Afraid of Speaking English? Try these steps

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RealLife English


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It's easy for you to say "put yourself  out there and just start speaking" because  
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you're a native speaker. I practice at home and  it's okay, but when I actually have to speak,  
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my palms get sweaty, my heartbeat  races and I just start to shake.  
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Now with most things that we do whether it's new  or something that makes us nervous, it's always  
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important to just try and break that  initial resistance. I know sometimes it's  
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easier said than done, but imagine you were in  a life-threatening situation. You would actually  
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be forced to break that resistance, you wouldn't  even think about it. So we kind of just have to  
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put ourselves in that kind of mindset and  just really go for it. In those moments  
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when you're in a life-threatening situation or a  really serious one, you don't even have the time  
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to think about it, so you just act. And this  is going to help you to break that resistance,  
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to break through that barrier that is holding  you back. That fear that is holding you back.  
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Think of English as a tool for other things.  Maybe it will help you to start a new hobby,  
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you'll meet and make new friends or you'll even  go for that job promotion you've been wanting.  
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What are you missing out on because of your fear.  You have to think of it in this way what might  
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I actually be missing out on because I'm not  putting myself out there and I'm not going for  
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it. So I suggest that you share this lesson with a  friend because in it I'm going to be giving you an  
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action plan to help you feel more relaxed in those  situations where you need to speak English. Such  
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as meeting someone new, going to a party or even  in a school university or job related situation.  
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Because here at RealLife English we want to make  sure that you are not alone in your learning  
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journey. As language learners ourselves we  want to guide you beyond the classroom to  
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live your English. Just like David who says he's  already improved his English with our channels,  
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but he's also downloaded the RealLife English App  and has connected with lots of people from all  
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around the world. Because this is what learning  English is all about. It's about connecting with  
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others and living your English. So if that's  something you would like to do, make sure you  
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hit that subscribe button and the bell down below,  that way you will not miss any of our new lessons.
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Step one. You don't need to discuss  nuclear physics or cryptocurrency  
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when you are trying to speak in English.
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Speaking a language that is not your native one  is a sign of bravery. I remind myself of this  
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every day when I have to make a phone call, for  example, in Spanish. That's right, I've lived in  
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Barcelona in Spain for eight years now, but I  still get nervous when I want to make a phone  
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call or I'm in a new situation that I haven't been  in before and i have to speak the language. So I  
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still take some time beforehand to prepare myself  or to plan and think about what I want to say.  
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So what I recommend you do is to start simple.  Start with one sentence and then think about  
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the next sentence or even think of a question that  you want to ask someone. When I first moved here,  
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we had a porter in our building, a doorman, and he  was quite friendly and we just started by having  
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some small interactions with him every day to  practice our Spanish, so it could be something  
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about the weather, a general comment about the  weather, maybe asking him how his day was or how  
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he was doing and you know he'd probably ask us the  same. So you just have to start off very small and  
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very simple. Also don't forget the benefits of  practicing alone. So you might want to prepare  
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for these small interactions at first to help  to build your confidence and to break away from  
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that fear factor. Don't forget even professional  athletes, before they go out to a competition,  
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they must prepare and they do this on their own  beforehand or with a trainer. So you can do the  
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same. You can prepare at home beforehand, you  could write out a script, you could practice  
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speaking on your own or even if you have a friend  who's also learning or someone that you trust,  
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you can practice with them. Send them some voice  notes or, you know, practice speaking together.
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Step two. You may say I just  can't find the words to say...
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Now, if you understand the main points of a video  you're watching or a conversation that people are  
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having around you, chances are you probably know  enough to be able to talk to them as well and  
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respond to them. What's missing is just piecing  everything together. So you've probably heard some  
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of this vocabulary before, you've probably heard  some of these comments before as well and it's  
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just remembering that and putting it all together.  now I highly recommend, if you haven't already,  
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that you watch this lesson next because it's  going to expand on this point even more.  
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It's also really important to make a conscious  effort to notice some key phrases or questions  
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in conversations. Ones that you can  then remember for future conversations.  
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For example "what do you think about that" and  "did you hear about this?" That way, if you're  
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paying close attention you can then practice  those in order to remember them. Forget about  
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fully rehearsed answers here. It's all about  interaction. So your response doesn't need to be  
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perfect it's just about responding and  interacting and making that connection with  
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someone. You don't need to remember a specific  response to answering this question, for example  
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"have you heard about what happened in Italy this  week?" So if someone is asking you a question,  
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that starts off with "have you" you are probably  thinking you'd need to respond with "yes i have"  
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or "no i haven't" but if in that moment you can't  remember that, it really doesn't matter. A simple  
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yes or no will do or even responding with, or  like a simple shaking of the head or something  
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or if you didn't quite understand you could even  say "oh no I'm not sure" or "no, what happened?"
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Step three: you're bound to feel  nervous in an unknown situation.  
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Now this is true of everyone. It's simply  human nature, it doesn't really matter,  
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especially for myself, it doesn't really  matter if I have experienced something  
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10 times before or if I'm doing  something for the first time,  
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chances are I'm going to be a little bit nervous.  Of course if I'm doing it for the first time,  
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my nerves are going to probably be a bit stronger  than if I've done it many times. But I think also  
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having that nervous feeling means that you care  about what is happening. So it's not necessarily  
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a really bad thing, it's true that second language  anxiety is a real thing, so don't be too hard on  
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yourself here. But I can guarantee you that as  you practice you start to do this more and more,  
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it's going to get better. So, for example, like  I just explained, if you're doing something  
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for the first time, you're going to feel strong  feelings of nervousness, but then if you're doing  
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it for the eighth ninth or tenth time, you still  might feel a bit nervous, but it's going to be  
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a lot better because you've had some practice.  You might have those negative thoughts going on  
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in your head like "oh but my English isn't good  enough" or "what if they don't understand me",  
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but the thing is if that holds you back and you  never actually speak, you're never actually going  
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to practice and improve your English and you're  never even going to know the answers to those  
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questions. You'll never know how to run a 5k race  if you've never dipped your toes in running for  
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one minute or two minutes or even trying a sprint  for example. I remember back in 2013 I set myself  
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the challenge of running the London Marathon and  I wasn't a runner at all. In fact, I didn't really  
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enjoy running at all either, that's why it was  a challenge for me. But I started off with a 5k,  
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so I started off with something much, much  smaller that was then going to help me build  
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on that to then be able to run the marathon, which  I managed to do successfully even with an injury.  
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So this also even emphasizes the  point I made in point one with  
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"start simple". Start with something small and  then build on that. It's really going to help you.
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Step four: people won't laugh at you, but  you should probably laugh at yourself. 
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Don't forget that language is alive, slang words  come and go all the time, so slang that I used  
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to use as a kid is not as popular now and there  are so many new words that probably even I don't  
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know and I don't use. So it's virtually impossible  to know all of the words and all of the meanings  
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at any given time. Would you mock someone that was  trying to speak your native language? I would hope  
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not, I certainly would never do this, especially  as a language learner myself, I'm just so grateful  
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that people speak English or even try to speak  English with me that I would never mock them.  
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Even if they make a mistake, I wouldn't correct  them, unless they ask me if they have made a  
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mistake or not. If you use a word incorrectly and  people notice it or someone comments on it, just  
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laugh at yourself see the light in the situation.  You're a language learner, you're not a language  
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expert. And i mean, even natives make mistakes  as well and we laugh at ourselves all the time,  
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so you should too. To this day I remember specific  mistakes that I've made in Spanish living here in  
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Spain as well. Some have been with friends,  some have been with people that I don't know,  
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but I learn from all of those and I still laugh  at some of those situations as well. There have  
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been somewhere I've mixed up words or I've learned  that some words in Spanish have double meanings  
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which I didn't know of. And, you know, although  maybe sometimes in that moment you get a little  
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bit embarrassed, you can really see the funny  side of it and that's what you need to do.
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Step five is to find a judgment-free environment  to practice just a little bit every day.  
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Each conversation is a moment to practice to  get even better. You might find a speaking club,  
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you might find other language learners in your  city or in your town. And also this is why we  
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created the RealLife English App. Everyone  there is a language learner, so there is no  
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pressure at all, you can connect with like-minded  people for short dynamic conversations. And even  
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if someone is at a different level than you,  it's not going to make your English worse,  
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you'll see that as you start to use it. If you  find someone whose level is better than yours,  
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see it as an opportunity to learn from them. And  if you find someone whose level is a bit lower  
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than yours, then you can see it as an opportunity  to teach them something that maybe you learnt or  
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that they don't know. So to start practicing your  speaking just for a little bit every single day,  
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make sure you download the RealLife English  App. You definitely won't regret it and it's  
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absolutely free. You can do it right now  in the Google Play or the Apple App Store  
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or you can click this link up here and I'll  also add it down in the description below.  
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Now if when you are speaking in your native  language you feel confident and you speak a lot  
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but when you're speaking in English you're  constantly apologizing and saying "sorry for  
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my bad English", then this lesson is definitely  for you. So make sure you watch it next.
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