15 Things Every English Learner Should Stop Saying Now

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So you want to speak English fluently.
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You want to sound like a native English speaker.
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You want to walk into a room and speak English with confidence, my friend.
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I believe that you can and will be able to do it, but there are a few
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things you must stop saying now.
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Are you ready to find out what the 15 things are?
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Well then I'm teacher Tiffani.
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Let's jump right in.
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Number one, the very first thing you must stop saying is it's too difficult.
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This is something that I have heard from thousands upon thousands of
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English learners around the world, and I'm sure that you've probably
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said it at least one time or another.
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It is too difficult.
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I, I don't know really how to speak English.
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English is just too hard, my friend.
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I need you to stop saying this now.
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Instead of saying, it's too difficult when you're learning a new word, a
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new expression, or even a grammar rule, instead of saying, it's too
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difficult, I want you to say this.
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I need more time to understand this.
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I'm gonna say that one more time.
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I need more time to understand this.
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You see, when you change the words that you say, You also
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change the way you think.
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When you say it's too difficult, you're literally telling your brain, stop.
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Don't work.
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This isn't possible, but when instead of saying it's too difficult, you
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start saying, Hey, I just need some more time to understand this.
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Your brain says, okay, we are smart enough.
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We are intelligent enough.
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We just need a little bit more time.
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This is the truth, my friend.
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You are smart enough to do anything.
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And your goal is to speak English fluently, so don't say it's too difficult.
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Instead say, you know what?
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I just need a little bit more time to understand this.
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Start saying this today.
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Never say again.
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It's too difficult.
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Just say, I need a little bit more time to understand this.
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You with me?
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All right, now, I love it.
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Here we go.
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The second thing I need you to stop saying is this.
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I can't speak fluently.
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I, I, I can't speak English fluently.
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Stop saying that.
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Remember, I am your English teacher.
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I'm a native English speaker.
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I'm an American, and I believe that you, yes, I'm talking to you,
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the one looking at me right now.
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I believe that you can speak fluently, but you must believe that as well.
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From now on, never say I can't speak fluently.
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Instead, this is what I want you to say, my friend, I want you to say this.
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I'm working on improving my fluency.
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Ooh, you see the change, right?
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One is I'll never do it.
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I can't do it.
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It's impossible.
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While the other phrase I'm working on improving my fluency is, Hey,
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I'm in the process right now.
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I'm working towards my goal.
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That is impressive when a native English speaker sees you has a conversation
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with you and maybe you make mistakes or you struggle a bit, but your response,
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instead of saying, I can't speak fluently.
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If you say, I'm working on improving my fluency, I guarantee the native English
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speaker is going to be impressed.
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They're going to see that.
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Wow.
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You are a diligent person.
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You recognize that you have a goal and you're daily working
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towards it, and you're not allowing your mistakes, your challenges,
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your struggles to hold you back.
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Or discourage you when you say this, I'm working on improving my fluency.
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You'll encourage yourself and you'll also inspire other people.
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Listen, the words you use affect you.
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I believe in you.
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I need you to believe in yourself.
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So starting today, I want you to never say, I can't speak fluently.
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I want you to now say, I'm working on improving my fluency.
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Feels good, doesn't it?
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I love it.
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Now, before we move on to number three, I want to remind you after
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each lesson, I want you to go to my app English with Tiffani.
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You can download it right now.
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After each lesson, I have practice lessons for you to go over that
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connect directly to the lesson you are following along with today.
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The link is right in the description, but remember, as you're learning English,
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it's important to practice what you learn.
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And for today's lesson, you'll get some quizzes to see if
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you remember what to say.
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So don't forget to download my app English with Tiffani.
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You can download it for free.
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The link is right in the description, and each week you'll be able to
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practice what I am teaching you.
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Sounds good, doesn't it?
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All right, now let's move on to number three.
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Number three, I need you to stop saying,
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I'll never sound like a native speaker.
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Woo.
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Stop saying this again.
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I'll never sound like a native speaker.
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I don't want you to ever say that again.
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Instead of saying this, I want you to say, Hmm.
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Embracing your own unique accent and focusing on effective
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communication rather than perfection.
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I'm gonna give you a few things that I want you to say.
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Instead of, I'll never sound like a native speaker.
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I want you to say I'm working on my accent, or, I'm working on sounding
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like a native English speaker, or I'm working on my communication skills.
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There are so many other things that you can say instead of, I'll
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never sound like a native speaker.
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I want you to remember this for this one.
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It's not just one specific statement that I want you to say.
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I really want you to change your mindset.
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Listen closely.
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I want you to embrace your own unique accent.
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Let's pause really quickly.
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Many times English learners, and maybe even you don't realize that in
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America, Americans in America, you will hear many different accents.
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I have friends from all over America, some live in California, some live in
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Louisiana, some live in Alabama, some live in New York, and we all have a
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unique sound, but we're all American.
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Those that live in Texas, they have kind of a Texas drawl.
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We say drawl in English, right?
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Those that live in upstate New York, they sound like a New Yorker.
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There's a certain accent depending on where you live in America.
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Why is this important for you to understand?
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You see the very fact that Americans, we have accents should encourage
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you to embrace your own accent.
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Yes, there's always things you can do.
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There are always things you can do to improve, but I don't want you to say,
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I'll never sound like a native speaker because we have all different accents.
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The next part of this focus on effective communication rather than perfection.
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Many times English learners only focus on their sound, but what truly
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leads to fluency is being able to organize your thoughts and effectively
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communicate your ideas and your opinions.
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Don't forget to organize your thoughts.
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Don't forget to properly convey your message.
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Your accent will improve.
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Don't be discouraged.
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So again, instead of saying, I'll never sound like a native speaker.
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I want you to embrace your unique accent, and I also want you to focus
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on effective communication, some students that are in my academy.
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Again, if you'd like to join our family, the link is in the description.
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You can go to speak English like a native.com.
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Again, speak English like a native.com if you wanna join our family.
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But the link is also in the description.
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I have many students from countries all around the world.
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And when they understood the importance of effective communication and not
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being discouraged about their accent, their English took off, they're able
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to effectively express themselves and they sound like a native speaker.
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You can do it too.
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So again, stop saying I'll never sound like a native speaker.
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Number four, the thing I want you to stop saying.
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I'll never understand native speakers.
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I, I just can't understand native speakers.
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They speak too fast or their accent is too hard to understand.
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I, I don't know the words.
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They're using the expressions.
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Stop saying you'll never understand native speakers.
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I wanna give you a hint why you need to stop saying this.
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I am a native speaker.
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Do you understand me?
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Now, you probably said, well, Tiffani, you're our teacher.
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Of course we understand.
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No, I need you to remember that I am a native speaker and the very fact that
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you, my friend, are able to understand me proves that you are smart enough
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to understand other native speakers.
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Stop saying you can't understand native speakers.
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This is what I want you to start doing.
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I want you instead to remember that with practice and exposure, your
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understanding will improve over time.
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With practice and exposure.
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Think about it.
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The reason you can understand me so much is because you've probably
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been watching me for a long time.
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You're used to my cadence, you're used to my pronunciation,
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you're used to my expressions.
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And even if you're here for the first time, you're comfortable.
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And when you're in a comfortable environment, your brain.
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Relaxes, you don't experience any stress and you're actually able to
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understand more when you are relaxed.
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So even if this is your first time seeing me, hello, by the way, you're able to
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understand me because hopefully my smile, my personality is making you comfortable
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and making you think I can do anything.
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That helps you understand me more.
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So instead of saying, I'll never understand native speakers
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first, remember that you can understand me, a native speaker.
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Then practice and also remembering that exposure.
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Will help your understanding improve over time?
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Trust me, I've seen it happen multiple times with students in my academy.
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A student in my family told me, TIFF, I listened to one of your
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conversations with your friends.
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One of my friends that, just a regular American, not an English teacher.
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So we were having a conversation and speaking very quickly.
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And she said, when I first saw the conversation, TIFF, it was a video.
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She said, I understood you, but I couldn't understand your friend, but I
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remember what you said, TIFF practice.
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Keep trying.
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She said, TIFF.
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By the third time I listened to the conversation, I understood everything.
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She only watched the conversation.
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She only listened to the conversation three times.
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All of a sudden, her ears opened up and she was able to understand my friend.
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This is why I say you need to stop saying I'll never understand
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native speakers, my friend.
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Nothing is impossible.
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You can and will do it.
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So stop saying, I'll never understand native speakers.
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Next, I need you to stop saying I'll never be able to write well.
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I, I've tried, but my writing skills aren't that good in English.
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I'll never be able to write.
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Well, stop saying you'll never be able to write.
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Well, instead, I want you to do this.
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I want you, yes, you, I need you to believe in your ability to improve
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your writing skills through practice.
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And feedback.
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Anything is possible.
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Maybe right now, your writing skills in English are not where you'd like them
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to be, but instead of being discouraged, remember, Hey, all I have to do is
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keep practicing, keep getting feedback.
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Maybe you have a tutor, right?
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Getting feedback from others and then trying again, and then writing again.
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Now at the end of the lesson today, don't go anywhere because we have
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story time A, and I'm gonna tell you about my English teacher, my
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favorite teacher from high school, and how she helped me, your English
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teacher, improve my writing skills.
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And it was not easy.
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It was challenging.
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I'll tell you more about that at the end.
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So don't go anywhere.
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But I need you to stop saying I'll never be able to write.
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Well.
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Instead, I need you to believe in yourself.
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Believe in your ability and practice and remember to
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accept feedback and keep going.
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You can do it.
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Number six.
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I really need you to stop saying, I, I, I don't have a good memory for vocabulary.
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I, I just can't remember.
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I don't have a good memory for vocabulary.
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Stop saying this.
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I have students, again, in my fa in our family and in our, the academy
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speak English with Tiffani Academy.
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Some of them are in their sixties, some in their seventies.
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And when they first joined, they said, TIFF, you know, I'm, I'm a little old
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Tiff and I, I don't think I'll be able to learn English, but I'm just gonna try.
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And I tell them whenever I meet someone that's older, right?
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And when I spoke with these students, I said, listen, you're
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never too old to learn anything.
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Stop saying that.
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Stop saying, my memory's not that good.
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I'm not really gonna be able to remember the words.
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Listen, here's the truth.
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Years ago when I was first studying Korean, I was 27 years old when I started,
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and the classes that I was taking, they included students that were 19 and below.
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I was the older sister in every class, right?
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And they were picking up stuff like this, why they were teenagers.
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They were young and their brains were grasping things faster than my brain was.
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And I'm not gonna lie, it was challenging.
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I had to study twice as hard as they did, but I kept going.
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So I'm not saying that it's not going to be challenging.
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What I am saying is that it is possible.
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So stop saying I don't have a good memory for vocabulary.
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You just need to learn a better method for learning vocabulary.
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You might have to take it slow, but it is possible.
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If you wanna study with me, I have a daily English vocabulary newsletter.
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Every day I send out an email with a brand new word, describing it,
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giving you examples, sentences.
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If you'd like it, you can join us.
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The link is right in the description daily english vocabulary.com.
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But again, it's not impossible.
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You can do it.
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So I want you, instead of saying this, to employ, to start using,
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to look for various techniques for learning vocabulary, like
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repetition, mnemonics, and context to enhance your vocabulary retention.
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Now, you might ask yourself, you might be asking right now, How are different
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techniques going to really help my memory?
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Here's the interesting thing about the human brain.
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Each person is unique.
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Each person is different.
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We all learn in different ways.
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You might be someone that needs to learn by having practical
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application immediately.
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You might be someone that needs to write down what you're learning, right?
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You have to figure out what your learning style is.
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So again, instead of saying I don't have a good memory for vocabulary,
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find various techniques that will help you remember the vocabulary words.
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There's no problem with your brain.
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There's no problem with your memory.
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You just need to find the right technique and everything will flow.
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So again, stop saying I don't have a good memory for vocabulary number seven.
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I need you to stop saying I'll never overcome my accent.
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I'll, my accent's just not going anywhere.
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I'll never overcome my accent.
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Depending on where you live, depending on your mother tongue, your mother
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language, you might have what we say is a thicker accent than someone else.
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Your accent may be a little more challenging to work through in order
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to sound like a native speaker, but I need you to stop saying
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I'll never overcome my accent.
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Remember earlier I said even Americans have accents.
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Depending on where we live, you don't have to stress about your accent.
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So instead, I want you to remember that while your accent may persist,
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you might still sound like someone from the Philippines, someone
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from India, someone from uh Ghana, someone from any country you can
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think of or your country right now.
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Even if your accent, it's important for you to focus on clear pronunciation.
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An effective communication rather than eliminating your accent entirely.
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Let me break this down.
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I have friends that live in England.
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I am an American.
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We can pronounce a word properly, but our accents are different.
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Listen closely, we can pronounce the same word properly.
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American style, British style, but our accents are different.
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So that's what I need you to understand.
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Focus on pronouncing the word clearly, making sure that the
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person listening to you can actually understand what you're saying.
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Your accent might still be there.
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That's okay, but can you pronounce the word in a clear way?
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Focus on.
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The pronunciation and don't stress about your accent as much.
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I hope this is encouraging you because I hear this so many times from
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different English learners, stressed about their accent, but after a while,
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after they've been studying with me for a while and I help them realize,
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listen, stop worrying about your accent.
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I can understand you.
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Worry about effective communication.
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Worry about saying the word clearly.
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And keep it moving.
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We have a slang term.
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Keep it rocking.
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That means keep going forward.
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Keep it rocking.
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All right, so again, stop saying I'll never overcome my accent.
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Next, I want you to stop saying I can't understand movies or TV shows in English.
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I don't know what they're saying.
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I don't understand.
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Stop saying this instead, I want you to do something.
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I want you to start with subtitles, English subtitles.
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If you've watched a movie or a TV show and you're like, I have no idea what
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they're saying, stop, rewind, turn on the English subtitles and gradually
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reduce the reliance you have on them as your listing skills develop.
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The first time you watch the movie, the first time you watch the TV show, you
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might be reading the entire time English subtitles, but when you watch the same
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show or the same movie again, you might only read 80% of the sub subtitles.
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The third time, you might only read 50% of the subtitles.
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Why?
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Because your listening skills will naturally improve.
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The more you listen to a certain person, the more you watch a certain
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show, the more used to the sound of that individual's voice, the
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sound of the character's voices, your ears will get used to their
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pronunciation and you'll start to understand what they're saying more.
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So again, instead of saying, I can't understand movies or TV
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shows in English, I want you.
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To start with English subtitles and gradually stop relying
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on them as much Makes sense.
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Right.
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Excellent.
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All right, here we go.
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Number nine.
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I want you to stop saying I can't improve my listening skills.
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I just told you when we looked at number eight, that there's a way you
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can improve your listening skills.
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I need you to stop saying though I can't improve my listening skills.
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You see what's happening, right?
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There's this common theme, this common thread that we are seeing
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as I go throughout this lesson.
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Stop saying, I can't stop thinking something is impossible.
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Stop feeling discouraged.
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English fluency is really dependent on your mindset.
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You have to change your mindset.
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Stop saying, I can't improve my listening skills instead, Practice
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active listening, engage in conversations and use online resources
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designed for listening comprehension.
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I'm trying to give you other things to do, other things to focus on that
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will help you stop saying, I can't.
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There are many different listening tools online, but one thing I want you
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to remember is that active listening, as someone is speaking, trying to
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process what they're saying, and maybe even after the conversation, try to
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summarize in your mind, Hey, what?
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What did they say to me?
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You're actively listening.
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And also when you engage in conversations, it forces your brain to not only
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formulate ideas so that you can speak, but it also forces your brain to
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process information as you listen.
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Practice does make perfect, so stop saying I, I can't improve my
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listening skills, and instead, start practicing and realize that you can.
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Number 10, the thing I want you to stop saying, woo.
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Ah, I can't learn English because of my age.
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I'm 65.
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I'm 75, I'm 80.
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I'm just too old.
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Woo.
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No, you're not.
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You're not.
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I don't care if you're 85, you're never too old to learn something new.
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I've had students literally from four years old all the way up
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to about 85 when I was in Korea.
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I had them in person.
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Now I have you all online.
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I'm your online English teacher, and I realized that nothing is impossible.
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I believed in each and every one of my students, no matter how old they were.
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The key though is for you to believe that you.
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Can do it.
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It's not impossible.
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So stop saying, I can't learn English because of my age.
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Instead, I want you to remember that age is not a barrier
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to learning a new language.
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Age does not determine information that's able to go into your brain.
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It might not go in as fast as a younger person, but you're
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still able to learn something.
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It may require different strategies, but progress is possible.
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You are never too old to learn anything, so I need you, my
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friend, if this applies to you.
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I need you starting today to stop saying I can't learn English because of my age.
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Don't say that again because it's wrong.
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The truth is you can learn anything.
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Just trust the process.
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It might be a little slower, but trust the process.
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Next, I need you to stop saying this.
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I'll never be able to think in English, Tiffani.
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I, I just can't do it.
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I, I can't think in English.
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Every time I go to speak English, I'm automatically thinking in my own language.
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I'll never be able to think in English.
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Stop saying this because it's not true.
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You just need to learn the techniques to help you think in English.
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Remember when you say, I'll never, I can't, I can't do it.
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You're telling your brain to stop working.
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Like, oh, okay, you don't, you don't need my energy.
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You don't need me to work hard.
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Yes you do.
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Stop saying I can't.
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Instead, I want you to remember something.
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Remember that with consistent practice and immersion, you can develop the
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ability to think in English with consistent practice and immersion.
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You might be saying, TIFF immersion, how can I immerse myself?
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Well, right now you're watching a video, right In English,
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about English this entire time.
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Right now I'm not speaking in your language, right.
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I'm speaking in English.
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You're immersing yourself at this moment in English.
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Do it even more.
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Watch English television programs.
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Watch English movies, immerse your yourself, and the more you put
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in, the more tools you'll have as you think in English, for example,
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in Korean water is mole, right?
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So before I went to Korea, whenever I saw a cup of water, I thought water.
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But as I immersed myself in conversations and my friends would say, Moul, or I'd
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go somewhere and I'd see someone in this store and they'd say, Moul, all
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of a sudden in my brain, not just the word water was there, but mu was there.
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So now I was starting to think in Korean, You can do the same thing,
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but you must give your brain more opportunities to put English inside
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and then when you try to think you'll have what you need makes sense, right?
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So again, stop saying I'll never be able to think in English.
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The next thing I need you to stop saying,
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I'll never be able to understand.
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Fast speech.
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Americans speak too fast.
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I, I just can't understand when they're speaking.
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I just can't get it.
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I don't know what they're saying.
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I don't understand.
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Did you just understand me because I purposely gradually increased
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my speed as I was speaking just to prove a point when I speak slowly.
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You understand me with no problem.
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I get hundreds of messages each week under the YouTube video lessons.
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Tiffani, I understand you and not anyone else.
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So I purposely increased my speed just now, but you understood me, right?
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So it's not impossible for you to understand fast speech.
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It goes back to what I said earlier.
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You're comfortable with me.
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Hopefully I make you feel happy.
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I make you feel relaxed.
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And when you are relaxed, your brain is able to process more information.
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There's no stress.
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You're relaxed, you're taking it all in.
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So even if I started speaking very quickly, you'd be able to understand
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everything that I was saying.
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Why?
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Because.
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You're relaxed.
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You might have pulled in a little bit like, whoa, Tiffani's speaking
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faster, but your brain had this feeling, oh, we can do this.
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We like Tiffani, I like you too.
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We can understand what she's saying, so let's work harder as she speaks faster.
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This is what's happening in your brain as I'm speaking.
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It proves that it's not impossible for you to understand fast speech.
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It just takes practice.
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You need to be relaxed.
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So I want you, instead of saying this, I want you to gradually expose yourself
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to faster speech through listening exercises and authentic materials.
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Let me explain what I mean.
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I'm teaching you English right now, right?
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I'm helping you understand how to improve your English fluency.
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But there are other videos on YouTube.
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There are other videos in my course and other teachers' courses that are not
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specifically about learning English.
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They just involve two native English speakers having a conversation,
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two native English speakers.
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Speaking quickly about a topic.
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Again, if you wanna join our family, I have multiple videos like this in the
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Speak English, like a native.com program.
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Speak English like a native.com.
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Multiple conversations going quickly.
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The more you expose yourself to the real English conversations where
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native speakers, including me, are speaking quickly, the faster your
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listening skills will improve.
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So you'll never say, I don't understand fast speech.
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Instead all of a sudden you'll realize, oh my goodness, I understand what
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they're saying because you're smart, boo.
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You are smart.
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You just gotta believe it.
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Next, I hope you're understanding why it's so important for you
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to stop saying these things.
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I need you to stop saying, I can't learn English without a teacher.
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Now, this is probably a shocking one.
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Why?
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Because I'm your teacher and I'm helping you learn English.
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But today in this lesson, I'm trying to give you some tips.
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So that when I'm not with you, when you're not watching my videos,
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you'll still be able to move forward.
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I need you to stop saying I can't learn English without a teacher.
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I had a student when I was in South Korea.
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His English, I'm not going to lie to you.
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I've mentioned him before in one of my lessons.
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His English was so good.
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I pulled him to the side and asked him what he did.
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He said, oh, Tiffani, I just went online and I studied English every day.
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He used videos on YouTube.
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He listened to podcasts.
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He watched movies in English.
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He immersed himself in English without a teacher.
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He didn't have a teacher in a classroom, but he was still able to improve.
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So this is what I need you to remember.
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I need you to remember.
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That while a teacher like me, your teacher, while we can provide
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guidance, I can give you the steps.
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I can give you the tools.
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There are many self-study resources available to support your learning.
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It's possible for you to speak English fluently without having a
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physical teacher in the room with you.
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I told you online, there are so many things.
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I have a daily vocabulary email that I send out.
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I have a program for my students now.
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Yes, I'm the teacher, but they're doing the work.
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They're take taking the resources and applying what I've taught them.
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We're not in a classroom environment.
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We're not physically speaking to each other all the time.
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In person, no.
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And yet they're still improving because they're following a plan that I gave them.
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Self-study, giving them the plan.
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It's up to you to study.
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You have to remember, even if you don't have a teacher physically with you,
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even if you can't afford the amazing tutors that are online, you can still
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learn how to speak English fluently.
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Make sense?
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Yes, you're getting it now.
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You're getting it.
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All right.
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I really, really, really need you to stop saying this.
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I can't learn English because I'm too busy.
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First, let me state this fact right here.
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I understand.
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Having a busy life.
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Maybe you're married, maybe you have kids, maybe you also work.
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Life can get really hectic and busy.
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I run a company, I run an online academy.
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Over 2000 students.
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It gets very busy, but.
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Let my friend call me and say, you wanna play basketball?
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I am going to get things done so that I can go and play basketball.
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Let my friend call me and say, TIFF, do you wanna go get some Indian food?
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Yes.
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Give me about an hour.
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Let me finish this work.
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When we put our minds to it as human beings, when we put our
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minds to do something, we can get it done faster than we realize.
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When you really want something, you make time for it.
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If you're married, think about before you got married.
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Think about how you loved spending time with your boyfriend, your girlfriend.
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Think about the time you spent on the phone just talking for hours.
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No, you hang up.
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No, you hang up.
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You made time even though you were busy.
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The same is true when it comes to English.
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Stop saying, I can't learn English because I'm too busy.
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You can find time.
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So instead of saying this, this is what I want you to do.
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Find small pockets of time throughout the day for language learning
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activities such as listening to podcasts or practicing vocabulary.
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I remember when I used to work at nasa, right?
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We got a 15 minute break in the morning and a 15 minute break in
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the afternoon, plus an hour lunch.
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But in the midst of the day, we would walk to get some tea or those
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that drank coffee or we'd walk to get something from the supply closet
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five minute period as you're walking.
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Ooh, I learned this new vocabulary word from Tiff Tiffani's video yesterday.
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What was the word again?
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Uh, devout.
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Okay.
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It means you're practicing as you're walking, or maybe
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as you're driving back home.
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Instead of listening to the news, why not turn on an English podcast?
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You can find time for things you enjoy, start enjoying English,
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and I guarantee you'll find these small pockets of time to practice.
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So stop saying I can't learn English because I'm too busy.
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Finally.
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This one right here.
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I want you to remember my friend.
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Stop saying I'll never be fluent in English.
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You already know, this is something you should never say as my student.
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Again, I'm your teacher here on YouTube online, or if you're listening to
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the podcast, I'm your teacher and I believe, I don't care where you are.
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I don't care how old you are.
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I don't care how long you've been studying English.
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If you follow the tips I give you each week, you will be
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able to speak English fluently.
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So what.
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You need to stop saying, I'll never be fluent in English.
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Remember, your brain is gonna act on what you say.
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So instead of saying this, woo, I need you to believe in your potential
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and keep working to towards fluency, knowing that progress takes time.
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An effort.
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That's the fact you are going to achieve your goal.
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You just have to remember that there's a process.
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It's going to take time and effort, but stick with it.
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Be consistent, and you will achieve your goals.
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Stop saying, I'll never be fluent in English.
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Remember, I believe in you.
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I just need you to believe in yourself.
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There's nothing, nothing, my friend, that you can't.
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Accomplish.
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There's nothing you can't achieve.
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Why?
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Because you're amazing.
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All you have to do is believe it yourself.
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Now, remember I said after the lesson, I want you to go get
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the app English with Tiffani.
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That's the app, and I want you to practice what you learned today.
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The link is in the description.
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You'll see it.
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Also, I have it on the screen.
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If you're watching the video, the link is in the description.
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Download the app, go to the weekly English fluency lessons with teacher
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Tiffani area, and you'll be able to practice what you learned today.
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Quiz yourself.
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See if you actually remember what I taught you today.
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Remember that I believe in you and I want you to believe in yourself.
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And never forget to speak English because you can do it.
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I'll talk to you next week.
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Do.
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You still there?
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Oh yeah.
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I love it.
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You know what time it is?
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It's story time eight.
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I said it's story time.
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All right, so.
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We had a longer lesson today, so I'm gonna give you an abridge to
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a shorter version of this story.
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But earlier I was telling you about my English teacher, and I've
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mentioned her many times because she literally will always be my
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favorite teacher, miss Candelaria.
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When I was in high school, I was a very good student.
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My least favorite subject though, Was English.
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I always got A's, but my least favorite subject was English for some
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reason, wasn't because of her, but it was just my least favorite subject.
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I loved math.
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I loved science.
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I loved art, I loved history, but English just happened to be my least favorite
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subject, but I was a hardworking student.
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I remember going to her class.
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It was an AP class, an upper level class, and I was a creative person,
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so I thought my writing skills were good until I got to her class.
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Remember getting my first paper back and there were red marks everywhere, you see?
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She was trying to help me understand how to be a good writer.
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I had to learn the proper writing skills.
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I had to learn how to organize my thoughts, the things
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that I teach you, right?
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I had to learn how to organize my thoughts properly, how to
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support my ideas properly.
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She had us writing all the time.
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She had us debating because she was trying to train us.
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We were only about 14 or 15 years old.
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We were young.
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And she was trying to train us to think in an organized way.
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This is why I say she's my favorite teacher.
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She taught me how to think.
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Properly when it came to organizing my ideas and supporting my points,
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so much so that it inspired me to do the same for English learners
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around the world just like you.
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So even though she was not an easy teacher, I had to work hard.
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I think I got an A in her class, but it was challenging to get that grade.
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But she pushed us to excellence.
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And as your English teacher, that's my goal.
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To push you to excellence.
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I want people to be impressed when they speak with you in English,
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when they speak with you and say, wow, you speak English so well.
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I want you to remember that you put in the hard work just like I did
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when I was in high school in Ms.
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Canarias class.
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I hope you enjoyed this short story, and I hope you remember
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everything that I taught you today.
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I love you.
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Have a good one and I'll talk to you next time.
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