How to Control the Conversation in English & Avoid Uncomfortable Questions

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ไธ‹ใฎ่‹ฑ่ชžๅญ—ๅน•ใ‚’ใƒ€ใƒ–ใƒซใ‚ฏใƒชใƒƒใ‚ฏใ™ใ‚‹ใจๅ‹•็”ปใ‚’ๅ†็”Ÿใงใใพใ™ใ€‚ ็ฟป่จณใ•ใ‚ŒใŸๅญ—ๅน•ใฏๆฉŸๆขฐ็ฟป่จณใงใ™ใ€‚

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Hey, it's Annemarie with Speak Confident English, and I have a question for you.
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Have you ever been caught off guard or felt shocked by an unexpected
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uncomfortable question that was controversial or too personal?
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็‰ฉ่ญฐใ‚’้†ธใ™ใ‚ˆใ†ใชใ€ใพใŸใฏใ‚ใพใ‚Šใซใ‚‚ๅ€‹ไบบ็š„ใช่ณชๅ•ใงใ€ไบˆๆœŸใ›ใฌไธๅฟซใช่ณชๅ•ใซไธๆ„ใ‚’็ชใ‹ใ‚ŒใŸใ‚Šใ€ใ‚ทใƒงใƒƒใ‚ฏใ‚’ๅ—ใ‘ใŸใ‚Šใ—ใŸใ“ใจใŒใ‚ใ‚Šใพใ™ใ‹?
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For example, a coworker asking, so who are you gonna vote for?
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ใŸใจใˆใฐใ€ๅŒๅƒšใŒใ€Œ ใ˜ใ‚ƒใ‚่ชฐใซๆŠ•็ฅจใ—ใพใ™ใ‹?ใ€ใจๅฐ‹ใญใŸใจใ—ใพใ™ใ€‚
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Or Why don't you have kids? Why'd you move here?
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ใพใŸใฏใ€ใชใœๅญไพ›ใŒใ„ใชใ„ใฎใงใ™ใ‹ ๏ผŸ ใชใœใ“ใ“ใซๅผ•ใฃ่ถŠใ—ใฆใใŸใฎใงใ™ใ‹๏ผŸ
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Or perhaps you were part of a conversation that took a turn toward a topic you
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ใ‚ใ‚‹ใ„ใฏใ€ๆ”ฟๆฒปใ‚„ใ‚ดใ‚ทใƒƒใƒ—ใชใฉใ€
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didn't wanna participate in, such as politics or gossip.
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ๅ‚ๅŠ ใ—ใŸใใชใ„่ฉฑ้กŒใซๆ–นๅ‘่ปขๆ›ใ—ใŸไผš่ฉฑใซๅ‚ๅŠ ใ—ใฆใ„ใŸใฎใ‹ใ‚‚ใ—ใ‚Œใพใ›ใ‚“ ใ€‚ ใใฎ็Šถๆณใงไฝ•ใ‚’ใ™ใ‚Œใฐใ„ใ„ใฎใ‹ใ‚ใ‹ใ‚‰ใšใ€
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If you've ever felt stuck and frustrated because you didn't know what to do
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่กŒใ่ฉฐใพใ‚Šใ€ใ‚คใƒฉใ‚คใƒฉใ—ใŸใ“ใจใŒใ‚ใ‚‹ใชใ‚‰
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in that situation, I want you to know you're not alone. In fact,
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ใ€ใ‚ใชใŸใฏ ไธ€ไบบใงใฏใชใ„ใ“ใจใ‚’็Ÿฅใฃใฆใปใ—ใ„ใฎใงใ™ใ€‚ ๅฎŸ้š›ใ€
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I recently received an email with a request for this very topic.
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็งใฏๆœ€่ฟ‘ใ€ใพใ•ใซใ“ใฎใƒˆใƒ”ใƒƒใ‚ฏใซใคใ„ใฆใฎใƒชใ‚ฏใ‚จใ‚นใƒˆใ‚’ๅซใ‚€้›ปๅญใƒกใƒผใƒซใ‚’ๅ—ใ‘ๅ–ใ‚Šใพใ—ใŸ ใ€‚
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Here's what Lisa said, Annemarie,
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ใƒชใ‚ตใŒ่จ€ใฃใŸใ“ใจใฏๆฌกใฎใจใŠใ‚Šใงใ™ใ€ใ‚ขใƒณใƒใƒžใƒชใƒผใ€
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I would love to see more videos on dealing with difficult people and how to
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ๆฐ—้›ฃใ—ใ„ไบบใ€…ใธใฎๅฏพๅฟœใ‚„ใ€
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steer a conversation from uncomfortable subjects like politics
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ๆ”ฟๆฒป
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or speaking ill of someone.
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ใ‚„่ชฐใ‹ใฎๆ‚ชๅฃใชใฉใฎไธๅฟซใช่ฉฑ้กŒใ‹ใ‚‰ไผš่ฉฑใ‚’ๅฐŽใๆ–นๆณ•ใซใคใ„ใฆใฎใƒ“ใƒ‡ใ‚ชใ‚’ใ‚‚ใฃใจ่ฆ‹ใฆใฟใŸใ„ใงใ™ใ€‚ ๆ‰ฑใ„
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The key to dealing with difficult people and uncomfortable topics is
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ใซใใ„ ไบบใ‚„ไธๅฟซใช่ฉฑ้กŒใซๅฏพๅ‡ฆใ™ใ‚‹้ตใฏใ€
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knowing how to control the conversation. In this Confident English lesson,
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ไผš่ฉฑใ‚’ใ‚ณใƒณใƒˆใƒญใƒผใƒซใ™ใ‚‹ๆ–นๆณ•ใ‚’็Ÿฅใ‚‹ใ“ใจใงใ™ใ€‚ ใ“ใฎ่‡ชไฟกใฎใ‚ใ‚‹่‹ฑ่ชžใฎใƒฌใƒƒใ‚นใƒณใงใฏใ€่‹ฑ่ชžใงใฎไผš่ฉฑใ‚’ใ‚ณใƒณใƒˆใƒญใƒผใƒซใ™ใ‚‹ใŸใ‚ใซไฝฟ็”จใงใใ‚‹
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you're going to learn three practical strategies you can use to control
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3 ใคใฎๅฎŸ่ทต็š„ใชๆˆฆ็•ฅใ‚’ๅญฆใณใ€
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conversations in English,
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and I'll share phrases you can use to help you do that.
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ใใ‚Œใ‚’่กŒใ†ใฎใซๅฝน็ซ‹ใคใƒ•ใƒฌใƒผใ‚บใ‚’็ดนไป‹ใ—ใพใ™ใ€‚
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As a result,
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ใใฎ็ตๆžœใ€
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you'll know exactly how to answer those questions if you want to,
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ๅฟ…่ฆใซๅฟœใ˜ใฆใ“ใ‚Œใ‚‰ใฎ่ณชๅ•ใซ็ญ”ใˆใ‚‹ๆ–นๆณ•ใ€
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how to change the topic to something more appropriate,
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่ฉฑ้กŒใ‚’ ใ‚ˆใ‚Š้ฉๅˆ‡ใชใ‚‚ใฎใซๅค‰ๆ›ดใ™ใ‚‹ๆ–นๆณ•ใ€
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and how to be clear about your boundaries with an assertive tone
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ใใ—ใฆไผš่ฉฑใ‚’ใ‚นใƒ ใƒผใ‚บใซ้€ฒใ‚ใ‚‹ใŸใ‚ใซใ€ ็ฉๆฅต็š„ใชๅฃ่ชฟใง่‡ชๅˆ†ใฎๅขƒ็•Œ็ทšใ‚’ๆ˜Ž็ขบใซใ™ใ‚‹ๆ–นๆณ•ใ‚’ๆญฃ็ขบใซ็Ÿฅใ‚‹ใ“ใจใŒใงใใ‚‹ใ‚ˆใ†ใซใชใ‚Šใพใ™ใ€‚
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so that you can bring that conversation to an end.
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็ต‚ใ‚ใ‚Šใ€‚
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But first, if you don't already know,
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ใพใšใ€ใพใ ใ”ๅญ˜ใ˜ใชใ„ๆ–นใฎใŸใ‚ใซใ€
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I'm Annemarie an English confidence and fluency coach.
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็งใฏ่‹ฑ่ชžใฎ ่‡ชไฟกใจๆตๆšขใ•ใฎใ‚ณใƒผใƒใงใ‚ใ‚‹ใ‚ขใƒณใƒใƒžใƒชใƒผใงใ™ใ€‚
01:56
Everything I do is designed to help you get the confidence you want for your
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็งใŒใ‚„ใฃใฆใ„ใ‚‹ใ™ในใฆใฎใ“ใจใฏใ€
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life and work in English.
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่‹ฑ่ชžใงใฎ็”Ÿๆดปใ‚„ไป•ไบ‹ใซ่‡ชไฟกใ‚’ๆŒใฆใ‚‹ใ‚ˆใ†ใ‚ตใƒใƒผใƒˆใ™ใ‚‹ใ“ใจใ‚’็›ฎ็š„ใจใ—ใฆใ„ใพใ™ใ€‚
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One way I do that is by sharing these Confident English lessons every week.
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ใใฎใŸใ‚ใฎ 1 ใคใฎๆ–นๆณ•ใฏใ€ ่‡ชไฟกใ‚’ๆŒใฃใŸ่‹ฑ่ชžใฎใƒฌใƒƒใ‚นใƒณใ‚’ๆฏŽ้€ฑๅ…ฑๆœ‰ใ™ใ‚‹ใ“ใจใงใ™ใ€‚
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So while you're here,
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make sure you subscribe to my Speak Confident English Channel on YouTube so you
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็งใฎ Speak Confident English ใƒใƒฃใƒณใƒใƒซใซ็™ป้Œฒใ—ใฆใ€
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never miss one of these Confident English lessons. Now,
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Confident English ใฎใƒฌใƒƒใ‚นใƒณใ‚’่ฆ‹้€ƒใ•ใชใ„ใ‚ˆใ†ใซใ—ใฆใใ ใ•ใ„ใ€‚
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I don't know about you, but for me in my second language,
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ใ‚ใชใŸใฏใฉใ†ใ‹็Ÿฅใ‚Šใพใ›ใ‚“ใŒใ€ ็ฌฌไบŒ่จ€่ชžใ‚’่ฉฑใ™็งใซใจใฃใฆใ€
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there's something that happens when an uncomfortable question comes up that
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ไธๅฟซใช่ณชๅ•ใŒๅ‡บใฆใใ‚‹ใจใ€
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makes me panic and freeze. I don't know what to do,
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ใƒ‘ใƒ‹ใƒƒใ‚ฏใซใชใฃใฆๅ›บใพใฃใฆใ—ใพใ†ใ‚ˆใ†ใชใ“ใจใŒใ‚ใ‚Šใพใ™ใ€‚ ใฉใ† ใ™ใ‚Œใฐใ„ใ„ใฎใ‹ใ‚ใ‹ใ‚Šใพใ›ใ‚“ใŒใ€
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but it's important to remember that you do not need to answer a question that
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makes you uncomfortable,
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ไธๅฟซใซใ•ใ›ใ‚‹่ณชๅ•ใซ็ญ”ใˆใ‚‹ๅฟ…่ฆใฏใชใใ€
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and you have the power to decide how
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and where to steer a conversation.
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ไผš่ฉฑใ‚’ใฉใ“ใซใฉใฎใ‚ˆใ†ใซๅฐŽใใ‹ใ‚’ๆฑบๅฎšใ™ใ‚‹ๆจฉ้™ใฏใ‚ใชใŸใซใ‚ใ‚‹ใจใ„ใ†ใ“ใจใ‚’่ฆšใˆใฆใŠใใ“ใจใŒ้‡่ฆใงใ™ใ€‚
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To steer a conversation means to regain control and manage
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ไผš่ฉฑใฎ่ˆตใ‚’ๅ–ใ‚‹ใจใฏใ€ ใ‚ณใƒณใƒˆใƒญใƒผใƒซใ‚’ๅ–ใ‚Šๆˆปใ—ใ€ไผš่ฉฑใฎๆ–นๅ‘ใ‚’็ฎก็†ใ™ใ‚‹ใ“ใจใ‚’ๆ„ๅ‘ณใ—ใพใ™
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the direction of the conversation. To do that,
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ใ€‚ ใใฎใŸใ‚ใซใฏ
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there are three strategies you can use. Number one,
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3 ใคใฎๆˆฆ็•ฅใ‚’ ไฝฟ็”จใงใใพใ™ใ€‚ ็ฌฌไธ€ใซใ€
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you can use curiosity to better understand why the question was asked in
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ๅฅฝๅฅ‡ๅฟƒใ‚’ๅˆฉ็”จใ—ใฆใ€ ใใ‚‚ใใ‚‚ใชใœใใฎ่ณชๅ•ใŒใชใ•ใ‚ŒใŸใฎใ‹ใ‚’ใ‚ˆใ‚Šๆทฑใ็†่งฃใ™ใ‚‹ใ“ใจใŒใงใใพใ™
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the first place. Number two,
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ใ€‚ 2 ็•ช็›ฎใซใ€
03:04
you can redirect the conversation by changing the topic.
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่ฉฑ้กŒใ‚’ๅค‰ใˆใ‚‹ใ“ใจใงไผš่ฉฑใฎๆ–นๅ‘ใ‚’ๅค‰ใˆใ‚‹ใ“ใจใŒใงใใพใ™ ใ€‚
03:08
And number three, you can communicate your boundaries with an assertive tone.
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3 ใค็›ฎใฏใ€ ่‡ชๅˆ†ใฎๅขƒ็•Œ็ทšใ‚’็ฉๆฅต็š„ใชๅฃ่ชฟใงไผใˆใ‚‹ใ“ใจใŒใงใใ‚‹ใ“ใจใงใ™ใ€‚
03:12
To bring that topic to an end,
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ใ“ใฎ่ฉฑ้กŒใ‚’็ต‚ใ‚ใ‚‰ใ›ใ‚‹ใŸใ‚ใซใ€ใ“ใ‚Œใ‚‰ใฎๆˆฆ็•ฅใ‚’
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let's take a look at each one of those strategies in depth. So first,
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ใใ‚Œใžใ‚Œ่ฉณใ—ใ่ฆ‹ใฆใฟใพใ—ใ‚‡ใ† ใ€‚ ใ—ใŸใŒใฃใฆใ€ใพใšใ€
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use curiosity to better understand why someone is asking
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ๅฅฝๅฅ‡ๅฟƒใ‚’ๅƒใ‹ใ›ใฆใ€ ใชใœ่ชฐใ‹ใŒ
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you this uncomfortable question. Without a doubt,
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ใ‚ใชใŸใซใ“ใฎไธๅฟซใช ่ณชๅ•ใ‚’ใ™ใ‚‹ใฎใ‹ใ‚’ใ‚ˆใ‚Šๆทฑใ็†่งฃใ—ใฆใใ ใ•ใ„ใ€‚ ็ขบใ‹ใซใ€
03:29
there are some questions that are simply rude,
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ๅ˜ใซๅคฑ็คผใช่ณชๅ•ใ‚‚ใ„ใใคใ‹ใ‚ใ‚Šใพใ™ใ—ใ€
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and there are people who don't care about personal boundaries or are
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ๅ€‹ไบบ็š„ใชๅขƒ็•Œ็ทšใ‚’ๆฐ—ใซใ—ใชใ„ไบบใ‚„ใ€
03:36
intentionally aggressive. In those situations,
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ๆ„ๅ›ณ็š„ใซๆ”ปๆ’ƒ็š„ใชไบบใ‚‚ใ„ใพใ™ใ€‚ ใใฎใ‚ˆใ†ใช็Šถๆณใงใฏใ€
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it's best to change the topic or immediately bring the
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่ฉฑ้กŒใ‚’ๅค‰ใˆใ‚‹ ใ‹ใ€
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conversation to an end by asserting your boundaries,
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ๅขƒ็•Œ็ทšใ‚’ไธปๅผตใ—ใฆไผš่ฉฑใ‚’ใ™ใใซ็ต‚ใ‚ใ‚‰ใ›ใ‚‹ใฎใŒๆœ€ๅ–„ใงใ™ใ€‚
03:47
and we're gonna talk about that in strategies two and three. However,
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ใ“ใ‚Œใซใคใ„ใฆใฏ ๆˆฆ็•ฅ 2 ใจ 3 ใง่ชฌๆ˜Žใ—ใพใ™ใ€‚ ใŸใ ใ—ใ€
03:52
sometimes people ask questions out of genuine curiosity,
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็ด”็ฒ‹ใชๅฅฝๅฅ‡ๅฟƒใ‹ใ‚‰่ณชๅ•ใ—ใŸใ‚Šใ€
03:57
they want to know more about who you are,
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ใ‚ใชใŸใŒ่ชฐใชใฎใ‹ใ‚’ใ‚‚ใฃใจ็Ÿฅใ‚ŠใŸใ„ใจๆ€ใฃใŸใ‚Šใ€้ฉๅˆ‡ใช่ณชๅ•ใฎ
04:00
and perhaps they just didn't know how to ask the question appropriately.
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ไป•ๆ–นใ‚’็Ÿฅใ‚‰ใชใ‹ใฃใŸใ ใ‘ใ‹ใ‚‚ใ—ใ‚Œใพใ›ใ‚“ ใ€‚
04:03
It came out wrong, and as a result it sounded aggressive,
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ใใ‚Œใฏ้–“้•ใฃใŸ็ตๆžœใจใชใ‚Šใ€ใใฎ ็ตๆžœใ€ๆ”ปๆ’ƒ็š„ใ€
04:08
personal or controversial.
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ๅ€‹ไบบ็š„ใ€ใพใŸใฏ็‰ฉ่ญฐใ‚’้†ธใ™ใ‚ˆใ†ใซ่žใ“ใˆใพใ—ใŸใ€‚
04:10
And sometimes people ask questions because what they really want is
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ใใ—ใฆใ€ๆ™‚ใ€…ใ€ ๅฝผใ‚‰ใŒๆœฌๅฝ“ใซๆœ›ใ‚“ใงใ„ใ‚‹ใ“ใจใฏใ€
04:15
to discuss a difficult situation they're dealing with. For example,
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ๅฝผใ‚‰ใŒๅฏพๅ‡ฆใ—ใฆใ„ใ‚‹ๅ›ฐ้›ฃใช็Šถๆณใซใคใ„ใฆ่ฉฑใ—ๅˆใ†ใ“ใจใชใฎใงใ€่ณชๅ•ใ™ใ‚‹ไบบใ‚‚ใ„ใพใ™ใ€‚ ใŸใจใˆใฐใ€ๆ–ฐ็ฑณใƒžใƒžใจใ—ใฆใƒฏใƒผใ‚ฏใƒฉใ‚คใƒ• ใƒใƒฉใƒณใ‚นใ‚’ๅ–ใ‚Šๆˆปใ™ใฎใซ
04:20
it may be a coworker who's struggling to recreate work-life balance
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่‹ฆๅŠดใ—ใฆใ„ใ‚‹ๅŒๅƒšใ‹ใ‚‚ใ—ใ‚Œใพใ›ใ‚“
04:25
as a new mom. She doesn't know who to talk to,
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ใ€‚ ๅฝผๅฅณใฏ ่ชฐใซ่ฉฑใ›ใฐใ„ใ„ใฎใ‹ๅˆ†ใ‹ใ‚‰ใชใ„ใฎใงใ€
04:28
so she's looking for someone who has that shared experience
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ๅ…ฑ้€šใฎ็ตŒ้จ“ใ‚’ๆŒใฃใฆใ„ใ‚‹ไบบใ‚’ๆŽขใ—ใฆใ„ใพใ™ใ€‚่ชฐใซ
04:33
and to identify who she might be able to speak to,
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่ฉฑใ›ใใ†ใชใฎใ‹ใ‚’็‰นๅฎšใ™ใ‚‹ใŸใ‚ใซใ€ๅ€‹ไบบ็š„ใ™ใŽใ‚‹ใจๆ€ใ‚ใ‚Œใ‚‹
04:37
she asks a question that comes across as too personal.
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่ณชๅ•ใ‚’ใ—ใพใ—ใŸ ใ€‚
04:41
One way to control the conversation and have the power to decide if
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ไผš่ฉฑใ‚’ใ‚ณใƒณใƒˆใƒญใƒผใƒซใ—ใ€่ณชๅ•ใซ็ญ”ใˆใŸใ„ใ‹ใฉใ†ใ‹ใ‚’ๆฑบๅฎšใ™ใ‚‹ๆ–นๆณ•ใฎ 1 ใคใฏใ€
04:46
you want to answer the question is to use curiosity to get more
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ๅฅฝๅฅ‡ๅฟƒใ‚’ๅˆฉ็”จใ—ใฆ่ณชๅ•ใฎ
04:51
detail and better understand the purpose of the question.
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่ฉณ็ดฐใ‚’็Ÿฅใ‚Šใ€่ณชๅ•ใฎ็›ฎ็š„ใ‚’ใ‚ˆใ‚Šใ‚ˆใ็†่งฃใ™ใ‚‹ใ“ใจใงใ™ ใ€‚
04:56
To do this,
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04:56
you can acknowledge the question and then return it back to the individual
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ใ“ใ‚Œใ‚’่กŒใ†ใซใฏใ€
่ณชๅ•ใ‚’ๆ‰ฟ่ชใ—ใฆใ‹ใ‚‰ ใใฎไบบใซ่ฟ”ใ™ใ‹ใ€ๅ˜ใซใ€Œ
05:01
or simply ask why, for example, that's interesting. Why are you asking me that?
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ใชใœใใ‚ŒใŒ่ˆˆๅ‘ณๆทฑใ„ใฎใ‹ใ€ใจๅฐ‹ใญใ‚‹ใ“ใจใŒใงใใพใ™ ใ€‚ ใชใœใใ‚“ใชใ“ใจใ‚’่žโ€‹โ€‹ใ๏ผŸ
05:07
Or, that's an unexpected question. I'd like to know why you're asking.
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ใ‚ใ‚‹ใ„ใฏใ€ใใ‚Œใฏไบˆๆƒณๅค–ใฎ่ณชๅ•ใงใ™ใ€‚ ใชใœๅฐ‹ใญใ‚‹ใฎใ‹็Ÿฅใ‚ŠใŸใ„ใงใ™ใ€‚
05:12
Can I ask why you want to know? Good question, but you first,
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ใชใœ็Ÿฅใ‚ŠใŸใ„ใฎใ‹่žใ„ใฆใ‚‚ใ„ใ„ใงใ™ใ‹๏ผŸ ่‰ฏใ„่ณชๅ•ใงใ™ใŒใ€ใพใšๆœ€ๅˆใซใ€
05:17
why did you move here? That's a difficult question to answer,
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ใชใœใ“ใ“ใซๅผ•ใฃ่ถŠใ—ใฆใใŸใฎใงใ™ใ‹๏ผŸ ็ญ”ใˆใ‚‹ใฎใŒ้›ฃใ—ใ„่ณชๅ•ใงใ™ใŒใ€
05:21
is that's something you're struggling with?
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ใ‚ใชใŸใ‚‚ใใ‚Œใซใคใ„ใฆๆ‚ฉใ‚“ใงใ„ใพใ™ใ‹๏ผŸ
05:24
Each one of those questions will give you details so that you can decide,
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ใ“ใ‚Œใ‚‰ใฎ่ณชๅ•ใฎใใ‚Œใžใ‚Œใซ ่ฉณ็ดฐใŒ่กจ็คบใ•ใ‚Œใ‚‹ใฎใงใ€
05:29
was this question asked with genuine curiosity and do you want
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ใ“ใฎ่ณชๅ•ใฏ็ด”็ฒ‹ใชๅฅฝๅฅ‡ๅฟƒใ‹ใ‚‰ๅฐ‹ใญใ‚‰ใ‚ŒใŸใ‚‚ใฎใงใ‚ใ‚Šใ€
05:34
to continue? Do you want to answer and engage in this conversation?
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็ถš่กŒใ™ใ‚‹ใ‹ใฉใ†ใ‹ใ‚’ๅˆคๆ–ญใงใใพใ™ใ€‚ ๅฟœ็ญ”ใ—ใฆ ใ“ใฎไผš่ฉฑใซๅ‚ๅŠ ใ—ใพใ™ใ‹?
05:39
If not,
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ใใ†ใงใชใ„ๅ ดๅˆใฏใ€
05:40
you could use strategies two or three to either change the topic or bring it
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ๆˆฆ็•ฅ 2 ใพใŸใฏ 3 ใ‚’ไฝฟ็”จใ—ใฆใ€ ่ฉฑ้กŒใ‚’ๅค‰ใˆใ‚‹ใ‹ใ€่ฉฑใ‚’
05:45
to an end. Now, before we move on to strategy two,
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็ต‚ใ‚ใ‚‰ใ›ใ‚‹ใ“ใจใŒใงใใพใ™ใ€‚ ใ•ใฆใ€ ๆˆฆ็•ฅ 2 ใซ้€ฒใ‚€ๅ‰ใซใ€
05:48
I do want to go back and say those examples again,
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ใ“ใ‚Œใ‚‰ใฎไพ‹ใซๆˆปใฃใฆใ‚‚ใ†ไธ€ๅบฆ่จ€ใ„ใŸใ„ใจๆ€ใ„ใพใ™ใ€‚
05:53
and in doing so,
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ใใฎ้š›ใ€
05:54
I want you to pay attention to the sound of my voice and the intonation I'm
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็งใฎๅฃฐใฎ้Ÿณใจ
05:59
using. Wow, that's an unexpected question. I'm curious,
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ไฝฟ็”จใ—ใฆใ„ใ‚‹ใ‚คใƒณใƒˆใƒใƒผใ‚ทใƒงใƒณใซๆณจๆ„ใ—ใฆใ„ใŸใ ใใŸใ„ใจๆ€ใ„ใพใ™ใ€‚ ใ‚ใ‚ใ€ใใ‚Œใฏไบˆๆƒณๅค–ใฎ ่ณชๅ•ใงใ™ใญใ€‚ ่ˆˆๅ‘ณใŒใ‚ใ‚‹ใฎใงใ™ใŒใ€
06:04
why do you want to know? That's an interesting question.
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ใชใœ็Ÿฅใ‚ŠใŸใ„ใฎใงใ™ใ‹๏ผŸ ่ˆˆๅ‘ณๆทฑใ„่ณชๅ•ใงใ™ใญใ€‚
06:07
I'm curious why you're asking.
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ใชใœๅฐ‹ใญใ‚‹ใฎใ‹ไธๆ€่ญฐใงใ™ใ€‚
06:10
Do you notice that I'm maintaining a higher tone of voice and I'm using
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็งใŒ ๅฃฐใฎใƒˆใƒผใƒณใ‚’้ซ˜ใ‚ใซไฟใกใ€
06:15
rising intonation? That's an interesting question. Why are you asking?
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ใ‚คใƒณใƒˆใƒใƒผใ‚ทใƒงใƒณใ‚’ไธŠใ’ใฆใ„ใ‚‹ใ“ใจใซๆฐ—ใฅใใพใ—ใŸใ‹? ่ˆˆๅ‘ณๆทฑใ„ ่ณชๅ•ใงใ™ใญใ€‚ ใชใœ่ณชๅ•ใ™ใ‚‹ใฎใงใ™ใ‹๏ผŸ
06:20
This?
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06:20
Combination of a higher tone in rising intonation indicates
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ใ“ใ‚Œ๏ผŸ ไธŠๆ˜‡ใ‚คใƒณใƒˆใƒใƒผใ‚ทใƒงใƒณใซ
้ซ˜ใ„้Ÿณใฎ็ต„ใฟๅˆใ‚ใ›ใฏใ€
06:25
curiosity and interest.
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ๅฅฝๅฅ‡ๅฟƒใ‚„่ˆˆๅ‘ณใ‚’็คบใ—ใพใ™ใ€‚
06:28
It also maintains an open friendly feeling in the conversation while
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ใพใŸใ€ใ“ใ‚ŒใŒ็ญ”ใˆใŸใ„่ณชๅ•ใงใ‚ใ‚‹ใ‹ใฉใ†ใ‹ใ‚’ๅˆคๆ–ญใ™ใ‚‹้–“ใ€ไผš่ฉฑใฎไธญใงใ‚ชใƒผใƒ—ใƒณใงใƒ•ใƒฌใƒณใƒ‰ใƒชใƒผใช้›ฐๅ›ฒๆฐ—ใ‚’็ถญๆŒใงใใพใ™
06:33
you determine whether or not this is a question you want to answer.
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06:38
Furthermore, by asking these questions,
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ใ•ใ‚‰ใซใ€ใ“ใ‚Œใ‚‰ใฎ่ณชๅ•ใ‚’ใ™ใ‚‹ใ“ใจใงใ€
06:40
you'll give the speaker an opportunity to explain why they've asked this
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่ฌ›ๆผ”่€…ใซ ใชใœใ“ใฎ่ณชๅ•ใ‚’ใ—ใŸใฎใ‹ใ‚’่ชฌๆ˜Žใ™ใ‚‹ๆฉŸไผšใ‚’ไธŽใˆใ‚‹ใ“ใจใŒใงใใพใ™
06:45
question.
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ใ€‚
06:46
It'll help you understand the intent and give you the power
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ๆ„ๅ›ณใ‚’็†่งฃใ—ใ€็ถš่กŒใ™ใ‚‹ใ‹ใฉใ†ใ‹ใ‚’
06:51
to decide whether or not you want to continue.
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ๆฑบๅฎšใ™ใ‚‹ใฎใซๅฝน็ซ‹ใกใพใ™ ใ€‚
06:55
You might realize that the question was asked with genuine interest and decide
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่ณชๅ•ใŒ ็ด”็ฒ‹ใซ่ˆˆๅ‘ณใ‚’ๆŒใฃใฆ่กŒใ‚ใ‚ŒใŸใ“ใจใซๆฐ—ใฅใใ€
06:59
to continue, or you may want to go on to strategy Number two,
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็ถš่กŒใ™ใ‚‹ใ“ใจใ‚’ๆฑบๅฎšใ™ใ‚‹ๅ ดๅˆใ‚‚ใ‚ใ‚Œใฐใ€ ๆˆฆ็•ฅ 2 ใซ้€ฒใฟใ€่ฉฑ้กŒใ‚’
07:04
redirect the conversation by changing the topic.
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ๅค‰ใˆใฆไผš่ฉฑใฎๆ–นๅ‘ใ‚’ๅค‰ใˆใ‚‹ใ“ใจใ‚‚ใงใใพใ™ใ€‚
07:08
If a conversation takes an undesirable turn and touches on topics that
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ไผš่ฉฑใŒๆœ›ใพใ—ใใชใ„ๆ–นๅ‘ใซ้€ฒใฟใ€
07:13
are sensitive, controversial, or inappropriate,
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ใƒ‡ใƒชใ‚ฑใƒผใƒˆใช่ฉฑ้กŒใ€็‰ฉ่ญฐ ใ‚’้†ธใ™่ฉฑ้กŒใ€ใพใŸใฏไธ้ฉๅˆ‡ใช่ฉฑ้กŒใซ่งฆใ‚ŒใŸๅ ดๅˆใฏใ€ไผš่ฉฑใ‚’
07:17
you can redirect the conversation and to do this,
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ใƒชใƒ€ใ‚คใƒฌใ‚ฏใƒˆใ™ใ‚‹ใ“ใจใŒใงใใพใ™ใ€‚ ใ“ใ‚Œใ‚’่กŒใ†ใŸใ‚ใซใ€ๆ‰ฟ่ชใจๆ–นๅ‘่ปขๆ›ใจใ„ใ†
07:21
we use a simple method of acknowledging and pivoting.
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็ฐกๅ˜ใชๆ–นๆณ•ใ‚’ไฝฟ็”จใ—ใพใ™ ใ€‚
07:26
This means you acknowledge the topic that was just brought up or the topic
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ใ“ใ‚Œใฏใ€ไปŠ่ฉฑ้กŒใซใชใฃใŸใƒˆใƒ”ใƒƒใ‚ฏ ใ‚„
07:31
of the question, and then you smoothly transition to something else.
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่ณชๅ•ใฎใƒˆใƒ”ใƒƒใ‚ฏใ‚’่ช่ญ˜ใ—ใ€ ใ‚นใƒ ใƒผใ‚บใซๅˆฅใฎ่ฉฑ้กŒใซ็งปใ‚‹ใ“ใจใ‚’ๆ„ๅ‘ณใ—ใพใ™ใ€‚
07:36
You could transition, for example, to a recent event,
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ใŸใจใˆใฐใ€ๆœ€่ฟ‘ใฎๅ‡บๆฅไบ‹ใ€
07:39
a shared interest or a positive experience,
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ๅ…ฑ้€šใฎ้–ขๅฟƒไบ‹ใ€ ใƒใ‚ธใƒ†ใ‚ฃใƒ–ใช็ตŒ้จ“ใชใฉใ€
07:44
whatever you might be more interested and comfortable with discussing.
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่‡ชๅˆ†ใŒ่ˆˆๅ‘ณใ‚’ๆŒใกใ€่ฉฑใ— ใ‚„ใ™ใ„ใจๆ€ใ‚ใ‚Œใ‚‹่ฉฑ้กŒใซ็งปใ‚‹ใ“ใจใŒใงใใพใ™ใ€‚
07:49
For example, you could say, that's an interesting point.
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ใŸใจใˆใฐใ€ ใใ‚Œใฏ่ˆˆๅ‘ณๆทฑใ„็‚นใ ใจ่จ€ใˆใพใ™ใ€‚
07:52
Speaking of which have you heard about and then insert a new topic
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ใใ†ใ„ใˆใฐใ€ ๆ–ฐใ—ใ„ใƒˆใƒ”ใƒƒใ‚ฏ
07:58
or Good question, but I'm not really into politics.
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ใ‚„่‰ฏใ„่ณชๅ•ใ‚’่žใ„ใŸใ“ใจใฏใ‚ใ‚Šใพใ™ใŒใ€็งใฏ ๆ”ฟๆฒปใซใฏใ‚ใพใ‚Š่ˆˆๅ‘ณใŒใ‚ใ‚Šใพใ›ใ‚“ใ€‚
08:02
What I do want to talk about is your recent trip to Slovenia.
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็งใŒ่ฉฑใ—ใŸใ„ใฎใฏใ€ ๆœ€่ฟ‘ใฎใ‚นใƒญใƒ™ใƒ‹ใ‚ขใธใฎๆ—…่กŒใซใคใ„ใฆใงใ™ใ€‚
08:05
I know you just got back from vacation. How was it?
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ใ‚ใชใŸใŒไผ‘ๆš‡ใ‹ใ‚‰ๆˆปใฃใฆใใŸใฐใ‹ใ‚Šใ ใจ็Ÿฅใฃใฆใ„ใพใ™ ใ€‚ ใฉใ†ใ ใฃใŸ๏ผŸ
08:09
If someone you know asks when you're having kids, you could say,
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็Ÿฅใ‚Šๅˆใ„ใŒใ„ใค ๅญไพ›ใ‚’็”ฃใ‚€ใฎใ‹ๅฐ‹ใญใŸใ‚‰ใ€ใ€Œ
08:13
we'll let you know when we decide. Speaking of kids and family,
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ๆฑบใพใฃใŸใ‚‰ใŠ็Ÿฅใ‚‰ใ›ใ—ใพใ™ใ€ใจ่จ€ใˆใพใ™ใ€‚ ๅญไพ›ใŸใกใจๅฎถๆ—ใฎ่ฉฑใจใ„ใˆใฐใ€่ฟ‘ๆ‰€ใซใ‚ใ‚‹ๅคใ„ๅŠ‡ๅ ดใŒ
08:18
did you know they're reopening the old theater in our neighborhood?
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ๅ†้–‹ใ•ใ‚Œใ‚‹ใ“ใจใ‚’ใ”ๅญ˜็Ÿฅใงใ™ใ‹ ?
08:21
I'm so excited to go back and eager to see how they've remodeled the theater.
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ๆˆปใฃใฆใใ‚‹ใฎใŒใจใฆใ‚‚ๆฅฝใ—ใฟใงใ€ ๅŠ‡ๅ ดใŒใฉใฎใ‚ˆใ†ใซๆ”น่ฃ…ใ•ใ‚ŒใŸใฎใ‹่ฆ‹ใฆใฟใŸใ„ใจๆ€ใฃใฆใ„ใพใ™ใ€‚ ้–‰ๅบ—
08:26
Did you go often before it closed? Or, for example,
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ๅ‰ใซใ‚ˆใ่กŒใใพใ—ใŸใ‹ ๏ผŸ ใ‚ใ‚‹ใ„ใฏใ€ใŸใจใˆใฐใ€
08:30
if a coworker asks, why haven't you gotten married yet? You could say,
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ๅŒๅƒšใŒใ€Œใชใœ ใพใ ็ตๅฉšใ—ใชใ„ใฎใงใ™ใ‹?ใ€ใจๅฐ‹ใญใŸๅ ดๅˆใ€ ใ€Œ
08:34
thanks for asking, but I don't usually share my personal life at work. Oh,
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่žใ„ใฆใใ‚Œใฆใ‚ใ‚ŠใŒใจใ†ใ€ใจ่จ€ใ‚ใ‚Œใ‚‹ใ‹ใ‚‚ใ—ใ‚Œใพใ›ใ‚“ใŒใ€็งใฏ ไป•ไบ‹ไธญใซ็ง็”Ÿๆดปใ‚’ๅ…ฑๆœ‰ใ™ใ‚‹ใ“ใจใฏใ‚ใพใ‚Šใ‚ใ‚Šใพใ›ใ‚“ใ€‚ ใ‚ใ‚ใ€
08:39
but I did want to ask you about the presentation you gave last week.
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ใงใ‚‚ ๅ…ˆ้€ฑใ‚ใชใŸใŒ่กŒใฃใŸใƒ—ใƒฌใ‚ผใƒณใƒ†ใƒผใ‚ทใƒงใƒณใซใคใ„ใฆ่žใใŸใ‹ใฃใŸใฎใงใ™ใ€‚
08:42
I know you were anxious about it. How'd it go? In each one of those examples,
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ใ‚ใชใŸใŒใใ‚Œใ‚’ๅฟƒ้…ใ—ใฆใ„ใŸใฎใฏใ‚ใ‹ใ‚Šใพใ™ใ€‚ ใฉใ† ใงใ—ใŸใ‹๏ผŸ ใ“ใ‚Œใ‚‰ใฎไพ‹ใฎใใ‚Œใžใ‚Œใงใ€
08:47
there was an acknowledgement of the topic or the question that was asked,
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ใƒˆใƒ”ใƒƒใ‚ฏใ‚„่ณชๅ•ใ•ใ‚ŒใŸๅ†…ๅฎนใซใคใ„ใฆใฎ่ช่ญ˜ใŒใ‚ใ‚Šใ€
08:51
and then I just changed to something new. In some cases,
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ใใฎๅพŒใ€็งใฏไฝ•ใ‹ๆ–ฐใ—ใ„ใ‚‚ใฎใซๅค‰ๆ›ดใ—ใพใ—ใŸ ใ€‚ ๅ ดๅˆใซใ‚ˆใฃใฆใฏใ€
08:56
it might be a topic that is somehow related,
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ไฝ•ใ‚‰ใ‹ใฎ้–ข้€ฃๆ€งใฎใ‚ใ‚‹ใƒˆใƒ”ใƒƒใ‚ฏใงใ‚ใ‚‹ใ“ใจใ‚‚
08:59
and in others it might be a completely new topic.
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ใ‚ใ‚Œใฐใ€ ใพใฃใŸใๆ–ฐใ—ใ„ใƒˆใƒ”ใƒƒใ‚ฏใงใ‚ใ‚‹ใ“ใจใ‚‚ใ‚ใ‚Šใพใ™ใ€‚
09:03
The key to doing this successfully is having some transitional language,
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ใ“ใ‚Œใ‚’ๆˆๅŠŸใ•ใ›ใ‚‹ใŸใ‚ใฎ้ตใฏใ€ ็งป่กŒ่จ€่ชžใ‚’็”จๆ„ใ™ใ‚‹ใ“ใจใงใ™ใ€‚
09:07
for example, speaking of speaking of kids and family or, oh,
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ใŸใจใˆใฐใ€ ๅญไพ›ใ‚„ๅฎถๆ—ใซใคใ„ใฆ่ฉฑใ™ใ“ใจใ€ใพใŸใฏใ€ใ‚ใ‚ใ€
09:12
I wanted to ask you,
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ใ‚ใชใŸใซ่žใใŸใ‹ใฃใŸใฎใงใ™ใŒใ€
09:14
here are a few more examples of transitional language we can use for an
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09:19
effective acknowledgement and pivot. Sorry to change the topic,
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ๅŠนๆžœ็š„ใชๆ‰ฟ่ชใจๆ–นๅ‘ ่ปขๆ›ใซไฝฟ็”จใงใใ‚‹็งป่กŒ่จ€่ชžใฎไพ‹ใ‚’ใ„ใใคใ‹็ดนไป‹ใ—ใพใ™ใ€‚ ใ€‚ ่ฉฑ้กŒใ‚’ๅค‰ใˆใฆ็”ณใ—่จณใชใ„ใฎ
09:23
but I just thought of something I wanted to ask you before I forget.
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ใงใ™ใŒใ€ ๅฟ˜ใ‚Œใชใ„ใ†ใกใซ่žใใŸใ„ใ“ใจใ‚’ๆ€ใ„ๅ‡บใ—ใพใ—ใŸใ€‚
09:28
I wanted to ask you something. Oh,
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่žใใŸใ„ใ“ใจใŒใ‚ใ‚Šใพใ—ใŸใ€‚ ใ‚ใ‚ใ€
09:30
remember how I mentioned by the way, before I forget,
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ใจใ“ใ‚ใงใ€็งใŒใฉใฎใ‚ˆใ†ใซ่ฟฐในใŸใ‹ใ‚’ๆ€ใ„ๅ‡บใ—ใฆใใ ใ•ใ„ ใ€‚ๅฟ˜ใ‚Œใชใ„ใ†ใกใซใ€ๅ…ƒใซ
09:35
let's circle back to, and I don't mean to cut you off,
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ๆˆปใ‚Šใพใ—ใ‚‡ใ†ใ€‚่ฉฑใ‚’้ฎใ‚‹ใคใ‚‚ใ‚Šใฏใ‚ใ‚Šใพใ›ใ‚“
09:39
but earlier you mentioned you may have noticed that in all those
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ใŒใ€ๅ…ˆใปใฉใ€ ใ“ใ‚Œใ‚‰ใ™ในใฆใฎไพ‹ใฎไธญใงใ€
09:44
examples, I'm still maintaining a tone of voice that is neutral,
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็งใŒใพใ ็ถญๆŒใ—ใฆใ„ใ‚‹ใ“ใจใซๆฐ—ใฅใ„ใŸใ‹ใ‚‚ใ—ใ‚Œใชใ„ใจ่จ€ใ„ใพใ—ใŸใ€‚ ใƒ‹ใƒฅใƒผใƒˆใƒฉใƒซใง
09:48
open, and friendly.
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ใ‚ชใƒผใƒ—ใƒณใ€ใƒ•ใƒฌใƒณใƒ‰ใƒชใƒผใชๅฃ่ชฟใ€‚ ๆ€’ใ‚Šใ‚„ไธๆบ€ใฎ
09:50
You can't really hear feelings of anger or frustration,
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ๆ„Ÿๆƒ…ใฏๅฎŸ้š›ใซใฏ่žใ“ใˆใพใ›ใ‚“ ใ€‚
09:55
and I'm still using rising intonation at the end of those questions to
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็งใฏไพ็„ถใจใ—ใฆใ€
09:59
demonstrate curiosity and to help make that transition,
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ๅฅฝๅฅ‡ๅฟƒใ‚’็คบใ—ใ€ ใใฎๅˆ‡ใ‚Šๆ›ฟใˆใ‚’ๅŠฉใ‘ใ‚‹ใŸใ‚ใซใ€่ณชๅ•ใฎๆœ€ๅพŒใซไธŠๆ˜‡ใ‚คใƒณใƒˆใƒใƒผใ‚ทใƒงใƒณใ‚’ไฝฟ็”จใ—ใฆใ„ใพใ™ใ€‚
10:03
listen again to one example. Thanks for asking,
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10:07
but I don't usually discuss my personal life at work. Oh,
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ใŒใ€็งใฏ้€šๅธธใ€ ่ทๅ ดใง่‡ชๅˆ†ใฎๅ€‹ไบบ็š„ใช็”Ÿๆดปใซใคใ„ใฆ่ฉฑใ—ใพใ›ใ‚“ใ€‚ ใ‚ใ‚ใ€
10:11
but I did want to ask you about the presentation you gave last week.
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10:14
How'd it go? Now,
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ใฉใ†ใงใ—ใŸใ‹๏ผŸ ใ•ใฆใ€
10:16
if someone doesn't allow you to transition to a new topic,
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่ชฐใ‹ใŒๆ–ฐใ—ใ„ใƒˆใƒ”ใƒƒใ‚ฏใธใฎ็งป่กŒใ‚’่จฑๅฏใ—ใชใ„ๅ ดๅˆ ใ€
10:20
or if it's a question that's so rude,
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ใพใŸใฏใใฎ่ณชๅ•ใŒ้žๅธธใซๅคฑ็คผใง
10:23
so inappropriate that you immediately want to put an end to it,
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ไธ้ฉๅˆ‡ใงใ‚ใ‚‹ใŸใ‚ ใ™ใใซใ‚„ใ‚ใŸใ„ๅ ดๅˆใฏใ€ๆ–ญๅฎš็š„ใชๅฃ่ชฟใง
10:27
it's time to be clear about your boundaries with an assertive tone.
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่‡ชๅˆ†ใฎๅขƒ็•Œ็ทšใ‚’ๆ˜Ž็ขบใซใ™ใ‚‹ใจใใงใ™ใ€‚ ใ€‚
10:32
Let's go on to strategy number three.
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ๆˆฆ็•ฅ 3 ใซ้€ฒใฟใพใ—ใ‚‡ใ†ใ€‚
10:35
Establishing a boundary with someone else means that you make it clear what is
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10:40
and isn't acceptable to you, and when we communicate our boundaries,
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ๅ—ใ‘ๅ…ฅใ‚Œใ‚‰ใ‚Œใ€ไฝ•ใŒๅ—ใ‘ๅ…ฅใ‚Œใ‚‰ใ‚Œใชใ„ใ‹ใ‚’ๆ˜Ž็ขบใซใ™ใ‚‹ใ“ใจใ‚’ๆ„ๅ‘ณใ—ใพใ™ใ€‚ ๅขƒ็•Œ็ทšใ‚’ไผใˆใ‚‹ใจใใฏใ€่งฃ้‡ˆใฎ
10:44
it's important to make them clear so there's no room for
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10:49
interpretation. Now, if this is a topic of interest to you,
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ใ€‚ ใ•ใฆใ€ใ“ใ‚ŒใŒ ใ‚ใชใŸใซใจใฃใฆ่ˆˆๅ‘ณใฎใ‚ใ‚‹ใƒˆใƒ”ใƒƒใ‚ฏใงใ‚ใ‚‹ๅ ดๅˆใฏใ€
10:53
I do have an in-depth lesson on how to establish boundaries
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10:58
for healthy relationships with others,
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ไป–ใฎไบบใจใฎๅฅๅ…จใช้–ขไฟ‚ใฎใŸใ‚ใฎๅขƒ็•Œ็ทšใ‚’็ขบ็ซ‹ใ™ใ‚‹ๆ–นๆณ•ใซใคใ„ใฆใฎ่ฉณ็ดฐใชใƒฌใƒƒใ‚นใƒณใŒใ‚ใ‚Šใ€
11:00
and I'll share a link to that lesson in the notes below the video.
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ใƒ“ใƒ‡ใ‚ชใฎไธ‹ใฎใƒกใƒขใงใใฎใƒฌใƒƒใ‚นใƒณใธใฎใƒชใƒณใ‚ฏใ‚’ๅ…ฑๆœ‰ใ—ใพใ™ใ€‚ ไผš่ฉฑใ‚’ใ‚ณใƒณใƒˆใƒญใƒผใƒซใ™ใ‚‹
11:04
For the purposes of this lesson on how to control the conversation,
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ๆ–นๆณ•ใซ้–ขใ™ใ‚‹ใ“ใฎใƒฌใƒƒใ‚นใƒณใงใฏ ใ€่‡ชๅˆ†ใฎๅขƒ็•Œ็ทšใ‚’ๆ˜Ž็ขบใซใ™ใ‚‹
11:09
I want to look at three ways you can be clear about your boundaries.
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3 ใคใฎๆ–นๆณ•ใ‚’่ฆ‹ใฆใ„ใใŸใ„ใจๆ€ใ„ใพใ™ ใ€‚
11:15
The first option is to address the situation or address the topic
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ๆœ€ๅˆใฎ้ธๆŠž่‚ขใฏใ€็Šถๆณใซๅฏพๅ‡ฆใ™ใ‚‹ ใ‹ใ€
11:20
with soft diplomatic language. For example,
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ๆŸ”ใ‚‰ใ‹ใ„ๅค–ไบค็š„ใช ่จ€่‘‰ใงใ“ใฎ่ฉฑ้กŒใซๅฏพๅ‡ฆใ™ใ‚‹ใ“ใจใงใ™ใ€‚ ใŸใจใˆใฐใ€
11:24
I'm so sorry, I don't feel comfortable talking about this.
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็”ณใ—่จณใ‚ใ‚Šใพใ›ใ‚“ใŒใ€ ใ“ใ‚Œใซใคใ„ใฆ่ฉฑใ™ใฎใฏๆฐ—ใŒ้€ฒใพใชใ„ใฎใงใ™ใ€‚
11:27
Could we talk about something else? I respect your opinion,
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ไฝ•ใ‹ไป–ใฎใ“ใจใซใคใ„ใฆ่ฉฑใ—ใฆใ‚‚ใ„ใ„ใงใ™ใ‹ ๏ผŸ ็งใฏใ‚ใชใŸใฎๆ„่ฆ‹ใ‚’ๅฐŠ้‡ใ—ใพใ™ใŒใ€
11:32
but I'd rather not talk about this here. Sorry,
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ใ“ใ“ใงใฏใ“ใฎใ“ใจใซใคใ„ใฆ่ฉฑใ™ใ“ใจใฏ้ฟใ‘ใŸใ„ใจๆ€ใ„ใพใ™ใ€‚ ็”ณใ—่จณใ‚ใ‚Šใพใ›ใ‚“ใŒใ€ใ“ใฎไปถ
11:35
I don't feel comfortable talking about this and I'd really appreciate it if we
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ใซใคใ„ใฆ่ฉฑใ™ใฎใฏๆฐ—ใŒ้€ฒใพใชใ„ใฎใงใ€่ทๅ ดใง
11:39
don't bring this up at work. Thank you for asking.
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ใ“ใฎไปถใ‚’่ฉฑ้กŒใซใ—ใชใ„ใงใ„ใŸใ ใ‘ใ‚Œใฐๅนธใ„ใงใ™ ใ€‚ ๅฐ‹ใญใฆใ„ใŸใ ใใ‚ใ‚ŠใŒใจใ†ใ”ใ–ใ„ใพใ™ใ€‚
11:43
I'd rather not discuss this because I don't feel comfortable sharing my personal
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ใ“ใ‚Œใซใคใ„ใฆ ็งใฎๅ€‹ไบบ็š„ใช่€ƒใˆใ‚„ๆ„Ÿๆƒ…ใ‚’ๅ…ฑๆœ‰ใ™ใ‚‹ใฎใฏๆฐ—ใŒ้€ฒใพใชใ„ใฎใงใ€
11:47
thoughts and feelings on this. To be honest,
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ใ“ใฎไปถใซใคใ„ใฆใฏ่ญฐ่ซ–ใ—ใŸใใ‚ใ‚Šใพใ›ใ‚“ใ€‚ ๆญฃ็›ดใซ่จ€ใ†ใจใ€
11:50
I don't have much to contribute to this topic. Can we talk about something else?
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็งใฏใ“ใฎใƒˆใƒ”ใƒƒใ‚ฏใซ้–ขใ—ใฆใ‚ใพใ‚Š่ฒข็Œฎใงใใ‚‹ใ“ใจใŒใ‚ใ‚Šใพใ›ใ‚“ ใ€‚ ไฝ•ใ‹ไป–ใฎใ“ใจใซใคใ„ใฆ่ฉฑใ—ใฆใ‚‚ใ„ใ„ใงใ™ใ‹๏ผŸ
11:55
You know, I don't like talking about people who can't defend themselves.
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ใ”ๅญ˜็Ÿฅใฎใ‚ˆใ†ใซใ€็งใฏ่‡ชๅˆ†่‡ช่บซใ‚’ๅฎˆใ‚‹ใ“ใจใŒใงใใชใ„ไบบใ€…ใซใคใ„ใฆ่ฉฑใ™ใฎใฏๅฅฝใใงใฏใ‚ใ‚Šใพใ›ใ‚“ ใ€‚
12:00
Since Susan isn't here to share her side of the story,
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ใ‚นใƒผใ‚ถใƒณใฏ ่‡ชๅˆ†ใฎๅดใฎ่ฉฑใ‚’ๅ…ฑๆœ‰ใ™ใ‚‹ใŸใ‚ใซใ“ใ“ใซใ„ใ‚‹ใ‚ใ‘ใงใฏใชใ„ใฎใงใ€
12:03
I'd rather not talk about it.
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ใใ‚Œใซใคใ„ใฆใฏ่ฉฑใ—ใŸใใชใ„ใฎใงใ™ใ€‚
12:05
Your second option to politely and assertively communicate your
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่‡ชๅˆ†ใฎๅขƒ็•Œ็ทšใ‚’ไธๅฏงใ‹ใค็ฉๆฅต็š„ใซไผใˆใ‚‹ใŸใ‚ใฎ 2 ใค็›ฎใฎ้ธๆŠž่‚ขใฏใ€ใŸใจใˆใฐใ€
12:10
boundaries is to be direct about your discomfort,
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ไธๅฟซๆ„Ÿใซใคใ„ใฆ็Ž‡็›ดใซไผใˆใ‚‹ใ“ใจใงใ™
12:14
for example. That's a bit too forward.
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ใ€‚ ใใ‚Œใฏใกใ‚‡ใฃใจๅ…ˆ่ตฐใ‚Šใ™ใŽใพใ™ใญใ€‚ ใใ‚Œใซ
12:18
I don't feel comfortable answering that. That's too personal.
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็ญ”ใˆใ‚‹ใฎใฏๆฐ—ใŒ้€ฒใพใชใ„ ใ€‚ ใใ‚Œใฏๅ€‹ไบบ็š„ใ™ใŽใพใ™ใ€‚
12:22
I'd rather not answer that question.
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ใใฎ่ณชๅ•ใซใฏ็ญ”ใˆใŸใใชใ„ใงใ™ใ€‚
12:24
I don't think that's an appropriate conversation for the workplace. And lastly,
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ใใ‚Œใฏ่ทๅ ด ใงใฏ้ฉๅˆ‡ใชไผš่ฉฑใงใฏใชใ„ใจๆ€ใ„ใพใ™ ใ€‚ ใใ—ใฆๆœ€ๅพŒใซใ€
12:29
I'm not comfortable going into detail about that.
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็งใฏ ใใ‚Œใซใคใ„ใฆ่ฉณใ—ใ่ฟฐในใ‚‹ใ“ใจใซๆŠตๆŠ—ใŒใ‚ใ‚Šใพใ™ใ€‚
12:33
The third way to be clear about your boundaries is to openly share your
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่‡ชๅˆ†ใฎๅขƒ็•Œ็ทšใ‚’ๆ˜Ž็ขบใซใ™ใ‚‹ 3 ใค็›ฎใฎๆ–นๆณ•ใฏใ€ไธๆบ€ใ‚„ไธๆบ€ใ‚’ ็Ž‡็›ดใซๅ…ฑๆœ‰ใ™ใ‚‹ใ“ใจใงใ™
12:38
frustration and disapproval. To do that, you might say,
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ใ€‚ ใใ‚“ใชใ“ใจใ‚’ใ™ใ‚‹ใฎใฏไธ้ฉๅˆ‡ใ ใจใ‚ใชใŸใฏ่จ€ใ†ใ‹ใ‚‚ใ—ใ‚Œใชใ„
12:43
that's inappropriate. I won't answer that question,
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ใ€‚ ใใฎ่ณชๅ•ใซใฏ็ญ”ใˆใพใ›ใ‚“ใ€‚
12:47
or That's a rude question. Please don't ask me that again.
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ใพใŸใฏใ€ใใ‚Œใฏๅคฑ็คผใช่ณชๅ•ใงใ™ใ€‚ ใ‚‚ใ†ใใฎใ“ใจใฏ่žใ‹ใชใ„ใงใใ ใ•ใ„ใ€‚
12:51
And lastly, we both know this question isn't okay to ask.
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ใใ—ใฆๆœ€ๅพŒใซใ€็งใŸใกไบŒไบบใจใ‚‚ใ€ใ“ใฎ่ณชๅ•ใฏ้ฉๅˆ‡ใงใฏใชใ„ใ“ใจใ‚’็Ÿฅใฃใฆใ„ใพใ™ ใ€‚
12:56
I'm sure you know better.
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ใใฃใจใ‚ใชใŸใฏใ‚ˆใ็Ÿฅใฃใฆใ„ใ‚‹ใจๆ€ใ„ใพใ™ใ€‚
12:58
Have you noticed that in discussing strategy number three,
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ๆˆฆ็•ฅ 3 ใซใคใ„ใฆ่ฉฑใ—ๅˆใ†ใจใใ€
13:02
communicating boundaries with assertiveness,
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ๅขƒ็•Œ็ทšใ‚’็ฉๆฅต็š„ใซไผใˆใ‚‹้š›ใซใ€
13:05
the tone of my voice has changed, it's lower,
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็งใฎๅฃฐใฎใƒˆใƒผใƒณใŒ ๅค‰ใ‚ใ‚Šใ€ไฝŽใใชใ‚Šใ€ๆ–‡ๆœซใซ
13:10
and I use falling intonation at the end of my sentences.
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ไธ‹้™ใ‚คใƒณใƒˆใƒใƒผใ‚ทใƒงใƒณใ‚’ไฝฟ็”จใ—ใฆใ„ใ‚‹ใ“ใจใซๆฐ—ใฅใ„ใŸใงใ—ใ‚‡ใ†ใ‹ ใ€‚
13:15
Doing so communicates seriousness and confidence
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ใใ†ใ™ใ‚‹ใ“ใจใงใ€
13:20
or certainty in my position.
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็งใฎ็ซ‹ๅ ดใซๅฏพใ™ใ‚‹็œŸๅ‰ฃใ•ใจ่‡ชไฟกใ€ใพใŸใฏ็ขบไฟกใŒไผใ‚ใ‚Šใพใ™ใ€‚ ็‰นๅฎšใฎ่ณชๅ•ใ‚„ไผš่ฉฑใฎใƒˆใƒ”ใƒƒใ‚ฏใซๅฏพใ—ใฆ็งใŒๅๅฏพใ—ใฆใ„ใ‚‹ใ“ใจใ‚’
13:23
Not only do my words communicate that I disapprove of a particular
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่จ€่‘‰ใงไผใˆใ‚‹ใ ใ‘ใงใชใใ€
13:28
question or topic of conversation,
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13:31
but my voice also communicates that message.
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ๅฃฐใงใ‚‚ ใใฎใƒกใƒƒใ‚ปใƒผใ‚ธใ‚’ไผใˆใพใ™ใ€‚ ใใ‚Œใฏ
13:35
It lets others know that I'm serious and I'm confident in my position.
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็งใŒ็œŸๅ‰ฃใงใ‚ใ‚Šใ€่‡ชๅˆ†ใฎ็ซ‹ๅ ดใซ่‡ชไฟกใ‚’ๆŒใฃใฆใ„ใ‚‹ใ“ใจใ‚’ไป–ใฎไบบใซ็Ÿฅใ‚‰ใ›ใพใ™ ใ€‚
13:40
Listen again to two examples so that you really hear that difference.
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2 ใคใฎไพ‹ใ‚’ใ‚‚ใ†ไธ€ๅบฆ่žใ„ใฆใ€ ใใฎ้•ใ„ใ‚’ๅฎŸ้š›ใซ่žใๅˆ†ใ‘ใฆใใ ใ•ใ„ใ€‚
13:45
I don't think this is an appropriate conversation for the workplace.
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ใ“ใ‚Œใฏ่ทๅ ดใงใฏ้ฉๅˆ‡ใชไผš่ฉฑใงใฏใชใ„ใจๆ€ใ„ใพใ™ ใ€‚
13:49
Thanks for asking, but I'm not comfortable answering that question.
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่ณชๅ•ใ—ใฆใ„ใŸใ ใใ‚ใ‚ŠใŒใจใ†ใ”ใ–ใ„ใพใ™ใ€‚ใ—ใ‹ใ—ใ€ ใใฎ่ณชๅ•ใซ็ญ”ใˆใ‚‹ใฎใฏไธๅฎ‰ใงใ™ใ€‚ ไผš่ฉฑใ‚’ใ‚ณใƒณใƒˆใƒญใƒผใƒซใ™ใ‚‹ๆ–นๆณ•
13:54
Before we finish this lesson on how to control the conversation,
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ใซใคใ„ใฆใฎใ“ใฎใƒฌใƒƒใ‚นใƒณใ‚’็ต‚ใˆใ‚‹ๅ‰ใซ ใ€
13:57
I do want to acknowledge that you could also use humor to steer the
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ใƒฆใƒผใƒขใ‚ขใ‚’ไฝฟใฃใฆไผš่ฉฑใ‚’ใ‚ณใƒณใƒˆใƒญใƒผใƒซใ—ใ€
14:02
conversation and communicate your boundaries. In fact,
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่‡ชๅˆ†ใฎๅขƒ็•Œ็ทšใ‚’ไผใˆใ‚‹ใ“ใจใ‚‚ใงใใ‚‹ใจใ„ใ†ใ“ใจใ‚’่ชใ‚ใฆใŠใใŸใ„ใจๆ€ใ„ใพใ™ใ€‚ ๅฎŸ้š›ใ€
14:07
humor can be a powerful tool for controlling the conversation,
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ใƒฆใƒผใƒขใ‚ขใฏไผš่ฉฑใ‚’ใ‚ณใƒณใƒˆใƒญใƒผใƒซใ™ใ‚‹ใŸใ‚ใฎๅผทๅŠ›ใชใƒ„ใƒผใƒซใจใชใ‚Š ใ€ๆ–ฐใ—ใ„่ฉฑ้กŒ
14:11
helping you redirect to a new topic and diffuse any
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ใซๆ–นๅ‘่ปขๆ›ใ— ใ€
14:16
friction or tension that came up due to an inappropriate question or
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ไธ้ฉๅˆ‡ใช่ณชๅ•ใ‚„ไผš่ฉฑใฎ
14:21
unfortunate turn in the conversation. However,
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ไธๅนธใชๅฑ•้–‹ใซใ‚ˆใฃใฆ็”Ÿใ˜ใŸๆ‘ฉๆ“ฆใ‚„็ทŠๅผตใ‚’ๅ’Œใ‚‰ใ’ใ‚‹ใฎใซๅฝน็ซ‹ใกใพใ™ ใ€‚ ใŸใ ใ—ใ€
14:25
I recommend using humor with caution. First,
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ใƒฆใƒผใƒขใ‚ขใฏๆ…Ž้‡ใซไฝฟ็”จใ™ใ‚‹ใ“ใจใ‚’ใŠๅ‹งใ‚ใ—ใพใ™ ใ€‚ ใพใšใ€
14:28
you want to make sure that the context is appropriate for a humorous response.
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ๆ–‡่„ˆใŒ ใƒฆใƒผใƒขใ‚ขใฎใ‚ใ‚‹ๅฟœ็ญ”ใซ้ฉๅˆ‡ใงใ‚ใ‚‹ใ“ใจใ‚’็ขบ่ชใ™ใ‚‹ๅฟ…่ฆใŒใ‚ใ‚Šใพใ™ใ€‚
14:34
And number two,
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14:35
you also want to make sure that you're able to maintain control over your voice
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14:40
using a friendly tone. For example,
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14:43
let's say that you're out having lunch or dinner with some of your coworkers,
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ๅŒๅƒšๆ•ฐไบบใจใƒฉใƒณใƒใพใŸใฏใƒ‡ใ‚ฃใƒŠใƒผใ‚’้ฃŸในใฆใ„ใฆใ€
14:48
and in the conversation someone asks a question that's just too personal.
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ไผš่ฉฑใฎไธญใง่ชฐใ‹ใŒใ‚ใพใ‚Šใซใ‚‚ ๅ€‹ไบบ็š„ใช่ณชๅ•ใ‚’ใ—ใŸใจใ—ใพใ™ใ€‚
14:53
For example, who are you going to vote for? Or why don't you have kids?
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14:57
Here's how you could use a humorous response. Hmm,
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ใƒฆใƒผใƒขใ‚ขใŸใฃใทใ‚Šใฎ่ฟ”็ญ”ใฎไป•ๆ–นใ‚’ใ”็ดนไป‹ใ—ใพใ™ใ€‚ ใ†ใƒผใ‚“ใ€
15:01
that's for me to know and you to never find out,
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ใใ‚Œใฏ็งใŒ็Ÿฅใ‚‹ใ“ใจใงใ‚ใ‚Šใ€ ใ‚ใชใŸใซใฏๆฑบใ—ใฆ็Ÿฅใ‚‹ๅฟ…่ฆใฏใ‚ใ‚Šใพใ›ใ‚“ใ€‚
15:05
or wouldn't you like to know a third option? Hmm,
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ใใ‚Œใจใ‚‚ 3 ็•ช็›ฎใฎ้ธๆŠž่‚ขใ‚’็Ÿฅใ‚ŠใŸใใชใ„ใงใ™ใ‹? ใ†ใƒผใ‚“ใ€็งใฏ
15:10
I'm afraid I'm gonna have to leave you in suspense forever.
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ใ‚ใชใŸใ‚’ๆฐธ้ ใซไธๅฎ‰ใชใพใพใซใ—ใชใ‘ใ‚Œใฐใชใ‚‰ใชใ„ใฎใงใฏใชใ„ใ‹ใจๆ€ใ„ใพใ™ใ€‚
15:14
And a fourth option. Oh, that's the million dollar question, isn't it?
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ใใ—ใฆ4ใค็›ฎใฎ้ธๆŠž่‚ขใ€‚ ใ‚ใ‚ใ€ใใ‚Œใฏ 100ไธ‡ใƒ‰ใƒซใฎๅ•้กŒใงใ™ใญใ€‚
15:19
But let's get two more important issues like what are you gonna order for dinner
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ใ—ใ‹ใ—ใ€ไปŠๆ—ฅใ“ใ“ใงๅญฆใ‚“ใ ใ“ใจใ‚’ใ™ในใฆ่ฆ็ด„ใ™ใ‚‹ใŸใ‚ใซใ€ๅค•้ฃŸใซไฝ•ใ‚’ๆณจๆ–‡ใ™ใ‚‹ใ‹ใชใฉใ€ใ•ใ‚‰ใซ 2 ใคใฎ้‡่ฆใชๅ•้กŒใ‚’่€ƒใˆ
15:24
to recap everything that you've learned here today,
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15:27
I want to start by underscoring the fact that you do not need to answer any
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ใฆใฟใพใ—ใ‚‡ใ†ใ€‚ใพใšใ€ไธๅฟซใซใ•ใ›ใ‚‹่ณชๅ•ใซใฏ็ญ”ใˆใ‚‹ๅฟ…่ฆใฏใชใ„ใจใ„ใ†ไบ‹ๅฎŸใ‚’ๅผท่ชฟใ—ใŸใ„ใจๆ€ใ„ใพใ™ใ€‚
15:32
question that makes you uncomfortable,
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15:34
and you can choose from all of these strategies so that
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ใ“ใ‚Œใ‚‰ใ™ในใฆใฎๆˆฆ็•ฅใ‹ใ‚‰้ธๆŠžใงใใ‚‹ใฎใงใ€
15:38
you're in control. You have the power to decide what to do.
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่‡ชๅˆ†ใงใ‚ณใƒณใƒˆใƒญใƒผใƒซใงใใพใ™ใ€‚ ใ‚ใชใŸใซใฏ ไฝ•ใ‚’ใ™ในใใ‹ใ‚’ๆฑบๅฎšใ™ใ‚‹ๅŠ›ใŒใ‚ใ‚Šใพใ™ใ€‚ ใ‚‚ใ†ๅฐ‘ใ—่ฉณใ—ใ
15:43
You can decide if you want to find out a little bit more and maybe answer the
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็Ÿฅใ‚ŠใŸใ„ใฎใง่ณชๅ•ใซ็ญ”ใˆใŸใ„ใ‹ใฉใ†ใ‹ใ‚’ๆฑบใ‚ใ‚‹ใ“ใจใ‚‚ใงใใพใ™ใ—
15:48
question,
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ใ€ไผš่ฉฑ
15:49
or you can acknowledge the topic of conversation and simply switch to
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15:54
a new one.
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15:55
You can also be assertive in communicating what is and isn't
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16:00
acceptable to you, bringing an end to the conversation. With that,
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ใ€ ไผš่ฉฑใ‚’็ต‚ใ‚ใ‚‰ใ›ใ‚‹ใ“ใจใ‚‚ใงใใพใ™ใ€‚ ใใ‚Œใงใฏใ€
16:05
I would love to hear from you.
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ใ‚ˆใ‚ใ—ใใŠ้ก˜ใ„ใ„ใŸใ—ใพใ™ใ€‚
16:07
I want you to think back to situations in which someone asked you an
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่ชฐใ‹ใŒใ‚ใชใŸใซ
16:12
inappropriate question. How did you handle that situation?
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ไธ้ฉๅˆ‡ใช่ณชๅ•ใ‚’ใ—ใŸ็Šถๆณใ‚’ๆ€ใ„ๅ‡บใ—ใฆใใ ใ•ใ„ใ€‚ ใใฎ็Šถๆณใซใฉใ†ๅฏพๅ‡ฆใ—ใพใ—ใŸใ‹? ไผš่ฉฑใฎใ‚ณใƒณใƒˆใƒญใƒผใƒซใ‚’็ถญๆŒใ™ใ‚‹ใŸใ‚ใซ
16:17
Was there a strategy you used that helped you maintain control of the
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ไฝฟ็”จใ—ใŸๆˆฆ็•ฅใฏใ‚ใ‚Šใพใ—ใŸใ‹
16:21
conversation? If so,
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? ใ‚‚ใ—ใใ†ใชใ‚‰ใ€ใœใฒ
16:23
I would love for you to share that strategy with others here in the Confident
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ใใฎ ๆˆฆ็•ฅใ‚’ Confident English ใ‚ณใƒŸใƒฅใƒ‹ใƒ†ใ‚ฃใฎไป–ใฎไบบใจๅ…ฑๆœ‰ใ—ใฆใ„ใŸใ ใ‘ใ‚Œใฐๅนธใ„ใงใ™
16:28
English community. My second question is,
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ใ€‚ 2 ็•ช็›ฎใฎ่ณชๅ•ใฏใ€
16:31
based on what you've learned today,
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ไปŠๆ—ฅๅญฆใ‚“ใ ใ“ใจใซๅŸบใฅใ„ใฆใ€
16:34
how will you handle uncomfortable questions or topics of conversations going
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ไธๅฟซใช ่ณชๅ•ใ‚„ไผš่ฉฑใฎ่ฉฑ้กŒใซ
16:39
forward? As always,
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ไปŠๅพŒใฉใฎใ‚ˆใ†ใซๅฏพๅ‡ฆใ™ใ‚‹ใ‹ใจใ„ใ†ใ“ใจใงใ™ใ€‚ ใ„ใคใ‚‚ใฎใ‚ˆใ†ใซใ€ไปฅไธ‹ใฎใ‚ณใƒกใƒณใƒˆใ‚ปใ‚ฏใ‚ทใƒงใƒณใง
16:40
you can share your thoughts and questions with me in the comment section below.
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ใ”ๆ„่ฆ‹ใ‚„ใ”่ณชๅ•ใ‚’็งใจๅ…ฑๆœ‰ใ—ใฆใใ ใ•ใ„ ใ€‚
16:46
If you found today's lesson helpful, I would love to know,
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ไปŠๆ—ฅใฎใƒฌใƒƒใ‚นใƒณใŒๅฝนใซ็ซ‹ใฃใŸใจๆ€ใ‚ใ‚ŒใŸๅ ดๅˆใฏ ใ€ใœใฒใŠ็Ÿฅใ‚‰ใ›ใใ ใ•ใ„ใ€‚
16:49
and you can tell me in one super simple way.
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้žๅธธใซ็ฐกๅ˜ใชๆ–นๆณ•ใงๆ•™ใˆใฆใใ ใ•ใ„ใ€‚ YouTube ใง
16:52
Give this lesson a thumbs up here on YouTube, and while you're at it,
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ใ“ใฎใƒฌใƒƒใ‚นใƒณใซ้ซ˜่ฉ•ไพกใ‚’ไป˜ใ‘ใฆใใ ใ•ใ„ ใ€‚ใใฎ้–“ใ€
16:55
make sure you subscribe so you never miss one of my Confident English lessons.
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็งใฎ Confident English ใƒฌใƒƒใ‚นใƒณใ‚’่ฆ‹้€ƒใ•ใชใ„ใ‚ˆใ†ใซๅฟ…ใš็™ป้Œฒใ—ใฆใใ ใ•ใ„ใ€‚
17:00
Thank you so much for joining me, and I look forward to seeing you next time.
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ใ”ๅ‚ๅŠ ใ„ใŸใ ใ่ช ใซใ‚ใ‚ŠใŒใจใ†ใ”ใ–ใ„ใพใ—ใŸใ€‚ ๆฌกๅ›žใŠไผšใ„ใงใใ‚‹ใฎใ‚’ๆฅฝใ—ใฟใซใ—ใฆใ„ใพใ™ใ€‚
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