7 Strategies to Stay Motivated — Even When You Don't See Progress

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How do you stay motivated or how do you make the choice to keep going,
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even if you don't see any progress happening?
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This is one of the biggest challenges that we have as language learners.
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If we're on a personal journey of learning a new skill,
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or we have some big goal that we're working toward in any of those situations,
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I think most of us follow a similar path.
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We start with a hopeful possibility.
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This is the moment when you say maybe I can finally,
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for example,
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maybe I can finally really become a Confident English speaker or maybe I
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can finally learn to draw. I've always wanted to do that.
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Maybe I can finally train and run a marathon. It's been a lifelong dream.
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We make that choice to do something we've always wanted.
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And we're hopeful about it.
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Usually that hopeful beginning is also connected to some
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immediate opportunity. There is an online course that you join,
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or you joined the gym,
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you begin a training program and you have all this excited energy
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motivation, you think, oh my gosh, this is amazing.
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I can't believe I'm doing it. And then
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you hit a wall and you don't see the progress that you
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thought you would see, or you don't feel it. You don't hear it.
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So again, how do you stay motivated?
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How do you make the choice to keep going?
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Even when you don't see progress. If you don't already know,
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I'm Annemarie with Speak Confident English,
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this is where you want to be every week to get the confidence you want for your
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life and work in English. In this lesson today,
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we're going to talk about seven effective strategies that you can use to
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help you keep that motivation so that you don't give up on the thing that you
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want. You don't stop too soon.
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[Inaudible].
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Before we get into seven strategies you can use to help you keep your
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motivation, even when you don't see progress,
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it's important to know that when you hit that wall,
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that moment, when all your motivation disappears,
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you're feeling stuck or frustrated.
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You always have a choice and it's not an easy one to make
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unfortunately progress. Doesn't follow our path.
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It makes its own decisions and it shows up when we don't always expect it.
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Sometimes it's even invisible. So when you don't see it,
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you have a choice to make.
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You can either believe that it's there and continue working towards your
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goals, or you can give up. It's that simple.
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And my goal for you today is to help you make that choice of
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believing that progress is there so that you don't give up too soon
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and you achieve what you want in English.
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We have a fantastic idiom for this particular moment.
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When you want to break that cycle of feeling demotivated,
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you need to take the bull by its horns,
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and here are seven different strategies you can choose from to help you do that.
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Strategy number one is, remember why you started.
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All of my Fluency School students will definitely be familiar with this concept
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of understanding why a particular goal or why a
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particular skill is important to you.
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There is a reason that you started on a particular journey or
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started working toward gaining a new skill. Why did you do it?
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Was it personal satisfaction was an opportunity for career growth or was
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it something that you just wanted to do for fun?
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Sometimes when we get into the weeds and we lose sight of our
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progress, we forget why we started in the first place.
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Going back to that idea can help us get that motivation back.
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So if you're feeling a bit demotivated,
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pause for a moment and think about why you started.
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Why is it important for you to keep going strategy? Number two,
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take time to reflect.
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Inside you know that results take time.
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We all know this truth,
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but we still want things to happen now or yesterday.
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Think for a moment about planting a seed in the ground and going back every hour
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to check. Is there a flower there yet? Is there a flower there yet?
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That's a painstaking process and we all know not to do that.
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We know that a flower doesn't grow in one hour.
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We also know there are things happening underground that we don't see,
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but they will result in that ultimate thing that we want or a
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beautiful flower. Now,
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having said that we do check regularly on the things that we plant.
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And over time we begin to see those changes.
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We see something sprout above ground and it begins to grow taller and we start
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to see leaves open up.
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We can see all of that in our progress as well.
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When we document it,
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I am a huge proponent of having some kind of a progress
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journal or a habit tracker.
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These are all things that I provide to my students because I really believe in
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writing down your progress over time.
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If you've been charting your progress on those days,
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that you feel very unmotivated and think you want to give up,
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nothing's changing. You can go back and see what has happened over time.
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And that is a huge motivation boost.
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If you've never started a progress journal or a habit tracker,
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I have an example of one that you can download several months ago.
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I shared a lesson that included a free 30 vocabulary
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building habit tracker.
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You can use that as a way for you to get started in tracking your own progress
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strategy. Number three, for keeping your motivation,
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even when you don't see progress is to renew and reconnect.
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What I mean by renew is look for opportunities that renew
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or revive, the passion that you had for that particular goal.
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You may find a new class, a new webinar, a book, a YouTube video,
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anything under the sun that could help you revive that initial excitement that
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you had. Sometimes we just need something new,
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a different approach or a different outlook to help us get back on track.
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In that process,
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you can look for opportunities to reconnect with others who have your same
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goal.
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Look for community that has similar struggles or isn't as similar place that you
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are and connect with them.
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Not only can that help revive some of your motivation,
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but it can also keep you accountable so that you don't give up strategy.
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Number four, reorganize and redevelop.
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Sometimes life gets in the way of what we want.
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We start to get busy and we no longer have the time we want or the time we
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thought we needed to continue taking steps toward our goal.
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So in that moment,
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we want to reorganize our priorities or reorganize our
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schedule that might include committing to shorter periods of time.
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And that's okay. A few weeks ago,
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I did a lesson on how to use podcasts to help you improve your listening skills.
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Maybe for several weeks, you were really motivated and you spent one hour,
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four days a week doing that. And over time life started to get in the way.
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If that happens, reorganize.
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Your schedule. Rather than spend one hour at a time,
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maybe you spend 10 or 15 minutes listening to the podcast in the morning and
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you come back to it for 15 or 20 minutes in the evening.
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That's perfectly appropriate rather than totally give up on your goals.
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It's much easier to make small adjustments to your schedule so that you can
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keep taking steps forward while you're reorganizing your routine.
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You can also redevelop your strategies.
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Strategy number five on our list for how to keep motivation is a
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fun one. Reward yourself.
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Every time you check a box or you review your progress journal,
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and you know that you've made progress,
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celebrate it no matter how big or how small it is.
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This is something that is extremely important to all of us that Speak Confident
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English. In fact, it's one of our values as a company.
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We celebrate every success and we don't believe that there are
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big and small successes.
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Every step forward is a success. Now,
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when it comes to how you reward yourself, that is your choice.
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And only you can decide what is meaningful to you in strategy.
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Number six, redefine your measure of success.
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This is something I actually did just last week when I realized that I
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had a measure of success. That was totally impossible.
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Let me give you an example.
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You might think that having confidence in English means that you never feel
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fear speaking English, but that's not true.
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Having confidence means that you know how to deal with that fear
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and that you're able to continue despite feeling fear.
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You might think that being fluent in English means that you're never going to
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make a mistake or feel stuck. But again, that's not true.
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English fluency means being able to communicate clearly and staying in
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control so that you can express yourself.
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Even if you make a mistake or even in those moments that you get stuck,
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you can always find a way forward. In those examples.
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I'm redefining the measure of success.
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Success isn't about never feeling
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fear in English. It's about knowing how to go forward.
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Even when you have that fear and believing that you can.
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When we redefine what success is, what it looks like,
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we begin to have a clearer picture of how we can
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continue to move forward. And it helps us get that motivation back.
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And finally strategy number seven on our list today for how to keep your
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motivation is believe that progress is happening,
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even if you don't see it.
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I know that doesn't sound important and it sounds incredibly
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over-simplistic,
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but the truth is it's impossible to
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not make progress when you do something every day
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toward your goal. Even if it's five minutes, progress is happening,
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but remember progress follows its own path.
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Sometimes it's invisible and it usually arrives when we don't expect
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it.
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That doesn't mean that we can't be strategic about what we do.
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We should always be strategic about how we practice and what we do
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to ensure that we are being efficient and effective.
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That's why it's so helpful to learn with others, to have a community,
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to join a class, or read a book.
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Those things help us have a clear picture of how to move forward in the most
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effective way. But at the end of the day,
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if you are committing to practicing regularly,
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you're making progress and you have to believe that's true.
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So now I want to go back to that question. I asked you at the beginning,
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how do you stay motivated? How do make the choice to keep going?
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Even when you don't see progress happening,
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I would love to know your answer to that question.
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Do you have a strategy or a technique that you used that has helped
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you keep your motivation in the past? If you do, I would love to hear about it,
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and I want you to share it with me in the comments below the video.
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If you don't have a strategy,
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then I encourage you to choose one of the strategies I shared here today.
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Share with me which strategy you're going to use to help you stay
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committed to your English, fluency and confidence goals.
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you can tell me in one simple way, give this lesson a thumbs up here on YouTube.
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