The Secret to Mastering Life's Biggest Transitions | Bruce Feiler | TED

譯者: Lilian Chiu 審譯者: SF Huang

I used to have a saying that phone calls don't change your life.

我以前會說，電話 不會改變你的人生。

Until one day I got a phone call that did.

直到有一天，我接到了 一通改變我人生的電話。

It was from my mother.

是我母親打來的。

"Your father is trying to kill himself."

「你爸爸試圖自殺。」

He's what?

他什麼？

My dad was a son of the American South,

我爸爸是美國南方人的兒子，

a Navy veteran and civic leader,

也是海軍退役軍人和公民領袖，

he was never depressed a minute.

他從來沒有一分鐘是憂鬱的。

Until he got Parkinson's.

直到他得了帕金森氏症。

Six times in 12 weeks,

我父親在十二週內六度試圖自殺。

my dad attempted to end his life.

We tried every solution imaginable, until one day I had a thought.

我們試過所有想得到的解決方案，

直到有一天，我有個想法。

Maybe my dad needed a spark to restart his life story.

也許我爸爸需要一點火花， 重新開始他的人生故事。

One morning I sent him a question.

有天早上，我丟了個問題給他。

"Tell me about the toys you played with as a child."

「跟我聊聊你兒時玩的玩具。」

What happened next changed not only him, but everyone around him,

接下來發生的事不只改變了他， 也改變了他身邊的每一個人，

and led me to reimagine how we all make meaning,

讓我開始重新想像， 我們如何在人生中

purpose and joy in our lives.

製造出意義、目的和喜悅。

This is the story of what happened next

以下的故事，就是接下來發生的事，

and what we all can learn from it.

以及我們能從中學到什麼。

I want you to stop for a second

我想請大家先停下來， 聽聽自己腦海中的故事。

and listen to the story going on in your head.

It's there, somewhere, in the background.

它就在那裡，某處，在背景中。

It's the story you tell others when you first meet them,

你會對初次見面的人說這個故事，

the story you tell yourself every day.

你每天對自己說的故事。

It's the story of who you are,

這個故事是關於你是誰、

where you came from, where you're going.

你來自何處、

你朝何處前進。

It's the story of your life.

是你人生的故事。

What we've learned from a generation of brain research

我們從一整個世代的 大腦相關研究中學到，

is that story isn't just part of us.

那個故事並不只是我們的一部分，

It is us in a fundamental way.

基本上，它就是我們。

Life is the story you tell yourself.

人生，就是講述自己的故事。

But there's something that research hasn't much answered.

但有些東西是研究還不太能解答的。

What happens when we misplace the plot of that story,

當我們把那故事的情節 錯置時，會如何？

when we get sidetracked by a pitfall, a pothole, a pandemic?

當我們被隱患、坑洞、 疫情給導入旁軌時，會如何？

What happens when we feel burned out and need a fresh start?

當我們身心俱疲， 需要一個新的開始時，會如何？

What happens when our fairy tales go awry.

當我們的童話故事出錯時，會如何？

That's what happened to my dad that fall,

我父親在那年秋天就遇到了這種事，

to me around that time,

我在那段時間也遇到了，

to all of us at one time or another.

所有人都會在某個時點遇到。

We get stuck in the woods and can't get out.

我們被困在樹林裡，無法走出去。

不過，這次我想學習要如何脫困。

This time, though, I wanted to learn how to get unstuck.

Like my dad, I was born in the American South.

和我父親一樣，我在美國南方出生。

And for years I had what I now think of as a linear life.

多年來，我過的生活 是我現在所謂的線性生活。

I went to college, I started writing,

我上大學，我開始寫作，

I did it for no money for a while, I had some success,

我有段時間是無酬寫作， 我有了些成功，

I got married and had children.

我結婚了，有了孩子。

But then in my 40s, I was just walloped by life.

但我四十多歲時， 被人生重重地打擊。

First I got cancer as a new dad of identical twin daughters.

首先，我才剛成了雙胞胎 女兒的新手爸爸就得了癌症。

Then I almost went bankrupt.

接著，我幾乎破產。

Then my dad had that suicide spree.

然後，我父親又拼命自殺。

For a long time, I felt shame and fear about these events.

有很長一段時間，我對 這些事件感到羞恥和恐懼。

I didn't know how to tell that story.

我不知道該怎麼講那個故事，

I didn't want to tell that story.

我也不想講那個故事。

When I did,

我說出來後，我發現每個人都覺得

I discovered that everyone feels their life has been upended in some way.

他們的人生在某種 面向上也是一團糟，

That their life is somehow off-schedule, off-track, off-kilter.

他們的人生某種程度上也是 沒按照計畫走、脫離正軌、失衡了。

That the life they're living is not the life they expected.

他們過的生活， 並非他們期望的生活。

That they're living life out of order.

他們過著紊亂的人生。

I wanted to do something to help.

我想要做點什麼來幫忙。

Over three years, I crisscrossed the country,

三年多的時間，我走遍全國，

collecting what became hundreds of life stories of Americans

收集了數百則來自全國五十州的

in all 50 states.

美國人的人生故事。

People who lost homes, lost limbs, changed careers, changed genders,

有人失去家園，有人失去肢體，

有人換了工作，有人換了性別，

got sober, got out of bad marriages.

有人戒酒，有人離開了不好的婚姻。

In the end, I had 1,000 hours of interviews,

最後，我總共做了一千小時的訪談，

6,000 pages of transcripts.

六千頁的逐字稿。

With a team of 12,

接著，我和一個十二人的團隊 將這些故事做編碼，

I then spent a year coding these stories

for 57 different variables,

用了五十七個不同的變數，

looking for patterns that could help all of us in times of change.

尋找有什麼模式能在 變動的時候協助我們所有人。

I called this “The Life Story Project.”

我稱它為「人生故事計畫」。

And here's what I learned.

以下是我從中學到的：

Lesson number one.

第一課。

The linear life is dead.

線性人生已經不存在了。

The idea that we're going to have one job, one relationship,

線性人生概念就是我們只會有 一份工作、一個愛人、

one source of happiness from adolescence to assisted living

從青春期到老年輔助生活 都只有一種快樂來源，

is hopelessly outdated.

這概念徹底過時了。

What's more, that idea turns out to be a historical anomaly.

甚至，最後發現這個概念 在歷史上根本是種反常現象。

Though we don't talk about it nearly enough,

但我們太少去談它， 我們看待世界的方式

the way we look at the world affects how we look at our lives.

會影響我們如何看待我們的生活。

In the ancient world, they didn't have linear time.

古時候，他們沒有線性時間。

They thought life was a cycle because agriculture was a cycle.

他們認為人生是一種循環， 因為農業是一種循環。

In the Middle Ages, they thought life was a staircase up to middle age,

中世紀的人認為人生 如樓梯，向上爬到中年，

then down.

接著向下走。

That's no new love at 60,

那就是在六十歲不會有新歡，

no retiring and opening an Airbnb at 70.

七十歲不會退休來開 Airbnb。

Not until 150 years ago did we adopt the idea

一直要到一百五十年前， 我們才採用了這個線性概念：

that life precedes in a series of stages, like an industrial factory.

人生的進行方式是一連串的 階段，像個工業工廠。

Freud's psychosexual stages,

佛洛依德的心性發展階段，

Erikson’s eight stages of moral development,

艾瑞克森的八階段道德發展，

the five stages of grief.

悲傷的五個階段。

These are all linear constructs.

這些都是線性的建構方式。

This model peaks in the 1970s

1970 年代是線性模型最夯的時候，

with the idea that everyone does the same thing in their 20s,

其概念是，在二十多歲時 大家都會做一樣的事，

the same thing in their 30s,

三十多歲也做一樣的事，

then has a midlife crisis between 39 and 44 and a half.

接著在三十九歲到四十四歲半 之間出現中年危機。

(Laughter)

（笑聲）

It is hard to overstate how powerful this idea was.

這個概念影響之深遠難以言喻。

There's only one problem.

只有一個問題。

It's not true.

實情並非如此。

Today, we've updated how we look at the world.

現今，我們看待世界的 方式已經更新過。

We understand there's chaos and complexity and networks,

我們了解人生會有混亂、 複雜性和網路，

but we haven't updated how we look at our lives.

但我們看待自己人生的 方式尚未更新。

That leads to lesson number two.

那就要帶出第二課。

The non-linear life involves many more life transitions.

非線性的人生會涉及到 更多更多人生的轉變。

I went through every interview I conducted

我仔細查看自己所做的每場訪談，

and made a master list of all the ways our lives get redirected.

整理了一張總清單，列出我們 人生被重新導向的各種情況。

I call these events disruptors.

我把這些事件稱為「中斷因素」。

The total number was 52,

總共有五十二種，

so I created the Deck of Disruptors.

所以我創造了中斷因素面板。

Some of them are small, like breaking your ankle or a fender bender.

有些因素很小， 如腳踝骨裂或小車禍。

Some of them are large, like losing your job or moving.

有些因素很大，如丟了工作或搬家。

The average person goes through three dozen disruptors

一般人在一生中會經歷 近四十種中斷因素。

in the course of their lives.

That's one every 12 to 18 months.

也就是每一年到一年半 就會遇到一種。

Most of these we get through with relative ease,

大部分的時候我們都能輕鬆度過，

but one in 10 becomes what I call a lifequake,

但十次中有一次會是 我所謂的人生地震，

a massive burst of change that leads to a period of upheaval,

是種爆炸級的重大改變，

會導致一段動盪、 轉變和重建的時期。

transition and renewal.

The average person goes through three to five of these events

一般人在一生中會經歷 三到五次人生地震，

in the course of their lives, their average length five years.

平均一次的長度是五年。

Do the math, and that means we spend 25 years,

算算看，那表示我們 會有二十五年時間，

half our adult lives, in transition.

即成年時間的一半，是在轉變中。

And make no mistake,

別弄錯了，

這類事件並不會 只集中在中年時期發生。

these events do not clump exclusively in middle age.

Some people are born into lifequakes.

有人出生就是人生地震，有人 在二十多歲或六十多歲遇到。

Some people have them in their 20s or their 60s.

Forget the midlife crisis,

忘了中年危機吧，

we all face the whenever-life crisis.

我們面臨的是哪年都可能會有危機。

But here's what causes so much anxiety.

但我們會這麼焦慮的原因如下。

We still expect our lifequakes to unfold on a predictable timetable,

我們仍然預期我們的人生地震

會根據可預測的時間表發生， 比如在尾數是零的生日時。

like birthdays that end in zero.

We're all still haunted by the ghost of linearity.

線性人生的魔咒依然禁錮著我們。

We think our life is going to be linear;

我們認為我們的人生是線性的， 如果不是，我們就會焦躁。

we're unnerved when it's not.

We're comparing ourselves to an ideal that no longer exists

我們把自己和一種 不存在的理想做比較，

and beating ourselves up for not achieving it.

沒達到這種理想， 就不放過我們自己。

The pandemic has made this only worse.

疫情讓這一切更糟了。

I craft every lifequake on two poles: voluntary and involuntary,

我把所有人生地震 整理在兩極圖表上：

自願和非自願、

personal and collective.

個人和集體。

A mere eight percent of lifequakes are collective involuntary.

只有 8% 的人生地震 是集體且非自願的。

A collective involuntary lifequake is a natural disaster or a recession.

集體且非自願的人生地震 包括天然災害或蕭條。

What's unique about this moment in time?

此時此刻有什麼獨特之處？

The entire planet for the first time in a century

一百年來，這是頭一次，全世界

is going through the same collective involuntary lifequake

都同時一起經歷 集體且非自願的人生地震。

at the same time.

Every single one of us is in transition.

我們每一個人都遇到了轉變。

And yet no one is teaching us how to master these times.

卻沒有人教我們要如何 好好處理這樣的時期。

Which leads to lesson number three.

這就要帶到第三課。

Life transitions are a skill we can and must master.

人生轉變是我們可以 且必須要精通的技能。

What I'd like to do for you today

今天我想做的，是提供大家 從我研究整理出的五項祕訣，

is to give you five tips based on my research

for how to master a life transition.

教大家如何主宰人生的轉變。

Tip number one,

祕訣一：

begin with your transition superpower.

從你的「轉變超能力」開始著手。

One way to think about a lifequake is as a physical blow.

可以把人生地震想像成 一種實體的衝擊。

Life put us on our heels,

人生帶給我們不安與震驚，

the life transition puts us back on our toes.

人生轉變讓我們保持機警應變。

And yet most of us, when we enter one, feel completely overwhelmed.

但我們大部分人進入轉變時 就會覺得無法招架。

We either make a 212 item to-do list

我們若不是列出兩百多個項目的 待辦清單要在週末完成；

and say we'll get through it in a weekend,

or we lie in a fetal position and say we'll never get through it.

就是直接蜷縮躺下， 說我們永遠不可能撐過。

Both of them are wrong.

兩種都錯了。

Look at enough of these and certain patterns become clear.

看多了人生地震， 某些模式就會清楚浮現。

For starters, life transitions have three phases.

首先，人生轉變會有三個階段。

I call them the long goodbye,

我命名為：漫長的揮別，

when you mourn the past that's not coming back;

也就是哀悼已逝的過往；

the messy middle,

亂糟糟的過程，此時 是要擺脫舊習創造新習；

when you shed certain habits and create new ones;

and the new beginning, where you unveil your new self.

以及新的開端， 讓全新的自己登台露面。

But here's the key: counter to a century of thinking,

但，有個關鍵：別落入 百年來的思考模式，

these phases do not happen in order.

這些階段不是照順序發生的。

Just as life is non-linear, life transitions are non-linear too.

人生不是線性的，同理，

人生轉變也不是線性的。

Instead, each of us gravitates to the phase we're best at,

反之，我們每個人會轉向 我們最擅長的階段，

our transition superpower,

即我們的「轉變超能力」，

and gets bogged down in the phase we are weakest at,

在最不擅長的階段則會被卡住，

our transition kryptonite.

即我們的氪星石。

Half of us, for example, don't like the messy middle.

比如，有一半的人 不喜歡亂糟糟的過程。

But some of us excel at that.

但有些人在那方面很行。

Maybe you're good at making lists and analyzing your options.

也許你很擅長列清單、 分析你有何選項。

太好了，從那裡著手。

Perfect, start there.

Four in 10 of us don’t like the long goodbye.

四成的人不喜歡漫長的揮別。

Maybe we're people pleasers

也許我們喜歡討好人 或在困難的情況中很不自在。

or we are uncomfortable in difficult situations.

But others thrive like that.

但有人在那方面超厲害。

Perfect, start there.

太好了，從那裡著手。

The point is, transitions are difficult.

重點是，轉變很難。

Begin with your superpower,

從你的超能力著手，

build confidence, move on from there.

建立信心，從那裡再走下去。

Tip number two, accept your emotions.

祕訣二：接受你的情緒。

In addition to three phases,

除了三個階段外，

I identified seven tools for how we navigate a life transition.

我還找出了七種工具， 幫我們在人生轉變中找到方向。

Beginning with:

首先是：接受這是 一段很情緒化的經歷。

accept that it's an emotional experience.

I looked hundreds of people in the eye and asked,

我曾經看著數百人的眼睛，問：

"What's the biggest emotion you struggled with

「在你遇到改變的時候， 讓你最掙扎的情緒是什麼？」

during your time of change?"

The number one answer?

排名第一的答案？

Fear.

恐懼。

"How am I going to get through this?"

「我要怎麼撐過？」 「我要怎麼支付帳單？」

"How am I going to pay my bills?"

Number two, sadness.

第二名，悲傷。

"I miss my loved one."

「我想念我摯愛的人。」 「我懷念能走路的感覺。」

"I miss being able to walk."

Number three, shame.

第三名，羞恥。

"I'm ashamed I have to ask for help."

「我覺得要求助好丟臉。」

"I'm ashamed of what I did when I drank too much."

「我對我喝太多時 所做的事感到羞恥。」

Now some of us cope with these emotions by writing them down.

有些人處理這些情緒的方式 是把它們寫下來。

Others, like me, buckle down and push through.

也有人是像我一樣努力挺過去。

But 80 percent of us, 80, turn to rituals.

但有 80% 的人， 八成，會轉向儀式。

We sing, dance, hug.

我們會唱歌、跳舞、擁抱。

After Maynard Howell left his job in big pharma to open a gym,

梅納德‧豪威爾離開了 大藥廠的工作去開健身房，

he tattooed "breathe" on his right hand and "happy" on his left.

他在右手上刺了「呼吸」， 左手刺了「快樂」。

"I knew I couldn't go back to my corporate job once I did that," he said.

他說：「我知道我刺青後 就不可能回企業工作了。」

（笑聲）

(Laughter)

Lisa Ray Rosenberg had a horrible year in which she lost her job,

麗莎‧雷‧羅森柏格過了 很糟的一年，丟了工作，

had a falling out with her mother and went on 52 first dates.

和母親不和，還嘗試了 五十二次初次約會。

"I knew I needed a change," she said.

她說：「我知道我需要改變。」

Her biggest fear, heights.

她最大的恐懼：高度。

So she jumped out of an airplane.

所以她從飛機上跳下來。

A year later,

一年後，她結婚了，有一個孩子。

she was married with a child.

Rituals like these are effective in the long goodbye of a transition

在轉變的「漫長的揮別」中， 這樣的儀式很有效果，

because they are messages to ourselves and those around us

因為它們等於是在發出訊息 給我們自己及身邊的人，

that I’m going through a difficult time,

表示我在經歷很困難的時刻，

and I'm ready for what comes next.

且我準備好面對未來了。

Tip number three, try something new.

祕訣三：嘗試新事物。

The messy middle is messy.

亂糟糟的過程，很亂糟糟。

It's disheartening and disorienting.

會讓人很沮喪、失去方向。

Now what?

現在要怎麼辦？

My data show we do two things during our time in the wilderness.

我的資料顯示，在困惑的 狀態中我們會做兩件事。

First, we shed things: mindset, routines, habits.

第一，擺脫一些事物： 心態、慣例、習慣。

Like animals who molt, we cast off parts of our personality.

就像蛻變的動物，我們 要把部分人格給脫去。

Jeffrey Spar, who has OCD,

傑佛瑞‧史巴有強迫症，

had to shed his reliance on a regular paycheck

他必須要擺脫掉對於 定期薪水支票的仰賴，

when he left his family's business to open a nonprofit

因為他離開了家族事業， 去開了一間非營利機構，

that works with art therapy.

投入藝術治療。

Lee Wint, an executive who went through cancer,

李‧溫特是個主管，得了癌症，

divorce and a career change all at the same time,

同時還碰到離婚、職涯改變，

had to shed her habit that whenever she walked in the door,

她得擺脫她每回進家門 就先開冰箱的習慣。

she would open the fridge.

She lost 60 pounds.

她減掉了六十磅。

Shedding allows us to make space for what comes next,

擺脫，讓我們有空間 可以迎接嶄新的未來，

which is astonishing acts of creativity.

它是種創意的驚人展現。

At the bottom of our lives,

在人生的谷底，

we dance, sing, garden, take up ukulele.

我們跳舞、唱歌、 做園藝、彈烏克麗麗。

Army Sergeant Zach Herrick had his face blown off by the Taliban.

陸軍中士柴克‧赫瑞克 被塔利班炸毀了臉，

31 surgeries between his nose and his chin.

他的鼻子和下巴之間 做了三十一次手術。

He experienced suicide ideation.

他有了自殺的念頭。

Then, at the suggestion of his mom,

接著他接受了他母親的 建議，開始做菜。

he started to cook.

Then to write poetry, and then to paint.

接著開始寫詩，接著是畫畫。

"I used to get out my hostility by splattering the enemy with bullets,"

他告訴我：「我以前發洩 敵意的方式是對敵人掃射，

he told me.

現在我發洩敵意的方式 是對畫布揮灑。」

"Now I get out my hostility by splattering the canvas with paint."

What was the biggest cliche at the beginning of the pandemic?

疫情之初，最老掉牙的事是什麼？

Baking.

烘培。

We're going to sour dough our way through it.

我們要靠做麵包度過疫情。

I may have been the least surprised person

我可能是最不感到驚訝的人，

因為很簡單的動作， 比如想像一塊麵包、

because the simple act of imagining that loaf of bread or a painting or a poem

一幅畫、一首詩，

allows us to imagine we can create a new self.

就讓我們能夠想像 我們能創造出新的自己。

Tip number four, seek wisdom from others.

祕訣四：向他人尋求智慧。

Perhaps the most painful part of a life transition

也許，人生轉變最痛苦的部分

is that you feel isolated and alone.

就是你覺得很寂寞、孤單。

In fact, one under-discussed reason for the rise of loneliness

事實上，寂寞之所以會出現， 有個理由很少被討論到，

is the rise in the number of life transitions we all face.

就是我們大家面對的 人生轉變數量越來越多。

Which is why it's essential that you not be alone,

這就是為什麼很重要的是， 你不要獨自一個人，

that you share your experience with others.

要和他人分享你的經歷。

Could be a friend, a neighbor, a loved one, even a stranger.

對象可以是朋友、鄰居、 愛人，甚至陌生人。

But here's the key.

但有個關鍵：每個人渴望 得到的回應不盡相同。

Not everyone craves the same type of response.

Each of us has what I call a phenotype of feedback.

每個人都有我所謂的 「回饋的顯型」。

A third of us like comforters.

三分之一的人喜歡討拍拍。

"I love you, Suzy, you'll get through it."

「我愛你，蘇西，你會撐過去的。」

A quarter of us like nudgers.

四分之一的人喜歡輕推一把。

"I love you, John,

「我愛你，約翰，但也許 你該試試這個或做做那個。」

but maybe you should try this, maybe you should do that."

But one in six of us like slappers.

但有六分之一的人喜歡當頭棒喝。

"I love you, Anna, but get over yourself, it's time to do this."

「我愛你，安娜， 但夠了啦，該做這個了。」

(Laughter)

（笑聲）

The key point is,

重點是，

don't assume that the other person likes the same type of response.

別假設對方喜歡的回應 會是跟你一樣的。

Ask before you advise.

給建議之前，先問。

And that leads to tip number five.

那就要帶到祕訣五。

Rewrite your life story.

改寫你的人生故事。

A life transition is fundamentally a meaning-making experience.

基本上，人生轉變 是一段製造意義的經歷。

It's what I like to call an autobiographical occasion

我喜歡稱之為寫自傳的機會，

in which we are called on to revisit,

此時，我們要去回想、重寫、 重新訴說我們的人生故事，

rewrite and retell our life story,

adding a new chapter for what we learned during the lifequake.

為我們在人生地震中 所學到的，增加新的篇章。

That's what happened with my dad.

那就是我父親的狀況。

After I sent that first question about the toys he played with,

我丟出第一個問題給他， 問他兒時玩的玩具之後，

he wrote a story about model airplanes I had never heard before,

他寫了一個關於模型飛機的 故事，我以前從未聽過，

even though he couldn't even use his fingers at the time.

即使他那時無法用 他的手指，還是寫了。

I sent another, “Tell me about the house you grew up in.”

我又丟了一個問題：「跟我 聊聊你兒時住的房子。」

Then another, "How did you join the Navy?"

然後是：「你怎麼會加入海軍？」

"How did you meet Mom?"

「你怎麼認識媽媽的？」

Until just this week,

直到這週，

eight years after that first question,

丟出第一個問題的八年後，

my dad,

我父親，

who never wrote anything longer than a memo,

他從來沒有寫過 比備忘錄還長的文章，

completed a 65,000-word memoir.

竟完成了一本六萬五千字的回憶錄。

One question,

一個問題，

one story,

一個故事，

one life-affirming memory at a time.

一次只要一段能肯定人生的記憶。

That is the power of storytelling.

那就是說故事的力量。

And it's a reminder that no matter how bleak your story gets,

那也是提醒我們，不論 你的故事變得多嚴峻無望，

you cannot give up on the happy ending.

都不能放棄快樂的結局。

You control the story you tell about yourself,

你能控制要如何講述自己的故事，

even the most painful parts of yourself.

即使是你自己最痛苦的部分。

And that's why it's so critical that we re-imagine life transitions,

那就是為什麼重新思考 人生轉變是如此重要的事，

that we see them not as a miserable times

不要把它們視為我們必須要 堅韌不拔撐過去的悲慘時期，

we have to grit and grind our way through,

but we see them for what they are.

我們要看到它們的本質。

Healing times that take the wounded parts of our lives

它們是療癒的時期， 找出我們人生中受損的部分，

and begin to repair them.

開始修復它們。

The Italians have a wonderful expression for this:

對此，義大利人有個很美好的說法：

“Lupus in fabula.”

「Lupus in fabula.」

The wolf in the fairytale.

童話中的狼。

Just when life is going swimmingly,

人生正順利的時候，

along comes a demon, a dragon, a downsizing, a pandemic.

就出現了一個惡魔、一隻龍、

一波裁員、一場疫情。

Just when our fairy tale seems poised to come true,

當我們的童話似乎就要實現時，

a wolf shows up and threatens to destroy it.

一隻狼出現了，威脅要摧毀它。

And that's OK.

那沒關係。

Because if you banish the wolf, you banish the hero.

因為如果你趕走了那隻狼，

也就趕走了英雄主角。

And if there's one thing I learned,

如果說我有學到什麼，

we all need to be the hero of our own story.

那就是我們都得扮演 自己故事中的英雄主角。

That's why we have fairy tales, after all.

畢竟，那就是我們有童話的原因。

And why we tell them year after year,

也就是為什麼我們 年復一年地講這些童話，

bedtime after bedtime.

每次上床前都要講一次。

They turn our nightmares into dreams.

它們會把我們的惡夢轉為美夢。

Thank you.

謝謝。

(Applause)

（掌聲）