How to Set Boundaries in English Communication | English Lesson

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μ•„λž˜ μ˜λ¬Έμžλ§‰μ„ λ”λΈ”ν΄λ¦­ν•˜μ‹œλ©΄ μ˜μƒμ΄ μž¬μƒλ©λ‹ˆλ‹€. λ²ˆμ—­λœ μžλ§‰μ€ 기계 λ²ˆμ—­λ©λ‹ˆλ‹€.

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Imagine this scenario. You're at work and it's already been a busy week.
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이 μ‹œλ‚˜λ¦¬μ˜€λ₯Ό μƒμƒν•΄λ³΄μ‹­μ‹œμ˜€. 당신은 μΌν•˜κ³  있고 이미 λ°”μœ ν•œ μ£Όμ˜€μŠ΅λ‹ˆλ‹€.
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In fact,
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you're up to your eyeballs or up to your limit with tasks that are
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사싀,
당신은 내일 κΈ°ν•œμ΄ μžˆλŠ” μž‘μ—…μœΌλ‘œ λˆˆμ•Œμ΄λ‚˜ ν•œκ³„μ— 달렸고
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due tomorrow, and then at the end of the day,
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, ν•˜λ£¨κ°€ λλ‚˜λ©΄
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you get an email from your boss asking you to take on one more major
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μƒμ‚¬λ‘œλΆ€ν„° ν•œ 가지 더 μ€‘μš”ν•œ
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responsibility.
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μ±…μž„μ„ λ§‘μœΌλΌλŠ” 이메일을 λ°›μŠ΅λ‹ˆλ‹€.
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How would you describe the way you might feel in that particular situation?
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κ·Έ νŠΉμ •ν•œ μƒν™©μ—μ„œ 당신이 λŠλ‚„ 수 μžˆλŠ” 감정을 μ–΄λ–»κ²Œ μ„€λͺ…ν•˜κ² μŠ΅λ‹ˆκΉŒ?
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Or what about this?
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μ•„λ‹ˆλ©΄ 이건 μ–΄λ•Œ?
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You're at a family event enjoying lively conversation with everyone else,
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당신은 κ°€μ‘± ν–‰μ‚¬μ—μ„œ λ‹€λ₯Έ μ‚¬λžŒλ“€κ³Ό ν™œκΈ°μ°¬ λŒ€ν™”λ₯Ό 즐기고 μžˆλŠ”λ°
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and then someone begins to gossip or speak negatively about a fellow
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λˆ„κ΅°κ°€κ°€ λ™λ£Œ κ°€μ‘± ꡬ성원에 λŒ€ν•΄ ν—˜λ‹΄ν•˜κ±°λ‚˜ 뢀정적인 말을 ν•˜κΈ° μ‹œμž‘ν•©λ‹ˆλ‹€
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family member.
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.
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You no longer feel comfortable engaging in the conversation.
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더 이상 λŒ€ν™”μ— μ°Έμ—¬ν•˜λŠ” 것이 νŽΈν•˜μ§€ μ•ŠμŠ΅λ‹ˆλ‹€.
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Both of these situations require the ability to set boundaries and
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이 두 상황 λͺ¨λ‘
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relationships to maintain emotional and mental health.
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μ •μ„œμ  및 정신적 건강을 μœ μ§€ν•˜κΈ° μœ„ν•΄ 경계와 관계λ₯Ό μ„€μ •ν•˜λŠ” λŠ₯λ ₯이 ν•„μš”ν•©λ‹ˆλ‹€.
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The challenge is how do you communicate those boundaries in English?
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λ¬Έμ œλŠ” μ΄λŸ¬ν•œ 경계λ₯Ό μ˜μ–΄λ‘œ μ–΄λ–»κ²Œ μ „λ‹¬ν•©λ‹ˆκΉŒ?
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When you don't know the precise language to set boundaries,
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경계λ₯Ό μ„€μ •ν•˜λŠ” μ •ν™•ν•œ μ–Έμ–΄λ₯Ό λͺ¨λ₯΄λ©΄
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you might feel powerless.
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무λ ₯감을 λŠλ‚„ 수 μžˆμŠ΅λ‹ˆλ‹€.
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I can tell you boundary setting has been a hot topic of conversation inside my
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Confident Women Community and here's why.
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Confident Women Community λ‚΄μ—μ„œ 경계 섀정이 ν™”μ œκ°€ λ˜μ—ˆκ³  κ·Έ μ΄μœ λŠ” λ‹€μŒκ³Ό κ°™μŠ΅λ‹ˆλ‹€.
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The ability to set boundaries allows us to have healthier relationships
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경계λ₯Ό μ„€μ •ν•˜λŠ” λŠ₯λ ₯은 μš°λ¦¬κ°€ 더 κ±΄κ°•ν•œ 관계λ₯Ό μœ μ§€
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and have more effective communication.
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ν•˜κ³  더 효과적인 μ˜μ‚¬μ†Œν†΅μ„ ν•  수 있게 ν•΄μ€λ‹ˆλ‹€.
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That means setting boundaries is an essential skill both professionally
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즉, 경계λ₯Ό μ„€μ •ν•˜λŠ” 것은 μ§μ—…μ μœΌλ‘œλ‚˜
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and personally.
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κ°œμΈμ μœΌλ‘œλ‚˜ ν•„μˆ˜μ μΈ κΈ°μˆ μž…λ‹ˆλ‹€.
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In this Confident English lesson today we're going to explore what boundaries
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였늘 이 μžμ‹ κ° μžˆλŠ” μ˜μ–΄ μˆ˜μ—…μ—μ„œ μš°λ¦¬λŠ” 경계가 무엇
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are and why they're important.
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이며 μ™œ μ€‘μš”ν•œμ§€ 탐ꡬ할 κ²ƒμž…λ‹ˆλ‹€.
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This includes a variety of boundary types, including physical boundaries,
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μ—¬κΈ°μ—λŠ” 물리적 경계,
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verbal boundaries, emotional boundaries, and more. More importantly,
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언어적 경계, 감정적 경계 λ“± λ‹€μ–‘ν•œ 경계 μœ ν˜•μ΄ ν¬ν•¨λ©λ‹ˆλ‹€. 더 μ€‘μš”ν•œ 것은
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you'll have practical tips you can use to set boundaries and get
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경계λ₯Ό μ„€μ •ν•˜κ³  이λ₯Ό μœ„ν•΄ μ˜μ–΄
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specific words and phrases we use in English to do this so that you're able to
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둜 μ‚¬μš©ν•˜λŠ” νŠΉμ • 단어와 문ꡬλ₯Ό μ–»λŠ” 데 μ‚¬μš©ν•  수 μžˆλŠ” μ‹€μš©μ μΈ νŒμ„ κ°–κ²Œ λ˜μ–΄ μžμ‹ μ˜
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communicate how you feel and what you consider to be acceptable.
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감정과 받아듀일 수 μžˆλ‹€κ³  μƒκ°ν•˜λŠ” 것을 전달할 수 μžˆλ‹€λŠ” κ²ƒμž…λ‹ˆλ‹€ .
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By the end of this lesson,
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이 μˆ˜μ—…μ΄ λλ‚˜λ©΄ 더 κ±΄κ°•ν•˜κ³  효과적인 관계λ₯Ό μœ„ν•΄
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you'll be able to communicate your boundaries in English personally and
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κ°œμΈμ μœΌλ‘œλ‚˜ μ§μ—…μ μœΌλ‘œ μžμ‹ μ˜ 경계λ₯Ό μ˜μ–΄λ‘œ μ†Œν†΅ν•  수 있게 될 κ²ƒμž…λ‹ˆλ‹€
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professionally for healthier, more effective relationships.
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.
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But first, if you don't already know,
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ν•˜μ§€λ§Œ λ¨Όμ € 아직 λͺ¨λ₯΄μ‹ λ‹€λ©΄
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I'm Annemarie with Speak Confident English.
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μ €λŠ” Speak Confident English의 Annemarieμž…λ‹ˆλ‹€.
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Everything I do here is designed to help you get the confidence you want for
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μ œκ°€ μ—¬κΈ°μ„œ ν•˜λŠ” λͺ¨λ“  일은 μ—¬λŸ¬λΆ„μ΄
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your life and work in English.
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μ˜μ–΄λ‘œ μƒν™œν•˜κ³  μΌν•˜λŠ” 데 μ›ν•˜λŠ” μžμ‹ κ°μ„ 얻을 수 μžˆλ„λ‘ 돕기 μœ„ν•΄ κ³ μ•ˆλ˜μ—ˆμŠ΅λ‹ˆλ‹€.
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One way I do that is with my weekly Confident English lessons where I share my
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κ·Έλ ‡κ²Œ ν•˜λŠ” ν•œ 가지 방법은 였늘 μˆ˜μ—…μ—μ„œμ™€ 같이
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top fluency and confidence-building strategies,
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졜고의 μœ μ°½ν•¨κ³Ό μžμ‹ κ° ꡬ좕 μ „λž΅,
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advanced-level vocabulary lessons,
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κ³ κΈ‰ μ–΄νœ˜ μˆ˜μ—…, μ˜μ‚¬
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and training on communication skills just like in this lesson today.
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μ†Œν†΅ 기술 ν›ˆλ ¨μ„ κ³΅μœ ν•˜λŠ” μ£Όκ°„ μžμ‹ κ° μ˜μ–΄ μˆ˜μ—…μž…λ‹ˆλ‹€ .
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So while you're here,
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λ”°λΌμ„œ μ—¬κΈ° μžˆλŠ” λ™μ•ˆ
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make sure you subscribe to my Speak Confident English YouTube channel so you
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제 Speak Confident English YouTube 채널을 κ΅¬λ…ν•˜μ—¬
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never miss one of these Confident English lessons. To get started,
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μ΄λŸ¬ν•œ μžμ‹ κ° μžˆλŠ” μ˜μ–΄ μˆ˜μ—… 쀑 ν•˜λ‚˜λ₯Ό λ†“μΉ˜μ§€ μ•Šλ„λ‘ ν•˜μ„Έμš” . μ‹œμž‘ν•˜λ €λ©΄
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let's briefly review what it means to set a boundary and why this is so
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경계λ₯Ό μ„€μ •ν•œλ‹€λŠ” 것이 무엇을 μ˜λ―Έν•˜κ³  이것이 μ™œ κ·Έλ ‡κ²Œ
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important.
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μ€‘μš”ν•œμ§€ κ°„λž΅ν•˜κ²Œ μ‚΄νŽ΄λ³΄κ² μŠ΅λ‹ˆλ‹€.
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To set a boundary means to dictate the amount of time, money,
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경계λ₯Ό μ„€μ •ν•œλ‹€λŠ” 것은 λ‹€λ₯Έ μ‚¬λžŒμ—κ²Œ 쀄 수 μžˆκ±°λ‚˜ 쀄 의ν–₯이 μžˆλŠ” μ‹œκ°„, 돈,
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emotional resources,
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μ •μ„œμ  μžμ›
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and energy you can or are willing to give to others.
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및 μ—λ„ˆμ§€μ˜ 양을 μ§€μ‹œν•˜λŠ” 것을 μ˜λ―Έν•©λ‹ˆλ‹€ . κ·Έ 경계가
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When we communicate what those boundaries are,
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무엇인지 μ†Œν†΅ν•  λ•Œ
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we set clear expectations for others and that leads to
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μš°λ¦¬λŠ” λ‹€λ₯Έ μ‚¬λžŒλ“€μ— λŒ€ν•œ λͺ…ν™•ν•œ κΈ°λŒ€μΉ˜λ₯Ό μ„€μ •ν•˜κ³ 
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healthier relationships at home, in the workplace and in the community.
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κ°€μ •, 직μž₯ 및 지역 μ‚¬νšŒμ—μ„œ 더 κ±΄κ°•ν•œ κ΄€κ³„λ‘œ μ΄μ–΄μ§‘λ‹ˆλ‹€.
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Those boundaries also protect us from harm and stress.
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μ΄λŸ¬ν•œ κ²½κ³„λŠ” λ˜ν•œ 우리λ₯Ό ν•΄λ‘œμ›€κ³Ό μŠ€νŠΈλ ˆμŠ€λ‘œλΆ€ν„° λ³΄ν˜Έν•©λ‹ˆλ‹€.
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They promote wellbeing and also help us maintain better work life balance.
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그듀은 웰빙을 μ΄‰μ§„ν•˜κ³  더 λ‚˜μ€ 일과 μ‚Άμ˜ κ· ν˜•μ„ μœ μ§€ν•˜λ„λ‘ λ•μŠ΅λ‹ˆλ‹€.
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When we first begin the process of establishing what
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our boundaries are, we need to take into account our personal values,
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우리의 경계가 무엇인지 μ„€μ •ν•˜λŠ” 과정을 처음 μ‹œμž‘ν•  λ•Œ μš°λ¦¬λŠ” 개인적인 κ°€μΉ˜,
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wants and needs.
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μš•κ΅¬ 및 ν•„μš”λ₯Ό κ³ λ €ν•΄μ•Ό ν•©λ‹ˆλ‹€.
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It's also important to remember there are multiple types of boundaries,
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including physical, emotional, time, and mental,
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신체적, μ •μ„œμ , μ‹œκ°„μ , 정신적,
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sexual,
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성적, 영적,
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spiritual and religious and financial or material boundaries.
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쒅ꡐ적, μž¬μ •μ  λ˜λŠ” 물질적 경계λ₯Ό ν¬ν•¨ν•˜μ—¬ λ‹€μ–‘ν•œ μœ ν˜•μ˜ 경계가 μžˆμŒμ„ κΈ°μ–΅ν•˜λŠ” 것도 μ€‘μš”ν•©λ‹ˆλ‹€.
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Now,
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one thing I want to be careful of is confusing a boundary with this
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이제
μ œκ°€ μ£Όμ˜ν•˜κ³  싢은 ν•œ κ°€μ§€λŠ”
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idea of being rigid or unwilling to budge,
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κ²½μ§λ˜κ±°λ‚˜ 움직이지 μ•ŠμœΌλ €λŠ” 생각,
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unwilling to compromise.
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νƒ€ν˜‘ν•˜μ§€ μ•ŠμœΌλ €λŠ” 생각과 경계λ₯Ό ν˜Όλ™ν•˜λŠ” κ²ƒμž…λ‹ˆλ‹€.
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A better way to think about boundaries is that they're dynamic and they
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경계에 λŒ€ν•΄ μƒκ°ν•˜λŠ” 더 쒋은 방법은 경계가 역동적이고
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reflect where you currently are in your personal growth, values,
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개인적 μ„±μž₯, κ°€μΉ˜,
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needs, and so on.
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μš”κ΅¬ λ“±μ—μ„œ ν˜„μž¬ μœ„μΉ˜λ₯Ό λ°˜μ˜ν•œλ‹€λŠ” κ²ƒμž…λ‹ˆλ‹€.
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All of that can change over the course of your life or even within a
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이 λͺ¨λ“  것은 μ‚Άμ˜ κ³Όμ •μ—μ„œ λ˜λŠ”
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short period of time. In fact,
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짧은 μ‹œκ°„ 내에 λ°”λ€” 수 μžˆμŠ΅λ‹ˆλ‹€. μ‹€μ œλ‘œ
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as your comfort zone expands or even shrinks,
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μ•ˆλ½ν•œ μ˜μ—­μ΄ ν™•μž₯λ˜κ±°λ‚˜ μΆ•μ†Œλ¨μ— 따라
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your boundaries will change as well. With that in mind,
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경계도 λ³€κ²½λ©λ‹ˆλ‹€ . 이λ₯Ό 염두에 두고
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I want to share with you four simple steps that you can use to help you set
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and maintain boundaries in English. First, analyze the problem.
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μ˜μ–΄λ‘œ 경계λ₯Ό μ„€μ •ν•˜κ³  μœ μ§€ν•˜λŠ” 데 μ‚¬μš©ν•  수 μžˆλŠ” λ„€ 가지 κ°„λ‹¨ν•œ 단계λ₯Ό κ³΅μœ ν•˜κ³  μ‹ΆμŠ΅λ‹ˆλ‹€. λ¨Όμ € 문제λ₯Ό λΆ„μ„ν•©λ‹ˆλ‹€.
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Second, define your boundary. Circle third,
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λ‘˜μ§Έ, 경계λ₯Ό μ •μ˜ν•˜μ‹­μ‹œμ˜€ . μ„Έ λ²ˆμ§Έμ— 동그라미λ₯Ό 치고
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communicate with clarity and finally reinforce your boundaries.
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λͺ…ν™•ν•˜κ²Œ μ˜μ‚¬μ†Œν†΅ν•˜κ³  λ§ˆμ§€λ§‰μœΌλ‘œ 경계λ₯Ό κ°•ν™”ν•˜μ„Έμš”.
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I want to take time to explore each one in depth and look at specific language
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μ‹œκ°„μ„ λ‚΄μ–΄ 각각을 깊이 νƒκ΅¬ν•˜κ³  λ‹€λ₯Έ μ‚¬λžŒκ³Όμ˜ 경계λ₯Ό
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we use in English to set boundaries with others.
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μ„€μ •ν•˜κΈ° μœ„ν•΄ μ˜μ–΄λ‘œ μ‚¬μš©ν•˜λŠ” νŠΉμ • μ–Έμ–΄λ₯Ό μ‚΄νŽ΄λ³΄κ³  μ‹ΆμŠ΅λ‹ˆλ‹€ .
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So step number one, analyze the problem.
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λ”°λΌμ„œ 첫 번째 λ‹¨κ³„λŠ” 문제λ₯Ό λΆ„μ„ν•˜λŠ” κ²ƒμž…λ‹ˆλ‹€. μ‹€μ œ λ¬Έμ œκ°€ 무엇인지 μ•ŒκΈ° μ „κΉŒμ§€λŠ” 경계λ₯Ό
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We cannot effectively communicate boundaries until we know what the
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효과적으둜 전달할 수 μ—†μŠ΅λ‹ˆλ‹€
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real issue is.
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. μˆ˜μ—… μ‹œμž‘ λΆ€λΆ„μ—μ„œ μ„€λͺ…ν•œ
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Let me go back to that scenario I described at the beginning of the lesson.
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μ‹œλ‚˜λ¦¬μ˜€λ‘œ λŒμ•„κ°€ λ³΄κ² μŠ΅λ‹ˆλ‹€ .
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You're at work, you're already overwhelmed with tasks,
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당신은 μΌν•˜κ³  있고, 당신은 이미 일에 μ••λ„λ˜μ–΄ 있고,
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and then your boss asks you to take on one more. In the moment,
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λ‹Ήμ‹ μ˜ μƒμ‚¬λŠ” λ‹Ήμ‹ μ—κ²Œ 또 ν•˜λ‚˜μ˜ 일을 맑길 것을 μš”μ²­ν•©λ‹ˆλ‹€. κ·Έ μˆœκ°„
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you might feel immediate exasperation, anger, frustration,
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즉각적인 λΆ„λ…Έ, λΆ„λ…Έ, 쒌절
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or overwhelm. In fact,
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λ˜λŠ” 압도λ₯Ό λŠλ‚„ 수 μžˆμŠ΅λ‹ˆλ‹€. 사싀
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the emotion might be so strong that you can't even communicate it.
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감정이 λ„ˆλ¬΄ κ°•ν•΄μ„œ μ˜μ‚¬ μ†Œν†΅μ‘°μ°¨ ν•  수 없을 μˆ˜λ„ μžˆμŠ΅λ‹ˆλ‹€.
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You feel paralyzed or powerless in communicating what is
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당신은 잘λͺ»λœ 것을 μ „λ‹¬ν•˜λŠ” 데 λ§ˆλΉ„λ˜κ±°λ‚˜ 무λ ₯감을 λŠλ‚λ‹ˆλ‹€
05:51
wrong. To help you gain control and clarity,
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. ν†΅μ œλ ₯κ³Ό λͺ…λ£Œμ„±μ„ ν™•λ³΄ν•˜λŠ” 데 도움이 λ˜λ„λ‘
05:55
there are a few questions you can ask and in asking these questions,
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λͺ‡ 가지 μ§ˆλ¬Έμ„ ν•  수 있으며 , μ΄λŸ¬ν•œ μ§ˆλ¬Έμ„ λ˜μ§€λ©΄μ„œ
06:00
in taking time to reflect on them,
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μ‹œκ°„μ„ λ“€μ—¬ 이에 λŒ€ν•΄ μˆ™κ³ ν•˜λ©΄
06:03
you can identify what the real problem is and begin to determine
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μ‹€μ œ λ¬Έμ œκ°€ 무엇인지 νŒŒμ•…ν•˜κ³  λŒ€μ•ˆ
06:07
alternatives as well as what is the boundary that you need to communicate to
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κ³Ό 경계λ₯Ό κ²°μ •ν•  수 μžˆμŠ΅λ‹ˆλ‹€. λ‹€λ₯Έ μ‚¬λžŒκ³Ό μ†Œν†΅ν•΄μ•Ό ν•œλ‹€λŠ” 것
06:12
others.
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.
06:14
The questions you can analyze include what is the problem?
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뢄석할 수 μžˆλŠ” μ§ˆλ¬Έμ—λŠ” λ¬Έμ œκ°€ λ¬΄μ—‡μž…λ‹ˆκΉŒ?κ°€ ν¬ν•¨λ©λ‹ˆλ‹€.
06:19
What just happened in that situation that led to the feeling that
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something was wrong or done inappropriately? The second question,
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μ–΄λ–€ 일이 잘λͺ»λ˜μ—ˆκ±°λ‚˜ λΆ€μ μ ˆν•˜κ²Œ ν–‰ν•΄μ‘Œλ‹€λŠ” λŠλ‚Œμ„ κ°–κ²Œ ν•˜λŠ” κ·Έ μƒν™©μ—μ„œ 무슨 일이 μΌμ–΄λ‚¬μŠ΅λ‹ˆκΉŒ? 두 번째 질문,
06:29
why is this a problem? Why is it unacceptable to you?
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이것이 μ™œ λ¬Έμ œμž…λ‹ˆκΉŒ? μ™œ λ°›μ•„ 듀일 수 μ—†μŠ΅λ‹ˆκΉŒ?
06:34
What value, belief, want or need does it overstep?
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μ–΄λ–€ κ°€μΉ˜, 신념, 원함 λ˜λŠ” ν•„μš”κ°€ λ„˜μ–΄μ„°μŠ΅λ‹ˆκΉŒ?
06:40
Question number three,
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μ„Έ 번째 질문,
06:41
what is preventing you from accepting this individual's
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이 μ‚¬λžŒμ˜
06:46
comment or request? And question four,
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μ˜κ²¬μ΄λ‚˜ μš”μ²­μ„ 받아듀이지 λͺ»ν•˜λŠ” μ΄μœ λŠ” λ¬΄μ—‡μž…λ‹ˆκΉŒ? λ„€ 번째 μ§ˆλ¬Έμ€
06:49
what do you need or what do you want to solve this problem?
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무엇이 ν•„μš”ν•˜κ±°λ‚˜ 이 문제λ₯Ό ν•΄κ²°ν•˜κΈ° μœ„ν•΄ 무엇을 μ›ν•˜λŠ”κ°€? 직μž₯μ—μ„œ 방금 μΆ”κ°€ μž‘μ—…μ„ 받은 상황에 μ²˜ν•œ μ‚¬λžŒμ΄
06:54
Let me share with you what some possible answers to those questions might be for
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μ΄λŸ¬ν•œ μ§ˆλ¬Έμ— λŒ€ν•΄ μ–΄λ–€ λŒ€λ‹΅μ„ ν•  수 μžˆλŠ”μ§€ λ§μ”€λ“œλ¦¬κ² μŠ΅λ‹ˆλ‹€
06:59
someone in that situation who just got an extra task at work.
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.
07:04
An answer to question number one, what is the problem might be,
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질문 1λ²ˆμ— λŒ€ν•œ 닡은 λ¬Έμ œκ°€ 무엇인지,
07:09
I already have several tasks to complete and I can't take on one more.
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이미 μ™„λ£Œν•΄μ•Ό ν•  μž‘μ—…μ΄ μ—¬λŸ¬ 개 있고 ν•˜λ‚˜λ₯Ό 더 μˆ˜ν–‰ν•  수 μ—†λ‹€λŠ” κ²ƒμž…λ‹ˆλ‹€.
07:14
Why is this a problem?
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이것이 μ™œ λ¬Έμ œμž…λ‹ˆκΉŒ?
07:16
Because I've already taken on a lot of extra tasks and taking on
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λ‚˜λŠ” 이미 λ§Žμ€ μΆ”κ°€ μž‘μ—…μ„ μˆ˜ν–‰ν–ˆκ³ 
07:21
one more might mean that these other priorities will get put on the back
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ν•˜λ‚˜λ₯Ό 더 μˆ˜ν–‰ν•˜λ©΄ μ΄λŸ¬ν•œ λ‹€λ₯Έ μš°μ„  μˆœμœ„κ°€ λ’€λ‘œ λ¬ΌλŸ¬λ‚  수 μžˆμŒμ„ μ˜λ―Έν•  수 μžˆμŠ΅λ‹ˆλ‹€
07:26
burner. The third question was,
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. μ„Έ 번째 μ§ˆλ¬Έμ€
07:28
what might prevent you from accepting someone else's comment or request?
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λ‹€λ₯Έ μ‚¬λžŒμ˜ μ˜κ²¬μ΄λ‚˜ μš”μ²­μ„ 받아듀이지 λͺ»ν•˜κ²Œ ν•˜λŠ” 것은 λ¬΄μ—‡μž…λ‹ˆκΉŒ?
07:33
And an answer in this particular scenario might be limited time
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그리고 이 νŠΉμ • μ‹œλ‚˜λ¦¬μ˜€μ˜ 닡은 μ œν•œλœ μ‹œκ°„
07:39
and capacity.
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κ³Ό μš©λŸ‰μΌ 수 μžˆμŠ΅λ‹ˆλ‹€.
07:40
You might feel that there isn't enough time or mental resources available
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07:45
to complete this additional task. And finally, the last question,
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이 μΆ”κ°€ μž‘μ—…μ„ μ™„λ£Œν•˜λŠ” 데 μ‚¬μš©ν•  수 μžˆλŠ” μ‹œκ°„μ΄λ‚˜ 정신적 μžμ›μ΄ μΆ©λΆ„ν•˜μ§€ μ•Šλ‹€κ³  λŠλ‚„ 수 μžˆμŠ΅λ‹ˆλ‹€. 그리고 λ§ˆμ§€λ§‰μœΌλ‘œ λ§ˆμ§€λ§‰ 질문,
07:50
what do you want or need to solve this problem? An answer to that might be,
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이 문제λ₯Ό ν•΄κ²°ν•˜κΈ° μœ„ν•΄ 무엇을 μ›ν•˜κ±°λ‚˜ ν•„μš”λ‘œ ν•©λ‹ˆκΉŒ ? 이에 λŒ€ν•œ λŒ€λ‹΅μ€ λ‹€μŒκ³Ό κ°™μŠ΅λ‹ˆλ‹€.
07:55
I need this task to be delegated to someone else,
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이 μž‘μ—…μ„ λ‹€λ₯Έ μ‚¬λžŒμ—κ²Œ μœ„μž„ν•΄μ•Ό ν•˜λ©°
07:59
and perhaps you need your manager to understand that you're already at capacity.
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μ•„λ§ˆλ„ κ·€ν•˜μ˜ κ΄€λ¦¬μžκ°€ κ·€ν•˜κ°€ 이미 λŠ₯λ ₯이 μžˆλ‹€λŠ” 것을 이해해야 ν•  μˆ˜λ„ μžˆμŠ΅λ‹ˆλ‹€.
08:05
Now, your answers to those questions are just for you.
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이제 μ΄λŸ¬ν•œ μ§ˆλ¬Έμ— λŒ€ν•œ κ·€ν•˜μ˜ 닡변은 κ·€ν•˜λ₯Ό μœ„ν•œ κ²ƒμž…λ‹ˆλ‹€.
08:08
They're helping you gain clarity on what the problem is so that you can
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λ¬Έμ œκ°€ 무엇인지 λͺ…ν™•ν•˜κ²Œ νŒŒμ•…ν•˜μ—¬
08:13
communicate your boundaries with clarity. But before we do that,
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경계λ₯Ό λͺ…ν™•ν•˜κ²Œ 전달할 수 μžˆλ„λ‘ λ„μ™€μ€λ‹ˆλ‹€. ν•˜μ§€λ§Œ κ·Έ 전에
08:17
we need to go on to step two, define your boundary circle.
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두 번째 단계인 경계선을 μ •μ˜ν•΄μ•Ό ν•©λ‹ˆλ‹€.
08:22
Creating or defining your boundary circle is a journaling exercise that can
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경계 원을 λ§Œλ“€κ±°λ‚˜ μ •μ˜ν•˜λŠ” 것은
08:27
help you visualize what is acceptable and unacceptable to you.
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ν—ˆμš©λ˜λŠ” 것과 ν—ˆμš©λ˜μ§€ μ•ŠλŠ” 것을 μ‹œκ°ν™”ν•˜λŠ” 데 도움이 λ˜λŠ” 저널링 μ—°μŠ΅μž…λ‹ˆλ‹€.
08:32
And if this is something you're interested in,
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그리고 이것이 μ—¬λŸ¬λΆ„μ΄ 관심을 κ°–κ³  μžˆλŠ” 것이라면, μ—¬λŸ¬λΆ„
08:35
I want to walk through step by step how you can define your boundary circle.
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의 경계선을 μ •μ˜ν•  수 μžˆλŠ” 방법을 λ‹¨κ³„λ³„λ‘œ μ•ˆλ‚΄ν•˜κ³  μ‹ΆμŠ΅λ‹ˆλ‹€.
08:40
To do this, you'll need a piece of paper and a pen or a pencil,
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μ΄λ ‡κ²Œ ν•˜λ €λ©΄ 쒅이 ν•œ μž₯κ³Ό 펜 λ˜λŠ” 연필이 ν•„μš”ν•˜λ©°
08:44
and first you'll start by drawing a circle on your piece of paper.
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λ¨Όμ € 쒅이에 원을 κ·Έλ¦¬λŠ” κ²ƒμœΌλ‘œ μ‹œμž‘ν•©λ‹ˆλ‹€. λ‹€λ₯Έ μ‚¬λžŒμ—κ²Œ
08:49
Inside the circle you'll write down anything you might need to feel
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08:54
safe, supported, seen, and heard by others.
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μ•ˆμ „ν•˜κ³ , 지지받고, 보고, λ“£λŠ” 데 ν•„μš”ν•œ λͺ¨λ“  것을 원 μ•ˆμ— μ μŠ΅λ‹ˆλ‹€.
08:59
These can be others in your personal life or in your professional life.
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이듀은 개인 μƒν™œμ΄λ‚˜ 직업 μƒν™œμ—μ„œ λ‹€λ₯Έ μ‚¬λžŒλ“€μ΄ 될 수 μžˆμŠ΅λ‹ˆλ‹€ .
09:04
Outside the circle,
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μ„œν΄ λ°–μ—μ„œλŠ”
09:05
you'll write down anything you find intolerable,
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κ²¬λ”œ 수 μ—†κ±°λ‚˜
09:09
uncomfortable or likely to drain your resources.
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λΆˆνŽΈν•˜κ±°λ‚˜ λ¦¬μ†ŒμŠ€λ₯Ό κ³ κ°ˆμ‹œν‚¬ κ°€λŠ₯성이 μžˆλŠ” λͺ¨λ“  ν•­λͺ©μ„ κΈ°λ‘ν•©λ‹ˆλ‹€.
09:15
Let me give you an example using a real life scenario.
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μ‹€μƒν™œ μ‹œλ‚˜λ¦¬μ˜€λ₯Ό μ‚¬μš©ν•˜μ—¬ 예λ₯Ό λ“€μ–΄ λ³΄κ² μŠ΅λ‹ˆλ‹€. κ·€ν•˜μ˜
09:19
Let's say you have a close family member who consistently
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09:24
disregards your dietary needs or preferences. In fact,
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식단 μš”κ΅¬ 사항 μ΄λ‚˜ μ„ ν˜Έ 사항을 μ§€μ†μ μœΌλ‘œ λ¬΄μ‹œν•˜λŠ” κ°€κΉŒμš΄ 가쑱이 μžˆλ‹€κ³  κ°€μ •ν•΄ λ³΄κ² μŠ΅λ‹ˆλ‹€. 사싀,
09:29
maybe at family gatherings,
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μ•„λ§ˆλ„ κ°€μ‘± λͺ¨μž„μ—μ„œ
09:30
they totally ignore your dietary needs and as a result,
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그듀은 λ‹Ήμ‹ μ˜ 식단 μš”κ΅¬λ₯Ό μ™„μ „νžˆ λ¬΄μ‹œν•˜κ³  결과적으둜
09:35
your options are extremely limited.
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λ‹Ήμ‹ μ˜ 선택은 κ·Ήλ„λ‘œ μ œν•œλ©λ‹ˆλ‹€.
09:37
There may be times you can't even enjoy eating with others.
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λ‹€λ₯Έ μ‚¬λžŒλ“€κ³Ό ν•¨κ»˜ λ¨ΉλŠ” 것쑰차 즐기지 λͺ»ν•  λ•Œκ°€ μžˆμ„ 수 μžˆμŠ΅λ‹ˆλ‹€.
09:42
As you aim to define your boundary,
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μžμ‹ μ˜ 경계λ₯Ό μ •μ˜ν•˜λŠ” 것을 λͺ©ν‘œλ‘œ ν•  λ•Œ, 원 μ•ˆμ— 포함할
09:44
circle some of the things you might include inside the circle include
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수 μžˆλŠ” λͺ‡ 가지 μ‚¬ν•­μ—λŠ”
09:50
no judgment,
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νŒλ‹¨ν•˜μ§€ μ•Šκ³ ,
09:52
a willingness to ask about your dietary needs and how they can meet them.
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식단 μš”κ΅¬ 사항과 이λ₯Ό μΆ©μ‘±ν•  수 μžˆλŠ” 방법에 λŒ€ν•΄ 기꺼이 λ¬»κ² λ‹€λŠ” μ˜μ§€κ°€ ν¬ν•¨λ©λ‹ˆλ‹€.
09:57
Clear communication and open dialogue and
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λͺ…ν™•ν•œ μ˜μ‚¬ μ†Œν†΅κ³Ό μ—΄λ¦° λŒ€ν™”μ™€
10:01
acceptance.
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수용.
10:03
Those are the things you might include inside the circle to help you feel safe,
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μ„œν΄ μ™ΈλΆ€μ˜ λ™λ£Œ κ°€μ‘± ꡬ성원이 μ•ˆμ „ν•˜κ³ , μ§€μ›ν•˜κ³ , 보고, λ“£λŠ” 데 도움이 λ˜λ„λ‘ μ„œν΄ 내뢀에 포함할 수 μžˆλŠ” ν•­λͺ©μž…λ‹ˆλ‹€
10:07
supported, seen,
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10:09
and heard by a fellow family member outside the circle.
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. μš©λ‚©
10:14
The unacceptable,
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ν•  수 μ—†κ³ 
10:15
the intolerable might be jokes about your dietary needs
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참을 수 μ—†λŠ” 것은 식단에 λŒ€ν•œ μš”κ΅¬
10:21
or pressure to eat other foods.
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λ‚˜ λ‹€λ₯Έ μŒμ‹μ„ 먹도둝 ν•˜λŠ” μ••λ ₯에 λŒ€ν•œ 농담일 수 μžˆμŠ΅λ‹ˆλ‹€. 원
10:24
Those words outside the circle might also include judgment,
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λ°–μ˜ λ‹¨μ–΄μ—λŠ” νŒλ‹¨λ ₯,
10:28
an unwillingness to understand and underhanded or
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μ΄ν•΄ν•˜μ§€ μ•ŠμœΌλ €λŠ” μ˜μ§€, λΆ€λ‹Ήν•˜κ±°λ‚˜
10:33
inappropriate comments. Once you've completed those first two steps,
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λΆ€μ μ ˆν•œ μ˜κ²¬λ„ 포함될 수 μžˆμŠ΅λ‹ˆλ‹€. 처음 두 단계λ₯Ό μ™„λ£Œν•˜κ³ 
10:39
gaining clarity on what the specific problem is and gaining clarity
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νŠΉμ • λ¬Έμ œκ°€ 무엇인지 λͺ…ν™•ν•˜κ²Œ νŒŒμ•… ν•˜κ³  μ§€λ‚˜μΉœ
10:44
on the values, beliefs, needs or wants that have been overstepped,
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κ°€μΉ˜, 신념, ν•„μš” λ˜λŠ” μš•κ΅¬λ₯Ό λͺ…ν™•ν•˜κ²Œ νŒŒμ•…ν•œ
10:49
then we can go on to step three, communicate with clarity.
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λ‹€μŒ μ„Έ 번째 λ‹¨κ³„λ‘œ λ„˜μ–΄κ°€ λͺ…ν™•ν•˜κ²Œ μ†Œν†΅ν•  수 μžˆμŠ΅λ‹ˆλ‹€.
10:53
What this means is it's time for you to communicate your boundary to others
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이것이 μ˜λ―Έν•˜λŠ” λ°”λŠ” λͺ…ν™•ν•œ κΈ°λŒ€μΉ˜λ₯Ό μ„€μ •ν•˜κΈ° μœ„ν•΄ μžμ‹ μ˜ 경계λ₯Ό λ‹€λ₯Έ μ‚¬λžŒκ³Ό μ†Œν†΅ν•  λ•ŒλΌλŠ” κ²ƒμž…λ‹ˆλ‹€
10:58
to set clear expectations,
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.
11:01
and here are four tips to help you do that. First,
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μ—¬κΈ° 이λ₯Ό μˆ˜ν–‰ν•˜λŠ” 데 도움이 λ˜λŠ” λ„€ 가지 팁이 μžˆμŠ΅λ‹ˆλ‹€. 첫째,
11:05
it's important to clearly state what the boundary is.
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경계가 무엇인지 λͺ…ν™•ν•˜κ²Œ λͺ…μ‹œν•˜λŠ” 것이 μ€‘μš”ν•©λ‹ˆλ‹€.
11:09
Second, you can provide a clear reason. Third,
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λ‘˜μ§Έ, λͺ…ν™•ν•œ 이유λ₯Ό μ œμ‹œν•  수 μžˆμŠ΅λ‹ˆλ‹€ . μ…‹μ§Έ,
11:14
be sure to use eye centered language and finally,
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눈 μ€‘μ‹¬μ˜ μ–Έμ–΄λ₯Ό μ‚¬μš©ν•˜κ³  λ§ˆμ§€λ§‰μœΌλ‘œ
11:19
build comfort or cultivate the courage.
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μœ„λ‘œλ₯Ό λ°›κ±°λ‚˜ 용기λ₯Ό κΈ°λ₯΄μ‹­μ‹œμ˜€.
11:22
You need to say no when you need to say no.
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μ•„λ‹ˆμ˜€λΌκ³  말해야 ν•  λ•ŒλŠ” μ•„λ‹ˆμ˜€λΌκ³  말해야 ν•©λ‹ˆλ‹€ .
11:26
Before we take a look at a couple of example scenarios,
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λͺ‡ 가지 μ˜ˆμ‹œ μ‹œλ‚˜λ¦¬μ˜€λ₯Ό μ‚΄νŽ΄λ³΄κΈ° 전에 μ΄λŸ¬ν•œ 경계λ₯Ό
11:29
I want to share with you several phrases we can use in English to clearly
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λͺ…ν™•ν•˜κ²Œ μ „λ‹¬ν•˜κΈ° μœ„ν•΄ μ˜μ–΄λ‘œ μ‚¬μš©ν•  수 μžˆλŠ” λͺ‡ 가지 문ꡬλ₯Ό κ³΅μœ ν•˜κ³  μ‹ΆμŠ΅λ‹ˆλ‹€
11:34
communicate these boundaries. Here are some examples you can consider.
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. λ‹€μŒμ€ κ³ λ €ν•  수 μžˆλŠ” λͺ‡ 가지 μ˜ˆμž…λ‹ˆλ‹€. Xκ°€
11:40
I don't feel comfortable with X because for example,
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νŽΈν•˜μ§€ μ•Šμ€ μ΄μœ λŠ” 예λ₯Ό λ“€μ–΄
11:44
I don't feel comfortable with how you make jokes about my dietary needs because,
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당신이 제 식단 ν•„μš”μ— λŒ€ν•΄ 농담을 ν•˜λŠ” 방식이 νŽΈν•˜μ§€ μ•ŠκΈ° λ•Œλ¬Έμž…λ‹ˆλ‹€.
11:50
or I value your thoughts on this and I would feel more comfortable if
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11:56
a third structure might be I feel X when I feel
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12:01
hurt when you make jokes followed by because the reason,
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농담할 λ•Œ 기뢄이 상할 λ•Œ X, 이유 λ•Œλ¬Έμ—,
12:05
and then finally, please don't do Y.
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λ§ˆμ§€λ§‰μœΌλ‘œ Yλ₯Ό ν•˜μ§€ λ§ˆμ„Έμš”.
12:08
This is where we're communicating the boundary. Please don't make jokes about,
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μ—¬κΈ°μ—μ„œ 경계λ₯Ό μ†Œν†΅ν•˜κ³  μžˆμŠ΅λ‹ˆλ‹€. λ†λ‹΄ν•˜μ§€ λ§ˆμ„Έμš”.
12:14
and finally,
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λ§ˆμ§€λ§‰μœΌλ‘œ
12:15
I would appreciate it if you could do X because those four
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Xλ₯Ό ν•  수 μžˆλ‹€λ©΄ κ°μ‚¬ν•˜κ² μŠ΅λ‹ˆλ‹€. 이 λ„€ 가지
12:20
phrases are excellent ways to communicate your boundaries and they're using that
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λ¬Έκ΅¬λŠ” 경계λ₯Ό μ „λ‹¬ν•˜λŠ” ν›Œλ₯­ν•œ 방법 이고
12:25
I centered language.
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I Centered μ–Έμ–΄λ₯Ό μ‚¬μš©ν•˜κ³  있기 λ•Œλ¬Έμž…λ‹ˆλ‹€.
12:27
What that means is rather than me point the finger and blame someone else,
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그것이 μ˜λ―Έν•˜λŠ” λ°”λŠ” λ‚΄κ°€ λ‹€λ₯Έ μ‚¬λžŒμ„ μ†κ°€λ½μ§ˆν•˜κ³  λΉ„λ‚œν•˜κΈ°λ³΄λ‹€λŠ” λ‚΄κ°€
12:32
I'm keeping the focus on how I feel and what I expect or need out of
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λŠλΌλŠ” 방식 κ³Ό λ‹€μ–‘ν•œ μƒν™©μ—μ„œ λ‚΄κ°€ κΈ°λŒ€ν•˜κ±°λ‚˜ ν•„μš”λ‘œ ν•˜λŠ” 것에 μ΄ˆμ μ„ λ§žμΆ”κ³  μžˆλ‹€λŠ” κ²ƒμž…λ‹ˆλ‹€
12:37
different situations. Now, I mentioned that when setting clear boundaries,
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. 이제 λͺ…ν™•ν•œ 경계λ₯Ό μ„€μ •ν•  λ•Œ λ•Œλ•Œλ‘œ 거절
12:41
we may also need to say no from time to time,
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ν•΄μ•Ό ν•  μˆ˜λ„
12:45
and if you're unsure of how to say no politely in English,
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있으며 μ˜μ–΄λ‘œ μ •μ€‘ν•˜κ²Œ κ±°μ ˆν•˜λŠ” 방법이 ν™•μ‹€ν•˜μ§€ μ•Šμ€ 경우 μ‚¬μš©ν•  수 μžˆλŠ”
12:49
here are a few phrases you can use. Number one,
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λͺ‡ 가지 문ꡬ가 μžˆμŠ΅λ‹ˆλ‹€ . 첫째,
12:54
thank you for thinking of me. However,
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μ €λ₯Ό 생각해 μ£Όμ…”μ„œ κ°μ‚¬ν•©λ‹ˆλ‹€. κ·ΈλŸ¬λ‚˜
12:56
this is something I am unable to do at this time because,
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이것은 μ§€κΈˆ μ œκ°€ ν•  수 μ—†λŠ” μΌμž…λ‹ˆλ‹€. μ™œλƒν•˜λ©΄
13:00
and then provide a simple reason for why you're saying no.
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κ·€ν•˜κ°€ κ±°μ ˆν•˜λŠ” μ΄μœ μ— λŒ€ν•œ κ°„λ‹¨ν•œ 이유λ₯Ό μ œκ³΅ν•˜κΈ° λ•Œλ¬Έμž…λ‹ˆλ‹€.
13:04
It doesn't have to be too personal, nor does it need to be in depth,
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λ„ˆλ¬΄ κ°œμΈμ μ΄κ±°λ‚˜ 깊이 μžˆμ„ ν•„μš”λŠ” μ—†μ§€λ§Œ
13:08
but there does need to be some simple reason for saying no.
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κ±°μ ˆν•  κ°„λ‹¨ν•œ μ΄μœ κ°€ ν•„μš”ν•©λ‹ˆλ‹€.
13:13
A second way to say no is no,
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μ•„λ‹ˆμ˜€λΌκ³  λ§ν•˜λŠ” 두 번째 방법은 μ•„λ‹ˆμ˜€μž…λ‹ˆλ‹€.
13:16
I can't do X at this point in time. Right now I'm,
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μ§€κΈˆμ€ Xλ₯Ό ν•  수 μ—†μŠ΅λ‹ˆλ‹€ . μ§€κΈˆ μ €λŠ” κ·Έλ ‡μŠ΅λ‹ˆλ‹€.
13:20
and then you might include what you're currently focused on or doing,
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그리고 λ‹Ήμ‹  은 ν˜„μž¬ μ§‘μ€‘ν•˜κ³  μžˆκ±°λ‚˜ ν•˜κ³  μžˆλŠ” 일을 포함할 수 μžˆμŠ΅λ‹ˆλ‹€.
13:25
and a third option, I understand the urgency of your request.
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그리고 μ„Έ 번째 μ˜΅μ…˜μΈ μ €λŠ” λ‹Ήμ‹ μ˜ μš”μ²­μ΄ 긴급함을 μ΄ν•΄ν•©λ‹ˆλ‹€.
13:31
Unfortunately,
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λΆˆν–‰ν•˜κ²Œλ„,
13:32
I'm at full capacity and I can't take this on With those example phrases
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μ €λŠ” λŠ₯λ ₯이 λΆ€μ‘±ν•΄μ„œ 이 일을 ν•  수 μ—†μŠ΅λ‹ˆλ‹€. μ΄λŸ¬ν•œ 예제 문ꡬλ₯Ό
13:37
in mind, I want to demonstrate how we would use them in two real life scenarios.
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염두에 두고 두 가지 μ‹€μƒν™œ μ‹œλ‚˜λ¦¬μ˜€μ—μ„œ 이 문ꡬλ₯Ό μ–΄λ–»κ²Œ μ‚¬μš©ν•˜λŠ”μ§€ 보여주고 μ‹ΆμŠ΅λ‹ˆλ‹€.
13:43
For this first example scenario,
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이 첫 번째 μ‹œλ‚˜λ¦¬μ˜€μ˜ 경우 κ°€μž₯ λΆˆνŽΈν•œ μ‹œκ°„μ— μž”λ””λ₯Ό κΉŽκ±°λ‚˜ λ§ˆλ‹Ή 일을 ν•˜λŠ” 것을 μ’‹μ•„ν•˜λŠ”
13:45
I want you to imagine you have a neighbor who loves to mow their lawn or do yard
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이웃이 μžˆλ‹€κ³  상상해 λ³΄μ‹œκΈ° λ°”λžλ‹ˆλ‹€
13:50
work at the most inconvenient times. In fact,
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. μ‹€μ œλ‘œ
13:54
the loud noise regularly disrupts your meetings and your thinking time or
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μ‹œλ„λŸ¬μš΄ μ†ŒμŒμ€ μ •κΈ°μ μœΌλ‘œ λͺ¨μž„κ³Ό μƒκ°ν•˜λŠ” μ‹œκ°„ λ˜λŠ”
13:59
your work time to set a clear boundary and have a healthier
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μž‘μ—… μ‹œκ°„μ„ λ°©ν•΄ν•˜μ—¬ λͺ…ν™•ν•œ 경계λ₯Ό μ„€μ •ν•˜κ³  이웃과 더 κ±΄κ°•ν•œ 관계λ₯Ό μœ μ§€ν•©λ‹ˆλ‹€
14:04
relationship with your neighbor. You might say this,
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. 평일 μ˜€μ „
14:07
I would appreciate it if you didn't mow the lawn between 10:00 AM and
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10μ‹œμ—μ„œ 11μ‹œ 30λΆ„ 사이에 μž”λ””λ₯Ό κΉŽμ§€ μ•Šκ³ 
14:12
11:30 AM on weekdays,
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14:15
the noise of your lawnmower is quite loud and it regularly disrupts my meetings.
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μž”λ”” κΉŽλŠ” κΈ°κ³„μ˜ μ†ŒμŒμ΄ μƒλ‹Ήνžˆ μ»€μ„œ μ •κΈ°μ μœΌλ‘œ νšŒμ˜μ— λ°©ν•΄κ°€ λœλ‹€λ©΄ μ΄λ ‡κ²Œ 말할 수 μžˆμŠ΅λ‹ˆλ‹€.
14:20
Is there an alternative solution we can consider? In that example,
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μš°λ¦¬κ°€ κ³ λ €ν•  수 μžˆλŠ” λŒ€μ²΄ μ†”λ£¨μ…˜μ΄ μžˆμŠ΅λ‹ˆκΉŒ? κ·Έ μ˜ˆμ—μ„œ
14:24
do you notice that I'm stating the clear boundary right away?
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λ‚΄κ°€ λͺ…ν™•ν•œ 경계λ₯Ό λ°”λ‘œ μ–ΈκΈ‰ν•˜κ³  μžˆλ‹€λŠ” 것을 μ•Œμ•„μ±„μ…¨λ‚˜μš” ?
14:28
I'm providing a reason and I'm using IC centered language.
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λ‚˜λŠ” 이유λ₯Ό μ œκ³΅ν•˜κ³  있으며 IC 쀑심 μ–Έμ–΄λ₯Ό μ‚¬μš©ν•˜κ³  μžˆμŠ΅λ‹ˆλ‹€.
14:33
I also end with a polite request or a willingness to find some
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λ‚˜λŠ” λ˜ν•œ μ •μ€‘ν•œ μš”μ²­ μ΄λ‚˜
14:38
alternative or some solution that works for both individuals involved.
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κ΄€λ ¨λœ 두 개인 λͺ¨λ‘μ—κ²Œ νš¨κ³Όκ°€ μžˆλŠ” λŒ€μ•ˆμ΄λ‚˜ 해결책을 μ°ΎμœΌλ €λŠ” μ˜μ§€λ‘œ 끝을 λ§ΊμŠ΅λ‹ˆλ‹€. λͺ…ν™•ν•œ 경계λ₯Ό μ„€μ •ν•˜κΈ° μœ„ν•΄ 이 문ꡬλ₯Ό μ‚¬μš©ν•˜λŠ” 방법을
14:44
I want to share with you a second situation to highlight how we would use these
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κ°•μ‘°ν•˜κΈ° μœ„ν•΄ 두 번째 상황을 κ³΅μœ ν•˜κ³  μ‹ΆμŠ΅λ‹ˆλ‹€
14:48
phrases to set clear boundaries and for this situation,
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. 이 μƒν™©μ—μ„œ 더
14:52
I want you to imagine you have a coworker who has the tendency to push larger,
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크고
14:57
very time consuming tasks onto your plate at the very last minute
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μ‹œκ°„μ΄ 많이 κ±Έλ¦¬λŠ” μž‘μ—…μ„ μžμ‹ μ˜ μ ‘μ‹œμ— λ°€μ–΄ λ„£λŠ” κ²½ν–₯이 μžˆλŠ” λ™λ£Œκ°€ μžˆλ‹€κ³  상상해 λ³΄μ„Έμš”.
15:03
in order to put a stop to this ongoing problem.
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이 κ³„μ†λ˜λŠ” 문제λ₯Ό λ©ˆμΆ”κΈ° μœ„ν•΄ λ§ˆμ§€λ§‰ μˆœκ°„μ—.
15:06
It's important to communicate a boundary and here's how you could do that.
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경계λ₯Ό μ „λ‹¬ν•˜λŠ” 것이 μ€‘μš”ν•˜λ©° 이λ₯Ό μˆ˜ν–‰ν•  수 μžˆλŠ” 방법은 λ‹€μŒκ³Ό κ°™μŠ΅λ‹ˆλ‹€.
15:11
Thank you for thinking of me. However,
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λ‚˜λ₯Ό 생각해 μ£Όμ–΄μ„œ κ³ λ§ˆμ›Œ. κ·ΈλŸ¬λ‚˜
15:13
this is something I'm unable to take on right now due to my existing
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이것은 κΈ°μ‘΄ μ•½μ†μœΌλ‘œ 인해 μ§€κΈˆ λ‹Ήμž₯ μˆ˜ν–‰ν•  수 μ—†λŠ” κ²ƒμž…λ‹ˆλ‹€
15:17
commitments. If you need my help for any future projects,
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. ν–₯ν›„ ν”„λ‘œμ νŠΈλ₯Ό μœ„ν•΄ 제 도움이 ν•„μš”ν•˜μ‹œλ©΄
15:22
please be sure to give me a heads up far in advance so that I can help
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미리 μ•Œλ €μ£Όμ‹œλ©΄ 그에 따라 도움을 λ“œλ¦΄ 수 μžˆμŠ΅λ‹ˆλ‹€
15:27
you accordingly. Again, in that example,
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. λ‹€μ‹œ λ§ν•˜μ§€λ§Œ, κ·Έ μ˜ˆμ—μ„œ
15:31
I've clearly stated the boundary.
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경계λ₯Ό λͺ…ν™•ν•˜κ²Œ λͺ…μ‹œν–ˆμŠ΅λ‹ˆλ‹€.
15:33
I've provided a reason why and I've used I centered language.
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λ‚˜λŠ” 이유λ₯Ό μ œκ³΅ν–ˆκ³  λ‚΄κ°€ 쀑심 μ–Έμ–΄λ₯Ό μ‚¬μš©ν–ˆμŠ΅λ‹ˆλ‹€.
15:38
Once you've communicated your boundary with clarity,
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경계λ₯Ό λͺ…ν™•ν•˜κ²Œ μ „λ‹¬ν–ˆλ‹€λ©΄ 이제 4
15:42
it's time to go on to step number four, reinforce your boundary.
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λ‹¨κ³„λ‘œ λ„˜μ–΄κ°€ 경계λ₯Ό κ°•ν™”ν•  μ°¨λ‘€μž…λ‹ˆλ‹€.
15:47
What this means is to hold your ground after you've set a
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이것이 μ˜λ―Έν•˜λŠ” λ°”λŠ” 경계λ₯Ό μ„€μ •ν•œ ν›„ μž…μž₯을 μœ μ§€ν•˜λŠ” κ²ƒμž…λ‹ˆλ‹€
15:52
boundary. In other words,
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. λ‹€μ‹œ 말해, 변화에 λŒ€ν•œ
15:54
you don't give in to pressure to change or to be willing to
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μ••λ ₯에 κ΅΄λ³΅ν•˜μ§€ μ•Šκ±°λ‚˜ 기꺼이
15:59
break your boundary. Just one more time.
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경계λ₯Ό ν—ˆλ¬Όμ§€ μ•ŠλŠ” κ²ƒμž…λ‹ˆλ‹€. λ”± ν•œλ²ˆλ§Œ λ‹€μ‹œ. λˆ„κ΅°κ°€μ™€
16:02
This potential for allowing a boundary to be crossed again
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16:07
and again and again is potentially true after setting a new
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μƒˆλ‘œμš΄ 경계λ₯Ό μ„€μ •ν•œ 후에 κ³„μ†ν•΄μ„œ 경계λ₯Ό λ„˜μ„ 수 μžˆλŠ” μ΄λŸ¬ν•œ κ°€λŠ₯성은 잠재적으둜 μ‚¬μ‹€μž…λ‹ˆλ‹€
16:12
boundary with someone. As a result,
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. λ”°λΌμ„œ
16:14
it's important to be ready to reinforce your boundary right from the start,
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μ²˜μŒλΆ€ν„° λ°”λ‘œ 경계λ₯Ό κ°•ν™”ν•  μ€€λΉ„λ₯Ό ν•˜λŠ” 것이 μ€‘μš”ν•˜λ©°
16:20
and when it comes to reinforcing your boundaries,
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경계λ₯Ό κ°•ν™”ν•  λ•Œ 염두
16:22
there are five things to keep in mind. Number one, be consistent.
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에 두어야 ν•  5가지 사항이 μžˆμŠ΅λ‹ˆλ‹€ . 첫째, 일관성을 μœ μ§€ν•˜μ‹­μ‹œμ˜€.
16:28
Number two, share observations. Number three,
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두 번째, κ΄€μ°° λ‚΄μš©μ„ κ³΅μœ ν•©λ‹ˆλ‹€. μ„Έ 번째, ν•„μš”ν•œ 경우
16:32
provide further clarity if necessary. Number four,
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더 λͺ…ν™•ν•˜κ²Œ μ„€λͺ…ν•˜μ‹­μ‹œμ˜€ . λ„·μ§Έ,
16:36
it's also important to provide next steps, and number five,
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λ‹€μŒ 단계λ₯Ό μ œκ³΅ν•˜λŠ” 것도 μ€‘μš”ν•©λ‹ˆλ‹€. λ‹€μ„―μ§Έ,
16:40
use affirm but polite tone.
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κΈμ •μ μ΄μ§€λ§Œ μ •μ€‘ν•œ μ–΄μ‘°λ₯Ό μ‚¬μš©ν•˜μ„Έμš”.
16:43
If you find that you need to reinforce your boundary with someone because
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경계λ₯Ό λ„˜μœΌλ €λŠ” 지속적인 μ‹œλ„κ°€ 있기 λ•Œλ¬Έμ— λˆ„κ΅°κ°€μ™€μ˜ 경계λ₯Ό κ°•ν™”ν•΄μ•Ό ν•˜λŠ” 경우
16:47
there's the ongoing attempt to cross those boundaries,
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16:52
it's important to share your observations and some context.
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κ΄€μ°°ν•œ λ‚΄μš©κ³Ό 일뢀 λ§₯락을 κ³΅μœ ν•˜λŠ” 것이 μ€‘μš”ν•©λ‹ˆλ‹€.
16:57
Let me give you some example phrases we can use in English to do that
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이λ₯Ό 효과적으둜 μˆ˜ν–‰ν•˜κΈ° μœ„ν•΄ μ˜μ–΄λ‘œ μ‚¬μš©ν•  수 μžˆλŠ” λͺ‡ 가지 예λ₯Ό λ“€μ–΄ λ³΄κ² μŠ΅λ‹ˆλ‹€
17:01
effectively. The first one is I'm seeing X,
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. 첫 λ²ˆμ§ΈλŠ” μ œκ°€ Xλ₯Ό 보고 μžˆλ‹€λŠ” κ²ƒμž…λ‹ˆλ‹€.
17:05
and it's important to me that for example,
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예λ₯Ό λ“€μ–΄
17:09
I'm seeing that I'm continuing to get requests for last minute
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μ œκ°€ 사전 톡지λ₯Ό μš”μ²­ν–ˆμŒμ—λ„ λΆˆκ΅¬ν•˜κ³  막바지 μž‘μ—…μ— λŒ€ν•œ μš”μ²­μ„ 계속 λ°›κ³  μžˆλ‹€λŠ” 것이 μ €μ—κ²Œ μ€‘μš”ν•©λ‹ˆλ‹€
17:14
tasks even though I've requested advanced notice.
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. 사전에
17:18
It's important to me that I get those requests in advance so that I can help
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μ΄λŸ¬ν•œ μš”μ²­μ„ λ°›λŠ” 것이 μ €μ—κ²Œ μ€‘μš”ν•©λ‹ˆλ‹€. κ·Έλž˜μ•Ό
17:23
as needed and still get my existing priorities accomplished
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ν•„μš”μ— 따라 도움을 쀄 수 있고,
17:28
with that example statement,
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17:30
using the language I'm seeing X that indicates what I'm
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μ œκ°€
17:35
noticing or what my observations are,
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μ£Όλͺ©ν•˜κ³  μžˆλŠ” 것 λ˜λŠ” μ œκ°€ κ΄€μ°°ν•œ 것을 λ‚˜νƒ€λ‚΄λŠ” Xλ₯Ό 보고 μžˆλŠ” μ–Έμ–΄λ₯Ό μ‚¬μš©ν•˜μ—¬ ν•΄λ‹Ή 예제 λ¬Έμž₯으둜 κΈ°μ‘΄ μš°μ„ μˆœμœ„λ₯Ό 달성할 수 μžˆμŠ΅λ‹ˆλ‹€. ,
17:37
and then I further communicate my boundary and why it's important.
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그런 λ‹€μŒ λ‚΄ 경계와 그것이 μ€‘μš”ν•œ 이유λ₯Ό 더 μžμ„Ένžˆ μ „λ‹¬ν•©λ‹ˆλ‹€.
17:43
A second phrase you could use might be,
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μ‚¬μš©ν•  수 μžˆλŠ” 두 번째 λ¬Έκ΅¬λŠ”
17:45
I know we've talked about this in the past and I want to make it clear that,
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과거에 이것에 λŒ€ν•΄ μ΄μ•ΌκΈ°ν•œ 것을 μ•Œκ³  있으며 이λ₯Ό λΆ„λͺ…νžˆ ν•˜κ³  μ‹ΆμŠ΅λ‹ˆλ‹€.
17:50
and again, you would restate your boundary and why it's important.
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λ‹€μ‹œ ν•œ 번 κ·€ν•˜μ˜ 경계와 그것이 μ€‘μš”ν•œ 이유λ₯Ό λ‹€μ‹œ μ„€λͺ…ν•΄μ•Ό ν•©λ‹ˆλ‹€.
17:55
A third option, I'm noticing X,
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μ„Έ 번째 μ˜΅μ…˜μ€ X에 μ£Όλͺ©ν•˜κ³  μžˆμŠ΅λ‹ˆλ‹€.
17:58
and I just want to remind you that this is very similar to the first one,
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이것이 첫 번째 μ˜΅μ…˜κ³Ό 맀우 μœ μ‚¬ν•˜λ‹€λŠ” 점을 μƒκΈ°μ‹œμΌœ λ“œλ¦¬κ³  μ‹ΆμŠ΅λ‹ˆλ‹€.
18:03
and a fourth option might be, it makes me uncomfortable when X,
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λ„€ 번째 μ˜΅μ…˜μ€ X일 λ•Œ λΆˆνŽΈν•  수 μžˆμŠ΅λ‹ˆλ‹€.
18:09
please respect Y. Please respect this particular boundary.
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Yλ₯Ό 쑴쀑해 μ£Όμ„Έμš”. 이 νŠΉμ • 경계λ₯Ό 쑴쀑해 μ£Όμ„Έμš”. .
18:15
Should this continue, I will need to,
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이것이 κ³„μ†λœλ‹€λ©΄, μ œκ°€ ν•΄μ•Ό ν•  일이 μžˆμ„ κ²ƒμž…λ‹ˆλ‹€. 그런
18:18
and then you state what you might need to do, what action you may need to take.
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λ‹€μŒ κ·€ν•˜κ°€ ν•΄μ•Ό ν•  일과 μ·¨ν•΄μ•Ό ν•  쑰치λ₯Ό 말씀해 μ£Όμ‹­μ‹œμ˜€.
18:23
These particular phrases can feel uncomfortable to communicate,
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μ΄λŸ¬ν•œ νŠΉμ • λ¬Έκ΅¬λŠ” μ˜μ‚¬ μ†Œν†΅μ΄ λΆˆνŽΈν•˜κ²Œ 느껴질 수
18:27
however, maintaining a polite firm tone can be helpful.
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μžˆμ§€λ§Œ μ •μ€‘ν•˜κ³  λ‹¨ν˜Έν•œ μ–΄μ‘°λ₯Ό μœ μ§€ν•˜λŠ” 것이 도움이 될 수 μžˆμŠ΅λ‹ˆλ‹€.
18:32
What I mean by that is the words we choose are firm. They're assertive,
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λ‚΄κ°€ μ˜λ―Έν•˜λŠ” λ°”λŠ” μš°λ¦¬κ°€ μ„ νƒν•œ 단어가 ν™•κ³ ν•˜λ‹€λŠ” κ²ƒμž…λ‹ˆλ‹€. 그듀은 λ‹¨ν˜Έ
18:37
but we're keeping our voice very calm, very neutral.
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ν•˜μ§€λ§Œ μš°λ¦¬λŠ” 맀우 μ°¨λΆ„ν•˜κ³  맀우 쀑립적인 λͺ©μ†Œλ¦¬λ₯Ό μœ μ§€ν•˜κ³  μžˆμŠ΅λ‹ˆλ‹€.
18:41
There's no sound of anger or frustration in our tone of voice.
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우리의 λͺ©μ†Œλ¦¬ ν†€μ—λŠ” λΆ„λ…Έλ‚˜ 쒌절의 μ†Œλ¦¬κ°€ μ—†μŠ΅λ‹ˆλ‹€.
18:47
By maintaining that calm, neutral tone,
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μ°¨λΆ„ν•˜κ³  쀑립적인 μ–΄μ‘°λ₯Ό μœ μ§€ν•¨μœΌλ‘œμ¨
18:50
we reduce any potential extra tension or friction in the
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μš°λ¦¬λŠ” μƒν™©μ—μ„œ 잠재적인 μΆ”κ°€ κΈ΄μž₯μ΄λ‚˜ λ§ˆμ°°μ„ μ€„μž…λ‹ˆλ‹€
18:55
situation.
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.
18:56
I want to demonstrate this final step of reinforcing a boundary with
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경계λ₯Ό κ°•ν™”ν•˜λŠ” 이 λ§ˆμ§€λ§‰ 단계λ₯Ό
19:01
two final example situations. In the first situation,
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두 가지 λ§ˆμ§€λ§‰ μ˜ˆμ‹œ μƒν™©μœΌλ‘œ μ‹œμ—°ν•˜κ³  μ‹ΆμŠ΅λ‹ˆλ‹€. 첫 번째 μƒν™©μ—μ„œ
19:06
I want you to imagine a friend constantly making jokes about someone's
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μΉœκ΅¬κ°€ λˆ„κ΅°κ°€μ˜ 체쀑에 λŒ€ν•΄ λŠμž„μ—†μ΄ 농담을 ν•˜κ³ 
19:10
weight,
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19:12
and perhaps in the past that individual has made it clear that those jokes
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μ•„λ§ˆλ„ 과거에 κ·Έ 개인이 κ·ΈλŸ¬ν•œ 농담이 μžμ‹ μ˜ 감정을 μƒν•˜κ²Œ ν•œλ‹€κ³  λΆ„λͺ…νžˆ λ§ν–ˆμ§€λ§Œ
19:16
really hurt their feelings, and yet the jokes persist.
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농담이 μ§€μ†λ˜λŠ” 것을 상상해 λ³΄μ‹œκΈ° λ°”λžλ‹ˆλ‹€.
19:21
They continue to reinforce a boundary.
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그듀은 κ³„μ†ν•΄μ„œ 경계λ₯Ό κ°•ν™”ν•©λ‹ˆλ‹€.
19:26
Here's what you might say, Hey,
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이봐,
19:28
I know we've talked about this in the past and I'm noticing that comments about
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λ‚˜λŠ” μš°λ¦¬κ°€ 과거에 이것에 λŒ€ν•΄ μ΄μ•ΌκΈ°ν•œ 것을 μ•Œκ³  있으며
19:33
my weight haven't stopped. I want to make it clear that this isn't okay with me.
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λ‚΄ 체쀑에 λŒ€ν•œ λŒ“κΈ€μ΄ λ©ˆμΆ”μ§€ μ•Šμ•˜λ‹€λŠ” 것을 μ•Œκ³  μžˆμŠ΅λ‹ˆλ‹€. λ‚˜λŠ” 이것이 λ‚˜μ—κ²Œ 쒋지 μ•Šλ‹€λŠ” 것을 λΆ„λͺ…νžˆν•˜κ³  μ‹ΆμŠ΅λ‹ˆλ‹€.
19:38
I understand they're intended as jokes, but they really hurt my feelings,
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λ†λ‹΄μœΌλ‘œ ν•œ 말인 건 μ΄ν•΄ν•˜μ§€λ§Œ 정말 마음이 μ•„ν”„κ³ 
19:43
and if this continues, I will not continue our friendship. In that example,
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이런 일이 κ³„μ†λœλ‹€λ©΄ μš°μ •μ„ 이어가지 μ•Šκ² μŠ΅λ‹ˆλ‹€. 이 μ˜ˆμ—μ„œ
19:48
I'm maintaining consistency by reiterating or restating a boundary.
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λ‚˜λŠ” 경계λ₯Ό λ°˜λ³΅ν•˜κ±°λ‚˜ λ‹€μ‹œ λ§ν•¨μœΌλ‘œμ¨ 일관성을 μœ μ§€ν•˜κ³  μžˆμŠ΅λ‹ˆλ‹€ .
19:53
I've said in the past,
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과거에 λ‚˜λŠ”
19:55
I'm also indicating what observations I have and providing more clarity,
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λ˜ν•œ λ‚΄κ°€ κ΄€μ°°ν•œ λ°”λ₯Ό ν‘œμ‹œ ν•˜κ³  더 λͺ…ν™•ν•˜κ²Œ μ œκ³΅ν•˜κ³ 
20:00
and while the language is firm, I'm maintaining a polite, neutral tone,
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있으며 μ–Έμ–΄λŠ” ν™•κ³ ν•˜μ§€λ§Œ μ •μ€‘ν•˜κ³  쀑립적인 μ–΄μ‘°λ₯Ό μœ μ§€ν•˜κ³ 
20:05
trying to keep out any additional strong emotions so that I can
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좔가적인 κ°•ν•œ 감정을 ν”Όν•˜λ €κ³  λ…Έλ ₯ν•˜κ³  μžˆμŠ΅λ‹ˆλ‹€.
20:10
communicate in a polite, assertive way. And finally,
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μ •μ€‘ν•˜κ³  독단적인 λ°©μ‹μœΌλ‘œ μ˜μ‚¬μ†Œν†΅ν•  수 μžˆμŠ΅λ‹ˆλ‹€. λ§ˆμ§€λ§‰μœΌλ‘œ ν•„μš”ν•œ 경우
20:14
I include next steps in case they're necessary.
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λ‹€μŒ 단계λ₯Ό ν¬ν•¨ν•©λ‹ˆλ‹€ . 경계λ₯Ό κ°•ν™”ν•˜κΈ° μœ„ν•΄
20:18
Let's take a look at one more example of how we might use this language to
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이 μ–Έμ–΄λ₯Ό μ–΄λ–»κ²Œ μ‚¬μš©ν•  수 μžˆλŠ”μ§€μ— λŒ€ν•œ 예λ₯Ό ν•˜λ‚˜ 더 μ‚΄νŽ΄λ³΄κ² μŠ΅λ‹ˆλ‹€
20:23
reinforce boundaries, and this time we'll focus on a professional circumstance.
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. μ΄λ²ˆμ—λŠ” 전문적인 상황에 μ΄ˆμ μ„ λ§žμΆ”κ² μŠ΅λ‹ˆλ‹€. 과거에 λͺ…ν™•ν•œ 경계λ₯Ό μ„€μ •ν–ˆμŒμ—λ„ λΆˆκ΅¬ν•˜κ³ 
20:28
Perhaps you have a coworker who continues to be late on deadlines
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κ³„μ†ν•΄μ„œ λ§ˆκ°μΌμ—
20:33
and late for meetings despite having a clear boundary set in the past,
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늦고 νšŒμ˜μ— μ§€κ°ν•˜λŠ” λ™λ£Œκ°€ μžˆμ„ 수 있으며 ,
20:39
and this individual has made it clear that there aren't any factors
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이 κ°œμΈμ€
20:44
affecting her time management.
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μžμ‹ μ˜ μ‹œκ°„ 관리에 영ν–₯을 λ―ΈμΉ˜λŠ” μš”μ†Œκ°€ μ—†μŒμ„ λΆ„λͺ…νžˆ ν–ˆμŠ΅λ‹ˆλ‹€.
20:46
To follow up on a conversation and reiterate this time
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λŒ€ν™”μ— λŒ€ν•œ 후속 쑰치λ₯Ό μ·¨ν•˜κ³  이 μ‹œκ°„ 경계λ₯Ό λ°˜λ³΅ν•˜κΈ° μœ„ν•΄
20:51
boundary, here's what you could say,
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λ‹€μŒκ³Ό 같이 말할 수 μžˆμŠ΅λ‹ˆλ‹€.
20:55
I'm noticing a continued pattern of arriving late for meetings and
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νšŒμ˜μ— 늦게 λ„μ°©ν•˜κ³ 
20:59
missing deadlines.
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λ§ˆκ°μΌμ„ λ†“μΉ˜λŠ” νŒ¨ν„΄μ΄ κ³„μ†ν•΄μ„œ λ‚˜νƒ€λ‚˜κ³  μžˆμŠ΅λ‹ˆλ‹€.
21:01
I want to remind you that the dates and times of our meetings and
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회의 λ‚ μ§œμ™€ μ‹œκ°„ 및
21:06
our deadlines are crucial to our company's goals and success.
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λ§ˆκ°μΌμ€ νšŒμ‚¬μ˜ λͺ©ν‘œμ™€ 성곡에 맀우 μ€‘μš”ν•˜λ‹€λŠ” 점을 μƒκΈ°μ‹œμΌœ λ“œλ¦¬κ³  μ‹ΆμŠ΅λ‹ˆλ‹€.
21:11
Should this continue, I will need to act in the best interests of our team,
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이것이 κ³„μ†λœλ‹€λ©΄ μ €λŠ” 우리 νŒ€μ˜ μ΅œμ„ μ˜ 이읡을 μœ„ν•΄ 행동해야 ν•  κ²ƒμž…λ‹ˆλ‹€.
21:17
and please let me know if there's anything you need from me to help manage time
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μ‹œκ°„μ„ 보닀 효율적으둜 κ΄€λ¦¬ν•˜κΈ° μœ„ν•΄ μ €μ—κ²Œ ν•„μš”ν•œ 것이 있으면 μ•Œλ €μ£Όμ‹­μ‹œμ˜€
21:21
more effectively. With that,
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. 이λ₯Ό 톡해 μ˜μ–΄λ‘œ κ΄€κ³„μ˜
21:23
you have four practical steps to help you set clear boundaries
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λͺ…ν™•ν•œ 경계λ₯Ό μ„€μ •ν•˜λŠ” 데 도움이 λ˜λŠ” λ„€ 가지 μ‹€μš©μ μΈ 단계가 있으며
21:28
in relationships in English,
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21:30
and you have example phrases to help you along the way.
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κ·Έ κ³Όμ •μ—μ„œ 도움이 λ˜λŠ” 예문이 μžˆμŠ΅λ‹ˆλ‹€.
21:34
To finish this lesson, I have one question for you.
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이 μˆ˜μ—…μ„ 마치기 μœ„ν•΄ ν•œ 가지 질문이 μžˆμŠ΅λ‹ˆλ‹€. μ˜μ–΄λ‘œ κ΄€κ³„μ˜ 경계λ₯Ό μ„€μ •ν•˜λŠ” 방법을 κ³ λ―Όν•  λ•Œ
21:37
I'd love to know what strategies and phrases are most useful to you
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μ–΄λ–€ μ „λž΅ κ³Ό 문ꡬ가 κ°€μž₯ μœ μš©ν•œμ§€ μ•Œκ³  μ‹ΆμŠ΅λ‹ˆλ‹€
21:42
as you contemplate how to set boundaries in relationships in English.
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. μ§€κΈˆ
21:48
You might have a situation happening in your personal or a professional life
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개인 μƒν™œμ΄λ‚˜ 직업 μƒν™œμ—μ„œ
21:52
right now in which you need to set a clear boundary.
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λͺ…ν™•ν•œ 경계λ₯Ό μ„€μ •ν•΄μ•Ό ν•˜λŠ” 상황이 λ°œμƒν•  수 μžˆμŠ΅λ‹ˆλ‹€.
21:56
If you do and you want to practice,
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κ·Έλ ‡κ²Œ ν•˜κ³  μ—°μŠ΅ν•˜κ³  μ‹Άλ‹€λ©΄ μ•„λž˜ λŒ“κΈ€μ—μ„œ λ§ν•˜κ³ 
21:58
you can certainly share what you might like to say in the comments below.
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싢은 λ‚΄μš©μ„ ν™•μ‹€νžˆ κ³΅μœ ν•  수 μžˆμŠ΅λ‹ˆλ‹€ .
22:04
I encourage you to try using some of the phrases that I've shared here or
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μ—¬κΈ°μ—μ„œ κ³΅μœ ν•œ 문ꡬ 쀑 일뢀λ₯Ό μ‚¬μš©ν•΄ λ³΄κ±°λ‚˜
22:09
even follow the examples I've shared as templates,
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ν…œν”Œλ¦ΏμœΌλ‘œ κ³΅μœ ν•œ 예λ₯Ό λ”°λ₯΄μ‹œκΈ° λ°”λžλ‹ˆλ‹€.
22:13
and if you found this lesson helpful to you, I would love to know.
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이 κ°•μ˜κ°€ 도움이 λœλ‹€λ©΄ μ•Œκ³  μ‹ΆμŠ΅λ‹ˆλ‹€.
22:17
You can tell me in one very simple way.
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당신은 μ•„μ£Ό κ°„λ‹¨ν•œ λ°©λ²•μœΌλ‘œ λ‚˜μ—κ²Œ 말할 수 μžˆμŠ΅λ‹ˆλ‹€. μ—¬κΈ° YouTubeμ—μ„œ
22:19
You can give this lesson a thumbs up here on YouTube, and while you're at it,
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이 λ ˆμŠ¨μ— 엄지λ₯Ό μΉ˜μΌœμ„ΈμšΈ 수 μžˆμŠ΅λ‹ˆλ‹€ . κ·Έ λ™μ•ˆ
22:24
don't forget to subscribe to the Speak Confident English Channel so you never
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Speak Confident English 채널을 κ΅¬λ…ν•˜λŠ” 것을 μžŠμ§€ λ§ˆμ„Έμš”. κ·Έλž˜μ•Ό
22:28
miss one of my Confident English lessons. Thank you so much for joining me,
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제 Confident English 레슨 쀑 ν•˜λ‚˜λ₯Ό λ†“μΉ˜μ§€ μ•Šμ„ 수 μžˆμŠ΅λ‹ˆλ‹€. ν•¨κ»˜ ν•΄μ£Όμ…”μ„œ 정말 κ°μ‚¬λ“œλ¦¬κ³ 
22:33
and I look forward to seeing you next time.
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λ‹€μŒμ— 또 λ΅™κΈ°λ₯Ό κΈ°λŒ€ν•˜κ² μŠ΅λ‹ˆλ‹€.
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