3 Skills Every Middle School Boy Needs | Jerome Hunter | TED

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μ•„λž˜ μ˜λ¬Έμžλ§‰μ„ λ”λΈ”ν΄λ¦­ν•˜μ‹œλ©΄ μ˜μƒμ΄ μž¬μƒλ©λ‹ˆλ‹€.

λ²ˆμ—­: Yeseul Kang κ²€ν† : DK Kim
00:03
Whenever I tell people I work at a middle school,
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μ œκ°€ μ€‘ν•™κ΅μ—μ„œ μΌν•œλ‹€κ³  말할 λ•Œλ§ˆλ‹€
00:06
they often lean back and suck their teeth.
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μ‚¬λžŒλ“€μ€ λ’€λ‘œ λ¬ΌλŸ¬λ‚˜ 마λ₯Έ 침을 κΏ€κΊ½ μ‚Όν‚€κ³€ ν•©λ‹ˆλ‹€.
00:09
It's like they're having a visceral reaction
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마치 κ·Έ μ‹œμ ˆμ„ λ§ν•˜λŠ” κ²ƒλ§ŒμœΌλ‘œλ„ λ³ΈλŠ₯적으둜 λ°˜μ‘ν•˜λŠ” 것 κ°™μŠ΅λ‹ˆλ‹€.
00:11
to the mere mention of those years,
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00:13
and it makes sense.
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μΆ©λΆ„νžˆ 이해할 λ§Œν•©λ‹ˆλ‹€.
00:14
Middle school is a time like no other.
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쀑학ꡐ μ‹œμ ˆμ€ λ§Žμ€ 일이 μΌμ–΄λ‚˜λŠ” μ‹œκΈ°μž…λ‹ˆλ‹€.
00:16
It's when significant biological, neurological and emotional changes
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μ€‘λŒ€ν•œ 생물학적, 신경학적 변화와
μ •μ„œμ  λ³€ν™”κ°€ λ™μ‹œμ— μΌμ–΄λ‚˜λŠ” λ•Œμž…λ‹ˆλ‹€.
00:21
are happening all at the same time.
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00:24
So how do middle schoolers respond to these changes?
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그러면 쀑학생듀은 μ΄λŸ¬ν•œ 변화에 μ–΄λ–»κ²Œ λ°˜μ‘ν• κΉŒμš”?
00:27
Well, some might ignore deodorant but overuse Axe body spray.
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μ–΄λ–€ 학생듀은 νƒˆμ·¨μ œλŠ” μ‚¬μš©ν•˜μ§€ μ•ŠμœΌλ €κ³  ν•˜λ©΄μ„œλ„
μŠ€ν”„λ ˆμ΄ ν–₯μˆ˜λŠ” λ‚¨μš©ν•˜κΈ°λ„ ν•©λ‹ˆλ‹€.
00:31
You can find them holding up the walls during the school dance.
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학ꡐ λ¬΄λ„νšŒκ°€ μ—΄λ¦¬λŠ” λ™μ•ˆ 벽에 λΆ™μ–΄ μžˆλŠ” 학생도 μžˆμ„ κ²ƒμž…λ‹ˆλ‹€.
00:35
And there's usually a desire to be treated like an adult,
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그리고 보톡 μ–΄λ₯Έ λŒ€μ ‘μ„ λ°›κ³  싢은 μš•κ΅¬λ„ μžˆμ§€λ§Œ,
00:38
but they can't quite let go of their action figures.
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μž₯λ‚œκ°μ„ μ†μ—μ„œ 놓지 λͺ»ν•˜κΈ°λ„ ν•©λ‹ˆλ‹€.
00:41
You might imagine that it looks a little like this.
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μ΄λ ‡κ²Œ 상상해 λ³΄μ‹œλ©΄ 될 것 κ°™μŠ΅λ‹ˆλ‹€.
이 사진은 6ν•™λ…„ λ•Œ 제 λͺ¨μŠ΅μž…λ‹ˆλ‹€.
00:45
This was me in sixth grade,
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00:47
and like many middle school students,
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쀑학생듀이 λŒ€κ°œ κ·Έλ ‡λ“―
μ €λŠ” μ„±μ‹€ν•˜κΈ°λ„ ν–ˆκ³ , λ‹€μ†Œ 얼이 λΉ μ Έ μžˆκΈ°λ„ ν–ˆμœΌλ©°
00:50
I was earnest, I was goofy,
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00:52
and I was just discovering who I wanted to be.
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μ–΄λ–€ μ‚¬λžŒμ΄ 되고 싢은지 아직 νƒμƒ‰ν•˜λŠ” μ€‘μ΄μ—ˆμŠ΅λ‹ˆλ‹€.
00:55
Now I had no idea that I'd go on to teach middle school.
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μ œκ°€ 쀑학ꡐ ꡐ사가 될 쀄은 μ „ν˜€ λͺ°λžμ£ .
00:59
They say the grade levels you teach are most reflective of your personality.
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μ‚¬λžŒλ“€μ€ ꡐ사가 κ°€λ₯΄μΉ˜λŠ” 학년이 κ΅μ‚¬μ˜ 성격을 잘 λ‚˜νƒ€λ‚Έλ‹€κ³  λ§ν•©λ‹ˆλ‹€.
01:03
So I'm not quite sure what it says about me
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이 말에 λ”°λ₯΄λ©΄ μ œκ°€ μ–΄λ–€ μ‚¬λžŒμœΌλ‘œ μ •μ˜ λ‚΄λ €μ§ˆμ§€ 잘 λͺ¨λ₯΄κ² λ„€μš”.
01:05
that I later went on to found a middle school for boys.
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μ œκ°€ λ‚˜μ€‘μ— λ‚¨μž 쀑학ꡐλ₯Ό μ„€λ¦½ν–ˆλ‹€λŠ” 사싀을 κ³ λ €ν•œλ‹€λ©΄ 말이죠.
01:08
But in all seriousness,
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ν•˜μ§€λ§Œ μ§„μ§€ν•˜κ²Œ 생각해 보면
01:10
it didn't take long as a teacher
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아이듀을 κ°€λ₯΄μΉ˜λ©΄μ„œ 그리 μ˜€λž˜μ§€ μ•Šμ•„ 깨달은 것은
남학생듀이 쑰금 μ΄μƒν•˜κ²Œ ν–‰λ™ν•œλ‹€λŠ” κ²ƒμ΄μ—ˆμŠ΅λ‹ˆλ‹€.
01:13
to realize that my male students were acting kind of strange.
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01:18
I remember there was this one year,
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ν•œ ν•΄κ°€ 기얡이 λ‚©λ‹ˆλ‹€.
01:20
we were doing a get-to-know-you activity
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학생듀이 μ„œλ‘œ 낯을 μ΅νžˆλŠ” ν™œλ™μ„ ν•  λ•Œμ˜€μŠ΅λ‹ˆλ‹€.
01:22
where students would use old magazines
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였래된 μž‘μ§€λ₯Ό μ‚¬μš©ν•˜μ—¬
01:24
to create collages representing who they were.
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μžμ‹ μ΄ μ–΄λ–€ μ‚¬λžŒμΈμ§€λ₯Ό λ‚˜νƒ€λ‚΄λŠ” 콜라주λ₯Ό λ§Œλ“œλŠ” ν™œλ™μ΄μ—ˆμ£ .
01:27
And many of the collages had all of the things
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λŒ€λΆ€λΆ„ μ½œλΌμ£Όμ—λŠ” μ „ν˜•μ μΈ 쀑학생듀이 μ’‹μ•„ν•˜λŠ” λͺ¨λ“  것이 λ“€μ–΄ μžˆμ—ˆμŠ΅λ‹ˆλ‹€.
01:29
that typical middle schoolers like:
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μ•Όμ™Έ ν™œλ™, μš΄λ™, μ΅œμ‹  νŒ¨μ…˜, 인기 μžˆλŠ” μ‹ λ°œμ²˜λŸΌ
01:31
the outdoors, sports,
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01:33
the latest fashion, the hottest shoes, you know, all the important stuff.
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남학생듀이 μ€‘μš”ν•˜λ‹€κ³  μƒκ°ν•˜λŠ” λͺ¨λ“  κ²ƒλ“€μ΄μš”.
01:38
However, there were some that were not exactly what I had in mind.
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그런데 μ œκ°€ μƒκ°ν•˜μ§€ λͺ»ν•œ 것듀도 μžˆμ—ˆμŠ΅λ‹ˆλ‹€.
μ–΄λ–€ 아이듀이 ν•œ 콜라주λ₯Ό λ§Œλ“€μ—ˆλŠ”λ°,
01:43
A group of middle school boys created these collages that were comical,
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웃기기도 ν•˜λ©΄μ„œ κ±±μ •μŠ€λŸ¬μš΄ 면도 μžˆμ—ˆμŠ΅λ‹ˆλ‹€.
01:47
if not concerning.
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01:49
It was almost as if they had made templates
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마치 그듀이 λ˜μ–΄μ•Ό ν•œλ‹€κ³  μƒκ°ν•˜λŠ” 본보기λ₯Ό λ§Œλ“  것 κ°™μ•˜μŠ΅λ‹ˆλ‹€.
01:51
of who they thought that they should be.
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01:53
Girls in bikinis, fast cars, professional wrestlers,
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λΉ„ν‚€λ‹ˆλ₯Ό μž…μ€ μ—¬μžλ“€, μ•„μ£Ό λΉ λ₯Έ μ°¨λ“€, ν”„λ‘œ λ ˆμŠ¬λŸ¬μ—
01:57
first-person shooter video games.
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1인칭 μŠˆνŒ… λΉ„λ””μ˜€ κ²Œμž„λ„ μžˆμ—ˆλŠ”λ° 무슨 말인지 μ•„μ‹œκ² μ£ .
01:59
You get the idea.
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02:01
One collage actually had to have had
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μ–΄λ–€ μ½œλΌμ£Όμ—λŠ” ν‚΄ μΉ΄λ‹€μ‹œμ•ˆ 사진이 25개 이상 μžˆμ—ˆμŠ΅λ‹ˆλ‹€.
02:03
at least 25 different images of Kim Kardashian.
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02:07
And this wasn't an isolated incident.
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이런 κ²½μš°λŠ” ν•œ 번이 μ•„λ‹ˆμ—ˆμŠ΅λ‹ˆλ‹€.
02:09
Whether it was going down a somewhat sketchy YouTube rabbit hole
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μ΄μƒν•œ 유튜브 채널에 λΉ μ Έ μ‹œκ°„ κ°€λŠ” 쀄 λͺ¨λ₯΄λ“ ,
02:12
or mindlessly indulging in meme culture,
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아무 생각 없이 κ³„μ†ν•΄μ„œ λ°ˆμ„ 보든,
02:15
which we know can get really hairy really fast,
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우린 이런 것듀이 μ—„μ²­ λΉ λ₯΄κ²Œ μœ„ν—˜ν•΄μ§ˆ 수 μžˆλ‹€λŠ” κ±Έ μ•Œμ£ ,
02:18
I was noticing a pattern with my boys.
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μ €λŠ” ν•™μƒλ“€μ—κ²Œ νŒ¨ν„΄μ΄ μžˆλ‹€λŠ” κ±Έ λ°œκ²¬ν–ˆμŠ΅λ‹ˆλ‹€.
02:20
Instead of chalking it up as mindless activities
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μ €λŠ” ν•™μƒλ“€μ˜ μ΄λŸ¬ν•œ 행동을
κ·Έμ € λ¬΄λΆ„λ³„ν•œ 것이라고 μ—¬κΈ°κ±°λ‚˜ μ€‘ν•™μƒμ˜ μ „ν˜•μ μΈ 행동이라고 보지 μ•Šκ³ 
02:23
or typical middle school behavior,
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02:25
I decided to investigate.
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직접 쑰사해 보기둜 ν–ˆμŠ΅λ‹ˆλ‹€.
02:27
I became a mentor for an afterschool program called My Brother's Keeper.
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μ €λŠ” β€˜λ™μƒμ„ μ§€ν‚€λŠ” μžβ€™λΌλŠ” λ°©κ³Ό ν›„ ν”„λ‘œκ·Έλž¨ λ©˜ν† κ°€ λ˜μ—ˆμŠ΅λ‹ˆλ‹€.
02:31
And in this space, we could have more in-depth conversations.
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이 ν”„λ‘œκ·Έλž¨μ—μ„œ, 학생듀과 더 깊이 μžˆλŠ” λŒ€ν™”λ₯Ό λ‚˜λˆŒ 수 μžˆμ—ˆμ£ .
02:36
Inspired by the 2016 presidential debates,
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2016λ…„ λŒ€μ„  토둠을 λ”°μ™€μ„œ
02:39
I asked this group of boys an age-old question:
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μ—¬κΈ° λͺ¨μΈ μ†Œλ…„λ“€μ—κ²Œ μ•„μ£Ό 였래된 μ§ˆλ¬Έμ„ λ˜μ‘ŒμŠ΅λ‹ˆλ‹€.
02:42
β€œDoes absolute power corrupt absolutely?”
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β€œμ ˆλŒ€ ꢌλ ₯은 μ ˆλŒ€μ μœΌλ‘œ λΆ€νŒ¨ν• κΉŒμš”?”
02:46
Students began to discuss amongst themselves.
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학생듀은 μ„œλ‘œ ν† λ‘ ν•˜κΈ° μ‹œμž‘ν–ˆμŠ΅λ‹ˆλ‹€.
02:49
And then I asked, "Now what would you do if you had this kind of power?
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μ €λŠ” λ‹€μ‹œ μ΄λ ‡κ²Œ λ¬Όμ—ˆμ£ .
β€œλ§Œμ•½ 이런 ꢌλ ₯이 생기면 λ„ˆν¬λŠ” μ–΄λ–»κ²Œ ν•  κ±°λ‹ˆ?
02:53
And what if it was unchecked?"
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κ·Έ ꢌλ ₯이 κ²¬μ œλ°›μ§€ μ•ŠλŠ”λ‹€λ©΄ μ–΄λ–¨κΉŒ?”
02:55
Students continued talking and then they shared out.
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학생듀은 토둠을 κ³„μ†ν–ˆκ³  μ„œλ‘œ μ˜κ²¬μ„ λ‚˜λˆ΄μŠ΅λ‹ˆλ‹€.
02:58
Many of them said that they would use their power for good or even share it.
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λ§Žμ€ 학생이 ꢌλ ₯을 쒋은 일에 μ“°κ±°λ‚˜ λ‹€λ₯Έ μ‚¬λžŒκ³Ό λ‚˜λˆŒ 거라고도 ν–ˆμŠ΅λ‹ˆλ‹€.
μ €λŠ” κ·Έ 말을 λ“€μœΌλ©΄μ„œ 희망을 λŠκΌˆμŠ΅λ‹ˆλ‹€.
03:03
And as I listened, I felt hopeful.
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03:06
Realizing that young men could take a different path.
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μ Šμ€ 청년듀이 λ‹€λ₯Έ 길을 갈 μˆ˜λ„ μžˆλ‹€λŠ” κ±Έ κΉ¨λ‹¬μ•˜μŠ΅λ‹ˆλ‹€.
03:09
And then I brought the group together and I just said,
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μ €λŠ” 아이듀을 λͺ¨μœΌκ³  λ§ν–ˆμŠ΅λ‹ˆλ‹€.
03:12
"Does it have to be this way?"
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β€œμ΄κ²Œ κΌ­ 이런 μ‹μœΌλ‘œ λ˜μ–΄μ•Ό ν• κΉŒ?”
03:14
Their collective light bulbs lit up,
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학생듀은 λͺ¨λ‘ ν•¨κ»˜ κΉ¨λ‹¬μ•˜μŠ΅λ‹ˆλ‹€.
03:17
realizing that they could reject this version of masculinity.
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그듀이 이런 ν˜•νƒœμ˜ 남성성을 거뢀해도 λœλ‹€λŠ” κ²ƒμ„μš”.
03:20
And at the same time, I too had an β€œaha!” moment.
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그리고 λ™μ‹œμ—, 저도 β€œμ•„ν•˜!β€œν•˜λŠ” μˆœκ°„μ΄ μžˆμ—ˆμŠ΅λ‹ˆλ‹€.
03:23
It became clear to me that middle school boys
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쀑학ꡐ μ†Œλ…„λ“€μ΄ κ°μˆ˜μ„±μ΄ μ˜ˆλ―Όν•˜κ³ 
03:27
are so impressionable and so full of potential.
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잠재λ ₯이 λ„˜μ³ λ‚œλ‹€λŠ” 것이 λͺ…ν™•ν•΄μ‘ŒμŠ΅λ‹ˆλ‹€.
03:31
But what if I told you those same middle school boys
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그런데 λ§Œμ•½ 남성성을 μž¬μ •μ˜ν•¨μœΌλ‘œμ¨
03:33
could lead us to a more just and equitable society
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쀑학ꡐ μ†Œλ…„λ“€μ΄ 저희λ₯Ό μ’€ 더 μ •μ˜λ‘­κ³  κ³΅μ •ν•œ μ‚¬νšŒλ‘œ
03:36
by redefining masculinity?
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이끌 수 μžˆλ‹€κ³  λ§ν•˜λ©΄ μ–΄λ–¨κΉŒμš”?
κ·Έ ν›„ λ©°μΉ , λͺ‡ μ£Ό λ™μ•ˆ
03:39
Now in the days and weeks that followed,
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03:41
I continued to reflect on this idea.
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μ €λŠ” 계속 이 아이디어에 λŒ€ν•΄μ„œ 생각해 λ΄€μŠ΅λ‹ˆλ‹€.
03:43
What actually is masculinity?
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λ‚¨μ„±μ„±μ΄λž€ 정말 λ¬΄μ—‡μΌκΉŒμš”?
03:46
If we reject the gender binary and affirm people of all genders,
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λ§Œμ•½ 이뢄법적 성별 ꡬ뢄을 κ±°λΆ€ν•˜κ³  λͺ¨λ“  성별을 κΈμ •μ μœΌλ‘œ 받아듀인닀면,
03:49
how does masculinity fit into that?
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남성성은 μ–΄λ–»κ²Œ μ •μ˜ν•  수 μžˆμ„κΉŒμš”?
03:52
What are the expectations of masculinity
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인쒅, 계급, λ‹€λ₯Έ μ‚¬νšŒμ  μš”μΈκΉŒμ§€ κ³ λ €ν•΄ λ³Έλ‹€λ©΄
03:54
when it comes to race, class and other social factors?
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λ‚¨μ„±μ„±μ˜ κΈ°λŒ€μΉ˜λŠ” λ¬΄μ—‡μΌκΉŒμš”?
03:58
I knew that middle school is fertile ground for this work.
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μ €λŠ” 쀑학ꡐ가 이 일을 ν•˜λŠ” 데 μ ν•©ν•œ κ³³μž„μ„ μ•Œμ•˜μŠ΅λ‹ˆλ‹€.
04:01
And my reflection led me to identify three critical skills
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그리고 μ΄λŸ¬ν•œ 성찰을 톡해 핡심 기술 μ„Έ 가지λ₯Ό μ•Œμ•„λƒˆλŠ”λ°
04:05
that middle schoolers can practice to redefine masculinity.
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쀑학생듀이 남성성을 μž¬μ •μ˜ν•˜κΈ° μœ„ν•΄ μ—°μŠ΅ν•  수 μžˆλŠ” κΈ°μˆ μž…λ‹ˆλ‹€.
μ €λŠ” 이것을 β€˜3C’라고 λΆ€λ¦…λ‹ˆλ‹€.
04:09
I call them the three C's.
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04:10
The first one is confidence,
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첫 λ²ˆμ§ΈλŠ” μžμ‹ κ°,
두 λ²ˆμ§ΈλŠ” μ˜μ‚¬μ†Œν†΅,
04:14
the second is communication,
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04:16
and the third is community.
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μ„Έ λ²ˆμ§ΈλŠ” κ³΅λ™μ²΄μž…λ‹ˆλ‹€.
04:18
Now these three C's stand as the pillars of my school
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이 3CλŠ” 제 ν•™κ΅μ—μ„œ κΈ°λ‘₯ 같은 역할을 ν•˜κ³  μžˆμŠ΅λ‹ˆλ‹€.
04:21
to show people that middle schoolers can redefine masculinity.
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μ‚¬λžŒλ“€μ—κ²Œ 쀑학생듀이 남성성을 μž¬μ •μ˜ν•  수 μžˆμŒμ„ λ³΄μ—¬μ€λ‹ˆλ‹€.
04:25
Now number one, confidence is essential to teach in middle school.
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첫 번째, μžμ‹ κ°μ€ μ€‘ν•™κ΅μ—μ„œ κ°€λ₯΄μ³μ•Ό ν•˜λŠ” ν•„μˆ˜μ μΈ κΈ°μˆ μž…λ‹ˆλ‹€.
04:29
Students are exploring their identities,
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학생듀은 μžμ‹ μ˜ 정체성을 νƒκ΅¬ν•˜κ³ 
04:31
and they're more open to abstract thinking.
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좔상적인 생각에 더 κ°œλ°©μ μž…λ‹ˆλ‹€.
04:34
I believe that having a healthy and balanced confidence
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κ±΄κ°•ν•˜κ³  κ· ν˜• 작힌 μžμ‹ κ°μ„ 가지고 있으면
04:37
allows boys to feel good about who they are
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μžˆλŠ” κ·ΈλŒ€λ‘œμ˜ 자기 μžμ‹ μ— λŒ€ν•΄ κΈμ •μ μœΌλ‘œ λŠλ‚„ 수 있게 되고
04:40
rather than feeling uncomfortable for trying to be someone they're not.
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μžμ‹ μ΄ μ•„λ‹Œ λ‹€λ₯Έ μ‚¬λžŒμ΄ 되렀고 λ…Έλ ₯ν•˜λŠ” 것이 λΆˆνŽΈν•˜κ²Œ 느껴질 κ²λ‹ˆλ‹€.
04:43
It’s different than simply being praised or rewarded for achievements
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λ‹¨μˆœνžˆ μž˜ν•œ 것에 λŒ€ν•΄ μΉ­μ°¬ λ°›κ±°λ‚˜ 보상 λ°›λŠ” κ²ƒκ³ΌλŠ” λ‹€λ¦…λ‹ˆλ‹€.
04:47
but rather rooted in a deep sense of self.
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λŒ€μ‹ , 그것은 μžμ•„κ°μ— 깊게 뿌리λ₯Ό λ‘” κ²ƒμž…λ‹ˆλ‹€.
04:50
And so what my school does is move away from either-or thinking.
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κ·Έλž˜μ„œ 제 ν•™κ΅μ—μ„œλŠ” 학생듀이 이뢄법적인 μƒκ°μ—μ„œ λ²—μ–΄λ‚˜λ„λ‘ ν•©λ‹ˆλ‹€.
04:54
Instead of boys believing that they have to choose
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λ‘˜ 쀑에 ν•˜λ‚˜λ₯Ό 선택해야 ν•œλ‹€λŠ” 생각,
04:57
between being smart or athletic,
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예λ₯Ό λ“€λ©΄ λ˜‘λ˜‘ν•˜κ±°λ‚˜ μš΄λ™μ„ μž˜ν•˜κ±°λ‚˜
04:59
poetic or pragmatic,
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μ‹œμ μ΄κ±°λ‚˜ μ‹€μš©μ μ΄μ–΄μ•Ό ν•œλ‹€λŠ” 생각듀 λŒ€μ‹ μ—
05:01
we guide our boys to a more holistic version of masculinity
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학생듀을 두 κ°œκ°€ μ—°κ²°λœ 총체적인 λ‚¨μ„±μ„±μœΌλ‘œ μ΄λ•λ‹ˆλ‹€.
05:04
that includes both-and.
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05:06
And as bell hooks and Olga Silverstein said,
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벨 ν›…κ³Ό μ˜¬κ°€ μ‹€λ²„μŠ€νƒ€μΈμ΄ λ§ν–ˆλ“―μ΄,
05:09
we need men who are empathetic and strong;
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μš°λ¦¬κ°€ ν•„μš”ν•œ 남성은 곡감λ ₯이 있고 κ°•ν•˜κ³ 
05:12
autonomous and connected;
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자율적이고 μœ λŒ€κ°μ΄ 있고
05:14
responsible to self, friends, family,
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μžμ‹ , 친ꡬ, κ°€μ‘±, κ³΅λ™μ²΄ν•œν…Œ μ±…μž„κ°μ΄ 있고
05:18
to community;
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05:19
and capable of understanding
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그런 μ±…μž„κ°λ“€μ΄ 뢄리될 수 μ—†λ‹€λŠ” κ±Έ 이해할 수 μžˆλŠ” λ‚¨μ„±μž…λ‹ˆλ‹€.
05:20
how those responsibilities are ultimately inseparable.
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05:24
And from a purely academic standpoint,
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μˆœμˆ˜ν•˜κ²Œ ν•™μ—… κ΄€μ μ—μ„œ λ³Έλ‹€λ©΄,
05:27
we provide opportunities to teach confidence
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우리 ν•™κ΅μ—μ„œλŠ” λ‹€μ–‘ν•œ μˆ˜μ—…κ³Ό 과제둜 μžμ‹ κ°μ„ κ°€λ₯΄μΉ˜κ³  μžˆμŠ΅λ‹ˆλ‹€.
05:29
through cross-curricular work and projects
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05:31
that include math, science, the humanities, art, home ec, sports
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μˆ˜ν•™, κ³Όν•™, 인문학, 예술, κ°€μ •, μš΄λ™ λͺ¨λ‘ λ‹€μš”.
ν•™μƒλ“€μ—κ²Œ 깊게 배우고 λΉ„νŒμ  사고λ₯Ό κΈ°λ₯΄λ €λ©΄
05:38
to show them that deep learning and critical thinking
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05:41
often require an integration of all of these subjects.
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λ‹€μ–‘ν•œ ꡐ과λͺ©λ“€μ˜ 톡합적인 ν•™μŠ΅μ΄ ν•„μš”ν•˜λ‹€λŠ” κ±Έ 보여주기 μœ„ν•΄μ„œμ£ .
05:44
Teaching confidence allows boys to understand
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μžμ‹ κ°μ„ κ°€λ₯΄μΉ¨μœΌλ‘œμ¨ 학생듀은
슀슀둜λ₯Ό μ–΄λ–»κ²Œ ν‘œν˜„ν•  수 μžˆλŠ”μ§€ μ „μ²΄μ μœΌλ‘œ 이해할 수 있게 되고
05:47
that there’s an entire spectrum of how they can express themselves,
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05:50
and they can feel good and value the complexity of their identity
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학생듀은 μžμ‹ μ˜ λ³΅μž‘ν•œ 정체성을 κ°€μΉ˜ μžˆλŠ” κ²ƒμœΌλ‘œ μ—¬κΈ°κ³ 
05:54
and stand firm in it with confidence.
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λ‹¨λ‹¨ν•˜κ³  μžμ‹ κ° 있게 μ‚΄μ•„κ°ˆ 수 μžˆμŠ΅λ‹ˆλ‹€.
두 번째 CλŠ” μ˜μ‚¬μ†Œν†΅ κΈ°μˆ μž…λ‹ˆλ‹€.
05:57
The second C represents communication.
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06:00
Now communication is key.
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μ˜μ‚¬μ†Œν†΅ κΈ°μˆ μ€ μ—΄μ‡ μž…λ‹ˆλ‹€.
06:02
To counter the messages that society tells boys to constrict their emotions,
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μ‚¬νšŒκ°€ μ†Œλ…„λ“€μ—κ²Œ κ°€ν•˜λŠ”, 감정을 μ–΅μ œν•˜λΌλŠ” 압박에 λŒ€μ‘ν•˜κΈ° μœ„ν•΄
06:06
my school practices a variety of communication methods,
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제 ν•™κ΅μ—μ„œλŠ” ν•™μƒλ“€μ—κ²Œ λ‹€μ–‘ν•œ μ˜μ‚¬μ†Œν†΅ 방법듀을 κ°€λ₯΄μ³€μŠ΅λ‹ˆλ‹€.
06:09
both intrapersonally and interpersonally.
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μžμ‹ κ³Όμ˜ μ˜μ‚¬μ†Œν†΅ 방법, 타인과 μ˜μ‚¬μ†Œν†΅ 방법 λ‘˜ λ‹€ 말이죠.
06:11
Now intrapersonally is how you communicate with yourself,
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첫 λ²ˆμ§ΈλŠ” μžμ‹ κ³Ό μ–΄λ–»κ²Œ μ˜μ‚¬μ†Œν†΅ν•˜λŠ”μ§€μ— κ΄€ν•œ 것이고
06:14
and interpersonally is how you communicate with others.
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두 λ²ˆμ§ΈλŠ” 타인과 μ–΄λ–»κ²Œ μ˜μ‚¬μ†Œν†΅ν•˜λŠ”μ§€μ— κ΄€ν•œ κ²ƒμž…λ‹ˆλ‹€.
06:17
One example of our intrapersonal communication methods
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μžμ‹ κ³Ό μ˜μ‚¬μ†Œν†΅ν•˜λŠ” λ°©λ²•μ˜ 예λ₯Ό ν•˜λ‚˜ λ“€μ–΄ λ³Όκ²Œμš”.
06:20
is we'll have students arrive at their desks
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μš°λ¦¬λŠ” 학생듀이 λ„μ°©ν•˜λ©΄ λ¨Όμ € 책상에 μ•‰κ²Œ ν•©λ‹ˆλ‹€.
06:22
at the beginning of the day.
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06:23
They'll close their eyes, breathe evenly for about a minute
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학생듀은 λˆˆμ„ 감고, 1λΆ„ 정도 μˆ¨μ„ κ³ λ₯΄κ²Œ μ‰¬λ©΄μ„œ
06:27
so they can just check in with themselves, see how they're doing,
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슀슀둜λ₯Ό λŒμ•„λ΄…λ‹ˆλ‹€.
무엇을 ν•˜κ³ , μ–΄λ–€ 생각을 ν•˜λŠ”μ§€, μ§€κΈˆ μ–΄λ–€ 감정인지λ₯Ό λ΄…λ‹ˆλ‹€.
06:30
what they're thinking, how they're feeling.
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06:32
It allows them to put a frame around their thoughts and emotions
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이λ₯Ό 톡해 학생듀은 생각과 감정에 λŒ€ν•΄ ꡬ체적인 틀을 μ„ΈμšΈ 수 μžˆμ–΄μ„œ
06:35
so they can focus on it a little more deeply throughout the day.
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ν•˜λ£¨ 쒅일 μžμ‹ μ˜ 생각과 감정에 μ’€ 더 집쀑할 수 있죠.
06:38
Students also keep gratitude journals.
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학생듀은 감사 일기도 μ”λ‹ˆλ‹€.
06:41
Research shows that when students express gratitude on a regular basis,
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연ꡬ에 λ”°λ₯΄λ©΄ 학생듀이 κ°μ‚¬ν•˜λŠ” λ§ˆμŒμ„ κ·œμΉ™μ μœΌλ‘œ ν‘œν˜„ν•œλ‹€λ©΄,
06:45
it increases positive emotions toward themselves and toward others.
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μžμ‹ κ³Ό 타인에 λŒ€ν•œ 긍정적인 감정듀이 μ¦κ°€ν•œλ‹€κ³  ν•©λ‹ˆλ‹€.
06:49
An interpersonal practice that we like to do
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저희가 μ’‹μ•„ν•˜λŠ” λŒ€μΈ 관계 μ—°μŠ΅μ€
06:52
is at the end of the day, we'll have students gather in a circle
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학ꡐ μˆ˜μ—…μ΄ 끝날 무렡, 학생듀이 λ‘₯κΈ€κ²Œ λͺ¨μ—¬μ„œ
06:55
to offer an appreciation for someone or something.
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λ‹€λ₯Έ μ‚¬λžŒμ—κ²Œ ν˜Ήμ€ μ–΄λ–€ 것에 λŒ€ν•΄ κ°μ‚¬μ˜ λœ»μ„ ν‘œν˜„ν•˜λŠ” μ—°μŠ΅μž…λ‹ˆλ‹€.
06:58
Open it up to an apology
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μ‚¬κ³Όλ‘œ μ‹œμž‘ν•˜κ±°λ‚˜
07:00
or talk about a social issue that might be on their hearts.
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ν˜Ήμ€ λ§ˆμŒμ— 두고 μžˆλŠ” μ‚¬νšŒμ  λ¬Έμ œλ“€μ„ κΊΌλƒ…λ‹ˆλ‹€.
07:03
And we normalize these forms of communication
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μš°λ¦¬λŠ” 이런 μ˜μ‚¬μ†Œν†΅ 방식을 μΌμƒν™”ν•΄μ„œ
07:06
to show boys that it is perfectly human
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ν•™μƒλ“€ν•œν…Œ μžμ‹ μ˜ 생각과 λ§ˆμŒμ„ λ‹€λ₯Έ μ‚¬λžŒλ“€μ—κ²Œ ν„Έμ–΄ λ†“λŠ” 것은
07:08
to open your minds and your hearts to your community.
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μ™„μ „νžˆ μΈκ°„λ‹€μš΄ ν–‰μœ„λΌλŠ” 것을 λ³΄μ—¬μ€λ‹ˆλ‹€.
07:11
Now the third C represents community,
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μ„Έ 번째 CλŠ” κ³΅λ™μ²΄μž…λ‹ˆλ‹€.
07:15
to counter this false sense of individualism
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κ°œμΈμ£Όμ˜μ— λŒ€ν•œ 잘λͺ»λœ 인식에 λŒ€μ‘ν•˜κ³ 
07:18
and having to pull yourself up by your bootstraps.
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λ‚¨μ˜ 도움 없이 슀슀둜 ν•΄μ•Ό ν•©λ‹ˆλ‹€.
07:20
While we also know that there is great value in teaching our boys
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μš°λ¦¬λŠ” ν•™μƒλ“€ν•œν…Œ λ…λ¦½μ˜ μ€‘μš”μ„±μ„ κ°€λ₯΄μΉ˜λŠ” 것이
07:23
the importance of independence,
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λŒ€λ‹¨νžˆ μ€‘μš”ν•˜λ‹€λŠ” κ±Έ μ•Œκ³  μžˆμ§€λ§Œ
07:25
it can be stymied when taken to an extreme.
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κ·Έ μ€‘μš”μ„±μ΄ λ„ˆλ¬΄ κ°•μ‘°λ˜λ©΄ 잘λͺ»λ  μˆ˜λ„ μžˆμŠ΅λ‹ˆλ‹€.
07:29
And so what we do is we engage in an inquiry process
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κ·Έλž˜μ„œ 저희가 ν•˜λŠ” 일은 νƒκ΅¬ν•˜λŠ” 과정에 κ΄€μ—¬ν•˜λŠ” κ²ƒμž…λ‹ˆλ‹€.
07:33
where we observe what's going on in our communities,
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우리 κ³΅λ™μ²΄μ—μ„œ μ–΄λ–€ 일이 μΌμ–΄λ‚˜λŠ”μ§€ κ΄€μ°°ν•©λ‹ˆλ‹€.
07:36
either locally, nationally or globally,
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κ³΅λ™μ²΄λŠ” 지역, κ΅­κ°€, μ „ μ„Έκ³„κΉŒμ§€ ν™•μž₯될 수 μžˆμŠ΅λ‹ˆλ‹€.
07:38
and then pose an essential question.
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그리고 본질적인 μ§ˆλ¬Έμ„ λ˜μ§‘λ‹ˆλ‹€.
07:40
One year we posed an essential question to our students that asked,
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ν•œ ν•΄λŠ” ν•™μƒλ“€ν•œν…Œ 본질적인 μ§ˆλ¬Έμ„ ν•΄ λ΄€μŠ΅λ‹ˆλ‹€.
07:44
"How can we create a community where everyone feels a sense of belonging?"
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β€œλͺ¨λ‘κ°€ μ†Œμ†κ°μ„ λŠλΌλŠ” 곡동체λ₯Ό μ–΄λ–»κ²Œ λ§Œλ“€ 수 μžˆμ„κΉŒ?”
학생듀은 이 μ§ˆλ¬Έμ„ λ“£κ³  λ¨Όμ € 슀슀둜 μƒκ°ν–ˆμŠ΅λ‹ˆλ‹€.
07:49
Students took this question. They generated initial thoughts.
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07:52
They sought multiple perspectives from their peers, their teachers,
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또래 μΉœκ΅¬λ“€, 곡동체 μ–΄λ₯Έλ“€, μ„ μƒλ‹˜λ“€μ˜ λ‹€μ–‘ν•œ 관점을 λ“€μ—ˆμŠ΅λ‹ˆλ‹€.
07:56
community leaders.
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07:57
And then they came back to us and said,
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그러고 λ‚˜μ„œ μ €ν¬ν•œν…Œ λŒμ•„μ™€μ„œ μ΄λ ‡κ²Œ λ§ν–ˆμ£ .
07:59
"We'd like to address homelessness in Seattle."
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β€œμ €ν¬λŠ” μ‹œμ—ν‹€μ— μžˆλŠ” λ…Έμˆ™μž 문제λ₯Ό 닀루고 μ‹Άμ–΄μš”.”
08:03
We loved this idea.
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μ €ν¬λŠ” 이 아이디어가 무척 μ’‹μ•˜μŠ΅λ‹ˆλ‹€.
08:04
And so we partnered with a local construction company
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κ·Έλž˜μ„œ 지역 건섀 νšŒμ‚¬μ™€ ν•¨κ»˜
08:07
to design, build and donate a tiny house.
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μž‘μ€ 집을 λ””μžμΈν•˜κ³ , κ±΄μΆ•ν•˜κ³  κΈ°λΆ€ν–ˆμŠ΅λ‹ˆλ‹€.
08:11
Now what we realized is through this community learning process,
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저희가 깨달은 것은
학생듀이 곡동체 μ†μ—μ„œ 배울 λ•Œ 더 큰 λ§Œμ‘±κ°μ„ λŠλ‚„ 수 μžˆμ—ˆμœΌλ©°
08:16
students felt a greater sense of satisfaction with studying,
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08:19
taking academic risks and just valuing the overall learning process.
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학업에 더 λ„μ „ν•˜κ³ , 전체 ν•™μŠ΅ 과정을 κ°€μΉ˜ 있게 μ—¬κΈ΄λ‹€λŠ” κ²ƒμ΄μ—ˆμŠ΅λ‹ˆλ‹€.
08:24
In addition, students felt more comfortable
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λ˜ν•œ, 학생듀은 ꡐ싀 μ•ˆνŒŽμ—μ„œ 지도λ ₯이 ν•„μš”ν•œ 역할을 λ§‘μ•˜μ„ λ•Œ
08:27
taking on leadership roles inside and outside of the classroom.
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더 νŽΈν•˜κ²Œ λŒ€μ²˜ν–ˆμŠ΅λ‹ˆλ‹€.
08:30
One thing to note that in each of these three C's
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ν•œ 가지 μ£Όλͺ©ν•  점은 β€˜3C’ 각각에 κ΄€λ ¨λœ 성인듀이
08:34
the adults involved modeled this new version of masculinity
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ν•™μƒλ“€μ—κ²Œ μƒˆλ‘œμš΄ 남성성 본보기λ₯Ό μ œμ‹œν–ˆλ‹€λŠ” κ²ƒμž…λ‹ˆλ‹€.
κ³ μ • 관념에 맞좰 μ‚΄ ν•„μš”κ°€ μ—†λ‹€λŠ” 것을 증λͺ…ν•œ 것이죠.
08:38
to prove to students that they don't have to fit into a stereotype.
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08:42
And while I'm often impressed
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μ €λŠ” 학생듀이 μƒμ²˜λ₯Ό λ“œλŸ¬λ‚΄κ±°λ‚˜
08:43
by the vulnerability and kindness of each of my students,
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λ‹€μ •ν•˜κ²Œ κ΅΄ λ•Œ 자주 감동을 λ°›μ§€λ§Œ
08:46
it's still a middle school.
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아직 μ€‘ν•™μƒλ“€μž…λ‹ˆλ‹€.
08:48
It's this liminal space between childhood and adulthood.
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이듀은 μœ λ…„κΈ°μ™€ μ„±λ…„κΈ° μ‚¬μ΄μ˜ 경계 지점에 μžˆμŠ΅λ‹ˆλ‹€.
08:53
And amongst our sophisticated conversations,
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학생듀과 λ‚˜λˆ΄λ˜ κ΅μ–‘μžˆλŠ” λŒ€ν™” μ€‘μ—λŠ”
ν„°λ¬΄λ‹ˆμ—†λŠ” μœ λ¨Έλ“€λ„ λ§Žμ•˜μŠ΅λ‹ˆλ‹€.
08:56
there's a lot of nonsensical humor.
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08:58
And very few of them have taken up regular usage of deodorant.
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그리고 κ·Ήμ†Œμˆ˜ ν•™μƒλ“€λ§Œμ΄ νƒˆμ·¨μ œλ₯Ό μ •κΈ°μ μœΌλ‘œ μ‚¬μš©ν•˜κ³  μžˆμ—ˆμŠ΅λ‹ˆλ‹€.
09:02
(Laughter)
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(μ›ƒμŒ)
09:03
And I know that this is lifelong work and there's no quick fix,
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이것은 평생에 걸친 일이고 λΉ λ₯΄κ²Œ κ³ μΉ˜λŠ” 방법은 μ—†μ§€λ§Œ,
학생듀은 더 λ‚˜μ€ λ―Έλž˜κ°€ κ°€λŠ₯ν•  수 μžˆλ‹€λŠ” 것을 λ³΄μ—¬μ€¬μŠ΅λ‹ˆλ‹€.
09:07
but they show me that a better future is possible.
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09:09
What if masculinity meant having a healthy and balanced confidence,
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λ§Œμ•½ λ‚¨μ„±μ„±μ˜ μ˜λ―Έκ°€ β€™κ±΄κ°•ν•˜κ³  κ· ν˜• 작힌 μžμ‹ κ°,
09:14
communicating clearly, being connected to your community?
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λͺ…ν™•ν•œ μ˜μ‚¬μ†Œν†΅ λŠ₯λ ₯, κ³΅λ™μ²΄μ™€μ˜ μœ λŒ€κ°β€™μ΄λΌλ©΄ μ–΄λ–¨κΉŒμš”?
09:18
Just imagine how different our world would be.
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우리 세상이 μ–΄λ–»κ²Œ λ‹¬λΌμ§ˆμ§€ μƒμƒν•΄λ³΄μ„Έμš”.
09:20
My students don't even show me that this future is possible,
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제 학생듀이 보여쀀 것은 그런 λ―Έλž˜κ°€ κ°€λŠ₯ν•˜λ‹€λŠ” 것이 μ•„λ‹ˆλΌ
09:23
but this future is here, with middle school boys leading the way.
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κ·Έ λ―Έλž˜κ°€ μ§€κΈˆ 여기에 있고 그듀이 μ•žμž₯μ„œκ³  μžˆλ‹€λŠ” κ²ƒμž…λ‹ˆλ‹€.
09:27
Thank you.
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κ°μ‚¬ν•©λ‹ˆλ‹€.
09:28
(Applause)
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(λ°•μˆ˜)(ν™˜ν˜Έ)
이 μ›Ήμ‚¬μ΄νŠΈ 정보

이 μ‚¬μ΄νŠΈλŠ” μ˜μ–΄ ν•™μŠ΅μ— μœ μš©ν•œ YouTube λ™μ˜μƒμ„ μ†Œκ°œν•©λ‹ˆλ‹€. μ „ 세계 졜고의 μ„ μƒλ‹˜λ“€μ΄ κ°€λ₯΄μΉ˜λŠ” μ˜μ–΄ μˆ˜μ—…μ„ 보게 될 κ²ƒμž…λ‹ˆλ‹€. 각 λ™μ˜μƒ νŽ˜μ΄μ§€μ— ν‘œμ‹œλ˜λŠ” μ˜μ–΄ μžλ§‰μ„ 더블 ν΄λ¦­ν•˜λ©΄ κ·Έκ³³μ—μ„œ λ™μ˜μƒμ΄ μž¬μƒλ©λ‹ˆλ‹€. λΉ„λ””μ˜€ μž¬μƒμ— 맞좰 μžλ§‰μ΄ μŠ€ν¬λ‘€λ©λ‹ˆλ‹€. μ˜κ²¬μ΄λ‚˜ μš”μ²­μ΄ μžˆλŠ” 경우 이 문의 양식을 μ‚¬μš©ν•˜μ—¬ λ¬Έμ˜ν•˜μ‹­μ‹œμ˜€.

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