How to Feel Less Shy Speaking English - Improve English Speaking Confidence Now!

英语口语 — 不要感到害羞

Hello.

您好！

I'm Oli.

我是Oli。

Welcome to Oxford Online English.

欢迎来到Oxford Online English。

In this lesson, you can learn about dealing with shyness or nervousness when you speak

在本节课中，您可以学到怎样面对 在您说英语时的害羞

English.

和紧张问题。

Do you sometimes feel shy when you speak English?

在您说英语时您有时会觉得害羞吗？

Is it worse when you speak to native speakers?

在您和一个说母语的人交谈时 会觉得很糟糕吗？

Do these feelings of shyness or nervousness stop you from practicing and using your English?

害羞和紧张的感觉会让您 停止练习和使用英语吗？

Yes?

是吗？

Yes?

是吗？

And yes?

确定？

This video could hopefully help you.

本视屏会帮您应对这个问题。

Shyness and nervousness are natural, but they also make it more difficult to speak.

害羞和紧张是天生的，但是 这也让开口说更困难。

If you feel shy, you might not be able to think of things to say, or you might not be

如果您觉得害羞，您也许不能考虑要 说的事情，或者您也许不能

able to use grammar and vocabulary correctly.

正确地使用语法和词汇。

Some English learners get stuck in a pattern where they feel shy, and so they avoid using

当觉得害羞时，一些英语学习者会在 进程上卡住，这样他们就不想使用

English or speaking English.

英语和说英语。

Now I can't promise to solve all of your problems with shyness and nervousness.

现在我不能保证解决您所有的害羞 和紧张的问题。

But in this video, I'll share some advice on how to deal with these feelings, which

但在本视屏中，我会分享一些怎样 面对这些感觉的建议，

I hope will be helpful.

我希望是有帮助的。

Point one, remember that speaking is just speaking.

第一点，记住说就是说。

What do I mean?

我的意思是什么？

Well, when we first hear foreign languages or meet foreigners, they often sound very

好，当我们首次听到外语或遇到外国人时， 对我们来说，他们通常看上去非常

strange or interesting or exotic to us.

陌生或有趣或充满异国情调。

Oh, he's speaking French.

噢，他在说法语。

Wow!

喔！

He must be saying something romantic, or he must be talking about literature or philosophy.

他一定在说一些浪漫的事情，或者 他一定在谈论文学或哲理。

I wish I could understand him.

我希望我能听懂他说的。

Oh, wow!

噢，喔！

She's writing in Chinese.

她在写中文。

Those characters, they're so beautiful.

那些字，他们很漂亮。

She must be writing a poem.

她一定在写一首诗。

I wish I could understand what she's writing.

我希望能懂她在写什么。

Yeah, you know what?

是的，您知道什么？

Maybe the French guy is talking about philosophy.

也许那个法国男生在聊哲理。

Maybe he's just talking about how he got stuck in a traffic jam.

也许他只是在谈他怎样在 交通堵塞中被塞住了。

Maybe the Chinese girl is writing a poem about misty mountains, or maybe it's just a shopping

也许中国女生在写一首有关朦胧山脉 的诗，或者也许只是一个

list.

购物清单。

If you think that foreign languages and foreign people are something strange or exotic, of

如果您认为外语和外国人是陌生的 或有异国情调的事情，

course, you'll feel more nervous when you're speaking.

当然，当您在说的时候您会觉得有些紧张。

I think many English learners have this idea.

我认为很多英语学习者有这个想法。

They think, "Oh, I'm not talking to a person.

他们想：“噢，我不是在和一个人谈话。

I'm talking to a native speaker."

我是在和一个说母语的交谈。“

But actually, speaking English isn't something special.

但实际上，说英语不是什么特殊的事情。

It's just speaking, like you do all day, every day.

它就是说话，像您一整天要做的， 每天要做的。

All over the world, most of what people talk about is quite simple, and it's quite similar

世界上，人们谈论的大部分是 十分简单的，全世界

all over the world.

都十分相似。

Native English speakers aren't different animals.

母语是英语的人不是不同的动物、

They're just normal people.

他们都是正常人。

They talk about their work.

他们聊他们的工作。

They complain about their bosses.

他们抱怨他们的老板。

They talk about movies they've seen.

他们聊他们看过的电影。

They decide what they're going to have for lunch and so on, just like anybody else.

他们决定他们去吃什么午餐，诸如此类 的事情，就像任何人一样。

So don't think that native speakers are some kind of magical animal.

所以不要认为说母语的人是 一些神奇的动物。

They're not.

他们不是。

If you want to talk to them, talk to them.

如果您想和他们说，就和他们说。

If you don't, don't.

如果您不想，就不要。

It's not such a big deal either way.

无论什么方式，都没什么大不了的。

What?

什么？

Not a big deal?

没什么大不了的？

Really?

真的吗？

Yeah, really.

是的，真的。

You need to ask yourself, part two, "What's the worst that could happen?"

您需要自问，第二部分： “最糟糕能发生什么事？”

So you feel really nervous about speaking English.

那么，您对说英语真的感到紧张。

One day, you find the courage, you go and talk to a teacher at your school, maybe a

一天，您有了勇气，您在学校里 去和老师谈，也许是一个

British person or an American person.

英国人或一个美国人。

It goes horribly badly.

那肯定糟糕透顶。

You feel really uncomfortable.

您感到真的不舒适。

You can't think of anything to say.

您想不起来任何要说的事。

So you walk away, and you think thoughts like, "I've embarrassed myself.

所以您走开了，您觉得像是： ”我觉得自己很尴尬。

I feel like an idiot.

我感觉像个白痴。

Why is my English so bad?"

为什么我的英语很烂？“

Here's a question though.

这就是问题所在。

What have you actually lost?

实际上您损失了什么？

Nothing.

什么都没有。

It's not a big deal.

没什么大不了的。

It's just a conversation.

那只是一个对话。

The big deal is only in your head.

大事情仅是在您的脑海里。

You think these thoughts.

您这样想。

Nobody else.

没人这样。

10 years in the future, are you still going to be thinking and worrying about that time

今后的10年里，您是否仍然去想 和担心当时的事？

when, "Oh, I tried to start a conversation, and it didn't go very well."?

"噢，我试着开始一个对话， 那不是十分顺利。“？

No, of course not.

没有，当然不是。

Why not?

为什么不是？

Because it's not that important.

因为那不是那么重要。

Maybe it feels like a big deal.

也许那感觉上像是一件大事情。

It feels important at that moment, but it's not really important.

觉得很重要在那时候，但并不是真的重要。

You haven't lost anything.

您什么都没有损失。

You may feel embarrassed, or you may feel stupid, but you're doing that to yourself.

您也许感觉尴尬，或您也许感觉 蠢，但是是您自己觉得那样的。

There's no reason why.

那不是理由。

No one else is telling you you're stupid.

没人告诉您您有点蠢。

You aren't risking anything, just by starting a conversation.

您没有任何风险， 就是开始一个对话而已。

I guarantee the person you talk to is not thinking these thoughts.

我保证在和您谈话的人不是这样想的。

So what can you do about these feelings?

那么对这些感觉您能做些什么？

How can you control them?

您要怎样控制它们？

Well, let's look at point three: wear a mask.

好，让我们看第三点：戴面具。

These feelings of nervousness or shyness are all inside.

这些紧张或害羞的感觉 都是在里面的。

Here's the best piece of advice I can give you.

这是我能给您的最好建议。

Just because you feel nervous, you don't have to act nervous.

就因为您感觉紧张， 您不必表现出紧张。

Let me tell you a story.

我来告诉您一个故事。

Before I started teaching, I was terrified of public speaking.

在我开始教英语之前， 我害怕公开演讲。

Even speaking in front of very small groups made me feel very nervous and very, very stressed.

甚至是在很小群人的面前说都会让我 觉得十分紧张和十分焦虑。

The first lesson I ever taught was to a group of maybe eight Russian teenagers, just a small

我教的第一节课是对着一群 俄罗斯青年，也许8位，就是

class.

一小节课。

It was the most scared I've ever been in my life.

这是我一生中遇到的最害怕的事情。

That's not an exaggeration.

那不是夸张。

I have quite seriously never felt so much fear.

认真的说，我从未感到过如此恐惧。

I was shaking.

我在发抖。

I was sweating.

我在流汗。

I couldn't remember anything about my lesson.

我想不起我上课的任何内容。

I tried to teach something about modal verbs.

我试着去教关于情态动词的一些事情。

I don't think anybody learned anything.

我不认为有人学到了什么。

Afterwards, I thought, "How am I going to do this?"

之后，我想：“我要怎么去做这件事？”

My trainer gave me the same advice I'm giving you.

我的训练师把与我给你们的相同 建议给了我。

Act confident, even if you don't feel confident.

表现出自信，即使是您不觉得自信。

So I did.

所以我这样做了。

The first few months, I still felt really nervous, but I tried to hide it.

在头几个月，我仍然觉得真的紧张， 但是我试着去隐藏它。

After maybe a year, I didn't feel so nervous.

在也许一年后，我不太觉得紧张了。

After a few years, I could stand in front of 100 people and expect their attention,

几年后，我可以站在100人面前， 期待他们的注意，

even if I still felt a little bit nervous inside.

即使我仍然内心觉得一点点紧张。

If it worked for me, it can work for you.

如果这个方法对我有用，对您也同样有用。

Sure, it takes time, and it's not easy, but it's possible.

当然，要花点时间，那是 不容易的，但是是可能的。

So act confident.

所以，表现出自信。

Hold your head up.

抬起头。

Chin up.

振奋起来。

Make eye contact, even if it makes you uncomfortable.

用眼睛去沟通，甚至会让您不舒适。

Control the speed and the rhythm of your voice.

控制您说话的速度和节奏。

Doing these things is not so difficult, and it will make you feel good because you're

做这些事不是很难， 它会让您感觉良好，因为您在

taking control of your feelings, instead of letting your feelings control you.

控制您的感觉，而不是感觉控制了您。

OK, you think, "Easy for you, Oli.

好，您认为：“那对您来说容易，Oli。

You're talking about speaking your own language.

您在谈您自己的语言。

We're talking about speaking a foreign language."

我们在谈论的是说一种外语。”

OK, let's talk about that.

好吧，我们来聊一下那个。

Point four: worrying about your language makes your language worse.

第四点：担心您的语言会让您的语言更糟。

Here's a question: when you hear a foreigner speak your language, how do you decide if

有一个问题：当您听到一个外国人讲 您的语言，您怎样判断这个人说得

this person is speaking well or badly?

很好，还是糟糕？

In most cases, people notice your fluency and your pronunciation.

在大部分的事例中，人们注意您的 流利程度和您的发音。

In speech, people don't pay much attention to grammar and vocabulary if your speech is

在谈话中，如果您讲的是易于 理解的，人们不会太关注

easy to understand.

语法和词汇。

What does this mean?

这是什么意思？

It means that if you are embarrassed of your grammar or your vocabulary when you're speaking

那意思是如果当您在说英语时， 您对您的语法和词汇感到尴尬，

English, you really shouldn't be.

您真的不必这样。

First of all, worrying doesn't solve anything anyway.

首先，反正担心不能解决任何问题。

If your grammar is bad, worrying about your grammar will not make it better.

如果您的语法很糟糕， 担心您的语法不会让它更好。

The only result is that you will feel bad.

唯一的后果是您会感觉糟糕。

That's it.

就是那样。

Secondly, other people will really not notice your grammar or vocabulary very much.

其次，其他人真的不会太留意您的语法和词汇。

Most people don't care about these things, most people who aren't English teachers.

大部分的人不在意这些事情， 大部分的人不是英语老师。

Even English teachers care about these things at work, and then they stop caring after work.

即使是英语老师也只是在工作时在意这些事情， 下班后，他们不会在意。

Trust me.

请相信我。

If I've been teaching all day, and you come and talk to me, I do not want to think about

如果我一整天都在教学， 您来和我谈，我不想去考虑

your grammar or your vocabulary problems.

您的语法或词汇问题。

That's the last thing I want to do at the end of the day.

那是我一天结束时要做的最后一件事。

Most teachers I know feel the same way.

我认识的大部分老师有相同的感觉。

Most importantly, worrying about your grammar and vocabulary will affect your fluency.

最重要的是，担心您的语法和词汇 会影响您的流利。

You'll speak slowly, and you'll hesitate more if you're always worrying about which verb

如果您总是担心我必须使用的动词时态 或哪个单词在这是正确的，

form should I use or what's the right word here.

您会很犹豫，您会说得很慢。

So if you're just having a chat with someone, don't think about your English too much.

所以如果您只是在和某人聊天， 不要考虑您的英语太多。

It doesn't help.

那没有帮助。

It doesn't make your English better, and it doesn't make it easier to communicate.

那不会让您的英语更好， 不会让您表达更容易。

Just talk.

就是谈。

Try to communicate your ideas.

试着表达您的想法。

You'll sound more confident because you're not hesitating and worrying about your language.

您会看上去更自信，因为您没在犹豫， 不在担心您的语言。

If you sound more confident, hopefully you'll feel more confident too.

如果您看上去更自信， 也会有助于您感觉更自信。

OK, let's review and put the things we've talked about together.

好了，让我们复习并把我们谈过的事情综合起来。

Part five, break the habit sooner, not later.

第五点，早点改掉习惯，不要太晚。

You can't help feeling shy or nervous, but you can help how you respond to these feelings.

您禁不住感到紧张或害羞，但是您可以 控制对这些感觉的反应。

Very often, our responses to our feelings are habits.

很多时候，我们对感觉的反应是习惯性的。

They're habits which are difficult to break, but not impossible.

那些是很难去打破的习惯， 但并非不可能。

Every time you want to talk to someone in English, but you choose not to, you're feeding

每当您想用英语去和某人交谈时， 但您选择不去，您正在被

your bad habits.

您的坏习惯影响。

Every time you think to yourself, "My grammar sucks.

每次您自己想：“我的语法很糟糕。

I don't have anything interesting to say," you're feeding these bad habits.

我没有任何有趣的事情去说，” 您被坏习惯影响了。

So go and talk to someone, even if it makes you feel uncomfortable.

所以去和某人聊，即使会让您觉得不舒适。

The first time, it might not go so well.

第一次，那也许不会很顺利。

That's okay.

那还好。

The 10th time, it will be easier.

第10次，会更容易。

The 100th time, it will be much easier.

第100次，会太容易了。

You won't even remember how difficult it was at the beginning.

您甚至不会记得在开始时 有多困难。

You don't have anything interesting to say?

您没有任何有趣的事去说吗？

Fine.

很好。

Say something boring.

说一些烦恼的事。

No one expects you to be interesting all the time.

没有人期望您在所有时候 都很有趣。

No one's interesting all the time.

没有人在所有时候都有趣。

Just say something boring.

就说一些烦恼的事情。

End the conversation.

结束对话。

Most conversations are simple.

大部分的对话是简单的。

It doesn't matter that much what you say.

您说什么都没关系。

Worried about your grammar or your vocabulary?

担心您的语法和您的词汇？

Remember, no one else really cares that much.

记住，没人真的那么在乎。

Just focus on trying to communicate.

就专注于试着交流。

Talk.

聊。

Express your ideas.

表达您的想法。

When you're having a conversation with someone, these things are much more important.

当您和某人在谈话时， 这些事是更加重要。

Most importantly, stop feeding bad habits.

最重要的是，停止养成坏习惯。

Go talk to people, even if you're uncomfortable.

去和人们聊，即使您觉得不舒适。

You'll learn quite quickly that feeling shy or feeling nervous will only stop you speaking

感觉害羞或感觉紧张只会停止 您去说英语，如果您愿意，

English if you let it.

您会学得很快。

OK, that's the end of the lesson.

好的，课程到此结束。

I hope you found it useful.

我希望您觉得本节课是有用的。

You can see more of our free lessons on our website, www.oxfordonlineenglish.com.

您可以在我们的网站上看到更多的免费课程， www.oxfordonlineenglish.com.

That's all.

就这样。

Thank you very much.

非常感谢您。

See you next time.

下次见。

Bye bye!

再见！