Learn English Conversation - How to Have a Conversation in English

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Hi Mikey!
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Hi Stephanie!
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Well, this is awkward!
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Yeah, it is a bit.
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We’ve got nothing to talk about!
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That’s right!
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I just have no idea what to say to you.
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I’ve got an idea.
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Oh, what’s that?
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Let’s do a lesson about how to have a conversation in English.
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Great idea!
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Looks like we really need it.
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Shall we start now?
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Yeah, why not?
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Hi, I’m Stephanie.
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Welcome to Oxford Online English!
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Do you find it difficult to start conversations in English?
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Do you feel that you don’t know what to say?
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It’s common.
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Speaking a foreign language is hard work.
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You have to remember foreign words, pronounce sounds which your mouth isn’t used to, and
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now you have to build a conversation, too.
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In this lesson, you’ll see some simple, effective tips to help you start, develop
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and end a conversation in English.
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Let’s start at the very beginning.
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You’ll see three easy ways to start a conversation in English.
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Hello!
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My name’s Mikey.
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What’s your name?
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Stephanie, nice to meet you.
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Where are you from, Stephanie?
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So, what did you think of the film?
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It was… interesting.
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Does that mean you didn’t like it?
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I’m glad I saw it, but I wouldn’t watch it again.
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Oh, hey, I saw some of your pictures from your trip.
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They’re amazing!
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Thanks for saying so!
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What kind of camera do you use?
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Actually, I just use my phone.
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First of all, if you don’t know the other person, of course you should introduce yourself.
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It can be awkward if you start talking and then you realise an hour later that you don’t
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know the other person’s name.
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You saw three ways to start a conversation.
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What were they?
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One: ask a simple question:
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What’s your name?
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Where are you from?
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What do you do?
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Two: make a comment or ask a question about the situation you’re in:
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That looks delicious!
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What is it?
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What did you think of the film?
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It’s so cold in here!
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Is the heating broken?
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Great party, right?
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Who do you know here?
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Three: compliment the other person:
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I love your top!
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Where did you get it?
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I thought your presentation was really interesting.
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Oh, you’re Mikey?
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I’ve heard so many good things about you.
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Don’t think too much about what you say first.
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When you start a conversation, it’s more important to say something, even if it’s
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something very simple.
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Easy, right?
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Introduce yourself, say something simple, and you’ve started a conversation.
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Next, you need to build the conversation.
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Where do you go from here?
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Hey, you’re Stephanie, right?
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Yeah.
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Mikey?
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That’s right!
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Peter told me you’re in a band?
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Well, kind of.
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I play guitar, and we just play together for fun.
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It’s nothing serious.
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I play the guitar too, actually.
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Really?
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What kind of thing do you play?
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Actually, I play classical guitar.
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I just do it as a hobby; I’m not that good, but I enjoy it.
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That’s the important thing.
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Anyway, how do you know Peter?
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We used to work together, and we stayed in touch.
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Here, you saw three useful things you can do to build a conversation in English.
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Do you know what they were?
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They’re all very simple.
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Anyone can use them!
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First idea: make a reference to something you have in common.
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For example, do you know that the other person is a football fan?
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Ask:
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Who do you support?
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Or: Did you see the City game on Sunday?
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Or: What’s your prediction for the cup final next weekend?
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If you meet someone while you’re travelling, you could ask:
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Where are you going to next?
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You went to Rome?
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Any recommendations?
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Do you know any good places to eat around here?
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We said that you saw three ways to continue a conversation.
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What’s the second one?
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Ask the other person about themselves and their life.
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People generally like to talk about themselves, and they like it when other people are interested
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in them, so this can be very effective.
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For example:
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Your job sounds really difficult.
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How do you manage everything?
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I like your pictures.
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Is that in India?
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I heard you’re really into cooking.
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What kind of stuff do you like to make?
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Finally, you can also continue the conversation by referring to someone you both know, like
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this:
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How do you know Lisa?
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Have you known Simon long?
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You work with Lee?
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I heard he can be quite difficult.
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Again, it’s more important to say something, even if it’s something very basic.
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When you’ve just started talking to someone, anything is better than saying nothing.
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The longer you can keep the conversation going, the more you’ll learn about each other,
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and the more topics you’ll have to explore.
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Let’s look at some other important points to think about as your conversation continues.
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Mikey, hi!
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How was your trip?
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It was great, thanks.
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Where did you go?
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Well, we started in Madrid, and then…
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Where did you stay?
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We found a really great homestay near the centre, and…
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Did you eat tapas?
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Well, yeah, a couple of times, but…
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Did you go to the Royal Palace?
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No, actually, we…
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Why not?
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Yeah, so as I was saying, it’s basically the best film ever.
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Mm-hmm.
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I mean, people don’t rate Michael Bay, but I really think the man’s a genius, you know?
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Mm-hmm.
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I’ve seen it twice at the cinema already.
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The last time I went it was so loud that I still couldn’t hear properly the next morning.
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Mm-hmm.
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I’m still planning to see it again this weekend, though.
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I love it!
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Mm-hmm.
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You saw two conversations.
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I hope you realise that these were examples of what not to do when you want to build a
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conversation.
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What was the problem in each one?
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In both conversations, there was a lack of balance.
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In the first conversation, I was asking too many questions!
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A conversation shouldn’t sound like a police interrogation.
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In the second conversation, I spoke too much, even though Stephanie clearly wasn’t interested
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in what I was talking about.
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What’s the point here?
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For a successful conversation, you need balance.
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You need to balance asking questions and saying what you think.
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You need to balance speaking and listening.
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Let’s look at how those conversations could have gone better:
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Mikey, hi!
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How was your trip?
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It was great, thanks.
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Where did you go?
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Well, we started in Madrid, and then we spent a few days in Andalucia.
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Wow!
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I loved Madrid.
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What did you think of it?
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We really liked it.
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When we were there, we stayed at this really cool guesthouse near the Parque de El Retiro.
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Did you spend any time around there?
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Actually, we were staying a bit further out.
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We did walk past there, though.
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There are some great places further out, too.
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What did you think of the food?
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Guess what I just saw?
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What?
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The new Transformers film!
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It’s amazing!
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I really think Michael Bay is one of the best directors alive.
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Are you serious?
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What, you don’t like his films?
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No.
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I think a good movie needs more than explosions and robots.
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That’s a shame.
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I was hoping you’d come to the cinema with me to watch it.
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I thought you’d already seen it?
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Yeah, twice!
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The last time, the sound system was so loud that I couldn’t hear properly the next morning.
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It was great!
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That doesn’t sound healthy.
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Maybe you should go to the doctor’s, and you definitely shouldn’t go to see it again.
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Balancing your conversations helps you to keep the other person engaged, which means
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the conversation will flow easily and naturally.
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Anyway, let’s talk about something else.
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Sometimes, people complain to us about making conversation in English: “I don’t know
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what to talk about!”
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Here’s the thing: you can talk about almost anything you want.
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Sometimes, the other person isn’t interested in what you’re saying.
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Sometimes, you’re not interested in what the other person’s saying.
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Sometimes, neither of you is interested in what you’re talking about.
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This is totally natural.
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So, what should you do?
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Change the topic, of course!
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Seen any good TV shows recently?
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Actually, I don’t have a TV.
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Oh…
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So, er, what are you doing this weekend?
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Do you like travelling?
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Not really.
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When I don’t have to work, I just stay at home.
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Anyway, whereabouts do you live?
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Yeah, I’ve had this really bad cough for weeks.
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All this green stuff keeps coming out of me.
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I don’t know when it’s going to stop.
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Mikey, I’m trying to eat!
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Can we please talk about something else?
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Oh, sorry.
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Changing the subject is easy.
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The easiest way is just to… change the subject!
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If what you’re talking about isn’t going anywhere, ask a question or make a comment
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about something different.
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It’s common to introduce a change of subject with a word like so or anyway.
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For example:
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So, what are you doing this weekend?
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Anyway, whereabouts do you live?
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If you’re feeling uncomfortable with a conversation topic, you might clearly ask to change the
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subject.
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You can say something like:
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Can we talk about something else?
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Let’s change the subject.
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I don’t really want to talk about that.
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Remember that if you use phrases like these, you’re clearly showing the other person
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that you’re uncomfortable with the conversation.
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If you say something like this, make sure that you mean it.
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Finally, let’s see one of the most important skills for having good conversations in English:
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…so then I say to her, ‘You must be joking!’, and she’s all like, ‘No’, and I’m
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all like, ‘That is so crazy!’, and then…
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Adele, I hate to be rude, but I have to be somewhere else.
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We’ll talk later, okay?
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Oh, okay.
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See you later!
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You’re an events manager?
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That’s exactly what I want to get into!
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I have so many questions.
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So, what’s the best way to get a job with your company?
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Will you help me out?
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Listen, it’s been great talking to you, but I should get back to work.
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Can I ask you my questions later?
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I have SO MANY.
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Sure, just call me.
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But, I don’t have your phone number!
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Have you finished the debugging work?
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It’s nearly done.
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Is there any chance you can ask someone to help me?
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It’s a lot of work.
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I’ll see what I can do.
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Anyway, I won’t keep you any longer.
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Try to have the work done by tomorrow evening.
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Alright.
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Here, you saw three short conversations with three different ways to leave a conversation.
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Do you remember them?
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Here are the three phrases you saw:
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I hate to be rude, but…
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It’s been great talking to you, but...
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I won’t keep you any longer.
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You can also add the person’s name to make it sound more personal:
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Stephanie, I hate to be rude, but…
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Paul, it’s been great talking to you, but…
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You can make these phrases sound stronger by adding a word like look or listen at the
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start:
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Look, I hate to be rude, but…
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Listen, it’s been great talking to you, but…
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Saying it like this adds emphasis and makes it extra clear that the conversation is finishing.
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After the word but, make an excuse:
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Stephanie, I hate to be rude, but I have to catch the last metro.
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Paul, it’s been great talking to you, but there are some other people here I need to
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catch up with.
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Another good way to leave a conversation is to pretend that you’re stopping the other
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person from leaving.
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You can say something like:
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I won’t keep you any longer.
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Or: I’ll let you get back to work.
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On the phone, it’s common to say:
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I’ll let you go.
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This is a clear signal that the conversation is ending.
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Then, say goodbye, and you’re finished!
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You can see that starting, developing and ending a conversation in English is quite
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simple.
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Use the tips and language from this lesson, and you’ll be able to have natural conversations
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in English easily!
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Anyway, it’s been great talking to you, but we really have to go!
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