English Topics - English Conversation Strategies

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Alisha: Hi, everybody!
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My name is Alisha and I'm joined again in the studio by…
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Michael: Michael. Hello.
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Alisha: And, today we're going to be talking about English conversation strategies.
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Let's get right into it.
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Let's start with Michael.
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What is your first strategy for keeping an English conversation going?
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Michael: This is very important.
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“Don't say, ‘I'm fine, thank you.
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And you?’”
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You hear this all the time from second language English learners or non-native speakers.
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It's one of the first things you learn in an English class.
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It's easy, it's good, it's a basic foundation.
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Okay, that's fine.
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But, as soon as you can switch it up.
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Because, to me, when I meet a foreigner and they come up, and if they say, “Hey, how
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are you?”
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Say, “Oh, I'm fine.
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I'm good.
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How about you?”
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And they say, “I'm fine, thank you.
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And you?”
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And it's almost robotic because I've said it so many times, and when I hear that, I
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think their English isn't that good.
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And, inside, I'm just going to be really polite and say, “Hello,” and talk slowly and
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try to get out of there as quick as I can.
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To really impress the foreigner, in my opinion, I think the best way to do it is say something--
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Use a big word or just like a slang word.
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Something like that.
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When I hear that, I go, “Wow, man!
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I want to know what this person thinks!
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I want to get their point of view!
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And I'm really excited,” and then I've had great conversations because of that.
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Alisha: That's a really good one, and actually, I think on this YouTube channel, from a couple
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years ago, there's a video all about better answers to the question “How are you?”
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than “I'm fine, thank you.
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And you?” or if someone says, “Hey, how are you?
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I'm good!
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You?” or “Fine.
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You?”
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Never “I'm fine, thank you.
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And you?”
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Never.
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But try to actually use a phrase that a native speaker would use, and then that's a clue
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to the native speaker that, “Oh, maybe this person is ready for a conversation beyond
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basic English.”
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That's a really good point.
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I like that.
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I didn't think of things not to do.
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I only thought of things to do.
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Cool! Let's see.
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Let's go to my first one.
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This strategy, in general, is just “ask the other person a question.”
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I'm guilty of this too when I'm learning another language.
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I tend to only get input.
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Somebody else is always asking me the questions, and then I forget myself to ask the other
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person a question.
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One question that I like to ask or a variation, any kind of “WH” question is good, like
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a “who” question, “what,” “where.”
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Something like this, if you've been paying attention, you can use anyway to transition
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in your conversation.
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This was in a previous video.
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You can ask something like anyway up to anything fun this weekend.
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This is a pretty casual, conversational question that you can ask just about anybody, whether
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you've just met them or whether you've known them for a while, but just get in the habit
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of asking other people the question.
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Don't wait for someone else to ask you the question.
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So, that's one strategy that I tried to use to keep things going.
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Michael: Yeah, me too.
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I agree, and I'm going to say, “samesies,” because actually, two of my questions were
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exactly what you said.
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Agree 100%.
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This is kind of cheating.
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These should be one.
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So, “always ask questions.”
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Again, you forget it's really easy.
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I'm really guilty of this, English, non-English, whatever.
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I'm guilty of this.
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And, the other thing is ask deep, open-ended questions.
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If you ask a yes-or-no question, just like what Alisha was saying, it just dead ends.
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You can't just say, “Do you like cheese?”
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“Yes,” or “No.”
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You would want to say, “What do you think about cheese?
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What is your favorite kind?”
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And kind of open it up to something else and let it just kind of snowball.
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Alisha: Right.
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Yeah, I think that's really a key.
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I have another variation.
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I guess I'll just continue on because it kind of relates to what you're talking about.
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He's saying always ask questions, always ask deep open-ended questions.
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Don't ask a yes-or-no question because yes or no ends with the “Yes” or the “No.”
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One of the things that I'll do is use a pattern similar to this, “Hey, did you see...?”
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or “Hey, did you hear about blah, blah, blah?”
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So, you can use this little “blah, blah, blah” as your--you can ask about the news.
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You can ask about something funny you saw on the Internet.
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You can ask about something that you heard from another friend of yours, whatever.
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It's just a way to check in with the other person and say, “Oh, did you also experience
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this thing that I experienced?
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Let's talk about that.”
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That might be another question that you can use with people.
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Michael: I like that one.
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I really like that one because you got to stay within people's comfort zone.
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Maybe you asked, and maybe they don't want to, right?
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A good thing is, “Did you hear about it?”
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That's up to him.
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Maybe they don't want to talk about it.
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They can say, “Oh, yeah.
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I heard about that,” and you can kind of feel the atmosphere and realize, “Maybe
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I shouldn't talk about this.”
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Change the subject, or they get passionate and they start talking about it, and there
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you go and just let it go.
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Yeah, absolutely.
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One thing, again, I'm guilty of is you got to keep returning it.
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Don't just say, “Oh, yeah, and what I think about that...”
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Bring it back.
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Ask them, “What about you?”
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That's a common thing I forget about.
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Alisha: Ok. Good.
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I have one more.
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This one, use when you see fit, I guess.
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I'll just introduce it.
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Compliment the other person.
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This can be a nice strategy just to show that you're enjoying the other person's company.
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It can be as simple as, “Oh, I like your shirt today,” or “Oh, that's a nice dress
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you're wearing today,” or “Oh, did you get a new haircut?
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That looks good on you!”
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Something like that.
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This is a nice way to make the other person maybe want to spend more time with you, I
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think.
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Michael: I agree 100% Two things: One, I think it's a good conversation starter sometimes.
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If, you got to be careful.
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With a stranger, it can be creepy.
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It can be a little uncomfortable, what you're complimenting, right?
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But if it's something like, if they have a t-shirt and it's a band that you both like,
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that's a great conversation starter, and you feel, “Wow, we're connected.”
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Number two, the second thing I was thinking about is that keep it honest.
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I love a sincere compliment.
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It really means a lot more, and it really does butter them up, kind of get them open
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to having more conversations deeper, that kind of thing.
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But one of the things people do, which I don't like is, let's say they say, “Hey, nice
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shirt!”
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And then the person, out of habit, will say, “Oh, you too.
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I like your shirt, too.”
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Just my opinion, I don't think this feels really natural.
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It doesn't really feel sincere, so I would save it, make a mental note, and go, “Hmm,
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I need to return the favor.
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I need to give them a compliment.”
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But, wait until you notice something you really do like and say, “Hey, actually, I love
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blah, blah, blah.”
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Alisha: Yeah, I think that's a great point.
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When you can sense whether someone is being sincere or not, what is your next strategy
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for continuing an English conversation?
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Michael: Well, “don't be afraid to open up.”
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I like this one.
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I think this is good.
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A lot of people will be kind of shy.
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They won't open up too much.
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Again, within your comfort zone, but I like this one because people return the favor.
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Because if you're just having small talk and you say, “The weather is nice today.
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Blah, blah, blah,” you can only go so far.
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So, don't be afraid to say something personal.
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Again, trust your judgment.
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Don't be a creeper.
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We don't want to hear certain things about your life.
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Alisha: Don't be a creep.
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Don't be weird.
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Don't be strange.
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Like what you're saying about opening up, “open up” is just a phrase that means
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“share something about yourself.”
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It can be as simple as what you did last weekend or what you're going to do this weekend or
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a project that you have coming up.
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It doesn't mean that you have to spill all of your life secrets to the other person but
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just showing that you're willing to share something more personal about yourself can
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help ingratiate yourself or can help the other person understand you a little bit better.
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That's a good tip.
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I like that tip.
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That's hard to do, though.
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It's hard.
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It's a little bit scary, I think, to share parts of yourself, but it's good.
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But it's a good way to meet people and make friends.
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Alright.
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I think that's all.
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Is that all that you have?
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Michael: Yeah, that’s all I got.
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Alisha: Okay.
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Those are some interesting strategies to keep an English conversation going, so give them
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a try.
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If you're ever at a loss for words and don't know what to say, you can try one of these
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strategies, and hopefully, it will help you out.
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Please let us know if you have any other strategies or anything else that you would like to use
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or you try to use when you are having trouble keeping a conversation going.
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Leave us a comment and let us know what it is.
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We will see you again next time.
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Do you have anything else you'd like to add?
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Michael: That's about it.
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Alisha: Alright!
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Thanks very much for joining us and take care.
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Bye-bye!
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