6 Exercises to Feel More CONFIDENT When Speaking English

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All right, so take a look at these two speakers.  Which of the two do you think is more confident?  
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Now, it doesn't take a genius to know that this  person looks and probably also feels a lot more  
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confident than the other one. But how exactly  did they get there? What exactly makes this  
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person more confident, while this person seems  more insecure? Well, being a confident English  
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speaker or speaker of any language, for that  matter, involves so much more than just the words  
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that come out of your mouth. In fact, the majority  of your perceived confidence actually comes from  
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your non-verbals. Now, non-verbal communication  really has to do with things like eye contact,  
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facial expressions, gestures that you make with  your hands and other parts of your body and,  
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of course, your posture, how you hold yourself. So  today I'm going to give you six practical tips and  
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exercises that will help you to instantly increase  your confidence without speaking a single word.
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All right so it goes without saying that if you  do not feel very confident speaking your native  
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language, then you're probably not going to feel  very confident when it comes to speaking English  
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either, right? So all of the tips that I'm going  to give you today will help you to speak English  
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more confidently, yes, but more importantly  they're going to help you feel more confident as a  
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person no matter what language you're speaking. In  fact, like just through my own personal experience  
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of learning languages, in my 20s when I was  more dedicated to it I used to go to language  
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exchanges. And I've always been shy throughout  my life, so this was, you know, at first a very  
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terrifying experience, but I found that when I  started doing it more and more, I could actually  
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feel, you know, a lot more confident. And then  when I actually went into situations where I was  
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speaking English, my native tongue, then I also  felt more confident. So let's look at some body  
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language changes that if you make them, will  make other people perceive you as being more  
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confident and will make you feel more confident  yourself. So try to distribute your weight evenly  
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between both feet, which means avoid when you  can putting too much of your weight to one side.  
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Or maybe tucking one leg behind the other.  You can kind of imagine as if the Earth were  
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like pulling you down, you really want to have  your feet grounded. So practice standing tall,  
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stand up straight, straighten your back, hold  your head up high so really make yourself as  
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tall as you can without seeming like you're going  onto your tippy toes. Let your shoulders relaxed.  
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A lot of times when you try to stand up tall,  our shoulders will naturally sort of go up and  
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be tense with our neck, so make sure to have them  lowered. You can do this by actually rolling them  
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backwards and forwards so they're relaxed, as  long as you're not surrounded by people in that  
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moment but something good to practice at home. Breathing is also really important for being  
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grounded, so actually practice your breathing  and if you're in a situation, maybe where you're  
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feeling stressed, you can use this really to make  yourself more present. So breathe deeply from the  
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diaphragm, so like your stomach should sort  of open up a little bit, your ribs should also  
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expand out, you don't want to have your breathing  be too shallow, so it shouldn't be from high up in  
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your chest. Another negative thing that this  does is if you're not breathing deep enough,  
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your voice tends to sound more nasally. Eye contact is also really important,  
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you don't want to stare someone down to the point  that, you know, it's awkward or you seem creepy.
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But you should really avoid looking down  at the ground, looking at your feet,  
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looking off in the distance like you're  distracted. One way you can practice this  
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is actually when you're walking on the  street and you meet someone's eyes try  
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not to be the first person that breaks eye  contact. Wait for them to break it first.  
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This can feel like really awkward at first,  but if you practice it, you'll get better and  
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better at it and then when you're actually in a  situation where you're talking to someone, you  
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won't feel as awkward holding their eye contact.  If you're sitting, usually it's best to actually  
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relax a bit in your chair, so lean back, don't  like slouch down into your chair, but actually  
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use the back of it, spread yourself out. Avoid  crossing your legs, if you do cross your legs,  
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do it in a more open way. And if you're, like,  sitting on a sofa, for example, you can actually  
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lean back on it and drape your arm across it, like  even, maybe, behind the person that you're talking  
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to, as long as it's a close enough relationship,  as you're looking at them and talking to them.
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Number two, practice power poses. So social psychologist Amy Cuddy has this really  
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famous Ted Talk, that later turns into a book,  all about how our body language affects our mood,  
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our emotions and ultimately how confident  we feel. So she discusses how having more  
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open body language makes us feel more powerful,  more confident, but when we feel more insecure,  
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what we tend to do is close up our body  language, you know. Maybe crossing our arms,  
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getting really small in our chair. So Amy Cuddy  teaches us that if we do power poses, this can  
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actually help us to feel more confident. So this  generally is taking some sort of pose that is more  
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open and makes us feel more powerful. This could  be having your hands up, your arms up in the air,  
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could be having your hands on your hips. Now,  obviously not all these you could do while you're  
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talking other people, because you're not going  to be, like, talking to someone like this. But  
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some of them you could do, for example, before you  have a high pressure situation. So maybe if you're  
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going to a social event where you'll be speaking  English, or if you're speaking even your native  
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language, but you're nervous about it, or if you  are going in for a job interview, for example,  
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then right before the job interview you could  go to the bathroom, close yourself in there and  
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stand for at least two minutes with your hands  up in the air, with your feet firmly grounded  
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and wide on the floor. And if you do this, it's  actually going to change your brain chemistry as  
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she explains. In fact, this is so effective that  for a little bit of behind the scenes information,  
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we do this in preparation before recording any  podcast, because it helps us just to feel more  
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present and more confident about whatever we're  talking about in that podcast. So how does this  
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actually work? So Amy Cuddy points us to some  scientific studies that show that when we feel  
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more stressed, the level of cortisol, which is  also known as the stress hormone, increases in  
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our brain, but by doing these power poses that we  discussed or doing anything that makes you feel  
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more confident, in general, helps to lower the  stress level. So you can imagine, you know, if  
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you're in one of these situations, especially if  you are someone like me that's shy or introverted,  
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it can cause a high level of stress. Maybe even  you begin to like sweat or something like that,  
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a really physical response right to that stress,  but if you do these power poses beforehand,  
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then it can help you to feel a bit more at ease.  Maybe you'll still be a little bit stressed,  
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but less so than if you had not done this. And a  really amazing thing about body language is it can  
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help you bring up more presence to your speech.  So oftentimes, it's not just what we're saying,  
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but actually how we're saying it. So, for  example, if you're speaking to someone and  
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your arms are crossed, that might make them think  one thing, but if you are speaking to them and you  
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have your hands on your hips, for example, that  makes you seem like someone who is confident,  
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who is powerful, who knows what they're talking  about, who feels comfortable with who they are  
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so you know just pay attention to this. Even if  you're like watching TV or if you're watching  
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people you're people watching on the street and  see what kind of body language are they having and  
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how does that make your perception of them change.  So the exercise here is pretty simple and you can  
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even try it out right now if you're somewhere  where people can't see you. It's actually doing  
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one of these power poses for just a couple minutes  and paying attention to how you feel before  
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and after. So check out, these are some of the  different power poses that you can do. And either  
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or close yourself up somewhere or even if you're  watching this alone right now in your bedroom,  
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in your office, then give it a go and see  how it makes you feel. Two minutes at least. 
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If you are someone who is prone to shyness  or anxiety, you should not expect that you  
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can just turn things around by watching a  YouTube video like this. One and then going  
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to an event that is crowded with strangers or to  a high pressure situation like a job interview.  
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Well the good news is that there are some ways  that you can practice first, even at home alone,  
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in low pressure situations, that will help you  to master some of the principles of confident  
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body language. And if you're the type of person  who really suffers from anxiety, well you can  
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kind of build your way up by first practicing  alone and then you can maybe do it with people  
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who you feel close to, who don't judge you, like  friends and family, before you actually go out  
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into the wild and try this out with strangers. Okay, so if you want to practice this first,  
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you should try speaking in front of the mirror.  You can even film yourself and then watch it  
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back. Really try to focus in on the details of  your body language, pay special attention to  
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what you do with your facial expressions, with  your hands, with your arms and your shoulders,  
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your general posture and any other body language  that might make you seem anxious or nervous. And  
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then, when you do this, you can become more  mindful about correcting any ticks that you  
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might have when you're nervous. And, of course,  if you're trying to build up your confidence,  
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it is fantastic, if you are practicing at home  alone but eventually you're going to have to get  
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out there and practice with real people, right?  And sometimes it can be really difficult to find  
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good situations in which to do this, especially if  you're wanting to do it in your target language,  
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like English. So we have a really fantastic  way that you can do this for free, anytime,  
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anywhere that you have an internet connection. And  that's with the RealLife App. And the really great  
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thing here is that you can connect with people  from all around the world who are just like you,  
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in the same boat, trying to learn a language and  maybe feeling not so comfortable communicating  
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in it yet. alright, so you can give it  a try, download it for free right now  
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in your favorite app store or just click  up here or down in the description below.
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Number four, practice mindful listening. So depending on who you're talking to,  
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it can feel quite awkward when you're in a  conversation with someone and they don't really  
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seem to be listening to you. Maybe they're  pretending to be listening, maybe they're  
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double tasking and so you know that they're not  really fully listening. You can be someone who  
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really connects to people by practicing active  listening. And basically what this means is that  
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you give your undivided attention to the other  person, really truly listening to what they're  
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saying. There is a quote that I really love that  paints a picture of this perfectly, that says:  
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"You have two ears and one mouth, use them  proportionally." So this means that we should  
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listen twice as much as we speak. And everyone  loves to talk, and they love to talk especially  
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about themselves, about the things that they  do great. Give other people the opportunity to  
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speak more and really listen and use your body  language as well to show that you are listening.
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All right, so how do you actually do this?  So one thing that you can do is actually  
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use your body language as I said so. There are  different ways you can do this. In most western  
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cultures English-speaking countries, nodding your  head looks like this, right? Do it tactfully,  
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which means, you know, don't do it too much, you  don't want to just be like this the whole time,  
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because the person's going to think  that there's something wrong, maybe,  
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with your neck. But you can do it, you know, every  once in a while to show that you're following,  
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that you're listening, that you understand  what they're saying. You can also use some  
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different noises to do this. So in  English it would be things like:
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So all those kind of things show that you know  you're following what they're saying and even  
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that you're finding it interesting. You don't  need to maintain eye contact 100%, but it's  
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especially important that you maintain eye contact  when you're making a point. Usually when someone  
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else is talking I tend to find it helpful to look  them in the eye the entire time, when I'm talking  
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though, oftentimes if I'm looking in the eye maybe  I can't fully get my thoughts together and so,  
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you know, I might, for a moment, break that eye  contact look and kind of think about putting my  
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thoughts together. But, you know, when you're  listening, a great way to show that you're  
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listening is by, you know, not looking like you're  distracted, looking over there at someone else,  
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but that you're really present with that person.  It goes without saying, if you're maintaining  
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eye contact also don't be looking down at your  feet, this is something people tend to do when  
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they're feeling shy or feeling anxious, but,  you know, really try to keep your head up,  
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try to keep that straight posture and make sure  that you're fully present listening to them. So  
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this means actually and this is where meditation  comes in handy, but this means actually not  
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letting yourself get distracted by other thoughts.  Most people when they're in a conversation,  
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listening to someone else, they're not truly  listening, they're actually formulating their  
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head "How am I going to respond to this, what  can I say to impress the other person?", so you  
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don't need to worry about this, just get in the  habit of when those thoughts pop into your head,  
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to actually say, you know, "Okay, pay attention,  pay attention." Don't need to think about that,  
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once it comes time for you to speak, if they ask  you a question or something, it will come. You  
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don't need to worry about formulating your  response while they're talking. Be sure to  
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mute your devices, mute your phone or anything  else that could have a notification. You know,  
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nothing's worse than when you're talking to  someone and they seem more interested in the  
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vibrating or the chime on their phone  than they are in what you have to say.
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Number five, be the master of your emotions. So being non-reactive is about keeping your  
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emotions in check, in other words, it's about not  letting your emotions control you. Now this is  
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really difficult to do, but I assure you it is  well worth the effort. Now don't get me wrong,  
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it's really important that you show your emotions,  but when you let your negative emotions, such as  
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stress or anxiety really take hold of you, then  it can make the conversation really uncomfortable  
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both for you and the person that you're speaking  to. So by remaining calm and non-reactive, you  
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show that you're not pressured by what's happening  around you and others will feel much more at ease  
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conversing with you or being in your presence. All right, so now let's look at some techniques  
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for being non-reactive. So first of all, let's  look at a situation where you're sitting. So if  
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you are sitting, for example, in a job interview.  This could actually happen for some people when  
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they're standing, as well, you don't want to  fidget. Now fidgeting is when you are either  
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playing with, you know, something on your body  or playing with an object even. So we all know  
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someone probably who, for example, if they have a  pen in their hand, they're just gonna be the whole  
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time clicking that pen, right? Like crazy. So  that's one type of fidgeting, it's different ways  
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of like letting your anxiety come out physically  which other people can notice and it can make  
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you feel like, you know, if I'm speaking with you  and you're fidgeting, it can seem like you're not  
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very comfortable around me, which might make me  feel comfortable, right? Avoid bouncing your leg,  
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which really is a type of fidgeting. And if you're  sitting at a table, it's good to have your hands  
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in view, but also avoid like tapping the table  with your fingers or with your nails, maybe,  
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if you have long nails. Also avoid touching your  face or maybe you have long hair, avoid playing  
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with your hair, twirling it. As I said, you  know, if you're sitting at a table, it's good  
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to show your hands, but even if you're standing,  don't hide your hands in your pocket. It's always  
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better if you have your hands, if you're using  them to gesture, that shows a lot of confidence  
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and open body language. Avoid crossing your arms,  which is a much more closed type of body language,  
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if you must cross your arms, then do it in a way  where your hands are still visible. And if you're  
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really feeling anxious, avoid this coming out  in a physical way, instead, try to anchor onto  
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something. And a really great anchor is always the  breath. So just try to make yourself more present  
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by paying attention, not controlling, but paying  attention to your inhale and your exhale and this  
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should really help you to calm down a bit and feel  more present. You also don't need to feel super  
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pressured to speak right away. So, for example,  someone asks you a question, you can take a moment  
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to think and to gather yourself. And to like  really lower your anxiety before responding. So if  
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you're in a high pressure situation, for example,  at a job interview, then you might want to, you  
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know, just take a breath. You can kind of like,  you know, look up look not directly at the person  
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for a moment and kind of gather your thoughts  and then respond. There's nothing at all wrong  
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with making the person wait just a little bit. And just before we move into today's last tip,  
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feeling like a natural and confident English  speaker that, you know, you have all this  
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potential to be, so we look forward to seeing  you every single week here at RealLife English.
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Number six Embrace vulnerability. So it is just impossible to gain confidence if  
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you do not first have vulnerability, many people  actually see confidence as the sort of set trait  
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that we have at birth, which is not at all true.  Confidence actually comes out of vulnerability.  
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In fact Mark Manson, who is the author of this  really fantastic book I read a couple years ago,  
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called the subtle art of not giving a f***, says  that "True confidence is being more invested in  
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your perception of yourself, than in someone  else's perceptions of you." So in other words,  
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vulnerability comes out of accepting and embracing  who you are, even if other people don't accept it  
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or don't like it. In fact, it probably sounds  really cliché, but if you don't first like  
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yourself, how can you ever expect other people to  like you? Now there's no one better to look to for  
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advice on vulnerability than Brené Brown, who is a  social scientist. Now she says that "vulnerability  
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leads to courage, which leads to confidence,  so actually courage is much more important than  
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confidence." You know, the people who we view  as just naturally confident, are so not because  
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of a natural personality trait that they have,  but because over and over and over again they've  
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made the courageous choice to step out of their  comfort zone. So if you want to be perceived as  
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being more confident, then there's no shortcut,  you have to actually embrace your vulnerability  
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and make those decisions every time you can to  be courageous and step out of your comfort zone  
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too. So the exercise to master this tip actually  has to do with putting yourself in uncomfortable  
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situations that might even make you a bit scared.  A fantastic way that you can do this is actually  
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making a list of the things that you fear. In  fact, author Tim Ferriss has an exercise called  
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"fear setting" that helps you to do exactly this.  And he actually attributes a lot of his success to  
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doing this a few times a year. So let's look at  the steps to do this exercise. So you start off  
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thinking about something that you fear and then  writing on the phrase "what if I..." and then the  
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thing that you fear. Then you try to define the  worst things that could happen in that situation,  
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ways you can prevent those things and if those  worse things came to pass, how could you repair  
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them. And if you're someone who really likes  these kind of exercises, there's another really  
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great and simple one called WOOP, who comes from a  professor of psychology named Gabrielle Oettingen.  
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And I actually had the pleasure of interviewing  her back at the beginning of this year, so I  
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highly recommend that you check out my interview  with her, where you can learn this exercise. 
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So just in finishing talking about this tip,  courage does not need to be this huge act,  
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this huge change that you're making. It can just  be doing something small that gets you out of your  
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comfort zone. In fact true vulnerability really  is if you're someone who is shy or introverted  
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like myself, just going up to someone and saying,  you know, "hi, I'm really nervous to come up and  
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approach you, but I just thought that you'd be  an interesting person to speak to", you know,  
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this could be if you're dating, if you're,  you know, looking to meet someone and going  
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up and just saying that you think cute or that  they're handsome or beautiful. Or it can just be,  
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you know, if you're looking for, you're at a  networking event and you're looking to meet other  
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people who have a similar interest to you, going  up to a small group and introducing yourself.  
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It's a small thing, but for many of us it just  seems like something that can be quite scary,  
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but really, if you just get yourself out  there, if you just push yourself a little bit,  
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you'll see that is much easier than you, know,  you're building it up to be in your mind. And,  
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you know, even if you are nervous about going  up to someone and starting a conversation,  
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the fact that you were brave enough to take the  initiative and go and introduce yourself will make  
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people see you as a confident person. And a caveat  here since we're talking about English learning,  
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never apologize for your English, you know. You're  a learner, you've put a lot of hard work into it,  
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whatever level you are currently at and that's  something that you should be proud of. So  
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instead of saying, you know, I'm sorry for my bad  English, or sorry that my English isn't very good,  
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you can actually say, you know, that I'm still  learning English, my English isn't at the level  
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that I want to be, but you know, I'm really  committed to it. You can even say that I don't  
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have a lot of experience speaking English yet  and I'm a bit nervous, you know. Someone who  
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can admit that their English still is not at the  level that they want it to be or that they are  
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nervous about communicating another language. Now  that is confidence. So put yourself out there in  
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more situations that give you just a little bit of  fear and you're really going to see that over time  
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by doing more and more of this you can start  to build up to doing bigger and bigger things  
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that make you more scared and you are going to  become so much more confident than you are today.
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And I just wanted to give a disclaimer in  this video that there is no magic pill for  
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confidence. I'd be lying if I said I don't still  not feel confident sometimes when I'm in a new  
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situation or when I go to a crowded place.  As someone who is both shy and introverted,  
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it's completely normal to feel uncomfortable in  new situations. So basically what I wanted to  
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suggest to you is that you try out the different  things that we've been learning about in this  
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video and don't think that you have to make some  huge change in your life, you don't have to become  
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someone who you're not, but just try to do to  get into situations where you feel uncomfortable,  
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to push yourself out of your comfort zone and just  try to get a little bit better every single time. 
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All right, and there you have it, that's six ways  that you can improve your confidence speaking  
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English or in anything else that's important to  you in life just by using your body and your mind.  
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So I want to hear from you, which of these tips  did you find the most surprising and which one  
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are you going to try out first? So let me know  down in the comments below and why don't you  
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see what your fellow learner said too. So to wrap  up, let's look at something really fascinating so  
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according to psychologists Albert Moravian who has  done extensive research on body language. He says  
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that communication is 55% non-verbal, 38% vocal  and only 7% words. So by harnessing the power  
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of body language, you will feel more confident  and secure next time you get the opportunity to  
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speak with someone in English. Be it on our app  or be it out in a situation in the real world.  
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The most effective communicators in the world  don't just use words to get their message across,  
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they also use their voice and especially they  use their body. So if you're wanting to be a more  
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effective Communicator, then you can do the same. Alright so now it's time to get off your computer  
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or your phone or wherever you're watching this,  go out into the real world and actually put some  
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of this into practice. It's not enough just  to watch a video and hope that you absorb it  
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and magically become more confident. I  believe in you, you can do it. Aw yeah!
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