5 Lessons on Happiness — from Pop Fame to Poisonous Snakes | Mike Posner | TED

譯者: 麗玲 辛

(Music)

（音樂）

I took a pill in Ibiza

我在伊比薩島吞了顆藥丸，

To show Avicii I was cool

向艾維奇 (Avicii) 證明我很酷。

And when I finally got sober, felt ten years older

當我終於清醒時，覺得老了十歲，

Oh, fuck it, it was something to do

哎呀，算了，那只是個消遣。

I'm living out in LA

我住在洛杉磯，

I drive a sports car just to prove

我開跑車，

只是要證明我是個真正的大亨。

I'm a real big baller 'cause I made a million dollars

我賺了一百萬美元， 全花在女孩和鞋子上。

And I spend it on girls and shoes

You don't want to be high like me

你不想像我一樣嗨起來，

Never really knowing why like me

永遠不知道為什麼要像我這樣，

You don't ever want to step off that roller coaster

你總是不想從這雲霄飛車上下來，

And be all alone

然後孤單一人。

You don't want to ride the bus like this

你不想像這樣搭公車，

Never knowing who to trust like this

像這樣，從不知道該信任誰。

You don't want to be stuck up on that stage singing

你不想被困在舞台上唱歌，

Stuck up on that stage singing

困在舞台上唱歌。

All I know

我所知道的

Are sad songs

都是悲傷的歌曲。

Sad songs

悲傷的歌曲，

Darling, all I know

親愛的，我所知道的

Are sad songs

都是悲傷的歌。

Sad songs

悲傷的歌曲。

(Music ends)

（音樂結束）

(Applause and cheers)

（掌聲和歡呼聲）

Thank you.

謝謝。

My name is Mike Posner,

我是麥克·波斯納，

and some of you may recognize me from that song,

在座有人可能會從那首歌

“I Took a Pill in Ibiza”

《我在伊比薩島吞了顆藥丸》認出我，

but I'm not the same person I was when I wrote that.

但我已不再是當初 寫這首歌時的那個人了。

In fact, that's why I'm here today.

事實上，這就是我今天在這裡的原因。

I want to tell you about the time that I did something crazy

我想告訴你們我做的一件瘋狂的事情，

and it changed me.

而這件事改變了我。

I want to tell you about the time

我想分享，

that I tried to walk 3,000 miles

在徒步三千英里，

all the way across the United States of America,

嘗試穿越美國的這段時間，

the big challenge that got in my way

我遇到的巨大挑戰

and the five life lessons that I learned.

以及學到的五個人生教訓。

But way before I tried to walk across America,

但早在試圖穿越美國之前，

my story begins with my father.

我的故事要從我爸爸開始講起。

My dad used to always tell me when I was little,

我小時候，我爸爸總是告訴我，

"Mike, there's two things that are most important to me.

「麥克，有兩件事對我來說超重要。

Number one, I want you to be healthy.

第一，我希望你保持健康，

And number two, I want you to be happy."

第二，我希望你快樂。」

Now the healthy part, that came easy to me.

健康的部分對我來說很容易。

But the happiness ...

但是快樂...

I struggled with that.

我遇到了點困難。

I was kind of a shy and depressed kid,

我以前是一個害羞而憂鬱的孩子，

and I thought if I could get everyone to like me, you know,

我想如果我能讓每個人都喜歡我，

maybe I would be happier.

也許我會快樂些。

And so I set about trying to get everyone to like me.

所以我開始努力讓每個人都喜歡我。

And I'll let you guys in on a little secret.

我告訴你們一個小秘密。

I was very effective at getting people to like me.

我非常擅長讓人們喜歡我。

(Laughter)

（笑聲）

In fact, by the time I was 22, I had become famous.

事實上，22 歲時， 我已經變得很有名了。

I would walk onto stages and people, forget about like,

我走上舞台時， 人們會忘情地為我尖叫。

they would scream for me.

I would take my shirt off at the concert,

我在音樂會上脫下襯衫，

they’d scream even louder.

人們會尖叫更大聲。

I’d go backstage, they tell me how great I was,

我回到後台，人們告訴我我有多棒，

but I'd get to the hotel and I'd be alone.

但到了飯店，我孤單一人。

And the happiness that Dad wanted for me,

爸爸希望我擁有的幸福感，

it just wasn't there.

卻不存在。

I don't know how to tell you this, I tried everything.

我不知道該怎麼說， 我試過所有的方法，

Therapy, meditation, self-help books or retreats.

治療、冥想、自助書籍或靜修，

Nothing worked.

全都沒有效果。

And it's not like this went on for six months,

這種情況不是持續了六個月，

this went on for 10 years.

而是持續了十年。

And so out of options,

因此，別無選擇，

I decided to chase after the happiness that Dad wanted for me

我決定嘗試最後一個方法， 多年來一直縈繞在我腦海中的方法，

in one last way,

in a way that had been stuck in my head for many years.

去追逐爸爸希望我擁有的幸福。

I decided to walk across America.

我決定徒步穿越美國。

Now, very quickly,

很快地，

the people I worked with in the music industry

與我在音樂產業共事的人告訴我，

gave me the feedback that this was both a bad and a crazy idea.

這是個既糟糕又瘋狂的主意。

You can't just stop making albums, stop doing shows and leave.

你不能不製作專輯、 不表演，直接就離開。

This is a career-ending decision.

這個決定會毀了我的事業。

That's when I learned life lesson number one.

就在那時，我學到了人生的第一堂課。

Not all crazy ideas are great,

並非所有瘋狂的想法都是偉大的，

but all great ideas are crazy.

但所有偉大的想法都是瘋狂的。

(Applause)

（掌聲）

And so I made the decision,

我做了決定，

but still, these negative thoughts kept coming up in my head.

但，負面的想法依然 不斷在我的腦海中浮現。

Thoughts like:

像是，

What if I really hurt myself permanently from doing this walk?

如果我真的在這次徒步旅行 受了終身傷害，該怎麼辦？

What if they're right and I do ruin my career

如果他們說對了，我確實會因為這件事

from trying this project?

而毀了自己的事業，該怎麼辦？

What if I fail?

如果我失敗了怎麼辦？

What if I don't make it across

如果我沒能成功，

and, like, I fail in front of everyone?

在所有人面前失敗了，怎麼辦？

And to make matters worse, I lived in LA,

更糟的是，我住在洛杉磯，

but strategically, I wanted to start walking on the East Coast.

但是戰略上，我想要從東岸開始出發。

So before I walked across America, I had to drive across America.

所以在徒步穿越美國之前， 我必須開車橫跨美國。

And I don't know if you guys have checked lately,

我不知道你們是否有查過，

but America --

但美國——

It's really freaking wide.

真的非常廣大，

It's really freaking wide.

可怕的遼闊。

In fact, even driving across it at 70 miles per hour was daunting.

事實上，即使以時速 70 英里 開車穿越也是令人畏懼的。

I literally had to look at this vast expanse of land

我得實際看看這片 我將嘗試橫穿的廣闊土地。

that I was going to attempt to walk across.

I was going to try to walk one eighth the circumference of planet Earth.

我打算要走的距離是 地球週長的八分之一。

And so it was scary.

這很嚇人。

But on April 15, 2019,

但是，2019 年 4 月 15 日，

I stood off the coast of New Jersey, and I took a step.

我站在新澤西州海岸邊，踏出一步。

And when I took that step,

當我邁出那一步時，

all the fears and doubts about what might happen if I chose to do this,

所有對我的決定可能造成的 後果的恐懼和懷疑都消失了，

they disappeared because I was doing it.

因為我已經啟程。

And that's when I learned the second lesson.

這是我學到的第二個教訓。

Step one is take one step.

第一步就是踏出一步。

I walked across New Jersey and Pennsylvania.

我步行跨過新澤西州和賓夕法尼亞州。

I walked across Ohio,

我走過俄亥俄州，

where I developed blistering foot pain.

在那裡，我因水泡腳痛得厲害。

It was worse than I thought it would be, but I kept going.

情況比我想像的更糟，但我繼續前進。

I walked across Indiana and Illinois.

我走過印第安納州和伊利諾伊州。

I walked across Missouri during a heat wave,

我在熱浪中走過密蘇里州，

I walked across Kansas.

我走過堪薩斯州，

I walked into Colorado.

我走進科羅拉多州。

Before I knew it, I'd been walking for over three months.

不知不覺，我已經走了三個月多了。

I could just see the Rocky Mountains on the horizon when -- ow!

當我看到地平線上的洛磯山脈，噢！

Pain shot up my left leg.

我的左腿一陣疼痛。

And then I heard a sound that I didn't want to hear.

然後我聽到了一個我不想聽到的聲音，

Sh-sh-sh-sh.

嘶嘶嘶嘶。

And I realized that a poisonous rattlesnake

我意識到一條有毒的響尾蛇

had just sunk its fangs into my left leg.

剛剛把毒牙咬進了我的左腿。

I called 911 and I asked, "Dispatch,

我打電話給 911，問調度人員：

am I going to die?"

「我會死掉嗎？」

And the voice on the other end of the phone said,

電話另一端的聲音說：

"I don't know, sir."

「我不確定，先生。」

I spent three nights in the ICU,

我在加護病房住了三個晚上，

and my leg swelled to the size of an elephant trunk.

我的腿腫得像大象的象鼻。

I went from walking 24 miles every day

我從每天步行 24 英里

to not being able to walk to the bathroom.

變成無法走到廁所。

But after a lot of PT and great medical care,

但經過了許多物理治療 和出色的醫療照護，

a really funny thing happened.

非常有趣的事情發生了。

I got better.

我康復了。

(Laughter)

（笑聲）

And so now I had a decision to make.

這時，我得做個決定。

I could either, A: return to my life of fame and luxury and Uber Eats.

我可以選擇一：回到我出名、 奢華、有優食外送的生活，

(Laughter)

（笑聲）

And unhappiness.

同時，繼續不快樂。

Or I could B: go back to the sweltering heat.

或者，我可以選擇二： 回到酷熱的地方，

Go back to the blistering foot pain,

回到腳痛的折磨，

go back to the sides of the roads

回到每天都幾乎被車撞的路邊。

where the cars almost hit me every single day.

This path sucked and it hurt a lot,

這條路很難走，而且很痛苦，

but it taught me lesson number three.

但它教給了我第三個教訓。

When it comes to things I care about,

當涉及我關心的事情，

my reasons to quit

我放棄的理由其實都是變相的藉口。

are always excuses in disguise.

See, I had the best reason to quit of all time.

你看，我有史上最佳的理由可以放棄。

Let me spell it out for you.

容我挑明了說，

I was bit by a deadly snake,

我被一條致命毒蛇咬了，

(Laughter)

（笑聲）

and I almost died.

我差點就死了。

This is the gold standard of reasons to stop doing something.

這是該停止某件事的黃金標準吧！

(Laughter)

（笑聲）

In fact, it was such a good reason to quit

事實上，這個理由實在太好了，

that if I did quit,

如果我真的放棄了，

most people probably wouldn't even consider me a quitter,

大多數人甚至不會認為我半途而廢，

it would just be a really cool story with a bad-ass ending.

只會覺得這個故事很酷，結局驚人。

But I wasn't doing this for most people.

但我做這件事並不是為了別人。

I knew.

我知道。

I knew that the only way

我知道，要成為真正引以為傲的自己，

for me to become the version of myself that I'd actually be proud of

and have a chance to taste the happiness that Dad wanted for me so bad,

並有機會體驗爸爸渴望我得到的幸福，

was to walk the remaining 1,000 miles.

只有走完剩下的一千英里。

And ...

而且...

I don't know how to tell you this.

我不知道該如何告訴你這一點。

There was no podcast I could listen to about it,

關於這件事，我找不到可以聽的播客，

there was no book I could read about it,

找不到可以讀的書，

there was no documentary I could watch about it,

找不到可以觀看的紀錄片，

there was no magical piece of advice a friend could give me about it,

也找不到哪個朋友 能給我相關的神奇建議，

there was no psychedelic,

沒有迷幻藥，

I had to do it.

我得自己完成。

I had to do it.

我得完成這件事。

And so I went back to the exact spot that that darn snake bit me.

於是我又回到了 那條該死的蛇咬我的地方。

(Laughter)

（笑聲）

I was scared to go back there, too.

我也害怕回到那裡。

(Laughter)

（笑聲）

And I took a step.

我邁出了一步。

And I kept taking steps

繼續前進，

until I walked up and over the Rocky Mountains.

直到爬過了洛磯山脈。

And I kept taking steps until I walked across Colorado.

我向前邁步，直到穿越科羅拉多州。

And I kept taking steps when I didn't want to keep taking steps.

即使不想繼續走了，我還是一直邁步。

I kept taking steps until I walked across Navajo Nation.

我不斷前行，直到穿過 納瓦荷族保留地。

I kept taking steps until I walked across Arizona.

我繼續前進，直到穿過亞利桑那州。

I kept taking steps until I walked across Nevada.

我繼續邁步，直到穿越內華達州。

I kept taking steps until I walked across the Mojave Desert.

我不斷邁步，直到穿越莫哈韋沙漠。

I kept taking steps until the Hollywood sign was on my right.

我繼續向前走，直到好萊塢標誌 出現在我的右邊。

I kept taking steps until the pavement turned into sand.

我不斷地邁步，直到人行道變成沙子。

I kept taking steps until my walk transformed into a sprint.

我不斷地踏出步伐， 直到步行變成了狂奔。

And after six months and three days,

經過了六個月三天，

2,851 miles, 5.7 million steps,

2,851 英里，570 萬步，

I dove face-first into the Pacific Ocean.

我一頭躍進太平洋。

(Cheers and applause)

（歡呼和掌聲）

And while I was in that water,

當我在水中，

an unfamiliar emotion washed over me.

一種陌生的情緒席捲而來，

And that was happiness.

快樂的感覺。

That’s when I learned lesson number four,

這時，我學到了第四個教訓，

that true happiness

真正的幸福

comes from growth.

來自成長。

So now I had the health,

現在我有了健康，

I had the happiness.

有了幸福。

But I didn’t have my dad.

但是，爸爸不在了。

Two years before I started walking across America,

在我開始徒步穿越美國的兩年前，

my dad was diagnosed with glioblastoma,

我父親被診斷出罹患膠質母細胞瘤，

that's a form of brain cancer.

這是一種腦癌。

And on January 11, 2017 ...

在 2017 年 1 月 11 日

My dad passed away.

我爸爸去世了。

And I want to be real with you today.

今天，我想對你說內心話。

I had the idea

在爸爸生病之前，

and the inspiration to walk across America

我就有了徒步穿越美國的想法，

way before my dad got sick

But every time spring rolled around, I would say, “Next year.

但每年春天，我都會說：「明年吧?

Next year, I’m too busy right now.

明年。我現在太忙了，

I’ve got a concert, I’ve got a tour.

我有一場音樂會，還有巡演，明年吧。

Next year, I've got work, I've got a wedding that I don't want to go to,

我現在有工作，還有個婚禮， 我不太想參加，但好像得去。

but I feel like I've got to go to it.

Next year, next year.”

明年，明年。」

And as a result of me saying "next year" ...

我一直說「明年」，結果，

My dad never got to see me achieve my biggest dream.

爸爸沒能看到我實現最大的夢想，

My biggest accomplishment.

我最大的成就。

And he never got to see me truly happy.

而且他未能看到我真的快樂。

And so, if lesson number one is not all crazy ideas are great,

所以，第一課， 並非所有瘋狂的想法都是偉大的，

but all great ideas are crazy.

但所有偉大的想法都是瘋狂的。

And lesson two is step one is take one step.

第二課，第一步就是走一步。

Three: reasons are excuses in disguise.

第三課，理由是偽裝的藉口。

Four: true happiness comes from growth.

第四，真正的幸福來自成長。

Then lesson number five ...

然後，第五課…

Don't wait.

別等待。

Don't wait.

別等待。

Thank you.

謝謝。

(Applause and cheers)

（掌聲和歡呼聲）

This song is for Dad.

這首歌送給爸爸。

(Music)

（音樂）

You tell me that you can see your mother

你告訴我，你可以看到你媽媽。

I couldn’t see her

我卻看不見她。

That was my fault, it wasn’t yours

那是我的錯，不是你。

And I spit back these words I heard in Ram Dass lectures

我重複那些在拉姆·達斯的 心靈講座中聽到的話，

To make you feel better about what's in store

好讓你對即將發生的事情安心一點。

And everyone has their theory of where you're going

關於你要去的地方， 每個人都有自己的說法。

And here I am about to throw more words on top of that pile

而我正要在這堆說法上再添一些詞。

I happen to think that you always know who I am

我就是認為你一直了解我。

You're just stretching out your wings

你只是張開了翅膀，

You're gonna fly for a while

要飛一陣子，

And that's all right with me

我沒關係的。

Fly, baby, fly

飛吧，寶貝，飛。

Yeah, that's all right with me

是的，我沒關係的。

Fly, baby, fly

飛吧，寶貝，飛。

I'm so tired of life inside the saddle

我厭倦了生活的掌控，

There's no reason for that

沒有道理要如此。

It happened just because

事情發生，只因為就是如此。

And the moon’s so bright tonight that I have a shadow

今晚月光如此明亮，我有了影子。

And that's a reminder

這就提醒了我，

that I'm not who I thought I was

我不是我以為的那個人。

And everyone has their theory of where you're going

關於你要去的地方， 每個人都有自己的說法。

Here I am about to throw more words on top of that pile

而我正要在這堆說法上再添一些詞。

I happen to think that you always know who I am

我就是認為你一直了解我。

You're just stretching out your wings

你只是張開了翅膀，

You're gonna fly for a while

要飛一陣子，

And that's all right with me

我沒關係的。

Fly, baby, fly

飛吧，寶貝，飛。

Yeah, that's all right with me

我沒關係。

Fly, baby, fly

飛吧，寶貝，飛。

Yeah, that's all right with me

是的，我沒關係。

Fly, baby, fly

飛吧，寶貝，飛。

Yeah, that's all right with me

我沒關係的。

Fly, baby, fly

飛吧，寶貝，飛。

And then it comes undone

然後，一切結束，

It all unwinds

都鬆開了。

And there's only so much I can take

我能擁有的只有這麼多，

Only so much time

只有這麼多時間。

Yeah, it comes undone

是的，一切結束，

It all unwinds

都鬆開了。

Been in the dark so long that the light just makes me blind

待在黑暗中太久了，光線讓我炫目。

Been in the dark so long that the light just makes me blind

待在黑暗中太久了，光線讓我炫目。

At some point, every light begins to flicker

每個光會在不同時刻開始閃爍，

So I suspect that even mine

所以我猜想，即使是我的光

will start to wane

也會漸漸黯淡。

But I've got an idea that I'd like you to consider

但我有個想法，希望你考慮一下，

If I could love you without trying to change you,

如果我愛你而不試圖改變你，

could you do the same?

你也能做到嗎？

If I could love you without trying to change you,

如果我愛你而不試圖改變你，

could you do the same?

你也能做到嗎？

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Thank you guys so much,

非常感謝各位，

my name is Mike Posner, appreciate you.

我是邁克.波斯納，感謝你們。

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