5 Lessons on Happiness — from Pop Fame to Poisonous Snakes | Mike Posner | TED

翻译人员: Jia Z 校对人员: Yanyan Hong

(Music)

（音乐）

I took a pill in Ibiza

我在伊维萨岛嗑了一粒药

To show Avicii I was cool

让 A 神（Avicii）知道我有多酷

And when I finally got sober, felt ten years older

当我终于清醒的时候， 感觉自己一下老了十岁

Oh, fuck it, it was something to do

但管他呢，最起码比无事可做强

I'm living out in LA

我住在洛杉矶

I drive a sports car just to prove

我开跑车只是为了证明

I'm a real big baller 'cause I made a million dollars

自己是个真富豪， 因为我赚了一百万美元

And I spend it on girls and shoes

我把它们在女人和球鞋上挥霍

You don't want to be high like me

但你不必像我这样曾身处顶峰

Never really knowing why like me

却不知道我为何会是现在这样

You don't ever want to step off that roller coaster

你一定不想人生经历过山车后

And be all alone

独自一人走下来

You don't want to ride the bus like this

你肯定不想经历我所经历的事

Never knowing who to trust like this

从来找不到一个可以信任的人

You don't want to be stuck up on that stage singing

你不想站在那个舞台上唱着

Stuck up on that stage singing

站在舞台上唱着

All I know

我所知道的

Are sad songs

全是悲歌

Sad songs

悲歌

Darling, all I know

亲爱的，我唱的

Are sad songs

全是悲歌

Sad songs

悲歌

(Music ends)

（音乐结束）

(Applause and cheers)

（掌声和欢呼）

Thank you.

谢谢。

My name is Mike Posner,

我叫迈克·波斯纳（Mike Posner），

and some of you may recognize me from that song,

你们当中有些人 可能会从那首歌中认出我：

“I Took a Pill in Ibiza”

《我在伊维萨岛嗑了一粒药》

but I'm not the same person I was when I wrote that.

但我现在已经不是 我写那首歌时的样子了。

In fact, that's why I'm here today.

事实上，这就是我今天来这里的原因。

I want to tell you about the time that I did something crazy

我想告诉你我曾做了一件疯狂的事情，

and it changed me.

而它改变了我。

I want to tell you about the time

我想告诉你我曾经

that I tried to walk 3,000 miles

尝试徒步 3,000 英里

all the way across the United States of America,

穿越美国，

the big challenge that got in my way

阻碍我前进的重大挑战

and the five life lessons that I learned.

以及我收获的人生 5 堂课。

But way before I tried to walk across America,

但是早在我尝试穿越美国之前，

my story begins with my father.

我的故事就从我的父亲开始了。

My dad used to always tell me when I was little,

小时候，我父亲经常告诉我：

"Mike, there's two things that are most important to me.

“迈克，有两件事对我来说最重要。

Number one, I want you to be healthy.

第一，我希望你健康。

And number two, I want you to be happy."

第二，我希望你快乐。”

Now the healthy part, that came easy to me.

健康的部分对我来说很容易。

But the happiness ...

但是快乐……

I struggled with that.

我为此苦苦挣扎。

I was kind of a shy and depressed kid,

我是一个有点害羞和抑郁的孩子，

and I thought if I could get everyone to like me, you know,

我想如果我能让所有人喜欢我，

maybe I would be happier.

也许我会更快乐。

And so I set about trying to get everyone to like me.

所以我开始尝试让所有人都喜欢我。

And I'll let you guys in on a little secret.

我会告诉你们一个小秘密。

I was very effective at getting people to like me.

我很擅长让人们喜欢我。

(Laughter)

（笑声）

In fact, by the time I was 22, I had become famous.

事实上，在我 22 岁的时候， 我就已经成名了。

I would walk onto stages and people, forget about like,

当我走上舞台，人们何止是喜欢，

they would scream for me.

她们会为我尖叫。

I would take my shirt off at the concert,

我会在演唱会上脱掉我的衬衫，

they’d scream even louder.

她们会更大声的尖叫。

I’d go backstage, they tell me how great I was,

当我回到后台，他们会告诉我我有多棒，

but I'd get to the hotel and I'd be alone.

但我回到酒店后独自一人。

And the happiness that Dad wanted for me,

而我父亲想要我拥有的快乐，

it just wasn't there.

却根本不存在。

I don't know how to tell you this, I tried everything.

我不知道该怎么告诉你， 我尝试了所有方法。

Therapy, meditation, self-help books or retreats.

治疗、冥想、自助书籍或疗养。

Nothing worked.

什么都不起作用。

And it's not like this went on for six months,

而且这种情况不是持续了六个月，

this went on for 10 years.

而是持续了十年。

And so out of options,

因此，我别无选择，

I decided to chase after the happiness that Dad wanted for me

我决定用最后一种方式 去追寻父亲需要我拥有的

in one last way,

快乐，

in a way that had been stuck in my head for many years.

这种方式已在我的脑海里存在了很多年。

I decided to walk across America.

我决定徒步穿越美国。

Now, very quickly,

很快，

the people I worked with in the music industry

与我在音乐界合作的人

gave me the feedback that this was both a bad and a crazy idea.

给我的反馈是， 这是一个既糟糕又疯狂的想法。

You can't just stop making albums, stop doing shows and leave.

你不能突然停止制作专辑， 停止演出，然后离开。

This is a career-ending decision.

这是一个终结职业生涯的决定。

That's when I learned life lesson number one.

就在那时，我学到了人生的第一课。

Not all crazy ideas are great,

不是所有疯狂的想法都是伟大的，

but all great ideas are crazy.

但所有伟大的想法都是疯狂的。

(Applause)

（掌声）

And so I made the decision,

于是我做出了决定，

but still, these negative thoughts kept coming up in my head.

但是，这些负面想法 仍然在我的脑海中浮现。

Thoughts like:

比如：

What if I really hurt myself permanently from doing this walk?

如果我真的因为徒步而 永久性地伤害了自己怎么办？

What if they're right and I do ruin my career

如果他们是对的，我真的因为 尝试这个项目而毁了我的事业

from trying this project?

怎么办？

What if I fail?

如果我失败了怎么办？

What if I don't make it across

如果我没成功，

and, like, I fail in front of everyone?

当着所有人的面失败了怎么办？

And to make matters worse, I lived in LA,

更糟糕的是，我住在洛杉矶，

but strategically, I wanted to start walking on the East Coast.

但从战略上讲，我想从东海岸开始走。

So before I walked across America, I had to drive across America.

因此，在我徒步穿越美国之前， 我必须先开车穿越美国。

And I don't know if you guys have checked lately,

我不知道你们最近有没有查过，

but America --

美国真的是

It's really freaking wide.

太广了。

It's really freaking wide.

宽得吓人。

In fact, even driving across it at 70 miles per hour was daunting.

实际上，即使以每小时 70 英里的 速度开车横穿它，也令人生畏。

I literally had to look at this vast expanse of land

我不得不看看我本来想穿越的

that I was going to attempt to walk across.

这片广阔的土地。

I was going to try to walk one eighth the circumference of planet Earth.

我要尝试走过地球八分之一的周长。

And so it was scary.

所以这太可怕了。

But on April 15, 2019,

但是在 2019 年 4 月 15 日，

I stood off the coast of New Jersey, and I took a step.

我站在新泽西海岸，迈出了第一步。

And when I took that step,

当我迈出这一步时，

all the fears and doubts about what might happen if I chose to do this,

所有关于如果我选择这样做 会发生什么的恐惧和疑虑

they disappeared because I was doing it.

都消失了，因为我正在这样做。

And that's when I learned the second lesson.

就在那时，我学到了第二课。

Step one is take one step.

第一步是迈出一步。

I walked across New Jersey and Pennsylvania.

我走过了新泽西州和宾夕法尼亚州。

I walked across Ohio,

我走过俄亥俄州，

where I developed blistering foot pain.

在那里我的脚痛得起了泡。

It was worse than I thought it would be, but I kept going.

情况比我想象的还要糟糕， 但我继续前进。

I walked across Indiana and Illinois.

我走过印第安纳州和伊利诺伊州。

I walked across Missouri during a heat wave,

我在热浪中穿越了密苏里州，

I walked across Kansas.

我走过了堪萨斯州。

I walked into Colorado.

我走进了科罗拉多州。

Before I knew it, I'd been walking for over three months.

在不知不觉中，我已经走了三个多月。

I could just see the Rocky Mountains on the horizon when -- ow!

我能看到地平线 上的落基山脉了， 突然—— 啊！

Pain shot up my left leg.

我的左腿疼痛得厉害。

And then I heard a sound that I didn't want to hear.

然后我听到了一个我不想听到的声音。

Sh-sh-sh-sh.

嘶-嘶-嘶-嘶。

And I realized that a poisonous rattlesnake

然后我意识到一条有毒的响尾蛇

had just sunk its fangs into my left leg.

刚刚用它的毒牙咬了我的左腿。

I called 911 and I asked, "Dispatch,

我打电话给 911 问道：“调度员，

am I going to die?"

我会死吗？”

And the voice on the other end of the phone said,

电话另一端的声音说：

"I don't know, sir."

“我不知道，先生。”

I spent three nights in the ICU,

我在重症监护病房住了三晚，

and my leg swelled to the size of an elephant trunk.

我的腿肿胀到了象鼻那么粗。

I went from walking 24 miles every day

我从每天步行 24 英里

to not being able to walk to the bathroom.

变成无法走去洗手间。

But after a lot of PT and great medical care,

但经过大量的康复训练 和良好的医疗护理后，

a really funny thing happened.

一件非常有趣的事情发生了。

I got better.

我好起来了。

(Laughter)

（笑声）

And so now I had a decision to make.

所以现在我必须做出一个决定。

I could either, A: return to my life of fame and luxury and Uber Eats.

我可以选择——A：重回我名利、 奢华和每天点外卖的生活。

(Laughter)

（笑声）

And unhappiness.

以及不快乐。

Or I could B: go back to the sweltering heat.

或者我可以——B：回到酷热的环境中。

Go back to the blistering foot pain,

回到剧烈的脚痛中，

go back to the sides of the roads

回到每天都

where the cars almost hit me every single day.

差点被车撞到的路边。

This path sucked and it hurt a lot,

这条路很糟糕而且很痛苦，

but it taught me lesson number three.

但它教会了我第三课。

When it comes to things I care about,

当涉及到我关心的事情时，

my reasons to quit

我放弃的理由

are always excuses in disguise.

总是变相的借口。

See, I had the best reason to quit of all time.

你看，我有选择放弃的最好的理由。

Let me spell it out for you.

让我为你解释一下。

I was bit by a deadly snake,

我被一条致命的蛇咬伤了，

(Laughter)

（笑声）

and I almost died.

我差点就死了。

This is the gold standard of reasons to stop doing something.

这是停止做某事的黄金标准。

(Laughter)

（笑声）

In fact, it was such a good reason to quit

事实上，这是一个很好的放弃的理由，

that if I did quit,

如果我真的退出了，

most people probably wouldn't even consider me a quitter,

大多数人可能并不会认为我是失败者，

it would just be a really cool story with a bad-ass ending.

这是一个非常酷的故事，结局很精彩。

But I wasn't doing this for most people.

但我这么做不是为了大多数人。

I knew.

我知道。

I knew that the only way

我知道想要成为

for me to become the version of myself that I'd actually be proud of

真正让我骄傲的自己，

and have a chance to taste the happiness that Dad wanted for me so bad,

并有机会品体验到 父亲殷切希望我得到的快乐，

was to walk the remaining 1,000 miles.

唯一方式是走完剩下的 1000 英里。

And ...

然后……

I don't know how to tell you this.

我不知道该怎么跟你说。

There was no podcast I could listen to about it,

没有播客可以让我听，

there was no book I could read about it,

没有书可以让我读，

there was no documentary I could watch about it,

没有纪录片可以让我看，

there was no magical piece of advice a friend could give me about it,

没有朋友可以给我神奇的建议，

there was no psychedelic,

没有迷幻药，

I had to do it.

我必须去做。

I had to do it.

我必须这样做。

And so I went back to the exact spot that that darn snake bit me.

于是我回到了那条该死的蛇 咬伤我的地方。

(Laughter)

（笑声）

I was scared to go back there, too.

我也害怕回到那里。

(Laughter)

（笑声）

And I took a step.

然后我迈出了一步。

And I kept taking steps

我不停地迈步，

until I walked up and over the Rocky Mountains.

直到我登上并翻越落基山脉。

And I kept taking steps until I walked across Colorado.

我不停地迈步，直到走过科罗拉多州。

And I kept taking steps when I didn't want to keep taking steps.

甚至在我不想继续的时候， 我也不停地迈步。

I kept taking steps until I walked across Navajo Nation.

我不停地迈步，直到走过纳瓦霍部落。

I kept taking steps until I walked across Arizona.

我不停地迈步，直到走过亚利桑那州。

I kept taking steps until I walked across Nevada.

我不停地迈步，直到走过内华达州。

I kept taking steps until I walked across the Mojave Desert.

我不停地迈步，直到走过莫哈韦沙漠。

I kept taking steps until the Hollywood sign was on my right.

我不停地迈步，直到好莱坞的标志 出现在我的右边。

I kept taking steps until the pavement turned into sand.

我不停地迈步，直到人行道变成沙子。

I kept taking steps until my walk transformed into a sprint.

我不停地迈步， 直到我的行走变成了冲刺。

And after six months and three days,

六个月零三天，

2,851 miles, 5.7 million steps,

2851 英里，570 万步后，

I dove face-first into the Pacific Ocean.

我一头扎进了太平洋。

(Cheers and applause)

（欢呼和掌声）

And while I was in that water,

当我在海水中时，

an unfamiliar emotion washed over me.

一种陌生的情绪涌上心头。

And that was happiness.

那就是快乐。

That’s when I learned lesson number four,

就在那时，我学到了第四课，

that true happiness

真正的快乐

comes from growth.

来自成长。

So now I had the health,

所以现在我拥有了健康，

I had the happiness.

我拥有了快乐。

But I didn’t have my dad.

但我没有了父亲。

Two years before I started walking across America,

在我开始徒步穿越美国的两年前，

my dad was diagnosed with glioblastoma,

我父亲被诊断出患有胶质母细胞瘤，

that's a form of brain cancer.

这是一种脑癌。

And on January 11, 2017 ...

在 2017 年 1 月 11 日……

My dad passed away.

我父亲去世了。

And I want to be real with you today.

我今天想和你们说实话。

I had the idea

在我父亲生病之前，

and the inspiration to walk across America

我就有了徒步穿越美国的

way before my dad got sick

想法和灵感，

But every time spring rolled around, I would say, “Next year.

但是每当春天来临时， 我都会说：“明年。

Next year, I’m too busy right now.

第二年，我现在太忙了。

I’ve got a concert, I’ve got a tour.

我有演唱会，有巡演。

Next year, I've got work, I've got a wedding that I don't want to go to,

再过一年，我有工作， 还有一场我不想参加的婚礼，

but I feel like I've got to go to it.

但我觉得我必须得去。

Next year, next year.”

明年，明年。”

And as a result of me saying "next year" ...

而我不断说着“明年”的结果就是……

My dad never got to see me achieve my biggest dream.

我父亲再也没能看到 我实现我最大的梦想。

My biggest accomplishment.

我最大的成就。

And he never got to see me truly happy.

他也没能看到我真正快乐。

And so, if lesson number one is not all crazy ideas are great,

因此，如果第一课是 并非所有疯狂的想法都是伟大的，

but all great ideas are crazy.

但所有伟大的想法都是疯狂的。

And lesson two is step one is take one step.

第二课：第一步是迈出一步。

Three: reasons are excuses in disguise.

第三课：理由是变相的借口。

Four: true happiness comes from growth.

第四课：真正的快乐来自成长。

Then lesson number five ...

那么第五课就是……

Don't wait.

不要等待。

Don't wait.

别拖了。

Thank you.

谢谢。

(Applause and cheers)

（掌声和欢呼）

This song is for Dad.

这首歌献给我的父亲。

(Music)

（音乐）

You tell me that you can see your mother

你告诉我你能看见你的妈妈

I couldn’t see her

我却看不见她

That was my fault, it wasn’t yours

那是我的错，不是你的错

And I spit back these words I heard in Ram Dass lectures

我把在拉姆·达斯（Ram Dass）的 演讲中听到的这些话说给你听

To make you feel better about what's in store

让你对即将发生的事好受些

And everyone has their theory of where you're going

关于你将去向何方 每个人都有自己的理论

And here I am about to throw more words on top of that pile

而我现在要把更多的话加上去

I happen to think that you always know who I am

我碰巧以为你一直都知道我是谁

You're just stretching out your wings

你只是伸展你的翅膀

You're gonna fly for a while

你要飞一会儿

And that's all right with me

我没事

Fly, baby, fly

飞吧，亲爱的，飞吧

Yeah, that's all right with me

我没事

Fly, baby, fly

飞吧，亲爱的，飞吧

I'm so tired of life inside the saddle

我已经厌倦了马鞍上的生活

There's no reason for that

这并没有缘由

It happened just because

只是自然而然发生了

And the moon’s so bright tonight that I have a shadow

今晚的月亮如此明亮，我有了影子

And that's a reminder

这提醒着我

that I'm not who I thought I was

我已不是原来的我

And everyone has their theory of where you're going

关于你将去向何方 每个人都有自己的理论

Here I am about to throw more words on top of that pile

而我现在要把更多的话加上去

I happen to think that you always know who I am

我碰巧以为你一直都知道我是谁

You're just stretching out your wings

你只是伸展你的翅膀

You're gonna fly for a while

你要飞一会儿

And that's all right with me

我没事

Fly, baby, fly

飞吧，亲爱的，飞吧

Yeah, that's all right with me

我没事

Fly, baby, fly

飞吧，亲爱的，飞吧

Yeah, that's all right with me

我没事

Fly, baby, fly

飞吧，亲爱的，飞吧

Yeah, that's all right with me

飞吧，亲爱的，飞吧

Fly, baby, fly

飞吧，亲爱的，飞吧

And then it comes undone

然后一切都结束了

It all unwinds

解脱了

And there's only so much I can take

我只能承受这么多

Only so much time

只有这么点时间

Yeah, it comes undone

一切都结束了

It all unwinds

解脱了

Been in the dark so long that the light just makes me blind

在黑暗中太久了，以至于光线让我失明

Been in the dark so long that the light just makes me blind

在黑暗中太久了，以至于光线让我失明

At some point, every light begins to flicker

在某个时刻，每盏灯都开始闪烁

So I suspect that even mine

所以我怀疑连我的光

will start to wane

也会开始减弱

But I've got an idea that I'd like you to consider

但我有个想法，希望你能考虑一下

If I could love you without trying to change you,

如果我能爱你而不试图改变你

could you do the same?

你也能这样做吗？

If I could love you without trying to change you,

如果我能爱你而不试图改变你

could you do the same?

你也能这样做吗？

(Music ends)

（音乐结束）

(Applause)

（掌声）

Thank you guys so much,

非常感谢你们，

my name is Mike Posner, appreciate you.

我叫迈克·波斯纳，谢谢你们。

(Applause)

（掌声）