How to Disagree in English Politely | English Conversation Skills

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ไธ‹ใฎ่‹ฑ่ชžๅญ—ๅน•ใ‚’ใƒ€ใƒ–ใƒซใ‚ฏใƒชใƒƒใ‚ฏใ™ใ‚‹ใจๅ‹•็”ปใ‚’ๅ†็”Ÿใงใใพใ™ใ€‚ ็ฟป่จณใ•ใ‚ŒใŸๅญ—ๅน•ใฏๆฉŸๆขฐ็ฟป่จณใงใ™ใ€‚

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How to disagree in English politely.
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่‹ฑ่ชžใงไธๅฏงใซๅๅฏพใ™ใ‚‹ๆ–นๆณ•.
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Is that even possible?
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ใใ‚Œใฏๅฏ่ƒฝใงใ™ใ‹๏ผŸ ไผš่ฉฑใ‚„้–ขไฟ‚ใ‚’ๅฐ็„กใ—ใซใ—ใŸใใชใ„ใจใ„ใ†็†็”ฑใงใ€็•ฐใชใ‚‹ๆ„่ฆ‹ใ‚’ๅ…ฑๆœ‰ใ™ใ‚‹
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If you've ever felt hesitant about sharing a differing opinion because
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ใ“ใจใซใŸใ‚ใ‚‰ใ„ใ‚’ๆ„Ÿใ˜ใŸใ“ใจใŒใ‚ใ‚‹ใฎใฏ
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you didn't want to spoil a conversation or relationship,
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you're definitely not alone. For native and non-native speakers alike.
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ใ‚ใชใŸใ ใ‘ใงใฏใ‚ใ‚Šใพใ›ใ‚“ใ€‚ ใƒใ‚คใƒ†ใ‚ฃใƒ–ใ‚นใƒ”ใƒผใ‚ซใƒผใ‚‚้žใƒใ‚คใƒ†ใ‚ฃใƒ–ใ‚นใƒ”ใƒผใ‚ซใƒผใ‚‚ๅŒๆง˜ใซใ€‚ ใ‚ใพใ‚Šๆ”ปๆ’ƒ็š„ใพใŸใฏๅฏพ็ซ‹็š„ใซ่žใ“ใˆใ‚‹ใ“ใจใชใใ€ไป–ใฎไบบใจ็•ฐใชใ‚‹ๆ„่ฆ‹ใ‚„ๆ„่ฆ‹ใฎ็›ธ้•ใ‚’่กจๆ˜Žใ™ใ‚‹
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It can be a struggle to know how to voice a differing opinion or
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ๆ–นๆณ•ใ‚’็Ÿฅใ‚‹ใฎใฏ้›ฃใ—ใ„ใ‹ใ‚‚ใ—ใ‚Œใพใ›ใ‚“
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a disagreement with others without sounding too aggressive or confrontational,
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and here's what makes it more challenging.
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ใŒใ€ใ“ใ“ใŒใใ‚Œใ‚’ใ•ใ‚‰ใซๅ›ฐ้›ฃใซใ—ใฆใ„ใ‚‹็†็”ฑใงใ™ใ€‚
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There are cultural implications as well. For example,
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ๆ–‡ๅŒ–็š„ใชๅฝฑ้Ÿฟใ‚‚ใ‚ใ‚Šใพใ™ ใ€‚ ใŸใจใˆใฐใ€
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in some English-speaking cultures,
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ไธ€้ƒจใฎ่‹ฑ่ชžๅœใฎๆ–‡ๅŒ–ใงใฏใ€
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disagreements can be opportunities for dialogue and innovation
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ๆ„่ฆ‹ใฎ็›ธ้•ใฏๅ›ž้ฟใ™ในใ็ด›ไบ‰ใงใฏใชใใ€ๅฏพ่ฉฑใจ้ฉๆ–ฐใฎๆฉŸไผšใจใชใ‚‹ๅ ดๅˆใŒใ‚ใ‚Šใพใ™
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rather than conflicts to be avoided. However,
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ใ€‚ ใŸใ ใ—ใ€
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this is not a universal perspective for many others.
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ใ“ใ‚Œใฏไป–ใฎ ๅคšใใฎไบบใซใจใฃใฆๆ™ฎ้็š„ใช่ฆ–็‚นใงใฏใ‚ใ‚Šใพใ›ใ‚“ใ€‚
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In English-speaking culture,
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่‹ฑ่ชžๅœใฎๆ–‡ๅŒ–ใงใฏใ€
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a direct disagreement can be viewed as disrespectful and disruptive.
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็›ดๆŽฅใฎๆ„่ฆ‹ใฎ็›ธ้•ใฏ ็„ก็คผใง็ ดๅฃŠ็š„ใชใ‚‚ใฎใจใฟใชใ•ใ‚Œใ‚‹ใ“ใจใŒใ‚ใ‚Šใพใ™ใ€‚
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So while English speakers often express their agreement with enthusiasm,
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ใใฎใŸใ‚ใ€่‹ฑ่ชž่ฉฑ่€…ใฏใ—ใฐใ—ใฐ ็†ฑๆ„ใ‚’ๆŒใฃใฆๅŒๆ„ใ‚’่กจๆ˜Žใ—ใพใ™ใŒใ€
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you might be surprised to discover that the strategies and common phrases used
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for disagreements are, shall we say, muddy,
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ๆ„่ฆ‹ใฎ็›ธ้•ใซไฝฟ็”จใ•ใ‚Œใ‚‹ๆˆฆ็•ฅใ‚„ๅธธๅฅ—ๅฅใฏใ€ใ„ใ‚ใฐ ๆฟใฃใฆใ„ใฆใ€
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less clear, less obvious, almost hidden.
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ใ‚ใพใ‚Šๆ˜Ž็ขบใงใฏใชใใ€ใ‚ใพใ‚Šๆ˜Ž็™ฝใงใฏใชใใ€ใปใจใ‚“ใฉ้š ใ•ใ‚Œใฆใ„ใ‚‹ใ“ใจใซๆฐ—ใฅใใ‹ใ‚‚ใ—ใ‚Œใพใ›ใ‚“ใ€‚
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In fact,
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ๅฎŸ้š›ใ€
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the language of disagreement in English might require you to read between the
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่‹ฑ่ชžใงๆ„่ฆ‹ใฎ็›ธ้•ใ‚’่กจ็พใ™ใ‚‹ใซใฏใ€ ่กŒ้–“ใ‚’่ชญใ‚€ๅฟ…่ฆใŒใ‚ใ‚‹ใ‹ใ‚‚ใ—ใ‚Œใพใ›ใ‚“
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lines.
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To read between the lines means to understand the intended meaning of something
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่กŒ้–“ใ‚’่ชญใ‚€ใจใฏใ€็›ดๆŽฅ่กจ็พใ•ใ‚Œใฆใ„ใชใ„ ใ‚‚ใฎใฎๆ„ๅ›ณใ•ใ‚ŒใŸๆ„ๅ‘ณใ‚’็†่งฃใ™ใ‚‹ใ“ใจใ‚’ๆ„ๅ‘ณใ—ใพใ™
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that was not expressed directly.
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Understanding these nuances is crucial not only for how you express yourself
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ใ“ใ‚Œใ‚‰ใฎใƒ‹ใƒฅใ‚ขใƒณใ‚นใ‚’็†่งฃใ™ใ‚‹ใ“ใจใฏใ€ใใฎ่จ€่ชžใง ่‡ชๅˆ†่‡ช่บซใ‚’่กจ็พใ™ใ‚‹ๆ–นๆณ•ใ ใ‘ใงใชใใ€ใใฎ่จ€่ชžใ‚’ไฝฟ็”จใ™ใ‚‹ไบบใ€…ใฎๆ–‡ๅŒ–็š„็Šถๆณใ‚’ใฉใฎ
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in the language,
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but also for how you navigate the cultural landscape of those who
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ใ‚ˆใ†ใซใƒŠใƒ“ใ‚ฒใƒผใƒˆใ™ใ‚‹ใ‹ใซใจใฃใฆใ‚‚้‡่ฆใงใ™
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use that language. That's why today we're going to discuss the strategies,
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ใ€‚ ใใฎใŸใ‚ใ€ไปŠๆ—ฅใฏ่‹ฑ่ชžใงใฎ ๆˆฆ็•ฅใ€
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the common phrases and the cultural do's and don'ts of
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ไธ€่ˆฌ็š„ใชใƒ•ใƒฌใƒผใ‚บใ€ๆ„่ฆ‹ใฎ็›ธ้•ใซๅฏพใ™ใ‚‹ ๆ–‡ๅŒ–็š„ใชๆŽจๅฅจไบ‹้ …ใจ็ฆๆญขไบ‹้ …ใซใคใ„ใฆ่ชฌๆ˜Žใ—ใพใ™
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disagreements in English.
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So whether you're having a discussion in a boardroom or just chatting with
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ใ—ใŸใŒใฃใฆใ€ๅฝนๅ“กๅฎคใงใƒ‡ใ‚ฃใ‚นใ‚ซใƒƒใ‚ทใƒงใƒณใ—ใฆใ„ใ‚‹ๅ ดๅˆใงใ‚‚ ใ€ๅ˜ใซใ‚ณใƒผใƒ’ใƒผใ‚’้ฃฒใฟใชใŒใ‚‰ๅ‹ไบบใจใŠใ—ใ‚ƒในใ‚Šใ—ใฆใ„ใ‚‹ๅ ดๅˆใงใ‚‚
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friends over coffee, mastering this skill will enhance your communication,
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ใ€ใ“ใฎใ‚นใ‚ญใƒซใ‚’ใƒžใ‚นใ‚ฟใƒผใ™ใ‚‹ใจใ€ ใ‚ณใƒŸใƒฅใƒ‹ใ‚ฑใƒผใ‚ทใƒงใƒณใŒๅผทๅŒ–ใ•ใ‚Œใ€ไบบ้–“
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empower your relationships, and help you feel comfortable speaking up,
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้–ขไฟ‚ใŒๅผทๅŒ–ใ•ใ‚Œใ€่‡ชไฟกใ‚’ๆŒใฃใฆๆ•ฌๆ„ใ‚’ๆŒใฃใฆ่‡ชๅˆ†
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sharing your ideas confidently and respectfully.
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ใฎใ‚ขใ‚คใƒ‡ใ‚ขใ‚’ๅ…ฑๆœ‰ใ—ใฆใ€ๅฎ‰ๅฟƒใ—ใฆ็™บ่จ€ใงใใ‚‹ใ‚ˆใ†ใซใชใ‚Šใพใ™ ใ€‚
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Now, before we go any further, if this is your first time here, welcome.
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ใ•ใฆใ€ๅ…ˆใซ้€ฒใ‚€ๅ‰ใซใ€ ใ“ใ“ใซๅˆใ‚ใฆๆฅใ‚‰ใ‚Œใ‚‹ๆ–นใฏใ€ใ‚ˆใ†ใ“ใใ€‚
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็งใฏ่‹ฑ่ชžใฎ ๆตๆšขใ•ใจ่‡ชไฟกใ‚’้ซ˜ใ‚ใ‚‹ใ‚ณใƒผใƒใฎใ‚ขใƒณใƒใƒžใƒชใƒผใงใ™ใ€‚ ็งใŒใ‚„ใฃใฆ
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Everything I do is designed to help you get the confidence you want for your
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่‹ฑ่ชžใงใฎ็”Ÿๆดปใ‚„ไป•ไบ‹ใซ่‡ชไฟกใ‚’ๆŒใฆใ‚‹ใ‚ˆใ†ใ‚ตใƒใƒผใƒˆใ™ใ‚‹ใ“ใจใ‚’็›ฎ็š„ใจใ—ใฆใ„ใพใ™ใ€‚
02:39
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็งใ‹ใ‚‰ใฎไฝ•ๅนดใ‚‚ใฎ็„กๆ–™ใƒฌใƒƒใ‚นใƒณใ‚„
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02:45
you can get all of that and more at my Speak Confident English website.
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็งใฎ Speak Confident English Web ใ‚ตใ‚คใƒˆใงใใฎใ™ในใฆใ‚„ใใฎไป–ใฎๆƒ…ๅ ฑใ‚’ๅ…ฅๆ‰‹ใงใใพใ™ใ€‚
02:49
For the remainder of this lesson, we're going to do three important things.
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ใ“ใฎใƒฌใƒƒใ‚นใƒณใฎๆฎ‹ใ‚Šใฎ้ƒจๅˆ†ใงใฏใ€ 3 ใคใฎ้‡่ฆใชใ“ใจใ‚’ๅฎŸ่กŒใ—ใพใ™ใ€‚
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First,
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I wanna highlight some of the key strategies to use to effectively disagree
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ใพใšใ€
ๅŠนๆžœ็š„ใซๅๅฏพใ—
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and to do it politely. Then we'll take a look at common phrases,
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ใ€็คผๅ„€ๆญฃใ—ใๅๅฏพใ™ใ‚‹ใŸใ‚ใซไฝฟ็”จใ™ใ‚‹้‡่ฆใชๆˆฆ็•ฅใ‚’ใ„ใใคใ‹็ดนไป‹ใ—ใŸใ„ใจๆ€ใ„ใพใ™ใ€‚ ๆฌกใซใ€
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English speakers use to employ those strategies, and finally,
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่‹ฑ่ชž่ฉฑ่€…ใŒใ“ใ‚Œใ‚‰ใฎๆˆฆ็•ฅใ‚’ๆŽก็”จใ™ใ‚‹ใŸใ‚ใซไฝฟ็”จใ™ใ‚‹ไธ€่ˆฌ็š„ใชใƒ•ใƒฌใƒผใ‚บใ‚’่ฆ‹ใฆใ„ใใพใ™ใ€‚ ๆœ€ๅพŒใซใ€
03:06
I'll finish with some real-life examples so that you can use them as a template
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ๅฎŸ้š›ใฎไพ‹ใ‚’ใ„ใใคใ‹็คบใ—ใฆใ€ ใใ‚Œใ‚‰ใ‚’ใƒ†ใƒณใƒ—ใƒฌใƒผใƒˆใจใ—ใฆไฝฟ็”จใ—
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and practice them so that you're ready for any conversation,
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ใ€ๆบ–ๅ‚™ใŒๆ•ดใ†ใพใง็ทด็ฟ’ใงใใ‚‹ใ‚ˆใ†ใซใ—ใพใ™ใ€‚ ใ‚ใ‚‰ใ‚†ใ‚‹ไผš่ฉฑใ€
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especially when you want to share your point of view.
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็‰นใซ ่‡ชๅˆ†ใฎ่ฆ–็‚นใ‚’ๅ…ฑๆœ‰ใ—ใŸใ„ๅ ดๅˆใซใ€‚
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If it's different from others,
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ไป–ใฎๆ„่ฆ‹ใจ็•ฐใชใ‚‹ๅ ดๅˆใ€
03:20
there's no question that the art of disagreement varies from
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ๆ„่ฆ‹ใฎ็›ธ้•ใ‚’่กจ็พใ™ใ‚‹ๆŠ€่ก“ใŒ
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one culture to another, from one person to another,
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ๆ–‡ๅŒ–ใ”ใจใซใ€ ไบบใ”ใจใซใ€
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or even one situation to another. In other words, it's all quite fluid.
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ใ•ใ‚‰ใซใฏ็Šถๆณใ”ใจใซ็•ฐใชใ‚‹ใ“ใจใฏ็–‘ใ„ใฎไฝ™ๅœฐใŒใ‚ใ‚Šใพใ›ใ‚“ใ€‚ ่จ€ใ„ๆ›ใˆใ‚Œใฐใ€ใ™ในใฆใŒ้žๅธธใซๆตๅ‹•็š„ใ ใจใ„ใ†ใ“ใจใงใ™ใ€‚
03:33
However, there are some strategies we can use to always be
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ใŸใ ใ—ใ€ๆ„่ฆ‹ใฎ็›ธ้•ใซๅฏพใ—ใฆ ๅธธใซ็คผๅ„€ๆญฃใ—ใใ™ใ‚‹ใŸใ‚ใซไฝฟ็”จใงใใ‚‹ๆˆฆ็•ฅใŒใ„ใใคใ‹ใ‚ใ‚Šใพใ™
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polite in our disagreement. In a moment,
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ใ€‚ ใ“ใ‚Œใ‹ใ‚‰
03:42
I'm going to share with you several strategies,
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ใ„ใใคใ‹ใฎๆˆฆ็•ฅใ‚’็ดนไป‹ใ—ใพใ™
03:44
but I want to start with one thing that's particularly important for English
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ใŒใ€ๆ„่ฆ‹ใฎ็›ธ้•ใŒๆฟ€ใ—ใ„่‹ฑไผš่ฉฑใซใŠใ„ใฆ็‰นใซ้‡่ฆใช 1 ใคใฎใ“ใจใ‹ใ‚‰ๅง‹ใ‚ใŸใ„ใจๆ€ใ„ใพใ™
03:49
conversations where there's strong disagreement.
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03:51
If you're in a conversation and you want to end with a positive outcome,
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ไผš่ฉฑไธญใซ ๅ‰ๅ‘ใใช็ตๆžœใง็ต‚ใ‚ใ‚ŠใŸใ„ๅ ดๅˆใ€ๆ„่ฆ‹ใฎ็›ธ้•ใซๅฏพใ™ใ‚‹
03:56
one important aspect of disagreements is to always stay calm.
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้‡่ฆใชๅด้ขใฎ 1 ใคใฏใ€ ๅธธใซๅ†ท้™ใ•ใ‚’ไฟใคใ“ใจใงใ™ใ€‚
04:01
One way we can do that is to maintain very neutral language and
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ใใฎใŸใ‚ใซใงใใ‚‹ 1 ใคใฎๆ–นๆณ•ใฏใ€ใ‚ณใƒŸใƒฅใƒ‹ใ‚ฑใƒผใ‚ทใƒงใƒณใฎ้š›ใซ ้žๅธธใซไธญ็ซ‹็š„ใช่จ€่ชžใจ
04:06
neutral tone when communicating. The goal of any conversation,
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ไธญ็ซ‹็š„ใชๅฃ่ชฟใ‚’็ถญๆŒใ™ใ‚‹ใ“ใจใงใ™ใ€‚ ใŸใจใˆ
04:10
even those that include disagreements,
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ๆ„่ฆ‹ใฎ็›ธ้•ใ‚’ๅซใ‚€ไผš่ฉฑใงใ‚ใฃใฆใ‚‚ใ€ไผš่ฉฑใฎ็›ฎๆจ™ใฏใ€
04:13
is to ensure that everyone has the opportunity to be heard,
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ๅ…จๅ“กใŒ่ฉฑใ‚’ ่žใ„ใฆใ‚‚ใ‚‰ใˆใ‚‹ๆฉŸไผšใ‚’็ขบไฟใ™ใ‚‹ใ“ใจใงใ‚ใ‚Šใ€
04:18
not to walk away feeling frustrated. Now,
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ใ‚คใƒฉใ‚คใƒฉใ—ใฆ็ซ‹ใกๅŽปใ‚‰ใชใ„ใ‚ˆใ†ใซใ™ใ‚‹ใ“ใจใงใ™ใ€‚ ใ“ใ“ใงใ€
04:21
if you're not sure what I mean by a neutral tone,
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ไธญ็ซ‹็š„ใชใƒˆใƒผใƒณใฎๆ„ๅ‘ณใŒใ‚ใ‹ใ‚‰ใชใ„ๅ ดๅˆใฏใ€ใ‚ใชใŸ
04:24
I want you to think about people in your life that you know really well,
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ใฎไบบ็”Ÿใงใ‚ˆใ็Ÿฅใฃใฆใ„ใ‚‹ไบบใ€…ใฎใ“ใจใ‚’่€ƒใˆใฆใ€ใใฎใ†ใกใฎ 1 ไบบใซ้›ป่ฉฑใ‚’
04:28
and then imagine that you call one of them on the telephone.
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ใ‹ใ‘ใ‚‹ใจใ“ใ‚ใ‚’ๆƒณๅƒใ—ใฆใใ ใ•ใ„ ใ€‚
04:31
You hear something in their voice instantly,
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ๅฝผใ‚‰ใฎๅฃฐใซไฝ•ใ‹ใŒ็žฌๆ™‚ใซ่žใ“ใˆใ€ใใฎๆ„Ÿๆƒ…ใŒๅฃฐใซๅซใพใ‚Œใฆใ„ใ‚‹ใŸใ‚ใ€
04:34
and you know whether they're feeling sad, excited,
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ๅฝผใ‚‰ใŒ ๆ‚ฒใ—ใ„ใ€่ˆˆๅฅฎใ—ใฆใ„ใ‚‹ใ€
04:37
or angry because they carry that emotion in their voice.
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ใพใŸใฏๆ€’ใฃใฆใ„ใ‚‹ใ‹ใฉใ†ใ‹ใŒใ‚ใ‹ใ‚Šใพใ™ ใ€‚
04:42
When we are in conversations with disagreement,
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ๆ„่ฆ‹ใฎ็›ธ้•ใŒใ‚ใ‚‹ไผš่ฉฑใ‚’ใ—ใฆใ„ใ‚‹ใจใใ€
04:45
we aim to remove that emotion from our voice,
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็งใŸใกใฏใใฎ ๆ„Ÿๆƒ…ใ‚’ๅฃฐใ‹ใ‚‰ๅ–ใ‚Š้™คใใ€
04:49
maintaining again that calm, neutral tone,
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ๅ†ใณ็ฉใ‚„ใ‹ใงไธญ็ซ‹็š„ใชใƒˆใƒผใƒณใ‚’็ถญๆŒใ—ใ€็ทŠๅผตใ‚’้ซ˜ใ‚ใ‚‹
04:52
taking away those potential negative feelings that can build up tension.
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ๅฏ่ƒฝๆ€งใฎใ‚ใ‚‹ๆฝœๅœจ็š„ใชๅฆๅฎš็š„ใช ๆ„Ÿๆƒ…ใ‚’ๅ–ใ‚Š้™คใใ“ใจใ‚’็›ฎๆŒ‡ใ—ใฆใ„ใพใ™ใ€‚
04:58
With that in mind,
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ใใ‚Œใ‚’ๅฟต้ ญใซ็ฝฎใ„ใฆใ€
05:00
let's take a look at several strategies we can use for effective, meaningful,
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ๅŠนๆžœ็š„ใงๆ„ๅ‘ณใฎใ‚ใ‚‹ใ€็คผๅ„€ๆญฃใ—ใ„ๆ„่ฆ‹ใฎ็›ธ้•ใซไฝฟ็”จใงใใ‚‹ใ„ใใคใ‹ใฎๆˆฆ็•ฅใ‚’่ฆ‹ใฆใฟใพใ—ใ‚‡ใ†
05:05
and polite disagreements. Number one,
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ใ€‚ ็ฌฌไธ€ใซใ€ใใ‚ŒใŒๅŒๆ–นใพใŸใฏใ™ในใฆใฎๅดใซใจใฃใฆ่…น็ซ‹ใŸใ—ใ„ใ‚‚ใฎใงใ‚ใ‚‹ใ“ใจใ‚’
05:08
aim to learn and understand it's infuriating for both
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ๅญฆใณใ€็†่งฃใ™ใ‚‹ใ“ใจใ‚’็›ฎๆŒ‡ใ—ใฆใใ ใ•ใ„
05:13
sides or all sides.
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05:15
If someone feels that they need to prove themselves right and perhaps
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่‡ชๅˆ†ใŒๆญฃใ—ใ„ใ“ใจใ‚’่จผๆ˜Žใ—ใ€
05:20
prove someone else wrong in the process,
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ใใฎ้Ž็จ‹ใงใŠใใ‚‰ใไป–ใฎไบบใŒ้–“้•ใฃใฆใ„ใ‚‹ใ“ใจใ‚’่จผๆ˜Žใ™ใ‚‹ๅฟ…่ฆใŒใ‚ใ‚‹ใจ่ชฐใ‹ใŒๆ„Ÿใ˜ใฆใ„ใ‚‹ๅ ดๅˆใ€
05:23
a better approach is to focus on learning from others and understanding their
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ใ‚ˆใ‚Š่‰ฏใ„ใ‚ขใƒ—ใƒญใƒผใƒใฏใ€
05:27
perspectives even if you don't agree with them.
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ใŸใจใˆใ‚ใชใŸใŒ ๅฝผใ‚‰ใซๅŒๆ„ใ—ใชใ„ๅ ดๅˆใงใ‚‚ใ€ไป–ใฎไบบใ‹ใ‚‰ๅญฆใณใ€ๅฝผใ‚‰ใฎ่ฆ–็‚นใ‚’็†่งฃใ™ใ‚‹ใ“ใจใซ้›†ไธญใ™ใ‚‹ใ“ใจใงใ™ใ€‚
05:30
The second strategy is to avoid assumptions.
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2 ็•ช็›ฎใฎๆˆฆ็•ฅใฏใ€ ๆ€ใ„่พผใฟใ‚’้ฟใ‘ใ‚‹ใ“ใจใงใ™ใ€‚
05:34
An assumption is something that is believed without any documentation,
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ไปฎๅฎšใจใฏใ€ ๆ–‡ๆ›ธใ€
05:39
evidence or proof. And as you might imagine,
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่จผๆ‹ ใ€่จผๆ˜Žใชใ—ใงไฟกใ˜ใ‚‰ใ‚Œใ‚‹ใ“ใจใงใ™ใ€‚ ใใ—ใฆ ใ”ๆƒณๅƒใฎใจใŠใ‚Šใ€
05:42
if an assumption is made about someone,
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่ชฐใ‹ใซใคใ„ใฆๆ€ใ„่พผใฟใ‚’ใ™ใ‚‹ใจใ€
05:45
it can lead to misconceptions and miscommunication.
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่ชค่งฃใ‚„่ชค่งฃใŒ็”Ÿใ˜ใ‚‹ๅฏ่ƒฝๆ€งใŒใ‚ใ‚Šใพใ™ ใ€‚
05:50
Third, be clear.
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็ฌฌไธ‰ใซใ€ๆ˜Ž็ขบใซใ—ใฆใใ ใ•ใ„ใ€‚
05:52
What this means is don't just disagree with someone.
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ใ“ใ‚ŒใŒๆ„ๅ‘ณใ™ใ‚‹ใฎใฏใ€ ่ชฐใ‹ใซๅŒๆ„ใ—ใชใ„ใ ใ‘ใงใฏใชใ„ใจใ„ใ†ใ“ใจใงใ™ใ€‚ ไป–
05:56
It's important to also state why you disagree,
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05:58
so that you give others the opportunity to understand your perspective.
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ใฎไบบใซใ‚ใชใŸใฎ่ฆ–็‚นใ‚’็†่งฃใ™ใ‚‹ๆฉŸไผšใ‚’ไธŽใˆใ‚‹ใŸใ‚ใซใ€ใชใœๅŒๆ„ใ—ใชใ„ใฎใ‹ใ‚’่ฟฐในใ‚‹ใ“ใจใŒ้‡่ฆใงใ™ใ€‚
06:03
Four, keep it impersonal.
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4. ้žๅ€‹ไบบ็š„ใชใ‚‚ใฎใซใ—ใฆใใ ใ•ใ„ใ€‚
06:05
This goes back to the idea of maintaining that calm body language and neutral
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ใ“ใ‚Œใฏใ€ ็ฉใ‚„ใ‹ใชใƒœใƒ‡ใ‚ฃใƒฉใƒณใ‚ฒใƒผใ‚ธใจไธญ็ซ‹็š„ใช
06:10
tone. On top of that,
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ใƒˆใƒผใƒณใ‚’็ถญๆŒใ™ใ‚‹ใจใ„ใ†่€ƒใˆใซๆˆปใ‚Šใพใ™ใ€‚ ใใ‚ŒใซๅŠ ใˆใฆใ€
06:12
it's important to avoid language that implies a personal attack.
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ๅ€‹ไบบๆ”ปๆ’ƒใ‚’ใปใฎใ‚ใ‹ใ™ใ‚ˆใ†ใช่จ€่‘‰ใ‚’้ฟใ‘ใ‚‹ใ“ใจใŒ้‡่ฆใงใ™ใ€‚ ใใ‚Œใ‚’ๅฎŸ็พใ™ใ‚‹ใซใฏใ€
06:16
We can do that by keeping our language focused on the topic of disagreement
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่จ€่ชžใ‚’ ๆ„่ฆ‹ใฎ็›ธ้•ใฎใƒˆใƒ”ใƒƒใ‚ฏใซ้›†ไธญใ•ใ›ใ€ใ€Œใ‚ใชใŸใ€ใจใ„ใ†
06:21
and avoiding language that includes the word you, for example,
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ๅ˜่ชžใ‚’ๅซใ‚€่จ€่ชž (ใŸใจใˆใฐใ€
06:25
you always or you don't understand,
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ใ„ใคใ‚‚ใ‚ใชใŸใฏ็†่งฃใงใใชใ„) ใ‚’้ฟใ‘ใ‚‹ใ“ใจใงๅฎŸ็พใงใใพใ™ใ€‚
06:28
and our final strategy here is to connect rather than contrast.
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ใ“ใ“ใงใฎๆœ€็ต‚ๆˆฆ็•ฅใฏใ€ ๅฏพๆฏ”ใงใฏใชใๆŽฅ็ถšใ™ใ‚‹ใ“ใจใงใ™ใ€‚
06:32
I shared a similar approach and a lesson I have on how to express opposing
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็งใ‚‚ๅŒๆง˜ใฎใ‚ขใƒ—ใƒญใƒผใƒใจใ€ ๅๅฏพใฎ่€ƒใˆใ‚’่กจ็พใ™ใ‚‹ๆ–นๆณ•ใซใคใ„ใฆใฎๆ•™่จ“ใ‚’ๅ…ฑๆœ‰ใ—ใพใ—ใŸ
06:37
ideas. I'll share a link to that in the notes below the video. In short,
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ใ€‚ ใƒ“ใƒ‡ใ‚ชใฎไธ‹ใฎใƒกใƒขใซใใฎใƒชใƒณใ‚ฏใ‚’ๅ…ฑๆœ‰ใ—ใพใ™ ใ€‚ ใคใพใ‚Šใ€
06:42
what this means is when disagreeing with others,
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ใ“ใ‚ŒใŒๆ„ๅ‘ณใ™ใ‚‹ใฎใฏใ€ ไป–ใฎไบบใจๆ„่ฆ‹ใŒ็•ฐใชใ‚‹ๅ ดๅˆใ€
06:44
particularly on issues that may be sensitive or cause friction,
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็‰นใซ ใƒ‡ใƒชใ‚ฑใƒผใƒˆใชๅ•้กŒใ‚„ๆ‘ฉๆ“ฆใ‚’ๅผ•ใ่ตทใ“ใ™ๅฏ่ƒฝๆ€งใฎใ‚ใ‚‹ๅ•้กŒใซ้–ขใ—ใฆใฏใ€
06:49
it's best to avoid contrast language,
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ๅฏพ็…ง็š„ใช่กจ็พใ‚’้ฟใ‘ใ‚‹ใฎใŒๆœ€ๅ–„ใงใ‚ใ‚‹ใจใ„ใ†ใ“ใจใงใ™ใ€‚ใใฎใŸใ‚ใ€
06:52
so this would include words such as, but however,
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ใ“ใ‚Œใซใฏๆฌกใฎใ‚ˆใ†ใช่จ€่‘‰ใŒๅซใพใ‚Œใพใ™ใ€‚
06:56
instead or on the other hand, rather than use those words,
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ใ“ใ‚Œใ‚‰ใฎ่จ€่‘‰ใ‚’ไฝฟใˆใฐใ€
07:00
you can simply listen and then say what you think.
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ใŸใ ่žใ„ใฆใ€ ๆ€ใฃใŸใ“ใจใ‚’่จ€ใ†ใ“ใจใŒใงใใพใ™ใ€‚
07:04
With those strategies in mind,
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ใ“ใ‚Œใ‚‰ใฎๆˆฆ็•ฅใ‚’ๅฟต้ ญใซ็ฝฎใ„ใฆใ€
07:05
let's highlight some of the common phrases English speakers use to
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่‹ฑ่ชž่ฉฑ่€…ใŒ
07:10
utilize these strategies effectively.
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ใ“ใ‚Œใ‚‰ใฎๆˆฆ็•ฅใ‚’ๅŠนๆžœ็š„ใซๆดป็”จใ™ใ‚‹ใŸใ‚ใซไฝฟ็”จใ™ใ‚‹ไธ€่ˆฌ็š„ใชใƒ•ใƒฌใƒผใ‚บใ‚’ใ„ใใคใ‹ๅ–ใ‚ŠไธŠใ’ใฆใฟใพใ—ใ‚‡ใ†ใ€‚ ใ“ใ‚Œใ‹ใ‚‰
07:13
In the examples I'm going to share with you, you'll notice they do a few things.
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็ดนไป‹ใ™ใ‚‹ไพ‹ใงใฏ ใ€ใ„ใใคใ‹ใฎใ“ใจใ‚’่กŒใ†ใ“ใจใซๆฐ—ใฅใใงใ—ใ‚‡ใ†ใ€‚
07:17
First,
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07:18
they may aim to acknowledge what someone else has said and indicate
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ไป–ใฎไบบใŒ่จ€ใฃใŸใ“ใจใ‚’่ชใ‚ใ€
07:23
that you also understand what they said.
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ใ‚ใชใŸใ‚‚ๅฝผใ‚‰ใฎ่จ€ใฃใŸใ“ใจใ‚’็†่งฃใ—ใฆใ„ใ‚‹ใ“ใจใ‚’็คบใ™ใ“ใจใ‚’็›ฎ็š„ใจใ—ใฆใ„ใ‚‹ๅฏ่ƒฝๆ€งใŒใ‚ใ‚Šใพใ™ใ€‚
07:25
It doesn't mean that you agree but you understand it. Second,
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ๅŒๆ„ใ™ใ‚‹ใ‚ใ‘ใงใฏใ‚ใ‚Šใพใ›ใ‚“ ใŒใ€็†่งฃใ™ใ‚‹ใจใ„ใ†ๆ„ๅ‘ณใงใ™ใ€‚ ๆฌกใซใ€
07:29
you may notice that many of these phrases include an apology before the
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ใ“ใ‚Œใ‚‰ใฎใƒ•ใƒฌใƒผใ‚บใฎๅคšใใซใฏใ€ๆ„่ฆ‹ใฎ็›ธ้•ใฎ ๅ‰ใซ่ฌ็ฝชใŒๅซใพใ‚Œใฆใ„ใ‚‹ใ“ใจใซๆฐ—ใฅใใ‹ใ‚‚ใ—ใ‚Œใพใ›ใ‚“
07:34
disagreement. In some circumstances,
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07:37
this can help to soften that potential friction or tension.
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ใ“ใ‚Œใฏ ๆฝœๅœจ็š„ใชๆ‘ฉๆ“ฆใ‚„็ทŠๅผตใ‚’ๅ’Œใ‚‰ใ’ใ‚‹ใฎใซๅฝน็ซ‹ใกใพใ™ใ€‚
07:42
And finally, some of these phrases also express neutrality or even
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ใใ—ใฆๆœ€ๅพŒใซใ€ใ“ใ‚Œใ‚‰ใฎใƒ•ใƒฌใƒผใ‚บใฎไธญใซใฏ ไธญ็ซ‹ๆ€งใ‚„
07:47
uncertainty. This doesn't mean that you are uncertain about your ideas.
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ไธ็ขบๅฎŸๆ€งใ‚’่กจ็พใ™ใ‚‹ใ‚‚ใฎใ‚‚ใ‚ใ‚Šใพใ™ใ€‚ ใ“ใ‚Œใฏใ€ ่‡ชๅˆ†ใฎใ‚ขใ‚คใƒ‡ใ‚ขใซ็ขบไฟกใŒใชใ„ใจใ„ใ†ๆ„ๅ‘ณใงใฏใ‚ใ‚Šใพใ›ใ‚“ใ€‚
07:52
You can be very clear about what you think. However,
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่‡ชๅˆ†ใฎ่€ƒใˆใ‚’้žๅธธใซๆ˜Ž็ขบใซไผใˆใ‚‹ใ“ใจใŒใงใใพใ™ ใ€‚ ใŸใ ใ—ใ€ใใฎไธ็ขบๅฎŸๆ€ง
07:55
by introducing some of that uncertainty, again,
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ใฎไธ€้ƒจใ‚’ๅ†ใณๅฐŽๅ…ฅใ™ใ‚‹ใ“ใจใง ใ€ไผš่ฉฑใซใŠใ‘ใ‚‹
07:58
it lowers the potential friction or tension in the conversation.
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ๆฝœๅœจ็š„ใชๆ‘ฉๆ“ฆใ‚„็ทŠๅผตใŒไฝŽไธ‹ใ—ใพใ™ ใ€‚
08:03
So depending on what you aim to do or what you're most comfortable with,
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ใ—ใŸใŒใฃใฆใ€็›ฎ็š„ ใ‚„ๆœ€ใ‚‚ๅฟซ้ฉใชใ‚‚ใฎใซๅฟœใ˜ใฆใ€่ชใ‚ใฆ็†่งฃใ‚’็คบใ™ๆœ€ๅˆใฎๆ–‡ใฎๅ†’้ ญใ‚’ใ™ในใฆ
08:07
here are a few examples that do all of that first sentence starters
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ๅฎŸ่กŒใ™ใ‚‹ไพ‹ใ‚’ใ„ใใคใ‹็ดนไป‹ใ—ใพใ™
08:12
that acknowledge and show understanding.
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08:15
I see what you're saying and I think I appreciate and respect your point of
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่จ€ใฃใฆใ„ใ‚‹ใ“ใจใฏใ‚ใ‹ใ‚Šใพใ™ใ—ใ€ ใ‚ใชใŸใฎ่ฆ–็‚นใ‚’้ซ˜ใ่ฉ•ไพกใ—ใ€ๅฐŠ้‡ใ—ใฆใ„ใ‚‹ใจๆ€ใ„ใพใ™
08:20
view. My thoughts are that's a valid point and I think that
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ใ€‚ ็งใฎ่€ƒใˆใงใฏใ€ใใ‚Œใฏ ๆญฃๅฝ“ใชๆŒ‡ๆ‘˜ใงใ‚ใ‚Šใ€ๆœฌๅฝ“ใซ
08:25
true fair point, I have to say I disagree.
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ๅ…ฌๆญฃใชๆŒ‡ๆ‘˜ใ ใจๆ€ใ„ใพใ™ใŒใ€็งใฏๅŒๆ„ใ—ใชใ„ใจ่จ€ใ‚ใ–ใ‚‹ใ‚’ๅพ—ใพใ›ใ‚“ใ€‚
08:29
I understand where you're coming from and my perspective is now,
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ใ‚ใชใŸใŒใฉใ“ใ‹ใ‚‰ๆฅใŸ ใฎใ‹ใ€ใใ—ใฆ็งใฎ่ฆ–็‚นใŒไปŠใงใ‚ใ‚‹ใ“ใจใฏ็†่งฃใ—ใฆใ„ใพใ™ใ€‚ใ“ใ“ใง
08:34
there are many more common phrases English speakers use rather than share all
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ใ™ในใฆใ‚’ๅ…ฑๆœ‰ใ™ใ‚‹ใฎใงใฏใชใใ€่‹ฑ่ชž่ฉฑ่€…ใŒไฝฟ็”จใ™ใ‚‹ไธ€่ˆฌ็š„ใชใƒ•ใƒฌใƒผใ‚บใŒใŸใใ•ใ‚“ใ‚ใ‚Šใพใ™ใ€‚
08:38
of them here,
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08:39
I have them listed in this lesson at my Speak Confident English website,
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ใใ‚Œใ‚‰ใฏ็งใฎ Speak Confident English Web ใ‚ตใ‚คใƒˆใฎใ“ใฎใƒฌใƒƒใ‚นใƒณใซใƒชใ‚นใƒˆใ•ใ‚Œใฆใ„ใพใ™ใ€‚
08:44
so if you'd love to review more common phrases,
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ใ‚ˆใ‚Šไธ€่ˆฌ็š„ใชใƒ•ใƒฌใƒผใ‚บใ‚’ๅพฉ็ฟ’ใ—ใŸใ„ๅ ดๅˆใฏใ€
08:48
use the link in the notes below this video,
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ใ“ใฎใƒ“ใƒ‡ใ‚ชใฎไธ‹ใซใ‚ใ‚‹ใƒกใƒขใฎใƒชใƒณใ‚ฏใ‚’ไฝฟ็”จใ—ใ€
08:50
visit this lesson and you'll get a full list.
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ใ“ใฎใƒฌใƒƒใ‚นใƒณใซใ‚ขใ‚ฏใ‚ปใ‚นใ™ใ‚‹ใจใ€ ๅฎŒๅ…จใชใƒชใ‚นใƒˆใŒ่กจ็คบใ•ใ‚Œใพใ™ใ€‚
08:54
And now here are common phrases that include an apology before the
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ใ“ใ“ใงใฏใ€ๆ„่ฆ‹ใฎ็›ธ้• ใฎๅ‰ใซ่ฌ็ฝชใ‚’ๅซใ‚€ไธ€่ˆฌ็š„ใชใƒ•ใƒฌใƒผใ‚บใ‚’็ดนไป‹ใ—ใพใ™
08:58
disagreement. I'm sorry, I have to disagree on, I'm sorry.
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ใ€‚ ใ”ใ‚ใ‚“ใชใ•ใ„ใ€ ๅŒๆ„ใ—ใ‹ใญใพใ™ใ€ใ”ใ‚ใ‚“ใชใ•ใ„ใ€‚
09:03
I don't agree. Sorry, I'm afraid I disagree.
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็งใฏๅŒๆ„ใ—ใพใ›ใ‚“ใ€‚ ็”ณใ—่จณใ‚ใ‚Šใพใ›ใ‚“ใŒใ€ ็งใฏๅŒๆ„ใ—ใพใ›ใ‚“ใ€‚
09:07
My apologies. I respectfully disagree. And finally,
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็”ณใ—่จณใ‚ใ‚Šใพใ›ใ‚“ใ€‚ ็งใฏๆ•ฌๆ„ใ‚’่กจใ—ใฆ ๅๅฏพใ—ใพใ™ใ€‚ ๆœ€ๅพŒใซใ€
09:12
common phrases that express neutrality or uncertainty.
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ไธญ็ซ‹ๆ€งใพใŸใฏไธ็ขบๅฎŸๆ€งใ‚’่กจใ™ไธ€่ˆฌ็š„ใชใƒ•ใƒฌใƒผใ‚บใงใ™ใ€‚ ใ‚ใชใŸใฎๆ„่ฆ‹
09:17
I am not sure I agree with you on, I could be wrong,
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ใซๅŒๆ„ใงใใ‚‹ใ‹ใฉใ†ใ‹ใฏใ‚ใ‹ใ‚Šใพใ›ใ‚“ใ€‚ ้–“้•ใฃใฆใ„ใ‚‹ๅฏ่ƒฝๆ€งใ‚‚ใ‚ใ‚Šใพใ™
09:21
but my understanding is I don't think you and I have the same
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ใŒใ€็งใฎ็†่งฃใงใฏใ€ใ“ใฎๅ•้กŒใซใคใ„ใฆ ใ‚ใชใŸใจ็งใฏๅŒใ˜ๆ„่ฆ‹ใ‚’ๆŒใฃใฆใ„ใ‚‹ใจใฏๆ€ใˆใพใ›ใ‚“
09:25
opinion on this issue. I don't think we're seeing eye to eye on this issue.
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ใ€‚ ใ“ใฎๅ•้กŒใซ้–ขใ—ใฆๆˆ‘ใ€…ใฎๆ„่ฆ‹ใŒไธ€่‡ดใ—ใฆใ„ใ‚‹ใจใฏๆ€ใˆใชใ„ใ€‚ ็งใŒ
09:31
I'm not sure I see it that way,
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ใใฎใ‚ˆใ†ใซๆ‰ใˆใฆใ„ใ‚‹ใ‹ใฉใ†ใ‹ใฏใ‚ใ‹ใ‚Šใพใ›ใ‚“ใ—ใ€
09:34
and I have a completely different opinion on that. Again,
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ใใ‚Œใซใคใ„ใฆใฏใพใฃใŸใ็•ฐใชใ‚‹ๆ„่ฆ‹ใ‚’ๆŒใฃใฆใ„ใพใ™ใ€‚ ็นฐใ‚Š่ฟ”ใ—ใซใชใ‚Šใพใ™ใŒใ€ใใฎๆ„่ฆ‹ใฎ็›ธ้•ใ‚’
09:37
if you'd love to get my full list of common phrases to use to express
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่กจ็พใ™ใ‚‹ใŸใ‚ใซไฝฟ็”จใ™ใ‚‹ไธ€่ˆฌ็š„ใชใƒ•ใƒฌใƒผใ‚บใฎ็งใฎๅฎŒๅ…จใชใƒชใ‚นใƒˆใ‚’ๅ…ฅๆ‰‹ใ—ใŸใ„ๅ ดๅˆใฏ
09:42
that disagreement,
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ใ€็งใฎ Speak Confident English Web ใ‚ตใ‚คใƒˆใฎ
09:43
you can find all of that in this lesson at my Speak Confident English website.
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ใ“ใฎใƒฌใƒƒใ‚นใƒณใงใ™ในใฆใ‚’่ฆ‹ใคใ‘ใ‚‹ใ“ใจใŒใงใใพใ™ ใ€‚
09:48
What I'd love to do now is highlight real-life scenarios where this
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็งใŒไปŠใ‚„ใ‚ŠใŸใ„ใฎใฏใ€ ใ“ใฎ
09:53
language is used so that you can start to practice and use it in your daily
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่จ€่ชžใŒไฝฟ็”จใ•ใ‚Œใ‚‹ๅฎŸ้š›ใฎใ‚ทใƒŠใƒชใ‚ชใซ็„ฆ็‚นใ‚’ๅฝ“ใฆใฆใ€ ๆ—ฅๅธธใฎ่‹ฑ่ชž็”Ÿๆดปใง็ทด็ฟ’ใ—ใฆไฝฟ็”จใงใใ‚‹ใ‚ˆใ†ใซใ™ใ‚‹ใ“ใจใงใ™
09:57
English life. In scenario number one,
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ใ€‚ ใ‚ทใƒŠใƒชใ‚ช 1 ใงใฏใ€
10:00
we're going to focus on having a disagreement with a client,
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ใ‚ฏใƒฉใ‚คใ‚ขใƒณใƒˆใจใฎๆ„่ฆ‹ใฎ็›ธ้•ใซ็„ฆ็‚นใ‚’ๅฝ“ใฆใพใ™ใŒใ€
10:04
something that is not easy to do. Let's say in this example,
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ใ“ใ‚Œใฏ็ฐกๅ˜ใชใ“ใจใงใฏใ‚ใ‚Šใพใ›ใ‚“ ใ€‚ ใ“ใฎไพ‹ใงใฏใ€
10:08
you're updating a client on the status of a current project and then
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ใ‚ฏใƒฉใ‚คใ‚ขใƒณใƒˆใซ ็พๅœจใฎใƒ—ใƒญใ‚ธใ‚งใ‚ฏใƒˆใฎใ‚นใƒ†ใƒผใ‚ฟใ‚นใ‚’ๆ›ดๆ–ฐใ—ใ€
10:13
at the end of the phone call this client shares that they have many changes
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้›ป่ฉฑใฎ็ต‚ใ‚ใ‚Šใซใ“ใฎใ‚ฏใƒฉใ‚คใ‚ขใƒณใƒˆใŒๆœ€ๅˆใฎใƒ—ใƒญใ‚ธใ‚งใ‚ฏใƒˆใซๅคšใใฎ ๅค‰ๆ›ดใ‚’ๅŠ ใˆใŸใ„ใจๅ…ฑๆœ‰ใ—ใŸใจใ—ใพใ™
10:17
that they want to make to the initial project. However,
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ใ€‚ ใ—ใ‹ใ—ใ€
10:21
they still want to keep the same deadline and they don't want to change the
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ๅฝผใ‚‰ใฏไพ็„ถใจใ—ใฆๅŒใ˜ๆœŸ้™ใ‚’็ถญๆŒใ—ใŸใ„ใจ่€ƒใˆใฆใŠใ‚Š ใ€ไบˆ็ฎ—ใ‚’ๅค‰ๆ›ดใ—ใŸใใ‚ใ‚Šใพใ›ใ‚“
10:25
budget. At that moment, you might say,
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ใ€‚ ใใฎใจใใ€ใ‚ใชใŸใฏใ€ใ“ใ‚Œใฏ็ด ๆ™ดใ‚‰ใ—ใ„ๆๆกˆใ ใจ่จ€ใ†ใ‹ใ‚‚ใ—ใ‚Œใพใ›ใ‚“
10:29
these are great suggestions.
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10:31
Right now I feel we don't have enough resources to implement significant
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็พๆ™‚็‚นใงใฏใ€ ้‡่ฆใชๅค‰ๆ›ดใ‚’ๅฎŸ่ฃ…ใ™ใ‚‹ใŸใ‚ใฎๅๅˆ†ใชใƒชใ‚ฝใƒผใ‚นใŒใชใ„ใจๆ„Ÿใ˜ใฆใ„ใพใ™
10:36
changes. At this stage,
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10:37
the proposed changes will require an additional three to four weeks and will
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10:41
significantly impact the original plan and budget.
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ๅฝ“ๅˆใฎ่จˆ็”ปใจไบˆ็ฎ—ใซๅคงใใชๅฝฑ้Ÿฟใ‚’ไธŽใˆใ‚‹ใ“ใจใซใชใ‚Šใพใ™ใ€‚
10:45
Because this is a client, of course,
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ใ‚‚ใกใ‚ใ‚“ใ€ใ“ใ‚Œใฏใ‚ฏใƒฉใ‚คใ‚ขใƒณใƒˆใงใ‚ใ‚‹ใŸใ‚ใ€ๆ„่ฆ‹ใฎ
10:47
you want to be as gentle as possible initially in that disagreement,
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็›ธ้•ใซๅฏพใ—ใฆใฏๆœ€ๅˆใฏใงใใ‚‹ใ ใ‘็ฉใ‚„ใ‹ใซๅฏพๅฟœใ—ใŸใ„ใจ่€ƒใˆใฆใŠใ‚Šใ€
10:51
so this takes a very polite approach.
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ใ“ใ‚Œใซใฏ้žๅธธใซไธๅฏงใชใ‚ขใƒ—ใƒญใƒผใƒใŒๅฟ…่ฆใงใ™ใ€‚
10:54
It acknowledges what the client is seeking and shares a disagreement with the
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10:58
reasons why. Now, if we stop here,
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11:01
there's the potential for the client to feel frustrated and
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ใ‚ฏใƒฉใ‚คใ‚ขใƒณใƒˆใŒไธๆบ€ใ‚„
11:05
unsatisfied,
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11:07
so in addition to expressing this polite disagreement with reasons for the
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่กจ็พใ™ใ‚‹ใ“ใจใซๅŠ ใˆใฆ
11:11
disagreement,
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11:12
we can also be solutions oriented and add on a few
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่งฃๆฑบ็ญ–ใ‚’ ๅฟ—ๅ‘ใ—ใ€ใ„ใใคใ‹ใฎ
11:16
alternatives. When you want to do that,
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ไปฃๆ›ฟๆกˆใ‚’่ฟฝๅŠ ใ™ใ‚‹ใ“ใจใ‚‚ใงใใพใ™ใ€‚ ใใ†ใ—ใŸใ„ใจใใ€
11:19
when you want to add on other solutions after disagreeing with someone,
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่ชฐใ‹ใจๆ„่ฆ‹ใŒ้•ใฃใŸๅพŒใซๅˆฅใฎ่งฃๆฑบ็ญ–ใ‚’ไป˜ใ‘ๅŠ ใˆใŸใ„ใจใใ€
11:23
here are a few phrases you can use to do that instead.
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ไปฃใ‚ใ‚Šใซไฝฟใˆใ‚‹ใƒ•ใƒฌใƒผใ‚บใ‚’ใ„ใใคใ‹ใ”็ดนไป‹ใ—ใพใ™ใ€‚
11:27
I think we should or I think we could.
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ใใ†ใ™ในใใ ใจๆ€ใ„ใพใ™ใ€ใ‚ใ‚‹ใ„ใฏใงใใ‚‹ใจๆ€ใ„ใพใ™ใ€‚
11:30
My suggestion would be to an alternative solution might be
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็งใฎๆๆกˆใจใ—ใฆใฏใ€ ๅˆฅใฎ่งฃๆฑบ็ญ–ใ‚’ๆๆกˆใ—ใพใ™ใ€‚ใใ‚Œใ‚’ๆŽจๅฅจใ—ใพใ™ใ‹
11:35
I would recommend that we, or how about we?
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ใ€ใใ‚Œใจใ‚‚ใฉใ†ใงใ™ใ‹?
11:39
So if we add it on to that initial disagreement, here's what you might say.
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11:44
However, in the interest of delivering this project on time and within budget,
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ใŸใ ใ—ใ€ ใ“ใฎใƒ—ใƒญใ‚ธใ‚งใ‚ฏใƒˆใ‚’ๆœŸๆ—ฅใฉใŠใ‚Šใซไบˆ็ฎ—ๅ†…ใง้‚่กŒใ™ใ‚‹ใŸใ‚ใซใ€ๆคœ่จŽใ—ใฆใ„ใŸใ ใ‘ใ‚‹
11:48
I'd like to propose a few options for you to consider and then you would go on
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ใ‚ชใƒ—ใ‚ทใƒงใƒณใ‚’ใ„ใใคใ‹ๆๆกˆใ—ใŸใ„ใจๆ€ใ„ใพใ™ใ€‚ ใใฎๅพŒใ€
11:52
to list your options. In scenario number two,
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ใ‚ชใƒ—ใ‚ทใƒงใƒณใ‚’ใƒชใ‚นใƒˆใ‚ขใƒƒใƒ—ใ—ใฆใ„ใŸใ ใใพใ™ใ€‚ ใ‚ทใƒŠใƒชใ‚ช 2 ใงใฏใ€
11:56
we're going to look at a disagreement with an acquaintance. Now, very quickly,
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็Ÿฅไบบใจใฎๆ„่ฆ‹ใฎ็›ธ้•ใ‚’ๅ–ใ‚ŠไธŠใ’ใพใ™ใ€‚ ใ•ใฆใ€ใ™ใใซ่ชฌๆ˜Žใ—ใพใ™ใŒใ€
12:00
an acquaintance is someone that you know and have a friendly relationship with,
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็Ÿฅไบบใจใฏใ€ใ‚ใชใŸใŒ็Ÿฅใฃใฆใ„ ใฆๅ‹ๅฅฝ็š„ใช้–ขไฟ‚ใซใ‚ใ‚‹ไบบใฎใ“ใจใงใ™ใŒใ€
12:04
but you're not friends. This isn't someone that you spend a lot of time with.
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ใ‚ใชใŸใฏๅ‹้”ใงใฏใ‚ใ‚Šใพใ›ใ‚“ใ€‚ ใ“ใฎ ไบบใฏไธ€็ท’ใซๅคšใใฎๆ™‚้–“ใ‚’้Žใ”ใ™ไบบใงใฏใ‚ใ‚Šใพใ›ใ‚“ใ€‚
12:09
In this particular scenario,
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ใ“ใฎ็‰นๅฎšใฎใ‚ทใƒŠใƒชใ‚ชใงใฏใ€ใ‚ใชใŸใŒ
12:10
we'll imagine that you're on the condo board where you live and there's been
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ไฝใ‚“ใงใ„ใ‚‹ใƒžใƒณใ‚ทใƒงใƒณใฎ็ฎก็†ๅง”ๅ“กไผšใซๅ‚ๅŠ ใ—ใฆใ„ใฆใ€
12:15
some discussion of hiking up the prices for some maintenance in the building.
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ๅปบ็‰ฉใฎใƒกใƒณใƒ†ใƒŠใƒณใ‚นใฎใŸใ‚ใซไพกๆ ผใ‚’ๅ€คไธŠใ’ใ™ใ‚‹ใจใ„ใ†่ญฐ่ซ–ใŒใ‚ใฃใŸใจไปฎๅฎšใ—ใพใ™ใ€‚
12:21
You might disagree with another resident,
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ไป–ใฎๅฑ…ไฝ่€…ใ€ใคใพใ‚Š
12:23
someone that you have good rapport with but don't know very well.
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่‰ฏๅฅฝใช้–ขไฟ‚ใฏใ‚ใ‚‹ใ‚‚ใฎใฎใ€ใ‚ใพใ‚Š ใ‚ˆใ็Ÿฅใ‚‰ใชใ„ไบบใฎๆ„่ฆ‹ใซๅŒๆ„ใงใใชใ„ๅ ดๅˆใŒใ‚ใ‚Šใพใ™ใ€‚
12:28
To politely express that disagreement, you could say, sorry,
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ใใฎๆ„่ฆ‹ใฎ็›ธ้•ใ‚’ไธๅฏงใซ่กจ็พใ™ใ‚‹ใซใฏ ใ€ใ€Œ็”ณใ—่จณใ‚ใ‚Šใพใ›ใ‚“ใŒใ€
12:32
I have to disagree with the proposal to renovate the coworking space.
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ใ‚ณใƒฏใƒผใ‚ญใƒณใ‚ฐ ใ‚นใƒšใƒผใ‚นใ‚’ๆ”นไฟฎใ™ใ‚‹ใจใ„ใ†ๆๆกˆใซใฏๅๅฏพใ—ใชใ‘ใ‚Œใฐใชใ‚Šใพใ›ใ‚“ใ€ใจ่จ€ใ†ใ“ใจใŒใงใใพใ™ใ€‚
12:37
The residents hardly use the coworking space,
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ไฝๆฐ‘ใฏ ใ‚ณใƒฏใƒผใ‚ญใƒณใ‚ฐใ‚นใƒšใƒผใ‚นใ‚’ใปใจใ‚“ใฉๅˆฉ็”จใ—ใฆใ„ใพใ›ใ‚“ใŒใ€
12:39
and I've observed the area at various hours of the day.
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็งใฏใ•ใพใ–ใพใชๆ™‚้–“ๅธฏใซใใฎใ‚จใƒชใ‚ขใ‚’่ฆณๅฏŸใ—ใฆใใพใ—ใŸ ใ€‚
12:43
Most residents prefer to work within the privacy of their units. Instead,
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ใปใจใ‚“ใฉใฎๅฑ…ไฝ่€…ใฏใ€่‡ชๅˆ†ใฎใƒฆใƒ‹ใƒƒใƒˆใฎใƒ—ใƒฉใ‚คใƒใ‚ทใƒผใฎไธญใงไป•ไบ‹ใ‚’ใ™ใ‚‹ใ“ใจใ‚’ๅฅฝใฟใพใ™ ใ€‚ ใใฎไปฃใ‚ใ‚Šใซใ€ๆœ€ใ‚‚ใ‚ˆใไฝฟใ‚ใ‚Œใ‚‹ๅ ดๆ‰€ใงใ‚ใ‚‹ใ‚ธใƒ ใ‚’
12:47
I think we should renovate the most used area, the gym.
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ๆ”นไฟฎใ™ในใใ ใจๆ€ใ„ใพใ™ ใ€‚
12:51
This would serve all residents and it would be easier to justify than raise the
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ใใ†ใ™ใ‚Œใฐใ™ในใฆใฎไฝๆฐ‘ใฎๅˆฉ็›Šใซใชใ‚‹ใ—ใ€็ถญๆŒ่ฒปใ‚’ ไธŠใ’ใ‚‹ใ‚ˆใ‚Šใ‚‚ๆญฃๅฝ“ๅŒ–ใ™ใ‚‹ใฎใŒ็ฐกๅ˜ใ ใ‚ใ†
12:56
maintenance fees. In this example,
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ใ€‚ ใ“ใฎไพ‹ใงใฏใ€่ฌ็ฝช
12:58
we've chosen a phrase that starts with an apology and then has a very direct
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ใงๅง‹ใพใ‚Šใ€ ้žๅธธใซ็›ดๆŽฅ็š„ใช
13:03
disagreement with supporting reasons for that disagreement
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ๆ„่ฆ‹ใฎ็›ธ้•ใจใ€ ใใฎๆ„่ฆ‹ใฎ็›ธ้•ใ‚’่ฃไป˜ใ‘ใ‚‹็†็”ฑ
13:08
and alternative solutions. You might also notice that in this example,
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ใจๅˆฅใฎ่งฃๆฑบ็ญ–ใ‚’็คบใ™ใƒ•ใƒฌใƒผใ‚บใ‚’้ธๆŠžใ—ใพใ—ใŸใ€‚ ใ“ใฎไพ‹ใงใฏใ€ๅ€‹ไบบใ‚„ๅ€‹ไบบ
13:13
we've avoided using the word you rather than disagree with an
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ใซๅŒๆ„ใ—ใชใ„ใจใ„ใ†่จ€่‘‰ใงใฏใชใใ€ใ€Œใ‚ใชใŸใ€ใจใ„ใ†่จ€่‘‰ใฎไฝฟ็”จใ‚’้ฟใ‘ใฆใ„ใ‚‹ใ“ใจใซใ‚‚ใŠๆฐ—ใฅใใ‹ใ‚‚ใ—ใ‚Œใพใ›ใ‚“
13:18
individual, with a person. The disagreement is with the idea.
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13:22
And now scenario number three, disagreement with a close friend.
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ใ•ใฆใ€ใ‚ทใƒŠใƒชใ‚ชใใฎ 3 ใฏใ€ ่ฆชใ—ใ„ๅ‹ไบบใจใฎๆ„่ฆ‹ใฎ็›ธ้•ใงใ™ใ€‚
13:26
Imagine you and a close friend are having a discussion on the government's
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ใ‚ใชใŸใจ่ฆชใ—ใ„ๅ‹ไบบใŒใ€ ๆ”ฟๅบœใซใ‚ˆใ‚‹
13:30
recent increase in carbon taxes.
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ๆœ€่ฟ‘ใฎ็‚ญ็ด ็จŽใฎๅผ•ใไธŠใ’ใซใคใ„ใฆ่ฉฑใ—ๅˆใฃใฆใ„ใ‚‹ใจๆƒณๅƒใ—ใฆใใ ใ•ใ„ใ€‚
13:33
You both have strong opinions and your friend is particularly passionate about
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ใ‚ใชใŸใŸใกใฏไบŒไบบใจใ‚‚ๅผทใ„ๆ„่ฆ‹ใ‚’ๆŒใฃใฆใŠใ‚Šใ€ใ‚ใชใŸใฎ ๅ‹ไบบใฏ็‰นใซ
13:38
climate change. In this scenario,
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ๆฐ—ๅ€™ๅค‰ๅ‹•ใซ็†ฑๅฟƒใงใ™ใ€‚ ใ“ใฎใ‚ทใƒŠใƒชใ‚ชใงใฏใ€ๅ‹ๆƒ…ใ‚’ๅฎˆใ‚‹ใŸใ‚ใซใ€
13:40
it may be important to tread lightly or to disagree very
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ๆ…Ž้‡ใซ่กŒๅ‹•ใ™ใ‚‹ใ‹ใ€้žๅธธใซ็ฉใ‚„ใ‹ใซๅๅฏพใ™ใ‚‹ใ“ใจใŒ้‡่ฆใ‹ใ‚‚ใ—ใ‚Œใพใ›ใ‚“
13:45
softly in order to protect the friendship. To do that, you could say,
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ใ€‚ ใใฎใŸใ‚ใซใฏใ€
13:51
to be fair,
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ๅ…ฌๅนณใ‚’ๆœŸใ™ใŸใ‚ใซใ€
13:52
I'm unsure whether the carbon tax is truly necessary for the fight against
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็‚ญ็ด ็จŽใŒๆฐ—ๅ€™ๅค‰ๅ‹• ใจใฎๆˆฆใ„ใซๆœฌๅฝ“ใซๅฟ…่ฆใชใฎใ‹ใฉใ†ใ‹ใฏ็ขบไฟกใŒๆŒใฆใชใ„ใจ่จ€ใˆใ‚‹ใงใ—ใ‚‡ใ†
13:56
climate change. Yes, it could reduce our consumption temporarily,
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ใ€‚ ใฏใ„ใ€ ไธ€ๆ™‚็š„ใซๆถˆ่ฒปใ‚’ๆธ›ใ‚‰ใ™ใ“ใจใฏใงใใพใ™
14:01
but it isn't a long-term solution. Moreover,
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ใŒใ€้•ทๆœŸ็š„ใช ่งฃๆฑบ็ญ–ใงใฏใ‚ใ‚Šใพใ›ใ‚“ใ€‚ ใ•ใ‚‰ใซใ€
14:04
it increases our cost of living significantly and makes it more expensive to opt
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็”Ÿๆดป่ฒปใŒๅคงๅน…ใซไธŠๆ˜‡ใ—ใ€็’ฐๅขƒใซๅ„ชใ—ใ„้ธๆŠž่‚ขใ‚’ ้ธใถใจใ•ใ‚‰ใซ้ซ˜ไพกใซใชใ‚Šใพใ™
14:09
for eco-friendly options. What do you think this example does?
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14:13
Two important things. First,
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้‡่ฆใชใ“ใจใŒ 2 ใคใ‚ใ‚Šใพใ™ใ€‚ ใพใšใ€ไธ็ขบๅฎŸๆ€งใ‚’
14:15
it introduces the disagreement with uncertainty and provides reasons for the
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ไผดใ†ไธไธ€่‡ดใ‚’็ดนไป‹ใ— ใ€ไธไธ€่‡ดใฎ็†็”ฑใ‚’็คบใ—ใพใ™
14:21
disagreement.
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14:22
The second thing that it does is it ends with an open invitation asking
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14:26
someone else to share their thoughts,
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ไป–ใฎไบบใซๆ„่ฆ‹ใ‚’ๅ…ฑๆœ‰ใ™ใ‚‹ใ‚ˆใ†ๆฑ‚ใ‚ใ‚‹ใ‚ชใƒผใƒ—ใƒณใชๆ‹›ๅพ…็Šถใง็ต‚ใ‚ใ‚Šใ€
14:28
and it indicates that you're interested in hearing what they have to say.
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ใ‚ใชใŸใŒๅฝผใ‚‰ใฎๆ„่ฆ‹ใ‚’่žใใŸใ„ใจๆ€ใฃใฆใ„ใ‚‹ใ“ใจใ‚’็คบใ—ใฆใ„ใพใ™ ใ€‚
14:33
Not only is this a respectful way to disagree,
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ใ“ใ‚Œใฏ ๅๅฏพๆ„่ฆ‹ใ‚’ๅฐŠ้‡ใ™ใ‚‹ใ ใ‘ใงใชใใ€
14:36
it also keeps the dialogue open. And finally,
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ๅฏพ่ฉฑใ‚’ใ‚ชใƒผใƒ—ใƒณใซไฟใคใ“ใจใซใ‚‚ใชใ‚Šใพใ™ ใ€‚ ใใ—ใฆๆœ€ๅพŒใฎ
14:40
scenario number four, disagreeing with a loved one. As you know,
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ใ‚ทใƒŠใƒชใ‚ช 4 ใฏใ€ ๆ„›ใ™ใ‚‹ไบบใจใฎๆ„่ฆ‹ใฎ็›ธ้•ใงใ™ใ€‚ ใ”ๅญ˜็ŸฅใฎใจใŠใ‚Šใ€
14:44
we sometimes have to disagree with the people we love the most,
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็งใŸใกใฏๆ™‚ใ€…ใ€ ๆœ€ใ‚‚ๆ„›ใ™ใ‚‹ไบบใ€…ใจๆ„่ฆ‹ใฎ็›ธ้•ใ‚’ๆŒใŸใชใ‘ใ‚Œใฐใชใ‚‰ใชใ„ใ“ใจใŒใ‚ใ‚Šใพใ™ใ€‚
14:47
and in some circumstances we might employ one of these strategies
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็Šถๆณใซใ‚ˆใฃใฆใฏใ€ๆ„่ฆ‹ใฎ็›ธ้•ใซๅฏพใ—ใฆ
14:52
that is very delicate, very polite in its disagreement,
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้žๅธธใซใƒ‡ใƒชใ‚ฑใƒผใƒˆใง้žๅธธใซ ไธๅฏงใชๆˆฆ็•ฅใ‚’ๆŽก็”จใ™ใ‚‹ใ“ใจใ‚‚ใ‚ใ‚Œใฐใ€
14:57
and on other occasions we may have the luxury of being more direct in our
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ๅˆฅใฎๅ ดๅˆใซใฏใ€ๆ„่ฆ‹ใฎ็›ธ้•ใ‚’่€ƒๆ…ฎใ™ใ‚‹ใจใ„ใ†่ด…ๆฒขใ‚‚ใ‚ใ‚‹ใ‹ใ‚‚ใ—ใ‚Œใพใ›ใ‚“ใ€‚
15:02
disagreement when we're communicating with close friends and family and we
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่ฆชใ—ใ„ๅ‹ไบบใ‚„ๅฎถๆ—ใจใ‚ณใƒŸใƒฅใƒ‹ใ‚ฑใƒผใ‚ทใƒงใƒณใ‚’ใจใ‚Šใ€
15:07
feel comfortable to disagree directly,
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็›ดๆŽฅๆ„่ฆ‹ใ‚’็•ฐใซใ™ใ‚‹ใ“ใจใซๆŠตๆŠ—ใŒใชใ„ๅ ดๅˆใ€็งใŸใกใฏๆ„่ฆ‹ใฎ็›ธ้•ใ‚’ใ‚ˆใ‚Š็›ดๆŽฅ็š„ใซ่กจ็พใ™ใ‚‹ใŸใ‚ใซใ€
15:10
we use some very informal phrases. However,
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้žๅธธใซใใ ใ‘ใŸใƒ•ใƒฌใƒผใ‚บใ‚’ใ„ใใคใ‹ไฝฟ็”จใ—ใพใ™ ใ€‚ ใŸใ ใ—ใ€
15:13
I want to be clear that these are used with close friends and family.
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ใ“ใ‚Œใ‚‰ใฏ ่ฆชใ—ใ„ๅ‹ไบบใ‚„ๅฎถๆ—ใซๅฏพใ—ใฆไฝฟ็”จใ•ใ‚Œใ‚‹ใ‚‚ใฎใงใ‚ใ‚‹ใ“ใจใ‚’ๆ˜Ž็ขบใซใ—ใฆใŠใใŸใ„ใจๆ€ใ„ใพใ™ใ€‚ ใŸใจใˆใฐใ€
15:16
They're not really appropriate for the workplace, for example. No way.
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ใ“ใ‚Œใ‚‰ใฏ่ทๅ ดใซใฏใ‚ใพใ‚Š้ฉใ—ใฆใ„ใพใ›ใ‚“ ใ€‚ ใจใ‚“ใงใ‚‚ใชใ„ใ€‚
15:22
Or you must be joking, you can't be serious.
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ใใ‚Œใจใ‚‚ๅ†—่ซ‡ใงใ—ใ‚‡ใ†ใ€ ๆœฌๆฐ—ใงใฏใ‚ใ‚Šใˆใพใ›ใ‚“ใ€‚
15:26
I totally disagree. I don't think so. Absolutely not.
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็งใ‚‚ๅ…จใๅŒๆ„Ÿใงใ™ใ€‚ ็งใฏ ใใ†ใฏๆ€ใ‚ใชใ„ใ€‚ ็ตถๅฏพ้•ใ†ใ€‚
15:31
Not a chance,
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ใƒใƒฃใƒณใ‚นใงใฏใ‚ใ‚Šใพใ›ใ‚“ใ€‚ใ“ใ‚Œใ‚‰ใฎไพ‹ใŒใ“ใ‚Œใพใง่ฉฑใ—ใฆใใŸใ™ในใฆใฎใƒซใƒผใƒซใซ้•ๅใ—ใฆใ„ใ‚‹ใ“ใจใซๆฐ—ใฅใใ‹ใ‚‚ใ—ใ‚Œใชใ„ใจ
15:33
and I agreed until you said you may notice that these examples
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ใ‚ใชใŸใŒ่จ€ใ†ใพใงใ€็งใฏๅŒๆ„ใ—ใพใ—ใŸใ€‚
15:38
break all the rules we've talked about so far.
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15:40
They are extremely direct and they use the word you,
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ใ“ใ‚Œใ‚‰ใฏ้žๅธธใซ็›ดๆŽฅ็š„ใง ใ€ใ€Œใ‚ใชใŸใ€ใจใ„ใ†่จ€่‘‰ใ‚’ไฝฟ็”จใ™ใ‚‹ใฎใงใ€
15:45
so we want to be careful when using them.
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ไฝฟ็”จใ™ใ‚‹้š›ใซใฏๆณจๆ„ใ—ใŸใ„ใจๆ€ใ„ใพใ™ใ€‚
15:48
Let's take a look at an example for when we might use this kind of language.
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ใ“ใฎ็จฎใฎ่จ€่ชžใ‚’ไฝฟ็”จใ™ใ‚‹ๅ ดๅˆใฎไพ‹ใ‚’่ฆ‹ใฆใฟใพใ—ใ‚‡ใ†ใ€‚
15:53
Let's say for example,
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ใŸใจใˆใฐใ€
15:54
you and your family are planning an itinerary for your next vacation and
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ใ‚ใชใŸใจๅฎถๆ—ใŒ ๆฌกใฎไผ‘ๆš‡ใฎๆ—…็จ‹ใ‚’่จˆ็”ปใ—ใฆใ„ใฆใ€
15:59
your spouse proposes that you do something new,
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ใ‚ใชใŸใฎ้…ๅถ่€…ใŒไฝ•ใ‹ ๆ–ฐใ—ใ„ใ“ใจใ‚’ใ—ใ‚ˆใ†ใ€
16:02
that you do something more adventurous, and as you're listening,
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ใ‚‚ใฃใจๅ†’้™บ็š„ใชใ“ใจใ‚’ใ—ใ‚ˆใ†ใจๆๆกˆใ—ใ€ใใ‚Œใ‚’ ่žใใชใŒใ‚‰ใ€
16:05
you're thinking, yeah, okay, that sounds great.
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ใใ†ใ ใ€ ๅˆ†ใ‹ใฃใŸใ€ใจๆ€ใฃใŸใจใ—ใพใ™ใ€‚ ใใ‚Œใฏใ„ใ„ใงใ™ใ€‚
16:07
And then they introduce the idea of cage diving and
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ใใ—ใฆใ€ๅฝผใ‚‰ใฏ ใ‚ฑใƒผใ‚ธใƒ€ใ‚คใƒ“ใƒณใ‚ฐใฎใ‚ขใ‚คใƒ‡ใ‚ขใ‚’็ดนไป‹ใ—ใพใ—ใŸใ€ใใ—ใฆ
16:12
you say,
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ใ‚ใชใŸใฏใ€ใ‚ใชใŸใŒใ‚ฑใƒผใ‚ธใƒ€ใ‚คใƒ“ใƒณใ‚ฐใ‚’ๆๆกˆใ™ใ‚‹
16:14
no way I agreed with you until you suggested cage diving.
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ใพใงใฏใ€็งใŒใ‚ใชใŸใซๅŒๆ„ใ™ใ‚‹ใฏใšใŒใชใ‹ใฃใŸใจ่จ€ใ„ใพใ™ ใ€‚
16:18
I would much rather go whale watching or scuba diving in a shark free
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็งใฏใ‚€ใ—ใ‚ใ€ ใ‚ตใƒกใฎใ„ใชใ„ใ‚พใƒผใƒณใงใƒ›ใ‚จใƒผใƒซใ‚ฆใ‚ฉใƒƒใƒใƒณใ‚ฐใ‚„ใ‚นใ‚ญใƒฅใƒผใƒใƒ€ใ‚คใƒ“ใƒณใ‚ฐใซ่กŒใใŸใ„ใจๆ€ใฃใฆใ„ใพใ™
16:23
zone. And now to finish this up,
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16:26
let's talk about the what if.
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ใ‚‚ใ—ใ‚‚ใฎ่ฉฑใ‚’ใ—ใพใ—ใ‚‡ใ†ใ€‚
16:29
What if you're in a disagreement with someone and you talk,
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่ชฐใ‹ใจๆ„่ฆ‹ใฎ็›ธ้•ใŒใ‚ใ‚Šใ€่ฉฑใ—ๅˆใฃใฆใ€
16:33
you talk and you talk some more, and you never come to an agreement,
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่ฉฑใ—ๅˆใฃใฆใ€ใ•ใ‚‰ใซ่ฉฑใ—ๅˆใฃใฆใ‚‚ ๅˆๆ„ใซ่‡ณใ‚‰ใšใ€ไธ€็ท’ใซ
16:38
you can't find the conclusion together. For this,
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็ต่ซ–ใ‚’่ฆ‹ใคใ‘ใ‚‹ใ“ใจใŒใงใใชใ‹ใฃใŸใ‚‰ใฉใ†ใชใ‚‹ใงใ—ใ‚‡ใ†ใ‹ ใ€‚ ใ“ใ‚Œใซ้–ขใ—ใฆใฏใ€
16:42
we have the perfect statement. Let's agree to disagree.
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ๅฎŒ็’งใชใ‚นใƒ†ใƒผใƒˆใƒกใƒณใƒˆใŒใ‚ใ‚Šใพใ™ใ€‚ ๅๅฏพใ™ใ‚‹ใ“ใจใซใ‚‚ๅŒๆ„ใ—ใพใ—ใ‚‡ใ†ใ€‚
16:47
This allows you to bring the conversation to a close, at least for now,
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ใ“ใ‚Œใซใ‚ˆใ‚Šใ€ ๅฐ‘ใชใใจใ‚‚็พๆ™‚็‚นใงใฏไผš่ฉฑใ‚’็ต‚ใ‚ใ‚‰ใ›ใ‚‹ใ“ใจใŒใงใใ€
16:52
and accept the disagreement without any frustration.
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ไธๆบ€ใ‚’ๆ„Ÿใ˜ใ‚‹ใ“ใจใชใๆ„่ฆ‹ใฎ็›ธ้•ใ‚’ๅ—ใ‘ๅ…ฅใ‚Œใ‚‹ใ“ใจใŒใงใใพใ™ใ€‚
16:55
You can walk away from the conversation and perhaps revisit it on a
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ไผš่ฉฑใ‹ใ‚‰้›ขใ‚Œใฆ ใ€
17:00
future date. Now that we have these strategies,
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ๅฐ†ๆฅใฎๆ—ฅใซใ‚‚ใ†ไธ€ๅบฆไผš่ฉฑใ‚’ใ™ใ‚‹ใ“ใจใ‚‚ใงใใพใ™ใ€‚ ใ“ใ‚Œใ‚‰ใฎๆˆฆ็•ฅใ€
17:04
phrases and example scenarios in place,
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ใƒ•ใƒฌใƒผใ‚บใ€ใ‚ทใƒŠใƒชใ‚ชใฎไพ‹ใ‚’็”จๆ„ใ—ใพใ—ใŸใ€‚ๆฌกใซใ€
17:07
I have a couple of challenge questions for you.
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ใ„ใใคใ‹ใฎ ้›ฃใ—ใ„่ณชๅ•ใ‚’ใ—ใพใ™ใ€‚
17:09
I want you to think through what you've learned in practice using this language.
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ใ“ใฎ่จ€่ชžใ‚’ๅฎŸ้š›ใซไฝฟใฃใฆๅญฆใ‚“ใ ใ“ใจใ‚’ใ˜ใฃใใ‚Š่€ƒใˆใฆใปใ—ใ„ใจๆ€ใ„ใพใ™ใ€‚
17:13
First, I want you to think about a disagreement you've had with a family member,
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17:17
a friend or a coworker.
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ๅ‹ไบบใ€ๅŒๅƒšใจใฎๆ„่ฆ‹ใฎ็›ธ้•ใซใคใ„ใฆ่€ƒใˆใฆใใ ใ•ใ„ใ€‚ ไปŠๆ—ฅๅญฆใ‚“ใ 
17:19
Is there a strategy or a phrase you learned today and you realize, oh, great,
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ๆˆฆ็•ฅใ‚„ใƒ•ใƒฌใƒผใ‚บใฏใ‚ใ‚Šใพใ™ใ‹?
17:24
I used that in the disagreement and it was quite effective. If so,
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17:29
I want you to tell me about it down below,
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ใใ‚Œใซใคใ„ใฆไปฅไธ‹ใงๆ•™ใˆใฆใปใ—ใ„ใงใ™ใ€‚
17:31
or perhaps there's a strategy I didn't mention here that allowed you to
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ใ‚ใ‚‹ใ„ใฏใ€ใ“ใ“ใงใฏ่จ€ๅŠใ—ใชใ‹ใฃใŸๆˆฆ็•ฅใŒใ‚ใ‚‹ใ‹ใ‚‚ใ—ใ‚Œใพใ›ใ‚“ใ€‚ใ“ใ‚Œใซใ‚ˆใ‚Šใ€
17:35
politely disagree and state your position. And number two,
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ไธๅฏงใซๅๅฏพใ—ใ€ ่‡ชๅˆ†ใฎ็ซ‹ๅ ดใ‚’่กจๆ˜Žใงใใ‚‹ใ‚ˆใ†ใซใชใ‚Šใพใ™ใ€‚ ใใ—ใฆ 2 ็•ช็›ฎใซใ€
17:40
I want you to imagine that you and your colleagues are discussing a team
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ใ‚ใชใŸใจ ๅŒๅƒšใŒใƒใƒผใƒ ใƒ“ใƒซใƒ‡ใ‚ฃใƒณใ‚ฐใฎ้€ฑๆœซใซใคใ„ใฆ่ฉฑใ—ๅˆใฃใฆใ„ใ‚‹ใจใ“ใ‚ใ‚’ๆƒณๅƒใ—ใฆใฟใฆใใ ใ•ใ„
17:44
building weekend.
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17:46
Your boss has proposed a specific date and yet that date doesn't work for
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ใ‚ใชใŸใฎไธŠๅธใฏ็‰นๅฎšใฎๆ—ฅไป˜ใ‚’ๆๆกˆใ—ใพใ—ใŸ ใŒใ€ใใฎๆ—ฅไป˜ใฏ
17:50
most of the team.
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ใปใจใ‚“ใฉใฎใƒใƒผใƒ ใซใจใฃใฆๆฉŸ่ƒฝใ—ใพใ›ใ‚“ใ€‚
17:51
So you're strategizing on how to approach your boss and express some
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ใใ“ใงใ€ใ‚ใชใŸใฏ ไธŠๅธใซใฉใฎใ‚ˆใ†ใซใ‚ขใƒ—ใƒญใƒผใƒใ—ใ€้€ฑๆœซใฎใƒใƒผใƒ ใƒ“ใƒซใƒ‡ใ‚ฃใƒณใ‚ฐใฎ
17:57
disagreement over the initial plans of the team building weekend.
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ๅฝ“ๅˆใฎ่จˆ็”ปใซใคใ„ใฆๆ„่ฆ‹ใฎ็›ธ้•ใ‚’่กจๆ˜Žใ™ใ‚‹ใ‹ใ‚’ๆˆฆ็•ฅใ‚’็ซ‹ใฆใฆใ„ใพใ™ ใ€‚
18:01
How might you do that? What phrases would you use to politely disagree?
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ใฉใ†ใ™ใ‚Œใฐใใ‚“ใชใ“ใจใŒใงใใ‚‹ใงใ—ใ‚‡ใ†ใ‹๏ผŸ ไธๅฏงใซๅๅฏพใ™ใ‚‹ๅ ดๅˆใ€ใฉใฎใ‚ˆใ†ใชใƒ•ใƒฌใƒผใ‚บใ‚’ไฝฟ็”จใ—ใพใ™ใ‹?
18:06
As always,
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ใ„ใคใ‚‚ใฎใ‚ˆใ†ใซใ€ไธ‹ใฎใ‚ณใƒกใƒณใƒˆใ‚ปใ‚ฏใ‚ทใƒงใƒณใง
18:07
you can share your examples with me down in the comment section below.
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ใ‚ใชใŸใฎไพ‹ใ‚’็งใจๅ…ฑๆœ‰ใ—ใฆใใ ใ•ใ„ ใ€‚
18:11
With that, thank you so much for joining me. If you found this helpful,
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ใจใ„ใ†ใ“ใจใงใ€ใ” ๅ‚ๅŠ ใ„ใŸใ ใใพใ—ใฆ่ช ใซใ‚ใ‚ŠใŒใจใ†ใ”ใ–ใ„ใพใ—ใŸใ€‚ ใ“ใ‚ŒใŒๅฝนใซ็ซ‹ใฃใŸใจๆ€ใ‚ใ‚ŒใŸๅ ดๅˆใฏใ€ใœใฒ
18:14
I would love to know and you can tell me in a few ways. Number one,
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ใŠ็Ÿฅใ‚‰ใ›ใใ ใ•ใ„ใ€‚ ใ„ใใคใ‹ใฎๆ–นๆณ•ใงๆ•™ใˆใฆใ„ใŸใ ใ‘ใพใ™ใ‹ใ€‚ ใพใšใ€YouTube
18:18
give this lesson a thumbs up here on YouTube and share a comment down below.
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ใงใ“ใฎใƒฌใƒƒใ‚นใƒณใซ้ซ˜่ฉ•ไพกใ‚’ไป˜ใ‘ใฆ ใ€ไธ‹ใซใ‚ณใƒกใƒณใƒˆใ‚’ๅ…ฑๆœ‰ใ—ใฆใใ ใ•ใ„ใ€‚
18:21
Number two, you can subscribe to my Speak Confident English Channel,
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2 ็•ช็›ฎใซใ€ ็งใฎ Speak Confident English ใƒใƒฃใƒณใƒใƒซใซ็™ป้Œฒใ—ใฆใ„ใŸใ ใใจใ€็งใŒ
18:25
so you are always notified when I share a new Confident English lesson.
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ๆ–ฐใ—ใ„ Confident English ใƒฌใƒƒใ‚นใƒณใ‚’ๅ…ฑๆœ‰ใ™ใ‚‹ใจใใซๅธธใซ้€š็ŸฅใŒๅฑŠใใพใ™ใ€‚
18:29
And finally,
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ใใ—ใฆๆœ€ๅพŒใซใ€
18:30
hop on over to my Speak Confident English website where you'll find years of
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็งใฎ Speak Confident English Web ใ‚ตใ‚คใƒˆใซใ‚ขใ‚ฏใ‚ปใ‚นใ—ใฆใใ ใ•ใ„ใ€‚ ใ“ใ“ใซใฏใ€้•ทๅนดใซใ‚ใŸใ‚‹
18:34
lessons and free resources you can download from me. Again,
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ใƒฌใƒƒใ‚นใƒณใจใ€ ็งใ‹ใ‚‰ใƒ€ใ‚ฆใƒณใƒญใƒผใƒ‰ใงใใ‚‹็„กๆ–™ใฎใƒชใ‚ฝใƒผใ‚นใŒใ‚ใ‚Šใพใ™ใ€‚ ๆ”นใ‚ใฆใ€
18:39
thank you so much and I look forward to seeing you next time.
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ๆœฌๅฝ“ใซใ‚ใ‚ŠใŒใจใ†ใ”ใ–ใ„ใพใ—ใŸใ€‚ ๆฌกๅ›žใŠไผšใ„ใงใใ‚‹ใฎใ‚’ๆฅฝใ—ใฟใซใ—ใฆใ„ใพใ™ใ€‚
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