THINK AND SPEAK IN ENGLISH | How To Talk About Your Relationships Fluently In English

Hey, welcome to today's English lesson today.

I am going to teach you how to think and speak in English.

Any relationship.

Remember as an English learner, your goal is to speak English fluently, but

this lesson will help you understand that fluency first starts in your mind.

I'm going to help you organize your thoughts and then actually

say what you want to say.

Well, then I'm teacher, Tiffani let's jump right in.

So the first relationship we're going to learn about and think about is

the relationship between friends.

Now, I'm going to tell you a little bit about my friends by organizing my

thoughts, using the five W's for who I've said my friends from college,

for what acted together in a drama.

When my sophomore, junior and senior year.

Where?

At churches, high schools, colleges, and other local events.

Now why we all had a passion for spreading God's word in a way that

was fun, engaging and impactful.

Now you see what just happened.

I want to tell you about the relationship I have with my.

But I first organized my thoughts using the five W's and

you need to do the same thing.

So the thought process is done.

Now let's speak about the relationship I have with my friends.

So we're going to take that information that we had from

right here with the five W's.

And now we're going to go to speaking.

Here we go.

My college friends and I used to act together in a drama.

We were in the drama group during our sophomore, junior, and senior years.

Our drama.

Was pretty popular.

So we would do plays at churches, high schools, colleges, and other local events.

We all enjoyed acting in the drama group because we had a

passion for spreading God's word.

In a way that was fun, engaging and impactful.

Now that is a great English response.

That is a fluent English answer.

And I want you to be able to do the same again, thinking first about the

relationship using the five W's and then speaking now within my answer, there were

two new vocabulary words that I really want to explain to you very quickly.

The first one is engaging.

So repeat after me engaging.

Excellent.

Last time.

Engaging.

Very good.

Now this word just means tending to draw favorable attention or interest.

Think about your favorite TV show or your favorite movie.

When you push play, you get really into it.

Someone may talk to you say, yeah.

Yeah.

Okay.

That's fine.

I'm watching this movie because it's engaging.

Hopefully this English lesson is engaging.

All right.

This means holding your attention.

And our drama group had very, very engaging plays.

They were very interesting.

So again, engaging.

Excellent.

Alright, now the next word is impactful after me.

Impactful.

Excellent.

Last time impactful.

Good job.

Now, this word just means having a major impact or effect, it means

affecting you in a way that is powerful.

So think about the words your mother or your father say to you or said

to you when you were younger, those words really had an impact on you.

They affected you.

We say impactful.

And the plays that I did with my friends when I was in college were very impactful.

Makes sense.

Right?

Think about it.

I just organize my thoughts using the five W's and now you have a good

understanding of the relationship I had with my friends when I was in college.

Makes sense.

All right, now let's move on to the next relationship.

I mentioned parents.

I mentioned how your parents speak to you and the impact of their words.

So using the five, W's thinking about the relationship.

First we have who, my friend and his six year old son, what he spends time reading

to him when every evening after work.

Where in their family room, why he wants to develop a strong bond with

his son and teach him the importance of reading every single day.

Now, again, we're still on step one.

We're just thinking and organizing our thoughts, but you can already start to

see that we have enough information to properly speak about the relationship.

This guy has with his six-year-old son.

So using the information again, the five W's from right here, let's see how

we can speak about this relationship.

Here we go.

My friend and his six-year-old son have a great relationship.

Even though my friend has a ton of responsibility at work, he always

makes a point to spend time reading.

He usually reads to him every evening after he gets off from work.

Their favorite reading spot is the living room.

My friend told me that he wants to develop a strong bond with his

son and teach him the importance of reading every single day.

What happened because we did step one, think organizing our

thoughts with the five W's.

We were able to provide a good and fluent English answer describing the

relationship this guy has with his son, a parent child relationship.

Now you will see that there are a few words and expressions

that I want to explain to you.

So very quickly, a ton of after me, a ton of.

Good again, last time, a ton of.

Excellent.

Now a ton of just means a lot of something, a large amount of something.

So for example, I have some chords with me in my office and these cords

help me connect some of my devices, whether it be my cell phone or my

computer or another electronic device to my computer or to a power source.

So I have.

A ton of chords in my office.

Again, a lot of cords.

Makes sense, right?

Okay, good.

Now let's go over the next one.

Make a point to in the answer, I said, he always makes a point to

spend time reading to his son.

Well, makes a point to just means to give one's attention, to doing

something, to make sure that it happens.

For example, once a week on Sundays, I have a video English lesson for you.

So I make a point.

Record organize my ideas and my thoughts and produce a lesson that

will help you speak English fluently.

I make a point to record a video every week.

Makes sense, right?

All right.

Good.

Now the last one, I want to explain this.

Spot in the answer and the response, I said their favorite reading

spot is the living room spot just means a particular place or point.

So my favorite food spot, my favorite reading spot again, just

a place or point real simple.

Right?

So again, spot.

Excellent.

Very good.

Now we've went over the relationship between friends and the relationship

between a parent and a child using the five W's for step one,

to think using the five W's.

And then we were able to do step two, speak fluently about the relationship,

but what about the relationship you have with your coworkers?

Think about it.

You see them every day.

How can you talk about.

Relationship.

Well, first we have to start with the five W's who my coworkers and I, what

discussed the new semester schedule.

Now I'll pause real quick.

I'm speaking about my coworkers when I used to work at a language Institute.

So we had different semesters, different periods of time where we

would teach the students different subjects, still English, but

different sub topics under English.

So again, for me.

What?

Discussed the new semester schedule when every two months where in the staff

room at our Institute, And why we had to decide who was going to teach which

levels and what classes worked best with our personal responsibilities.

So again, step one, we've thought about it using the five W's who, what,

when, where, why we thought about the relationship I had with my coworkers,

you can do the exact same thing.

Five.

W's now using the information from the five Ws.

Who, what, when, where and why I can now do step two and speak about the

relationship I had with my coworkers.

Every two months, my coworkers and I would come together to

discuss the new semester schedule.

Our meetings were usually held in the staff room at our Institute.

It was important for us to get together every two months because we had to

decide who was going to teach which levels and what classes worked best

with our personal responsibilities.

I literally just provided you with the information that came from.

Step one, where I thought about the relationship using the five.

You see how simple it is to think, and then speak in English.

I'm telling you this formula will change your life and help you sound

more like a native English speaker.

Now there is one expression that I want to explain to you.

It's worked best.

Let's see real quick, worked best.

All right.

Now work best this just means it's the better option between two options.

So there are two options you have, but this one, this seems to work the best.

So like I said, what classes worked best with our personal responsibilities?

Did one teacher worked better with children while another

teacher worked better with.

We discussed those things.

So again, in English we say work best.

Excellent.

Very good.

So again, the only thing you have to remember when you want to speak.

In English about a relationship is to first think using the five W's to organize

your thoughts and then step two, speak.

That's right.

Use the information you organize and then speak about that relationship.

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Talk to you later.

You still there, you know what time it is?

It's story time.

Hey, I said it's story time.

Today's story, you know, in the lesson I was teaching you how to

speak about relationships, right?

So I want to tell you about one of my closest friends.

I mean, she is going to be in my wedding, her and her husband.

Now, the first time I met her, we were in South Korea and we were.

Missionary English teachers.

And we had started living together.

This is before she got married.

Her husband was there too, but they were engaged at the time.

So he lived in a separate apartment and she stayed in the

apartment that I was assigned to.

So she had her room and I had my room.

Now we didn't know each other.

Well, as you all know, though, First I enjoy cooking.

Second.

I am an early bird.

Maybe you don't know that I am an early bird.

I will wake up at 4:00 AM with no problem at all.

4:00 AM.

Wide-eyed ready to get started with the day.

However, at eight o'clock at night, no, I'm tired.

I am tired.

My whole family is actually like that.

We're early birds.

So anyways, when we first moved in together, we didn't know.

Our styles.

We didn't know.

I didn't know if she was an early bird or if she was a night owl.

So we had to kind of get used to each other.

Again, she's one of my closest friends right now.

So we had first moved in with each other and at this time I was working

and studying at the same time.

So I would normally get up very early in the morning to study and

spend the whole day on Sunday at.

But again, we were living together.

So we had our separate duties.

One week I cleaned the kitchen the next week she'd do the kitchen and we kind

of alternated kitchen and the bathroom.

So this just happened to be my week to clean the kitchen.

But remember I told you I was working and studying, so I had to be gone

all day, but again, we had just met, it had only been maybe a week or

two that we've been living together.

So I did not want to leave the apartment without cleaning the kitchen.

I didn't want her to think that I wasn't doing my.

So I went into the kitchen.

I think it was about six or 7:00 AM.

It was early, but I was trying to wash the dishes quietly.

And then in the midst of washing, I heard her in her room.

So I assumed, oh, she's an early bird like me, because I thought she was

awake and moving around in her room.

So I started cleaning the kitchen normally.

I mean, pots were hitting each other again.

I thought she was awake.

I thought she was also an early.

So I'm watching the dishes happy that I'm doing my part before

I had to leave to go study.

So I'm washing the dishes and the door opens.

So I'm thinking she's like, yes, Tiffani is an early bird too.

Let's have a conversation.

So I'm wiping one of the dishes and I turned around to look

to her and say, good morning.

And when I turned around, it was like a breeze, a cool breeze.

That was not.

Hit me like a cold wind.

It was like ice.

And I looked at her and she just glared at me.

Now.

I, again, I'm happy all the time.

So I said, Hey, good morning.

She didn't say anything.

She just looked at me, nostrils, flaring.

I said, this is not what I expected again, I'm holding the dish, looking at her.

The situation is really.

She is wrapped up in a blanket.

I said, okay, maybe she's cold.

It was the summertime though.

She just glared at me.

Remember I said, good morning.

And she did not respond.

And she proceeded to shut her door.

She was still in the kitchen with me though.

She shut her bedroom door and she walked towards our front door

the entire time she's staring at.

Glaring.

I said, maybe this is not what I expected.

And she opened the front door and slammed it.

I said, okay, not sure what just happened there.

Fast forward several months.

Now we are super close again.

We got, we never talked about what happened.

Several months later, we had gotten close.

There was another coworker and we were having, I think a movie night

and my roommate had stepped out for a second and this coworker and I

were talking and she was like, girl, I'm glad y'all are close friends.

I said, yeah, you know, really cool.

She said, I'm not sure what happened in the beginning though.

I said, what do you mean?

And she said, our friend is not an early bird.

And that our friend, the one that was my roommate actually told.

I don't know if I going to be able to live with Tiffani.

She wakes up too early.

It's too loud.

And I can't believe she woke me up.

I had no idea that she had complained to the other coworker.

Now, again, this is months later, so all of us are super close and we

laughed about it, but I never will forget that situation because I

honestly honestly thought that she was in her room awake and moving around.

And so, yes, the other coworker said no, Tiff.

She was pretty mad.

So again, when she came back in the room, I looked at her and I said,

uh huh, so you were mad at me.

You didn't tell me.

And she burst out laughing because again, we're super close now.

But in the very beginning, she didn't tell me how she really felt about that day.

So it's kind of an ongoing joke we have now.

They all know I'm an early bird and at night they stay up and I go to sleep.

So we're all very close again, but I will never forget that situation.

So maybe you have a friend like.

That maybe at the beginning of your friendship, it was a little bit Rocky.

It wasn't, you weren't sure if you were going to make it, let

us know in the comment section.

All right, guys, I really hope you enjoyed today's lesson.

Don't forget to think.

And then speak English fluently.

I'll catch you next time.

Have an awesome week.