SOUND MORE POLITE | 10 MUST-KNOW Ways to Ask for Help in English

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Hi there, this is Harry and welcome back to advanced English lessons with Harry, where
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Okay, in this particular lesson, we're going to look at the word "help."
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And in particular, different ways in which we can say "help."
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Or how we can ask for help.
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So it's an advanced English lesson.
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And it's all to do with other ways to say help.
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Now, as I've often said, British native speakers English, people don't really like being so
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direct.
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So if they want to ask somebody for help, they won't just say "Help me," you know, unless
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they're in a really, really tricky situation.
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But they'll use different ways in which they can ask for help something.
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Sometimes people might consider these to be a little bit more polite, of which of course
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they are, because they're indirect statements or questions rather than direct statements
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or questions.
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So we're going to go through them one by one, I've got a list of 12 in total.
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And I'll give you examples when you can use them.
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Some of them sound the same, but I'll give you situations when you can use them.
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And this will give you an idea as to how you can use them.
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And hopefully this will help you.
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Okay, so would you mind helping me?
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So question.
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Would you mind helping me?
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I need some assistance.
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Could you give me a hand?
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I need your support.
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Could you or will you do me a favour?
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Do you know anything about...?
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Would you mind showing me...?
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Could you spare a moment?
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This is difficult, or this is tricky, can you help me?
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Would it be too much to ask...?
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Or would it be too much trouble to ask you to...?
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I'm struggling with this, can you help me...?
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Will you lend me a hand, please?
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Or will you lend me a hand with this?
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Okay,
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so 12 ways in which you can ask for help.
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Okay, let's go through them one by one.
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As I said, I'll give you an example when you can use them or situation when these can be
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used.
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Would you mind helping me?
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Well, this can be a general request.
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You could be in a department store, and you're trying to open the door of the department
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store into the street, or perhaps you're trying to get into the elevator and you got some
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bags or boxes in your hand and you can't quite reach the handle or the button, you might
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ask somebody, Would you mind helping me?
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Or deed at home, if you're trying to do something.
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Take perhaps down some clean bed linen from a tub on top of the wardrobe, take down the
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Christmas tree decorations from wherever you store them.
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And then when you want to put all those decorations or change the bed linen, you would ask somebody,
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Would you mind helping me, I can't do this on my own.
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I need some assistance.
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Well, this is very, very formal, okay.
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And it's it's quite specific and need some assistance.
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And it's usually when you've got some trouble.
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So for example, you could be driving along the motorway, and your car breaks down, or
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you get a puncture.
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So you find one of these motorway phones or service stations, and you might dial the number
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for emergency and they say, Can I help you?
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And you say, Yeah, I need some assistance.
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My car has broken down on the motorway.
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I'm at this junction or this intersection.
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And could you please send somebody to help?
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So I need some assistance.
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Or indeed if you're in an office and perhaps it's a little bit formal.
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Or you're you're trying to finish a report you need to do some photocopying to make some
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attachments or clip together certain reports, whatever it is you have to do.
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You might ask somebody in your team.
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Look, I'm sorry to trouble you but I need some assistance to finish this report.
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I've only got 30 minutes, and I was wondering if you could help me so I need some assistance.
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Could you give me a hand And so little bit more informal.
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Could you give me a hand?
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And this is something we could ask friends or neighbours or hopefully family.
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Yeah, I'm getting dinner ready cooking.
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And the table needs to be set and laid for the four or five or six people whoever is
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going to have dinner.
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I say, Okay, could you give me a hand?
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I'd have dinner ready in 15 minutes but it would be great if somebody could set the table.
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Take the knives, the forks, the cutlery, the glasses, whatever is needed, put it on the
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table, set it and I'll finish the dinner.
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So could you give me a hand?
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I'm going to do some spring cleaning at the weekend, it'd be great if someone could give
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me a hand and get it done in no time.
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And then we could perhaps go and have a pizza.
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Okay, so as a reward for somebody giving you some help, so could you give me a hand?
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I need your support.
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Again, it's a little bit more formal.
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It could be used when somebody perhaps knocks on your door, they're going door to door looking
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for your vote in an election.
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So they need your support because they want to try and get elected.
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So when you answer the door, they might say, Oh, Good evening, Madam or Good evening, Sir.
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My name is John Smith.
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I represent the local Green Party, and I need your support.
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With your support, I'd be able to get elected.
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I'll be able to push through these ideas to make the area greener, better, a better environment
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to live in.
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I need your support.
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Okay, next, could you or will you (so you can use either), could you or will you do
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me a favour?
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Okay, now hmmm...
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Here you're going to make sure you don't say could you make me a favour?
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Okay, it's not make me a favour.
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Can you do me a favour?
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Yeah.
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So if somebody asks you, could you do me a favour?
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You will just reply, Yes, sure.
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What do you want me to do?
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Okay, so could you do me a favour?
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Somebody might ask you can you do me a favour and pick me up tomorrow?
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My car is in the garage getting serviced, and I really can't get to the station because
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it's a long way away.
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So if you could do me a favour, I would really appreciate it.
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I really be very happy if you could do that favour for me.
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Again, as I said, make sure you don't say, and you make me a favour.
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It's not that.
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It's Can you do me a favour.
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We always do somebody a favour.
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Next, do you know anything about...?
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Well, perhaps you're talking to your friend, or perhaps you're talking to a family member.
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You got a bit of a problem at home.
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There's a leaking tap or there's a little leak under the sink.
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And you say, Do you know anything about plumbing?
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Do you know anything about bathroom taps?
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It looks to me like a very small job.
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And if you could help me, that would be really great.
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So do you know anything about...
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And that usually leads to Do you know anything about plumbing?
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Do you know anything about assembling Ikea furniture?
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Do you know anything about the accident and emergency department?
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Do they operate on a bank holiday?
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Yeah.
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So do you know anything about and then you introduce what your problem is.
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Plumbing, laptops.
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Do you know anything about laptops?
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Mine just won't work.
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Every time I switch it on, it sort of switches itself off.
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I think it's died.
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But I don't know what is wrong.
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Whether it's something I'm doing, or is it something that I could get fixed?
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Do you know anything about?
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Would you mind showing me?
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So if you're new to the city, you're new to the office, you're new to the university,
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you might simply ask somebody that you get to talk to, Would you mind showing me around
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the campus?
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I'm new here, and I don't know where everything is.
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Or when you join a company.
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Would you mind showing me where everything is?
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And you know, where the canteen is, where the key reception is?
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Where the facilities are like loos, where the meeting rooms are.
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All of those types of things.
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Where do we keep stationery supplies?
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Yeah.
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Would you mind showing me where?
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Would you mind show me where something is?
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Or would you mind showing me around the city?
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You know, I'm just new here and it will be great to get a bit of a chance to get a look
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around and see where I can go with the kids.
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You know, you see where the schools are shopping centres, places of interest, like museums,
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art galleries, whatever that might be.
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Would you mind showing me...?
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Okay, next, Could you spare a moment...
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So when we ask somebody to spare a moment, it's quite informal.
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And to spare a moment is to give somebody a few moments of their time to help you.
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Could you spare me moment and go over this document with me?
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I know where what's needed.
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But I just need to know who these people are that I have to send it to.
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If you could spare me a moment, I would really appreciate it if you could take me down through
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the agenda to see what you will take care of and what you want me to take care of.
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Because there seems to be a lot on the agenda.
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Some of it is in my area, some of it is in your area.
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If so, if you could spare me a moment, we could sit down together, go through it and
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decide what you can do, what I can do, and then perhaps, what we can do together.
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Yeah, so if you could spare me a moment.
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Or you might just ask the kids and your partner at home, okay.
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Is anybody there can spare me a moment to run to the shops and get some milk and get
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some flour.
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If you want me to finish these pizzas, you better go.
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Okay, so if somebody could spare a moment and just slip on the shoes and run down to
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the shop to take your five minutes, okay, so again, looking for some help around the
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home looking for somebody to give you some assistance.
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This is difficult, or this is tricky, can you help.
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So again, it's a request for some assistance, or some help when something is a little bit
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difficult, or a little bit tricky.
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It could be a crossword puzzle, I really like doing crossword puzzles.
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But occasionally, you get into a little bit of a problem with some words, these clues
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are a little bit tricky.
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Can you help me, okay.
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Or when you get to the final bits, when you're assembling the Ikea furniture, there's a few
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little nuts and bolts that you're not quite sure where they go, or you're not quite sure
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how to assemble them because if you put them the wrong way around the cupboard, or the
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drawer won't slide open properly.
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So you might say to your partner, okay, would you mind?
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Can you help me here?
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Because this or these instructions are a little bit difficult or a little bit tricky to read.
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Okay, so they will be classic.
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Or if you're trying to work out how to set up a particular app on your phone, and this
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seems to be a little bit tricky.
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Can you help?
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Can you help with something that's a little bit tricky, or a little bit difficult?
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And then when we have a nice, really polite way of asking somebody, would it be too much
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trouble to ask you to....
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A wonderful request that parents can make to their children.
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Would it be too much trouble to ask you to lower that radio?
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Would it be too much trouble to ask you to turn down the sound and the music?
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It's really, really loud and I've got a thumping headache.
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And I really don't have the patience to listen to it.
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Would it...
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Would it be really too much trouble to ask you to pick your clothes up off the floor?
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Put them in the washing machine.
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Or if you can't manage that, could you please at least put them in the linen basket or hang
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them up?
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Okay, so would it be too much trouble for you to do this?
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Would it be too much trouble if I asked you to do this?
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Can you help me, I'm struggling with this...
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I can't seem to work out the answer.
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So again, is a request for help.
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Now, it could be for lots of things.
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But if you're trying to work out some mathematical problem or equation, then you could ask a
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friend in college, if they could help you.
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Can you help me?
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I'm struggling with this formula.
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I just don't really understand it.
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Yeah.
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Can you help me, I'm struggling with this box to simply physically carry it up the stairs,
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you might be moving to a new apartment.
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And when you've got some heavy items to carry, you can struggle to carry them.
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So you might ask your partner look, I'm struggling to get this up the stairs, it took me ages
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to get it out of the car.
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So if you could take one end, I'll take the other end.
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And that will be easy for us to walk up.
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Two sets of hands are better than one.
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So I'm struggling.
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So if you could help me with this.
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And then finally, will you or can you lend me a hand with this?
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It'll only take me 10 minutes if you help me.
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So for example, when you're changing the bed linen takes on always takes me ages to get
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that duvet into the duvet cover.
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But if there are two people, it takes no time at all.
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So somebody I hold the corners left and right and my wife slips in the duvet cover.
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And then the duvet fits in very nicely and very easily.
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And then within five or 10 minutes, the bed is changed or the bed is dressed.
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So I would say to well, lend me the hand with this, can you because it just takes a little
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bit longer when it's only one person.
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So lend me a hand quite informal, nice, easy, gentle, polite way to ask somebody to help.
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Lend me a hand with this and I lend your hand with that.
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So if you lend me hand dressing the bed, I lend your hand with the washing up, I'll empty
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the dishwasher.
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So it was my job to empty the dishwasher.
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Easy to fill it, not so easy to empty it.
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Okay, so you help me with this.
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And I'll help you with that.
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So it's all about help, all of our requests for help.
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Different ways in which you can ask someone to help you where you have a difficulty.
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So as I said at the beginning, it's a little bit more polite, some of them are formal,
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some of them are more informal.
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Just a question of choosing the right ones.
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Okay, let me go through them again quickly.
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Would you mind helping me?
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I need some assistance.
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Could you give me a hand?
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I need your support.
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Could you or will you do me a favour and remember to do me a favour?
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Do you know anything about...
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Would you mind showing me... how?
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Could you spare a moment?
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This is difficult or this is tricky.
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Can you help me?
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Would it be too much trouble to ask you to...
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I'm struggling, can you help me?
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And then finally, lend me a hand with this, please.
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Lend me a hand with this.
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Can you?
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Okay, 12 different ways or other ways for you to say help?
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And if we can help you to improve your English well, you know where to contact me www.englishlessonviaskype.com
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Always happy to hear from you.
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As always, thanks for listening.
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Thanks for watching.
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Join me again soon.
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