Let's Learn English! Topic: Relationship Verbs 👫🙂😥 (Lesson Only)

Well, hello and welcome to this

English lesson about relationship verbs.

In life, we have relationships, we have family, we

have friends, and we interact with these people.

Sometimes we interact in a positive

way and it's very happy.

Sometimes we interact in a negative way and it's

kind of sad or maybe filled with anger.

Relationships are very complex.

So I thought I would take the time today to

look at 30 different verbs that we use in English.

We talk about relationships.

So, once again, welcome to this

English lesson about relationship verbs.

To be close.

Now, in English, when you are close to someone,

it can mean that you're standing beside them.

But we also use the verb to be

close, to talk about when you are.

When you really like a member

of your family or a friend.

It's quite common to hear someone

ask a question like this.

Are you still close?

Your friends from university, are you

and your parents still close?

And they're not talking about physically being close.

They're not talking about whether

your parents live beside you.

What they mean when they ask if you're still

close to someone, they mean, are you still friends?

Do you still talk every day?

Do you see them quite regularly?

So I'm still quite close with my mum.

As many of you know, my dad has passed away many

years ago, but I'm still very close with my mum.

It would be kind of odd to close with a family

member such as your mum or dad, but to be close

means to be in contact with someone, to see them regularly

and to talk to them regularly or text them regularly.

It's sad when you hear someone say, oh,

I'm not close with my brother anymore.

I haven't talked to him in five years.

That would be a sad situation to grow apart.

Sometimes people start to have different interests.

When I was young, my brother and I

had similar interests and we still do today.

But if we had different interests,

we might slowly grow apart.

I like computers, my brother likes

computers, so we have stayed close.

We really enjoy talking to each

other about technology and computers.

But let's say he started be interested in

horses and I have no interest in horses.

We might start to grow apart.

So when you grow apart in a relationship, it means you

don't see a person as much as you used to.

Um, you don't hang out with them as much.

And it's kind of a sad thing,

but it can happen to get together.

So this is why this English lesson is happening,

because it was Christmas and we had New Year's

here, so I got together with friends and family.

When you get together, it means you have a

special event, it means that you are in the

same place as your family or friends.

So for instance, my brothers and sisters, we got

together two weeks ago for Christmas before Christmas Day,

and it was really nice to get together.

It was really nice to all be at my

sister's house and to enjoy each other's company.

So when you get together, it might be at a

house, might be at a restaurant, but it's a time

where you are just with family or friends and enjoying

talking to each other to make someone's day.

So when you make someone's day, it can be

a family member, a friend, or even a colleague.

It means you do something nice that makes them happy.

At work, if I knew my boss was having a

bad day, I could bring my boss a coffee from

Tim Hortons and that might make their day.

If Jen is having a bad day on the farm and I

come home and help her do something that might make her day.

So when you make someone's day, it means you

do something, you give them something, or you help

them with something and it makes them happy.

So I would challenge all of you today to

make someone's day, do something nice for somebody today.

To let someone down.

This is the opposite.

This is when you do something that

annoys someone else or makes them sad.

If you said, bob, let's meet at the pier, and

then if I went to the pier and you didn't

show up, you would have let me down.

So when you let someone down, you disappoint

them, you do something that makes them sad.

Um, I'm trying to think of another good example.

If I said to my family, I'll

pay for all the food at Christmas.

Then on Christmas Day, if I said, you all

owe me $20, I would let them down.

They'd be like, what?

I thought you, I thought

you were paying for everything.

So when you let someone down, you do something that

makes them sad, maybe a little bit angry, more like

sad or aggravated or annoyed to have a falling out.

When you have a falling out with someone,

it usually means you disagree about something major.

Say that a husband and wife are married and the

wife wants to have kids and the husband doesn't.

We would say that you're going to have

a falling out, you're going to argue about

that, you're going to have a big disagreement.

Um, let's say, let's let me think of

another example to have a falling out.

Um, if, for instance, my brother owed me a

thousand dollars and when I asked him for the

money, he Said, I don't owe you any money.

We would argue and we would

probably have a falling out.

After you have a falling out with someone, it usually

means you aren't going to talk to them very much.

You might start to grow apart after you

have a falling out to hear from someone.

It's always nice to hear from someone, isn't it?

It's nice when the phone rings or

when you get a text message.

It's nice to hear from someone.

There are times where I'm unable to do a

lesson on a Friday, and then a lot of

you enjoy it if you can hear from.

Still, if I post on my community page saying no

lesson this week, um, maybe the phone rings and it's

your mom or dad or brother or a friend from

a long time ago, it's nice to hear from them.

It's nice to talk to them on the phone to get along.

So this is a basic one.

This simply means that you like being with

a person, you like talking to that person,

uh, and you like hanging out with them.

So, for instance, I get along with

all of my brothers and sisters.

So if I see my sister in town, I stop and talk to her.

I get along with almost all of my colleagues at work.

No, sorry.

I get along with all of my colleagues at work.

Um, and I think that means that if I

see them, I will stop and talk to them.

It means I'm happy to work with them.

Um, it's really nice when you get along with your

co workers because it makes the job little easier.

So when you get along with someone, it means you're

happy to see them, you're happy to talk to them.

Um, they are just nice people

to be around, to come between.

So sometimes in a relationship, something might

come between the two people in it.

Um, if this couple is fighting, you

can see he's saying something about money.

Sometimes how you spend money can come between

people in a relationship and make them start

to not like each other as much.

So I think that's probably the best example.

Sometimes when two people are in a relationship, like

a romantic relationship or even married, one might like

to spend money and one might like to save

money and that, that can come between them and

start to make them not like each other much.

Sometimes bands will break up because one person will

want to go on tour and do lots of

live concerts and another person in the band wants

to stay home and start a family.

And that can come between them.

So they find it difficult to be

on the road to become friends.

So believe it or not when you meet

people, you can eventually become friends with them.

So this happens a lot.

I notice with older people who go on trips

in the winter, they will often become friends with

people that they go on the trip with.

Sorry, let me explain that a bit better.

Sometimes older people will go on a cruise.

A cruise is going on a big

boat with lots of other people.

And on the cruise you might meet

other people and you might become friends.

Um, so whenever you meet someone, if

it's someone that you enjoy hanging out

with, you might eventually become friends.

So at this point you're not friends.

But in the future you might become friends

and then you might hang out more.

To drift apart.

So earlier we had the phrase to grow apart.

To drift apart means exactly the same thing.

If you are friends with someone or even if

you are married to someone, you can drift apart.

It means the things you like doing and the things

you are interested in are starting to become different.

So Jen and I like doing a lot of things together.

We like going shopping together,

we like just driving around.

Like when we drive to market, we enjoy

driving together, we enjoy selling flowers at market.

But if I stopped liking all the same

things as Jen might start to drift apart.

So it means that you like different things

and because of that you start to talk

less and you spend less time together.

So it's not a nice thing.

But when you grow apart or drift apart, it just means.

Yeah, you can see in this picture, right?

People are just kind of going

their separate ways to ask out.

This is the part where Bob

gives relationship advice, like romantic advice.

So don't.

You know, when I say things like, I'm not.

I don't know much about science, I

don't actually know much about relationships.

But when you ask someone out, it means you ask

if they would like to go on a date because

you are interested in them in a romantic way.

So this person.

I heard recently that people ask each other

out by texting now, not in person.

So I really like talking with you.

Would you like to grab coffee together sometimes?

This is probably a classic way to ask someone out.

So if there is someone who you work with

or maybe you've met through friends, you've gone out

with your friends, and then there's some other people's

friends there, and you meet someone and you like

them, you might ask them out, you might say,

hey, I had a really good time tonight.

Do you want to go out, just the two of us, sometime?

Or you might send them a little

text message saying the same thing.

But it means you are

interested in them romantically, okay?

So it means that you.

You are attracted to them and you would like to

get to know them better, to fall for someone.

So after you have gone on a few dates,

you might start to fall for someone again.

This is a verb for a romantic relationship.

It means you are, I would

say, starting to fall in love.

I don't know if you're in love.

Like, there's different stages, right?

Like you're interested in someone, you're attracted to

someone, you start to spend time with them.

Eventually you kind of fall for

them like you're falling in love.

And then eventually you are in love.

But again, obviously, this is something for

the romantic people out there to date.

So this is a stage in

life where you don't live together.

And so you spend time either going

to restaurants, to movies, to festivals.

You might go see a sports game, like

you might go see the Toronto Maple Leafs.

You are dating.

When you date someone, it means you regularly see them.

A lot of times when people are dating, they'll

see each other every Friday and Saturday night, or

they might see each other once during the week,

once or twice on the weekend.

So you definitely start to spend time with someone

because you are very interested in them and they

are very interested in you in a romantic way.

To go steady.

I think this is an older phrase.

I don't think this is used anymore.

But when you go steady with someone, it means that you.

You basically have committed to

seeing them all the time.

You're not interested in other people, and so

you end up doing things like, I'm not

sure what's all in this picture.

Going for walks, getting flowers, going for bike rides.

But anyways, you might hear this on a TV

show or in a movie, but I don't know

if the verb to go steady is common anymore.

But it means to regularly go on dates with the same

person for an extended period of time to break up.

So sometimes things don't work out.

Sometimes people are dating and they date for

a while, and then eventually they break up.

Um, they decide to go their separate ways.

So when you break up with

someone, it means the relationship ends.

So when you break up, often

they'll say, who broke it off?

And that means, you know, Joe break it

off, or did Jill, who ended the relationship?

Sometimes people will say it was mutual.

That means both people decided they

didn't want to be together anymore.

But it's sometimes sad.

Sometimes you'll know someone who's dating someone and

you like that person, and then a month

later, they'll say, oh, we decided to break

up, so we're no longer together.

But that's how a relationship would end.

Go your separate ways means the same thing.

It simply means the relationship wasn't working, so

you decided to go your separate ways.

Now, this doesn't have to only

be used for romantic relationships.

If two people own a business together, they can decide to

go their separate ways at one point if they don't want

to be business partners anymore, to have it out.

So sometimes people argue, and this is a phrase

that is very common when we talk about people

who are arguing, they're going to have it out.

So someone might say this.

My brother keeps borrowing my car, and when he

brings it back, the gas tank is empty.

I'm going to have it out with him.

That means you're going to say

to your brother, stop doing that.

It's really annoying.

I hopefully you don't yell like this guy here,

but when you have it out means something in

a relationship is bothering you and you've decided you're

going to talk to the person about it.

Maybe your boss keeps giving you extra

hours and keeps making you work Saturday.

You might say, I'm gonna have it out with my boss.

Not a good move, by the way.

He probably shouldn't argue with your boss.

But you might say oh in the past tense.

You might say, oh, I had it out with a

colleague last week and it just didn't end well.

So when you have it out, it means

you argue with someone to make up.

So in a romantic relationship, this means that after

a fight, you decide that you want to apologize

or the other person decides they want to apologize,

and you, you kind of talk it through.

I'm trying to define makeup without saying make up,

but when you make up with someone, it means

that you were in a relationship, you had a

fight, and now the fight is over, and you've

decided you still want to be in a relationship.

So usually you apologize to each other

and then continue on to settle down.

So when you settle down, it usually means it's the point

in your life where you're going to start a family.

Okay, you might get married and start a family.

In North America, often people just move in together.

So I'm not sure around the world how things work.

Um, generally people get married and start having kids.

But in Canada, you can also just

move in together and start having kids.

Um, and we usually refer to this as to settle down.

So someone might say, hey, is your cousin

still going out to the clubs every night?

And Dancing till two in the morning.

And you might say, no, he met someone and he's

decided to settle down and they're getting married in a

month and they're planning to start a family.

So when you settle down in life, it means

you're going to stop doing all the things that

single people usually do and you're going to start

doing the things that old people like me do.

You're going to get married, have kids, buy a minivan.

All of that would be indicating that you

are deciding to settle, to hit it off.

When you hit it off with someone,

it means that you get along.

It means that you are happy to be with them.

It means that you enjoy their company.

So it looks like these guys have hit it off.

I actually hope this old guy

doesn't fall out of the wheelbarrow.

That looks a little bit dangerous, but who knows?

But let's say Jen said, we're going to go visit

some of my family who you've never met before.

I could say, oh, I hope I hit it off with them.

That means I hope that they're nice people and I

enjoy hanging out with them and talking with them.

The opposite isn't nice.

Sometimes you don't hit it off with someone.

When you don't hit it off with someone, it can

be a little bit boring, annoying, kind of hard to

say, but nice when you hit it off with someone.

I think in the chat during these live lessons, everyone

tends to hit it off well with the other people.

They get along and it's really nice to keep in touch.

Did I do this one already?

No, I didn't.

Oh, to hear from. I did. Yes.

To keep in touch means to regularly call

someone or regularly email them or text them.

So it's good to keep in touch with people if they

live far away, good to keep in touch with your parents

if they don't live in the same town as you.

So it's just good to keep in touch.

You can use this to talk about,

like, seeing someone in person as well.

But generally when we say, hey, do you keep, do

you keep in touch with your friends from university?

You can say, oh, no, we've kind of lost touch.

We don't, we don't keep in touch anymore.

Um, which is the next one to lose touch?

Sometimes when someone moves far away, their life is busy,

your life is busy and you lose touch with them.

So it's not the same as growing apart because

you probably still enjoy talking to that person.

It's just that, yeah, the, the best example I

can Give is if you have a friend who

moves to another time zone and then the time

difference makes it hard to talk to each other.

Sometimes you start to lose touch and then when

that person comes back to your country, you have

an opportunity to get together with them.

But sometimes you lose touch to put up with.

Yes, sometimes you just have to put up with someone.

Maybe your brother or sister is annoying,

but they're your brother or sister.

You have to love them and enjoy their

company, so you put up with them.

Maybe you have a boss who watches everything you do, but

you really need that job, so you might just have to

put up with it until you can find a new job.

So when you put up with someone,

it means that you endure their behaviour.

That's kind of complex.

You, I guess they don't make you

happy, they don't make you sad.

You just have to live with them.

Um, I'm not describing this one well, but

I think the boss example is good.

If your boss is mean, you might have to

put up with your boss few more months until

you can get a different job to move on.

So sometimes relationships end, sometimes jobs end, and

sometimes you just need to move on.

This is probably a bad picture because

it doesn't mean to actually move somewhere.

But let's say emotionally I was very, very sad

because friend of mine doesn't talk to me anymore.

Eventually I have to stop being sad, I have to

stop thinking about it and I need to move on.

So when you move on, it means you're having

negative emotions, but you need to get past them.

You need to start having positive emotions to get on.

We do not use this phrase in Canada, at least I don't.

Um, I think this is very British.

We say to get along think.

They say to get on.

It means to enjoy people like Joe

gets on with Fred quite well.

Okay, here we would say Joe

gets along with Fred quite well.

So I think this is very British.

So I threw it in there.

For those of you that like the more

British version of everything to look up to.

I think I've covered this in previous lessons.

It means that you admire someone, you respect

someone, usually someone who's older than you.

Often a son will look up to his dad

or you might be younger and there's older people

at work that you look up to you, it

means you respect them, you admire them, etc. Etc.

To catch up.

When you don't see someone for a long time,

when you get together, you tell each other what

has happened in your life, you catch up.

So if I go and see a friend

who I haven't seen for two months.

We'll talk and we'll catch up.

It means he'll tell me what happened in his life

and I'll tell him what happened in my life.

We will.

Basically, there's a.

There's a certain amount of information that

we don't know about each other.

And we will explain that until we are

to current day, we are caught up.

To fit in.

It is really nice to fit in.

When you young and you, let's say you go to

a new school, you hope that you will fit in.

When you fit in, it means that people like you, you

like them, and you enjoy the place you are at.

When you start a new job, it's important to fit in.

Hopefully everyone at the new job likes

you, um, and hopefully you like them.

And then if someone said, how's the new job going?

Are you fitting in?

You could say, oh, it's really nice.

I fit in right from day one, everyone

liked me and I liked everyone else.

To patch things up.

This is very similar to making up, but

you can, this doesn't have to be in

a romantic relationship, you can patch things up

with someone where the relationship has gone wrong.

So if you've grown apart, if you've lost touch, if

you've broken up with someone, if you don't get along

with someone anymore, you can patch things up.

It means you want be a friend again.

You want to have a good relationship.

Let's say two brothers argue and then

they don't talk for a year.

One brother might call the other brother and say,

hey, I think we need to patch things up.

Um, I'm sorry for what I said.

And then hopefully there's an exchange of apologies,

uh, and then the relationship can begin anew.

As brothers, they now get along.

Uh, maybe a couple has broken up

and they've decided to patch things up.

It means they're now together again.