WEDDING & MARRIAGE Vocabulary in English

Hi. James from EngVid. We are gathered here today for this thing called "life". That's

a line from Prince. And I have to apologize because one of you out there said that my

song was not music from Star Wars, but from Mozart. My apologies. But I'm still using

it because it sounds, you know, like something horrible is about to happen, and it is. I'm

going to teach you a lesson on weddings. And depending on who you are, it's a good thing

or a bad thing. But anyway, here we go. One of the things we're going to talk about -- we'll

talk about the rituals of weddings, and I'm going to give you some vocabulary to go with

that. And just to start off the show -- I don't know who this guy is, but anyway. He's

saying, "Will you marry me" to this beautiful young girl. And she's saying, "Yes. I will.

Is that a diamond ring" -- another word for "wedding band" -- "or Mr. E?" We'll find out.

Let's talk about weddings. Okay? Well, before we go there, here's a little joke I'd like

to put to you. There are two things you will be invited to. And both of them signal the

death of something or the death of life. Okay? The first is a funeral. And I did a video

on that earlier. Go find it. That's where my friend corrected me. And the second one

is a wedding. It is the death of your single life. So what we're going to do is I'll do

the magic click, take a step out, and then we're going to start the lesson. Are you ready?

Let's go on our journey.

"And dearly departed" -- sorry. Marriage. I keep forgetting because that death thing

keeps coming to my mind. Anyway. So what we want to look at is -- I told you I would give

you some vocabulary and explain a little bit, give you a little history. It's not too much,

but it will help you to remember and understand why we do what we do. Ready? Let's go to be board.

Mr. E is gone, but his presence will not be missed. Okay in fact, I'll put a little E

here. We're going to talk about the engagement. Okay? There you go, Mr. E. He's not looking

too happy about being in this particular situation. We say the wedding is a particular day, and

it's true. In fact, there are special names for weddings when you're getting married.

But before that we've -- I consider the wedding starting with the engagement because that's

the first time you make a promise to join -- look at that. Engagement. You get a ring.

Surprise, surprise. You get that engagement ring, and you say, "Will you marry me?" The

person says yes. You put it on. Boom. You're fianc�s. You've started the first step

to getting married.

A little thing about wedding rings. I'm not sure if you know about it, so I'll just take

a good look at it. Do you know what this symbolizes? Well, boys and girls, in the old days, the

wedding band -- that's another word for "wedding ring", the "wedding band" -- the wedding ring

told other men that this woman was taken. So when the woman would put it on, other men

would go, "Oh, no she's off the market." In other words, "You can't date her anymore because

somebody else has bought the woman." Glad those days are over. Yeah? You just bought

a diamond ring, son. It's not over. So engagement. It starts with a ring. And just before the

wedding, people -- you know, these are old, kind of rituals or things we used to do. Young

people would get together. They wouldn't have anything. They might have lived on a farm.

So they needed to get things to start their new life together, and not everyone had a

lot of money. We're talking of the times where people were kings and queens and princes.

So the poor didn't have a lot. So when you would have a bridal shower or a stag night,

well, the bridal shower was to get gifts to help the couple start their new life together.

I mean, really, this is about 150 years old, but it's still long because you're young,

son. Not like me. Okay. So the bridal shower, if you get invited to that, cha-ching! It's

the beginning of what I call the "wedding money machine". You have to show up with a

gift for the bride because she's starting a new life and you should pay for it. That's

right. Unlike the bachelor party -- old guys call it "stag night" because stags have, you

know, the big buck. It's sort of like a horror story -- deer. You know Bambi's mommy? Well,

Bambi's daddy would be a stag. He would be big and strong. It would be your final night

to be a big, strong man because now, you're about the get married. I love it. One ring

shall control them all. Anyway.

So the stag night was a man saying goodbye to being a man and now to be a husband. And

the bridal shower was the time for the woman to the bow, "Give me the goods. Give me the

good stuff." Okay? So she'd be getting stuff.

Now, let's talk about the wedding itself. Because this happens, and there's a period

of time in between. And it's called your "engagement period" until we get to the wedding day. Now,

here's what's funny. Here's the funny thing. On the wedding day, it's actually a whole

day, but the wedding really consists of a few minutes, okay? Now, on the wedding day,

you're going to have a wedding party. I know I made it sound like a funeral, but there

is actually a wedding party. It's not what you're thinking. The wedding party are, sort

of -- today, we call it, like, your "posse" or your "group" or -- what was that program

called? The guy had a -- well, whatever. You've got your tribe with you. The woman had what's

called the "bridesmaids", and the men had what's called the "groomsmen". Now, the bridesmaids

are made up of her good friends or women that are important in her life. And the groomsmen

are made up for the man of all the important men in his life. Okay? So this could be his

extra brothers. And this could be her sisters and her best friends.

Now, of the people you like the best -- you will love this part -- you have your maid

of honor. It could be your mother or sister, but really a sister or your best, best friend.

And the best man would probably be your favorite brother or your best friend. These are the

people that head these groups, like, the leaders of these particular groups. And then, you

have the bride and the groom. The groom -- some of you don't know this word because it only

exists for one day in your life. It's when a man is about to be married. On his wedding

day, he is a groom. While the bride is only a bride on her wedding day. Okay? And this

only lasts for about a couple of hours because you have to understand after they exchange

rings -- that's what this is for. Okay? When they exchange the rings, they suddenly become

"husband and wife". So you have a few hours in your life that you will be a bride or a

groom. "Bride" is for girl; "groom" is for boy. Okay?

So this is the wedding party, not the party you're thinking. Sorry. But when you're invited

to be on the wedding party, it's an honor because they're saying you're special. That's

why I said it's like your sister or your best friend or your brother or your best friend.

You're being given an honor, okay?

A woman has to wear a special dress on her wedding day, and it's called the "wedding

gown", sometimes called the "wedding dress" now. Why am I mentioning this? Guys just get

to wear a suit, so it's not a big deal. A suit or a tuxedo. The wedding gown has a specific

thing or meaning. And many women search for months to get the perfect dress. You see,

the wedding gown came back -- this is also about 150 years old. Because it started after

-- because a long time ago, women couldn't afford to buy one dress to wear for one day

and throw in the garbage or put away. This was just crazy. But about 150 years ago, they

started getting special dresses only for the wedding. And they call it the "wedding gown".

Now, the wedding gown was supposed to be in white. And it used to come with a veil. A

"veil" is something to cover the face. And it was for innocence and purity and secrecy

because she was a virgin. And she would be veiled until revealed to her husband. Okay?

Now, in the Western world, white meant innocence and purity. But if you go to the Middle East

or in Asia, it was in red and orange. Now, you might think that that woman must have

had lots and lots of sex, but that's not why. You see, for Asians -- so if you're wondering

why in your country -- you're like, "Oh, my god, our women are so dirty." It's not. It's

meant for festivity, to be fun and have fun and be exciting. So they're saying you're

entering a new phase of your life where -- a phase means period -- where you're going to

be having children and family and it's great and it's fun. So they have orange and red.

Or the red is to kill your husband in ten years. No. Orange and red. While the white

in the West was for innocence and purity. Okay?

So she wears this dress; they exchange vows; they get married. Now, she says, "I do". He

says, "I do". And that's where, you know, your vows and your promises -- we've got it

up here. So come over here in a second. After that, you get invited to the reception. Cha-ching.

More money, people, more money. Okay? I talked about up here the bridal shower. On the reception,

you get a free dinner -- dinner, okay? In the Western world, it's usually chicken and

beef with some kind of mash and rice and vegetables. I've been to a few. And then, you must bring

a gift of equal or greater value. Isn't that nice? Okay. Oh, and before I forget, pops

or dads out there, if you're -- you know, girls, bring your father in to watch this

video. You should. And explain to him that in the Western world, the father pays for

all of this. So if I don't bring a gift, it's a free meal on him. Food for thought. Okay?

So these are -- well, this is how the wedding day basically proceeds. Okay? This is your

basic wedding outline. But let's talk about some of the rituals there. I gave you one

idea with the wedding gown, why people wear the colors they wear, right? Or why they wear

a veil. But let's look at some of the rituals. There are four that are involved in a wedding

that I found are important and you want to pay attention to.

The wedding vows. These are the promises people make to each other about what they will and

won't do in marriage. Love, honor, and obey because I'm a dog. I'm joking, but I mean,

this is the basic one in the Western world. We say we'll love, honor, and obey you. And

usually, by the way, it's for the women. The men don't say that. But the vows, really,

especially when they're important, people make their own now, which is really cool.

And they say the promises they want to do in the wedding to make it -- or the marriage

to make it happy. Right? And joyful for both people. And I think that's kind of cool, don't

you? Obey me.

Next, exchanging the rings. I gave you a little bit when I said it was to show that a man

had bought a woman, right? I didn't finish it, but it's kind of cool. In other countries

-- I think it's Russia -- they wear it on the right finger. In the Western world, especially

Germany, England, France and whatnot, we wear it on the left. You might wonder why. This

is from the Romans. You see, they believed there are a vein -- which is what carries

blood -- that came from the heart that was directly linked to your ring finger. So when

they put it on, it was to capture the love from your heart in the ring. Kind of cool,

huh? Stick with me. I'll teach you a few things. So now you know why someone wears their wedding

band or engagement ring on their left. It's to capture all that love that goes directly

to their heart. Okay?

At the end of our weddings, we usually throw rice. Everyone throws rice. Not so much now

because it was killing birds. I'm serious. True story. We were killing birds. We'd be

throwing them up. We'd go, "You're married", and the birds would fall from the sky. "They're

celebrating, too. They're dying." But the throwing of rice or throwing of confetti or

paper in the air after a wedding, if you always wonder why in our movies they get married,

they throw things in the air, it was for fertility. They thought if they threw a lot of stuff

in the air, the people walking under it would have many, many babies, and it was a good

thing. You like that? Yeah. It's cool, huh? I'm about the end it on that. "Confetti, yay.

I'm getting married." Okay?

But before I do, because this is an international school that we have here, I want to bring

out one more which I found interesting: the breaking of the glass. Sometimes, you watch

North American movies, and you'll see some couples go [sound of glass breaking],

and they break glass. And you think, "All of them do this." Actually, this is a Jewish tradition.

Just as I mentioned that Middle Eastern people have different colored wedding gowns or they

wear veils, in the Jewish tradition, they break glass. They dance, and they break the

glass. And it's to show that this is some serious stuff. "This is serious business.

So serious, we're going to break some glass in here." Really, they do. I'm not making

this up. I wish I could.

I hope this video has brought you and I close together and made a great relationship. Come,

Mr. E, up there. See? We're engaged now in conversation and learning, and this is a good

thing. Anyway. I've got to go. What I would like to say now is the usual. I want you to

go to my triple W, www.engvid.com, "Eng" as in English, "vid" as in "video", where you

can learn about weddings and funerals, and other of life's interesting little acts.

Have a good one. It's been a pleasure.