English Conversation Skills: 12 methods to persuade and convince people

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ไธ‹ใฎ่‹ฑ่ชžๅญ—ๅน•ใ‚’ใƒ€ใƒ–ใƒซใ‚ฏใƒชใƒƒใ‚ฏใ™ใ‚‹ใจๅ‹•็”ปใ‚’ๅ†็”Ÿใงใใพใ™ใ€‚ ็ฟป่จณใ•ใ‚ŒใŸๅญ—ๅน•ใฏๆฉŸๆขฐ็ฟป่จณใงใ™ใ€‚

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Hi.
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Welcome back to engVid.
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Today's lesson we are looking at persuasive devices; such a useful skill for so many different
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ไปŠๆ—ฅใฎใƒฌใƒƒใ‚นใƒณใงใฏใ€่ชฌๅพ—ๅŠ›ใฎใ‚ใ‚‹ใƒ‡ใƒใ‚คใ‚นใ‚’่ฆ‹ใฆใ„ใ ใพใ™ใ€‚ ไบบ็”Ÿใฎใ•ใพใ–ใพใชใ“ใจใซๅฝน็ซ‹ใคใ‚นใ‚ญใƒซใงใ™
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things in life.
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Maybe it's at the... at work, maybe it's doing a presentation at work, maybe you're persuading
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ๅคšๅˆ†ใใ‚Œใฏ... ่ทๅ ดใงใ€่ทๅ ดใง ใƒ—ใƒฌใ‚ผใƒณใƒ†ใƒผใ‚ทใƒงใƒณใ‚’ใ—ใฆใ„ใ‚‹ใ‹ใ‚‚ใ—ใ‚Œใพใ›ใ‚“ใ€ๅคšๅˆ†ใ‚ใชใŸใฏ่ฆ–็‚นใฎๅ‹ไบบใ‚’่ชฌๅพ—ใ—ใฆใ„ใ‚‹ใ‹ใ‚‚ใ—ใ‚Œใพใ›ใ‚“
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a friend of a point of view - this lesson could come in handy, whoever you are.
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-ใ“ใฎใƒฌใƒƒใ‚นใƒณ ใฏใ‚ใชใŸใŒ่ชฐใงใ‚ใ‚ใ†ใจๅฝนใซ็ซ‹ใกใพใ™.
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We're looking at twelve persuasive devices.
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็งใŸใกใฏ12ใฎ่ชฌๅพ—ๅŠ›ใฎใ‚ใ‚‹ใƒ‡ใƒใ‚คใ‚นใ‚’่ฆ‹ใฆใ„ใพใ™.
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Today's situation: So, I'm flying to India on Saturday and I want to get an upgrade from
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ไปŠๆ—ฅใฎ็Šถๆณ: ๅœŸๆ›œๆ—ฅใซใ‚คใƒณใƒ‰ ใซ่กŒใใฎใงใ€้€šๅธธใฎใ‚จใ‚ณใƒŽใƒŸใƒผใ‚ฏใƒฉใ‚นใ‹ใ‚‰ใƒ•ใ‚กใƒผใ‚นใƒˆใ‚ฏใƒฉใ‚นใซใ‚ขใƒƒใƒ—ใ‚ฐใƒฌใƒผใƒ‰ใ—ใŸใ„ใจๆ€ใฃใฆใ„ใพใ™
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normal economy class up to first class.
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So, let's see how we can use these persuasive techniques to achieve that goal.
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ใใ‚Œใงใฏใ€ใ“ใ‚Œใ‚‰ใฎ่ชฌๅพ—ๅŠ›ใฎใ‚ใ‚‹ ๆ‰‹ๆณ•ใ‚’ไฝฟ็”จใ—ใฆใใฎ็›ฎๆจ™ใ‚’้”ๆˆใ™ใ‚‹ๆ–นๆณ•ใ‚’่ฆ‹ใฆใฟใพใ—ใ‚‡ใ†ใ€‚
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First off: Empathy.
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ใพใšใ€ๅ…ฑๆ„Ÿใ€‚
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Empathy is getting someone to see your point of view; getting someone to understand where
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ๅ…ฑๆ„Ÿใจใฏใ€่ชฐใ‹ใซใ‚ใชใŸใฎ่ฆ–็‚นใ‚’็†่งฃใ—ใฆใ‚‚ใ‚‰ใ†ใ“ใจ ใงใ™ใ€‚ ใ‚ใชใŸใŒใฉใ“ใ‹ใ‚‰ๆฅใŸใฎใ‹ใ‚’่ชฐใ‹ใซ็†่งฃใ—ใฆ
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you are coming from; get them to see your POV. (short for point of view).
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ใ‚‚ใ‚‰ใ†ใ€‚ ๅฝผใ‚‰ใซใ‚ใชใŸใฎPOVใ‚’่ฆ‹ใฆใ‚‚ใ‚‰ใ„ใพใ—ใ‚‡ใ† ใ€‚ ๏ผˆ่ฆ–็‚นใฎ็•ฅ๏ผ‰ใ€‚
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So, my example that I have come up with: "You must understand, our baby won't sleep
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ใใ‚Œใงใ€็งใŒๆ€ใ„ใคใ„ใŸ็งใฎไพ‹ใฏๆฌกใฎ
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if we are in the economy section."
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ใจใŠใ‚Šใงใ™ใ€‚
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I'm getting the person to try and see things from my side.
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็งใฏใใฎไบบใซ ็งใฎๅดใ‹ใ‚‰็‰ฉไบ‹ใ‚’่ฆ‹ใฆใ‚‚ใ‚‰ใ„ใพใ™ใ€‚
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Next technique: Shock - suddenly get their attention; surprise them.
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ๆฌกใฎใƒ†ใ‚ฏใƒ‹ใƒƒใ‚ฏ: ใ‚ทใƒงใƒƒใ‚ฏ - ็ช็„ถ ๆณจๆ„ใ‚’ๅผ•ใใพใ™ใ€‚ ๅฝผใ‚‰ใ‚’้ฉšใ‹ใ›ใพใ™ใ€‚
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"He's smashing the door!
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ใ€Œๅฝผใฏใƒ‰ใ‚ขใ‚’ๅฃŠใ—ใฆใ„ใ‚‹!
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He's going to go mental!
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ๅฝผใฏ็ฒพ็ฅž็š„
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He's going to cause chaos!
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ใซใชใ‚‹ใ ใ‚ใ†! ๅฝผใฏๆททไนฑใ‚’ๅผ•ใ่ตทใ“ใ™
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There will be a crash!
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ใ ใ‚ใ†! ใ‚ฏใƒฉใƒƒใ‚ทใƒฅใŒ็™บ็”Ÿใ—ใพใ™!
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We will all die!"
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็งใŸใกใฏ็š†ๆญปใฌใงใ—ใ‚‡ใ†!ใ€
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Okay?
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ใ‚ใ‹ใฃใŸ๏ผŸ
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Surprise them.
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ๅฝผใ‚‰ใ‚’้ฉšใ‹ใ›ใฆใใ ใ•ใ„ใ€‚
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Twist: Get them to suddenly see things from a new point of view; get them to rethink.
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ใƒ„ใ‚คใ‚นใƒˆ: ็ช็„ถๆ–ฐใ—ใ„่ฆ–็‚นใ‹ใ‚‰็‰ฉไบ‹ใ‚’่ฆ‹ใฆใ‚‚ใ‚‰ใ„ ใพใ™ใ€‚ ๅฝผใ‚‰ใซ่€ƒใˆ็›ดใ—ใฆใ‚‚ใ‚‰ใ„ใพใ™ใ€‚
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For example: "Do you want your passengers to be screamed
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ไพ‹: ใ€Œไน—ๅฎข
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at for 10 hours?"
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ใ‚’ 10 ๆ™‚้–“ๆ€’้ณดใ‚‰ใ›ใŸใ„ใงใ™ใ‹?ใ€
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Okay?
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ใ‚ใ‹ใฃใŸ๏ผŸ
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Flip it over.
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ใฒใฃใใ‚Š่ฟ”ใ—ใฆใใ ใ•ใ„ใ€‚
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Emotive.
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ๆ„Ÿๆƒ…็š„ใ€‚
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So, we can see in here the word... well, the word "emotion" - this is obviously going to
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ใ“ใ“ใซ ใ€Œๆ„Ÿๆƒ…ใ€ใจใ„ใ†่จ€่‘‰ใŒใ‚ใ‚Šใพใ™ใŒใ€ใ“ใ‚Œใฏๆ˜Žใ‚‰ใ‹
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be about feeling.
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ใซๆ„Ÿๆƒ…ใซ้–ขใ™ใ‚‹ใ‚‚ใฎใงใ™ใ€‚
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Okay?
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ใ‚ใ‹ใฃใŸ๏ผŸ
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Get them to feel sorry for you.
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ๅฝผใ‚‰ใซใ‚ใชใŸใ‚’ๆฐ—ใฎๆฏ’ใซๆ€ใฃใฆใ‚‚ใ‚‰ใ„ใพใ—ใ‚‡ใ†ใ€‚
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Sell a bit of a sub-story; use those emotive words, those feelings that have strong emotions.
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ใ‚ตใƒ–ใ‚นใƒˆใƒผใƒชใƒผใ‚’ๅฐ‘ใ—ๅฃฒใ‚Šใพใ™ใ€‚ ใใ‚Œใ‚‰ใฎๆ„Ÿๆƒ…็š„ใช ่จ€่‘‰ใ€ๅผทใ„ๆ„Ÿๆƒ…ใ‚’ๆŒใฃใŸๆ„Ÿๆƒ…ใ‚’ไฝฟ็”จใ—ใฆใใ ใ•ใ„ใ€‚
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ใ‚ใ‹ใฃใŸ๏ผŸ
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Get them to feel sorry for you.
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ๅฝผใ‚‰ใซใ‚ใชใŸใ‚’ๆฐ—ใฎๆฏ’ใซๆ€ใฃใฆใ‚‚ใ‚‰ใ„ใพใ—ใ‚‡ใ†ใ€‚
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"My tired, sleep-deprived family."
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ใ€Œ็งใฎ็–ฒใ‚ŒใŸใ€็ก็œ ไธ่ถณใฎๅฎถๆ—ใ€‚ใ€
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Okay?
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ใ‚ใ‹ใฃใŸ๏ผŸ
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So I'm laying on the description to try and get them feel sorry.
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ใ ใ‹ใ‚‰็งใฏ ๅฝผใ‚‰ใซ็”ณใ—่จณใชใๆ€ใฃใฆใ‚‚ใ‚‰ใ†ใŸใ‚ใซ่ชฌๆ˜Žใ‚’ๆ›ธใ„ใฆใ„ใพใ™ใ€‚
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It kinds of leads into this next point of: Get them to feel guilty if they don't help.
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ใใ‚Œใฏใ€ๆฌกใฎใƒใ‚คใƒณใƒˆใซใคใชใŒใ‚‹ ใ‚ˆใ†ใชใ‚‚ใฎใงใ™ใ€‚ๅฝผใ‚‰ใŒๅŠฉใ‘ใฆใใ‚Œใชใ„ๅ ดๅˆใ€ๅฝผใ‚‰ใซ็ฝชๆ‚ชๆ„Ÿใ‚’ๆ„Ÿใ˜ใ•ใ›ใ‚‹.
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"I'm just asking for a chance of calming this baby down."
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ใ€Œใ“ใฎ่ตคใกใ‚ƒใ‚“ใ‚’่ฝใก็€ใ‹ใ›ใ‚‹ๆฉŸไผšใ‚’ๆฑ‚ใ‚ใฆใ„ใ‚‹ใ ใ‘ใงใ™ ใ€‚ใ€
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Okay?
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ใ‚ใ‹ใฃใŸ๏ผŸ
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"I'm just", so: "Poor, old me, just asking for a little bit of help."
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ใ€Œ็งใฏใŸใ ใ€ใ€ใ ใ‹ใ‚‰๏ผšใ€Œใ‹ใ‚ใ„ใใ†ใชใ€ๅคใ„็ง ใ€ใกใ‚‡ใฃใจๅŠฉใ‘ใ‚’ๆฑ‚ใ‚ใฆใ„ใ‚‹ใ ใ‘ใงใ™ใ€‚ใ€
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Okay?
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So, we're getting them on our side; maybe shock, maybe twisting it around, and then
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ใ ใ‹ใ‚‰ใ€็งใŸใกใฏๅฝผใ‚‰ใ‚’ๅ‘ณๆ–นใซใคใ‘ใฆใ„ใพใ™ใ€‚ ใ‚ทใƒงใƒƒใ‚ฏใ‹ใ‚‚ใ—ใ‚Œใพใ›ใ‚“ใ—ใ€ใฒใญใ‚Šใ‚’ๅŠ ใˆใŸใ‚Šใ€
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really laying on the emotion so they're really understanding this point.
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ๅฎŸ้š›ใซๆ„Ÿๆƒ…ใ‚’่กจ็พใ—ใŸใ‚Šใ™ใ‚‹ใ“ใจใงใ€ๅฝผใ‚‰ใฏ ใ“ใฎ็‚นใ‚’ๆœฌๅฝ“ใซ็†่งฃใ—ใฆใ„ใพใ™ใ€‚
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I'm not saying that all of these persuasive devices have equal merit.
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ใ“ใ‚Œใ‚‰ใฎ่ชฌๅพ—ๅŠ›ใฎใ‚ใ‚‹ๆ‰‹ๆฎตใฎใ™ในใฆใซๅŒ็ญ‰ใฎใƒกใƒชใƒƒใƒˆใŒใ‚ใ‚‹ใจ่จ€ใฃใฆใ„ใ‚‹ใ‚ใ‘ใงใฏใ‚ใ‚Šใพใ›ใ‚“ ใ€‚
02:55
Okay?
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ใ‚ใ‹ใฃใŸ๏ผŸ
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There are some that are better to use; there are some you use more in an extreme situation.
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ใ‚ˆใ‚Šไฝฟใ„ใ‚„ใ™ใ„ใ‚‚ใฎใ‚‚ใ‚ใ‚Šใพใ™ใ€‚ ๆฅต็ซฏใช็Šถๆณใงใ‚‚ใฃใจไฝฟ็”จใ™ใ‚‹ใ‚‚ใฎใŒใ‚ใ‚Šใพใ™ใ€‚
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Okay?
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ใ‚ใ‹ใฃใŸ๏ผŸ
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Obviously the strongest thing when you're being persuasive is to make sure that your...
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ใ‚ใชใŸใŒ่ชฌๅพ—ๅŠ›ใ‚’ๆŒใฃใฆใ„ใ‚‹ใจใใ€ๆ˜Žใ‚‰ใ‹ใซๆœ€ใ‚‚ๅผทๅŠ›ใชใ“ใจใฏ ใ€ใ‚ใชใŸใฎ...
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your ideas, your reasons are really strong; the device is kind of the cream on the cake.
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ใ‚ใชใŸใฎ่€ƒใˆใ€ใ‚ใชใŸใฎ็†็”ฑใŒๆœฌๅฝ“ใซๅผทๅŠ›ใงใ‚ใ‚‹ใ“ใจใ‚’็ขบ่ชใ™ใ‚‹ใ“ใจใงใ™ใ€‚ ใƒ‡ใƒใ‚คใ‚นใฏใ‚ฑใƒผใ‚ญใฎไธŠใฎใ‚ฏใƒชใƒผใƒ ใฎใ‚ˆใ†ใชใ‚‚ใฎใงใ™ใ€‚
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Flattery - another quite naughty technique.
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ใŠไธ–่พž - ใ‚‚ใ†1ใคใฎ้žๅธธใซใ„ใŸใšใ‚‰ใชใƒ†ใ‚ฏใƒ‹ใƒƒใ‚ฏใ€‚
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This is where you are paying compliments.
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ใ“ใ‚Œใฏใ‚ใชใŸใŒ่ณ›่พžใ‚’ๆ‰•ใฃใฆใ„ใ‚‹ใจใ“ใ‚ใงใ™ใ€‚
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You may wish after this video to watch a couple of my other videos, which I've made on compliments
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ใ“ใฎใƒ“ใƒ‡ใ‚ชใฎๅพŒใซ ใ€็งใŒ่ณ›่พžใจๆ‰นๅˆคใ‚’่พผใ‚ใฆไฝœๆˆใ—ใŸไป–ใฎใ„ใใคใ‹ใฎใƒ“ใƒ‡ใ‚ชใ‚’ใ”่ฆงใซใชใ‚‹ใ“ใจใ‚’ใŠๅ‹งใ‚ใ—ใพใ™
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and criticism.
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03:29
So, flattery.
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03:30
An example, here: "A professional person like you, understanding...
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ไพ‹ใ‚’ๆฌกใซ็คบใ—ใพใ™ใ€‚ ใ€Œใ‚ใชใŸใฎใ‚ˆใ†ใชๅฐ‚้–€ๅฎถใงใ‚ใ‚Šใ€็†่งฃใฎใ‚ใ‚‹... ใ‚ใชใŸใฎ
03:37
a professional, understanding person like you must see that it's clearly the right thing
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ใ‚ˆใ†ใชๅฐ‚้–€ๅฎถใง็†่งฃใฎใ‚ใ‚‹ไบบ
03:44
to do to put us in the first-class section of the plane."
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ใฏใ€็งใŸใกใ‚’้ฃ›่กŒๆฉŸใฎใƒ•ใ‚กใƒผใ‚นใƒˆใ‚ฏใƒฉใ‚นใฎใ‚ปใ‚ฏใ‚ทใƒงใƒณใซๅ…ฅใ‚Œใ‚‹ใ“ใจใŒๆ˜Žใ‚‰ใ‹ใซๆญฃใ—ใ„ใ“ใจใงใ‚ใ‚‹ใ“ใจใ‚’็†่งฃใ™ใ‚‹ๅฟ…่ฆใŒใ‚ใ‚Šใพใ™ ใ€‚ใ€
03:50
If they don't do that, maybe you can threaten them.
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ๅฝผใ‚‰ใŒใใ‚Œใ‚’ใ—ใชใ„ๅ ดๅˆใ€ใŠใใ‚‰ใใ‚ใชใŸใฏๅฝผใ‚‰ใ‚’่„…ใ‹ใ™ใ“ใจใŒใงใ ใพใ™.
03:53
So, threat is where you say something, and if they don't do that, it's going to be trouble.
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ใคใพใ‚Šใ€่„…ๅจใฏใ‚ใชใŸใŒไฝ•ใ‹ใ‚’่จ€ใ†ใจใ“ใ‚ใซใ‚ใ‚Š ใ€ๅฝผใ‚‰ใŒใใ‚Œใ‚’ใ—ใชใ‘ใ‚Œใฐใ€ๅ•้กŒใซใชใ‚‹ใงใ—ใ‚‡ใ†ใ€‚
04:00
Threat.
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่„…ๅจใ€‚
04:01
Example: "Let me talk to your boss."
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ไพ‹๏ผš ใ€Œใ‚ใชใŸใฎไธŠๅธใจ่ฉฑใ•ใ›ใฆใใ ใ•ใ„ใ€‚ใ€
04:04
Okay?
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04:06
"Let me talk to your boss."
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ใ€Œใ‚ใชใŸใฎไธŠๅธใจ่ฉฑใ•ใ›ใฆใใ ใ•ใ„ใ€‚ใ€
04:08
If they don't do something, there's going to be a consequence.
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ๅฝผใ‚‰ใŒไฝ•ใ‹ใ‚’ใ—ใชใ‘ใ‚Œ ใฐใ€็ตๆžœใŒ็”Ÿใ˜ใ‚‹ใงใ—ใ‚‡ใ†ใ€‚
04:14
Rule of 3 - now, we saw this in the Shakespeare, I think it was the insults lesson where we
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3 ใฎใƒซใƒผใƒซ - ไปŠใ€ใ‚ทใ‚งใ‚คใ‚ฏใ‚นใƒ”ใ‚ขใงใ“ใ‚Œใ‚’่ฆ‹ใพใ—ใŸ ใ€‚็งใŸใกใŒๆŒใฃใฆใ„ใ‚‹ใฎใฏไพฎ่พฑใฎใƒฌใƒƒใ‚นใƒณใ ใฃใŸใจๆ€ใ„
04:21
have... actually, no, it was the Shakespeare compliments, the Shakespeare chat-up lines
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ใพใ™...ๅฎŸ้š›ใ€ใ„ใ‚„ใ€ใใ‚Œใฏใ‚ทใ‚งใ‚คใ‚ฏใ‚นใƒ”ใ‚ขใฎ่ค’ใ‚่จ€่‘‰ใงใ—ใŸใ€‚
04:26
where we have three things in a row.
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04:29
The rule of 3, it's a list of three reasons or qualities.
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3 ใฎใƒซใƒผใƒซใ€ใใ‚Œใฏ 3 ใคใฎ็†็”ฑ ใพใŸใฏ่ณ‡่ณชใฎใƒชใ‚นใƒˆใงใ™ใ€‚
04:34
Okay?
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04:35
I don't just say it once; I say it twice, and then three times: "I came, I saw, I conquered."
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ไธ€ๅบฆใ ใ‘ใงใฏใ‚ใ‚Šใพใ›ใ‚“ใ€‚ ็งใฏใใ‚Œใ‚’ 2 ๅ›ž่จ€ใ„ ใ€ใใ‚Œใ‹ใ‚‰ 3 ๅ›ž่จ€ใ„ใพใ™ใ€‚ใ€ŒๆฅใŸใ€่ฆ‹ใŸใ€ๅพๆœใ—ใŸใ€ใ€‚
04:40
Or the French motto: "Equality, liberty, fraternity", but in French, obviously.
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ใพใŸใฏใƒ•ใƒฉใƒณใ‚น่ชžใฎใƒขใƒƒใƒˆใƒผใ€Œๅนณ็ญ‰ใ€่‡ช็”ฑใ€ๅ‹ๆ„›ใ€ใงใ™ ใŒใ€ๆ˜Žใ‚‰ใ‹ใซใƒ•ใƒฉใƒณใ‚น่ชžใงใ™ใ€‚
04:47
Okay, so the rule of 3.
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ใงใฏใ€3 ใฎใƒซใƒผใƒซใงใ™ใ€‚
04:49
My example in this situation: "It would provide reassurance, comfort, and
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ใ“ใฎ็Šถๆณใงใฎ็งใฎไพ‹: ใ€Œๅฎ‰ๅฟƒใ€ๅฟซ้ฉใ€ใ‚ตใƒใƒผใƒˆใ‚’ๆไพ›ใ—ใพใ™
04:57
support."
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04:58
So, when we reassure, we are putting that good feeling back into someone.
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ใงใ™ใ‹ใ‚‰ใ€็งใŸใกใŒๅฎ‰ๅฟƒใ™ใ‚‹ใจใใ€็งใŸใกใฏใใฎ ่‰ฏใ„ๆฐ—ๆŒใกใ‚’่ชฐใ‹ใซๆˆปใ—ใฆใ„ใพใ™.
05:07
Yeah?
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05:08
"Re" - back in; when you assure, you're telling someone it's okay.
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ใ€Œๅ†ใ€ - ๆˆปใ‚‹ใ€‚ ใ‚ใชใŸใŒไฟ่จผใ™ใ‚‹ใจใใ€ใ‚ใชใŸใฏ ่ชฐใ‹ใซๅคงไธˆๅคซใ ใจ่จ€ใฃใฆใ„ใพใ™ใ€‚
05:12
When we feel reassured, we're feeling okay again.
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ๅฎ‰ๅฟƒใ™ใ‚‹ใจใ€ๅ†ใณๅคงไธˆๅคซใ ใจๆ„Ÿใ˜ใพใ™ ใ€‚
05:16
Comfort, support.
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ๅฟซ้ฉใ•ใ€ใ‚ตใƒใƒผใƒˆใ€‚
05:18
Okay?
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05:19
They're all three quite similar words, but the rule of 3, I'm just saying it in a slightly
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ใ‚ˆใไผผใŸ3ใคใฎ่จ€่‘‰ใงใ™ใŒ ใ€3ใฎๆณ•ๅ‰‡ใ€ๆฏŽๅ›žๅฐ‘ใ—ใšใค่จ€ใ„ๆ–นใ‚’ๅค‰ใˆใฆใ„ใ‚‹ใ ใ‘ใงใ™
05:23
different way each time.
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05:25
A rhetorical question.
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05:27
A rhetorical question is a question that does not expect an answer.
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ไฟฎ่พž็š„ใช่ณชๅ•ใจใฏใ€็ญ”ใˆใ‚’ ๆœŸๅพ…ใ—ใชใ„่ณชๅ•ใงใ™ใ€‚
05:33
Example: "Surely you can help me?"
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ไพ‹๏ผš ใ€Œใใฃใจ็งใ‚’ๅŠฉใ‘ใฆใใ‚Œใพใ™ใ‹๏ผŸใ€
05:38
So, a rhetorical question is quite... quite a nice way of having a change in an argument;
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ใ—ใŸใŒใฃใฆใ€ไฟฎ่พž็š„ใช่ณชๅ•ใฏ้žๅธธใซ... ่ญฐ่ซ–ใ‚’ๅค‰ใˆใ‚‹้žๅธธใซ่‰ฏใ„ๆ–นๆณ•ใงใ™ใ€‚
05:47
you're coming up with these different reasons - the rhetorical question puts a pause in
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ใ‚ใชใŸใฏใ“ใ‚Œใ‚‰ใฎใ•ใพใ–ใพใช็†็”ฑใ‚’ๆ€ใ„ใคใ„ใฆใ„ใพใ™ - ไฟฎ่พž็š„ใช่ณชๅ•ใฏไธ€ๆ™‚ๅœๆญขใ—
05:52
because it's: "Well, where's the answer?"
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ใพใ™.
05:55
Repetition: "Please, please help."
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็นฐใ‚Š่ฟ”ใ—: ใ€ŒใŠ้ก˜ใ„ใ—ใพใ™ใ€ๅŠฉใ‘ใฆใใ ใ•ใ„ใ€‚ใ€
06:00
Yap.
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06:02
The second "please", there, repeated, adds to the sense of desperation and urgency with
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ใใ“ใง็นฐใ‚Š่ฟ”ใ•ใ‚Œใ‚‹ 2 ็•ช็›ฎใฎใ€ŒใŠ้ก˜ใ„ใ—ใพใ™ใ€ใฏใ€
06:10
which we need this help.
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็งใŸใกใŒใ“ใฎๅŠฉใ‘ใ‚’ๅฟ…่ฆใจใ—ใฆใ„ใ‚‹็ตถๆœ›ๆ„Ÿใจๅˆ‡่ฟซๆ„Ÿใ‚’ๅข—ใ—ใพใ™ใ€‚
06:14
Okay.
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06:17
Another way you could try is by trying to strike a deal with the person.
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ใ‚ใชใŸใŒ่ฉฆใฟใ‚‹ใ“ใจใŒใงใใ‚‹ๅˆฅใฎๆ–นๆณ•ใฏ ใ€ใใฎไบบใจๅ–ๅผ•ใ‚’ใ—ใ‚ˆใ†ใจใ™ใ‚‹ใ“ใจใงใ™.
06:21
Okay?
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06:22
So, a deal is an agreement.
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06:25
What's in it for them?
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ๅฝผใ‚‰ใซใจใฃใฆใฏไฝ•ใงใ™ใ‹๏ผŸ
06:27
How can they benefit from helping you?
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ๅฝผใ‚‰ใฏใ‚ใชใŸใ‚’ๅŠฉใ‘ใ‚‹ใ“ใจใงใฉใฎใ‚ˆใ†ใชๆฉๆตใ‚’ๅ—ใ‘ใ‚‹ใ“ใจใŒใงใใพใ™ใ‹?
06:30
"If you help me, I'll help you.
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ใ€Œใ‚ใชใŸใŒ็งใ‚’ๅŠฉใ‘ใฆใใ‚Œใ‚‹ใชใ‚‰ใ€็งใฏใ‚ใชใŸใ‚’ๅŠฉใ‘ใพใ™ใ€‚
06:34
If you help me, I'll help you get a promotion by writing a fantastic report saying you are
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06:39
employee of the month."
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ใ€‚ใ€
06:43
Or why not use some facts and statistics?
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06:46
Okay?
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06:47
So: "A baby needs to sleep every six hours."
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06:51
"If I just have him sat on my lap, he's not going to sleep, therefore there will be pain,
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ใ€Œๅฝผใ‚’็งใฎ่†ใฎไธŠใซๅบงใ‚‰ใ›ใ‚‹ใ ใ‘ใงใฏใ€ๅฝผใฏ ็œ ใ‚ใ†ใจใ—ใชใ„ใฎใงใ€็—›ใฟใŒ็”Ÿใ˜ใพใ™ใ€‚
06:57
therefore the other customers/passengers will be upset/inconvenienced, therefore I think
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ใใฎใŸใ‚ใ€ไป–ใฎ้กงๅฎข/ไน—ๅฎข ใฏๅ‹•ๆบ/ไธไพฟใซใชใ‚Š
07:04
that if we find a more comfortable place for him..."
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ใพใ™. ใ€‚"
07:08
Okay?
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ใ‚ใ‹ใฃใŸ๏ผŸ
07:09
So, I'm using reasons to help with my argument.
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ใ ใ‹ใ‚‰ใ€็งใฏ่‡ชๅˆ†ใฎไธปๅผตใ‚’ๅŠฉใ‘ใ‚‹ใŸใ‚ใซ็†็”ฑใ‚’ไฝฟใฃใฆใ„ใพใ™ใ€‚
07:12
I'll let you know how this goes on Saturday when I try this out, but it would be great
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ๅœŸๆ›œๆ—ฅใซใ‚„ใฃใฆใฟใ‚‹ใจใฉใ†ใชใ‚‹ใ‹ใฏใพใŸใŠ็Ÿฅใ‚‰ใ›ใ—ใพใ™ใŒ ใ€
07:17
if you tried these persuasive techniques out yourself.
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ใ“ใ‚Œใ‚‰ใฎ่ชฌๅพ—ๅŠ›ใฎใ‚ใ‚‹ใƒ†ใ‚ฏใƒ‹ใƒƒใ‚ฏใ‚’่‡ชๅˆ†ใง่ฉฆใ—ใฆใฟใฆใ„ใŸใ ใ‘ใ‚Œใฐๅนธใ„ใงใ™ ใ€‚
07:21
So, think of an example: Who do you need to persuade at the moment?
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ใงใฏใ€ไพ‹ใ‚’่€ƒใˆใฆใฟใพใ—ใ‚‡ ใ†ใ€‚็พๆ™‚็‚นใง่ชฐใ‚’่ชฌๅพ—ใ™ใ‚‹ๅฟ…่ฆใŒใ‚ใ‚Šใพใ™ใ‹?
07:27
What's a situation in which you could try to change things, take things into your own
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07:33
hands?
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ๆ‰‹ใซๅง”ใญใ‚‹ใ“ใจใŒใงใใ‚‹็Šถๆณใฏใฉใฎใ‚ˆใ†ใชใ‚‚ใฎใงใ™ใ‹?
07:35
Will you get people to understand your point of view?
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ใ‚ใชใŸใฎๆ„่ฆ‹ใ‚’ไบบใ€…ใซ็†่งฃใ—ใฆใ‚‚ใ‚‰ใˆใ‚‹ ใงใ—ใ‚‡ใ†ใ‹๏ผŸ
07:39
Can you shock them?
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ๅฝผใ‚‰ใซ่กๆ’ƒใ‚’ไธŽใˆใ‚‹ใ“ใจใŒใงใใพใ™ใ‹๏ผŸ
07:40
Have some fun with that.
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ใใ‚Œใ‚’ๆฅฝใ—ใ‚“ใงใใ ใ•ใ„ใ€‚
07:43
How can you twist things around?
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ใฉใ†ใ‚„ใฃใฆ็‰ฉไบ‹ใ‚’ใฒใญใ‚‹ใ“ใจใŒใงใใพใ™ใ‹๏ผŸ
07:45
How can you get someone to suddenly go: "Oh.
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ใฉใ†ใ™ใ‚Œใฐ่ชฐใ‹ใซ็ช็„ถใ€Œใ‚ใ‚
07:47
Oh yeah, I hadn't thought of that"?
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ใ€ใ‚ใ‚ใ€ใใ‚Œใฏ่€ƒใˆใ‚‚ใ—ใชใ‹ใฃใŸใ€ใจ่จ€ใ‚ใ›ใ‚‹ใ“ใจใŒใงใใพใ™ใ‹?
07:50
Can you use words that get people feeling your story?
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ไบบใ€…ใซใ‚ใชใŸใฎใ‚นใƒˆใƒผใƒชใƒผใ‚’ๆ„Ÿใ˜ใ•ใ›ใ‚‹่จ€่‘‰ใ‚’ไฝฟใ†ใ“ใจใŒใงใใพใ™ ใ‹?
07:54
Words like: "Hunger", "desperation", "sadness", "urgently".
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ใ€Œ้ฃขใˆใ€ใ€ใ€Œ็ตถๆœ›ใ€ใ€ใ€Œๆ‚ฒใ—ใฟใ€ใ€ ใ€Œ็ทŠๆ€ฅใ€ใชใฉใฎ่จ€่‘‰ใ€‚
08:02
Okay?
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ใ‚ใ‹ใฃใŸ๏ผŸ
08:04
Lots of adverbs have emotive qualities.
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ๅคšใใฎๅ‰ฏ่ฉžใซใฏๆ„Ÿๆƒ…็š„ใชๆ€ง่ณชใŒใ‚ใ‚Šใพใ™ใ€‚
08:08
Can you get them to feel guilty if they don't help you?
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ๅฝผใ‚‰ใŒใ‚ใชใŸใ‚’ๅŠฉใ‘ใฆใใ‚Œใชใ„ใชใ‚‰ใ€ใ‚ใชใŸใฏๅฝผใ‚‰ใซ็ฝชๆ‚ชๆ„Ÿใ‚’ๆ„Ÿใ˜ใ•ใ›ใ‚‹ใ“ใจใŒใงใ ใพใ™ใ‹?
08:13
Charm them, pay them compliments, then get in and tell them what you need.
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ๅฝผใ‚‰ใ‚’้ญ…ไบ†ใ—ใ€่ณ›่พžใ‚’้€ใ‚Šใ€ ไธญใซๅ…ฅใฃใฆๅฟ…่ฆใชใ‚‚ใฎใ‚’ไผใˆใพใ™ใ€‚
08:19
Threaten them, but in an unintimidating way.
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ๅฝผใ‚‰ใ‚’่„…ใ—ใพใ™ใŒใ€ๅจๅœง็š„ใงใฏใชใ„ๆ–นๆณ•ใงใ€‚
08:23
Be, you know, forceful without being confrontational.
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ๅฏพ็ซ‹ใ™ใ‚‹ใ“ใจใชใใ€ๅŠ›ๅผทใใ‚ใ‚Œใ€‚
08:28
Okay?
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ใ‚ใ‹ใฃใŸ๏ผŸ
08:29
We don't want to fight, here.
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ใ“ใ“ใงใฏๆˆฆใ„ใŸใใชใ„ใ€‚
08:31
Rule of 3: List three reasons or qualities.
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3 ใฎใƒซใƒผใƒซ: ็†็”ฑใพใŸใฏๆ€ง่ณชใ‚’ 3 ใคๆŒ™ใ’ใฆใใ ใ•ใ„ใ€‚
08:35
Ask that question.
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ใใฎ่ณชๅ•ใ‚’ใ—ใฆใใ ใ•ใ„ใ€‚
08:37
Really make them think.
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ๆœฌๅฝ“ใซ่€ƒใˆใ•ใ›ใพใ™ใ€‚
08:39
Use repetition to really put your point across.
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็นฐใ‚Š่ฟ”ใ—ใ‚’ไฝฟ็”จใ—ใฆใ€ใƒใ‚คใƒณใƒˆใ‚’ๅฎŸ้š›ใซไผใˆใพใ™ใ€‚
08:42
Can you strike a deal?
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ๅฅ‘็ด„ใงใใพใ™ใ‹๏ผŸ
08:44
Can you think of any facts or statistics that would help with your argument?
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ใ‚ใชใŸใฎ่ญฐ่ซ–ใซๅฝน็ซ‹ใคไบ‹ๅฎŸใ‚„็ตฑ่จˆใ‚’ๆ€ใ„ใคใ ใพใ™ใ‹?
08:49
I do hope that has been helpful for you.
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ใŠๅฝนใซ็ซ‹ใฆใฐๅนธใ„ใงใ™ใ€‚
08:53
Why not try the quiz now to really engrain this knowledge so that you can use it in your
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ไปŠใ™ใใ‚ฏใ‚คใ‚บใซๆŒ‘ๆˆฆใ—ใฆใ€ใ“ใฎ็Ÿฅ่ญ˜ใ‚’ๆ—ฅๅธธ็”Ÿๆดปใงไฝฟใˆใ‚‹ใ‚ˆใ†ใซใ—ใฃใ‹ใ‚Šใจๅฎš็€ใ•ใ›ใฆใฟใพใ›ใ‚“
08:59
everyday life?
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09:01
Thanks for watching.
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09:02
Remember to subscribe, and I'll see ya in the next video.
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