How to start a conversation: 5 things to say after "hello"

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ENGLISH with James


ไธ‹ใฎ่‹ฑ่ชžๅญ—ๅน•ใ‚’ใƒ€ใƒ–ใƒซใ‚ฏใƒชใƒƒใ‚ฏใ™ใ‚‹ใจๅ‹•็”ปใ‚’ๅ†็”Ÿใงใใพใ™ใ€‚ ็ฟป่จณใ•ใ‚ŒใŸๅญ—ๅน•ใฏๆฉŸๆขฐ็ฟป่จณใงใ™ใ€‚

00:00
God, I love your lips, Angelina.
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็ฅžๆง˜ใ€็งใฏใ‚ใชใŸใฎๅ”‡ใŒๅคงๅฅฝใใงใ™ใ€ใ‚ขใƒณใ‚ธใ‚งใƒชใƒผใƒŠใ€‚
00:03
Hi. James from engVid.
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ใ‚„ใ‚ใ€‚ engVid ใฎใ‚ธใ‚งใƒผใƒ ใ‚บใ€‚
00:06
I was just thinking to myself: Well, I know it's very difficult to practice English because
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็งใฏใŸใ ่‡ชๅˆ†่‡ช่บซใซ่€ƒใˆใฆใ„ใพใ—ใŸ๏ผšใˆใˆใจใ€่‹ฑ่ชžใ‚’่ฉฑใ™ไบบใจใ‚ใพใ‚Š็ทด็ฟ’ใ—ใชใ„ ใฎใงใ€่‹ฑ่ชžใ‚’็ทด็ฟ’ใ™ใ‚‹ใฎใŒ้žๅธธใซ้›ฃใ—ใ„ใ“ใจใฏ็Ÿฅใฃใฆใ„
00:12
you don't get a lot of practice with English speakers, but if there were a way I could
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ใพใ™ ใŒใ€
00:16
teach you how to get past "Hello" to make the conversation grow and perhaps have the
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ใ€Œใ“ใ‚“ใซใกใฏใ€ใ‚’ไน—ใ‚Š่ถŠใˆใฆไฝœใ‚‹ๆ–นๆณ•ใ‚’ๆ•™ใˆใ‚‹ๆ–นๆณ•ใŒใ‚ใ‚Œใฐ. ไผš่ฉฑใŒๆˆ้•ทใ—ใ€ใŠใใ‚‰ใ
00:21
other person come back and talk to you, that would be of great value.
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ไป–ใฎไบบใŒๆˆปใฃใฆใใฆ ใ‚ใชใŸใจ่ฉฑใ‚’ใ™ใ‚‹ใ‚ˆใ†ใซใชใ‚‹ใจใ€ใใ‚Œใฏ้žๅธธใซไพกๅ€คใŒใ‚ใ‚Šใพใ™.
00:24
So this lesson is about how to get past "Hello" and make a beautiful conversation flow.
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ใ“ใฎใƒฌใƒƒใ‚นใƒณใงใฏใ€ใ€Œใ“ใ‚“ใซใกใฏใ€ใ‚’ไน—ใ‚Š่ถŠใˆ ใฆใ€็พŽใ—ใ„ไผš่ฉฑใฎๆตใ‚Œใ‚’ไฝœใ‚‹ๆ–นๆณ•ใซใคใ„ใฆ่ชฌๆ˜Žใ—ใพใ™ใ€‚
00:30
All right?
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ใ‚ใ‹ใฃใŸ๏ผŸ
00:31
I'm going to use Angelina to help me later on when I do an example, but for now I will
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ๅพŒใง ใ‚ตใƒณใƒ—ใƒซใ‚’ไฝœๆˆใ™ใ‚‹ใจใใซ Angelina ใ‚’ไฝฟ็”จใ—ใฆใ‚ตใƒใƒผใƒˆใ—ใพใ™ใŒใ€ใ“ใ“ใงใฏ
00:37
tell you more.
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่ฉณใ—ใ่ชฌๆ˜Žใ—ใพใ™ใ€‚
00:38
See? He's like: "Tell me more. Hmm. I'm interested."
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่ฆ‹ใ‚‹๏ผŸ ๅฝผใฏใ€ใ€Œใ‚‚ใฃใจๆ•™ใˆใฆ ใ€‚ใ†ใƒผใ‚“ใ€่ˆˆๅ‘ณใŒใ‚ใ‚‹ใ€ใจ่จ€ใฃใฆใ„ใพใ™ใ€‚
00:40
And so am I.
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็งใ‚‚ใใ†ใงใ™ใ€‚
00:42
All right, so let's go to the board, shall we?
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ใงใฏ ใ€็†ไบ‹ไผšใซ่กŒใใพใ—ใ‚‡ใ†ใ‹ใ€‚
00:45
I'm going to give you five conversation openers.
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ไผš่ฉฑใฎใใฃใ‹ใ‘ใ‚’ 5 ใค ็ดนไป‹ใ—ใพใ™ใ€‚
00:47
You've said: "Hello", where do you go?
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ใ‚ใชใŸใฏ่จ€ใฃใŸ๏ผšใ€Œใ“ใ‚“ใซใกใฏใ€ใ€ ใ‚ใชใŸใฏใฉใ“ใซ่กŒใใพใ™ใ‹๏ผŸ
00:50
Personally I hate this because I teach and I hear people say:
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ๅ€‹ไบบ็š„ใซ็งใฏใ“ใ‚Œใ‚’ๅซŒใ„ใพใ™ใ€‚ใชใœใชใ‚‰ ใ€็งใŒๆ•™ใˆใฆใ„ใ‚‹ใจไบบใ€…ใŒ
00:54
"Hello. My name is James. I am from Japan, Tokyo."
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ใ€Œใ“ใ‚“ใซใกใฏใ€‚็งใฎๅๅ‰ใฏใ‚ธใ‚งใƒผใƒ ใ‚นใงใ™ใ€‚ ็งใฏๆ—ฅๆœฌใฎๆฑไบฌใ‹ใ‚‰ๆฅใพใ—ใŸใ€ใจ่จ€ใ†ใฎใ‚’่žใใ‹ใ‚‰ใงใ™ใ€‚
00:59
The conversation is essentially dead.
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ไผš่ฉฑใฏ ๆœฌ่ณช็š„ใซๆญปใ‚“ใงใ„ใพใ™ใ€‚
01:01
Dunh-dunh-dunh-dunh.
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ใƒ€ใƒณใƒ€ใƒณใƒ€ใƒณใƒ€ใƒณใƒ€ใƒณใ€‚
01:03
Don't know if that's the wedding theme or the theme from Star Wars.
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ใใ‚ŒใŒ็ตๅฉšๅผใฎ ใƒ†ใƒผใƒžใชใฎใ‹ใ€ใใ‚Œใจใ‚‚ใ‚นใ‚ฟใƒผใ‚ฆใ‚ฉใƒผใ‚บใฎใƒ†ใƒผใƒžใชใฎใ‹ใฏใ‚ใ‹ใ‚Šใพใ›ใ‚“.
01:06
Doesn't matter. You understand.
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้–ขไฟ‚ใชใ„ใ€‚ ๅˆ†ใ‹ใ‚‹ใงใ—ใ‚‡ใ†ใ€‚
01:08
It's killed.
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ๆฎบใ•ใ‚ŒใŸใ€‚
01:09
Nobody cares.
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่ชฐใ‚‚ๆฐ—ใซใ—ใชใ„ใ€‚
01:10
You've said everything that they need to know and then they're done.
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ใ‚ใชใŸใฏๅฝผใ‚‰ ใŒ็Ÿฅใ‚‹ๅฟ…่ฆใŒใ‚ใ‚‹ใ“ใจใ‚’ใ™ในใฆ่จ€ใ„ใพใ—ใŸใ€ใใ—ใฆๅฝผใ‚‰ใฏ็ต‚ใ‚ใ‚Šใพใ—ใŸ.
01:14
So why don't we do something that actually gets them to open up and want to tell you information?
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ใงใฏใ€ๅฎŸ้š›ใซๅฝผใ‚‰ใซๅฟƒ ใ‚’้–‹ใ„ใฆใ‚‚ใ‚‰ใ„ใ€ๆƒ…ๅ ฑใ‚’ไผใˆใŸใ„ใจๆ€ใ‚ใ›ใ‚‹ใ‚ˆใ†ใชใ“ใจใ‚’ใ—ใฆใฟใพใ›ใ‚“ใ‹?
01:19
Okay?
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ใ‚ใ‹ใฃใŸ๏ผŸ
01:20
So the first one we're going to do is this one.
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ๆœ€ๅˆใซ่กŒใ†ใฎใฏใ“ใ‚Œใงใ™ใ€‚
01:22
I like this one.
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็งใฏใ“ใ‚ŒใŒๅฅฝใใงใ™ใ€‚
01:23
It's so easy, it's so true.
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ใใ‚Œใฏใจใฆใ‚‚็ฐกๅ˜ใงใ™ใ€ใใ‚Œใฏใจใฆใ‚‚ๆœฌๅฝ“ใงใ™ใ€‚
01:25
Look for something that someone is wearing or has that you actually like.
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่ชฐใ‹ใŒ ็€ใฆใ„ใ‚‹ใ‚‚ใฎใ‚„ๆŒใฃใฆใ„ใ‚‹ใ‚‚ใฎใงใ€ใ‚ใชใŸใŒๆœฌๅฝ“ใซๅฅฝใใชใ‚‚ใฎใ‚’ๆŽขใ—ใฆใใ ใ•ใ„ใ€‚
01:29
You're not going to steal it, so don't think about that.
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ใ‚ใชใŸใฏใใ‚Œใ‚’็›—ใ‚€ใคใ‚‚ใ‚Šใฏใชใ„ใฎใงใ€ ใใ‚Œใซใคใ„ใฆ่€ƒใˆใชใ„ใงใใ ใ•ใ„ใ€‚
01:31
But what I mean is you like.
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ใ—ใ‹ใ—ใ€็งใŒ่จ€ใ„ใŸใ„ใฎใฏใ€ใ‚ใชใŸใŒๅฅฝใใ ใจใ„ใ†ใ“ใจใงใ™ใ€‚
01:33
You like the t-shirt, you like the jeans, the ear rings or something, you're like: "Cool",
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T ใ‚ทใƒฃใƒ„ใŒๅฅฝใใ€ใ‚ธใƒผใƒณใ‚บใŒๅฅฝใใ€ ใ‚คใƒคใƒชใƒณใ‚ฐใŒๅฅฝใใ€ใพใŸใฏไฝ•ใ‹ใŒๅฅฝใใงใ€ใ€Œใ‹ใฃใ“ใ„ใ„ใ€
01:37
because that will be sincere.
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ใจ่จ€ใ†ใฎใฏใ€่ช ๅฎŸใ ใ‹ใ‚‰ใงใ™ใ€‚
01:39
"Sincere" means that you really mean it and the person can feel that from you, so they'll
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ใ€Œ่ช ๅฎŸใ€ใจใฏใ€ใ‚ใชใŸใŒๆœฌๆฐ—ใงใ€ ใใฎไบบใŒใ‚ใชใŸใ‹ใ‚‰ใใ‚Œใ‚’ๆ„Ÿใ˜ใ‚‹ใ“ใจใŒใงใใ‚‹ใ“ใจใ‚’ๆ„ๅ‘ณ
01:43
want to share with you because you're being honest with them.
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ใ—ใพใ™ใ€‚
01:46
All right?
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01:46
So we look here, number one, walk up and say...
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ใ‚ใ‹ใฃใŸ๏ผŸ
ใ ใ‹ใ‚‰็งใŸใกใฏใ“ใ“ใ‚’่ฆ‹ใฆใ€ ไธ€็•ชๆœ€ๅˆใซๆญฉใ„ใฆ่จ€ใ„ใพใ™...
01:49
So it's like: "Hello. Love your __________ (jacket, t-shirt). That is so cool."
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ใคใพใ‚Šใ€ใ€Œใ“ใ‚“ใซใกใฏใ€‚ใ‚ใชใŸใฎ__________ ๏ผˆใ‚ธใƒฃใ‚ฑใƒƒใƒˆใ€Tใ‚ทใƒฃใƒ„ใŒๅคงๅฅฝใใงใ™ใ€‚ใใ‚Œใฏใจใฆใ‚‚ใ‚ฏใƒผใƒซใงใ™ใ€‚๏ผ‰ใ€ใฎใ‚ˆใ†ใชใ‚‚ใฎใงใ™ใ€‚
01:54
Yeah?
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ใ†ใ‚“๏ผŸ
01:55
"Where did you get them?" or "Where did you get it?"
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ใ€Œใฉใ“ใงๆ‰‹ใซๅ…ฅใ‚ŒใŸใฎ๏ผŸใ€ ใพใŸใฏใ€Œใฉใ“ใงๆ‰‹ใซๅ…ฅใ‚Œใพใ—ใŸใ‹๏ผŸใ€
01:57
Notice I didn't say: "Where did you buy it?" because some of the coolest things someone's
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ใ€Œใฉใ“ใง่ฒทใฃใŸใฎ๏ผŸใ€ใจใฏ่จ€ใ‚ใชใ‹ใฃใŸใ“ใจใซๆณจๆ„ใ—ใฆใใ ใ•ใ„ใ€‚ ่ชฐใ‹ใŒ็€ใ‚‹ใ‚ฏใƒผใƒซใชใ‚‚ใฎใฎใ„ใใคใ‹ใฏใ€
02:01
going to be wearing won't be from this country.
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ใ“ใฎๅ›ฝใฎใ‚‚ใฎใงใฏใชใ„ใ‹ใ‚‰ใงใ™.
02:03
It might be: "Hey. I was in India and I picked up these beads.
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ใ€Œใญใˆใ€‚็งใฏใ‚คใƒณใƒ‰ใซใ„ใฆ ใ€ใ“ใ‚Œใ‚‰ใฎใƒ“ใƒผใ‚บใ‚’ๆ‹พใ„ใพใ—ใŸใ€‚
02:06
Yeah, it was really cool.
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ใˆใˆใ€ใใ‚Œใฏๆœฌๅฝ“ใซใ‚ฏใƒผใƒซใงใ—ใŸใ€‚
02:07
I was outside this ashram and..."
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็งใฏใ“ใฎใ‚ขใ‚ทใƒฅใƒฉใƒ ใฎๅค–ใซใ„ ใพใ—ใŸใ€‚ใใ—ใฆ...ใ€
02:09
And now you've got a conversation you didn't even know.
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ใใ—ใฆไปŠใ€ใ‚ใชใŸใฏ ใ‚ใชใŸใŒ็Ÿฅใ‚‰ใชใ‹ใฃใŸไผš่ฉฑใ‚’ใ—ใฆใ„ใพใ™.
02:11
Or it might be: "Oh, I was downtown in the hippie section, you know, and it was really cool, there was all this art."
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ใ‚ใ‚‹ใ„ใฏใ€ใ€Œใ‚ใ‚ใ€็งใฏใƒ€ใ‚ฆใƒณใ‚ฟใ‚ฆใƒณใฎใƒ’ใƒƒใƒ”ใƒผใ‚ปใ‚ฏใ‚ทใƒงใƒณ ใซใ„ใพใ—ใŸใ€‚ๆœฌๅฝ“ใซใ‚ฏใƒผใƒซใงใ—ใŸใ€‚ใ“ใฎใ‚ˆใ†ใชใ‚ขใƒผใƒˆใŒใ™ในใฆใ‚ใ‚Šใพใ—ใŸใ€‚ใ€
02:17
You've started a conversation.
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ไผš่ฉฑใ‚’้–‹ๅง‹ใ—ใพใ—ใŸใ€‚
02:19
If you say: -"...buy them?"
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02:19
-"At the gap."
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ใ‚ใชใŸใŒ่จ€ใ†ใชใ‚‰๏ผš -ใ€Œโ€ฆ่ฒทใ†๏ผŸใ€
-ใ€Œใ‚ฎใƒฃใƒƒใƒ—ใงใ€‚ใ€
02:21
Finished.
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็ต‚ไบ†ใ—ใŸใ€‚
02:22
So: "Hey. Where did you get them?"
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ใ ใ‹ใ‚‰๏ผšใ€Œใญใˆใ€‚ใฉใ“ใง ๆ‰‹ใซๅ…ฅใ‚ŒใŸใฎ๏ผŸใ€
02:24
Let them say "buy". Don't bring that up.
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ๅฝผใ‚‰ใซใ€Œ่ฒทใ†ใ€ใจ่จ€ใ‚ใ›ใฆใใ ใ•ใ„ใ€‚ ใใ‚Œใ‚’ๆŒใกๅ‡บใ•ใชใ„ใงใใ ใ•ใ„ใ€‚
02:27
Okay?
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02:27
Follow that up with right away...
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ใ‚ใ‹ใฃใŸ๏ผŸ
02:29
As soon as you say: "Where did you buy them...?"
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ใ€Œใฉใ“ใง ่ฒทใฃใŸใฎ...?ใ€
02:31
It's true...
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ๆœฌๅฝ“ใงใ™...
02:32
It might not be true right now, but it could be true, you say:
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ไปŠใฏใใ†ใงใฏใชใ„ใ‹ใ‚‚ใ—ใ‚Œใพใ›ใ‚“ใŒใ€ๆœฌๅฝ“ใ‹ใ‚‚ใ—ใ‚Œใพใ›ใ‚“.
02:34
"Because I really have to get a cool present",
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02:37
or: "...an interesting gift for my nephew/my brother/my sister/my friend."
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็งใฎๅฆน/็งใฎๅ‹้”ใ€‚ใ€
02:41
Right? Or girlfriend, whatever, or your wife.
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ๅณ๏ผŸ ใพใŸใฏใ‚ฌใƒผใƒซใƒ•ใƒฌใƒณใƒ‰ใ€ ไฝ•ใงใ‚‚ใ€ใพใŸใฏใ‚ใชใŸใฎๅฆปใ€‚
02:43
By saying that you're saying, well, one thing, you have other friends.
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ใ‚ใชใŸใŒ่จ€ใฃใฆใ„ใ‚‹ใ“ใจใ‚’่จ€ใ†ใ“ใจใซใ‚ˆใฃใฆใ€ใพใ‚ใ€ 1ใคใฎใ“ใจใฏใ€ใ‚ใชใŸใซใฏไป–ใฎๅ‹้”ใŒใ„ใ‚‹.
02:47
But number two, you're giving them: "Cool".
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ใ—ใ‹ใ—ใ€็ฌฌไบŒใซใ€ใ‚ใชใŸใฏ ๅฝผใ‚‰ใซใ€Œใ‚ฏใƒผใƒซใ€ใ‚’ไธŽใˆใฆใ„ใพใ™ใ€‚
02:49
You're saying whatever they're wearing is interesting, cool, different enough that it
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ๅฝผใ‚‰ใŒไฝ•ใ‚’็€ใฆใ„ใ‚ˆใ†ใจใ‚‚ใ€ ่ˆˆๅ‘ณๆทฑใใ€ใ‹ใฃใ“ใ‚ˆใใ€
02:53
stopped you to talk to them.
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่ฉฑใ‚’ใ™ใ‚‹ใฎใ‚’ใŸใ‚ใ‚‰ใ†ใปใฉๅๅˆ†ใซ็•ฐใชใฃใฆใ„ใ‚‹ใจ่จ€ใฃใฆใ„ใ‚‹ใฎใงใ™ใ€‚
02:55
By example or by extension, that means added on you're saying:
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ไพ‹ใพใŸใฏๆ‹กๅผตใจใ—ใฆใ€ใใ‚Œ ใฏใ‚ใชใŸใŒ่จ€ใฃใฆใ„ใ‚‹ใ“ใจใ‚’ๆ„ๅ‘ณใ—ใพใ™:
02:59
"You're kind of cool, too, because you're wearing it
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ใ€Œใ‚ใชใŸใ‚‚ใกใ‚‡ใฃใจใ‚ฏใƒผใƒซ ใงใ™ใ€‚ใ‚ใชใŸใฏใใ‚Œใ‚’็€ใฆใ„ใฆ
03:01
and I think it's cool, so it's got to be cool and only a cool person would buy it."
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ใ€็งใฏใใ‚ŒใŒใ‚ฏใƒผใƒซใ ใจๆ€ใ†ใฎใง ใ€ใ‚ฏใƒผใƒซใงใชใ‘ใ‚Œใฐใชใ‚‰ใšใ€ใ‚ฏใƒผใƒซใชไบบใ ใ‘ใŒ่ฒทใ†ใงใ—ใ‚‡ใ†. ใใ‚Œใ€‚"
03:05
Right?
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ๅณ๏ผŸ
03:06
This is why it works, you've given them two compliments.
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ใ“ใ‚ŒใŒๆฉŸ่ƒฝใ™ใ‚‹็†็”ฑใงใ™ใ€‚ใ‚ใชใŸใฏ ๅฝผใ‚‰ใซ2ใคใฎ่ค’ใ‚่จ€่‘‰ใ‚’ไธŽใˆใพใ—ใŸ. ่ค’ใ‚
03:09
Who doesn't want to be complimented?
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ใ‚‰ใ‚ŒใŸใใชใ„ไบบใฏ๏ผŸ
03:11
First you're saying I'm wearing something cool, then you're saying:
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ๆœ€ๅˆใซใ‚ใชใŸใฏ็งใŒ ใ‚ฏใƒผใƒซใชใ‚‚ใฎใ‚’็€ใฆใ„ใ‚‹ใจ่จ€ใ„ใ€ๆฌกใซ
03:13
"I need to get something cool, and clearly what you have is cool."
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ใ€Œ็งใฏใ‚ฏใƒผใƒซใชใ‚‚ใฎใ‚’ๆ‰‹ใซๅ…ฅใ‚Œใ‚‹ๅฟ…่ฆใŒใ‚ใ‚Šใ€ ใ‚ใชใŸใŒๆŒใฃใฆใ„ใ‚‹ใ‚‚ใฎใฏๆ˜Žใ‚‰ใ‹ใซใ‚ฏใƒผใƒซใงใ™ใ€ใจ่จ€ใฃใฆใ„ใพใ™ใ€‚
03:16
I'm probably going to talk to you and go: "Well, you know, thanks for saying that.
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็งใฏใŠใใ‚‰ใใ‚ใชใŸใจ่ฉฑใ‚’ใ™ใ‚‹ใคใ‚‚ใ‚Šใงใ™๏ผš ใ€Œใพใ‚ใ€ใใ†่จ€ใฃใฆใใ‚Œใฆใ‚ใ‚ŠใŒใจใ†ใ€‚
03:20
I liked it because..."
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็งใฏใใ‚ŒใŒๅฅฝใใ ใฃใŸใฎใง...ใ€
03:22
And conversation started, and now you have an opportunity to maybe later on talk more,
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ใใ—ใฆไผš่ฉฑใŒๅง‹ใพใ‚Šใ€ไปŠใ‚ใชใŸ ใฏๅพŒใงใ‚‚ใฃใจ่ฉฑใ™ๆฉŸไผšใŒใ‚ใ‚Šใพใ™
03:26
and that's how you get your practice.
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็ทด็ฟ’ๆ–นๆณ•ใ€‚
03:29
Number two, how about this one?
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2็•ชใ€ใ“ใ‚Œใฏใฉใ†ใงใ™ใ‹๏ผŸ
03:31
"Wow, you are __________ (tall)"
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ใ€Œใ†ใ‚ใƒผใ€ใ‚ใชใŸใฏ__________๏ผˆ่ƒŒใŒ้ซ˜ใ„๏ผ‰ใงใ™ใ€
03:34
or: "You have __________ (really bright eyes)",
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ใพใŸใฏ๏ผšใ€Œใ‚ใชใŸใฏ__________ ๏ผˆๆœฌๅฝ“ใซๆ˜Žใ‚‹ใ„็›ฎ๏ผ‰
03:36
or something that has to do with the physical body.
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ใ‚’ ๆŒใฃใฆใ„ใพใ™ใ€ใ€ใพใŸใฏ่‚‰ไฝ“ใซ้–ขไฟ‚ใ™ใ‚‹ไฝ•ใ‹ใ€‚
03:40
The first one was about things. Physical.
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ๆœ€ๅˆใฎใ‚‚ใฎใฏ็‰ฉไบ‹ใซใคใ„ใฆใงใ—ใŸใ€‚ ็‰ฉ็†็š„ใ€‚
03:42
Now we want to talk about physical.
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ใ“ใ“ใงใ€ใƒ•ใ‚ฃใ‚ธใ‚ซใƒซใซใคใ„ใฆ่ฉฑใ—ใŸใ„ใจๆ€ใ„ ใพใ™ใ€‚
03:43
And you followed that up with: "What do you do?"
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ใใ—ใฆใ€ใ‚ใชใŸใฏใใ‚Œใซ็ถšใ„ ใฆใ€ใ€Œใ‚ใชใŸใฏไฝ•ใ‚’ใ—ใพใ™ใ‹๏ผŸใ€
03:45
Huh?
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ใฏ๏ผŸ
03:46
Example, you see someone, you go:
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ใŸใจใˆใฐใ€ ่ชฐใ‹ใซ
03:49
"Wow, you have amazing skin. What do you do to make it so clear?"
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ไผšใฃใฆใ€ใ€Œใ†ใ‚ใƒผใ€ใ™ใ”ใ„่‚Œ ใ‚’ใ—ใฆใ„ใ‚‹ใญใ€‚ใใ‚Œใ‚’ใฏใฃใใ‚Šใ•ใ›ใ‚‹ใŸใ‚ใซไฝ•ใ‚’ใ™ใ‚‹ใฎ๏ผŸใ€ใจ่จ€ใ†ใจใ—ใพใ™ใ€‚
03:53
Okay?
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ใ‚ใ‹ใฃใŸ๏ผŸ
03:54
Hmm.
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03:54
Or: "Wow, you're tall. What do you do?
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ใ†ใƒผใ‚“ใ€‚
ใพใŸใฏ๏ผšใ€Œใ†ใ‚ใƒผใ€่ƒŒใŒ้ซ˜ใ„ใญใ€‚ ไฝ•ใ‚’ใ—ใฆใ„ใ‚‹ใฎ๏ผŸ
03:57
Do you play sports or anything like that?"
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ใ‚นใƒใƒผใƒ„ใจใ‹ใ‚„ใฃใฆใ‚‹ ใฎ๏ผŸใ€
04:00
Okay?
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ใ‚ใ‹ใฃใŸ๏ผŸ
04:01
You follow it up.
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ใ‚ใชใŸใฏใใ‚Œใซๅพ“ใฃใฆใใ ใ•ใ„ใ€‚ ็งใŒ่จ€ใฃ
04:02
This is the follow up, as I said: "What do you do?"
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ใŸใ‚ˆใ†ใซใ€ใ“ใ‚Œใฏใƒ•ใ‚ฉใƒญใƒผใ‚ขใƒƒใƒ— ใงใ™๏ผšใ€Œใ‚ใชใŸใฏไฝ•ใ‚’ใ—ใพใ™ใ‹๏ผŸใ€
04:03
But why does this work?
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ใ—ใ‹ใ—ใ€ใชใœใ“ใ‚ŒใŒๆฉŸ่ƒฝใ™ใ‚‹ใฎใงใ—ใ‚‡ใ†ใ‹ใ€‚
04:04
Now, notice this is green and I have green up here.
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ใ•ใฆใ€ใ“ใ‚Œ ใŒ็ท‘่‰ฒใงใ€ใ“ใ“ใซ็ท‘่‰ฒใŒใ‚ใ‚‹ใ“ใจใซๆณจๆ„ใ—ใฆใใ ใ•ใ„ใ€‚
04:06
You probably noticed it but didn't understand why I skipped it.
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ใ‚ใชใŸใฏใŠใใ‚‰ใใใ‚Œใซๆฐ—ใฅใ„ใฆใ„ใพใ—ใŸใŒใ€ ใชใœ็งใŒใใ‚Œใ‚’ใ‚นใ‚ญใƒƒใƒ—ใ—ใŸใฎใ‹็†่งฃใงใใพใ›ใ‚“ใงใ—ใŸ.
04:12
I live in North America and basically I could say this is true for a lot of Western society.
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็งใฏๅŒ—็ฑณใซไฝใ‚“ใงใ„ใพใ™ใŒใ€ๅŸบๆœฌ็š„ใซ ใ“ใ‚Œใฏ่ฅฟๆด‹็คพไผšใฎๅคšใใซๅฝ“ใฆใฏใพใ‚‹ใจ่จ€ใˆใพใ™ใ€‚
04:18
We prefer you give compliments on positive things.
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ใƒใ‚ธใƒ†ใ‚ฃใƒ–ใชใ“ใจใ‚’่ค’ใ‚ใฆใ‚ใ’ใ‚‹ใ“ใจใ‚’ใŠๅ‹งใ‚ใ—ใพใ™ ใ€‚
04:21
Being tall is a positive thing in our society.
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่ƒŒใŒ้ซ˜ใ„ใ“ใจใฏใ€ ็งใŸใกใฎ็คพไผšใงใฏใƒใ‚ธใƒ†ใ‚ฃใƒ–ใชใ“ใจใงใ™ใ€‚
04:24
Alex, if you've ever seen him, he's a giant, but I wouldn't call him a giant because that's
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ใ‚ขใƒฌใƒƒใ‚ฏใ‚นใ€ใ‚ใชใŸใŒๅฝผใ‚’่ฆ‹ใŸ ใ“ใจใŒใ‚ใ‚‹ใชใ‚‰ใ€ๅฝผใฏๅทจไบบใงใ™ใŒใ€ๅฟ…ใšใ—ใ‚‚ใƒใ‚ธใƒ†ใ‚ฃใƒ–ใงใฏใชใ„ใฎใงใ€็งใฏๅฝผใ‚’ๅทจไบบใจใฏๅ‘ผใณ
04:28
not necessarily positive.
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ใพใ›ใ‚“.
04:29
But saying he's very tall, he'll be:
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ใ—ใ‹ใ—ใ€ๅฝผใŒ้žๅธธใซ ่ƒŒใŒ้ซ˜ใ„ใจ่จ€ใ†ใจใ€ๅฝผใฏ
04:31
"Yes, I am. I'm very tall."
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ใ€Œใฏใ„ใ€ใใ†ใงใ™ใ€‚็งใฏ้žๅธธใซ่ƒŒใŒ้ซ˜ใ„ใงใ™ใ€ใจ่จ€ใ†ใงใ—ใ‚‡ใ†ใ€‚
04:34
Saying, like: "You're this big huge thing", not good.
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ใ€Œใ‚ใชใŸใฏใ“ใ‚Œใปใฉๅคงใใชใ‚‚ใฎใงใ™ใ€ใจ่จ€ใฃใฆใ€ ่‰ฏใใ‚ใ‚Šใพใ›ใ‚“ใ€‚
04:38
So don't talk about things that might be negative.
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ใงใ™ใ‹ใ‚‰ใ€ใƒใ‚ฌใƒ†ใ‚ฃใƒ–ใซใชใ‚Šใใ†ใชใ“ใจใฏ่ฉฑใ•ใชใ„ใงใใ ใ•ใ„ ใ€‚
04:40
If someone is very big in weight, but not muscle, fat, you can't say that.
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่ชฐใ‹ใŒไฝ“้‡ใŒ้žๅธธใซๅคงใใ„ใŒ ใ€็ญ‹่‚‰ใ‚„่„‚่‚ชใŒใชใ„ๅ ดๅˆใ€ใ‚ใชใŸใฏใใ‚Œใ‚’่จ€ใ†ใ“ใจใฏใงใใพใ›ใ‚“.
04:44
They won't like it.
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ๅฝผใ‚‰ใฏใใ‚Œใ‚’ๆฐ—ใซๅ…ฅใ‚‰ใชใ„ใงใ—ใ‚‡ใ†ใ€‚
04:45
Even if you think it's delicious, they won't like it.
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ใ‚ใชใŸใŒ็พŽๅ‘ณใ—ใ„ใจๆ€ใฃใฆใ‚‚ ใ€ๅฝผใ‚‰ใฏใใ‚Œใ‚’ๅฅฝใใงใฏใ‚ใ‚Šใพใ›ใ‚“ใ€‚
04:47
If you think they're too short, like: "Wow, are you ever small.
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็Ÿญใ™ใŽใ‚‹ใจๆ€ใ†ๅ ดๅˆใฏใ€ๆฌกใฎ ใ‚ˆใ†ใซ่จ€ใ„ใพใ™ใ€‚
04:50
You're so small I could..."
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04:52
Not a compliment.
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04:53
Okay? So tall is good, bright eyes, good skin, lovely teeth, great hair.
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04:59
You know? All these things.
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05:00
Now, this is physical.
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05:01
Because this is a compliment about someone's style, number one; number two is a compliment
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05:06
about them personally.
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05:08
Now, the reason we don't say negative is you can't do things...
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ใ•ใฆใ€ ใƒใ‚ฌใƒ†ใ‚ฃใƒ–ใจใฏ่จ€ใ‚ใชใ„็†็”ฑใฏใ€ใ‚ใชใŸใฏ็‰ฉไบ‹ใ‚’่กŒใ†ใ“ใจใŒใงใใชใ„ใจใ„ใ†ใ“ใจใงใ™.
05:12
If you've got a negative feature in your life, like you're not tall or you're fat, you maybe
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05:16
can't do anything about it, so that's not nice to talk about.
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ใงใใชใ„ใงใ—ใ‚‡ใ†. ใใ‚Œ ใซใคใ„ใฆ่ฉฑใ™ใฎใฏใ„ใ„ใ“ใจใงใฏใ‚ใ‚Šใพใ›ใ‚“ใ€‚
05:20
But positive stuff-I know, your parents make you tall, but people don't think of that-it's
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05:25
always good.
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05:25
Or good skin, right?
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ๅธธใซ่‰ฏใ„ใ“ใจใงใ™.
ใใ‚Œใจใ‚‚็พŽ่‚Œ๏ผŸ
05:26
Or nice hair style.
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ใพใŸใฏ็ด ๆ•ตใชใƒ˜ใ‚ขใ‚นใ‚ฟใ‚คใƒซใ€‚
05:28
Okay?
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ใ‚ใ‹ใฃใŸ๏ผŸ
05:29
Why it works, because you've complimented the person which is good.
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ใชใœใใ‚ŒใŒใ†ใพใใ„ใใฎใ‹ใ€ใ‚ใชใŸ ใฏ่‰ฏใ„ไบบใ‚’ใปใ‚ใŸใŸใˆใŸใ‹ใ‚‰ใงใ™ใ€‚
05:32
You've said: "Look, physically, there's something beautiful about you."
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ใ‚ใชใŸใฏ่จ€ใฃใŸ๏ผšใ€Œ่ฆ‹ใฆใ€่‚‰ไฝ“็š„ใซใ€ใ‚ใชใŸใซใฏ ็พŽใ—ใ„ใ‚‚ใฎใŒใ‚ใ‚Šใพใ™ใ€‚ใ€
05:34
But you've also, by saying: "What do you do?" if you talk about their skin, you're saying:
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ใ—ใ‹ใ—ใ€ใ‚ใชใŸใฏใพใŸใ€ใ€Œใ‚ใชใŸใฏไฝ•ใ‚’ใ—ใพใ™ใ‹?ใ€ใจ่จ€ใฃใฆใ—ใพใ„ใพใ—ใŸใ€‚ ๅฝผใ‚‰ใฎ่‚Œใซใคใ„ใฆ่ฉฑใ™ๅ ดๅˆใ€
05:38
"You have a talent" or: "You have a skill".
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ใ€Œใ‚ใชใŸใซใฏๆ‰่ƒฝใŒใ‚ใ‚Šใพใ™ใ€ใพใŸใฏ ใ€Œใ‚ใชใŸใซใฏใ‚นใ‚ญใƒซใŒใ‚ใ‚Šใพใ™ใ€ใจ่จ€ใฃใฆใ„ใพใ™.
05:40
Or if they're tall, you say: "You've got to be playing sports or something."
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ใพใŸใฏใ€่ƒŒใŒ้ซ˜ใ„ๅ ดๅˆใฏใ€ใ€Œ ใ‚นใƒใƒผใƒ„ใ‹ไฝ•ใ‹ใ‚’ใ—ใชใ‘ใ‚Œใฐใชใ‚‰ใชใ„ใ€ใจ่จ€ใ„ใพใ™ใ€‚
05:43
So you're actually saying: "You have actually worked on something."
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ใคใพใ‚Šใ€ใ€Œใ‚ใชใŸใฏๅฎŸ้š›ใซไฝ•ใ‹ใซๅ–ใ‚Š็ต„ใ‚“ใ ใ€ใจ่จ€ใฃใฆใ„ใ‚‹ใฎใงใ™ ใ€‚
05:47
So you're not just saying: "You're beautiful", you're saying:
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ใคใพใ‚Šใ€ๅ˜ใซใ€Œใ‚ใชใŸใฏ็พŽใ—ใ„ใ€ใจ่จ€ใฃใฆใ„ใ‚‹ใฎใงใฏใชใ ใ€
05:49
"You're beautiful and you've worked on something."
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ใ€Œใ‚ใชใŸใฏ็พŽใ—ใ„ใ—ใ€ ไฝ•ใ‹ใซๅ–ใ‚Š็ต„ใ‚“ใงใใŸใ€ใจ่จ€ใฃใฆใ„ใ‚‹ใฎใงใ™ใ€‚
05:51
That is good.
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05:53
Okay?
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ใ‚ใ‹ใฃใŸ๏ผŸ
05:54
So let's go over here, number three.
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ใงใฏใ€ใ“ใ“ใซ่กŒใใพใ—ใ‚‡ใ† ใ€3 ็•ช็›ฎใงใ™ใ€‚
05:57
So we got the compliment, we got, you know...
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ใงใ™ใ‹ใ‚‰ใ€็งใŸใกใฏ่ค’ใ‚่จ€่‘‰ ใ‚’ๅพ—ใพใ—ใŸใ€
05:58
We're suggesting you got a talent or a skill.
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็งใŸใกใฏๅพ—ใพใ—ใŸ... ็งใŸใกใฏใ‚ใชใŸใŒๆ‰่ƒฝใ‚„ใ‚นใ‚ญใƒซใ‚’ๆŒใฃใฆใ„ใ‚‹ใ“ใจใ‚’็คบๅ”†ใ—ใฆใ„ใพใ™ .
06:00
Number three: "I'm loving the cold/the rain/the sun."
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06:06
Duh, James that's the weather, everybody does that.
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ใ‚ใ‚ใ€ใ‚ธใ‚งใƒผใƒ ใ‚นใ€ใใ‚Œใฏ ๅคฉๆฐ—ใงใ™ใ€่ชฐใ‚‚ใŒใใ†ใ—ใพใ™ใ€‚
06:09
You're right.
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ใ‚ใชใŸใŒๆญฃใ—ใ„ใ€‚
06:10
Everybody talks about the weather.
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ใฟใ‚“ใชใง ๅคฉๆฐ—ใฎ่ฉฑใ‚’ใ—ใพใ™ใ€‚ ็‰นใซใƒใ‚นใ‚„ใ‚จใƒฌใƒ™ใƒผใ‚ฟใƒผใ‚’ๅพ…ใฃ
06:12
I'm asking you to say something different, especially if you're waiting for a bus or
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ใฆใ„ใ‚‹ๅ ดๅˆใฏใ€ๅˆฅใฎใ“ใจใ‚’่จ€ใ†ใ‚ˆใ†ใซใŠ้ก˜ใ„ใ—ใฆใ„ใพใ™
06:15
in an elevator.
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.
06:17
When you say the opposite...
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้€†ใซ่จ€ใ†ใจโ€ฆ
06:18
Huh? The opposite of what you would think.
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ใˆ๏ผŸ ใ‚ใชใŸใŒ่€ƒใˆใฆใ„ใ‚‹ใ“ใจใฎๅๅฏพใ€‚
06:21
It's a bright, sunny summer-okay?-but the last two days, three days it's been raining.
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ใ‚ˆใๆ™ดใ‚ŒใŸๅคใ ใ‘ใฉใ€ ใ“ใ“ไบŒๆ—ฅใ€ไธ‰ๆ—ฅ้›จใŒ้™ใฃใฆใ‚‹ใ€‚
06:26
Nobody wants rain in the summer, but you say: "How you loving the rain? I'm loving it."
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ๅคใซ้›จใŒ้™ใ‚‹ใฎใ‚’ๆœ›ใ‚“ใงใ„ใ‚‹ไบบใฏใ„ใพใ›ใ‚“ใŒใ€ใ‚ใชใŸใฏ ใ“ใ†่จ€ใ„ใพใ™ใ€‚
06:32
They're going to go: "Ugh, I wish it was sunny."
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ๅฝผใ‚‰ใฏ่กŒใใคใ‚‚ใ‚Šใงใ™๏ผšใ€Œใ†ใƒผใ‚“ใ€ ๆ™ดใ‚Œใฆใ„ใŸใ‚‰ใ„ใ„ใฎใซใ€ใ€‚
06:34
You go: "Not me.
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ใ‚ใชใŸใฏใ“ใ†่จ€ใ„ใพใ™๏ผšใ€Œ็งใ˜ใ‚ƒใชใ„ใ€‚
06:35
I'm a gardener.
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็งใฏๅบญๅธซใ ใ€‚
06:36
I have a garden, and I need the rain.
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็งใซใฏๅบญ ใŒใ‚ใ‚Šใ€้›จใŒๅฟ…่ฆใ ใ€‚
06:38
My garden is beautiful."
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็งใฎๅบญใฏ็พŽใ—ใ„ใ€
06:39
They're like: "Gardener?"
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ๅฝผใ‚‰ใฏใ€Œๅบญๅธซ๏ผŸใ€ใฎใ‚ˆใ†ใชใ‚‚ใฎใงใ™ใ€‚
06:40
You're like: "Yeah, I've got roses..."
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ใ‚ใชใŸใฏๆฌกใฎใ‚ˆใ†ใซ่จ€ใฃใฆใ„ใพใ™:ใ€Œใˆใˆใ€ ็งใฏใƒใƒฉใ‚’ๆŒใฃใฆใ„ใพใ™...ใ€
06:42
Conversation started.
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ไผš่ฉฑใŒๅง‹ใพใ‚Šใพใ—ใŸใ€‚
06:43
You've brought in the unexpected.
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ใ‚ใชใŸใฏไบˆๆœŸใ›ใฌใ“ใจใ‚’ใ‚‚ใŸใ‚‰ใ—ใพใ— ใŸใ€‚
06:45
In the winter, people don't like the cold.
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ๅ†ฌ ใฏๅฏ’ใ•ใŒ่‹ฆๆ‰‹ใงใ™ใ€‚
06:48
Right?
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06:48
But you go: "Oh, I can't wait, so much snow."
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ๅณ๏ผŸ
ใ—ใ‹ใ—ใ€ใ‚ใชใŸใฏ ใ“ใ†่จ€ใ„ใพใ™ใ€‚
06:50
They go: "Snow, it's so bad to work in."
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ๅฝผใ‚‰ใฏใ“ใ†่จ€ใ„ใพใ™๏ผšใ€Œ้›ชใฎไธญใง ใฏไป•ไบ‹ใŒใงใใชใ„ใ€ใ€‚
06:52
You go: "I ski, man, I love to ski and I love going downhill.
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ใ€Œ็งใฏใ‚นใ‚ญใƒผใ‚’ใ—ใพใ™ใ€‚ใ‚นใ‚ญใƒผใŒๅคงๅฅฝใใงใ€ใƒ€ใ‚ฆใƒณใƒ’ใƒซใŒๅคงๅฅฝใ
06:55
It's amazing for me. I love skiing."
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ใงใ™ใ€‚็งใซใจใฃใฆ็ด ๆ™ดใ‚‰ใ—ใ„ใ“ใจใงใ™ใ€‚ ใ‚นใ‚ญใƒผใŒๅคงๅฅฝใใงใ™ใ€‚ใ€
06:58
So by suggesting the opposite about the weather, how good bad weather is.
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ใ—ใŸใŒใฃใฆใ€ๅคฉๆฐ—ใซใคใ„ใฆๅๅฏพใฎใ“ใจใ‚’็คบๅ”†ใ™ใ‚‹ใ“ใจใง ใ€ๆ‚ชๅคฉๅ€™ใŒใฉใ‚Œใปใฉ่‰ฏใ„ใ‹ใ‚’็คบใ—ใพใ™ใ€‚
07:01
Huh?
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ใฏ๏ผŸ
07:02
How good bad weather can be, you will find that it makes people go: "What?"
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ๆ‚ชๅคฉๅ€™ใŒใฉใ‚“ใชใซ่‰ฏใ„ใ‚‚ใฎใงใ‚ใ‚‹ใ‹ใซ ใ‹ใ‹ใ‚ใ‚‰ใšใ€ไบบใ€…ใฏใ€Œใชใซ๏ผŸใ€ใจๆ€ใ†ใงใ—ใ‚‡ใ†ใ€‚
07:06
They're curious, and then you get to tell them.
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ๅฝผใ‚‰ใฏๅฅฝๅฅ‡ๅฟƒใŒๅผทใ„ใฎใงใ€ ใ‚ใชใŸใฏๅฝผใ‚‰ใซ่ฉฑใ™ใ“ใจใŒใงใใพใ™.
07:09
Now, why it works here is you're sharing something.
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ใ“ใ“ใงๆฉŸ่ƒฝใ™ใ‚‹ใฎใฏใ€ ไฝ•ใ‹ใ‚’ๅ…ฑๆœ‰ใ—ใฆใ„ใ‚‹ใ‹ใ‚‰ใงใ™ใ€‚
07:13
When we share with each other, we open up to each other.
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ใŠไบ’ใ„ใซๅˆ†ใ‹ใกๅˆใ†ใจใใ€็งใŸใกใฏใŠไบ’ใ„ใซๅฟƒ ใ‚’้–‹ใใพใ™ใ€‚
07:16
You're telling me something about yourself that isn't:
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07:18
"Hi. My name's James. I'm from Japan."
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07:20
It's like: "Hi.
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07:21
I ski."
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07:22
Woo, that's cool.
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07:24
But if you just said to me: "Hi. I ski."
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ใ—ใ‹ใ—ใ€ใ‚ใชใŸใŒ็งใซใ€Œใ‚„ใ‚ใ€ ็งใฏใ‚นใ‚ญใƒผใ‚’ใ—ใฆใ„ใ‚‹ใ€ใจ่จ€ใฃใŸใจใ—ใŸใ‚‰ใ€‚
07:25
I'd go: "Get away from me, weirdo.
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ใ€Œ ็งใ‹ใ‚‰้›ขใ‚Œใฆใ€ๅค‰ไบบใ€‚็งใซ
07:27
Don't talk to me."
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07:28
But by saying something about the weird, I'm like...
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ใ—ใ‹ใ—ใ€ๅฅ‡ๅฆ™ใชใ“ใจใซใคใ„ใฆไฝ•ใ‹ใ‚’่จ€ใ†ใ“ใจใง ใ€็งใฏ
07:30
The weather, which is just weird, I'm like: -"Why would you say this is good weather?"
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โ€ฆ ๅคฉๆฐ—ใ€ใใ‚ŒใฏใŸใ ๅฅ‡ๅฆ™ใงใ™ใ€็งใฏๆฌกใฎใ‚ˆใ†ใซ ใชใ‚Šใพใ™๏ผš-ใ€Œใชใœใ“ใ‚ŒใŒ่‰ฏใ„ๅคฉๆฐ—ใ ใจ่จ€ใ†ใฎใงใ™ใ‹๏ผŸใ€
07:34
-"Well, I'm a skier."
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-ใ€Œใพใ‚ใ€็งใฏใ‚นใ‚ญใƒผใƒคใƒผใงใ™ใ€‚ใ€
07:35
-"Oh, you ski."
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-ใ€Œใ‚ใ‚ใ€ใ‚ใชใŸใฏใ‚นใ‚ญใƒผใ‚’ใ—ใพใ™ใ€‚ใ€
07:36
-"Yeah, I love to ski and this is the perfect weather."
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-ใ€Œใˆใˆใ€็งใฏใ‚นใ‚ญใƒผใŒๅคงๅฅฝใใงใ€ ใ“ใ‚ŒใฏๅฎŒ็’งใชๅคฉๆฐ—ใงใ™ใ€‚ใ€
07:38
Now I've told you I've got a good personality, I'm positive, and I do things.
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ไปŠใ€็งใฏ่‰ฏใ„ๆ€งๆ ผใ‚’ๆŒใฃใฆใ„ใฆใ€ ๅ‰ๅ‘ใใงใ€็‰ฉไบ‹ใ‚’่กŒใ†ใจ่จ€ใ„ใพใ—ใŸ.
07:43
I've shared information and I can ask you to do the same.
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็งใฏๆƒ…ๅ ฑใ‚’ๅ…ฑๆœ‰ใ—ใพใ—ใŸ ใ€‚ใ‚ใชใŸใซใ‚‚ๅŒใ˜ใ“ใจใ‚’ใŠ้ก˜ใ„ใงใใพใ™ใ€‚
07:46
Cool?
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ๆถผใ—ใ„๏ผŸ
07:47
Well, if that's all you think...
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ใˆใฃใจใ€ใใ‚Œใ ใ‘ใ ใจ
07:48
If you're like impressed by this, we've got two more.
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ๆ€ใฃใŸใ‚‰โ€ฆ ใ“ใ‚Œใซๆ„Ÿ้Š˜ใ‚’ๅ—ใ‘ใŸใชใ‚‰ ใ€ใ‚ใจ 2 ใคใ‚ใ‚Šใพใ™ใ€‚
07:51
Are you ready?
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ๆบ–ๅ‚™ใฏใงใใŸใ‹๏ผŸ
07:52
[Snaps]
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07:53
Well, so we were at three.
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ใˆใˆใจใ€็งใŸใกใฏ3ๆ™‚ใงใ—ใŸใ€‚
07:55
Let's do four and five.
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4 ใจ 5 ใซใ—ใพใ—ใ‚‡ใ†ใ€‚
07:57
Are you ready?
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ๆบ–ๅ‚™ใฏใงใใŸใ‹๏ผŸ
07:58
Oh, but before I do I just want to add a little aside.
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ใ‚ใ€ใงใ‚‚ใใฎๅ‰ ใซใกใ‚‡ใฃใจไฝ™่ซ‡ใ‚’ใ€‚
08:02
An aside is a comment that's not directly related to the topic, but in this case it
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ไฝ™่ซ‡ใฏใ€ใƒˆใƒ”ใƒƒใ‚ฏใซ็›ดๆŽฅ้–ขไฟ‚ใฎใชใ„ใ‚ณใƒกใƒณใƒˆใงใ™ ใŒใ€ใ“ใฎๅ ดๅˆ
08:07
has something to do with it.
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ใฏไฝ•ใ‹้–ขไฟ‚ใŒใ‚ใ‚Šใพใ™ใ€‚
08:09
There are two parts of conversation, speaking and listening.
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ไผš่ฉฑใซใฏใ€ใ‚นใƒ”ใƒผใ‚ญใƒณใ‚ฐใจใƒชใ‚นใƒ‹ใƒณใ‚ฐใฎ 2 ใคใฎ้ƒจๅˆ†ใŒใ‚ใ‚Šใพใ™ ใ€‚
08:14
I was giving you...
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็งใฏใ‚ใชใŸใซไธŽใˆใฆใ„ใพใ—ใŸ...
08:15
Or I am giving you some hints or tips on how to be better at conversation.
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ใพใŸใฏ ใ€ไผš่ฉฑใŒไธŠๆ‰‹ใซใชใ‚‹ใŸใ‚ใฎใƒ’ใƒณใƒˆใ‚„ใƒ’ใƒณใƒˆใ‚’ไธŽใˆใฆใ„ใพใ™.
08:20
But if you're really good at the talking and not the listening, it will die quickly.
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ใ—ใ‹ใ—ใ€่ฉฑใ™ใฎใŒๅพ—ๆ„ใง ใ€่žใใฎใŒๅพ—ๆ„ใงใชใ„ใจใ€ใ™ใใซๆญปใ‚“ใงใ—ใพใ„ใพใ™ใ€‚
08:24
So what we really want to do is emphasize: You're learning English, so you want to learn
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08:29
how to listen.
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ใ€‚
08:31
And here's a couple reasons why.
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08:33
You start the conversation, but you should listen more to get a better understanding of English.
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ไผš่ฉฑใ‚’ๅง‹ใ‚ใ‚‹ใฎใฏใ‚ใชใŸใงใ™ใŒ ใ€่‹ฑ่ชžใ‚’ใ‚ˆใ‚Šใ‚ˆใ็†่งฃใ™ใ‚‹ใซใฏใ€ใ‚‚ใฃใจ่žใๅฟ…่ฆใŒใ‚ใ‚Šใพใ™ใ€‚
08:39
Because we may not...
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08:40
Well, we don't.
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08:41
We don't speak like the grammar or the vocabulary books that are out there.
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็งใŸใกใฏใ€ ใใ“ใซใ‚ใ‚‹ๆ–‡ๆณ•ใ‚„่ชžๅฝ™ใฎๆœฌใฎใ‚ˆใ†ใซใฏ่ฉฑใ—ใพใ›ใ‚“ใ€‚
08:45
So for you to listen to English speakers, you start getting on how we're thinking and
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่‹ฑ่ชž่ฉฑ่€…ใฎ่ฉฑใ‚’่žใ ใ“ใจใงใ€็งใŸใกใŒใฉใฎใ‚ˆใ†ใซ่€ƒใˆใฆใ„ใ‚‹
08:49
how you should present the information to people.
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ใ‹ใ€ใฉใฎใ‚ˆใ†ใซ ๆƒ…ๅ ฑใ‚’ไบบใ€…ใซๆ็คบใ™ในใใ‹ใ‚’็†่งฃใ—ๅง‹ใ‚ใพใ™ใ€‚
08:52
Okay?
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ใ‚ใ‹ใฃใŸ๏ผŸ
08:53
So you'll get a better understanding of English.
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ใใฎ ใŸใ‚ใ€่‹ฑ่ชžใฎ็†่งฃใŒๆทฑใพใ‚Šใพใ™ใ€‚
08:55
So when it's coming in because you're hearing, you go: "Oh, they don't say that.
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08:57
They say other things, like: 'Whatda ya'", and there's a video I got on that
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ใฏไป–ใฎใ“ใจใ‚’่จ€ใ†. 'Whatda ya'ใ€ใฎใ‚ˆใ†
09:00
so check that out.
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ใซ.
09:01
"Whatda ya mean? Whatda ya say?" Okay?
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ใ€Œใฉใ†ใ„ใ†ๆ„ๅ‘ณ๏ผŸ ไฝ•ใฆ่จ€ใ†ใฎ๏ผŸใ€ ใ‚ใ‹ใฃใŸ๏ผŸ
09:05
The other thing is to catch the other thing is to catch the other person's interest and
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ใ‚‚ใ†ไธ€ใค ใฏ็›ธๆ‰‹ใฎ่ˆˆๅ‘ณใ‚’ใ‚ญใƒฃใƒƒใƒ
09:08
have the other person be able to have another conversation.
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ใ—ใฆๅˆฅใฎไผš่ฉฑใŒใงใใ‚‹ใ‚ˆใ†ใซใ™ใ‚‹ใ“ใจใงใ™ใ€‚
09:11
If you do all the talking, I'm going to think I've heard all I need to hear and I don't
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ใ‚ใชใŸใŒใ™ในใฆใฎ่ฉฑใ‚’ใ—ใฆใใ‚Œ ใŸใ‚‰ใ€่žใๅฟ…่ฆใŒใ‚ใ‚‹ใ“ใจใฏใ™ในใฆ่žใ„ใŸ
09:16
need to talk to you anymore.
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ใฎใงใ€ใ‚‚ใ†ใ‚ใชใŸใจ่ฉฑใ™ๅฟ…่ฆใฏใชใ„ใจๆ€ใ„ใพใ™ใ€‚
09:17
You told me everything.
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ใ‚ใชใŸใฏ็งใซใ™ในใฆใ‚’่ฉฑใ—ใพใ—ใŸใ€‚
09:18
But if you're actively listening to me and asking questions because you're listening
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ใ—ใ‹ใ—ใ€ใ‚ใชใŸใŒ็งใฎ่ฉฑใ‚’็ฉๆฅต็š„ใซ่žใ„
09:23
that have to do with the information I'm giving you, I'll probably say:
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ใฆใ€็งใŒๆไพ›ใ—ใฆใ„ใ‚‹ๆƒ…ๅ ฑ ใซ้–ข้€ฃใ™ใ‚‹่ณชๅ•ใ‚’ใ—ใฆใ„ใ‚‹ๅ ดๅˆใฏใ€ใŠใใ‚‰ใๆฌกใฎใ‚ˆใ†
09:25
"Hey. This was really cool.
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ใซ่จ€ใ†ใงใ—ใ‚‡ใ†ใ€‚
09:27
Let's have coffee later or let's meet up another time."
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ไปŠๅบฆไผšใ„ใพใ—ใ‚‡ใ†ใ€‚ใ€
09:29
Right?
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ๅณ๏ผŸ
09:30
And that's what we want to do.
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ใใ—ใฆใ€ใใ‚ŒใŒ็งใŸใกใŒใ‚„ใ‚ŠใŸใ„ใ“ใจใงใ™ใ€‚
09:32
So we're here: Have...
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ใ ใ‹ใ‚‰็งใŸใกใฏใ“ใ“ใซใ„ใพใ™: ๆŒใฃใฆ...
09:33
Okay, have another conversation, ask questions, listen more than you speak.
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ใ•ใฆใ€ๅˆฅใฎไผš่ฉฑใ‚’ใ—ใฆใ€ ่ณชๅ•ใ‚’ใ—ใฆใ€ใ‚ใชใŸใŒ่ฉฑใ™ใ‚ˆใ‚Šใ‚‚ใ‚‚ใฃใจ่žใ„ใฆใใ ใ•ใ„.
09:36
Listening more than you speak is a skill most of us don't have.
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่ฉฑใ™ไปฅไธŠใซ่žใใ“ใจใฏ ใ€็งใŸใกใฎใปใจใ‚“ใฉใŒๆŒใฃใฆใ„ใชใ„ใ‚นใ‚ญใƒซใงใ™ใ€‚
09:40
I'm guilty of it.
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็งใฏใใ‚Œใฎๆœ‰็ฝชใงใ™ใ€‚
09:41
But if you actually get this skill you can become actually a better conversationalist
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ใ—ใ‹ใ—ใ€ๅฎŸ้š›ใซใ“ใฎใ‚นใ‚ญใƒซใ‚’่บซใซใคใ‘ใ‚Œใฐ ใ€ไผš่ฉฑใŒไธŠๆ‰‹ใซใชใ‚Šใ€
09:45
and learn a lot more.
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ใ‚ˆใ‚Šๅคšใใฎใ“ใจใ‚’ๅญฆใถใ“ใจใŒใงใใพใ™ใ€‚
09:47
Right?
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ๅณ๏ผŸ
09:48
Cool, so I've just given my little speech for listening.
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ใ‹ใฃใ“ใ„ใ„ใฎใง ใ€่žใใŸใ‚ใซใกใ‚‡ใฃใจใ—ใŸใ‚นใƒ”ใƒผใƒใ‚’ใ—ใพใ—ใŸใ€‚
09:51
Now let's go back to what you really came here for, conversation.
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ใงใฏใ€ใ‚ใชใŸใŒๆœฌๅฝ“ใซใ“ใ“ใซๆฅใŸ็›ฎ็š„ใ€ไผš่ฉฑใซๆˆปใ‚Šใพใ—ใ‚‡ใ†ใ€‚
09:54
Right?
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ๅณ๏ผŸ
09:55
Number four, you can walk up and say:
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4 ใค็›ฎใฏใ€
09:58
"Hmm. Hi.
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ใ€Œใ†ใƒผใ‚“ใ€ใ“ใ‚“ใซใกใฏใ€‚
10:00
Tell me: How would you finish this phrase? I want to be the very best..."
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ๆ•™ใˆใฆใใ ใ•ใ„ใ€‚ใ“ใฎใƒ•ใƒฌใƒผใ‚บใ‚’ใฉใฎใ‚ˆใ†ใซ็ต‚ใ‚ใ‚‰ใ›ใพใ™ใ‹? ็งใฏๆœ€้ซ˜ใซใชใ‚ŠใŸใ„ใงใ™...ใ€ใจ่จ€ใ†
10:05
Now, a friend of mine said: "Okay, dude, that's really, really corny." "Corny" means not cool.
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ใ“ใจใŒใงใใพใ™ใ€‚ ๆœฌๅฝ“ใซใ€ๆœฌๅฝ“ใซ้™ณ่…ใงใ™ใ€‚ใ€ ใ€Œใ‚ณใƒผใƒ‹ใƒผใ€ใจใฏใ€ใ‹ใฃใ“ใ‚ˆใใชใ„ใจใ„ใ†ๆ„ๅ‘ณใงใ™ใ€‚
10:09
"Nobody's going to do that."
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ใ€Œ่ชฐใ‚‚ใใ‚Œใ‚’ใ™ใ‚‹ใคใ‚‚ใ‚Šใฏใชใ„ใ€‚ใ€
10:10
I went: "Ah-ha, but the surprise..."
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็งใฏ่กŒใใพใ—ใŸ๏ผšใ€Œใ‚ใ‚ใ€ ใงใ‚‚้ฉšใโ€ฆใ€
10:12
See? Surprise.
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ใปใ‚‰๏ผŸ ใ‚ตใƒ—ใƒฉใ‚คใ‚บใ€‚
10:13
No one does it, so when you do it you can say anything after that, like:
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่ชฐใ‚‚ใ‚„ใ‚‰ใชใ„ใฎใงใ€ใ‚„ใฃใŸ ๅพŒใฏ
10:18
"Oh, I've got to do an interview for work", or what have you.
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ใ€Œใ‚ใ‚ใ€ไป•ไบ‹ใฎใŸใ‚ใซ้ขๆŽฅใ‚’ใ—ใชใ‘ใ‚Œใฐใชใ‚‰ใชใ„ ใ€ใชใฉใ€ไฝ•ใงใ‚‚่จ€ใ†ใ“ใจใŒใงใใพใ™ใ€‚
10:21
You can follow up with that, but the whole thing is somebody asking you that question
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ใใ‚Œใ‚’ใƒ•ใ‚ฉใƒญใƒผใ‚ขใƒƒใƒ—ใ™ใ‚‹ใ“ใจใ‚‚ใงใใพใ™ใŒใ€ใ™ในใฆ ใฏ่ชฐใ‹ใŒใ‚ใชใŸใซใใฎ่ณชๅ•ใ‚’ใ™ใ‚‹ใ“ใจ
10:24
is like: "I want your opinion."
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ใงใ™:ใ€Œ็งใฏใ‚ใชใŸใฎๆ„่ฆ‹ใŒๆฌฒใ—ใ„ใงใ™.ใ€
10:26
I didn't write it here...
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ใ“ใ“ใซใฏๆ›ธใใพใ›ใ‚“ใงใ—ใŸโ€ฆ
10:27
Oh, I did. Good. Surprise, but I didn't write the second part.
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ใ‚ใ‚ใ€ๆ›ธใใพใ—ใŸใ€‚ ่‰ฏใ„ใ€‚ ้ฉšใ„ใŸใ“ใจใซใ€็ง ใฏ็ฌฌ 2 ้ƒจใ‚’ๆ›ธใใพใ›ใ‚“ใงใ—ใŸใ€‚
10:30
By saying: "I want your opinion", I'm saying you are valuable and I think you would be
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ใ€Œใ‚ใชใŸใฎๆ„่ฆ‹ใŒๆฌฒใ—ใ„ใ€ใจ่จ€ใ† ใ“ใจใงใ€ใ‚ใชใŸใฏไพกๅ€คใŒใ‚ใ‚Š
10:35
a person who would give me good information.
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ใ€ ็งใซ่‰ฏใ„ๆƒ…ๅ ฑใ‚’ๆไพ›ใ—ใฆใใ‚Œใ‚‹ไบบใ ใจๆ€ใ„ใพใ™ใ€‚
10:37
So that's going to make you go: "Well, I want to be the very best at...
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ใ€Œใพใ‚ ใ€็งใฏๆœ€้ซ˜ใซใชใ‚ŠใŸใ„ใงใ™...
10:42
Yes, let me think about..."
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ใฏใ„ใ€่€ƒใˆใ•ใ›ใฆใใ ใ•ใ„...ใ€
10:43
Ah, think.
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ใ‚ใ‚ใ€่€ƒใˆใฆใฟใฆใใ ใ•ใ„ใ€‚
10:45
If you make a person think, they think you're intelligent.
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ใ‚ใชใŸใŒไบบใซ่€ƒใˆใ•ใ›ใ‚‹ใจใ€ ๅฝผใ‚‰ใฏใ‚ใชใŸใŒ่ณขใ„ใจๆ€ใ„ใพใ™ใ€‚
10:48
It's just how it goes.
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ใใ‚Œใฏใพใ•ใซใใ‚ŒใŒใฉใ†ใชใ‚‹ใ‹ใงใ™ใ€‚
10:49
Because if I have the answer and it's obvious, it was a dumb question.
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็งใŒ็ญ”ใˆใ‚’ๆŒใฃใฆใ„ใฆ ใ€ใใ‚ŒใŒๆ˜Žใ‚‰ใ‹ใงใ‚ใ‚‹ๅ ดๅˆใ€ใใ‚Œใฏใฐใ‹ใ’ใŸ่ณชๅ•ใ ใฃใŸใ‹ใ‚‰ใงใ™.
10:53
When I don't have it, I have to think, I'm like:
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ๆŒใฃใฆใ„ใชใ„ใจใใฏใ€ใ“ใ†่€ƒใˆใชใ‘ใ‚Œใฐใชใ‚Šใพใ›
10:55
"Oo, that was cool, I'll remember that for the future myself."
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ใ‚“ใ€‚
10:58
Okay?
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10:59
So the element of surprise is why it works.
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ใฎ่ฆ็ด  ใฏใ€ใชใœใใ‚ŒใŒๆฉŸ่ƒฝใ™ใ‚‹ใฎใ‹ใจใ„ใ†ใ“ใจใงใ™ใ€‚
11:01
Nobody would ask it, so when you do you're the first person and you're original.
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่ชฐใ‚‚ใใ‚Œใ‚’่žใ‹ใชใ„ใฎใงใ€ใ‚ใชใŸใŒใใ†ใ™ใ‚‹ใจใใ€ใ‚ใชใŸ ใฏๆœ€ๅˆใฎไบบใงใ‚ใ‚Šใ€ใ‚ใชใŸใฏ็‹ฌๅ‰ต็š„ใงใ™.
11:06
Surprise.
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ใ‚ตใƒ—ใƒฉใ‚คใ‚บใ€‚
11:07
Okay.
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ใ‚ใ‹ใฃใŸใ€‚
11:08
Now, number five, this is my favourite.
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ใงใฏใ€5 ็•ช็›ฎใซใ€ ใ“ใ‚ŒใŒ็งใฎใŠๆฐ—ใซๅ…ฅใ‚Šใงใ™ใ€‚
11:12
"Hey. Did you hear about the goat and the chicken that went on the airplane?"
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ใ€Œใญใˆใ€‚ ้ฃ›่กŒๆฉŸใซไน—ใฃใŸใƒคใ‚ฎใจใƒ‹ใƒฏใƒˆใƒชใฎใ“ใจ่žใ„ใŸ๏ผŸใ€
11:16
What?
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ไฝ•๏ผŸ
11:18
Think about it.
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่€ƒใˆใฆใฟใฆใใ ใ•ใ„ใ€‚
11:19
That's just weird for somebody to walk up and tell you some weird thing from nowhere.
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่ชฐใ‹ใŒๆญฉใ„ใฆใใฆ ใ€ใฉใ“ใ‹ใ‚‰ใจใ‚‚ใชใๅฅ‡ๅฆ™ใชใ“ใจใ‚’่จ€ใ†ใฎใฏใŸใ ๅค‰ใงใ™.
11:24
After they say: "Hi. Hey. Hi." Whatever, ho.
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ๅฝผใ‚‰ใŒ่จ€ใฃใŸๅพŒ๏ผšใ€Œใ“ใ‚“ใซใกใฏใ€‚ใ“ใ‚“ใซใกใฏใ€‚ ใ“ใ‚“ใซใกใฏใ€‚ใ€ ใจใซใ‹ใใ€ใปใ‚‰ใ€‚
11:28
But it works, because, and this is why I write it here, it causes arousal.
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ใ—ใ‹ใ—ใ€ใใ‚ŒใฏๆฉŸ่ƒฝใ—ใพใ™ใ€‚ใชใœใชใ‚‰ใ€ใ“ใ‚ŒใŒ ็งใŒใ“ใ“ใซๆ›ธใ„ใฆใ„ใ‚‹็†็”ฑใงใ™ใ€ใใ‚Œใฏ่ฆš้†’ใ‚’ๅผ•ใ่ตทใ“ใ™ใ‹ใ‚‰ใงใ™.
11:31
Arousal is when you want to get up and move your body, you want to do something, you're aroused.
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่ฆš้†’ใจใฏใ€่ตทใไธŠใŒใฃใฆไฝ“ใ‚’ๅ‹•ใ‹ใ—ใŸใ„ใจใ ใ€ไฝ•ใ‹ใ‚’ใ—ใŸใ„ใจใใ€่ฆš้†’ใ—ใŸใจใใงใ™ใ€‚
11:37
It means you're interested, you feel alive, curious.
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ใใ‚Œใฏใ‚ใชใŸใŒ่ˆˆๅ‘ณใ‚’ๆŒใฃใฆใ„ใ‚‹ใ“ใจใ€ ใ‚ใชใŸใŒ็”Ÿใใฆใ„ใ‚‹ใ“ใจใ€ๅฅฝๅฅ‡ๅฟƒใ‚’ๆ„Ÿใ˜ใฆใ„ใ‚‹ใ“ใจใ‚’ๆ„ๅ‘ณใ—ใพใ™ใ€‚
11:40
And this kind of a thing, that's what it does.
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ใใ—ใฆใ€ใ“ใฎ็จฎใฎใ“ใจใ€ ใใ‚ŒใŒใใ‚ŒใŒใ™ใ‚‹ใ“ใจใงใ™ใ€‚
11:42
Because something's weird, you're like: "Huh?
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ไฝ•ใ‹ๅค‰ใ ใ‹ใ‚‰ใ€Œใˆ๏ผŸ
11:45
What?"
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11:45
You might even ask a question...
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ใชใซ๏ผŸใ€
ใ‚ใชใŸใ‚‚่ณชๅ•ใ‚’ใ™ใ‚‹ใ‹ใ‚‚ใ—ใ‚Œใพใ›ใ‚“...
11:46
They. Sorry, they may ask you a question right away.
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ๅฝผใ‚‰ใ€‚ ็”ณใ—่จณใ‚ใ‚Šใพใ›ใ‚“ใŒใ€ๅฝผใ‚‰ใฏใ™ใใซใ‚ใชใŸใซ่ณชๅ•ใ™ใ‚‹ใ‹ใ‚‚ใ—ใ‚Œใพใ›ใ‚“ .
11:49
"Chicken and a goat on a plane flying to Texas?
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ใ€Œ ใƒ†ใ‚ญใ‚ตใ‚น่กŒใใฎ้ฃ›่กŒๆฉŸใซไน—ใฃใŸใƒ‹ใƒฏใƒˆใƒชใจใƒคใ‚ฎ๏ผŸ
11:52
What?
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ใชใซ๏ผŸ
11:53
What are you talking...?" All of a sudden they're actually asking:
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ไฝ•่จ€ใฃใฆใ‚‹ใฎโ€ฆ๏ผŸใ€ ็ช็„ถใ€ๅฝผใ‚‰ใฏๅฎŸ้š›ใซใ“ใ†ๅฐ‹ใญใฆใ„
11:55
"You talk to me. You tell me."
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ใพใ™ใ€‚
11:58
You're like: "Okay, you asked for it.
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ใ‚ใชใŸใฏใ€ใ€Œใ‚ชใƒผใ‚ฑใƒผใ€ ใ‚ใชใŸใฏใใ‚Œใ‚’ๆฑ‚ใ‚ใพใ—ใŸใ€‚
12:00
I'll give you the information."
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็งใฏใ‚ใชใŸใซๆƒ…ๅ ฑใ‚’ๆไพ›ใ—ใพใ™ใ€‚ใ€
12:01
Okay?
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ใ‚ใ‹ใฃใŸ๏ผŸ
12:02
You know?
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ใปใ‚‰๏ผŸ
12:03
So, why does it work? Arousal.
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ใงใฏใ€ใชใœๆฉŸ่ƒฝใ™ใ‚‹ใฎใงใ—ใ‚‡ใ†ใ‹ใ€‚ ่ฆš้†’ใ€‚
12:04
"Aroused" means you wake up and you're like: "Hmm.
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ใ€Œ่ฆš้†’ใ€ใจใฏใ€็›ฎใŒ่ฆšใ‚ ใŸใจใใซใ€Œใ†ใƒผใ‚“ใ€
12:06
What's going on?"
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ไฝ•ใŒ่ตทใ“ใฃใฆใ„ใ‚‹ใฎ๏ผŸใ€ใจใ„ใ†ๆ„ๅ‘ณใงใ™ใ€‚
12:07
And it keep...
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ใใ—ใฆใใ‚Œใฏโ€ฆ
12:08
Gets the emotion of cur-...
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ใ‚ญใƒฅใ‚ขใฎๆ„Ÿๆƒ…ใ‚’ๅพ—ใ‚‹โ€ฆ
12:09
It gets emotion and curiosity.
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ใใ‚Œใฏๆ„Ÿๆƒ…ใจๅฅฝๅฅ‡ๅฟƒใ‚’ๅพ—ใ‚‹ใ€‚
12:11
Emotion...
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ๆ„Ÿๆƒ…...
12:12
And I should explain that one, is this: Emotion...
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ใใ—ใฆใ€็งใฏใใ‚Œใ‚’่ชฌๆ˜Žใ™ใ‚‹ๅฟ…่ฆใŒใ‚ใ‚Š ใพใ™ใ€ใ“ใ‚Œใฏ:ๆ„Ÿๆƒ…
12:15
The kinds of emotion you want are things that help people, get people angry, or excited.
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...ใ‚ใชใŸใŒๆœ›ใ‚€็จฎ้กžใฎๆ„Ÿๆƒ…ใฏ ใ€ไบบใ€…ใ‚’ๅŠฉใ‘ใŸใ‚Šใ€ไบบใ€…ใ‚’ๆ€’ใ‚‰ใ›ใŸใ‚Šใ€่ˆˆๅฅฎใ•ใ›ใŸใ‚Šใ™ใ‚‹ใ‚‚ใฎใงใ™.
12:22
Not sad things.
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ๆ‚ฒใ—ใ„ใ“ใจใงใฏใ‚ใ‚Šใพใ›ใ‚“ใ€‚
12:25
Sad things make people kind of feel:
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ๆ‚ฒใ—ใ„ใ“ใจใ‚’ใ™ใ‚‹ใจใ€ ไบบใฏ
12:27
"Ohh", they don't want to do anything and they don't want to talk to you.
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ใ€Œใ‚ใ‚ใ€ไฝ•ใ‚‚ ใ—ใŸใใชใ„ใ€ใ‚ใชใŸใจ่ฉฑใ—ใŸใใชใ„ใ€ใจๆ„Ÿใ˜ใพใ™ใ€‚
12:31
Or content, content is something that just makes you feel okay.
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12:35
Like: "Let's have a beer and relax", and that's what you do, you relax, you're not excited.
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ไพ‹๏ผšใ€Œใƒ“ใƒผใƒซใ‚’้ฃฒใ‚“ใงใƒชใƒฉใƒƒใ‚ฏใ‚นใ—ใ‚ˆใ†ใ€ใ€ใใ—ใฆใใ‚ŒใŒ ใ‚ใชใŸใฎใ™ใ‚‹ใ“ใจใงใ™ใ€ใ‚ใชใŸใฏใƒชใƒฉใƒƒใ‚ฏใ‚นใ—ใพใ™ใ€ใ‚ใชใŸใฏ่ˆˆๅฅฎใ—ใฆใ„ใพใ›ใ‚“.
12:39
But things that get you angry, like: -"Did you hear about the new tax?"
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ใ—ใ‹ใ—ใ€ๆฌกใฎใ‚ˆใ†ใซ่…นใ‚’็ซ‹ใฆใ‚‹ใ‚‚ใฎ๏ผš -ใ€Œๆ–ฐใ—ใ„็จŽใซใคใ„ใฆ่žใ„ใŸ๏ผŸใ€
12:42
-"Taxes? I hate tax!"
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-ใ€Œ็จŽ้‡‘๏ผŸ็จŽ้‡‘ใŒๅซŒใ„๏ผใ€
12:44
Now they want to talk to you about all the taxes in the world, or that chicken and goat.
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ไปŠใ€ๅฝผใ‚‰ใฏใ€ไธ–็•Œไธญใฎใ™ในใฆใฎ็จŽ้‡‘ใซใคใ„ใฆใ€ใ‚ใ‚‹ใ„ใฏใใฎใƒ‹ใƒฏใƒˆใƒชใจใƒคใ‚ฎใซใคใ„ใฆใ‚ใชใŸใซ่ฉฑใ—ใŸใ„ใจๆ€ใฃใฆใ„ใพใ™ ใ€‚
12:49
They're really into that story. Okay?
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ๅฝผใ‚‰ใฏๆœฌๅฝ“ใซใใฎ่ฉฑใซๅคขไธญใงใ™ใ€‚ ใ‚ใ‹ใฃใŸ๏ผŸ
12:51
Now, I've given you five conversation kind of openers, and it's not just...
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ใ•ใฆใ€็งใฏใ‚ใชใŸใซ5ใคใฎไผš่ฉฑใฎ็จฎ้กžใฎใ‚ชใƒผใƒ—ใƒŠใƒผใ‚’ไธŽใˆใพใ—ใŸ ใ€ใใ—ใฆใใ‚ŒใฏใŸใ ...
12:55
You know, it's the: "Hello" thing, but it's to open it up to have a bigger conversation
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ใ”ๅญ˜็Ÿฅใฎใ‚ˆใ†ใซใ€ใใ‚Œใฏใ€Œใ“ใ‚“ใซใกใฏใ€ใจใ„ใ†ใ“ใจใงใ™ ใŒใ€ใ‚ˆใ‚Šๅคงใใชไผš่ฉฑ
12:59
and a longer one.
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ใจใ‚ˆใ‚Š้•ทใ„ไผš่ฉฑใ‚’ใ™ใ‚‹ใŸใ‚ใซใใ‚Œใ‚’้–‹ใใ“ใจใงใ™.
13:00
So let's have an example conversation where we could take one of these things and just
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ใใ‚Œใงใฏ ใ€ใ“ใ‚Œใ‚‰ใฎใ†ใกใฎ 1 ใคใ‚’ๅ–ใ‚ŠไธŠใ’ใฆใ€ใใ‚Œใ‚’
13:04
utilize it or use it. Okay?
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ๅˆฉ็”จใพใŸใฏไฝฟ็”จใงใใ‚‹ไผš่ฉฑใฎไพ‹ใ‚’่ฆ‹ใฆใฟใพใ—ใ‚‡ใ†ใ€‚ ใ‚ใ‹ใฃใŸ๏ผŸ
13:06
How about the one we talked about, personal...?
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็งใŸใกใŒ ่ฉฑใ—ใŸๅ€‹ไบบ็š„ใชใ‚‚ใฎใฏใฉใ†ใงใ™ใ‹...๏ผŸ
13:08
A personal appearance?
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ๅ€‹ไบบ็š„ใชๅฎนๅงฟ๏ผŸ
13:10
Something on their body or something about them.
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ๅฝผใ‚‰ใฎไฝ“ใฎ ไฝ•ใ‹ใ€ใพใŸใฏๅฝผใ‚‰ใซใคใ„ใฆใฎไฝ•ใ‹ใ€‚
13:13
So we'll start off with: "Wow, you have great *hair*!"
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ใ ใ‹ใ‚‰็งใŸใกใฏๆฌกใฎใ‚ˆใ†ใซๅง‹ใ‚ใพใ™๏ผšใ€Œใ†ใ‚ใƒผใ€ ใ‚ใชใŸใฏ็ด ๆ™ดใ‚‰ใ—ใ„*้ซช*ใ‚’ๆŒใฃใฆใ„ใพใ™๏ผใ€
13:18
You noticed the little stars.
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ใ‚ใชใŸใฏๅฐใ•ใชๆ˜Ÿใซๆฐ—ใฅใใพใ—ใŸใ€‚
13:20
Men, this is for you.
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็”ทๆ€งใ€ใ“ใ‚Œใฏใ‚ใชใŸใฎใŸใ‚ใงใ™ใ€‚
13:23
Okay.
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13:24
Women don't do this, but I'm looking at you because I know you're going to, and I'm telling you right now:
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ๅฅณๆ€งใฏใ“ใ‚Œใ‚’ใ—ใพใ›ใ‚“ใŒใ€็งใฏใ‚ใชใŸใ‚’่ฆ‹ใฆใ„ ใพใ™ใ€‚ใ‚ใชใŸใŒใใ†ใ™ใ‚‹ใ ใ‚ใ†ใจ็Ÿฅใฃใฆใ„ใ‚‹ใ‹ใ‚‰ใงใ™ใ€‚ไปŠใ‚ใชใŸใซ่จ€ใ„ใŸใ„ใฎ
13:28
"Stop. In the name of love, don't do it."
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13:31
Gentlemen, do not talk about this area on the woman, the bum-bum area on the woman.
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13:37
Sexual things, no.
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ๆ€ง็š„ใชใ‚‚ใฎใ€ใ„ใ„ใˆใ€‚
13:38
They don't like it.
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13:40
Okay?
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13:40
In case you're like: "Yeah!" Yes.
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ใ‚ใ‹ใฃใŸ๏ผŸ
ใ‚ใชใŸใŒ ๅฅฝใใชใ‚‰๏ผšใ€Œใ†ใ‚“๏ผใ€ ใฏใ„ใ€‚
13:42
Do you remember that lady you said it to?
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ใ‚ใชใŸใŒ ใใ‚Œใ‚’่จ€ใฃใŸใ‚ใฎๅฅณๆ€งใ‚’่ฆšใˆใฆใ„ใพใ™ใ‹๏ผŸ
13:44
Do you remember how she smiled and walked away?
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ๅฝผๅฅณใŒใฉใฎใ‚ˆใ†ใซๅพฎ็ฌ‘ใ‚“ใง็ซ‹ใกๅŽปใฃใŸใ‹่ฆšใˆใฆใ„ใพใ™ใ‹ ?
13:46
That's why we don't do it.
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ใใ‚ŒใŒ็งใŸใกใŒใใ‚Œใ‚’ใ—ใชใ„็†็”ฑใงใ™ใ€‚
13:47
Hair is because she's taken time to fix it, she's put effort in it.
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้ซชใฏๆ™‚้–“ ใ‚’ๆŽ›ใ‘ใฆ็›ดใ—ใŸใ‹ใ‚‰ใ€ๅŠชๅŠ›ใ—ใŸใ‹ใ‚‰ใ€‚
13:51
Remember I talked about skill?
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ใ‚นใ‚ญใƒซใซใคใ„ใฆ่ฉฑใ—ใŸใฎใ‚’่ฆšใˆใฆใ„ใพใ™ใ‹๏ผŸ
13:53
Skin because she takes care of her skin.
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ๅฝผๅฅณใฏ ่‡ชๅˆ†ใฎ่‚Œใฎไธ–่ฉฑใ‚’ใ—ใฆใ„ใ‚‹ใ‹ใ‚‰ใงใ™ใ€‚
13:56
Once again, skill and talent.
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็นฐใ‚Š่ฟ”ใ—ใพใ™ใŒใ€ใ‚นใ‚ญใƒซใจๆ‰่ƒฝใ€‚
13:58
Boom-boom, boom-boom, she was given those.
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ใƒ–ใƒณใƒ–ใƒณใ€ใƒ–ใƒณใƒ–ใƒณใ€ ๅฝผๅฅณใฏใใ‚Œใ‚‰ใ‚’ไธŽใˆใ‚‰ใ‚Œใพใ—ใŸใ€‚
14:01
She will just go:
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14:02
"You're another man who's just a rude person", so don't go there.
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ใ€Œใ‚ใชใŸใฏใŸใ ใฎ ๅคฑ็คผใชไบบใงใ™ใ€ใฎใงใ€ใใ“ใซ่กŒใ‹ใชใ„ใงใใ ใ•ใ„.
14:06
But you can talk about skin, you can talk about hair, you got the drift.
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ใ—ใ‹ใ—ใ€่‚Œใซใคใ„ใฆ่ฉฑใ™ ใ“ใจใ‚‚ใ€้ซชใซใคใ„ใฆ่ฉฑใ™ใ“ใจใ‚‚ใงใใพใ™ใ€‚
14:09
Right? If she has nice legs because it's muscular because she works out, yes.
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ๅณ๏ผŸ ๅฝผๅฅณใŒ้‹ๅ‹•ใ‚’ใ—ใฆ ็ญ‹่‚‰่ณชใงใ‚ใ‚‹ใจใ„ใ†็†็”ฑใงๅฝผๅฅณใฎ่„šใŒใ„ใ„ใชใ‚‰ใ€ใใ†ใงใ™ใ€‚
14:13
If she has nice arms, you go: "Look at your arms, they're strong."
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ๅฝผๅฅณใฎ่…•ใŒ่‰ฏใ‘ใ‚Œใฐใ€ใ€Œ ใ‚ใชใŸใฎ่…•ใ‚’่ฆ‹ใฆใใ ใ•ใ„ใ€‚่…•ใŒๅผทใ„ใงใ™ใ€ใจ่จ€ใ†ใงใ—ใ‚‡ใ†ใ€‚
14:16
She says: "Yes, I'm a rower."
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ๅฝผๅฅณใฏ่จ€ใ„ใพใ™๏ผšใ€Œใฏใ„ใ€็งใฏๆผ•ใŽๆ‰‹ใงใ™ใ€‚ใ€
14:17
Right? Or: "I lift weights."
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ๅณ๏ผŸ ใพใŸใฏ๏ผšใ€Œ็งใฏใ‚ฆใ‚งใ‚คใƒˆใ‚’ๆŒใกไธŠใ’ใพใ™ใ€‚ใ€
14:18
You go: "Oh, that's good."
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14:20
But: "Oo, baby, mm", no.
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ใ—ใ‹ใ—๏ผšใ€Œใ‚ใ‚ใ€่ตคใกใ‚ƒใ‚“ใ€mmใ€ใ€ใ„ใ„ใˆใ€‚
14:22
Mm-mm.
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14:23
If you don't do it to your mother or your sister, don't do it to another woman.
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14:26
Okay.
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ใ‚ใ‹ใฃใŸใ€‚
14:27
Conversation done.
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ไผš่ฉฑ็ต‚ไบ†ใ€‚
14:28
Let's go back.
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ๆˆปใ‚Šใพใ—ใ‚‡ใ†ใ€‚
14:29
Okay, so then you...
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14:31
So we started off.
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ใ ใ‹ใ‚‰็งใŸใกใฏๅง‹ใ‚ใพใ—ใŸใ€‚
14:32
Right? You're like: "Wow, you have great hair!"
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14:35
Then you talk to the other person...
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14:36
Oh, sorry.
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.ใ‚ใ‚ใ€ใ”ใ‚ใ‚“ใชใ•ใ„ใ€‚
14:37
That's you again here.
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ใใ‚ŒใŒใพใŸใ‚ใชใŸใงใ™ใ€‚
14:38
"How do you get it so shiny?"
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ใ€Œใฉใ†ใ‚„ใฃใŸใ‚‰ใ“ใ‚“ใชใซใƒ”ใ‚ซใƒ”ใ‚ซใซใชใ‚‹ใฎ๏ผŸใ€
14:39
This is the skill part.
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ใ‚นใ‚ญใƒซ้ƒจๅˆ†ใงใ™ใ€‚
14:41
This is like: "Clearly you do something with your hair other people don't."
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ใ“ใ‚Œใฏๆฌกใฎใ‚ˆใ† ใชใ‚‚ใฎใงใ™ใ€‚
14:45
It's: "Yes, you have something naturally beautiful, but also you take care of yourself."
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ใใ‚Œใฏใ€ใ€Œใ‚ใชใŸใฏ่‡ช็„ถใซ็พŽใ—ใ„ใ‚‚ใฎใ‚’ๆŒใฃใฆใ„ ใพใ™ใŒใ€่‡ชๅˆ†่‡ช่บซใ‚‚ๅคงๅˆ‡ใซใ—ใฆใ„ใพใ™ใ€‚ใ€
14:49
And they're like: "Oh, wow, thank you.
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ใใ—ใฆๅฝผใ‚‰ใฏใ€ ใ€Œใ‚ใ‚ใ€ใ‚ใ‚ŠใŒใจใ†
14:51
I shampoo it, and then I put some duck grease in my hair."
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14:55
Whatever. Okay?
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ใชใ‚“ใงใ‚‚ใ„ใ„ใ€‚ ใ‚ใ‹ใฃใŸ๏ผŸ
14:57
This is the: "Blah, blah, blah, blah, blah, blah, blah", they're going to start talking.
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ใ“ใ‚Œใฏใ€ใ€Œไฝ•ใจใ‹ใ€ไฝ•ใจใ‹ใ€ไฝ•ใจใ‹ใ€ไฝ•ใจใ‹ใ€ไฝ•ใจใ‹ใ€ ไฝ•ใจใ‹ใ€ไฝ•ใจใ‹ใ€ใ€ๅฝผใ‚‰ใฏ่ฉฑใ—ๅง‹ใ‚ใพใ™ใ€‚
15:01
Please don't fall asleep.
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็œ ใ‚‰ใชใ„ใงใใ ใ•ใ„ใ€‚ ใ€Œใˆใˆใ€ใ‹ใฃใ“ใ„ใ„ใ€‚ๆœฌๅฝ“ใซใ‹ใฃใ“ใ„ใ„ใ€ใฎ
15:03
You still have to listen, like: "Yeah, cool. Really cool."
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ใ‚ˆใ†ใซใ€ใพใ ่€ณใ‚’ๅ‚พใ‘ใ‚‹ๅฟ…่ฆใŒใ‚ใ‚Š ใพใ™ใ€‚
15:06
And then you do this, this crazy thing:
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ใใ—ใฆใ€ใ‚ใชใŸใฏ ใ“ใ‚“ใชใ‚ฏใƒฌใ‚คใ‚ธใƒผใชใ“ใจใ‚’ใ—
15:08
-"Hi. My name is James. I'm from Japan."
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ใพใ™ใ€‚
15:12
-"James, you told me don't do this about 10 minutes..."
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-ใ€Œใ‚ธใ‚งใƒผใƒ ใ‚นใ€ใ‚ใชใŸใฏ็งใซใ“ใ‚Œใ‚’็ด„10ๅˆ†ใ—ใชใ„ใงใใ ใ•ใ„ใจ่จ€ใ„ใพใ—ใŸ ...ใ€
15:14
Yeah. But listen: First we had this conversation, then I said: "I'm James from Japan."
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ใˆใˆใ€‚ ใงใ‚‚่žใ„ใฆใใ ใ•ใ„ใ€‚ๆœ€ๅˆใซใ“ใฎไผš่ฉฑใ‚’ใ—ใฆ ใ‹ใ‚‰ใ€ใ€Œ็งใฏๆ—ฅๆœฌใฎใ‚ธใ‚งใƒผใƒ ใ‚บใงใ™ใ€ใจ่จ€ใ„ใพใ—ใŸใ€‚
15:19
Now they're like: "Cool, you're interesting."
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ไปŠใงใฏใ€ใ€Œใ‚ฏใƒผใƒซใ€ ใ‚ใชใŸใฏ้ข็™ฝใ„ใ€ใจ่จ€ใฃใฆใ„ใพใ™ใ€‚
15:24
And then you go back to:
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15:25
"Hey, so tell me more about this duck grease thing.
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ใ€Œใญใˆใ€ใ“ใฎใ‚ขใƒ’ใƒซใฎใ‚ฐใƒชใƒผใ‚นใซใคใ„ใฆใ‚‚ใฃใจๆ•™ใˆใฆใใ ใ•ใ„ ใ€‚
15:28
Where do you get it?"
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ใฉใ“ใงๆ‰‹ใซๅ…ฅใ‚Œใพใ™ใ‹?ใ€ใจใ„ใ†่ณชๅ•ใซๆˆปใ‚Šใพใ™ใ€‚
15:29
Or: "Hey, what are your top three things to do with your hair once you do this?
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ใพใŸใฏ๏ผšใ€Œใญใˆใ€ ใ“ใ‚Œใ‚’ใ‚„ใฃใŸใ‚‰ใ€้ซชใ‚’ใฉใ†ใ™ใ‚‹ใ‹ใƒˆใƒƒใƒ—3ใฏไฝ•ใงใ™ใ‹?
15:33
Blah, blah, blah, blah."
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ไฝ•ใจใ‹ใ€ไฝ•ใจใ‹ใ€ไฝ•ใจใ‹ใ€ไฝ•ใจใ‹ใ€.
15:35
And then you'll get back to the: "Blah, blah, blah."
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ใใ—ใฆใ€ ใ€Œไฝ•ใจใ‹ใ€ไฝ•ใจใ‹ใ€ไฝ•ใจใ‹ใ€ใซๆˆปใ‚Šใพใ™ใ€‚
15:36
And here's a small hint, I say keep the first conversation short because then you're still
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ใ“ใ“ใซใกใ‚‡ใฃใจใ—ใŸใƒ’ใƒณใƒˆใŒใ‚ใ‚Š ใพใ™ใ€‚ๆœ€ๅˆใฎไผš่ฉฑใฏ็Ÿญใใ™ใ‚‹ใ‚ˆใ†ใซ่จ€ใ„ใพใ™ใ€‚ใชใœใชใ‚‰ใ€ใ‚ใชใŸใฏใพใ 
15:42
interesting and they have more to tell you so you'll have a reason to go:
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่ˆˆๅ‘ณใ‚’ๆŒใฃใฆใ„ใ‚‹ใ‹ใ‚‰ใงใ™ใ€‚ๅฝผใ‚‰ใฏใ‚ใชใŸใซใ‚‚ใฃใจๅคšใใฎใ“ใจใ‚’่ฉฑใ—ใฆ ใใ‚Œใ‚‹ใฎใงใ€่กŒใ็†็”ฑใŒใงใใพใ™
15:46
"That's so cool. Look, I got to go, take my bus, go on the elevator, my friend's coming, but I'd love
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ใ€‚ ็งใฎใƒใ‚น ใ€ใ‚จใƒฌใƒ™ใƒผใ‚ฟใƒผใซไน—ใฃใฆใ€ๅ‹้”ใŒๆฅใ‚‹
15:51
to have another coffee because I've got to practice my English and it would be great if you could practice with me."
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ใ‘ใฉใ€่‹ฑ่ชžใ‚’็ทด็ฟ’ใ—ใชใใ‚ƒใ„ใ‘ใชใ„ใ‹ใ‚‰ใ€ใ‚ณใƒผใƒ’ใƒผใ‚’ใ‚‚ใ†ไธ€ๆฏ้ฃฒใฟ ใŸใ„ใฎใ€‚
15:56
And they'll probably say yes because you took the time from all these things.
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ใใ—ใฆใ€ใ‚ใชใŸใŒใ“ใ‚Œใ‚‰ใ™ในใฆใฎใ“ใจใซๆ™‚้–“ใ‚’ๅ‰ฒใ„ใŸใฎใงใ€ๅฝผใ‚‰ใฏใŠใใ‚‰ใใ‚คใ‚จใ‚นใจ่จ€ใ†ใงใ—ใ‚‡ใ† .
15:59
You don't...
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16:00
And please don't use all five at the same time.
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ใ„ใ‘ใพใ›ใ‚“... ๅŒๆ™‚ใซ 5 ใคใ™ในใฆใ‚’ไฝฟ็”จใ—ใชใ„ใงใใ ใ•ใ„ ใ€‚
16:02
"Oh, you're tall.
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ใ€Œใ‚ใ€่ƒŒใŒ้ซ˜ใ„ใญใ€‚
16:03
Look at this jacket, it's really cool.
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ใ“ใฎใ‚ธใƒฃใ‚ฑใƒƒใƒˆ่ฆ‹ใฆใ€ ใ™ใ”ใใ‚ซใƒƒใ‚ณใ„ใ„ใ‚ˆใ€‚
16:04
Oh, do you want to hear about the duck and the...?"
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ใ‚ ใ€ใ‚ขใƒ’ใƒซใจโ€ฆใฎ่ฉฑ่žใใŸใ„๏ผŸใ€
16:06
Don't. One at a time, just one per person.
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ใ—ใชใ„ใงใใ ใ•ใ„ใ€‚ 1ๅ›ž1ๅ›žใ€ใŠ 1ไบบๆง˜1ๅ›ž้™ใ‚Šใงใ™ใ€‚
16:08
Okay?
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ใ‚ใ‹ใฃใŸ๏ผŸ
16:09
But because you started off in an interesting way that was different, they're more likely
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ใ—ใ‹ใ—ใ€ใ‚ใชใŸ ใŒๅˆฅใฎ่ˆˆๅ‘ณๆทฑใ„ๆ–นๆณ•ใงๅง‹ใ‚ใŸใฎใงใ€ๅฝผใ‚‰ใฏใ“ใ†่จ€ใ†ๅฏ่ƒฝๆ€งใŒ้ซ˜ใ
16:13
to say: "Sure.
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16:14
That sounds good.
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ใใ‚Œใฏใ„ใ„ใงใ™ใญใ€‚
16:15
I come here regularly" or: "You can meet me here", or: "I'm doing this".
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็งใฏๅฎšๆœŸ็š„ใซใ“ใ“ใซๆฅใพใ™ใ€ใพใŸใฏใ€Œ ใ“ใ“ใง็งใซไผšใ†ใ“ใจใŒใงใใพใ™ใ€ใพใŸใฏใ€Œ็งใฏใ‚„ใฃใฆใ„ใพใ™ใ€ ใ“ใ‚Œ"ใ€‚
16:19
Trust me, it'll work.
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็งใ‚’ไฟกใ˜ใฆใใ ใ•ใ„ใ€ใใ‚Œใฏใ†ใพใใ„ใใงใ—ใ‚‡ใ†ใ€‚
16:21
Be yourself, tell them you're practicing English, be interesting.
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่‡ชๅˆ†ใ‚‰ใ—ใใ€่‹ฑ่ชžใ‚’็ทด็ฟ’ใ—ใฆใ„ใ‚‹ใ“ใจใ‚’ไผใˆ ใ€่ˆˆๅ‘ณใ‚’ๆŒใฃใฆใใ ใ•ใ„ใ€‚
16:25
I can almost guarantee you they'll say: "I would love to chat with you again."
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ใ€ŒใพใŸใŠใ—ใ‚ƒในใ‚Šใ—ใŸใ„ใงใ™ใ€ใจ่จ€ใฃใฆใใ‚Œใ‚‹ใ“ใจใฏใปใผ้–“้•ใ„ใ‚ใ‚Šใพใ›ใ‚“ใ€‚
16:28
And don't forget what I said here about listening is important as the speaking part.
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ใใ—ใฆใ€ใ“ใ“ใง่จ€ใฃใŸใ“ใจใ‚’ๅฟ˜ใ‚Œใชใ„ใงใใ ใ•ใ„ ใ€‚ใƒชใ‚นใƒ‹ใƒณใ‚ฐใฏใ‚นใƒ”ใƒผใ‚ญใƒณใ‚ฐใฎใƒ‘ใƒผใƒˆใจใ—ใฆ้‡่ฆใงใ™ใ€‚
16:32
Anyway, that's the lesson.
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ใจใซใ‹ใใ€ใใ‚ŒใŒๆ•™่จ“ใงใ™ใ€‚
16:34
You've got five. I gave you five hints. Right?
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ใ‚ใชใŸใฏ5ใคๆŒใฃใฆใ„ใพใ™ใ€‚ 5ใคใฎใƒ’ใƒณใƒˆใ‚’ๆ•™ใˆใฆใใ‚Œใพใ—ใŸใ€‚ ๅณ๏ผŸ
16:36
Or five clues.
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ใพใŸใฏ5ใคใฎๆ‰‹ใŒใ‹ใ‚Šใ€‚
16:37
I know they'll work for you.
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็งใฏๅฝผใ‚‰ใŒใ‚ใชใŸใฎใŸใ‚ใซๅƒใใ“ใจใ‚’็Ÿฅใฃใฆใ„ใพใ™.
16:39
And I want you to subscribe.
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ใใ—ใฆ่ณผ่ชญใ—ใฆใปใ—ใ„ใ€‚
16:41
Somewhere around here is the "Subscribe" button, I don't know, but find it and please subscribe.
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ใ“ใฎใ‚ใŸใ‚Šใฎใฉใ“ใ‹ใซใ€Œ่ณผ่ชญใ€ใƒœใ‚ฟใƒณ ใŒใ‚ใ‚Šใพใ™ใŒใ€ใ‚ใ‹ใ‚Šใพใ›ใ‚“ใŒใ€่ฆ‹ใคใ‘ใฆ่ณผ่ชญใ—ใฆใใ ใ•ใ„ใ€‚
16:46
Thank you from E and myself, of course, we love when you come and click on the channel.
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E ใจ็งใ‹ใ‚‰ ใ‚ใ‚ŠใŒใจใ†ใ”ใ–ใ„ใพใ™ใ€‚
16:52
And if this lesson has been valuable to you, share it.
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ใใ—ใฆใ€ใ“ใฎใƒฌใƒƒใ‚นใƒณ ใŒใ‚ใชใŸใซใจใฃใฆไพกๅ€คใฎใ‚ใ‚‹ใ‚‚ใฎใงใ‚ใ‚‹ๅ ดๅˆใฏใ€ใใ‚Œใ‚’ๅ…ฑๆœ‰ใ—ใฆใใ ใ•ใ„ใ€‚
16:57
We do this for you, and if you have a friend or someone who's also learning English, share
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็งใŸใกใฏใ‚ใชใŸใฎใŸใ‚ใซใ“ใ‚Œใ‚’่กŒใ„ใพใ™ใ€‚ใ‚ใชใŸใฎๅ‹ไบบ ใ‚„่‹ฑ่ชžใ‚’ๅญฆใ‚“ใงใ„ใ‚‹ไบบใŒใ„ใ‚‹ๅ ดๅˆใฏใ€
17:01
it with them as well so they can get the same joy that you get.
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ๅฝผใ‚‰ใซใ‚‚ๅ…ฑๆœ‰ใ—ใฆ ใ€ใ‚ใชใŸใจๅŒใ˜ๅ–œใณใ‚’ๅพ—ใ‚‹ใ“ใจใŒใงใใพใ™.
17:04
All right?
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ใ‚ใ‹ใฃใŸ๏ผŸ
17:05
Anyway, have a great day and we'll see you soon.
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ใจใซใ‹ใใ€็ด ๆ™ดใ‚‰ใ—ใ„ไธ€ๆ—ฅ ใ‚’ใŠ้Žใ”ใ—ใใ ใ•ใ„ใ€‚ใพใŸใŠไผšใ„ใ—ใพใ—ใ‚‡ใ†ใ€‚
17:07
Thanks.
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