How To NOT Get Nervous Speaking English [BEST TIPS 2021]

Hello and welcome to this video. Today I'm going  to share how to not get nervous speaking English  

in public. And I want to share with  you my five best public speaking tips  

to help you feel confident walking  into any room and share your ideas,  

confidently. Of course I'm Jennifer Forrest,  and this channel is dedicated to helping you  

feel confident speaking English in public, so you  can take your career and your life to the next  

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Do you get nervous right before you're about to  speak English in public? Maybe your hands start to  

shake or your heart starts racing or you get that  feeling in your stomach. Does that ever happen  

to you? Well don't worry because in this video  we're going to talk about how to not get nervous  

speaking English in public in any situation. But  before we begin with my five best tips I just  

want you to know one thing, it's totally normal.  That reaction that you get, that physical reaction  

is absolutely normal. Did you know that public  speaking is the number one fear in the entire  

world, and not in your own native language. So  you can imagine how much more difficult it is when  

you're speaking in a foreign language, in front of  people. So first of all just know there's nothing  

wrong with you. It's totally normal to have that  reaction. Now, let's talk about the five tips that  

you can use to feel confident and not get nervous  when you're speaking in public. Tip number one,  

the first thing that I want you to do is relax.  Now when I say I want you to relax. I'm talking  

about your physical body. I want you to  physically, relax your body. Because when  

we're nervous when we're under stress. We also  tighten, we tighten up our body, but did you  

know that it has been scientifically proven by the  medical community, that you can not feel stress.  

If your body is physically, relaxed, so just  relax your body relax your arms relax this  

area of your chest and stomach as well so just  relax, relax, but I want you to still maintain  

good posture, because it isn't very professional  to be hunched over, in a bad position, although  

it is very relaxing, to do something like that so  you need to relax your body, but still maintain  

a professional position for when you're speaking.  So that's tip number one tip number two is to use  

positive visualization, because while I mean  guts. When you think about speaking in public,  

not that you're actually speaking in public, but  when you just think about speaking in public,  

most likely a negative image comes  to mind, you imagine the audience,  

judging you, because you made a grammar mistake  or judging you, because your accent is too thick  

or you imagine yourself forgetting all your words  and not knowing what to say, you imagine yourself  

not being able to answer the question, you imagine  yourself feeling really nervous and not confident  

and doing a bad job. Well guess what do you think  having all of those negative images in your mind  

are going to help you feel confident going into  a situation. Isn't it just a normal reaction  

that you would feel stress and nervousness, if  you anticipate something negative happening.  

That is your body doing its job. If you  haven't negative image in your mind and your  

body reacts negatively, everything is working  properly, that is what your body is meant to do.  

So one thing that you can do is to change  those mental images, change them to successful  

images of Imagine yourself opening your mouth, and  having the words flow well confidently. Imagine  

the audience cheering for you and telling you  you did an amazing job, imagine yourself standing  

in front of that audience feeling confident and  feeling proud. Now do you think you would have a  

different feeling in your body. If you had all of  those positive images instead of negative images.  

Well of course the answer is yes. So you need  to work on your positive visualization. Tip  

number three is to focus on your audience and  not yourself. Now when I use the word audience,  

I'm not talking about 100 person TED Talk,  although that may be the case, your audience could  

be one person, your boss, your coworker, your  friend, a hiring manager, it could be just one  

person, but a lot of students when they go into a  real situation, and they're going to be speaking  

they're focused on themselves, they're focused on  their accent, their English, their feelings, their  

emotions. But aren't you forgetting the reason why  your public speaking. Anyway, you have a message  

to share, right, maybe your message is simply  updating your boss on the status of the project,  

maybe your message is explaining to the hiring  manager, why you would be the perfect choice for  

the position. Now, you go into a situation, and  you're only thinking about yourself, and you're  

not thinking about your audience. Well, that's  kind of selfish, isn't it. And when you think just  

about yourself is going to be more likely that  you have all of these hesitations and negative  

thoughts and judgments and fears, but if you put  all your focus on your audience, then you're not  

focusing on your English skills or your fear, your  anxiety, and if we don't put focus on something,  

it will just naturally minimize. So if we don't  focus on our anxiety, and our nervousness,  

and we focus on the audience, and the information  you want to share with that audience your message  

will then you're going to just feel more relaxed,  less nervous and your audience is going to really  

appreciate the attention that you're giving them,  and it's going to make them think that you really  

care so it's going to help you feel less nervous  and also help you impress your audience at the  

same time. Tip number four is to structure your  idea. Imagine you needed to go to a job interview  

in a different part of town, a different part  of your city that you've never been to before,  

and you get in your car and you don't have a GPS,  and you just start driving. Are you going to feel  

a little bit nervous, a little bit nervous  but you might get lost a little bit nervous  

that you might not get there in time a little bit  nervous that you had no idea where you're going or  

how you're going to get there. Well of course you  would feel nervous in that situation, if you were  

going somewhere new without a GPS, right. Well, if  you go into a situation where your public speaking  

in a meeting in a job interview, giving a  presentation, and you have no idea how you're  

going to begin, how you're going to transition  to your next idea, and how you're going to  

end, you're going to feel nervous, right,  is the same situation, trying to get to a  

location without a GPS. Well in this situation  when we're talking about public speaking,  

structures, simple structures are going to help  you get to your message in a very easy way, in a  

very organized way, just like a GPS helps you get  to your destination in a very easy to follow way.  

So a simple structure that you can use is you  need an introduction, a body and a conclusion.  

If you go into a job interview and you know how  to start your answer. And you know how to end  

your answer, that's already going to make you feel  a lot more confident and feel less nervous, and if  

you know what to put in the body of your answer  as well. And you can do that in any situation,  

you can have a simple introduction, body,  conclusion for anything you're asked,  

even in a social situation when you're telling  your friend about what you did last night, or  

your upcoming vacation in any situation you're  communicating, you don't want to just open your  

mouth and see what comes out, because most likely  what comes out, isn't going to be very good.  

And that's going to make you feel very nervous,  but if you open your mouth and you have a clear  

beginning, middle and end, and you know how to  transition from the beginning middle and end,  

then you're going to feel confident and you're not  going to feel nervous. And tip number five is to  

practice, practice, practice. Now when you go into  a job interview, of course, you should practice,  

many people practice, The day before the night  before, as they're driving to the job interview.  

And, obviously you're going to feel nervous if  you've only practiced once or twice. You need to  

practice again and again and again and again and  again. If you feel a lot of nervousness, that's  

probably just your body telling you that you  haven't prepared and you prepare by practicing.  

Now, some nervousness is natural and will always  be there, even if you do practice and prepare  

so you're not looking for zero, nervousness, but  you are looking for a low level of nervousness  

where it doesn't impact your message and you can  practice any situation, you can practice answering  

questions you weren't expecting. And then when  you're asked a question you weren't expecting.  

You'll feel confident because of all the practice  you've done in the past. So if you want to feel  

confident, it's absolutely going to come from  practicing and preparing. So now you have my five  

best tips to help you not get nervous speaking  English in public. So let me know in the comments,  

which tip was your favorite? Which one are you  going to start using today? So let me know in the  

comments. And also if you have an additional tip  you would like to share with your fellow students,  

well then put that in the comments as well. And if  you found this video helpful please hit the like  

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