Let's Learn English! Topic: Types of Conversations 🤷🏾‍♂️🙋🏼💏 (Lesson Only)

Well hello and welcome to this English lesson about types of

conversations. So when you go through your day you meet

people and you have conversations with them.

Sometimes you just have a simple conversation. Sometimes

it's a little more complex. In this English lesson I will talk

about all the different types of conversations and what we

call them in English. It can be something as simple as a chat

with someone or something like a deep conversation where you

talk about the meaning of life or something like that. So in a

as you've seen from my little two examples there. We have a

number of different ways to describe conversations and in

this lesson I will teach them to you. When I say conversation

the S comes out as a Z and I think it's very regional. So

conversation conversation is how you should say it with the

word say conversation. But I say conversation like I slur

the S a little bit. So be aware of that. To chat or a chat. So

the reason I put the verb and the noun is because we use that

both ways. You could say you're going to chat with someone or

you're going to have a chat with someone. Both would be a

common way to say this. And a chat is just a simple

conversation. When I sell flowers to someone at market

sometimes they buy the flowers and leave but sometimes the

customer might stay and chat for a bit. The customer might

stand and talk about the weather or they might ask how

Things are going on the farm. A simple light conversation about

what's happening or what's happened that week. Um they

might even tell me about something that they did. Um

sometimes a friend of mine will call and I'll say oh are you

calling to talk about something important? And they might say

no I just called to chat. Um I just called to have a chat to

kind of see how things were going today. So chat. A chat is

a simple simple conversation. A heart to heart. So a heart to

heart. And you can also say a heart to heart conversation. If

you have a heart to heart with someone it means you sit down

and you talk about what's happening in your life. Um you

would only have a heart to heart with someone who you

trust and know well. I might have a heart to heart

conversation with Jen. I might have a heart to heart

conversation with my best friend. A heart to heart is a

conversation where you talk about more than the weather and

sports. It's more than small talk. You might talk a concern

you have with one of your children. You might talk about

how you and your brother are fighting and you need some

advice. So when you have a heart to heart it's with

someone you trust and you talk about the important things in

life. Things that are concerning to you. Um things

that you need help or advice with. To flirt. So this is an

interesting one. When people flirt it means they are

interested in each other romantically. If a girl likes a

boy she might flirt with him. The conversation might be fun

and joyful and a little bit I don't know how to describe

this. Um romantic before the people are actually dating. So

when you flirt with someone you it's not sexual. It can be a

little bit like some of the words you use might be a

hinting a little bit that you're attracted to the person

that you like how they look but flirting is one of the first

things two people will do if they like each other in a

romantic way. They'll have little conversations where they

joke around with each other or they say other things. I'm not

doing a good job of describing this so I'm going to do what I

always do. Meaning of flirt. Let's see what it says. Behave

as though attracted to someone and trying to attract their

attention either by your behaviour or by your by the

words you use or your conversation. Um and sometimes

just done for fun and not with serious intention. So there you

go to flirt. You can learn that word on dual lingo by the way.

When my students do dualingo they they laugh about that

section of the dual lingo. To argue. Well this is definitely

different than the last one. When you argue a Someone you

disagree with that person. You might even raise your voice

during the conversation. When you raise your voice it means

you talk louder than normal. You might even start yelling at

each other. When you argue you definitely don't agree with the

other person. Sometimes though you can have a simple argument

or a nice argument. Sometimes Jen and I argue about things.

Usually we argue about how we remember something that

happened in the past. Sometimes I remember it wrong and then

Jen and I will have just a little argument. But an

argument would be a time when two people disagree and they

both explain how they think they're right. Um mostly I just

argue with my kids right now. Those are the people I'm most

likely to argue with. A pep talk. So a pep talk is an

encouraging conversation where you try to make someone excited

and energetic to do something. Pep talks are very common in

sports. So it's not totally a conversation because only one

person is talking. But a pep talk is when you say something

like this. You can do it. Come on. You got this. Um if someone

was to say to me oh I have an English test coming up and I

Think I'm going to fail. I might give them a pep talk. I

might say hey look you've been studying for months. Um you're

ready for this. I know you will be successful. So a pep talk is

an encouraging way of talking to someone. Again maybe not

totally a conversation in the sense of having two people talk

because usually a pep talk is one person talking. But a pep

talk is when you encourage someone because you think they

will be successful on something they are going to do. To

banter. So when you banter with someone or when you have banter

with someone it's a noun and a verb. Um it means you talk in a

way where you it's very lighthearted. You're making

little jokes sometimes as well. Um when Brent and I did our

food video there's a little bit of banter. Um so Brent would

say something and then I would say something and it would be

entertaining and maybe a little bit funny. Um banter is very

common between friends. So when friends and I go out there's a

lot of banter. We make fun of each other a little bit. We

joke around a little bit. We have fun when we talk to each

other. We have banter. Definitely Brent and I had good

banter both on and off camera. We were constantly talking and

enjoying the conversation. So it's a fun lighthearted

conversation between friends. Usually you have to be friends

to banter with someone. Um it's not requirement. It's not a

requirement but it does help quite a bit. To discuss. So you

can hear by the way I'm saying it to discuss. It's a very

serious way of having a conversation. Sometimes at work

we'll discuss something. You know the boss will say too many

students are late for class and the teachers will discuss how

to solve this problem. So you have a discussion or you

discuss the problem. And everyone will give their ideas

and people will comment on other people's ideas and we

will have a discussion And then usually at the end of a

discussion you have a conclusion or a resolution. Um

you decide what to do. Um most of my discussions happen at

school. Um you can also have a discussion like Jen and I can

just have a discussion about how we're going to manage the

next year with kids with jobs and getting their license and

do we have enough vehicles. So Jen and I might have a long

discussion about should we buy an vehicle. We're not by the

way but we could have a discussion about it. To joke

around. So I did mention this one already. When you joke

around you say things that make other people laugh. It doesn't

mean you're telling jokes. It can mean you're telling jokes.

But definitely when you are with people that you enjoy

being with you will joke around a little bit. You'll say you'll

you'll make funny little comments. Um you'll of make fun

of them a little bit but in a lighthearted way. I've used

that term a couple times. Lighthearted. Um but I know

when I am with my brother-in-law we joke around a

lot. Um we make little jokes about each other's jobs and

things like that. Like that's how the so teachers are in the

summer super relaxed. Cos we're not working so he makes jokes

about that. So to joke around. So small talk quite often is

about food or it's about the weather or it's about sports.

Um it's usually not about something personal. So you're

not going to have small talk with someone and talk about

what you did on the weekend with your family necessarily.

So at work I have colleagues with who with whom I talk a lot

about my life. But I also have colleagues where it's usually

just small talk. Like hey wow it's really raining out there

today. Did you bring an umbrella? No ha ha I forgot.

Did you see the game last night? Oh yeah it was really

really good. So small talk is Probably the simplest form of

conversation that you can have. To catch up. So when you are

friends with someone or when you haven't seen a relative for

a long time the first conversation you have when you

see that person again you would say that you're going to catch

up. When you catch up with someone they tell you about

what they've been doing for the last few months or a year and

you tell them what been doing. So it's nice. I have friends

that I don't see very often. When I do see them it's really

nice to catch up. It's really nice to just sit down and talk

about oh how's your son doing at university or oh you started

that new job three months ago and I haven't heard how it's

going. How's that new job going? It's really nice to

catch up. One of my siblings my brother lives a little bit far

away from me. So when he comes to visit it's really nice just

to sit and talk and to catch up to kind of hear how his life is

going. How his job is going and those kinds of things. To

reminisce. So I have two people here and I think they're

looking at photos. When you reminisce it means you talk

about the past. My kids the other day were reminiscing

about the video games they played when they were kids. Um

when I talked to my brother a few months ago we would

reminisce about when we grew up on the farm and the games we

would play outside. So when you reminisce you talk about the

past. Like stuff that happened way in the past. Um my friend

and I went to school at the same When we were really young

and sometimes we reminisce about how nice life was when we

were kids. Because we had no we had no responsibilities in the

summer. So when you reminisce it means you talk about the

past and how things were way back. Um when you were younger.

To debate. So this phrase or sorry this verb. So you can

debate. That's the verb or you can have a debate. That's the

noun. Um the is something we usually use for academic

situations. Like students might need to debate something in

class. We also use this to talk about politics. Two people who

want to be mayor or three or four people who want to be the

mayor of a town might have a debate. So they might debate.

It means that you have a very structured formal argument

about different topics. So at schools Students might need to

debate whether cellphones are a good thing to have in the

classroom and the teacher might ask them to have a debate. And

so one person will be allowed to talk for one minute and then

another person. If two people who want to be president of the

United States have a debate. They meet and then they have a

structured formal argument discussion conversation about

what they'll do if they are voted in. Casual conversation.

So when we talk about casual conversation we mean nothing

serious. When you go out to eat with friends you will have

casual conversation. Normally the reason you're going out is

to have fun. You're going out to enjoy each other's company.

You're not going out to talk about how to save the world.

You're going out because you want to relax. And so you will

have what's called casual conversation. Um it's really

Nice to have casual conversation. It's very

relaxing to have casual conversation. So you might talk

about you know a movie that you just saw. You might talk about

something you're going to do next weekend. Uh one of your

friends might say oh I just went ziplining in Niagara Falls

and then everyone will ask how it went. So it's just a simple

light easy conversation. A talking tube. So this is an

interesting one. Normally kids will get a talking tube if they

do something bad. So a student might say this. I fell asleep

in class. And then after class I got a talking tube. Or

someone might say oh my parents want me to come home at eleven

at night and I came home at 1 AM. And the next morning my mom

gave me a talking tube. So a talking to is to be scolded. To

be disciplined. Uh to have someone in authority like a

teacher or someone like a parent tell you that you did

something wrong. So it's usually a conversation but one

person is doing most of the talking. I haven't gotten a

talking to for a very long time. I've been very good. I

haven't done anything wrong for a long time. But it's not nice

to get a talking to. To gossip or gossip. So when you gossip

you talk about someone usually without them there and

sometimes some of the things you say are exaggerated or

maybe even untrue. So a good example would be there are

newspapers that publish gossip about celebrities. So it's not

necessarily true. It's something that maybe they heard

from someone else. Gossip is a real problem I think with

teenagers. It's also a problem with adults. But I think gossip

is a problem with teenagers because yeah they just say

things about other people to other people. So in this

picture I'm not sure if these two girls are gossiping. But I

feel like it kind of looks like they're both talking about

someone else behind their back. They're talking about someone

who's not there. If I was to Like if I was allowed to

eliminate things in the world like if I had the power I would

eliminate gossip. I think gossip is very very mean and

not a very nice thing to do. Chit chat. We had this word

earlier. Um when we talk about just chatting with someone we

often call it chitchat. Okay? Um it's kind of a funny you

have to say it right. Chit chat. Not don't say it that

way. That's bad. Chit chat. Um so Yeah I would say like I went

out for coffee with someone and we it was just nice to chitchat

for a while. Okay so it is a verb as well or to have

chitchat. Um I was chit chatting the other day with my

mom. Um we were reminiscing a little bit and we were just

chitchatting. So it's again easy, light, simple

conversation with someone. To talk back or back talk. So this

again happens between someone older or someone in authority

and usually a child or a teenager. Um although it can

happen between an employee and a boss as well. So if I tell

one of my kids to clean their room and they say no. I don't

want to do it right now. We would say that they are talking

back and we would call it back talk. Notice it flips. At least

for me in this part of the world in in Canada. So often

this doesn't happen very often with my kids. But sometimes I

I'll have students certain students who just give me a lot

of back talk. Or they talk back a lot. So I'm trying to have a

conversation where I'm telling them what to do and they are

talking back or giving me a lot of back talk. So it's defiance.

Like when you defiance is when you disagree with some it can

lead to arguments as well. One sided. So this is an

interesting one. A one sided conversation happens when there

are two people or three people or four and one person does all

the talking. So when you have a one sided conversation it's not

usually enjoyable. Um unless you're the person talking

maybe. Um I've had this happen a few times in my life where I

go to a party or I go to a meeting or an evening at work.

Sometimes we have evenings at work where you know parents and

other people come in. Um or I go to a wedding and you end up

talking and the one person in English we would say likes the

sound of their own voice. And so you're trying to have a

conversation and you're you're kind of bored because one it's

a one sided conversation where one person does all of the

talking. It's kind of like these live lessons. Okay

sometimes a conversation will go over your head or you will

just say ah it was over my head. So if you were ever to

talk to Einstein which you can't do. But if you could time

travel and go back in time. My guess is if I had a

conversation with Einstein it would be over my head. I

wouldn't understand it. It when something goes over your head

it means that you don't understand what the person's

talking about. Um I have cousins on my mom's side of the

family who are scientists. When we see each other sometimes

they'll talk to each other about chemistry and chemicals.

And the conversation will just go over my head. I I don't know

what they're talking about because I don't know a lot

about those kinds of things. Behind closed doors. When a

conversation happens behind closed doors it means that you

are not part of it. So let's say let me think of a good

example here. Let's say you aren't working very hard at

work. Let's say you're making a lot of mistakes. Your manager

and the owner of the company might have a meeting behind

closed doors to talk about you. They might have a conversation

in a room with the door literally closed. And if

someone said how's it going at work? You could say oh I don't

know but I'm not doing I'm not doing a very good job and I saw

them having a meeting the other day behind closed doors to talk

about me. So when a conversation happens behind

closed doors it means it is private. Unwanted. So an

unwanted conversation is a conversation that happens when

one of the people doesn't actually want to have a

conversation. So this is not a very nice situation here. Uh

this lady doesn't want to talk to this guy. It's obvious by

how she is sitting that she is not interested. So this guy is

talking to her even though she doesn't want to. So she would

then say oh I just had this unwanted conversation at lunch

today. Um Joe came up and he's I don't like Joe and he just

was just an unwanted conversation. So simple to

understand. An unwanted conversation is a conversation

that you do not want to have but the other person kind of

makes you have a conversation with him. Not fun. I think kids

could say this too sometimes like oh I'm in trouble. My

parents are going to give me a talking to and that is going to

be an unwanted conversation. Brian it. So you can see these

two people in the back are trying to have a private

conversation. So a private conversation is a conversation

where you don't want other people to hear it. Um this fly

wants to be part of this lesson and I'm trying to have a sorry

I can't work that in as private. Um but a private

conversation would happen when you're talking about something

where you don't want the other people to hear. So my mom and I

had a private conversation the other day About I I don't want

to give too many details but she had a concern with someone

so mom and I had a private conversation before she went

and talked to that person. That's pretty vague but you

don't need to know all the details of my mom's life. To

make amends. So sometimes you argue with someone. Sometimes

you have a disagreement. Sometimes you might say mean

things. And then you need to make amends. When you have a

conversation where you make amends it usually means people

are apologizing. Either one person is apologizing or both

people might apologize. Let's say that you got into a

disagreement with your cousin. And your cousin called you a

jerk and you called your cousin a jerk and you just got really

angry and then you both walked away. And then the later that

day or the next day you realize you weren't very nice. And

hopefully your cousin is thinking the same thing. You

would eventually have a conversation where you make

amends. Where you say hey sorry I didn't mean to call you a

jerk. Um you know I thought about what you said and you

made some good points and then hopefully your cousin does says

the same thing. Um but to make amends usually means to

apologize either one person or both people who were involved.

And then a deep conversation. When you have a deep

conversation it means you talk about the meaning of life. Why

are we on this planet? Uh usually in Canada deep

conversations happen around the campfire. Uh usually people sit

around a campfire and eventually some people will

start to have a deep conversation. They'll start to

talk about you know did this world come from? Where what's

the future going to be like? Like you could have a deep

conversation about what the world will look like in 10

years or how do we save the planet if you're concerned

about the environment. So a deep conversation is a serious

conversation about life or about the world or about

politics and those kinds of things.