How to Express Empathy in English | For Client Care and Personal Relationships

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2022-03-02 ・ Speak Confident English


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How to Express Empathy in English | For Client Care and Personal Relationships

56,650 views ・ 2022-03-02

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μ•„λž˜ μ˜λ¬Έμžλ§‰μ„ λ”λΈ”ν΄λ¦­ν•˜μ‹œλ©΄ μ˜μƒμ΄ μž¬μƒλ©λ‹ˆλ‹€. λ²ˆμ—­λœ μžλ§‰μ€ 기계 λ²ˆμ—­λ©λ‹ˆλ‹€.

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How can you express sincere empathy in English,
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whether you're dealing with an upset customer or talking with a friend who
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ν™”λ‚œ 고객을 μƒλŒ€ν•˜λ“ 
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just lost her job in this Confident English lesson today,
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였늘 이 Confident English μˆ˜μ—…μ—μ„œ 막 μ‹€μ§ν•œ μΉœκ΅¬μ™€ λŒ€ν™”ν•˜λ“  μ˜μ–΄λ‘œ 진심 μ–΄λ¦° 곡감을 μ–΄λ–»κ²Œ ν‘œν˜„ν•  수 μžˆμ„κΉŒμš”?
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I'm going to share with you four immediately effective strategies and over
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μ¦‰μ‹œ 효과적인 4가지 μ „λž΅κ³Ό
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25 common phrases,
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25가지가 λ„˜λŠ” 일반적인 문ꡬλ₯Ό
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you can use genuinely demonstrate empathy in English.
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μ‚¬μš©ν•˜μ—¬ μ§„μ •μœΌλ‘œ μ˜μ–΄λ‘œ 곡감을 ν‘œν˜„ν•  수 μžˆμŠ΅λ‹ˆλ‹€.
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If you don't already know, I'm Annemarie with Speak Confident English.
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아직 λͺ¨λ₯΄μ‹ λ‹€λ©΄ Speak Confident English의 Annemarieμž…λ‹ˆλ‹€.
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Everything I do is designed to help you get the confidence you want for your
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μ œκ°€ ν•˜λŠ” λͺ¨λ“  일은 μ—¬λŸ¬λΆ„μ΄ μ§€κΈˆ
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life and work in English, no matter how shy, stuck,
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μ–Όλ§ˆλ‚˜ λΆ€λ„λŸ¬μ›Œν•˜κ³ , κ³€λž€ν•˜κ³ ,
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or nervous you might feel right now.
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κΈ΄μž₯ν•˜κ³  μžˆλ”λΌλ„ μ—¬λŸ¬λΆ„μ΄ μ‚Άκ³Ό μ˜μ–΄λ‘œ μΌν•˜λŠ” 데 μ›ν•˜λŠ” μžμ‹ κ°μ„ 얻을 수 μžˆλ„λ‘ 돕기 μœ„ν•΄ κ³ μ•ˆλ˜μ—ˆμŠ΅λ‹ˆλ‹€.
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One way I do that is through my weekly Confident English lessons,
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κ·Έλ ‡κ²Œ ν•˜λŠ” ν•œ 가지 방법은 맀주 μžμ‹ κ° μžˆλŠ” μ˜μ–΄ μˆ˜μ—…μ„ 톡해
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where I share with you English confidence and fluency building strategies,
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μ˜μ–΄ μžμ‹ κ° κ³Ό μœ μ°½ν•¨ ꡬ좕 μ „λž΅,
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advanced level vocabulary in-depth, grammar, training,
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κ³ κΈ‰ μˆ˜μ€€μ˜ μ–΄νœ˜ 심측, 문법, ν›ˆλ ¨, μ˜μ‚¬μ†Œν†΅ κΈ°μˆ μ—
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and targeted lessons on communication skills.
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λŒ€ν•œ 집쀑 μˆ˜μ—…μ„ κ³΅μœ ν•˜λŠ” κ²ƒμž…λ‹ˆλ‹€ .
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Just like this one. So while you're here,
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μ΄κ²ƒμ²˜λŸΌ. κ·ΈλŸ¬λ‹ˆ μ—¬κΈ° κ³„μ‹œλŠ” λ™μ•ˆ
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be sure to subscribe to my Speak Confident English channel.
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제 Speak Confident English 채널을 κΌ­ κ΅¬λ…ν•˜μ„Έμš”.
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So you never miss one of these lessons.
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λ”°λΌμ„œ μ΄λŸ¬ν•œ κ΅ν›ˆ 쀑 ν•˜λ‚˜λ₯Ό λ†“μΉ˜μ§€ λ§ˆμ‹­μ‹œμ˜€.
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Now let's get back to empathy a few weeks ago,
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이제 λ‹€μ‹œ 곡감으둜 λŒμ•„κ°€ λ΄…μ‹œλ‹€. λͺ‡ μ£Ό 전에
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a member in my Confident Women Community shared that she had just started a new
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Confident Women Community의 ν•œ νšŒμ›μ΄
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job as a customer service representative in an American company.
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λ―Έκ΅­ νšŒμ‚¬μ—μ„œ 고객 μ„œλΉ„μŠ€ λ‹΄λ‹Ήμžλ‘œ μƒˆλ‘œμš΄ 일을 μ‹œμž‘ν–ˆλ‹€κ³  λ§ν–ˆμŠ΅λ‹ˆλ‹€. 직책을 맑은
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Within the first few weeks of her position,
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ν›„ 처음 λͺ‡ μ£Ό λ™μ•ˆ
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she discovered that her language for demonstrating empathy and English was
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κ·Έλ…€λŠ” 곡감과 μ˜μ–΄λ₯Ό ν‘œν˜„ν•˜κΈ° μœ„ν•œ μ–Έμ–΄κ°€
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limited.
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μ œν•œλ˜μ–΄ μžˆμŒμ„ λ°œκ²¬ν–ˆμŠ΅λ‹ˆλ‹€.
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And she wanted to know if I could help by offering new ways and new phrases
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그리고 κ·Έλ…€λŠ” κ³ κ°μ—κ²Œ μ§„μ‹¬μœΌλ‘œ 곡감할 수 μžˆλŠ” μƒˆλ‘œμš΄ 방법과 μƒˆλ‘œμš΄ 문ꡬλ₯Ό μ œκ³΅ν•¨μœΌλ‘œμ¨ λ‚΄κ°€ 도움을 쀄 수 μžˆλŠ”μ§€ μ•Œκ³  μ‹Άμ–΄ν–ˆμŠ΅λ‹ˆλ‹€
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for her to sincerely express empathy customers.
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The moment I read that question,
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κ·Έ μ§ˆλ¬Έμ„ 읽은 μˆœκ°„,
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I started thinking about this lesson and here's why empathy is an
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λ‚˜λŠ” 이 κ΅ν›ˆμ— λŒ€ν•΄ μƒκ°ν•˜κΈ° μ‹œμž‘ν–ˆκ³  곡감이
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integral part of emotional intelligence.
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감성 지λŠ₯의 ν•„μˆ˜μ μΈ 뢀뢄인 μ΄μœ κ°€ 여기에 μžˆμŠ΅λ‹ˆλ‹€.
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And it's a highly sought after skill in client relations.
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그리고 그것은 고객 κ΄€κ³„μ—μ„œ 맀우 μš”κ΅¬λ˜λŠ” κΈ°μˆ μž…λ‹ˆλ‹€.
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Moreover,
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λ˜ν•œ
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empathy is essential for positive communication on teams and
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곡감은 νŒ€μ˜ 긍정적인 μ˜μ‚¬ μ†Œν†΅κ³Ό
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for strong personal relationships with loved ones.
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μ‚¬λž‘ν•˜λŠ” μ‚¬λžŒκ³Όμ˜ κ°•ν•œ 개인적 관계에 ν•„μˆ˜μ μž…λ‹ˆλ‹€.
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So whether you're looking to sharpen your professional and English speaking
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λ”°λΌμ„œ 전문적이고 μ˜μ–΄ λ§ν•˜κΈ°
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skills and customer service,
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λŠ₯λ ₯κ³Ό 고객 μ„œλΉ„μŠ€λ₯Ό μ—°λ§ˆν•˜κ³  μ‹Ά
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or you want to ensure effective communication with everyone around you,
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κ±°λ‚˜ μ£Όλ³€ μ‚¬λžŒλ“€κ³Όμ˜ 효과적인 μ˜μ‚¬ μ†Œν†΅μ„ 보μž₯ν•˜κ³  μ‹Άλ‹€λ©΄
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this lesson is going to help you do just that. Plus at the end,
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이 레슨이 도움이 될 κ²ƒμž…λ‹ˆλ‹€ . λ§ˆμ§€λ§‰μœΌλ‘œ 였늘 μ—¬κΈ°μ„œ 배우게 될 λͺ¨λ“  μ „λž΅μ„ μ‚¬μš©ν•˜μ—¬ 곡감을
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I'm going to share with you an email I recently received that perfectly
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μ™„λ²½ν•˜κ²Œ λ³΄μ—¬μ£ΌλŠ” μ΅œκ·Όμ— 받은 이메일을 κ³΅μœ ν•˜κ² μŠ΅λ‹ˆλ‹€
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demonstrates empathy,
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using all the strategies you're going to learn here today to get started.
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. λ‹€λ₯Έ μ‚¬λžŒκ³Ό ν•¨κ»˜ κ²½ν—˜ν•˜κ±°λ‚˜ λŠλΌλŠ” 두 가지 곡감의 의미 μ‚¬μ΄μ—μ„œ μ‹€μˆ˜λ‚˜ ν˜Όλ™μ„ 자주 λ“£κΈ° λ•Œλ¬Έμ—
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Let's do a quick review of what empathy is and how
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곡감이 무엇인지, 곡감과 μ–΄λ–»κ²Œ
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it's different from sympathy,
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λ‹€λ₯Έμ§€ κ°„λ‹¨νžˆ λ³΅μŠ΅ν•΄ λ³΄κ² μŠ΅λ‹ˆλ‹€
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because I often hear mistakes or confusion between the two
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empathy means to experience or feel with others.
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It means taking the time to understand someone else's perspective,
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그것은 λ‹€λ₯Έ μ‚¬λžŒμ˜ 관점을 μ΄ν•΄ν•˜κΈ° μœ„ν•΄ μ‹œκ°„μ„ κ°–λŠ” 것을 μ˜λ―Έν•©λ‹ˆλ‹€.
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two words that we tend to associate with empathy are I understand
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μš°λ¦¬κ°€ 곡감과 μ—°κ΄€μ‹œν‚€λŠ” κ²½ν–₯이 μžˆλŠ” 두 λ‹¨μ–΄λŠ” 동정을
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sympathy on the other hand is expressing sorrow,
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pity or concern for someone else rather than understanding how
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μ΄ν•΄ν•©λ‹ˆλ‹€
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someone else feels.
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It's more focused on how you feel about that person
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그것은 당신이 κ·Έ μ‚¬λžŒ
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and his, or her situation.
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κ³Ό 그의 상황에 λŒ€ν•΄ μ–΄λ–»κ²Œ λŠλΌλŠ”μ§€μ— 더 μ΄ˆμ μ„ λ§žμΆ”κ³  μžˆμŠ΅λ‹ˆλ‹€.
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Two words that we tend to associate with sympathy are, I'm sorry,
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μš°λ¦¬κ°€ 동정심과 μ—°κ΄€μ‹œν‚€λŠ” κ²½ν–₯이 μžˆλŠ” 두 λ‹¨μ–΄λŠ” λ―Έμ•ˆν•©λ‹ˆλ‹€.
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let's take a look at how both might be used in a response to a friend who just
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두 단어가 방금 직μž₯을 μžƒμ€ μΉœκ΅¬μ—κ²Œ μ–΄λ–»κ²Œ μ‚¬μš©λ  수 μžˆλŠ”μ§€ μ‚΄νŽ΄λ³΄κ² μŠ΅λ‹ˆλ‹€
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lost her job. You might start with sympathy by saying,
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I'm so sorry you've lost your job.
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직μž₯을 μžƒκ²Œ λ˜μ–΄ 정말 μœ κ°μž…λ‹ˆλ‹€.
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And then to add on an empathetic response, you might add,
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그런 λ‹€μŒ κ³΅κ°ν•˜λŠ” λ°˜μ‘μ„ μΆ”κ°€ν•˜κΈ° μœ„ν•΄ λ‹€μŒκ³Ό 같이 덧뢙일 수 μžˆμŠ΅λ‹ˆλ‹€.
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I understand how important that job was to you.
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κ·Έ 직업이 λ‹Ήμ‹ μ—κ²Œ μ–Όλ§ˆλ‚˜ μ€‘μš”ν•œμ§€ μ΄ν•΄ν•©λ‹ˆλ‹€.
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If there's anything I can do to help, please let me know.
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μ œκ°€ λ„μšΈ 수 μžˆλŠ” 일이 있으면 μ•Œλ €μ£Όμ„Έμš”.
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By adding that empathetic response,
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κ³΅κ°ν•˜λŠ” λ°˜μ‘μ„ μΆ”κ°€ν•¨μœΌλ‘œμ¨
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you're demonstrating emotional intelligence and establishing a deeper
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감성 지λŠ₯을 μž…μ¦ν•˜κ³  더 κΉŠμ€ 연결을 κ΅¬μΆ•ν•˜κ³  ꢁ극적으둜 이λ₯Ό
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connection,
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which ultimately leads to more compassionate responses and
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a stronger level of trust in the relationship to help you do this.
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μˆ˜ν–‰ν•˜λŠ” 데 도움이 λ˜λŠ” 관계에 λŒ€ν•œ 더 높은 μˆ˜μ€€μ˜ 신뒰와 μžλΉ„λ‘œμš΄ λ°˜μ‘μœΌλ‘œ μ΄μ–΄μ§‘λ‹ˆλ‹€.
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Let's take a look at the first strategy for demonstrating empathy.
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곡감을 보여주기 μœ„ν•œ 첫 번째 μ „λž΅μ„ μ‚΄νŽ΄λ³΄μž.
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First acknowledge their concerns or feelings.
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λ¨Όμ € κ·Έλ“€μ˜ κ±±μ •μ΄λ‚˜ 감정을 μΈμ •ν•˜μ‹­μ‹œμ˜€.
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By acknowledging someone's concern, anger, disappointment,
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λ‹€λ₯Έ μ‚¬λžŒμ˜ κ±±μ •, λΆ„λ…Έ, 싀망,
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frustration, or even a positive emotion, such as excitement.
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쒌절 λ˜λŠ” 심지어 ν₯λΆ„κ³Ό 같은 긍정적인 감정을 μΈμ •ν•¨μœΌλ‘œμ¨.
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You are creating that deeper connection rather than a feeling
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당신은
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of you versus me.
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λ‚˜μ— λŒ€ν•œ λ‹Ήμ‹ μ˜ λŠλ‚Œλ³΄λ‹€λŠ” 더 κΉŠμ€ 연결을 λ§Œλ“€κ³  μžˆμŠ΅λ‹ˆλ‹€.
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You creating a sense in which it is us,
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당신은 그것이 μš°λ¦¬λΌλŠ” 감각을 λ§Œλ“€κ³ ,
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something that we are in together, and if a solution is needed,
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μš°λ¦¬κ°€ ν•¨κ»˜ μžˆλŠ” μ–΄λ–€ κ²ƒμž…λ‹ˆλ‹€. 해결책이 ν•„μš”ν•œ 경우,
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we're going to find it together to create this feeling it's important
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μš°λ¦¬λŠ” 이 λŠλ‚Œμ„ λ§Œλ“€κΈ° μœ„ν•΄ ν•¨κ»˜ 찾을 κ²ƒμž…λ‹ˆλ‹€.
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to name or acknowledge the specific feeling or concern.
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νŠΉμ • λŠλ‚Œμ΄λ‚˜ 우렀λ₯Ό λͺ…λͺ…ν•˜κ±°λ‚˜ μΈμ •ν•˜λŠ” 것이 μ€‘μš”ν•©λ‹ˆλ‹€.
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Let's take a look at two different scenarios to how you might do this.
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이λ₯Ό μˆ˜ν–‰ν•˜λŠ” 방법에 λŒ€ν•œ 두 가지 λ‹€λ₯Έ μ‹œλ‚˜λ¦¬μ˜€λ₯Ό μ‚΄νŽ΄λ³΄κ² μŠ΅λ‹ˆλ‹€.
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One is professional and the other more personal first let's imagine
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ν•˜λ‚˜λŠ” 전문적이고 λ‹€λ₯Έ ν•˜λ‚˜λŠ” 더 개인적인 κ²ƒμž…λ‹ˆλ‹€. λ¨Όμ €
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that a customer is extremely frustrated with your product.
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고객이 κ·€ν•˜μ˜ μ œν’ˆμ— λŒ€ν•΄ κ·Ήλ„λ‘œ λΆˆλ§Œμ„ κ°–κ³  μžˆλ‹€κ³  상상해 λ΄…μ‹œλ‹€.
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The customer expected a specific feature or function only to find
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고객은 νŠΉμ • κΈ°λŠ₯을 κΈ°λŒ€ν–ˆμ§€λ§Œ
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that your product doesn't do what they want.
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μ œν’ˆμ΄ μ›ν•˜λŠ” λŒ€λ‘œ μž‘λ™ν•˜μ§€ μ•ŠλŠ”λ‹€λŠ” 사싀을 μ•Œκ²Œ λ˜μ—ˆμŠ΅λ‹ˆλ‹€.
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An empathetic response would sound like.
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κ³΅κ°ν•˜λŠ” λ°˜μ‘μ΄ 듀릴 κ²ƒμž…λ‹ˆλ‹€.
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I understand how important this feature is to your business and that you're
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이 κΈ°λŠ₯이 κ·€ν•˜μ˜ λΉ„μ¦ˆλ‹ˆμŠ€μ— μ–Όλ§ˆλ‚˜ μ€‘μš”ν•œμ§€ μ΄ν•΄ν•˜κ³  있으며 κ·€ν•˜κ°€
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frustrated that our product doesn't have that feature.
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당사 μ œν’ˆμ— ν•΄λ‹Ή κΈ°λŠ₯이 μ—†λ‹€λŠ” 사싀에 λΆˆλ§Œμ„ κ°–κ³  μžˆμŒμ„ μ΄ν•΄ν•©λ‹ˆλ‹€.
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Did you notice the two keywords? I understand,
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두 개의 ν‚€μ›Œλ“œλ₯Ό λˆˆμΉ˜μ±„μ…¨λ‚˜μš” ? λ‚˜λŠ” 이해
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and we named the specific feeling frustration.
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ν•˜κ³  μš°λ¦¬λŠ” νŠΉμ • 감정을 쒌절이라고 λͺ…λͺ…ν–ˆμŠ΅λ‹ˆλ‹€.
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Let's take a look at another situation that is more or personal.
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더 λ§Žκ±°λ‚˜ 개인적인 λ‹€λ₯Έ 상황을 μ‚΄νŽ΄λ³΄κ² μŠ΅λ‹ˆλ‹€.
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Imagine that one of your coworkers recently lost a loved one,
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λ™λ£Œ 쀑 ν•œ λͺ…이 μ΅œκ·Όμ— μ‚¬λž‘ν•˜λŠ” μ‚¬λžŒμ„ μžƒμ—ˆλ‹€κ³  상상해 λ³΄μ‹­μ‹œμ˜€.
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an empathetic response and acknowledgement of the feelings might sound like
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κ³΅κ°ν•˜λŠ” λ°˜μ‘κ³Ό 감정에 λŒ€ν•œ 인정은
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I know how heartbreaking and painful this loss must be by
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taking the time to understand and acknowledge how someone else feels.
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λ‹€λ₯Έ μ‚¬λžŒμ˜ 감정을 μ΄ν•΄ν•˜κ³  μΈμ •ν•˜λŠ” 데 μ‹œκ°„μ„ ν• μ• ν•˜μ—¬ 이 상싀이 μ–Όλ§ˆλ‚˜ κ°€μŠ΄ μ•„ν”„κ³  κ³ ν†΅μŠ€λŸ¬μš΄μ§€ μ•„λŠ” κ²ƒμ²˜λŸΌ 듀릴 수 μžˆμŠ΅λ‹ˆλ‹€.
06:02
You're also communicating openness acceptance.
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λ˜ν•œ κ°œλ°©μ„± μˆ˜μš©μ„ μ „λ‹¬ν•˜κ³  μžˆμŠ΅λ‹ˆλ‹€ .
06:07
You're creating a window of opportunity in which you can form that deeper
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더 κΉŠμ€ 연결을 ν˜•μ„±ν•  수 μžˆλŠ” 기회의 창을 λ§Œλ“€κ³  μžˆμŠ΅λ‹ˆλ‹€
06:12
connection. Now, before we move on to strategy, number two,
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. 이제 두 번째 μ „λž΅μœΌλ‘œ λ„˜μ–΄κ°€κΈ° 전에
06:16
let's take a look at three more phrases you can use to help you do this.
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이λ₯Ό μˆ˜ν–‰ν•˜λŠ” 데 μ‚¬μš©ν•  수 μžˆλŠ” μ„Έ 가지 문ꡬλ₯Ό 더 μ‚΄νŽ΄λ³΄κ² μŠ΅λ‹ˆλ‹€.
06:21
Number one, I understand this was very difficult to do,
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첫째, 이 μž‘μ—…μ΄ 맀우 μ–΄λ €μ› 
06:26
or I understand this was very frustrating. Number two,
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κ±°λ‚˜ 맀우 μ‹€λ§μŠ€λŸ¬μ› λ‹€λŠ” 점을 μ΄ν•΄ν•©λ‹ˆλ‹€. 두 번째둜,
06:30
you took a leap of faith to share this with me. Thank you for trusting me,
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당신은 이것을 저와 κ³΅μœ ν•˜κΈ° μœ„ν•΄ 믿음의 도약을 ν–ˆμŠ΅λ‹ˆλ‹€ . μ €λ₯Ό λ―Ώμ–΄μ£Όμ…”μ„œ κ°μ‚¬ν•©λ‹ˆλ‹€.
06:35
or I know it to took a lot for you to share this with me.
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λ˜λŠ” 이 λ‚΄μš©μ„ 저와 κ³΅μœ ν•˜λŠ” 데 λ§Žμ€ μ‹œκ°„μ΄ κ±Έλ Έλ‹€λŠ” 것을 μ•Œκ³  μžˆμŠ΅λ‹ˆλ‹€ . μ €λ₯Ό
06:39
Thank you for trusting me. And number three,
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λ―Ώμ–΄μ£Όμ…”μ„œ κ°μ‚¬ν•©λ‹ˆλ‹€ . 그리고 μ„Έ 번째,
06:43
that must have been a pretty awful experience.
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그것은 κ½€ λ”μ°ν•œ κ²½ν—˜μ΄μ—ˆμ„ κ²ƒμž…λ‹ˆλ‹€.
06:47
That must have been a terrifying experience.
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그것은 λ‘λ €μš΄ κ²½ν—˜μ΄μ—ˆμ„ κ²ƒμž…λ‹ˆλ‹€.
06:51
That must have been an annoying experience.
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μ§œμ¦λ‚˜λŠ” κ²½ν—˜μ΄μ—ˆμ„ κ²ƒμž…λ‹ˆλ‹€.
06:55
As you can see in all of those phrases,
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이 λͺ¨λ“  λ¬Έκ΅¬μ—μ„œ λ³Ό 수 μžˆλ“―μ΄ μ μ ˆν•œ
06:57
we could use any emotion that is appropriate.
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감정을 μ‚¬μš©ν•  수 μžˆμŠ΅λ‹ˆλ‹€ .
07:00
We just have to change that keyword.
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ν‚€μ›Œλ“œλ₯Ό λ³€κ²½ν•˜κΈ°λ§Œ ν•˜λ©΄ λ©λ‹ˆλ‹€.
07:03
Once you've acknowledged someone's concern or feelings,
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λˆ„κ΅°κ°€μ˜ μš°λ €λ‚˜ 감정을 μΈμ •ν–ˆλ‹€λ©΄ 이제 μ „λž΅
07:06
it's time to move on to strategy. Number two,
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으둜 λ„˜μ–΄κ°ˆ λ•Œμž…λ‹ˆλ‹€ . λ‘˜μ§Έ,
07:09
reflect back what you hear when others express
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λ‹€λ₯Έ μ‚¬λžŒλ“€μ΄
07:14
frustration, sorrow, or anger.
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쒌절, μŠ¬ν”” λ˜λŠ” λΆ„λ…Έλ₯Ό ν‘œν˜„ν•  λ•Œ 당신이 듀은 것을 λ°˜μ˜ν•˜μ‹­μ‹œμ˜€.
07:17
We have this tendency to immediately provide reassurance,
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μš°λ¦¬λŠ” μ¦‰μ‹œ μ•ˆμ‹¬μ‹œν‚€λŠ” κ²½ν–₯이
07:22
but in doing so,
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μžˆμ§€λ§Œ κ·Έλ ‡κ²Œ ν•¨μœΌλ‘œμ¨ ν™”μžκ°€
07:25
it might make the speaker feel that what they've said has gone in one ear
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λ§ν•œ λ‚΄μš©μ΄ ν•œ κ·€λ‘œ λ“£κ³ 
07:30
and out the other. In other words,
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λ‹€λ₯Έ κ·€λ‘œ ν˜λ €λ‹€κ³  느끼게 λ§Œλ“€ 수 μžˆμŠ΅λ‹ˆλ‹€. 즉,
07:32
you didn't really hear them at all before we immediately provide a
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μš°λ¦¬κ°€ μ¦‰μ‹œ
07:37
solution or some kind of reassurance.
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ν•΄κ²°μ±…μ΄λ‚˜ μ–΄λ–€ μ’…λ₯˜μ˜ μ•ˆμ‹¬μ„ μ œκ³΅ν•˜κΈ° μ „μ—λŠ” μ „ν˜€ 듣지 λͺ»ν–ˆμŠ΅λ‹ˆλ‹€.
07:40
It's important to demonstrate empathy by showing that we are fully
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μš°λ¦¬κ°€
07:44
present in the conversation and actively listening.
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λŒ€ν™”μ— μ™„μ „νžˆ μ°Έμ—¬ ν•˜κ³  적극적으둜 κ²½μ²­ν•œλ‹€λŠ” 것을 λ³΄μ—¬μ€ŒμœΌλ‘œμ¨ 곡감을 λ‚˜νƒ€λ‚΄λŠ” 것이 μ€‘μš”ν•©λ‹ˆλ‹€.
07:48
We do that by reflecting back what we hear now,
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μš°λ¦¬λŠ” μ§€κΈˆ λ“£κ³  μžˆλŠ” 것을 λ°˜μ˜ν•˜μ—¬ κ·Έλ ‡κ²Œ ν•©λ‹ˆλ‹€.
07:52
if you're interested in active listening skills in English,
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μ˜μ–΄μ˜ λŠ₯동적인 λ“£κΈ° κΈ°μˆ μ— 관심이 μžˆλ‹€λ©΄
07:56
I have a full lesson on that topic.
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ν•΄λ‹Ή μ£Όμ œμ— λŒ€ν•œ 전체 κ°•μ˜κ°€ μžˆμŠ΅λ‹ˆλ‹€. μ•„λž˜ λΉ„λ””μ˜€ λ…ΈνŠΈμ—μ„œ
07:59
I'll share a link to that lesson in the video notes below,
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ν•΄λ‹Ή λ ˆμŠ¨μ— λŒ€ν•œ 링크λ₯Ό κ³΅μœ ν•˜κ² μ§€λ§Œ
08:02
but now let's talk about how you can reflect back what you hear.
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이제 듀은 λ‚΄μš©μ„ λ‹€μ‹œ λ°˜μ˜ν•  수 μžˆλŠ” 방법에 λŒ€ν•΄ 이야기해 λ³΄κ² μŠ΅λ‹ˆλ‹€.
08:07
I have three example phrases for you. And as you listen,
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μ„Έ 가지 μ˜ˆμ‹œ 문ꡬ가 μžˆμŠ΅λ‹ˆλ‹€ . 그리고 μ—¬λŸ¬λΆ„μ΄ λ“€μœΌλ©΄μ„œ
08:10
I want you to see if you notice a pattern or formula of some kind phrase,
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μ–΄λ–€ μ’…λ₯˜μ˜ 문ꡬ의 νŒ¨ν„΄μ΄λ‚˜ 곡식을 μ•Œμ•„μ°¨λ ΈλŠ”μ§€ ν™•μΈν•˜μ‹œκΈ° λ°”λžλ‹ˆλ‹€.
08:15
number one, from what I'm hearing, it sounds like you're feeling annoyed.
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첫째, μ œκ°€ λ“£κ³  μžˆλŠ” κ²ƒμ—μ„œ μ—¬λŸ¬λΆ„μ΄ 짜증이 λ‚œ κ²ƒμ²˜λŸΌ λ“€λ¦½λ‹ˆλ‹€.
08:20
Is that right? Or from what I'm hearing,
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λ§žμŠ΅λ‹ˆκΉŒ? λ˜λŠ” λ‚΄κ°€ λ“£κ³  μžˆλŠ” λ°”λ‘œλŠ”
08:23
it sounds like you're feeling frustrated. Is that right? Number two,
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당신이 닡닡함을 λŠλΌλŠ” 것 κ°™μŠ΅λ‹ˆλ‹€ . λ§žμŠ΅λ‹ˆκΉŒ? 두 번째둜,
08:28
if I understand correctly,
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μ œκ°€ μ˜¬λ°”λ₯΄κ²Œ μ΄ν•΄ν–ˆλ‹€λ©΄
08:30
you're feeling frustrated because our product doesn't have that feature.
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저희 μ œν’ˆμ— ν•΄λ‹Ή κΈ°λŠ₯이 μ—†κΈ° λ•Œλ¬Έμ— μ’Œμ ˆκ°μ„ λŠλΌμ‹€ κ²ƒμž…λ‹ˆλ‹€.
08:33
Is that correct? And number three,
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κ·Έ λ§žμŠ΅λ‹ˆκΉŒ? μ„Έ 번째둜,
08:36
it sounds like what you're telling me is that you're frustrated our product
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저희 μ œν’ˆμ—
08:40
doesn't have that feature. Is that true?
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그런 κΈ°λŠ₯이 μ—†μ–΄μ„œ λ‹΅λ‹΅ν•˜λ‹€κ³  λ§μ”€ν•˜μ‹œλŠ” 것 κ°™μŠ΅λ‹ˆλ‹€. μ‚¬μ‹€μΈκ°€μš”? λ‚΄κ°€ 각 μ§„μˆ μ—μ„œ μ‚¬μš©ν•œ
08:43
Did you notice the pattern or formula I used in each one of those
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νŒ¨ν„΄μ΄λ‚˜ 곡식을 μ•Œμ•„μ°¨λ ΈμŠ΅λ‹ˆκΉŒ
08:48
statements?
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?
08:49
I start by establishing that I'm going to share what I
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λ‚˜λŠ” λ‚΄κ°€ μ΄ν•΄ν•˜λŠ” 것을 κ³΅μœ ν•  κ²ƒμ΄λΌλŠ” 것을 ν™•λ¦½ν•˜λŠ” κ²ƒμœΌλ‘œ μ‹œμž‘ν•©λ‹ˆλ‹€
08:53
understand. Then I name specifically the feeling or concern,
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. 그런 λ‹€μŒ κ°μ •μ΄λ‚˜ 우렀 사항에 ꡬ체적으둜 이름을 지정
08:59
and I paraphrase what I understand the problem to be.
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ν•˜κ³  λ‚΄κ°€ μ΄ν•΄ν•˜λŠ” 문제λ₯Ό λ‹€λ₯Έ 말둜 ν‘œν˜„ν•©λ‹ˆλ‹€.
09:04
And then lastly, I ask to confirm that assumption,
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그리고 λ§ˆμ§€λ§‰μœΌλ‘œ κ·Έ 가정을 확인해 달라고 μš”μ²­ν•©λ‹ˆλ‹€.
09:09
this is particularly effective when someone is sharing
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이것은 λˆ„κ΅°κ°€κ°€
09:15
multiple details with you and you want to get right to the
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λ‹Ήμ‹ κ³Ό μ—¬λŸ¬ μ„ΈλΆ€ 사항을 κ³΅μœ ν•˜κ³  있고 당신이
09:20
heart of the issue or the heart of the problem. For example,
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문제의 ν•΅μ‹¬μ΄λ‚˜ 문제의 핡심에 λ°”λ‘œ λ„λ‹¬ν•˜κΈ°λ₯Ό 원할 λ•Œ 특히 νš¨κ³Όμ μž…λ‹ˆλ‹€. 예λ₯Ό λ“€μ–΄
09:24
let's say that you're responding to a customer who's very upset and
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맀우 ν™”κ°€ λ‚œ κ³ κ°μ—κ²Œ μ‘λ‹΅ν•˜κ³ 
09:28
bombarding you with details. When it's time for you to respond,
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μ„ΈλΆ€ 사항을 ν­κ²©ν•œλ‹€κ³  κ°€μ •ν•΄ λ³΄κ² μŠ΅λ‹ˆλ‹€. κ·€ν•˜κ°€ 응닡해야 ν•  λ•Œκ°€ 되면
09:34
you might say, if I understand correctly,
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λ‚΄κ°€ μ˜¬λ°”λ₯΄κ²Œ μ΄ν•΄ν•œ 경우
09:37
you're feeling frustrated because the order was canceled and we didn't provide
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주문이 μ·¨μ†Œλ˜μ—ˆκ³ 
09:41
advanced notice. Is that right?
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사전 톡지λ₯Ό μ œκ³΅ν•˜μ§€ μ•Šμ•˜κΈ° λ•Œλ¬Έμ— λΆˆλ§Œμ„ 느끼고 계신닀고 λ§μ”€ν•˜μ‹€ 수 μžˆμŠ΅λ‹ˆλ‹€. λ§žμŠ΅λ‹ˆκΉŒ?
09:44
These simple phrases that allow you to acknowledge someone's concern or feeling
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λˆ„κ΅°κ°€μ˜ κ±±μ •μ΄λ‚˜ 감정을 인정
09:49
and reflect back what you hear,
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ν•˜κ³  듀은 것을 λ°˜μ˜ν•  수 있게 ν•΄μ£ΌλŠ” 이 κ°„λ‹¨ν•œ λ¬Έκ΅¬λŠ”
09:51
take a huge step forward in offering an empathetic response.
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κ³΅κ°ν•˜λŠ” λ°˜μ‘μ„ μ œκ³΅ν•˜λŠ” 데 큰 진전을 μ΄λ£Ήλ‹ˆλ‹€.
09:57
And now it's time for strategy. Number three,
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그리고 이제 μ „λž΅μ„ μ„ΈμšΈ λ•Œμž…λ‹ˆλ‹€. μ…‹μ§Έ,
10:01
identify their needs and show support with positive language,
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10:06
whether it's a close friend expressing deep grief over a
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손싀에 λŒ€ν•΄ κΉŠμ€ μŠ¬ν””μ„ ν‘œν˜„ν•˜λŠ” μΉœν•œ μΉœκ΅¬μ΄λ“ ,
10:11
loss or a customer who's upset and frustrated
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10:16
expressing those emotions requires some vulnerability and vulnerability
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κ·ΈλŸ¬ν•œ 감정을 ν‘œν˜„ν•˜λŠ” 데 ν™”κ°€ λ‚˜κ³  μ’Œμ ˆν•œ 고객이든, κ·Έλ“€μ˜ μš”κ΅¬ 사항을 νŒŒμ•…ν•˜κ³  긍정적인 μ–Έμ–΄λ‘œ 지원을 λ³΄μ—¬μ£Όμ„Έμš”
10:21
is daunting in a moment of vulnerability.
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.
10:25
What most people want initially is to be heard and understood
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λŒ€λΆ€λΆ„μ˜ μ‚¬λžŒλ“€μ΄ μ²˜μŒμ— μ›ν•˜λŠ” 것은
10:30
doing that requires a quick evaluation of whether or
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10:35
not someone is looking for a solution or whether they simply want
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λˆ„κ΅°κ°€κ°€ 해결책을 μ°Ύκ³  μžˆλŠ”μ§€ λ˜λŠ” λ‹¨μˆœνžˆ
10:40
your support. And there's a difference.
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κ·€ν•˜μ˜ 지원을 μ›ν•˜λŠ”μ§€ 여뢀에 λŒ€ν•œ λΉ λ₯Έ 평가가 ν•„μš”ν•œ μž‘μ—…μ„ λ“£κ³  μ΄ν•΄ν•˜λŠ” κ²ƒμž…λ‹ˆλ‹€. 그리고 차이점이 μžˆμŠ΅λ‹ˆλ‹€.
10:43
Think for a moment about the last time you were exhausted at
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10:48
the end of a long, terrible day at work,
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직μž₯μ—μ„œ κΈΈκ³  μ§€λ…ν•œ ν•˜λ£¨λ₯Ό 보낸 λ§ˆμ§€λ§‰μœΌλ‘œ 지쳀을 λ•Œλ₯Ό μž μ‹œ 생각해 λ³΄μ‹­μ‹œμ˜€.
10:52
maybe a customer was extremely upset with you. There were some missed deadlines,
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μ•„λ§ˆλ„ 고객이 λ‹Ήμ‹ μ—κ²Œ κ·Ήλ„λ‘œ ν™”λ₯Ό λƒˆμ„ κ²ƒμž…λ‹ˆλ‹€ . λ§ˆκ°μΌμ„ λ†“μΉœ κ²½μš°κ°€ μžˆμ—ˆκ³ 
10:57
something was over budget and all of your meetings went long.
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μ˜ˆμ‚°μ΄ 초과된 κ²½μš°κ°€ μžˆμ—ˆκ³  λͺ¨λ“  νšŒμ˜κ°€ κΈΈμ–΄μ‘ŒμŠ΅λ‹ˆλ‹€.
11:02
So you're totally worn out. You get home,
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κ·Έλž˜μ„œ 당신은 μ™„μ „νžˆ μ§€μ³€μŠ΅λ‹ˆλ‹€. 집에 μ™€μ„œ ν•˜λ£¨μ—
11:05
you start talking about your day and in the process,
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λŒ€ν•΄ μ΄μ•ΌκΈ°ν•˜κΈ° μ‹œμž‘ ν•˜κ³  κ·Έ κ³Όμ •μ—μ„œ
11:10
what is it that you want the most? Do you want someone to interrupt and say, oh,
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κ°€μž₯ μ›ν•˜λŠ” 것이 λ¬΄μ—‡μž…λ‹ˆκΉŒ? λˆ„κ΅°κ°€κ°€ λΌμ–΄λ“€μ–΄μ„œ "였,
11:14
you know what, tomorrow you should and then give a solution.
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내일 ν•΄μ•Ό ν•  일"이라고 λ§ν•œ λ‹€μŒ 해결책을 μ œμ‹œν•˜κΈ°λ₯Ό μ›ν•˜μ‹­λ‹ˆκΉŒ?
11:19
Or do you want someone to just listen and say, oh, that sounds awful.
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μ•„λ‹ˆλ©΄ λˆ„κ΅°κ°€ λ“£κ³  κ·Έλƒ₯ λ”μ°ν•˜κ²Œ 듀리기λ₯Ό μ›ν•˜μ‹­λ‹ˆκΉŒ?
11:24
I'm so sorry. I understand that must feel terrible. And you must be exhausted.
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정말 λ―Έμ•ˆν•΄. λ‚˜λŠ” 그것이 λ”μ°ν•˜κ²Œ λŠκ»΄μ Έμ•Ό 함을 μ΄ν•΄ν•©λ‹ˆλ‹€. 그리고 당신은 지쳐 μžˆμ–΄μ•Όν•©λ‹ˆλ‹€.
11:29
Chances are you're looking for number two.
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두 번째λ₯Ό μ°Ύκ³  μžˆμ„ κ°€λŠ₯성이 μžˆμŠ΅λ‹ˆλ‹€.
11:33
You want someone to show support.
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λˆ„κ΅°κ°€κ°€ 지원을 보여주기λ₯Ό μ›ν•©λ‹ˆλ‹€.
11:36
An empathetic listener will be careful to respond in a way that shows.
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κ³΅κ°ν•˜λŠ” μ²­μ·¨μžλŠ” λ³΄μ΄λŠ” λ°©μ‹μœΌλ‘œ λ°˜μ‘ν•˜κΈ° μœ„ν•΄ 주의λ₯Ό 기울일 κ²ƒμž…λ‹ˆλ‹€.
11:40
They understand what you need in the moment without giving
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그듀은 μš”μ²­ν•˜μ§€ μ•Šμ€ 쑰언을 μ œκ³΅ν•˜μ§€ μ•Šκ³  κ·Έ μˆœκ°„μ— ν•„μš”ν•œ 것을 μ΄ν•΄ν•©λ‹ˆλ‹€
11:46
any unsolicited advice. Similarly, in customer service,
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. λ§ˆμ°¬κ°€μ§€λ‘œ 고객 μ„œλΉ„μŠ€μ—μ„œ
11:51
an initial empathetic response will identify the customer's need before offering
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초기 곡감 응닡은 μ†”λ£¨μ…˜μ„ μ œκ³΅ν•˜κΈ° 전에 고객의 μš”κ΅¬ 사항을 μ‹λ³„ν•©λ‹ˆλ‹€
11:56
a solution. And along the way,
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. 그리고 κ·Έ κ³Όμ •μ—μ„œ
11:59
it'll include showing support through positive language to do this.
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이λ₯Ό μœ„ν•΄ 긍정적인 μ–Έμ–΄λ₯Ό 톡해 지원을 λ³΄μ—¬μ£ΌλŠ” 것이 포함될 κ²ƒμž…λ‹ˆλ‹€.
12:03
Here are several phrases you can use. I am here for you.
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λ‹€μŒμ€ μ‚¬μš©ν•  수 μžˆλŠ” λͺ‡ 가지 κ΅¬λ¬Έμž…λ‹ˆλ‹€ . λ‚˜λŠ” 당신을 μœ„ν•΄ μ—¬κΈ° μžˆμŠ΅λ‹ˆλ‹€.
12:08
What can I do to help? I understand this is a very difficult time for you.
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무엇을 λ„μ™€λ“œλ¦΄κΉŒμš”? λ‚˜λŠ” 이것이 λ‹Ήμ‹ μ—κ²Œ 맀우 μ–΄λ €μš΄ μ‹œκ°„μ΄λΌλŠ” 것을 μ΄ν•΄ν•©λ‹ˆλ‹€.
12:13
What can I do right now? That would be most helpful.
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μ§€κΈˆ 무엇을 ν•  수 μžˆμŠ΅λ‹ˆκΉŒ? κ°€μž₯ 도움이 될 κ²ƒμž…λ‹ˆλ‹€.
12:17
How can I help you get through this?
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μ–΄λ–»κ²Œ λ„μ™€λ“œλ¦΄κΉŒμš”?
12:19
I understand why you're angry and I want to thank you for bringing this to our
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μ™œ ν™”λ₯Ό λ‚΄μ…¨λŠ”μ§€ μ΄ν•΄ν•˜κ³  이 문제λ₯Ό
12:23
attention. I'm ready to help. And lastly, I hear you.
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지적해 μ£Όμ…”μ„œ κ°μ‚¬ν•©λ‹ˆλ‹€. 도와 λ“œλ¦΄ μ€€λΉ„κ°€ λ˜μ—ˆμŠ΅λ‹ˆλ‹€. 그리고 λ§ˆμ§€λ§‰μœΌλ‘œ, λ‚˜λŠ” 당신을 λ“£μŠ΅λ‹ˆλ‹€.
12:28
This is certainly a frustrating situation and I'm ready to help everyone.
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이것은 ν™•μ‹€νžˆ μ‹€λ§μŠ€λŸ¬μš΄ 상황이며 λͺ¨λ‘λ₯Ό λ„μšΈ μ€€λΉ„κ°€ λ˜μ–΄ μžˆμŠ΅λ‹ˆλ‹€.
12:32
A of those phrases shows empathy by letting the speaker know
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μ΄λŸ¬ν•œ 문ꡬ 쀑 ν•˜λ‚˜λŠ” ν™”μž κ°€ μžμ‹ μ˜ 말을
12:37
that they have been heard and understood, and you are there to support them.
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λ“£κ³  μ΄ν•΄ν–ˆμŒμ„ μ•Œλ¦¬κ³  당신이 그듀을 μ§€μ›ν•˜κΈ° μœ„ν•΄ κ±°κΈ° μžˆλ‹€λŠ” 것을 μ•Œλ €μ€ŒμœΌλ‘œμ¨ 곡감을 λ³΄μ—¬μ€λ‹ˆλ‹€.
12:43
Now in situations when a solution is expected. For example,
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이제 μ†”λ£¨μ…˜μ΄ μ˜ˆμƒλ˜λŠ” μƒν™©μ—μ„œ . 예λ₯Ό λ“€μ–΄,
12:48
if a customer is upset, of course they want some kind of a resolution.
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고객이 ν™”κ°€ λ‚œ κ²½μš°μ—λŠ” λ‹Ήμ—°νžˆ μ–΄λ–€ μ’…λ₯˜μ˜ 해결책을 μ›ν•©λ‹ˆλ‹€.
12:53
Here's what you might add on. You can start with,
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μΆ”κ°€ν•  수 μžˆλŠ” λ‚΄μš©μ€ λ‹€μŒκ³Ό κ°™μŠ΅λ‹ˆλ‹€ .
12:57
I understand how frustrating this is and I'm ready to help then provide
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이 λ¬Έμ œκ°€ μ–Όλ§ˆλ‚˜ μ‹€λ§μŠ€λŸ¬μš΄μ§€ μ΄ν•΄ν•˜κ³  있으며 해결책을 μ œκ³΅ν•  μ€€λΉ„κ°€ λ˜μ–΄ μžˆμŠ΅λ‹ˆλ‹€
13:02
the solution. For example,
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. 예λ₯Ό λ“€μ–΄ μ œμ•ˆμ„
13:04
we'd like to offer you and then describe the offer.
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μ œμ•ˆν•œ λ‹€μŒ μ œμ•ˆμ— λŒ€ν•΄ μ„€λͺ…ν•˜κ³  μ‹ΆμŠ΅λ‹ˆλ‹€.
13:08
We can have our maintenance team there by,
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μš°λ¦¬λŠ” μœ μ§€ 관리 νŒ€μ„ 거기에 두고 μš°λ¦¬κ°€ 도움이 될
13:11
and then name the date and time we would it help if we,
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λ‚ μ§œμ™€ μ‹œκ°„μ„ μ§€μ •ν•œ λ‹€μŒ κ·€ν•˜μ˜
13:16
and then insert your offer or solution, we will,
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μ œμ•ˆ μ΄λ‚˜ μ†”λ£¨μ…˜μ„ μ‚½μž…ν•œ
13:22
and then state exactly what you're going to do or what your team is going to do.
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λ‹€μŒ κ·€ν•˜κ°€ ν•˜λ €λŠ” 일 λ˜λŠ” κ·€ν•˜μ˜ νŒ€μ΄ 무엇인지 μ •ν™•νžˆ λͺ…μ‹œν•  수 μžˆμŠ΅λ‹ˆλ‹€. ν• κ±°μ•Ό. 이 μ„Έ 가지 μ „λž΅μ„ μˆ˜ν–‰ν•œ ν›„
13:27
How would you feel about,
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μ–΄λ–»κ²Œ μƒκ°ν•˜κ³ 
13:29
and then offer your solution or idea once you've gone through those
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μ†”λ£¨μ…˜μ΄λ‚˜ 아이디어λ₯Ό μ œκ³΅ν•˜μ‹œκ² μŠ΅λ‹ˆκΉŒ
13:34
three strategies?
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? μ§„μ‹¬μœΌλ‘œ 곡감을
13:35
The last step in demonstrating empathy with sincerity is to follow
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ν‘œν˜„ν•˜λŠ” λ§ˆμ§€λ§‰ λ‹¨κ³„λŠ” 후속 쑰치λ₯Ό μ·¨ν•˜κ³ 
13:40
up and express appreciation while it's important to express
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감사λ₯Ό ν‘œν˜„ν•˜λŠ” κ²ƒμ΄μ§€λ§Œ 즉각적인 상황에 λŒ€ν•œ
13:45
empathy in response to an immediate situation,
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μ‘λ‹΅μœΌλ‘œ 곡감을 ν‘œν˜„ν•˜κ³ 
13:49
asking follow up questions, a skill.
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후속 μ§ˆλ¬Έμ„ ν•˜λŠ” 기술이 μ€‘μš”ν•©λ‹ˆλ‹€.
13:52
My Fluency School students practice in depth is an increased
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My Fluency School 학생듀이 깊이 있게 μ—°μŠ΅ν•˜λŠ” 것은
13:57
level of skill when demonstrating empathy in a sincere way.
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진정성 μžˆλŠ” λ°©μ‹μœΌλ‘œ 곡감을 보여쀄 λ•Œ 기술 μˆ˜μ€€μ΄ λ†’μ•„μ§€λŠ” κ²ƒμž…λ‹ˆλ‹€.
14:02
So whether you're talking with a loved one who just had a terrible day or
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λ”°λΌμ„œ 방금 μ§€λ…ν•œ ν•˜λ£¨λ₯Ό 보낸 μ‚¬λž‘ν•˜λŠ” μ‚¬λžŒκ³Ό 이야기λ₯Ό λ‚˜λˆ„λ“ 
14:06
working with an upset customer,
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ν™”λ‚œ 고객과 ν•¨κ»˜ μΌν•˜λ“  관계없이
14:09
here's how you can effectively follow up and express appreciation.
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효과적으둜 후속 쑰치λ₯Ό μ·¨ν•˜κ³  감사λ₯Ό ν‘œν•  수 μžˆλŠ” 방법은 λ‹€μŒκ³Ό κ°™μŠ΅λ‹ˆλ‹€.
14:14
How are you feeling today? How are you feeling?
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였늘 기뢄이 μ–΄λ•Œ? 기뢄이 μ–΄λ•Œ?
14:17
Or how have you been since we last spoke?
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λ˜λŠ” μš°λ¦¬κ°€ λ§ˆμ§€λ§‰μœΌλ‘œ λ§ν•œ μ΄ν›„λ‘œ μ–΄λ–»κ²Œ μ§€λƒˆμŠ΅λ‹ˆκΉŒ?
14:19
How have things progressed since we last spoke? How's the process going?
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μš°λ¦¬κ°€ λ§ˆμ§€λ§‰μœΌλ‘œ λ§ν•œ μ΄ν›„λ‘œ 일이 μ–΄λ–»κ²Œ μ§„ν–‰λ˜μ—ˆμŠ΅λ‹ˆκΉŒ ? ν”„λ‘œμ„ΈμŠ€λŠ” μ–΄λ–»κ²Œ μ§„ν–‰λ˜κ³  μžˆμŠ΅λ‹ˆκΉŒ?
14:25
We value your feedback and I'd like to know how things are going since we
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μš°λ¦¬λŠ” κ·€ν•˜μ˜ ν”Όλ“œλ°±μ„ μ†Œμ€‘νžˆ μ—¬κΈ°λ©° ν•΄λ‹Ή μ†”λ£¨μ…˜μ„ κ΅¬ν˜„ν•œ 이후 상황이 μ–΄λ–»κ²Œ μ§„ν–‰λ˜κ³  μžˆλŠ”μ§€ μ•Œκ³  μ‹ΆμŠ΅λ‹ˆλ‹€
14:29
implemented that solution. Not only do these open questions,
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. μ΄λŸ¬ν•œ 곡개 μ§ˆλ¬Έμ€
14:33
invite more details and converse,
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더 λ§Žμ€ μ„ΈλΆ€ 정보λ₯Ό μ΄ˆλŒ€ν•˜κ³  λŒ€ν™”λ₯Ό λ‚˜λˆŒ 뿐만
14:37
but they also help you gauge whether or not more support is needed.
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μ•„λ‹ˆλΌ μΆ”κ°€ 지원이 ν•„μš”ν•œμ§€ μ—¬λΆ€λ₯Ό νŒλ‹¨ν•˜λŠ” 데에도 도움이 λ©λ‹ˆλ‹€ .
14:42
Now, how does all of this look,
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이제 이 λͺ¨λ“  것이 μ–΄λ–»κ²Œ λ³΄μ΄λ‚˜μš”?
14:44
how do these four strategies go together in a spoken response or
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이 λ„€ 가지 μ „λž΅μ΄ ꡬ두 μ‘λ‹΅μ΄λ‚˜ μ΄λ©”μΌμ—μ„œ μ–΄λ–»κ²Œ ν•¨κ»˜ μ‚¬μš©λ˜λ‚˜μš”
14:49
an email?
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?
14:50
I recently wrote an email to a company expressing my frustration with their
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λ‚˜λŠ” 졜근 λͺ‡ λ…„ λ™μ•ˆ μ‹€μ œλ‘œ μ‚¬μš©ν•΄ 온 μ œν’ˆμ— λŒ€ν•œ λΆˆλ§Œμ„ ν‘œν˜„ν•˜λŠ” 이메일을 νšŒμ‚¬μ— μΌμŠ΅λ‹ˆλ‹€
14:55
product, a product I've actually used for years. And to be quite honest,
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. 그리고 μ†”μ§νžˆ λ§ν•΄μ„œ,
15:00
I wasn't just frustrated. I was angry. I was annoyed in my email.
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λ‚˜λŠ” 단지 μ’Œμ ˆν•˜μ§€ μ•Šμ•˜μŠ΅λ‹ˆλ‹€. λ‚˜λŠ” 화가났닀. λ‚˜λŠ” λ‚΄ 이메일에 화가났닀.
15:05
I was sure to be professional, but I made it very clear how upset I was.
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λ‚˜λŠ” ν”„λ‘œνŽ˜μ…”λ„ν•  것이라고 ν™•μ‹ ν–ˆμ§€λ§Œ, λ‚΄κ°€ μ–Όλ§ˆλ‚˜ μ†μƒν–ˆλŠ”μ§€λ₯Ό μ•„μ£Ό λΆ„λͺ…ν•˜κ²Œ λ°ν˜”λ‹€.
15:11
And I have to be honest with you.
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그리고 λ‚˜λŠ” λ‹Ήμ‹ μ—κ²Œ μ •μ§ν•΄μ•Όν•©λ‹ˆλ‹€.
15:13
I was stunned in a very positive way with the email
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μ €λŠ” μ œκ°€ 받은 이메일 응닡에 맀우 긍정적인 λ°©μ‹μœΌλ‘œ λ†€λžμŠ΅λ‹ˆλ‹€
15:18
response I received. In fact,
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. 사싀,
15:20
it followed every single one of the strategies I've just shared with you today.
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였늘 λ§μ”€λ“œλ¦° λͺ¨λ“  μ „λž΅μ„ λ”°λžμŠ΅λ‹ˆλ‹€.
15:25
If you'd like to see a full image of this email, I've shared it with this lesson
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이 μ΄λ©”μΌμ˜ 전체 이미지λ₯Ό 보고 μ‹ΆμœΌμ‹œλ©΄
15:31
at my Speak Confident English website,
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제 Speak Confident English μ›Ήμ‚¬μ΄νŠΈμ—μ„œ 이 레슨과 ν•¨κ»˜ κ³΅μœ ν–ˆμœΌλ©°
15:33
and I'll leave a link directly to this lesson in the video notes below.
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μ•„λž˜ λ™μ˜μƒ λ…ΈνŠΈμ— 이 레슨으둜 직접 μ—°κ²°λ˜λŠ” 링크λ₯Ό λ‚¨κ²¨λ‘κ² μŠ΅λ‹ˆλ‹€.
15:37
But here are a few key phrases from the email that I'd like to share with you.
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ν•˜μ§€λ§Œ μ΄λ©”μΌμ—μ„œ μ—¬λŸ¬λΆ„κ³Ό κ³΅μœ ν•˜κ³  싢은 λͺ‡ 가지 핡심 문ꡬ가 μžˆμŠ΅λ‹ˆλ‹€.
15:42
And as I do,
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κ·Έλ ‡κ²Œ ν•˜λ©΄
15:43
I think you'll immediately notice which strategies are being used.
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μ–΄λ–€ μ „λž΅μ΄ μ‚¬μš©λ˜κ³  μžˆλŠ”μ§€ μ¦‰μ‹œ μ•Œ 수 μžˆμ„ κ²ƒμž…λ‹ˆλ‹€.
15:49
The email started with, I completely understand how important it is.
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이메일은 'λ‚˜λŠ” 그것이 μ–Όλ§ˆλ‚˜ μ€‘μš”ν•œμ§€ μ™„μ „νžˆ μ΄ν•΄ν•©λ‹ˆλ‹€'둜 μ‹œμž‘ν–ˆμŠ΅λ‹ˆλ‹€.
15:54
I sincerely apologize.
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μ§„μ‹¬μœΌλ‘œ μ‚¬κ³Όλ“œλ¦½λ‹ˆλ‹€.
15:56
And I do appreciate your 2 cents about the matter.
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그리고 λ‚˜λŠ” κ·Έ λ¬Έμ œμ— λŒ€ν•΄ λ‹Ήμ‹ μ˜ 2μ„ΌνŠΈμ— κ°μ‚¬ν•©λ‹ˆλ‹€.
16:00
It totally makes sense. And I'm on your side here.
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μ™„μ „νžˆ λ§μ΄λ©λ‹ˆλ‹€. 그리고 λ‚˜λŠ” μ—¬κΈ°μ„œ λ‹Ήμ‹  νŽΈμž…λ‹ˆλ‹€.
16:05
I made sure to talk to my team about it.
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λ‚˜λŠ” 그것에 λŒ€ν•΄ 우리 νŒ€κ³Ό μ΄μ•ΌκΈ°ν–ˆμŠ΅λ‹ˆλ‹€. 이 λ¬Έμ œμ— λŒ€ν•œ
16:07
Should we hear any word or update on this matter rest assure I
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μ†Œμ‹μ΄λ‚˜ μ—…λ°μ΄νŠΈκ°€ 있으면
16:12
will personally make sure this information is relayed to you.
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개인적으둜 이 정보가 κ·€ν•˜μ—κ²Œ μ „λ‹¬λ˜λ„λ‘ ν•  κ²ƒμž…λ‹ˆλ‹€. κ·Έ 이메일을 읽은
16:16
How do you think I felt after reading that email, I felt heard,
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ν›„ μ–΄λ–€ λŠλ‚Œμ΄ λ“€μ—ˆλ‹€κ³  μƒκ°ν•˜μ‹­λ‹ˆκΉŒ?
16:22
understood, and appreciated.
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16:25
Although I did not get the solution I wanted in the end,
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κ²°κ΅­ μ›ν•˜λŠ” μ†”λ£¨μ…˜μ„ μ–»μ§€λŠ” λͺ»ν–ˆμ§€λ§Œ
16:29
I trusted the company more.
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νšŒμ‚¬λ₯Ό 더 μ‹ λ’°ν–ˆμŠ΅λ‹ˆλ‹€.
16:32
If you are ready to demonstrate genuine empathy in English,
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μ˜μ–΄λ‘œ μ§„μ •ν•œ 곡감을 보여쀄 μ€€λΉ„κ°€ λ˜μ—ˆμœΌλ©΄
16:36
my recommendation is that you choose two or three phrases from the lesson that
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μˆ˜μ—…μ—μ„œ
16:41
you like, or that you feel comfortable with. Write them down,
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μ’‹μ•„ν•˜κ±°λ‚˜ νŽΈμ•ˆν•˜κ²Œ λŠλΌλŠ” 2~3개의 문ꡬλ₯Ό μ„ νƒν•˜λŠ” 것이 μ’‹μŠ΅λ‹ˆλ‹€. 그것듀을 적고
16:46
practice saying them regularly. Use them as often as you can,
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μ •κΈ°μ μœΌλ‘œ λ§ν•˜λŠ” μ—°μŠ΅μ„ ν•˜μ‹­μ‹œμ˜€.
16:51
just like adding new words, English vocabulary,
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μƒˆλ‘œμš΄ 단어, μ˜μ–΄ μ–΄νœ˜λ₯Ό μΆ”κ°€ν•˜λŠ” 것과 λ§ˆμ°¬κ°€μ§€λ‘œ κ°€λŠ₯ν•œ ν•œ 자주 μ‚¬μš©ν•˜μ„Έμš”.
16:54
repeating phrases consistently is an important step in helping
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ꡬλ₯Ό μ§€μ†μ μœΌλ‘œ λ°˜λ³΅ν•˜λŠ” 것은 ν•„μš”ν•œ μˆœκ°„μ— μ΄λŸ¬ν•œ ꡬλ₯Ό κΈ°μ–΅ν•˜λŠ” 데 μ€‘μš”ν•œ λ‹¨κ³„μž…λ‹ˆλ‹€
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you remember these phrases, the instant that you need them.
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. μžμ‹ κ°μ„ ν‚€μš°κ³  μ˜μ–΄λ‘œ μžμ‹ μ„ μ‰½κ²Œ ν‘œν˜„ν•  수 μžˆλŠ” 방법을 μ„€λͺ…ν•˜λŠ”
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μ˜μ–΄ κ΅μœ‘μ—μ„œ μ›ν•˜λŠ” 것을 λ§ν•˜λŠ” 방법을 무료둜 λ‹€μš΄λ‘œλ“œν•  μˆ˜λ„ μžˆμŠ΅λ‹ˆλ‹€
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which outlines how to build confidence and be able to express yourself
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easily in English with that.
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