Transform Your English Speaking Skills: 3 Proven Strategies for Confidence

hey what's up Stefanie the English coach here from  englishfulltime.com in this video I want to tell  

you the three ways to transform your confidence in  English if you are struggling with your confidence  

if you are afraid of speaking if you're afraid  of making mistakes if you just don't feel like  

yourself like if you're really confident in your  native language and you can do public speaking or  

talk to your co-workers or whatever but in English  you just you know your hands start to sweat your  

feet start to sweat and you just clam up and you  face your face you feel your face getting really  

hot and you're just like I wish I could be who I  am in my native language in English also if this  

is you then this video is for you right you're  struggling with your confidence you're feeling  

all types of ways and it's not good so there are  three ways to transform your confidence in English  

okay you could change your mindset you could  improve your skills or you can gain experience  

now let me explain all of these sometimes changing  in your mindset is simply as easy as changing  

the way you think maybe you are thinking thoughts  right and that you maybe you have negative thought  

patterns that are really bringing you down and  making you feel like for some reason your English  

is not good enough your vocabulary is not big  enough your pronunciation is not clear enough  

um and maybe the reality is that none of that is  true okay I've seen so many English Learners come  

into our programs and you know they struggle  with their confidence and they're just like  

I don't know about my pronunciation my this  my that and I'm listening to them going wow  

your pronunciation is pretty good your grammar is  excellent you know the way you express yourself  

you have a lot of vocabulary so I'm here and as  the listener going actually you're way better  

than you realize why are you being so hard on  yourself so that's the first thing you have to  

analyze how you see yourself how are you looking  at yourself and are you being kind to yourself  

are you being gracious with yourself are you  allowing yourself to go through the Journey to  

make the mistakes are you enjoying the process  are you having fun or are you beating yourself  

up for every little mistake that you make are you  deciding to just like sit there at the table and  

be quiet instead of sharing a story when you  could share a story with other people who are  

all engaged and talking and having fun right  so sometimes it's simply a matter of saying  

I've been like this for this many years and  I don't like it and it's not serving me and I  

refuse to continue being this person I refuse to  continue thinking these thoughts and you have to  

fill in the blank you have to actually analyze how  you are thinking about yourself and what are the  

destructive thoughts that are getting in your way  right I don't know what those thoughts are I'm not  

inside of you you know what those thoughts are  and maybe you've never even thought about this  

so if you do feel like you lack confidence ask  yourself what have I been telling myself what  

are those secret little thoughts that are there  that maybe you might not even be consciously aware  

of right maybe their feelings try to put those  feelings into words try to express them right  

so what is it that you're thinking that's negative  about yourself that's holding yourself back that's  

making you be quiet and not speak up and all these  things and feel awful when you're communicating in  

English what are those things and then decide  I'm not going to be like this anymore I'm not  

going to think these things anymore and replace  those negative mindsets and negative thoughts  

with something positive okay what are those  positive things you can tell yourself like hey  

I did a good job when I said that thing or I can't  believe I remembered that word or whatever it is  

like start congratulating yourself for your  accomplishments change the way that you think  

about yourself lift yourself up right you don't  have to put other people down to lift yourself  

up like one thing I see in a lot of forums  is English learners when they're trying to  

work on this whole mindset shift thing instead of  simply lifting themselves up they put others down  

to lift themselves up like for example they'll  say yeah native speakers they're all a bunch of  

monolinguals anyways they only know one language  you know like they're putting other people down in  

order to lift themselves up and you don't need to  do that okay it doesn't matter how many languages  

other people know or if most English speakers  only know one language that is because of their  

life circumstance the geography of the world power  politics all kinds of things okay so let that be  

what it is that doesn't have to have any bearing  on how you think about yourself right don't put  

other other groups of people or anybody else down  to lift yourself up just be proud of your own  

accomplishments you've worked hard to get to where  you are okay so again that's the first way you can  

transform your confidence is your mindset now let  us know in the comments if this is you right are  

you one of these people that needs to change your  mindset are you really hard on yourself what have  

you been telling yourself and what do you need to  start telling yourself to make this transformation  

and I've seen this is the easiest way to transform  your confidence by the way I've seen people do it  

literally overnight go from being shy and actually  one person comes to mind immediately I actually  

interviewed him on my channel I will link it below  his name is Long hi Long if you're watching this  

um he was a student in my program one of my  programs I think in 2018 and he had been living in  

the USA for 20 years and he was quiet he was shy  he just didn't feel good around his co-workers and  

everything and then he did one of my programs and  he said week five I believe he's like that changed  

everything for me because there that was a week  where we talked about mindset and confidence  

and stuff and he said he decided to be a different  person and he just went out and started talking to  

strangers he started making friends and meeting  people and it was amazing it really like this  

is the easiest way to transform your confidence  because it can happen overnight you don't have to  

work on it I mean you will be working on it long  term most likely but you can start seeing results  

right away so let us know in the comments if this  is you and what you've been telling yourself and  

what you need to start telling yourself because  then other people can read through these comments  

it's like a forum right and they can get ideas  like if you say oh yeah you know I thought about  

this and I've been telling myself this and I need  to start telling myself that another person can  

read that and go oh my gosh I've actually been  doing the same thing and they might realize  

something that they've never realized before so  your input on this is actually very important okay  

the second way to transform your confidence is  to improve your skills right so maybe you're not  

that confident in your pronunciation because the  reality is your pronunciation needs work that's  

okay it's not a bad thing in fact it's really  good for you to realize what needs work because  

when you get better at doing something it's easy  to be confident you know this is actually pretty  

crazy a lot of people say oh I'm an awful cook  I'm a terrible cook um you know I can't cook I  

usually ask them I go oh so you know how often do  you practice cooking or did you ever study it did  

you ever learn it did you ever put any effort into  this essentially and usually the answer is no and  

then it's kind of like okay come on if you don't  practice something you won't get good that's just  

logic right so the opposite is if you practice  something you will get good it's inevitable so  

if something is lacking in your English be it  vocabulary or pronunciation or grammar or fluency  

or public speaking skills or stage presence  or whatever it is that you need for success  

and happiness in your life make that a point to  work on it okay and it's okay wherever you're at  

right now it's okay you're not going to be there  forever and if you would like to get a jump start  

on any of those things I of course invite you to  join us in our programs we have several different  

programs we have our accent Freedom program for  pronunciation speaking your voice presentations  

etc the Daily English program which will help you  in all areas of your English Basic to Brilliant  

vocabulary transformation course which is just  focused on vocabulary the fluency breakthrough  

challenge Okay so we've got a lot of different  programs and we're actually opening enrollment  

to our fluency breakthrough challenge for January  2023 it's a 30-day challenge you've probably been  

hearing me talk about this I'm very excited if  you want your fluency breakthrough next month then  

join us it's going to be amazing so yes improving  your skills is a way to build confidence if you  

work on something a little bit every day you  will get better at it and that skill level having  

a higher skill level will make you feel more  confident and finally the last thing to improve  

and transform your confidence is simply experience  when you have experience doing something  

it's easy to be confident when you lack experience  it's easy to be scared think about it this way  

let's say you have a positive mindset let's say  your English is great so you've got the skills  

and you've got the mindset but experience and  let's say you start a job at a call center or  

a sales position and you have no experience you're  probably going to be a little bit scared right and  

lack confidence but once you have a month on the  job two months on the job five years on the job 20  

years on the job okay you're gonna get more and  more and more and more confident because you're  

going to become comfortable with what you're  doing the actual experience going through the  

motions is going to make you confident and this  is why in all of my programs we have homework you  

know projects things that the students have to  do it's not just like oh I'm going to sit here  

and teach you English it's like every single  week there's something for you to do there's  

homework you have to do there's maybe you have to  do a presentation maybe you have to do a research  

search project maybe you have to do something  right I love getting the students to do things  

with their English so they have experiences  because I know that having experience with  

English builds confidence okay so in summary those  are the three ways to transform your confidence  

your mindset your skills and your experience  think about all those things think about where  

you're at think about what you need think about  what you can improve how can you gain experience  

how can you improve your skills how can you change  your mindset right let us know in the comments if  

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