ”ใ›ใ‚‹ใ‚ˆใ†ใซๅŠชใ‚ใฆใ„ใพใ™ ใ€‚
07:56
Now, the question I like to ask people the most is not: "What is your job?" because sometimes
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08:04
people don't have a job or sometimes they're between jobs.
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08:08
Sometimes...
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ๆ™‚ใ€…... ใ‚ใ‚‹ๆ™‚
08:09
It happened to me once, the person had just lost their job that day and it was a very
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ใ€ใใฎไบบใฏ ใใฎๆ—ฅไป•ไบ‹ใ‚’ๅคฑใฃใŸใฐใ‹ใ‚Šใงใ€ใใฎๅพŒใฎไผš่ฉฑใฏ้žๅธธใซ
08:15
awkward, not comfortable discussion after that.
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ใŽใ“ใกใชใใ€ๅฟซ้ฉใงใฏใ‚ใ‚Šใพใ›ใ‚“ใงใ— ใŸใ€‚
08:19
So what I prefer to ask people is: "What's", so: "What is"
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ใ ใ‹ใ‚‰็งใŒไบบใ€…ใซๅฐ‹ใญใ‚‹ใฎใŒๅฅฝใ ใชใฎใฏใ€ใ€Œ
08:23
or "What's keeping you busy these days?"
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What'sใ€ใงใ™ใ€‚
08:28
This way this gives the person the freedom to talk about what they really want to talk
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ใ“ใฎใ‚ˆใ†ใซใ—ใฆใ€ใใฎไบบใฏ ๆœฌๅฝ“ใซ่ฉฑใ—ใŸใ„ใ“ใจใซใคใ„ใฆ่‡ช็”ฑใซ่ฉฑใ™ใ“ใจใŒใงใใพใ™
08:32
about.
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08:33
Maybe they have a lot to say about work, maybe they don't have a job so maybe they'd rather
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ไป•ไบ‹ใซใคใ„ใฆ่จ€ใ„ใŸใ„ใ“ใจใŒใŸใใ•ใ‚“ใ‚ใ‚‹ใ‹ใ‚‚ ใ—ใ‚Œใพใ›ใ‚“ใ—ใ€ไป•ไบ‹ใ‚’ๆŒใฃใฆใ„ใชใ„ใฎใงใ€
08:37
talk about a project they're working on or something interesting they're doing with their time.
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่‡ชๅˆ†ใŒๅ–ใ‚Š็ต„ใ‚“ใงใ„ใ‚‹ใƒ—ใƒญใ‚ธใ‚งใ‚ฏใƒˆใ‚„ ใ€่‡ชๅˆ†ใฎๆ™‚้–“ใง่กŒใฃใฆใ„ใ‚‹่ˆˆๅ‘ณๆทฑใ„ใ“ใจใซใคใ„ใฆ่ฉฑใ—ใŸใ„ใฎใ‹ใ‚‚ใ—ใ‚Œใพใ›ใ‚“ใ€‚
08:44
Or, you know, if they're in school maybe they want to talk about their course.
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ใ‚ใ‚‹ใ„ใฏใ€ๅฝผใ‚‰ใŒๅญฆๆ กใซ้€šใฃใฆใ„ใ‚‹ๅ ดๅˆใฏใ€ ่‡ชๅˆ†ใฎใ‚ณใƒผใ‚นใซใคใ„ใฆ่ฉฑใ—ใŸใ„ใจๆ€ใ†ใ‹ใ‚‚ใ—ใ‚Œใพใ›ใ‚“ใ€‚
08:47
So I think this is actually the best small talk question:
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ใงใ™ใ‹ใ‚‰ใ€ใ“ใ‚ŒใฏๅฎŸ้š› ใซใฏๆœ€้ซ˜ใฎไธ–้–“่ฉฑใฎ่ณชๅ•ใ ใจๆ€ใ„
08:51
"What's keeping you busy these days?"
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ใพใ™ใ€‚ใ€Œๆœ€่ฟ‘ๅฟ™ใ—ใใ—ใฆใ„ใ‚‹็†็”ฑใฏไฝ•ใงใ™ใ‹?ใ€
08:55
And after they, you know, talk about what's keeping them busy, you can ask a follow-up question:
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ใใ—ใฆใ€ๅฝผใ‚‰ใŒๅฟ™ใ—ใใ—ใฆใ„ใ‚‹็†็”ฑใซใคใ„ใฆ่ฉฑใ—ใŸๅพŒ ใ€ใƒ•ใ‚ฉใƒญใƒผใ‚ขใƒƒใƒ—ใฎ่ณชๅ•ใ‚’ใ™ใ‚‹ใ“ใจใŒใงใ
09:01
"Oh. That's interesting!
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09:04
How did you get involved with that?"
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09:06
Or: "How did you get started in that?"
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ใพใŸใฏ๏ผšใ€Œใฉใฎใ‚ˆใ†ใซใ—ใฆใใ‚Œใ‚’ ๅง‹ใ‚ใŸใฎใงใ™ใ‹๏ผŸใ€
09:09
You know, if it's work: "How did you get involved in that...?
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ไป•ไบ‹ใชใ‚‰ใ€Œใฉใ† ใ‚„ใฃใฆ้–ขใ‚ใฃใŸใฎโ€ฆ
09:12
With that company?"
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09:13
Okay?
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ใ‚ใ‹ใฃใŸ๏ผŸ
09:14
So this is a good follow-up question.
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ใ—ใŸใŒใฃใฆใ€ใ“ใ‚Œใฏ่‰ฏใ„ ใƒ•ใ‚ฉใƒญใƒผใ‚ขใƒƒใƒ—ใฎ่ณชๅ•ใงใ™ใ€‚
09:17
You can also, if they are talking about their job, you can ask them:
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ใพใŸใ€ๅฝผใ‚‰ใŒ่‡ชๅˆ†ใฎไป•ไบ‹ใซใคใ„ใฆ่ฉฑใ—ใฆใ„ใ‚‹ๅ ดๅˆใฏ ใ€ๆฌกใฎใ‚ˆใ†ใซๅฐ‹ใญใ‚‹ใ“ใจใ‚‚
09:21
"How long have you been in your field?"
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09:26
You know, maybe they've been doing what they're doing for five years or 10 years.
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ใŸใถใ‚“ใ€ๅฝผใ‚‰ใฏ 5ๅนดใ‹10ๅนดใ‚‚ใ‚„ใฃใฆใ„ใ‚‹ใฎใงใ™ใ€‚
09:29
Okay?
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ใ‚ใ‹ใฃใŸ๏ผŸ
09:30
So you can ask more questions about their job.
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ใใฎใŸใ‚ใ€ๅฝผใ‚‰ใฎไป•ไบ‹ใซใคใ„ใฆใ‚ˆใ‚Šๅคšใใฎ่ณชๅ•ใ‚’ใ™ใ‚‹ใ“ใจใŒใงใใพใ™ ใ€‚
09:34
"What's the best part of your job?"
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ใ€Œใ‚ใชใŸใฎไป•ไบ‹ใฎๆœ€ใ‚‚่‰ฏใ„ ้ƒจๅˆ†ใฏไฝ•ใงใ™ใ‹๏ผŸใ€
09:36
Or if they're a student: "What's the best part of, you know, your course?
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ใพใŸใฏใ€็”Ÿๅพ’ใฎๅ ดๅˆใฏใ€ใ€Œ ใ‚ใชใŸใฎใ‚ณใƒผใ‚น
09:40
What do you like the best?"
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ใฎไธ€็•ชใ„ใ„ใจใ“ใ‚ใฏไฝ•ใงใ™ใ‹? ไธ€็•ชๅฅฝใใชใจใ“ใ‚ใฏไฝ•ใงใ™ใ‹?ใ€ใจๅฐ‹ใญใพใ™ใ€‚
09:42
Okay?
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09:42
So it's good to get people to talk about what they really like.
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ใ‚ใ‹ใฃใŸ๏ผŸ
ใงใ™ใ‹ใ‚‰ใ€ไบบใ€…ใŒๆœฌๅฝ“ใซๅฅฝใใชใ“ใจใซใคใ„ใฆ่ฉฑใ—ใฆใ‚‚ใ‚‰ใ†ใฎใฏ่‰ฏใ„ใ“ใจใงใ™ ใ€‚
09:47
Okay, this is very, very important: In Western culture we do not like talking about money.
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ใ‚ใ‹ใ‚Šใพใ—ใŸใ€ใ“ใ‚Œใฏ้žๅธธใซ้‡่ฆใงใ™ใ€‚่ฅฟๆด‹ ๆ–‡ๅŒ–ใงใฏใ€ใŠ้‡‘ใซใคใ„ใฆ่ฉฑใ™ใฎใฏๅฅฝใใงใฏใ‚ใ‚Šใพใ›ใ‚“ใ€‚
09:56
In other cultures it's okay, but in Western culture it's considered impolite or a little rude.
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ไป–ใฎๆ–‡ๅŒ–ใงใฏใใ‚Œใฏๅ•้กŒใ‚ใ‚Šใพใ›ใ‚“ใŒใ€่ฅฟๆด‹ใฎๆ–‡ๅŒ– ใงใฏ็„ก็คผใพใŸใฏๅฐ‘ใ—ๅคฑ็คผใจ่ฆ‹ใชใ•ใ‚Œใพใ™.
10:03
So, if somebody tells you: "Oh, yes, you know, I'm a doctor", and you really want to know:
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10:09
"Well, how much money do you make?" you cannot ask that.
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ใฉใ‚Œใใ‚‰ใ„ใฎใŠ้‡‘ใ‚’็จผใ„ใงใ„ใพใ™ ใ‹?ใ€ ใ‚ใชใŸใฏใใ‚Œใ‚’ๅฐ‹ใญใ‚‹ใ“ใจใฏใงใใพใ›ใ‚“ใ€‚
10:13
Okay? So no questions on money, no questions on salary.
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10:18
Even if you really want to know, you can't really ask that.
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10:23
So, again: No talk on money or salary.
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10:27
Okay, great.
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10:29
So now let's look at the "R" from FORD, "recreation".
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10:33
Okay, so recreation.
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10:35
When we talk about recreation what we're really talking about is things we do for fun, usually
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10:41
hobbies, interests, anything you really like to do for fun.
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10:45
So, the key here is when you talk about recreation what you're really trying to do is you're
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10:51
trying to find similarities with the other person.
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10:55
Okay? So, you know, for example, if you like soccer or football,
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11:00
does the other person like that, too?
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11:03
If you really like Game of Thrones and you're, you know, really watching it all the time,
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11:09
does this other person have that similarity?
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11:11
Are they the same?
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11:12
How are you similar?
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11:14
So this is great for really bringing people together.
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11:18
A lot of the times people really like talking about their interests and hobbies, so this
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11:24
can get somebody to open up.
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11:27
Okay, so the question I would ask is: "So, what do you do for fun?"
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11:33
Okay?
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11:33
This leaves it wide open, and the person might say:
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ใ“ใ‚Œใซใ‚ˆใ‚Š ใ€ใใฎไบบใฏ
11:36
"Oh, you know, I like sailing. I love watching soccer.
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ใ€Œใ‚ใ‚ใ€็งใฏใ‚ปใƒผใƒชใƒณใ‚ฐใŒๅฅฝใใงใ™ ใ€‚ใ‚ตใƒƒใ‚ซใƒผใ‚’่ฆ‹ใ‚‹ใฎใŒๅคงๅฅฝใ
11:42
I'm a huge soccer fan."
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11:43
Okay?
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11:44
And then you can ask them a bunch of follow-up questions and keep the conversation going.
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11:51
You can ask them: "Do you play any sports?",
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ใ€Œ ไฝ•ใ‹ใ‚นใƒใƒผใƒ„ใ‚’ใ—ใพใ™ใ‹?ใ€ใ€
11:54
"Have you seen any good movies recently or any good TV shows?"
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12:00
I know in Canada people really like talking about Netflix, as well as, you know, different
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ใ‚ซใƒŠใƒ€ใงใฏใ€ไบบใ€…ใŒ Netflix ใ‚„ใ€ใ•ใพใ–ใพใชใƒ†ใƒฌใƒ“็•ช็ต„ใ‚„ๆ˜ ็”ปใซใคใ„ใฆ่ฉฑใ™ใฎใŒๆœฌๅฝ“ใซๅฅฝใใ ใจใ„ใ†ใ“ใจใ‚’็งใฏ็Ÿฅใฃใฆใ„ ใพใ™
12:07
TV shows and movies.
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12:08
It comes up a lot in conversation, so, you know, if you're in Canada this is a really
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12:13
good one to use, and I think US and many other places, too.
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12:17
You can also ask another follow-up question:
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12:20
"Oh, you know, you like snowboarding.
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่ณชๅ•ใ‚’ใ™ใ‚‹ใ“ใจใ‚‚ ใงใใพใ™ใ€‚
12:25
How did you become interested in that?
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12:27
Tell me the story.
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12:28
How did you become interested in snowboarding?"
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12:32
You can talk about music: "Did you hear Radiohead's new album?
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้Ÿณๆฅฝใซใคใ„ใฆ่ฉฑใ™ใ“ใจใŒใงใใพใ™ใ€‚ใ€Œ Radiohead ใฎๆ–ฐใ—ใ„ใ‚ขใƒซใƒใƒ 
12:36
Did you hear Drake's new album? Taylor Swift?"
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ใ‚’่žใใพใ—ใŸใ‹? Drake ใฎๆ–ฐใ—ใ„ใ‚ขใƒซใƒใƒ ใ‚’่žใใพใ—ใŸใ‹? Taylor Swift?ใ€
12:39
Okay?
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12:39
So you can talk about music.
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ใ ใ‹ใ‚‰้Ÿณๆฅฝใฎ่ฉฑใŒใงใใ‚‹ใ€‚
12:41
There's so many different things you can talk about.
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12:43
One tip about this, though, think about...
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12:48
Remember I said you want to share about yourself, you want to talk about yourself, too?
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ใฆใฟใฆใใ ใ•ใ„... ใ‚ใชใŸใฏ่‡ชๅˆ†่‡ช่บซใซใคใ„ใฆๅ…ฑๆœ‰ใ—ใŸใ„ใ€่‡ชๅˆ†่‡ช่บซใซใคใ„ใฆใ‚‚่ฉฑใ—ใŸใ„ใจ่จ€ใฃใŸใ“ใจใ‚’่ฆšใˆใฆใ„ ใพใ™ใ‹?
12:53
When you talk about recreation, make sure you're not taking over the conversation.
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ใƒฌใ‚ฏใƒชใ‚จใƒผใ‚ทใƒงใƒณใซใคใ„ใฆ่ฉฑใ™ใจใใฏ ใ€ไผš่ฉฑใ‚’ๅผ•ใ็ถ™ใ„ใงใ„ใชใ„ใ“ใจใ‚’็ขบ่ชใ—ใฆใใ ใ•ใ„ใ€‚
13:00
Okay?
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13:02
For example, if you love soccer and somebody asks you these questions, make sure you don't
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ใŸใจใˆใฐใ€ใ‚ใชใŸใŒใ‚ตใƒƒใ‚ซใƒผใŒๅฅฝใใงใ€่ชฐใ‹ ใŒใ‚ใชใŸใซใ“ใ‚Œใ‚‰ใฎ่ณชๅ•ใ‚’ใ—ใŸๅ ดๅˆใ€ๆฌกใฎ 1 ๆ™‚้–“
13:08
keep the focus on soccer for the next hour.
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ใฏใ‚ตใƒƒใ‚ซใƒผใซ้›†ไธญใ—ใชใ„ใ‚ˆใ†ใซใ—ใฆใใ ใ•ใ„ ใ€‚
13:12
Okay?
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Make sure that there's a...
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ใ‚ใ‚‹ใ“ใจใ‚’็ขบ่ชใ—ใฆใใ ใ•ใ„...
13:13
It's a conversation, you're both asking each other questions and, you know, pay attention
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ใใ‚Œใฏไผš่ฉฑใงใ™ใ€‚ใŠไบ’ใ„ใซ ่ณชๅ•ใ‚’
13:19
to the cues.
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13:19
Maybe somebody wants to talk a little bit about something, but not for the whole time.
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ใ—ใฆใ„ใฆใ€ๆ‰‹ใŒใ‹ใ‚Šใซๆณจๆ„ใ‚’ๆ‰•ใฃใฆใ„ใพใ™ใ€‚
่ชฐใ‹ใŒไฝ•ใ‹ใซใคใ„ใฆๅฐ‘ใ—่ฉฑใ—ใŸใ„ใจๆ€ใฃใฆใ„ใ‚‹ใ‹ใ‚‚ใ—ใ‚Œ ใพใ›ใ‚“ใŒใ€ใšใฃใจใงใฏใ‚ใ‚Šใพใ›ใ‚“ใ€‚
13:24
Okay?
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13:25
So when you talk about recreation, it's really good, but also pay attention to what you're
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13:30
saying about yourself.
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13:32
All right, so now the last one is "D".
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ใงใฏใ€ ๆœ€ๅพŒใฏใ€ŒDใ€ใงใ™ใ€‚
13:36
"D" stands for "dreams".
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ใ€ŒDใ€ใฏใ€Œๅคขใ€ใ‚’ๆ„ๅ‘ณใ—ใพใ™ใ€‚
13:37
Okay?
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13:38
So let's talk a little bit about: What questions can we ask about dreams?
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13:43
Okay, so dreams.
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13:45
When I talk about dreams what I'm really talking about is motivations and goals.
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13:50
What do you want to do in your life?
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13:52
Okay?
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13:53
So, again, I am not talking about the dreams you have when you sleep.
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13:58
Usually those don't make the greatest small talk.
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14:02
So these are your goals in life.
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14:04
Okay?
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14:05
So, one thing I wanted to say before we get into these questions is small talk can be
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14:12
a great opportunity to learn about other people.
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14:16
Okay?
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14:17
So, I recommend smile during small talk because that will make that connection.
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14:24
Listen, you know, instead of being so focused on stress and:
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14:28
"Oh my god, what if I make a mistake with my English?"
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14:31
Or, you know: "Oh no, there's a silence."
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14:35
Sometimes it's nice just to focus on what the other person is saying.
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14:39
Learn about the other person.
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14:41
Okay?
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14:42
What motivates them?
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14:44
What gets them up in the morning?
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14:45
What is their...?
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14:47
You know, what are their dreams?
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14:48
These can be very interesting things to learn about.
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14:51
So, smile, listen, and learn.
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14:55
Okay, so when we talk about dreams you can talk about short-term dreams or long-term dreams.
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15:02
For example, the summer: "Any plans for the summer?
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15:06
Are you going anywhere this summer?
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15:08
What are you going to do this summer?"
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15:10
So that's kind of a short-term goal or dream.
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15:14
I find people love talking about travel, so I find that when you talk about travel it
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15:19
can really open up conversation.
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15:23
So: "If you could travel anywhere in the world, where would you go?"
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15:29
You know: "What are your top three countries to visit?
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15:31
Have you been to any countries before?
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15:34
Is this your first trip?"
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15:36
People really like talking about where they want to travel, what they want to see, and
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what they want to do.
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15:41
It really excites them.
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15:44
You can also talk about, if somebody's been talking about a project that has to do with
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15:48
work, maybe they've been talking about their job, maybe they're a student and they've been
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15:53
talking about the TOEFL or university, or a course they're taking, or maybe...
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16:00
You know, maybe there's just somebody who's been making something, you know, somebody
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16:05
who likes to paint and they've been painting, you know, or taking photos of things.
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16:10
You can ask them about their projects.
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16:13
"What will you do once you finish this project?
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16:17
What will you do once you finish the IELTS?
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16:20
What will you do once you finish your course?
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16:23
What will you do, you know, once you finish this book?"
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16:27
Okay?
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16:28
So asking them about the future is a really good idea for dreams.
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16:33
You know, if somebody talked about how they love watching movies or if they love reading
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16:38
books, you can ask them: "What do you want to read next?
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16:42
What do you want to watch next?"
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16:45
You know, if somebody's online watching a lot of movies, you know:
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16:49
"What's next in your list of things to watch?"
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16:52
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16:53
So talking about people's dreams is a really great way to connect to people, and it will
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16:59
make the conversation more interesting than just talking about the weather.
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17:04
Okay?
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17:05
So I hope you find...
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17:06
You found this video useful.
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17:08
Again, "FORD" stands for "family", "occupation", "recreation", and "dreams".
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ๅ†ใณใ€ใ€ŒFORDใ€ใฏใ€Œๅฎถๆ—ใ€ใ€ ใ€Œ่ทๆฅญใ€ใ€ใ€Œใƒฌใ‚ฏใƒชใ‚จใƒผใ‚ทใƒงใƒณใ€ใ€ใ€Œๅคขใ€ใ‚’ๆ„ๅ‘ณใ—ใพใ™ใ€‚
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By knowing this, this will make you better at small talk and you won't have to think
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ใ“ใ‚Œใ‚’็Ÿฅใ‚‹ใ“ใจใงใ€ไธ–้–“่ฉฑใŒไธŠๆ‰‹ใซใชใ‚Š ใ€
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so much about: "Oh no, what do I say?" because now you have something to say.
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ใ€Œใ‚ใ‚ใ€ไฝ•ใจ่จ€ใˆใฐใ„ใ„ใฎ๏ผŸใ€ใจใ‚ใพใ‚Š่€ƒใˆใ‚‹ๅฟ…่ฆใŒใชใใชใ‚Šใพใ™ใ€‚ ่จ€ใ„ใŸใ„ใ“ใจใŒใ‚ใ‚‹ใ‹ใ‚‰ใงใ™ใ€‚
17:24
You can talk about family, occupation, recreation, and dreams.
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ๅฎถๆ—ใ€ ่ทๆฅญใ€ไฝ™ๆš‡ใ€ๅคขใชใฉใซใคใ„ใฆ่ฉฑใ™ใ“ใจใŒใงใใพใ™ใ€‚
17:29
So it's very simple, but it's something that's very powerful.
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้žๅธธใซใ‚ทใƒณใƒ—ใƒซใงใ™ใŒ ใ€้žๅธธใซๅผทๅŠ›ใชๆฉŸ่ƒฝใงใ™ใ€‚
17:32
Okay?
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17:33
I want to invite you to come visit our website at www.engvid.com.
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็ง ใŸใกใฎใ‚ฆใ‚งใƒ–ใ‚ตใ‚คใƒˆ www.engvid.com ใซใœใฒใŠ่ถŠใ—ใใ ใ•ใ„ใ€‚
17:38
There you can actually find a quiz where you can practice some of the English in this video,
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ใใ“ใงใฏใ€ๅฎŸ้š› ใซใ“ใฎใƒ“ใƒ‡ใ‚ชใฎ่‹ฑ่ชžใฎไธ€้ƒจใ‚’็ทด็ฟ’ใงใใ‚‹ใ‚ฏใ‚คใ‚บใจใ€
17:43
as well as some of the ideas to make sure you've really understood what you've just watched.
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ไปŠ่ฆ‹ใŸใ‚‚ใฎใ‚’ๆœฌๅฝ“ใซ็†่งฃใ—ใฆใ„ใ‚‹ใ‹ใ‚’็ขบ่ชใ™ใ‚‹ใŸใ‚ใฎใ„ใใคใ‹ใฎใ‚ขใ‚คใƒ‡ใ‚ขใ‚’่ฆ‹ใคใ‘ใ‚‹ใ“ใจใŒใงใใพใ™.
17:48
I hope you also subscribe to my channel.
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ใƒใƒฃใƒณใƒใƒซ็™ป้Œฒใ‚‚ใ‚ˆใ‚ใ—ใใŠ้ก˜ใ„ใ—ใพใ™ ใ€‚
17:50
We have a lot of great resources there for you on all sorts of different, wonderful topics.
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ใ‚ใ‚‰ใ‚†ใ‚‹็จฎ้กžใฎ็ด ๆ™ดใ‚‰ใ—ใ„ใƒˆใƒ”ใƒƒใ‚ฏใซ้–ขใ™ใ‚‹็ด ๆ™ดใ‚‰ใ—ใ„ใƒชใ‚ฝใƒผใ‚นใŒใŸใใ•ใ‚“ใ‚ใ‚Šใพใ™ใ€‚
17:55
So, until next time, take care and thanks for watching.
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