Polite English - Softening Your Message

142,344 views ใƒป 2011-01-17

Learn English with Rebecca


ไธ‹ใฎ่‹ฑ่ชžๅญ—ๅน•ใ‚’ใƒ€ใƒ–ใƒซใ‚ฏใƒชใƒƒใ‚ฏใ™ใ‚‹ใจๅ‹•็”ปใ‚’ๅ†็”Ÿใงใใพใ™ใ€‚ ็ฟป่จณใ•ใ‚ŒใŸๅญ—ๅน•ใฏๆฉŸๆขฐ็ฟป่จณใงใ™ใ€‚

00:00
Hi, my name is Rebecca and in today's video we're going to talk about how to communicate
0
0
12120
ใ“ใ‚“ใซใกใฏใ€็งใฎๅๅ‰ใฏใƒฌใƒ™ใƒƒใ‚ซใงใ™ใ€‚ไปŠๆ—ฅใฎใƒ“ใƒ‡ใ‚ชใงใฏใ€่‹ฑ่ชžใงใ‚ˆใ‚ŠๅŠนๆžœ็š„ใซใ‚ณใƒŸใƒฅใƒ‹ใ‚ฑใƒผใ‚ทใƒงใƒณใ‚’ใจใ‚‹ๆ–นๆณ•ใซใคใ„ใฆใŠ่ฉฑใ—ใ—ใพใ™
00:12
more effectively in English.
1
12120
2240
ใ€‚
00:14
Specifically, we're going to talk about how to warn your listener when you're about to
2
14360
6640
ๅ…ทไฝ“็š„ใซใฏใ€่žใๆ‰‹ใŒไฝ•ใ‹ใ‚’ๅฐ‹ใญใŸใ‚Š่จ€ใฃใŸใ‚Šใ—ใŸๅพŒใซๆ‚ชใ„็Ÿฅใ‚‰ใ›ใ‚’ไผใˆใ‚ˆใ†ใจใ—ใฆใ„ใ‚‹ใจใใซใ€่žใๆ‰‹ใซ่ญฆๅ‘Šใ™ใ‚‹ๆ–นๆณ•ใซใคใ„ใฆ่ชฌๆ˜Ž
00:21
give them some bad news after they have asked you something or said something to you.
3
21000
7160
ใ—ใพใ™ใ€‚
00:28
Now this situation may arise in a personal situation or in a professional context.
4
28160
6760
็พๅœจใ€ใ“ใฎ็Šถๆณใฏๅ€‹ไบบ็š„ใช็ŠถๆณใพใŸใฏๅฐ‚้–€็š„ใช็Šถๆณใง็™บ็”Ÿใ™ใ‚‹ๅฏ่ƒฝๆ€งใŒใ‚ใ‚Šใพใ™.
00:34
So we're going to give you some examples in both cases, alright?
5
34920
4840
ใใ‚Œใงใฏใ€ไธกๆ–นใฎใ‚ฑใƒผใ‚นใงใ„ใใคใ‹ใฎไพ‹ใ‚’ๆŒ™ใ’ใพใ—ใ‚‡ใ†ใ€‚
00:39
Let's look at the first one.
6
39760
1600
ๆœ€ๅˆใฎใ‚‚ใฎใ‚’่ฆ‹ใฆใฟใพใ—ใ‚‡ใ†ใ€‚
00:41
Let's say somebody asks you, "Do you like this dress on me?"
7
41360
5320
่ชฐใ‹ใŒใ‚ใชใŸใซใ€Œ็งใฎใ“ใฎใƒ‰ใƒฌใ‚นใฏๅฅฝใใงใ™ใ‹๏ผŸใ€ใจๅฐ‹ใญใŸใจใ—ใพใ—ใ‚‡ใ†ใ€‚
00:46
And actually you don't, right?
8
46680
2600
ใใ—ใฆใ€ๅฎŸ้š›ใซใฏใใ†ใงใฏใ‚ใ‚Šใพใ›ใ‚“ใ‚ˆใญ๏ผŸ
00:49
So we use certain key words before we start expressing our opinion to kind of warn the
9
49280
7520
ใใฎใŸใ‚ใ€ๆ„่ฆ‹ใ‚’่กจๆ˜Žใ™ใ‚‹ๅ‰ใซ็‰นๅฎšใฎใ‚ญใƒผใƒฏใƒผใƒ‰ใ‚’ไฝฟ็”จใ—ใฆใ€
00:56
listener that we're about to say something that they might not like to hear very much.
10
56800
5520
ใƒชใ‚นใƒŠใƒผใŒใ‚ใพใ‚Š่žใใŸใใชใ„ใ“ใจใ‚’่จ€ใŠใ†ใจใ—ใฆใ„ใ‚‹ใ“ใจใ‚’่ญฆๅ‘Šใ—ใพใ™ใ€‚
01:02
And we use these words just to soften the tone of our message because our message is
11
62320
6160
็งใŸใกใฎใƒกใƒƒใ‚ปใƒผใ‚ธใฏใ€็งใŸใกใŒ
01:08
communicated not only with the words we use and also with the tone that we express.
12
68480
6960
ไฝฟ็”จใ™ใ‚‹่จ€่‘‰ใ ใ‘ใงใชใใ€็งใŸใกใŒ่กจ็พใ™ใ‚‹ๅฃ่ชฟใงใ‚‚ไผใˆใ‚‰ใ‚Œใ‚‹ใŸใ‚ใ€็งใŸใกใฏใ“ใ‚Œใ‚‰ใฎ่จ€่‘‰ใ‚’ๅ˜ใซใƒกใƒƒใ‚ปใƒผใ‚ธใฎๅฃ่ชฟใ‚’ๅ’Œใ‚‰ใ’ใ‚‹ใŸใ‚ใซไฝฟ็”จใ—ใพใ™.
01:15
So if somebody asks you, "Do you like this dress on me?"
13
75440
4800
ใ‚‚ใ—่ชฐใ‹ใŒใ‚ใชใŸใซๅฐ‹ใญใŸใ‚‰ใ€ใ€Œใ‚ใชใŸใฏ็งใฎใ“ใฎใƒ‰ใƒฌใ‚นใŒๅฅฝใใงใ™ใ‹๏ผŸใ€
01:20
You could say, "Actually, I like the other one better." or you could say, "Well, I think
14
80240
9720
ใ€ŒๅฎŸใฏใ€็งใฏใ‚‚ใ†ไธ€ๆ–นใฎๆ–นใŒๅฅฝใใงใ™ใ€ใจ่จ€ใ†ใ“ใจใŒใงใใพใ™ใ€‚ ใพใŸใฏใ€ใ€Œใพใ‚ใ€
01:29
the other one makes you look taller." or "To be honest, I love that other one on you."
15
89960
9800
ใ‚‚ใ†ไธ€ๆ–นใฎๆ–นใŒ่ƒŒใŒ้ซ˜ใ่ฆ‹ใˆใ‚‹ใจๆ€ใ„ใพใ™ใ€ใจ่จ€ใ†ใ“ใจใŒใงใใพใ™ใ€‚ ใพใŸใฏใ€Œๆญฃ็›ดใซ่จ€ใ†ใจใ€ใ‚ใชใŸใฎไป–ใฎไบบใŒๅคงๅฅฝใใงใ™ใ€‚ใ€
01:39
Now in each of these cases, I didn't say even once that I don't like that on you.
16
99760
7560
ใ•ใฆใ€ใ“ใ‚Œใ‚‰ใฎใ‚ฑใƒผใ‚นใฎใใ‚Œใžใ‚Œใงใ€็งใฏใ‚ใชใŸใฎใ“ใจใ‚’ๅซŒใ„ใ ใจใฏไธ€ๅบฆใ‚‚่จ€ใ„ใพใ›ใ‚“ใงใ—ใŸ.
01:47
But I communicated the same idea by expressing it in a different way and by warning the listener
17
107320
7640
ใ—ใ‹ใ—ใ€็งใฏๅŒใ˜่€ƒใˆใ‚’ๅˆฅใฎๆ–นๆณ•ใง่กจ็พใ—ใ€
01:54
that I was going to give an opinion which perhaps is not the most positive one that
18
114960
5600
ใŠใใ‚‰ใๅฝผใ‚‰ใŒ่žใใŸใ„ใจๆ€ใฃใฆใ„ใŸๆœ€ใ‚‚่‚ฏๅฎš็š„ใชๆ„่ฆ‹ใงใฏใชใ„ๆ„่ฆ‹ใ‚’่ฟฐในใ‚ˆใ†ใจใ—ใฆใ„ใ‚‹ใจใƒชใ‚นใƒŠใƒผใซ่ญฆๅ‘Šใ™ใ‚‹ใ“ใจใงใ€ๅŒใ˜่€ƒใˆใ‚’ไผใˆใพใ—ใŸ
02:00
they were hoping to hear, okay?
19
120560
3280
ใ€‚
02:03
Let's look at how this might occur in a professional context.
20
123840
4680
ใ“ใ‚ŒใŒๅฐ‚้–€็š„ใชๆ–‡่„ˆใงใฉใฎใ‚ˆใ†ใซ็™บ็”Ÿใ™ใ‚‹ใ‹ใ‚’่ฆ‹ใฆใฟใพใ—ใ‚‡ใ†ใ€‚
02:08
Let's suppose you're asked, "What do you think of my proposal?"
21
128520
4400
ใ€Œ็งใฎๆๆกˆใซใคใ„ใฆใฉใ†ๆ€ใ„ใพใ™ใ‹?ใ€ใจ่žใ‹ใ‚ŒใŸใจใ—ใพใ—ใ‚‡ใ†ใ€‚
02:12
And you really don't like the proposal.
22
132920
2200
ใใ—ใฆใ€ใ‚ใชใŸใฏใใฎๆๆกˆใŒๆœฌๅฝ“ใซๅฅฝใใงใฏใ‚ใ‚Šใพใ›ใ‚“ใ€‚
02:15
You don't agree with it.
23
135120
1920
ใ‚ใชใŸใฏใใ‚ŒใซๅŒๆ„ใ—ใพใ›ใ‚“ใ€‚
02:17
So you could say, again, "With respect, I think this proposal would not be effective
24
137040
7360
ใงใ™ใ‹ใ‚‰ใ€ใ€Œๆ•ฌๆ„ใ‚’่กจใ—ใฆใ€ใ“ใฎๆๆกˆใฏ็งใŸใกใฎ็›ฎๆจ™ใ‚’้”ๆˆใ™ใ‚‹ใฎใซๅŠนๆžœ็š„ใงใฏใชใ„ใจๆ€ใ„ใพใ™ใ€ใจ่จ€ใ†ใ“ใจใŒใงใใพใ™
02:24
in helping us achieve our goals."
25
144400
2120
ใ€‚
02:26
Okay?
26
146520
1000
ใ‚ใ‹ใฃใŸ๏ผŸ
02:27
You see how it's being used in a professional context?
27
147520
3400
ใƒ—ใƒญใฎๆ–‡่„ˆใงใใ‚ŒใŒใฉใฎใ‚ˆใ†ใซไฝฟ็”จใ•ใ‚Œใฆใ„ใ‚‹ใ‹ใŒใ‚ใ‹ใ‚Šใพใ™ใ‹๏ผŸ
02:30
The language is a little bit more formal.
28
150920
2560
่จ€่ชžใฏใ‚‚ใ†ๅฐ‘ใ—ๅฝขๅผ็š„ใงใ™ใ€‚
02:33
So some of these will work more effectively in the professional context.
29
153480
4560
ใ—ใŸใŒใฃใฆใ€ใ“ใ‚Œใ‚‰ใฎใ„ใใคใ‹ใฏใ€ๅฐ‚้–€็š„ใชๆ–‡่„ˆใงใ‚ˆใ‚ŠๅŠนๆžœ็š„ใซๆฉŸ่ƒฝใ—ใพใ™.
02:38
You could say, "Actually" or "Well" or "To be honest, also."
30
158040
5280
ใ€ŒๅฎŸ้š›ใซใ€ใพใŸใฏใ€Œใพใ‚ใ€ใพใŸใฏใ€Œๆญฃ็›ดใซ่จ€ใ†ใจใ€ใจ่จ€ใ†ใ“ใจใŒใงใใพใ™ใ€‚
02:43
These are just a little more formal, okay?
31
163320
2960
ใ“ใ‚Œใ‚‰ใฏใ‚‚ใ†ๅฐ‘ใ—ใƒ•ใ‚ฉใƒผใƒžใƒซใงใ™ใ‚ˆใญ๏ผŸ
02:46
You could also say, "Do you think this proposal is very effective?"
32
166280
4400
ใพใŸใ€ใ€Œใ“ใฎๆๆกˆใฏ้žๅธธใซๅŠนๆžœ็š„ใ ใจๆ€ใ„ใพใ™ใ‹?ใ€ใจ่จ€ใ†ใ“ใจใŒใงใใพใ™ใ€‚
02:50
"Well, as a matter of fact, I think it will not achieve our objectives."
33
170680
6680
ใ€Œใพใ‚ใ€ๅฎŸ้š›ใฎใจใ“ใ‚ใ€ใใ‚Œใงใฏๆˆ‘ใ€…ใฎ็›ฎ็š„ใฏ้”ๆˆใงใใชใ„ใจๆ€ใ„ใพใ™ใ€
02:57
Or you could say, "Frankly, I don't think this proposal would help us to achieve our
34
177360
6720
ใพใŸใฏใ€ใ€Œ็Ž‡็›ดใซ่จ€ใฃใฆใ€ใ“ใฎๆๆกˆใŒ็›ฎ็š„ใฎ้”ๆˆใซๅฝน็ซ‹ใคใจใฏๆ€ใ‚ใชใ„ใ€ใจ่จ€ใ†ใ“ใจใŒใงใใพใ™
03:04
objectives."
35
184080
1000
ใ€‚
03:05
Okay?
36
185080
1000
ใ‚ใ‹ใฃใŸ๏ผŸ
03:06
So, by using a few words like this in the beginning of your sentence, you're warning
37
186080
6120
ใ—ใŸใŒใฃใฆใ€ใ“ใฎใ‚ˆใ†ใชๅ˜่ชžใ‚’ๆ–‡ใฎๅ†’้ ญใซไฝฟ็”จใ™ใ‚‹ใ“ใจใง
03:12
your listener and preparing them to hear something which they may not be very comfortable hearing.
38
192200
6360
ใ€่žใๆ‰‹ใซ่ญฆๅ‘Šใ‚’็™บใ—ใ€่žใๅ–ใ‚Šใซใใ„ๅ†…ๅฎนใ‚’่žใๆบ–ๅ‚™ใ‚’ใ™ใ‚‹ใ“ใจใŒใงใใพใ™ใ€‚
03:18
And that's our way of being kind, okay?
39
198560
2960
ใใ‚ŒใŒ็งใŸใกใฎ่ฆชๅˆ‡ใชใ‚„ใ‚Šๆ–นใงใ™ใ‚ˆใญ๏ผŸ
03:21
I hope this lesson has helped you, and I wish you all the best in communicating your messages
40
201520
5080
ใ“ใฎใƒฌใƒƒใ‚นใƒณใŒใ‚ใชใŸใฎใŠๅฝนใซ็ซ‹ใฆใฐๅนธใ„ใงใ™ใ€‚ใพใŸ
03:26
to whatever audience you have, in a personal or in a professional context.
41
206600
4920
ใ€ๅ€‹ไบบ็š„ใพใŸใฏๅฐ‚้–€็š„ใชๆ–‡่„ˆใงใ€ใ‚ใชใŸใŒใฉใ‚“ใช่ด่ก†ใซใƒกใƒƒใ‚ปใƒผใ‚ธใ‚’ไผใˆใ‚‹ใฎใซใ‚‚ๆœ€ๅ–„ใ‚’ๅฐฝใใ™ใ“ใจใ‚’้ก˜ใฃใฆใ„ใพใ™.
03:31
If you'd like to do a little quiz on this, please visit our website, www.engvid.com.
42
211520
6920
ใ“ใ‚Œใซใคใ„ใฆใกใ‚‡ใฃใจใ—ใŸใ‚ฏใ‚คใ‚บใ‚’ใ—ใŸใ„ๅ ดๅˆใฏใ€ๅฝ“็คพใฎใ‚ฆใ‚งใƒ–ใ‚ตใ‚คใƒˆ www.engvid.com ใซใ‚ขใ‚ฏใ‚ปใ‚นใ—ใฆใใ ใ•ใ„ใ€‚
03:38
Okay?
43
218440
1000
ใ‚ใ‹ใฃใŸ๏ผŸ
03:39
Thanks very much.
44
219440
1000
ใฉใ†ใ‚‚ใ‚ใ‚ŠใŒใจใ†ใ€‚
03:40
Bye for now.
45
220440
1000
ใพใŸใญใ€‚
03:41
[pause]
46
221440
1000
[ไธ€ๆ™‚ๅœๆญข]
03:42
[end of transcript]
47
222440
29000
[ๆ›ธใ่ตทใ“ใ—ใฎ็ต‚ใ‚ใ‚Š]
ใ“ใฎใ‚ฆใ‚งใƒ–ใ‚ตใ‚คใƒˆใซใคใ„ใฆ

ใ“ใฎใ‚ตใ‚คใƒˆใงใฏ่‹ฑ่ชžๅญฆ็ฟ’ใซๅฝน็ซ‹ใคYouTubeๅ‹•็”ปใ‚’็ดนไป‹ใ—ใพใ™ใ€‚ไธ–็•Œไธญใฎไธ€ๆต่ฌ›ๅธซใซใ‚ˆใ‚‹่‹ฑ่ชžใƒฌใƒƒใ‚นใƒณใ‚’่ฆ‹ใ‚‹ใ“ใจใŒใงใใพใ™ใ€‚ๅ„ใƒ“ใƒ‡ใ‚ชใฎใƒšใƒผใ‚ธใซ่กจ็คบใ•ใ‚Œใ‚‹่‹ฑ่ชžๅญ—ๅน•ใ‚’ใƒ€ใƒ–ใƒซใ‚ฏใƒชใƒƒใ‚ฏใ™ใ‚‹ใจใ€ใใ“ใ‹ใ‚‰ใƒ“ใƒ‡ใ‚ชใ‚’ๅ†็”Ÿใ™ใ‚‹ใ“ใจใŒใงใใพใ™ใ€‚ๅญ—ๅน•ใฏใƒ“ใƒ‡ใ‚ชใฎๅ†็”ŸใจๅŒๆœŸใ—ใฆใ‚นใ‚ฏใƒญใƒผใƒซใ—ใพใ™ใ€‚ใ”ๆ„่ฆ‹ใƒปใ”่ฆๆœ›ใŒใ”ใ–ใ„ใพใ—ใŸใ‚‰ใ€ใ“ใกใ‚‰ใฎใŠๅ•ใ„ๅˆใ‚ใ›ใƒ•ใ‚ฉใƒผใƒ ใ‚ˆใ‚Šใ”้€ฃ็ตกใใ ใ•ใ„ใ€‚

https://forms.gle/WvT1wiN1qDtmnspy7