The Secret to Mastering Life's Biggest Transitions | Bruce Feiler | TED

翻译人员: Eileen Soh

I used to have a saying that phone calls don't change your life.

我曾经说过， 仅仅一通电话是不会改变你的人生的。

Until one day I got a phone call that did.

直到有一天我真的接到了这样一个电话。

It was from my mother.

是我妈打来的。

"Your father is trying to kill himself."

“你爸要自杀。”

He's what?

”你说什么？“

My dad was a son of the American South,

我爸爸是美国南方人

a Navy veteran and civic leader,

一位老海军，民间领袖，

he was never depressed a minute.

他从来没有抑郁过，

Until he got Parkinson's.

直到他得了帕金森病。

Six times in 12 weeks,

在12周期里，

my dad attempted to end his life.

我爸爸试图自杀六次。

We tried every solution imaginable, until one day I had a thought.

我们竭尽所能试图帮助他， 直到有一天我想到了个方策。

Maybe my dad needed a spark to restart his life story.

或许他需要一点火花， 来重启他的人生故事。

One morning I sent him a question.

有天早上我问他，

"Tell me about the toys you played with as a child."

“说说你年幼时所玩的玩具。”

What happened next changed not only him, but everyone around him,

接下来发生的事不仅改变了他， 也改变了他身边的所有人。

and led me to reimagine how we all make meaning,

也让我重新想象，

purpose and joy in our lives.

如何在我们的生活中， 寻找意义、目标和欢乐。

This is the story of what happened next

我今天将叙述事后发生的事，

and what we all can learn from it.

以及我们能从中学到什么。

I want you to stop for a second

我要你稍微停顿一秒，

and listen to the story going on in your head.

去聆听你在脑海里， 为自己塑造的人生故事。

It's there, somewhere, in the background.

其故事一定在你脑海里， 在背景里的某的角落。

It's the story you tell others when you first meet them,

其故事是你对初次相遇的人所说的，

the story you tell yourself every day.

其故事是你天天对自己所说的，

It's the story of who you are,

其故事说明你是谁，

where you came from, where you're going.

从哪来，往哪去，

It's the story of your life.

是你的人生故事。

What we've learned from a generation of brain research

经过一代人的大脑研究后， 我们领悟到

is that story isn't just part of us.

其故事不只是我们的一部分，

It is us in a fundamental way.

而在基础程度上，它就是我们。

Life is the story you tell yourself.

人生是你对自己叙说的故事。

But there's something that research hasn't much answered.

但研究末回答一切。

What happens when we misplace the plot of that story,

当我们掖咕了故事的情节，

when we get sidetracked by a pitfall, a pothole, a pandemic?

当我们因陷阱， 坑洼，疫情分心时，

What happens when we feel burned out and need a fresh start?

当我们筋疲力尽， 需要重新开始的时候,

What happens when our fairy tales go awry.

当我们的童话故事出轨时， 会发生什么？

That's what happened to my dad that fall,

在那个秋天， 这事就发生在我爸身上，

to me around that time,

也同时发生在我身上，

to all of us at one time or another.

会在某时某刻， 发生在我们所有人身上。

We get stuck in the woods and can't get out.

我们被困在树丛中， 走不出去。

This time, though, I wanted to learn how to get unstuck.

但这次， 我想学习如何摆脱困境。

Like my dad, I was born in the American South.

和我爸一样， 我也是在美国南部出生的。

And for years I had what I now think of as a linear life.

多年来， 我一直认为我过着线性的生活。

I went to college, I started writing,

我上大学，开始写作。

I did it for no money for a while, I had some success,

我免费写了一阵子， 我获得了一些成功。

I got married and had children.

我结婚，生子。

But then in my 40s, I was just walloped by life.

但在我四十多岁的时候， 我被生活击垮了。

First I got cancer as a new dad of identical twin daughters.

先是我确诊了癌症， 那时我刚成为一对双胞胎女儿的爸爸。

Then I almost went bankrupt.

然后我差点破产。

Then my dad had that suicide spree.

然后我爸爸频繁试图自杀。

For a long time, I felt shame and fear about these events.

有很长的一段时间， 我对这些事感到羞愧和恐惧。

I didn't know how to tell that story.

我不知道如何叙述那段故事。

I didn't want to tell that story.

我不想叙述那段故事。

When I did,

当我真的说了的时候，

I discovered that everyone feels their life has been upended in some way.

我发现所有人都和我一样， 觉得自己生活几乎被颠覆了。

他们的生活以某种方式偏离计划、 偏离轨道、失去平衡。

That their life is somehow off-schedule, off-track, off-kilter.

That the life they're living is not the life they expected.

他们的生活不是他们想要的。

That they're living life out of order.

他们的生活变得混乱不堪。

I wanted to do something to help.

我想做点什么去帮助他们。

Over three years, I crisscrossed the country,

三年来，我走遍全国，

collecting what became hundreds of life stories of Americans

收集了50个州的美国人

in all 50 states.

数百个人生故事。

People who lost homes, lost limbs, changed careers, changed genders,

故事来自于那些失去家园、失去四肢、 更换职业、更换性别，

got sober, got out of bad marriages.

戒了酒，摆脱了糟糕婚姻的人。

In the end, I had 1,000 hours of interviews,

最后，我累计了一千小时的访问材料，

6,000 pages of transcripts.

六千页的文稿。

With a team of 12,

我和一个12人的团队，

I then spent a year coding these stories

花了一整年，

for 57 different variables,

用57个不同的变量， 来衡量将这些故事，

looking for patterns that could help all of us in times of change.

寻找能帮助我们 度过人生变化的模式。

I called this “The Life Story Project.”

我把它命名为“人生故事项目”。

And here's what I learned.

而我学到了这些。

Lesson number one.

第一，

The linear life is dead.

线性生活已经不存在了。

The idea that we're going to have one job, one relationship,

那种从青年到老年只有一份工作， 一份婚姻，

one source of happiness from adolescence to assisted living

一种快乐的生活

is hopelessly outdated.

已经彻底过时了。

What's more, that idea turns out to be a historical anomaly.

更重要的是， 这样的想法其实只是历史中的反常现象。

Though we don't talk about it nearly enough,

虽然我们说得不多，

the way we look at the world affects how we look at our lives.

我们看待世界的方式， 会影响我们如何看待生活。

In the ancient world, they didn't have linear time.

在古代时期， 人们没有线性的时间。

They thought life was a cycle because agriculture was a cycle.

他们以为人生是一个周期， 因为农业就是一个周期。

In the Middle Ages, they thought life was a staircase up to middle age,

在中世纪， 他们认为人生是通往中年的阶梯，

then down.

然后就往下走。

That's no new love at 60,

不会在六十岁时谈恋爱，

no retiring and opening an Airbnb at 70.

也不会在七十岁时，退休开个民宿。

Not until 150 years ago did we adopt the idea

直到 150 年前，我们才有了这样的观念，

that life precedes in a series of stages, like an industrial factory.

人生是通往一系列的阶段的， 就像制作工厂一样。

Freud's psychosexual stages,

弗洛伊德的性心理阶段，

Erikson’s eight stages of moral development,

埃里克森人格的八个道德发展阶段，

the five stages of grief.

悲伤的五个阶段。

These are all linear constructs.

这些都是线性的结构。

This model peaks in the 1970s

这模型在70年代热受欢迎，

with the idea that everyone does the same thing in their 20s,

观念是， 所有人在二十多岁时会做相同的事，

the same thing in their 30s,

在三十多岁时做一样的事，

then has a midlife crisis between 39 and 44 and a half.

在 39 岁至 44 岁半时， 面对中年危机。

(Laughter)

（笑声）

It is hard to overstate how powerful this idea was.

说这观念有影响力 一点也不夸张。

There's only one problem.

只有一个问题。

It's not true.

这是不是事实。

Today, we've updated how we look at the world.

如今，我们更新了 看待世界的方式。

We understand there's chaos and complexity and networks,

我们理解世界里会有混乱， 复杂性和交界性，

but we haven't updated how we look at our lives.

但我们任然没更新 看待自己人生的方式。

That leads to lesson number two.

这就引出了第二点。

The non-linear life involves many more life transitions.

非线性的生活 包含更多人生转变。

I went through every interview I conducted

我梳理了所有的采访，

and made a master list of all the ways our lives get redirected.

并列出了 能转移我们生活的所有方式。

I call these events disruptors.

我称这些事件为破坏事件。

The total number was 52,

一共有52个，

so I created the Deck of Disruptors.

所以我建造了一幅破坏事件扑克牌

Some of them are small, like breaking your ankle or a fender bender.

这其中有些事很小， 比如说脚踝断了或者是小车祸。

Some of them are large, like losing your job or moving.

有些事很大， 比如丢了工作，或者搬家。

The average person goes through three dozen disruptors

平均每人会经历

in the course of their lives.

36件破坏事件。

That's one every 12 to 18 months.

每12到18个月 就会有这么一件事件。

Most of these we get through with relative ease,

我们能相对轻松地 度过大多数的事件，

but one in 10 becomes what I call a lifequake,

但其中十分之一， 可能会成为我称之为“人生地震”的事，

a massive burst of change that leads to a period of upheaval,

一股巨大的变化 导致一段动荡，

transition and renewal.

改变，和更新的时间。

The average person goes through three to five of these events

一个人在他们的一生中

in the course of their lives, their average length five years.

会经历3到5件这样的事， 时长平均五年。

Do the math, and that means we spend 25 years,

算算看，这意味着 我们将会花25年的时间，

half our adult lives, in transition.

我们一半的成年时间， 在这在转变时期中。

And make no mistake,

而别以为，

these events do not clump exclusively in middle age.

这些事件不只 发生在中年时期。

Some people are born into lifequakes.

有些人一出生就面对“人生地震”。

Some people have them in their 20s or their 60s.

有些人会在二十多岁 或是六十多岁碰到它。

Forget the midlife crisis,

抛掉中年危机这个概念，

we all face the whenever-life crisis.

我们都可能在人生中的各个段 面临人生危机。

But here's what causes so much anxiety.

但引起这么强的焦虑的原因是。

We still expect our lifequakes to unfold on a predictable timetable,

我们仍认为人生地震会如同时间表，在可预料的时间点发生，

like birthdays that end in zero.

比如以零结尾的岁数。

We're all still haunted by the ghost of linearity.

我们仍然在 被线性的幽灵所困扰。

We think our life is going to be linear;

我们认为我们的人生 将会是线性的，

we're unnerved when it's not.

当它不是的时候， 我们就会感到不安。

We're comparing ourselves to an ideal that no longer exists

我们在把自己与一个 不再存在的理想进行比较，

and beating ourselves up for not achieving it.

而因为没有实现它而自责。

The pandemic has made this only worse.

这疫情使这事变本加厉。

I craft every lifequake on two poles: voluntary and involuntary,

我把人生地震分为两种： 一种是自愿的和非自愿的，

personal and collective.

另一种是 个人的和集体的。

A mere eight percent of lifequakes are collective involuntary.

仅仅 8% 的人生地震 是集体且非自愿的。

A collective involuntary lifequake is a natural disaster or a recession.

其人生地震 是自灾或经济衰退。

What's unique about this moment in time?

那现在这时刻 有什么独特之处呢？

The entire planet for the first time in a century

一个世纪以来，

is going through the same collective involuntary lifequake

全球第一次 集体的经历同样的非自愿，

at the same time.

人生地震。

Every single one of us is in transition.

我们每一个人都在转变当中。

And yet no one is teaching us how to master these times.

但没有人教我们 如何面对这些困境。

Which leads to lesson number three.

这就引出了第三点，

Life transitions are a skill we can and must master.

生活转变是我们可以 而且必须掌握的技巧。

What I'd like to do for you today

今天我想做的

is to give you five tips based on my research

是根据我的研究， 分享五个小建议

for how to master a life transition.

帮你们掌控人生转变。

Tip number one,

第一，

begin with your transition superpower.

从你的转变超能力开始。

One way to think about a lifequake is as a physical blow.

一种思考人生地震的方式， 是把它视为一种肉体上的攻击。

Life put us on our heels,

人生让我们感到惊讶，

the life transition puts us back on our toes.

人生转变让我们感到警惕。

And yet most of us, when we enter one, feel completely overwhelmed.

但对大多数人来说，当我们碰到人生转变时， 我们感觉像是被完全吞没了。

We either make a 212 item to-do list

我们要么 列一个212条的待办事件清单，

and say we'll get through it in a weekend,

然后跟自己说 周末就会把它做完，

or we lie in a fetal position and say we'll never get through it.

或者我们躺平， 跟自己说一定做不完。

Both of them are wrong.

两种想法都是错的。

Look at enough of these and certain patterns become clear.

久而久之， 某些趋势会清晰而出。

For starters, life transitions have three phases.

首先，人生的转变有三个阶段。

I call them the long goodbye,

我把第一个称为漫长的告别，

when you mourn the past that's not coming back;

你会哀悼一个回不来的过去；

the messy middle,

第二是混乱的过渡期，

when you shed certain habits and create new ones;

你舍弃某些习惯， 并创造新的习惯。

and the new beginning, where you unveil your new self.

第三是新的开始， 你揭开新的自我。

But here's the key: counter to a century of thinking,

但关键在于， 相对于至今一个世纪的观念，

these phases do not happen in order.

这些阶段并不是按顺序发生的。

Just as life is non-linear, life transitions are non-linear too.

就如人生不是线性的， 人生转变也不是线性的。

Instead, each of us gravitates to the phase we're best at,

相反，我们每个人都倾向于 留在我们最擅长的阶段。

our transition superpower,

这就是是我们的转变超能力，

and gets bogged down in the phase we are weakest at,

而会在我们最弱的阶段 陷入困境，

our transition kryptonite.

这就是我们的转变氪石 (使超人丧失超能力的化学元素）。

Half of us, for example, don't like the messy middle.

比如说，有一半的人 不喜欢混乱的过渡期。

But some of us excel at that.

但有些人却很擅通往这阶段。

Maybe you're good at making lists and analyzing your options.

或许你擅长列清单， 分析你的选择。

Perfect, start there.

那好，就从这里开始。

Four in 10 of us don’t like the long goodbye.

百分之四十的人 不喜欢漫长的告别。

Maybe we're people pleasers

或许我们是讨好他人

or we are uncomfortable in difficult situations.

或是我们在困难的情况下 感到不适，

But others thrive like that.

但有些人却能茁壮成长。

Perfect, start there.

那好，就从那里开始。

The point is, transitions are difficult.

关键在于，转变是很难的事。

Begin with your superpower,

从你的超能力开始，

build confidence, move on from there.

建立自信， 从那里开始向前走。

Tip number two, accept your emotions.

第二，接受你的情绪。

In addition to three phases,

除了这三个阶段以外，

I identified seven tools for how we navigate a life transition.

我也发现了七个工具， 帮我们面对人生转变。

Beginning with:

首先是：

accept that it's an emotional experience.

接受这是一个充满情绪的经历。

I looked hundreds of people in the eye and asked,

我曾问过数百人，

"What's the biggest emotion you struggled with

“在改变的过程中，”

during your time of change?"

“让你最痛苦的情绪是什么？”

The number one answer?

最普遍的答安是什么？

Fear.

是恐惧。

"How am I going to get through this?"

“我怎么才能度过这个难关呢？”

"How am I going to pay my bills?"

“我怎么才能支付我的账单？”

Number two, sadness.

第二个是悲伤。

"I miss my loved one."

“我惦记我爱的人。”

"I miss being able to walk."

“我想念能走路的日子。”

Number three, shame.

第三是羞愧。

"I'm ashamed I have to ask for help."

“我很羞愧我需要别人帮助。”

"I'm ashamed of what I did when I drank too much."

“我很羞愧我喝多之后所做的事。”

Now some of us cope with these emotions by writing them down.

有些人会把这些情绪写下来， 以此来应对。

Others, like me, buckle down and push through.

还有一些人，像我， 尽全力克服它。

But 80 percent of us, 80, turn to rituals.

但百分之八十的人，我重复， 都倾向于某种仪式。

We sing, dance, hug.

我们唱歌，跳舞，拥抱。

After Maynard Howell left his job in big pharma to open a gym,

在梅纳德·豪威尔辞去大药厂的工作， 开一家健身房时，

he tattooed "breathe" on his right hand and "happy" on his left.

他在自己的右手上纹了 “呼吸 “， 在左手纹了 “快乐 “。

"I knew I couldn't go back to my corporate job once I did that," he said.

“我知道我一旦这么做了， 就不可能返回之前的企业公作了。”

(Laughter)

（笑声）

Lisa Ray Rosenberg had a horrible year in which she lost her job,

丽莎·雷·罗森伯格度过了可怕的一年， 这一年里她失业了。

had a falling out with her mother and went on 52 first dates.

与她的母亲闹翻了， 并参与了52次约会。

"I knew I needed a change," she said.

“我知道我人生需要一点改变，” 她说

Her biggest fear, heights.

她最怕高，

So she jumped out of an airplane.

于是她从飞机上跳伞。

A year later,

一年后，

she was married with a child.

她就结了婚，生了个小孩。

Rituals like these are effective in the long goodbye of a transition

在人生转变的漫长告别中， 像这样的仪式是很有效的。

because they are messages to ourselves and those around us

因为这是发给我们， 和我们周边的人的一种信息。

that I’m going through a difficult time,

说明我正在经历一段艰难时间，

and I'm ready for what comes next.

但我已经做好准备， 面对接下来的事。

Tip number three, try something new.

第三，尝试一些新的东西。

The messy middle is messy.

混乱的过渡期是很混乱的。

It's disheartening and disorienting.

它让人心灰意冷，迷失方向。

Now what?

现在怎么办呢？

My data show we do two things during our time in the wilderness.

我的数据显示， 在混乱时间中我们会做两件事。

First, we shed things: mindset, routines, habits.

首先，我们舍弃一些东西： 心态、常规、习惯。

Like animals who molt, we cast off parts of our personality.

像动物蜕皮一样， 我们抛弃了我们人格的一部分。

Jeffrey Spar, who has OCD,

杰弗里·斯帕尔，他有强迫症。

had to shed his reliance on a regular paycheck

当他离开他的家族企业，

when he left his family's business to open a nonprofit

去开设一个从事艺术治疗 的非营利组织的时候，

that works with art therapy.

他不得不摆脱对固定工资的依赖。

Lee Wint, an executive who went through cancer,

李·文特，一位高管，同时经历了

divorce and a career change all at the same time,

癌症，离婚，和工作变动。

had to shed her habit that whenever she walked in the door,

她不得不摆脱

she would open the fridge.

她一进门就要开冰箱的习惯。

She lost 60 pounds.

她减了60磅。

Shedding allows us to make space for what comes next,

除旧能让我们有空间迎新，

which is astonishing acts of creativity.

那将会是一些令人惊讶的创造性行为。

At the bottom of our lives,

在我们最低落的时候，

we dance, sing, garden, take up ukulele.

我们会跳舞、唱歌、种花、学尤克里里。

Army Sergeant Zach Herrick had his face blown off by the Taliban.

陆军中士扎克·赫里克， 他的脸被塔利班炸掉了，

31 surgeries between his nose and his chin.

经过鼻子和下巴的31次手术后，

He experienced suicide ideation.

他有过自杀的念头。

Then, at the suggestion of his mom,

然后，在他妈妈的建议下，

he started to cook.

他开始烹饪。

Then to write poetry, and then to paint.

然后开始写诗，然后画画。

"I used to get out my hostility by splattering the enemy with bullets,"

“我曾经是通过狂射敌人 来发泄我的情绪，”

he told me.

他告诉我，

"Now I get out my hostility by splattering the canvas with paint."

“现在我通过狂泼洒画布 来发泄我的情绪。”

What was the biggest cliche at the beginning of the pandemic?

在疫情刚开始时， 最常见的事是什么？

Baking.

是烘焙。

We're going to sour dough our way through it.

我们通过发酵面团的方式渡过难关。

I may have been the least surprised person

我可能是最不感到惊讶的人，

because the simple act of imagining that loaf of bread or a painting or a poem

因为幻想做一条面包、 一幅画或一首诗的简单行为

allows us to imagine we can create a new self.

能让我们想像如可创造 一个新的自我。

Tip number four, seek wisdom from others.

第四，请求他人的智慧。

Perhaps the most painful part of a life transition

人生转变中最痛苦的部分

is that you feel isolated and alone.

是你会觉得孤立和寂寞。

In fact, one under-discussed reason for the rise of loneliness

事实上，孤独感上升 有一个未被充分讨论的原因，

is the rise in the number of life transitions we all face.

那就是 我们面临的人生转变都在增多。

Which is why it's essential that you not be alone,

所以重要的是， 你不是孤独的面对这些问题。

that you share your experience with others.

你该和别人分享你的经历。

Could be a friend, a neighbor, a loved one, even a stranger.

可以是朋友，邻居， 心爱的人，甚至是陌生人。

But here's the key.

但关键点是，

Not everyone craves the same type of response.

不是每个人 都渴望得到相同的反应。

Each of us has what I call a phenotype of feedback.

我们每个人都有我所说的， 一种反馈的表型。

A third of us like comforters.

有三分之一的人 喜欢会安慰他的人。

"I love you, Suzy, you'll get through it."

“我爱你，苏西， 你能度过难观的。”

A quarter of us like nudgers.

四分之一的人喜欢推进他的人。

"I love you, John,

“我爱你，约翰，”

but maybe you should try this, maybe you should do that."

“但或许你该尝试这样做， 那样做。”

But one in six of us like slappers.

但有六分之一的人 喜欢会打击他的人。

"I love you, Anna, but get over yourself, it's time to do this."

“我爱你安娜，但你得振作起来， 是时候这么做了。”

(Laughter)

（笑声）

The key point is,

重点是

don't assume that the other person likes the same type of response.

不要假定别人 跟你喜欢同样的回应。

Ask before you advise.

在你提出建议时，先问他们。

And that leads to tip number five.

这就引出了第五点。

Rewrite your life story.

重写你的人生故事。

A life transition is fundamentally a meaning-making experience.

人生的转变基本上， 是一种创造意义的经历。

It's what I like to call an autobiographical occasion

我喜欢称之为，自传时刻。

in which we are called on to revisit,

我们可以重温，

rewrite and retell our life story,

重写和重述，我们的人生故事，

adding a new chapter for what we learned during the lifequake.

把我们在人生地震中学到的事， 写成一个新新篇章。

That's what happened with my dad.

这就是我爸爸做的事。

After I sent that first question about the toys he played with,

在我问了他 关于他玩的玩具之后，

he wrote a story about model airplanes I had never heard before,

他写了一个故事， 讲述我从来没有听过的飞机模型，

even though he couldn't even use his fingers at the time.

尽管那时候， 他甚至连手指都动不了。

I sent another, “Tell me about the house you grew up in.”

我又问了他一个问题， “跟我说说你从小长大的房子吧。”

Then another, "How did you join the Navy?"

然后再问一个， “你是怎么加入海军的？”

"How did you meet Mom?"

“你是怎么认识妈妈的？”

Until just this week,

这个星期，

eight years after that first question,

从我问了第一个问题 至今八年的时间，

my dad,

我爸爸，

who never wrote anything longer than a memo,

他以前从来没写过 比备忘录更长的东西，

completed a 65,000-word memoir.

却完成了6.5万字的回忆录。

One question,

一个问题，

one story,

一个故事，

one life-affirming memory at a time.

每一个，都是一段肯定人生的记忆。

That is the power of storytelling.

这就是讲故事的力量。

And it's a reminder that no matter how bleak your story gets,

这也提醒我们， 无论你的故事变得多暗淡，

you cannot give up on the happy ending.

你也不能放弃幸福的结局。

You control the story you tell about yourself,

你能控制你自己的故事，

even the most painful parts of yourself.

即使是最痛苦的部分。

And that's why it's so critical that we re-imagine life transitions,

这就是为什么 我们要重新看待人生转变，

that we see them not as a miserable times

我们不要把它们 看作是一段悲惨的时光，

we have to grit and grind our way through,

我们必须咬紧牙关，磨练自己，

but we see them for what they are.

同时领悟它们的本性，

Healing times that take the wounded parts of our lives

是愈合的时间， 摘去我们生活中受伤的部分，

and begin to repair them.

并开始愈合它们。

The Italians have a wonderful expression for this:

意大利人对此有一句很棒的表达：

“Lupus in fabula.”

“Lupus in fabula.”

The wolf in the fairytale.

童话里的大灰狼。

Just when life is going swimmingly,

就在人生顺利的时候，

along comes a demon, a dragon, a downsizing, a pandemic.

来了一个恶魔，一条猛龙， 一次裁员，一场疫情。

Just when our fairy tale seems poised to come true,

就在我们的童话故事 好像就快要实现的时候，

a wolf shows up and threatens to destroy it.

一只狼突然出现， 威胁说要毁掉它。

And that's OK.

那也没关系。

Because if you banish the wolf, you banish the hero.

因为如果你驱逐了狼， 你也驱逐了英雄。

And if there's one thing I learned,

我学到的一件事，

we all need to be the hero of our own story.

就是我们都要当 自己故事里的英雄。

That's why we have fairy tales, after all.

毕竟，这才是为什么我们会有童话，

And why we tell them year after year,

为什么我们要，年复一年，

bedtime after bedtime.

在每一个睡前，讲述这些童话故事。

They turn our nightmares into dreams.

它们把我们的噩梦，变成梦想。

Thank you.

谢谢。

(Applause)

（掌声）