How to Make Everyone Want to Talk to You | Communication skills in English

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Accent's Way English with Hadar


ไธ‹ใฎ่‹ฑ่ชžๅญ—ๅน•ใ‚’ใƒ€ใƒ–ใƒซใ‚ฏใƒชใƒƒใ‚ฏใ™ใ‚‹ใจๅ‹•็”ปใ‚’ๅ†็”Ÿใงใใพใ™ใ€‚ ็ฟป่จณใ•ใ‚ŒใŸๅญ—ๅน•ใฏๆฉŸๆขฐ็ฟป่จณใงใ™ใ€‚

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Hey, it's Hadar.
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And this is The Accent's Way, speaking to you from YouTube Space, Berlin.
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ใ“ใ‚Œใฏ The Accent's Way ใงใ™ใ€‚ ใƒ™ใƒซใƒชใƒณใฎ YouTube Space ใ‹ใ‚‰ใŠ่ฉฑใ—ใพใ™ใ€‚
00:05
How fun is that?
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ใใ‚Œใฏใฉใ‚Œใปใฉๆฅฝใ—ใ„ใงใ™ใ‹๏ผŸ
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I wanted to give you a few tips today on how to be a great conversation partner.
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ไปŠๆ—ฅใฏใ€็ด ๆ™ดใ‚‰ใ—ใ„ไผš่ฉฑใฎใƒ‘ใƒผใƒˆใƒŠใƒผใซใชใ‚‹ๆ–นๆณ•ใซใคใ„ใฆใ€ใ„ใใคใ‹ใฎใƒ’ใƒณใƒˆใ‚’ใŠไผใˆใ—ใŸใ„ใจๆ€ใ„ใพใ™ ใ€‚ ็‰นใซๅค–ๅ›ฝ่ชžใ‚’่ฉฑใ™ใจใใฏใ€
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It's very important to be a great speaker, especially when you speak a
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ๅ„ชใ‚ŒใŸใ‚นใƒ”ใƒผใ‚ซใƒผใงใ‚ใ‚‹ใ“ใจใฏ้žๅธธใซ้‡่ฆใงใ™
00:16
foreign language, but it's also extremely important to be a great conversation
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ใŒใ€ ๅ„ชใ‚ŒใŸไผš่ฉฑ
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partner, to be a good listener.
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ใƒ‘ใƒผใƒˆใƒŠใƒผใงใ‚ใ‚‹ใ“ใจใ€ๅ„ชใ‚ŒใŸ่žใๆ‰‹ใงใ‚ใ‚‹ใ“ใจใ‚‚้žๅธธใซ้‡่ฆใงใ™ใ€‚
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Sometimes we're so preoccupied with what we're going to say, what words we need to use,
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ไฝ•ใ‚’ ่จ€ใŠใ†ใจใ—ใฆใ„ใ‚‹ใฎใ‹ใ€ใฉใ‚“ใช่จ€่‘‰ใ‚’ไฝฟใ†ๅฟ…่ฆใŒใ‚ใ‚‹ใฎใ‹โ€‹โ€‹ใซๅคขไธญใซใชใ‚Šใ€
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being afraid of getting stuck that we forget to be a good conversation partner.
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่กŒใ่ฉฐใพใ‚‹ใฎใ‚’ๆใ‚Œใฆใ€ ่‰ฏใ„ไผš่ฉฑ็›ธๆ‰‹ใงใ‚ใ‚‹ใ“ใจใ‚’ๅฟ˜ใ‚Œใฆใ—ใพใ†ใ“ใจใŒใ‚ใ‚Šใพใ™.
00:34
We forget to listen.
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็งใŸใกใฏ่žใใ“ใจใ‚’ๅฟ˜ใ‚Œใพใ™ใ€‚
00:35
We forget to communicate, to really communicate.
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็งใŸใกใฏใ‚ณใƒŸใƒฅใƒ‹ใ‚ฑใƒผใ‚ทใƒงใƒณใ™ใ‚‹ใ“ใจใ€ๆœฌๅฝ“ใซใ‚ณใƒŸใƒฅใƒ‹ใ‚ฑใƒผใ‚ทใƒงใƒณใ™ใ‚‹ใ“ใจใ‚’ๅฟ˜ใ‚Œใฆใ„ใพใ™ ใ€‚
00:38
So, I want to give you a few tips to remind you what makes a great
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ใใ“ใงใ€ ็ด ๆ™ดใ‚‰ใ—ใ„
00:43
conversation partner, and what you can do every day with people you speak to.
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ไผš่ฉฑ็›ธๆ‰‹ใจใฏไฝ•ใ‹ใ€ใพใŸใ€ ่ฉฑใ™็›ธๆ‰‹ใจๆฏŽๆ—ฅใงใใ‚‹ใ“ใจใ‚’ๆ€ใ„ๅ‡บใ™ใŸใ‚ใฎใƒ’ใƒณใƒˆใ‚’ใ„ใใคใ‹็ดนไป‹ใ—ใŸใ„ใจๆ€ใ„ใพใ™ใ€‚
00:47
And of course, it could be in your native tongue and in English.
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ใ‚‚ใกใ‚ใ‚“ใ€ ๆฏๅ›ฝ่ชžใงใ‚‚่‹ฑ่ชžใงใ‚‚ใ‹ใพใ„ใพใ›ใ‚“ใ€‚
00:51
To be a better listener, to be a better partner.
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ใ‚ˆใ‚Š่‰ฏใ„่žใๆ‰‹ใซใชใ‚‹ใŸใ‚ใซใ€ ใ‚ˆใ‚Š่‰ฏใ„ใƒ‘ใƒผใƒˆใƒŠใƒผใซใชใ‚‹ใŸใ‚ใซใ€‚
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First, make it about them.
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ใพใšใ€ใใ‚Œใ‚‰ใซใคใ„ใฆ่ชฌๆ˜Žใ—ใพใ™ใ€‚
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It takes the edge off of you so you don't have to always speak.
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ใใ‚Œใฏใ‚ใชใŸใฎๅ„ชไฝๆ€งใ‚’ๅฅชใ†ใฎใงใ€ ๅธธใซ่ฉฑใ™ๅฟ…่ฆใฏใ‚ใ‚Šใพใ›ใ‚“ใ€‚
01:05
And also, people like to talk about themselves.
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ใพใŸใ€ไบบใ€…ใฏ ่‡ชๅˆ†่‡ช่บซใซใคใ„ใฆ่ฉฑใ™ใฎใŒๅฅฝใใงใ™ใ€‚
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People like when others are interested in what they have to say in their lives.
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ไบบใ€…ใฏใ€ไป–ใฎไบบใŒ่‡ชๅˆ†ใฎไบบ็”Ÿใง่จ€ใ‚ใชใ‘ใ‚Œใฐใชใ‚‰ใชใ„ใ“ใจใซ่ˆˆๅ‘ณใ‚’ๆŒใฃใฆใ„ใ‚‹ใจใใŒๅฅฝใใงใ™ ใ€‚
01:14
Ask them questions, ask them real questions.
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ๅฝผใ‚‰ใซ่ณชๅ•ใ‚’ใ—ใฆใใ ใ•ใ„ใ€ ๅฝผใ‚‰ใซๆœฌๅฝ“ใฎ่ณชๅ•ใ‚’ใ—ใฆใใ ใ•ใ„ใ€‚
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Try to be the one leading the conversation by getting the other person to speak.
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ไป–ใฎไบบใซ่ฉฑใ—ใฆใ‚‚ใ‚‰ใ†ใ“ใจใงใ€ไผš่ฉฑใ‚’ใƒชใƒผใƒ‰ใ™ใ‚‹ไบบใซใชใ‚‹ใ‚ˆใ†ใซใ—ใฆใใ ใ•ใ„ใ€‚ ๅฝผใ‚‰ใŒไฝ•ใ‚’่จ€ใ‚ใชใ‘ใ‚Œใฐใชใ‚‰ใชใ„ใ‹
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Really be interested in what they have to say.
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ใซๆœฌๅฝ“ใซ่ˆˆๅ‘ณใ‚’ๆŒใฃใฆใใ ใ•ใ„ ใ€‚
01:25
Make it about them, not about you.
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ใ‚ใชใŸใฎใ“ใจใงใฏใชใใ€ๅฝผใ‚‰ใฎใ“ใจใ‚’่€ƒใˆใฆใใ ใ•ใ„ใ€‚
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Number 2.
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2.
01:32
Look them in the eyes.
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็›ฎใ‚’่ฆ‹ใฆใใ ใ•ใ„ใ€‚
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Don't look away, don't look at your freaking phone, don't look at your watch.
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็›ฎใ‚’ใใ‚‰ใ—ใŸใ‚Šใ€ ใŠใ‹ใ—ใชๆบๅธฏ้›ป่ฉฑใ‚’่ฆ‹ใŸใ‚Šใ€ๆ™‚่จˆใ‚’่ฆ‹ใŸใ‚Šใ—ใชใ„ใงใใ ใ•ใ„ใ€‚
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Look them in the eyes.
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ใใ‚Œใ‚‰ใ‚’็›ฎใง่ฆ‹ใฆใใ ใ•ใ„ใ€‚
01:41
If you feel embarrassed, if you feel it's too much, look at their mouth,
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ๆฅใšใ‹ใ—ใ„ใจๆ„Ÿใ˜ใŸใ‚Šใ€ ใ‚„ใ‚Šใ™ใŽใ ใจๆ„Ÿใ˜ใŸใ‚Šใ—ใŸๅ ดๅˆใฏใ€ๅฝผใ‚‰ใฎๅฃใ‚’่ฆ‹ใฆใใ ใ•ใ„
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but make sure that they see that you are looking at them and not elsewhere.
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ใ€‚
01:50
Even though you're listening, they don't know that you're listening.
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ใ‚ใชใŸใŒ่žใ„ใฆใ„ใฆใ‚‚ใ€ๅฝผใ‚‰ใฏ ใ‚ใชใŸใŒ่žใ„ใฆใ„ใ‚‹ใ“ใจใ‚’็Ÿฅใ‚Šใพใ›ใ‚“ใ€‚
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If you're looking away, okay?
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็›ฎใ‚’ใใ‚‰ใ—ใฆใ‚‹ใชใ‚‰ๅคงไธˆๅคซ๏ผŸ
01:55
It doesn't feel safe, and people don't want to keep on talking
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ๅฎ‰ๅ…จใ ใจใฏๆ„Ÿใ˜ใพใ›ใ‚“ใ—ใ€
01:59
if no one's listening to them.
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่ชฐใ‚‚่ฉฑใ‚’่žใ„ใฆใใ‚Œใชใ‘ใ‚Œใฐ่ฉฑใ—็ถšใ‘ใŸใใ‚ใ‚Šใพใ›ใ‚“ใ€‚
02:01
It makes them feel funny and weird, and it turns you into a bad conversation partner.
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ใใ‚Œใฏๅฝผใ‚‰ใ‚’้ข็™ฝใใฆๅฅ‡ๅฆ™ใซๆ„Ÿใ˜ใ•ใ›ใ€ ใ‚ใชใŸใ‚’ๆ‚ชใ„ไผš่ฉฑ็›ธๆ‰‹ใซๅค‰ใˆใพใ™.
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Of course, you can look away every now and then, but always go back to their face.
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ใ‚‚ใกใ‚ใ‚“ใ€ๆ™‚ใ€…็›ฎใ‚’ใใ‚‰ใ™ใ“ใจใ‚‚ใงใใพใ™ ใŒใ€ๅธธใซๅฝผใ‚‰ใฎ้ก”ใซๆˆปใ‚Šใพใ™ใ€‚
02:09
I guarantee that you'll enjoy the conversation more because
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02:13
you won't think of other things.
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ไป–ใฎใ“ใจใ‚’่€ƒใˆใชใใชใ‚‹ใฎใงใ€ไผš่ฉฑใŒใ‚‚ใฃใจๆฅฝใ—ใใชใ‚‹ใ“ใจ้–“้•ใ„ใชใ—ใงใ™ใ€‚
02:14
It will force you to actually listen to them.
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ใใ‚Œใฏใ‚ใชใŸใซ ๅฎŸ้š›ใซใใ‚Œใ‚‰ใ‚’่žใใ“ใจใ‚’ๅผทๅˆถใ—ใพใ™ใ€‚
02:17
And hopefully, they'll say something interesting.
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ใใ—ใฆใ†ใพใใ„ใ‘ใฐใ€ๅฝผใ‚‰ใฏ ไฝ•ใ‹้ข็™ฝใ„ใ“ใจใ‚’่จ€ใ†ใงใ—ใ‚‡ใ†.
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My next tip is: the strong connection is in the details.
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็งใฎๆฌกใฎใƒ’ใƒณใƒˆใฏใ€ๅผทใ„ ใคใชใŒใ‚Šใฏ็ดฐ้ƒจใซใ‚ใ‚‹ใจใ„ใ†ใ“ใจใงใ™ใ€‚ ใ‚ใชใŸใŒ
02:27
If it's someone that is not new to you that you've spoken with before,
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ไปฅๅ‰ใซ่ฉฑใ—ใŸใฎใŒใ‚ใชใŸใซใจใฃใฆๆ–ฐใ—ใ„ไบบใงใฏใชใ„ๅ ดๅˆใ€
02:30
a friend, a colleague, client.
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ๅ‹ไบบใ€ๅŒๅƒšใ€ใ‚ฏใƒฉใ‚คใ‚ขใƒณใƒˆ. ๅ‰ๅ›žใฎไผš่ฉฑใฎ
02:34
Remember things from your previous conversation.
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ๅ†…ๅฎนใ‚’ๆ€ใ„ๅ‡บใ—ใฆใใ ใ•ใ„ ใ€‚
02:36
Even take a mental note of the simple things: his daughter's name, her
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ๅฝผใฎๅจ˜ใฎๅๅ‰ใ€
02:41
experience in the last flight over here.
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ใ“ใ“ใธใฎๆœ€ๅพŒใฎใƒ•ใƒฉใ‚คใƒˆใงใฎๅฝผๅฅณใฎ็ตŒ้จ“ใชใฉใ€ๅ˜็ด”ใชใ“ใจใ‚’ๅฟƒใซ็•™ใ‚ใฆใŠใ„ใฆใใ ใ•ใ„ใ€‚
02:43
Remember small details and bring them up in the next conversation.
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็ดฐ้ƒจใ‚’่ฆšใˆใฆใŠใ„ใฆใ€ ๆฌกใฎไผš่ฉฑใงๅ–ใ‚ŠไธŠใ’ใฆใใ ใ•ใ„ใ€‚
02:48
When you remember the small details and you bring it up in the next conversation,
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ไบ›็ดฐใชใ“ใจใ‚’่ฆšใˆใฆใ„ใฆใ€ ๆฌกใฎไผš่ฉฑใงใใ‚Œใ‚’ๆŒใกๅ‡บใ™ใจใใฏใ€
02:52
ask a question about it, it will really touch them, it will move them.
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ใใ‚Œใซใคใ„ใฆ่ณชๅ•ใ—ใฆใใ ใ•ใ„ใ€‚ ๆœฌๅฝ“ใซๆ„Ÿๅ‹•ใ—ใ€ๆ„Ÿๅ‹•ใ—ใพใ™ใ€‚
02:57
They'll feel that you actually listened, that you remembered something about them.
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ๅฝผใ‚‰ใฏใ€ใ‚ใชใŸใŒๅฎŸ้š›ใซ่€ณใ‚’ๅ‚พใ‘ใ€ ๅฝผใ‚‰ใซใคใ„ใฆไฝ•ใ‹ใ‚’่ฆšใˆใฆใ„ใŸใจๆ„Ÿใ˜ใ‚‹ใงใ—ใ‚‡ใ†ใ€‚ ่‡ชๅˆ†ใŒ
03:01
It is so meaningful to people to feel what they said mattered.
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่จ€ใฃใŸใ“ใจใ‚’้‡่ฆใ ใจๆ„Ÿใ˜ใ‚‹ใฎใฏใ€ไบบใ€…ใซใจใฃใฆใจใฆใ‚‚ๆ„ๅ‘ณใฎใ‚ใ‚‹ใ“ใจใงใ™ใ€‚
03:05
Even if it's a simple thing.
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ใŸใจใˆใใ‚ŒใŒๅ˜็ด”ใชใ“ใจใงใ‚ใฃใฆใ‚‚ใ€‚
03:07
Especially, if it's a simple thing.
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ๅ˜็ด”ใชใ“ใจใชใ‚‰็‰นใซใ€‚
03:09
We all remember big things, big events, but the small things, the small
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็งใŸใกใฏ็š†ใ€ๅคงใใชๅ‡บๆฅไบ‹ใ€ๅคงใใชๅ‡บๆฅไบ‹ใ‚’่ฆšใˆใฆใ„ใพใ™ ใŒใ€ๅฐใ•ใชใ“ใจใ€ๅฐใ•ใช
03:14
things really make all the difference.
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ใ“ใจใŒๆœฌๅฝ“ใซใ™ในใฆใฎ้•ใ„ใ‚’็”Ÿใฟใพใ™.
03:17
So, remember the small things and remember to bring it up in the next conversation.
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ใงใ™ใ‹ใ‚‰ใ€ๅฐใ•ใชใ“ใจใ‚’่ฆšใˆใฆใŠใ„ใฆใ€ ๆฌกใฎไผš่ฉฑใงใใ‚Œใ‚’ๆŒใกๅ‡บใ™ใ“ใจใ‚’ๅฟ˜ใ‚Œใชใ„ใงใใ ใ•ใ„.
03:24
Don't bitch about other people's behaviors.
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ไป–ไบบใฎ่กŒๅ‹•ใซๅฃๅ‡บใ—ใ—ใชใ„ใงใใ ใ•ใ„ ใ€‚
03:26
"Oh, look at him, how he eats.
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ใ€Œใ‚ใ‚ใ€ๅฝผใ‚’่ฆ‹ใฆใ€ๅฝผใŒใฉใฎใ‚ˆใ†ใซ้ฃŸในใฆใ„ใ‚‹ใ‹ใ€‚
03:28
Oh my God.
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03:29
He's taking all the food from the buffet".
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ๅฝผใฏใƒ“ใƒฅใƒƒใƒ•ใ‚งใ‹ใ‚‰ใ™ในใฆใฎ้ฃŸใน็‰ฉใ‚’ๅ–ใฃใฆใ„ใ‚‹ใ€.
03:32
"Oh my God, look at her.
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ใ€Œใชใ‚“ใฆใ“ใฃใŸใ€ๅฝผๅฅณใ‚’่ฆ‹ใฆใใ ใ•ใ„ใ€‚
03:33
What is up with her hair?"
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ๅฝผๅฅณใฎ้ซชใฏใฉใ†ใชใฃใฆใ„ใพใ™ใ‹๏ผŸใ€
03:36
I mean, you don't know who this person you're speaking with.
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ใคใพใ‚Šใ€ใ‚ใชใŸใฏใ‚ใชใŸใŒ่ฉฑใ—ใฆใ„ใ‚‹ใ“ใฎไบบใŒ่ชฐใชใฎใ‹ใ‚ใ‹ใ‚‰ใชใ„ใจใ„ใ†ใ“ใจใงใ™ ใ€‚
03:39
Maybe they're doing the same thing, and maybe that's going to make
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ๅฝผใ‚‰ใฏๅŒใ˜ใ“ใจใ‚’ใ—ใฆใ„ใ‚‹ใฎใ‹ใ‚‚ใ—ใ‚Œใพใ›ใ‚“
03:42
them feel super uncomfortable.
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03:44
It happened to me once.
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ใใ‚Œใฏ็งใซไธ€ๅบฆ่ตทใ“ใ‚Šใพใ—ใŸใ€‚
03:46
I was speaking to this woman and she started talking about all these women
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็งใฏใ“ใฎๅฅณๆ€งใจ่ฉฑใ—ใฆใ„ใฆใ€ๅฝผๅฅณใฏใ“ใ‚Œใ€ใ“ใ‚Œใ€ใ‚ใ‚Œใ‚’ใ—ใฆใ„ใ‚‹ ใ™ในใฆใฎๅฅณๆ€งใซใคใ„ใฆ่ฉฑใ—ๅง‹ใ‚ใพใ—ใŸ
03:50
that do this, this and that, and I was like, "Hmm, that's what I do".
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03:54
And it made me feel uncomfortable, and it made me feel like I
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ใใ—ใฆใ€ใใ‚Œใฏ็งใ‚’ไธๅฟซใซใ•ใ›ใ€็งใฏ
03:57
don't want to be her friend.
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ๅฝผๅฅณใฎๅ‹้”ใซใชใ‚ŠใŸใใชใ„ใ‚ˆใ†ใชๆฐ—ใŒใ—ใพใ—ใŸ.
03:58
And you know what?
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ใใ—ใฆใ€ใ‚ใชใŸใฏไฝ•ใ‚’็Ÿฅใฃใฆใ„ใพใ™ใ‹๏ผŸ
03:59
We ended up not being friends.
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04:01
So, let me tell you this, even if you feel strongly about
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ใงใ™ใ‹ใ‚‰ใ€ใ‚ใชใŸ ใŒไฝ•ใ‹ใซใคใ„ใฆๅผทใๆ„Ÿใ˜ใฆใ„ใฆใ‚‚
04:05
something, keep it to yourself if you don't know the person well.
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ใ€ใใฎไบบใ‚’ใ‚ˆใ็Ÿฅใ‚‰ใชใ„ๅ ดๅˆใฏใ€ใใ‚Œใ‚’่‡ชๅˆ†ใฎไธญใซ็•™ใ‚ใฆใŠใ„ใฆใใ ใ•ใ„ .
04:09
You don't know where they're coming from, you don't know how they're going to feel.
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ๅฝผใ‚‰ใŒใฉใ“ใ‹ใ‚‰ๆฅใ‚‹ใฎใ‹ใ€ ๅฝผใ‚‰ใŒใฉใฎใ‚ˆใ†ใซๆ„Ÿใ˜ใ‚‹ใฎใ‹ใ‚ใ‹ใ‚Šใพใ›ใ‚“ใ€‚
04:12
And when you judge other people, they will feel that you will
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ใใ—ใฆใ€ใ‚ใชใŸใŒไป–ใฎไบบใ‚’ๅˆคๆ–ญใ™ใ‚‹ใจใใ€ ๅฝผใ‚‰ใฏใ‚ใชใŸใ‚‚็ฐกๅ˜ใซๅˆคๆ–ญใงใใ‚‹ใจๆ„Ÿใ˜ใ‚‹ใงใ—ใ‚‡ใ†
04:16
judge them easily as well.
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04:17
So be careful with how might you bitch about other people.
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ใงใ™ใ‹ใ‚‰ใ€ไป–ใฎไบบใซใคใ„ใฆใฉใฎใ‚ˆใ†ใซๆ„š็—ดใ‚’่จ€ใ†ใ‹ใซใคใ„ใฆใฏๆณจๆ„ใ—ใฆใใ ใ•ใ„ ใ€‚ ้ข็™ฝใ„ไผš่ฉฑใฎ่ฉฑ้กŒใ‹ใ‚‚
04:21
Although it may be a funny conversation topic.
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04:24
You know, you can find other funny conversation topics to talk about.
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ไป–ใซใ‚‚้ข็™ฝใ„ไผš่ฉฑใฎใƒˆใƒ”ใƒƒใ‚ฏใ‚’่ฆ‹ใคใ‘ใ‚‹ใ“ใจใŒใงใใพใ™ ใ€‚
04:28
And anyway, speaking badly about other people is not a good habit anyway.
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ใจใซใ‹ใใ€ไป–ไบบใฎใ“ใจใ‚’ๆ‚ชใ่จ€ใ†ใฎใฏ ่‰ฏใ„็ฟ’ๆ…ฃใงใฏใ‚ใ‚Šใพใ›ใ‚“ใ€‚
04:35
Respect and appreciate silence.
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ๆฒˆ้ป™ใ‚’ๅฐŠ้‡ใ—ใ€ๆ„Ÿ่ฌใ—ใพใ™ใ€‚ ๆฒˆ้ป™ใฎ
04:40
Don't fill in every single moment of silence.
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ใ™ในใฆใฎ็žฌ้–“ใ‚’ๅŸ‹ใ‚ใชใ„ใงใใ ใ•ใ„ ใ€‚ ใ™ใใซ่ฉฑใ•
04:43
Don't feel like you have to speak really quickly.
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ใชใ‘ใ‚Œใฐใชใ‚‰ใชใ„ใจใฏๆ€ใ‚ใชใ„ใงใใ ใ•ใ„ ใ€‚
04:46
When someone says something, don't jump in and speak immediately after they're done.
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่ชฐใ‹ใŒไฝ•ใ‹ใ‚’่จ€ใฃใŸใจใใ€้ฃ›ใณ่พผใ‚“ใง่ฉฑใŒ ็ต‚ใ‚ใฃใŸใ‚‰ใ™ใใซ่ฉฑใ•ใชใ„ใงใใ ใ•ใ„ใ€‚
04:52
Let it sink, give it a moment, take a breath.
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ๆฒˆใพใ›ใฆใ€ ใกใ‚‡ใฃใจๅพ…ใฃใฆใ€ๆฏใ‚’ๅธใฃใฆใ€‚ ็›ธๆ‰‹ใŒ่จ€ใฃใŸ
04:56
When you jump in and say what you have to say without taking any pause after
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ๅพŒใซ้–“ใ‚’็ฝฎใ‹ใšใซ้ฃ›ใณ่พผใ‚“ใงใ€่จ€ใ‚ใชใ‘ใ‚Œใฐใชใ‚‰ใชใ„ใ“ใจใ‚’่จ€ใ†ใจใ€็›ธๆ‰‹ใฎ่จ€ใ†ใ“ใจใ‚’
05:00
what the other person just said, it looks like you are just not listening to them.
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่žใ„ใฆใ„ใชใ„ใ‚ˆใ†ใซ่ฆ‹ใˆใพใ™. ้ฃ›ใณ่พผใ‚“ใง่ฉฑใ™ใ“ใจใŒใงใใ‚‹
05:05
Like you were waiting for the moment you could just jump in and speak, like
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็žฌ้–“ใ‚’ๅพ…ใฃใฆใ„ใŸใ‹ใฎใ‚ˆใ†ใซ ใ€
05:08
it's all about what you have to say.
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ใใ‚Œใฏใ‚ใชใŸใŒ่จ€ใ‚ใชใ‘ใ‚Œใฐใชใ‚‰ใชใ„ใ“ใจใŒใ™ในใฆใงใ‚ใ‚‹ใ‚ˆใ†ใซ.
05:11
To show that you're actually listening to other people, you
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ไป–ใฎไบบใฎ่ฉฑใ‚’ๅฎŸ้š›ใซ่žใ„ใฆใ„ใ‚‹ใ“ใจใ‚’็คบใ™ใซใฏใ€
05:14
have to give a time, take a breath, and then say what you have to say.
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ๆ™‚้–“ใ‚’ใจใฃใฆไธ€ๅ‘ผๅธใŠใ„ใฆใ‹ใ‚‰ใ€่จ€ใ„ ใŸใ„ใ“ใจใ‚’่จ€ใ†ๅฟ…่ฆใŒใ‚ใ‚Šใพใ™ใ€‚
05:18
Even though you know exactly what you need to say and you've been
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ไฝ•ใ‚’่จ€ใ†ๅฟ…่ฆใŒใ‚ใ‚‹ใ‹ใ‚’ๆญฃ็ขบใซ็Ÿฅใฃใฆใ„ใฆใ€
05:21
waiting to say it for a while.
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ใใ‚Œใ‚’่จ€ใ†ใฎใ‚’ใ—ใฐใ‚‰ใๅพ…ใฃใฆใ„ใŸใจใ—ใฆใ‚‚ใ€‚
05:23
So, respect silence and understand it's a meaningful and essential
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ใงใ™ใ‹ใ‚‰ใ€ๆฒˆ้ป™ใ‚’ๅฐŠ้‡ใ—ใ€ ใใ‚ŒใŒๆ„ๅ‘ณใฎใ‚ใ‚‹้‡่ฆใช
05:27
part of the conversation, in-between sentences, and just silence, as is.
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ไผš่ฉฑใฎไธ€้ƒจใงใ‚ใ‚Šใ€ ๆ–‡็ซ ใฎๅˆ้–“ใซใ‚ใ‚Šใ€ใใฎใพใพใฎๆฒˆ้ป™ใงใ‚ใ‚‹ใ“ใจใ‚’็†่งฃใ—ใฆใใ ใ•ใ„ใ€‚
05:36
Just like that.
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05:38
Okay.
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05:38
That's it.
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ใใ‚ŒใงใŠใ—ใพใ„ใ€‚
05:39
I hope you liked it.
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05:40
It was a bit of a different video, but these are things that
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05:42
I've been thinking about lately.
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05:44
And I think that in order to be a good speaker, you definitely have
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ใใ—ใฆใ€่‰ฏใ„ใ‚นใƒ”ใƒผใ‚ซใƒผใซใชใ‚‹ใŸใ‚ใซใฏ ใ€้–“้•ใ„ใชใ
05:47
to be a good listener, a great listener, a fantastic listener, right?
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่‰ฏใ„่žใๆ‰‹ใ€็ด ๆ™ดใ‚‰ใ—ใ„ ่žใๆ‰‹ใ€็ด ๆ™ดใ‚‰ใ—ใ„่žใๆ‰‹ใงใชใ‘ใ‚Œใฐใชใ‚‰ใชใ„ใจๆ€ใ„ใพใ™ใ‚ˆใญ?
05:52
That's more important than anything else.
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05:54
And then you are able to hear things, to notice things, and to
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05:58
really connect and communicate.
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ๅฎŸ้š›ใซใคใชใŒใ‚Šใ€ใ‚ณใƒŸใƒฅใƒ‹ใ‚ฑใƒผใ‚ทใƒงใƒณใ™ใ‚‹ใ“ใจใŒใงใใพใ™ใ€‚
06:00
And it doesn't matter how well you speak English.
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ใใ—ใฆใ€ ใ‚ใชใŸใŒใฉใ‚Œใ ใ‘่‹ฑ่ชžใ‚’่ฉฑใ›ใ‚‹ใ‹ใฏๅ•้กŒใงใฏใ‚ใ‚Šใพใ›ใ‚“ใ€‚
06:03
If you can listen, if you can ask questions, people
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่žใใ“ใจใŒใงใใ€ ่ณชๅ•ใ‚’ใ™ใ‚‹ใ“ใจใŒใงใใ‚Œใฐใ€ไบบใ€…ใฏ
06:06
would love speaking to you.
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06:08
And it's extremely important when it comes to work relationships, and of
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ไป•ไบ‹ไธŠใฎไบบ้–“้–ขไฟ‚ใฏ
06:12
course, to personal relationships.
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ใ‚‚ใกใ‚ใ‚“ใ€ๅ€‹ไบบ็š„ใชไบบ้–“้–ขไฟ‚ใซใŠใ„ใฆใ‚‚้žๅธธใซ้‡่ฆใงใ™ใ€‚
06:14
Okay.
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ใ‚ใ‹ใฃใŸใ€‚
06:15
So leave me a comment below.
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06:17
Tell me what other things you think can turn you into a great conversation partner,
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ไป–ใซ ใ‚ใชใŸใ‚’็ด ๆ™ดใ‚‰ใ—ใ„ไผš่ฉฑใฎใƒ‘ใƒผใƒˆใƒŠใƒผใซใงใใ‚‹ใจๆ€ใ†ใ“ใจใฏไฝ•ใงใ™ใ‹ใ€‚
06:22
and what are the things that you're still struggling with?
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ใพใŸใ€ ใพใ ่‹ฆๅŠดใ—ใฆใ„ใ‚‹ใ“ใจใฏไฝ•ใงใ™ใ‹?
06:25
Let me know and let's start a conversation right there in the comments below.
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็งใซ็Ÿฅใ‚‰ใ›ใฆใ€ ไธ‹ใฎใ‚ณใƒกใƒณใƒˆใงใ™ใใซไผš่ฉฑใ‚’ๅง‹ใ‚ใพใ—ใ‚‡ใ†.
06:28
Thank you so much for watching.
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ใ”่ฆงใ„ใŸใ ใใ‚ใ‚ŠใŒใจใ†ใ”ใ–ใ„ใพใ™ใ€‚
06:30
If you like this video, please share it with your friends.
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ใ“ใฎใƒ“ใƒ‡ใ‚ชใŒๆฐ—ใซๅ…ฅใฃใŸใ‚‰ใ€ ๅ‹้”ใจๅ…ฑๆœ‰ใ—ใฆใใ ใ•ใ„ใ€‚ ็งใฎ YouTube ใƒใƒฃใƒณใƒใƒซใซ
06:32
And if you haven't subscribed to my YouTube channel, click on
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็™ป้Œฒใ—ใฆใ„ใชใ„ๅ ดๅˆใฏ ใ€[
06:36
the Subscribe button and on the bell to get notifications, so you
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็™ป้Œฒ] ใƒœใ‚ฟใƒณใจ ใƒ™ใƒซใ‚’ใ‚ฏใƒชใƒƒใ‚ฏใ—ใฆ้€š็Ÿฅใ‚’ๅ—ใ‘ๅ–ใ‚‹ใจใ€
06:39
know when I upload a new video.
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ๆ–ฐใ—ใ„ๅ‹•็”ปใŒใ‚ขใƒƒใƒ—ใƒญใƒผใƒ‰ใ•ใ‚ŒใŸใจใใซ้€š็Ÿฅใ‚’ๅ—ใ‘ๅ–ใ‚‹ใ“ใจใŒใงใใพใ™ใ€‚ ใ‚ณใƒŸใƒฅใƒ‹ใ‚ฑใƒผใ‚ทใƒงใƒณใจไผš่ฉฑ
06:42
Have a wonderful week, full of communication and conversation.
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ใซๆบ€ใกใŸ็ด ๆ™ดใ‚‰ใ—ใ„ไธ€้€ฑ้–“ใ‚’ใŠ้Žใ”ใ—ใใ ใ•ใ„ ใ€‚
06:46
And I'll see you next week in the next video.
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06:49
Bye.
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