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Rachel's English


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Rachel: Welcome to the Rachel's English podcast.
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In today's episode, I'm sitting down with my husband, David, and we've chosen some interesting questions  
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to get us talking about ourselves and our lives. And as we go, we will identify phrasal verbs,  
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idioms or interesting vocabulary words that come up as we speak naturally. We'll pause the  
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conversation and we'll discuss those words. We’ll make sure they get defined and that  
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you understand how to use them.  If you'd like a free copy of the  
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transcript for this podcast, please visit  rachelsenglish.com/podcast and look for this  
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episode. Let's get started. Okay, David I’ll  start with a question and we’ll both answer. 
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So, I would like you to describe an embarrassing moment or two that you've had as an adult. 
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David: Oh, nice you have me go first on that,  
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that's -- I see what you did there. Rachel: 
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Yeah, that's how I did it. David: 
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Alright, so, my recent embarrassing moment was a couple years ago when you and I were traveling,  
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on one of our road trips. And all of a sudden, I realized that I had scheduled a phone session with  
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one of my clients here and bang, out of nowhere I just got this thought that I realized that I  
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had totally missed that session, and that’s  not a good thing. I'm a therapist and so,  
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therapists, you know, you're not supposed miss your sessions. So, that was really embarrassing.  
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He was very gracious. I called him and he really rolled with it, but man that's not a good feeling,  
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to know that you've missed something and that the other person is really depending on you. 
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Rachel: Right, so,  
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“roll with it” means something unexpected has happened, but you don't let it mess you up.  
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Another example would be, during my presentation, my projector broke, but I rolled with it. I kept  
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going without the visuals. So, you called him, like, after the session was supposed to have  
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happened? David: 
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I think so or maybe he texted or sort of like, “Hey, where are you?”. I don't remember exactly  
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what happened, who realized it first. Rachel: 
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I remember that. Do you remember where we were?
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David:  On some kind of bridge thing at  fisherman's wharf in San Francisco? 
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Rachel: Yep. 
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David: On our way to get the, what are they called? Cable car. 
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Rachel: Yeah, well, I think actually, we were taking a trolley that time. There was like that bus-shaped  
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thing. It was different than the cable cars  I think- [crosstalk] -we took that time. 
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David: Yeah, alright so that's mine, what's yours?  
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Rachel: Well, I have a couple that I thought of.  
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One of them was, I was doing this YouTube program and there were 36 different channels that had been  
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invited to Los Angeles to the YouTube space. We were getting a channel work-up where we  
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were getting all sorts of advice on how to make our channel better. So, of those 36 channels,  
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there were maybe five or six or where were two people working on the channel, a male and a  
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female. Most of them were just one person like me. But so, there were some, what looked like couples,  
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working on YouTube channels together which is not uncommon. And I realized that not all of those  
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male-female partnerships were couples. They were not all romantically involved, some were married,  
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and I knew at least one that was just a business relationship. And so, then I sort of felt like,  
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you know, I didn’t want to assume that everybody was a couple, just because it was a man and a  
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woman working on the same channel.
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David: Mm-hmm.
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Rachel: I asked one of the sets of people
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what made them decide to start working together. I was  
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clearly assuming they were not a couple and they very awkwardly answered, I don't remember what,  
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they didn't say, “Well we're married, Rachel.” But I could tell that it seemed weird that I had  
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assumed that they weren't married, so then, I was like, well it's weird to assume that  
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someone is married. So, I felt like I was stuck  between a rock and a hard place there, like,  
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no assumption was going to be socially acceptable if it was wrong -- if it was the wrong one. 
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David: And you didn't want to just ask? 
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Rachel: Yeah, I mean you  
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don’t just go up to someone in a professional environment say, “Hey, are you guys married?” 
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David: That's true. 
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Rachel: I mean that's awkward as anything. 
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David: That’s true. 
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Rachel: Now let's back up really quick. I said sort  
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of a funny idiom. I was stuck between a rock and a hard place. Okay, so that means, you are in it,  
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you're trying to make a decision between two things, and neither of them really seemed like a  
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great option. I felt like I could assume they were married and tried to interact with them on that  
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way, I could assume that they weren't married and tried to interact with them that way, but neither  
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one of them felt like the right thing to do I just found it very hard to figure out what to assume.  
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David: Right. 
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Rachel: And then, you might think, well,  
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“Why did you have to assume one or the other?”  Well, you don't, but when you're in this social  
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slash professional situation, because there's a lot of hanging out, too, for a whole week. I  
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mean that it, it's just hard to not interact with somebody without knowing what that relationship is  
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between other people in your group.
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David: Right, and I think it brings up this thing that we talk about a lot where for people  
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who are learning English and who want to sound like a native speaker, there's the desire to  
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sound natural and to use slang, which you've been talking about a lot or to just be a little bit  
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more informal. And it is really tough in those situations where it is one-part professional,  
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one-part social. Another example of that is, if you're out after work with coworkers, let's  
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say you're out for happy hour getting a drink, it's really difficult sometimes to know, “Well,  
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wait a minute is this -- how should I be talking this person?” Maybe they are your supervisor or  
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your supervisee and it's tough.
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Rachel: I agree. When those lines get blurred, it can be hard, even as a native speaker among Americans to  
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know exactly how to be and what to say.
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David: Yeah, that's a good point, actually people should not feel like it's just their  
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accent or fluency that's making them feel  awkward in those situations. That's true,  
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those are tough for all of us.
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Rachel: Yeah, okay, David. Do you want to ask a question?
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David:  Alright so, another question I want to ask you is, what's one thing
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you would like to change  about yourself?
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Rachel: I guess I would try to change -- I think sometimes I'm not very focused. I sit down at my desk to do  
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something and you know like, 10 minutes later, I am doing who knows what, but it's not what I set  
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down to do and I can’t even remember what I sat down to do. And I feel like some days, I'm really  
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focused and it's like “Wow!” I can feel it, I can tell it feels great, but that just doesn't happen  
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that much. So, I guess that's what I would say I wish that I could -- I wish that my mind wasn't so  
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open to distractions all the time.
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David: But that really surprises me. you're someone who is -- you know you have your own business.  
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There's no one making demands of you in terms of deadlines
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and yet you always seem to be working really hard. 
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Rachel: Well, but maybe sometimes, I'm just up there watching YouTube videos. [Laughs] 
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David: Good to know. 
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Rachel: Here's the thing, though,  
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I do do that sometimes, because I subscribe to this newsletter that's like online video news,  
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YouTube news it’s called Tube Filter, I think, because I feel like I should know what's going  
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on in the world of YouTube. It's never related to what I'm doing, but every once in a while,  
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I’ll get sucked down a whole like that’s how I found out. [Laughter], this is so stupid,  
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I don't listen to the radio ever. I know I know no music but that's how I found out that that song  
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Despacito was topping the charts. It was because 
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it was talking about how the YouTube video was topping the charts - 
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David: [Laughter] right.
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Rachel: - and then I started listening to it.
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David: [laughter] Right.
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Rachel:  “Topping the charts” means really popular. It's used a lot with music, movies  
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or video. And I think it comes from Billboard charts, which are used to keep track of the most  
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popular songs in any given week.
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David: Which you know what story that makes me think of.
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Rachel: What?
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David: When you and I were first dating and we were walking around Manhattan- 
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Rachel: Ah, yeah 
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David: And blaring out of this sort  
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of on like teen clothing shop was this music, and the song was wildly popular at the time,  
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it was Call Me Maybe. And I turn to you and I said so, is this -- something along the  
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lines of,” Is this just absolute trash or is  this the epitome of pop music?” and you said,  
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“I don't know what you're talking about.  I've never heard that song before.”  
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Rachel: Right. 
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David: I was stunned. 
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Rachel: Well, for the record, when it came to the  
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chorus. I did recognize the chorus. Mostly because  I'd seen like internet satires of the song. 
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David: [laughter] Yeah, again, an awkward way to  
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know about the song.
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Rachel: Yeah. A couple idioms we used. David said,  “…along the lines of…” We use this when we  
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are not describing something exactly. Maybe we don't remember it the exact details, but we're  
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giving the general idea of it. And I said, “for  the record” which we use sometimes when we're  
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correcting or clarifying something that someone has said. I'm just not much of a -- I just do not  
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like pop music. I'll admit it.
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David: That's one of your few character  flaws I would say [laughter]. 
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Rachel: And see I would not call it a character flaw. What is a character flaw?  
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David:  Character flaw, something that is just fundamentally, a personality trait that is  
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just really difficult to change and-
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Rachel: Is seen as negative?
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David: - Is seen as a negative.
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Rachel: So, you were joking when you said that?
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David: I was joking, mostly.
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Rachel: Now. Would you would you ever tell someone that they had a character flaw,  
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like seriously, because it's sort of a  harsh thing to say to somebody, isn’t it? 
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David: No, it's very harsh and no,  
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you would--that has to be in a very informal setting with someone that you know well.  
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Rachel: Would it maybe be that you  
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are talking about someone who is not there? Like, “Oh, [crosstalk] he has a lot of anxiety. It's a  
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character flaw.” Can you say that? David: Yeah.
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Rachel: I don’t know that’s kind of mean.
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David: That’s pretty biting. That's not casual gossip. That is a pretty biting accusation. 
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Rachel: Do we use it jokingly more than we use it for real? 
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David: I think so, and often you would --  it's safe to direct it at yourself. 
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Rachel: Yes,  
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self-deprecating, to be like, “It's a character  flaw I love chocolate.” or something like that. 
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David: Right. 
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Rachel: Okay David, what's one thing you  
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would like to change about yourself?
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David: Yeah, I was so. I was thinking about that question, too. And there was a while,  
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several years ago where I was doing a sitting meditation practice. Every day or almost every  
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day for 10 or 20 minutes and it was great. I  really felt like It helped me throughout the day,  
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just be present to each moment, to not be spending a lot time anticipating what was coming next or  
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worrying about what had already taken place during the day. I really liked that, my mind was just  
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more calm and still. And then, in the years,  since when I haven't been doing that as much,  
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I really notice the difference. So, I sort of  always want to be meditating more and doing that  
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practice and I haven't. The thing that I would like to change is I want to get back to that.  
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I want to get back to sitting more and having  that feeling of just yeah, your mind being calm. 
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Rachel: So, the change that you can tell that  
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has happened since you stopped doing that, how would you describe what your mind is doing now? 
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David: Well, I was thinking about it when  
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you said hard to focus, it is related to that. And I think it's hard to focus but also what I noticed  
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when I was doing more meditation was that thoughts that I had just sort of slid past. It was like,  
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I described it as my brain had Teflon.  Thoughts just weren't sticky and annoying—  
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Rachel: Oh, what’s Teflon? people out there  
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might not know what Teflon is.
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David: Teflon, I don’t even know if that's still what they call it but that's the lining of  
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a nonstick pan,
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Rachel: Yeah.
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David: -so if you’re, some pans have this coating on it that makes it so that food doesn't stick to the  
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pan when you're cooking.
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Rachel: Is the theory that you can use less oil then when you cook with that kind of a pan? 
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David: Less oil and easy cleaning. So,  
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it's just supposed to wipe right out and you  don't have that like brown stuck to the pan. 
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Rachel: Yeah. So,  
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now that you don't have the Teflon brain, you have the brown food residue stuck to your brain  
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from the thoughts.
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David: Yeah, I have cheap cookware brain.
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Rachel: Yeah, that's the analogy. Okay, so, Teflon
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David: Teflon.
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Rachel: Nonstick surface, for those of you who don't know that word. Okay, David, well what's one thing that  
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you love about yourself?
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David: Well, I went to sort of a character trait of mine, I guess. And thinking about in conversation,  
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I tend to really pay a lot of attention to  asking people good questions, making people feel  
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comfortable in a situation or in a conversation and I really enjoy getting people talking  
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in depth, about what's going on with  them, what they're thinking about,  
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what their worries are, what their hopes are. That kind of stuff,  
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I think that, yeah, I’m just good at sort of  drawing people out. That's a -- what is that? 
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Rachel: Yes, so, to draw someone out,  
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that's a phrasal verb, to draw out.
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David: Right it's not an idiom or anything, it’s just—
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Rachel: Well, phrasal verbs are sort of idiomatic, I would say, but this would be categorized as a  
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phrasal verb. And when you draw someone out, then that means you sort of bring them out of their  
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shell. You get them to maybe be a little bit more vulnerable with you, maybe tell you things that  
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they wouldn't just tell to just anybody. You're drawing them out, you're sort of getting them  
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relaxed and talking more freely about results.
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David: I wonder where that comes from, where that common usage came in? Because if I think  
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about a turtle…
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Rachel: Yeah.
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David: …when they're really safe and feeling at ease then they come out from under their shell. 
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Rachel: Mmh 
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David: Which is kind of a nice  
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positive way to think about it.
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Rachel: Yeah.
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David: But drawing out, we also would use in a hunting situation, where like dogs maybe I guess they  
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would say dogs are flushing birds out of a field.
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Rachel: Yeah, but I get what you are saying.
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David: They are drawing them out.
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Rachel: And we also use it, phrasal verbs are often used in various different ways. And if we say that  
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something is drawn out, that often  means that it took too long to happen. 
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David: Oh, right. 
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Rachel: Like, if you're watching a movie,  
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and it sort of, the pace is slow and it's really long and it's unfolding really slowly. Someone  
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might say, “Hey did you like it?” and you could say, “Well, I did, but it just seems kind of  
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drawn out.”
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David: Interesting. You can see the connection there, but it's a pretty different meaning. 
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Rachel: Yeah, I think when you draw someone out,  
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that scene is a positive.
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David: Yes.
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Rachel: When you're getting someone to open up, there's another phrasal verb that means the same thing  
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when you're talking about people.
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David: Right.
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Rachel: Okay so, one of the things you love about yourself is your ability to make people feel comfortable  
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and drawing them out. David 
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Yes, so, what about you what would you say?
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Rachel: Well, actually, today is a great example of this, I am pretty okay with mess. When I'm working on a  
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project, I just kind of leave it out until  I'm done, which might be never. And today,  
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we had a cable guy over to our house changing out our internet and he came up to my office and, you  
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know, there's piles of equipment everywhere. And I said, “You know what? I'm okay with this.” And  
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he was there observing it and he was, okay, he was here being really gracious working among my  
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piles of stuff, but it just like looking at that,  looking at my room, my office was just like, “Yep,  
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I'm a messy person.” And I'm not always, I  definite like things to have their place,  
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but most of the time they're not in their place.
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David: And so, okay, so the question was what you love about yourself. So, what about that is something  
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that you love?
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Rachel: To me, it reflects not a strictness to how things are supposed to be. And also, like, how do you  
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value time? I valued time in a way that I do not think that spending time picking up my room is  
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always the best way to spend my time. Like at the end of the day, if I had to choose between picking  
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up my office and putting everything in its spot or coming down to hang out with you and Stony,  
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I am going to choose that. That's more important to me. I'm okay with the mess, I let the mess be  
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and I let my life carry on around it, so that,  because other things are more important to me.  
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And also, I think another thing that I like about myself is sort of along those same lines, which is  
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I'm not that interested in rule following.  I use the phrase “along those same lines”.  
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This means you're saying something that is related or similar to something you've already said. Along  
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those same lines. Different from the earlier  phrase “along the lines of” which means I'm not  
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saying exactly what happened or what the thing is but I'm speaking generally about it. Okay,  
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back to how I don't follow rules. I mean, I’m not like a horrible person, disobedient kid or  
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anything.
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David: [laughter]
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Rachel: But I don't think that I have followed the like the normal path that a lot of people  
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like me have followed with education and job and yada, yada, yada. I'm making my own way,  
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choosing how I was going to do things. Actually, I just said “yada, yada, yada” and it made me think  
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about you know how we use that. That was sort of a Seinfeld thing for a while, isn’t it? Like it was  
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part of a Seinfeld episode.
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David: Maybe but, it predates for sure.
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Rachel: Yeah. I think Seinfeld may have used it and may have had a little bit of a heyday under Seinfeld,  
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another thing I have to define. But  when you say “yada, yada, yada”,  
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it's like saying, “You know what I mean,  I could keep going but I'm not going to.”  
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David: Or you could say et cetera, et cetera, et cetera. 
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Rachel: Right, right,  
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it's like writing etc. and yada, yada, yada.
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David: Mmh.
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Rachel: Okay, so, I said it had a heyday under Seinfeld. When you have a heyday,  
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that means sort of like a golden moment where in popularity or in everything going right. 
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David: Mmh. 
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Rachel: So, I think that this  
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term, “yada, yada, yada” might have been in a Seinfeld episode and it might have sort of  
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taken off as something that people referenced a lot. And if the if I'm right on that, then it  
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might have been a little heyday for that phrase where it was sort of more popular than normal. 
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David: So, what's another example? I'm thinking  
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of newspapers. Newspapers in their heyday, or extremely commonplace and were the number one  
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media for Daily News consumption.
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Rachel: Right.
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David: In their heyday
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Rachel: Yeah, and now how many people get a paper newspaper delivered? Probably almost no one. 
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David: Right. 
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Rachel: So that means their heyday is past.  
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David: Right 
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Rachel: They're not as popular  
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as they used to be.
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David: Right.
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Rachel: Yeah. Good example.
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David: Thanks. So, you know what I was thinking about when you said about room for messiness in your  
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office? Well, number one, thank you for coming downstairs instead of cleaning up, I love that. 
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Rachel: You’re welcome 
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David: I would much rather have you have a  
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messy office and more time with me and Stony.
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Rachel: Right? Who needs a beautiful office up there when no one 's in there anyway? 
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David: Right, but… 
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Rachel: Go down be with the family. 
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David: Yeah, but you know,  
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what I was thinking was when your office,  for a long time, doubled as our living room. 
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Rachel: Yeah. 
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David: Then your comfort with messiness  
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was a little bit of a situation.
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Rachel: Was it? You never said anything.
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David: I maybe hinted at it.
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Rachel: What I mean –
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David: I was being a good person probably.
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Rachel: It was pretty contained though there was just like piles on the desk, at least,  
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when my office was in the living room, I feel like I didn't have piles all over the floor in general. 
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David: Yeah. That's true,  
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but it was— Rachel: 
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But it bothered you? David: 
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Well, not really because, who cares? But because  I think I have a decent messiness tolerance, too. 
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Rachel: Yeah, you're more neat, but you do tolerate  
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me sick very well for how neat you are. David: 
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Yeah, you know what I just said? I said  it was a little bit of a situation. 
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Rachel: Oh, yeah, what did you mean by that? 
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David: I meant that, oh,  
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man how do you even describe that? I meant  that it was an issue. it was noticeable. 
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Rachel: Yeah when you  
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say we have a situation or this is a little bit of  a situation. It means it's something that needs to  
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be addressed. There's a little problem. David: 
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Right. Rachel: 
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Like if let's say when David cooks, he  cleans up as he goes and I don't. So,  
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when I cook at the end of - [laughs] 
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Rachel: - At the end of whatever meal I’ve prepared,  
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the kitchen is a little bit of a situation. David: 
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This is true. Rachel: 
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It needs some help. [laughs] David: 
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Great example. Rachel: 
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Thank you. David: 
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Alright, so let's talk about another question and  tell us, what is the best job you've ever had? 
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Rachel: Okay. Well, I mean  
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I love Rachel's English. I'm going to say current  job doesn't count, also it's not really a job it's  
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like the whole thing. I'm not working for somebody  else. I'm going to say the best job I ever had was  
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working at a guest house in Manhattan. It was in  a great location I got to live there, so I got to  
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live in this amazing location in Manhattan and it  was a crazy job because I was the only employee,  
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so I had to do everything. I had to greet the  guests. I had to, you know, set up the calendar,  
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accept the payment. I had to do all laundry,  make up all the rooms. It was like maid service,  
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laundry service, guest services. The worst  part of it was the physical plant. That's  
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the department that's taking care of buildings,  usually. I had to take care of the building and  
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it was over 150 years old. And it was an old  brownstone close to the East Village and oh,  
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men, I mean that thing was crumbling.  I remember a day where I had a handyman  
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that I called regularly to help with things and  I called on a Sunday and I said, “What do I do?  
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There are gallons of water coming in through  this one wall.” and he came over and was like,  
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“I don't really know what I can do.” But, yeah,  so it was an everything kind of job and I  
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think even though there are parts that I  didn’t like that appealed to me. And then,  
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the other thing that appealed to me is, I was  the only person who worked there so there was  
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a board who I had to check in with they were my  boss collectively. But there was no one looking  
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over my shoulder telling me what to do in a  given day. I did what I thought needed to be  
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done and that’s really how I operate. That's, you  know, that's one of the things that I enjoy about  
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my current situation, to being my own boss  is, I just, I love being in control of how  
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I choose to spend every minute, and I'm always  choosing to get things done, it's not like I'm  
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going surfing at Rockaway beach or something.  But I like deciding when I do the laundry and. 
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David: [laugher] surfing at Rockaway beach? [laughs] 
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Rachel: I've never surfed, for the record,  
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I don't know that came into my mind – David: 
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Have you been to Rockaway beach? Rachel: 
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Yeah. David: 
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Okay, so that’s half possible. Rachel: 
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Yeah, I know it's one of the beaches  that you go to when you live in New York. 
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David: Okay. 
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Rachel: And they're surfing there. As I  
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was speaking and I was trying to think of what's  an example of like totally shirking your duties,  
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that's what came to mind. “Shirk your duties”  that means to not do what you're supposed to do. 
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David: What’s a shirk? Is it like a shrugging off? 
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Rachel: Yeah, I guess. I mean, I don't  
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know that it's a physical thing, but when you  shirk your duties, you don't take care of your,  
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you do not do what you’re supposed to do. David: 
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Correct. I just wonder what that comes from. Rachel: 
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I don't know where that comes from I feel like  there's a theme on this podcast of you asking me  
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where English words come from and I never know. David: 
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Because it doesn't matter. Rachel: 
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Because it doesn't-- it will  matter, it’s interesting— 
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David: It matters,  
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but in order to sound more like a native speaker,  it doesn't matter so much where it comes from. 
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Rachel: Right. I think that you should start a blog where  
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you follow up every podcast by researching all  the words that you are curious about in your blog. 
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David: That sounds kind of fun, actually. 
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Rachel: Okay 
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David: I’d enjoy that. 
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Rachel: davidsenglish.com, everybody. [laughter] 
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David: NO, no it can be on yours. It’s  
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going to go on the rachelsenglish. Rachel: 
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What about you, David, what's  the best job you ever had? 
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David: Well, I'm a therapist or you could say counselor.  
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Those words are pretty much interchangeable, and  I've been a counselor therapist for a long time,  
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about 15 years. But about 10 years ago, I started a private practice, and that means  
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basically, well, the phrase is putting out your  shingle, which is used by a lot of different  
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professions I think. Rachel: 
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I've never heard that phrase, actually. David: 
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Are you serious? Rachel: 
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Yeah. David: 
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If you're putting out your shingle, that  means starting up your own shop. You're  
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hanging a sign above your door. So, starting my  own private practice meant that similar to you,  
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there's no one above me. I'm able to have my  office and see my clients and it's been really  
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rewarding for that reason. But also, it's my best  job ever, because I really enjoy working with  
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people who are motivated to work on their issues  and work hard in counseling. So, that's definitely  
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the best job I've ever had. Rachel: 
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You said that you've been a counselor  therapist for 15 years and you've  
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been doing that for 10 years. What were  you doing for the 5 years before that? 
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David: I was doing counseling, but just not for myself. 
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Rachel: You were working for somebody? 
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David: I was a family therapist,  
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two years going into individuals’ homes and  doing family counseling and then, for two years,  
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in what's called a residential treatment facility,  doing therapy with kids and their families there. 
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Rachel: But you prefer being  
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your own boss. Also, are the people who are coming  to you, people who are choosing to go to therapy  
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whereas maybe in those first 5 years, was it  people who had good therapy for a certain reason? 
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David: Yeah that's -- I think that's a big difference. I  
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mean, basically, the whole 15 years it's been both  private practice and other things, but there's  
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something unique about, in my practice in which people are, yeah, motivated and eager. They're  
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actively seeking out the hard work of therapy,  and I think that there's something about that,  
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that makes it really rewarding. Rachel: 
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Yeah. So, here the word “practice” is a noun.  David's practice is his group of clients that  
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come to him. Usually, it's more common to  see practice in its verb form, and this is  
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something that we do to get better at something.  You practice the piano, you practice your English,  
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so I guess it could also be used with the clients.  They're practicing, talking to you about their  
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feelings or practicing processing, maybe. David: 
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Well that's a good -- that's very Rachel: 
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In order to get better. David: 
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And I would say that I am a practitioner. Rachel: 
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So, that's another noun. David: 
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That’s another noun. Rachel: 
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Related. David: 
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-some sort of practice now. Rachel: 
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Practitioner. Cool, I hadn't thought about that.  I think it's interesting, right now I'm working  
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for my online school on stressed words and  thinking about words and their different forms  
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when they’re a noun versus a verb, how they  can be pronounced differently. For example,  
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the noun “house” is different from the name  verb “house”, which ends in z-sound. Where  
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will they be housed? Or you live in a house?  That ends in an S sound and there's all sorts  
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of different examples of that when the part of  speech changes the pronunciation of the word. 
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David: Man, that's such  
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a specific difference. I mean, I've talked about  this before, but it's so different than Spanish  
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where I can read Spanish even when I don't know  what I'm reading, because each letter that you see  
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correlates to a sound, right? Rachel: 
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Yeah because it's phonetic. David: 
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What I mean -- yeah. Rachel: 
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Well, and another thing that's confusing is,  often when a change happens in pronunciation,  
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it's also stress. So, for example, you can say  the word “address”. “He addressed the public.”,  
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“He spoke to the public.” But you  might say, “What’s your address?” 
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David: Mmh. 
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Rachel: And there, it's a  
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noun and the stress is different, ad-DRESS,  AD-dress. So, it's the sounds that are changed,  
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but it's also the stress. David: 
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Impossible. Rachel: 
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Impossible, except not- David: 
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Unless you are a great teacher. Rachel: 
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Well, lot of people out there working  really hard and they're getting it. 
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David: It’s true. 
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Rachel: Okay, David, thank you for sitting down with me to  
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discuss these questions and think about English. David: 
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Yeah, that was really fun. That brought up a whole  bunch of different kinds of things. That's great.  
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I like that. Rachel: 
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Brought up, phrasal verb. [laughs] To cause  something to come to the surface to be discussed. 
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David: There you go. 
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Rachel: Yeah, you really drew me out. [Laughs] 
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David: Alright. [Ba-dum-tss] 
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Rachel: Alright, seriously,  
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thank you for your time to come here and you know,  lend your time to the Rachel’s English audience. I  
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appreciate it and I know they appreciate it, too. David: 
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You're welcome Rachel: 
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And again, if you need some help with the words  you couldn't understand everything, no problem at  
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all. Visit rachelsenglish.com/podcast and you  can find a tree a free copy of the transcript  
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for this episode. If you're not subscribed  to this podcast, please be sure to do that at  
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iTunes or Stitcher. And if you're inclined,  please feel free to leave a review. I do  
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read them all and it's great for me to get  feedback on what you like about this podcast.
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