Why aren't you married? How to talk about being single!

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English with Ronnie


์•„๋ž˜ ์˜๋ฌธ์ž๋ง‰์„ ๋”๋ธ”ํด๋ฆญํ•˜์‹œ๋ฉด ์˜์ƒ์ด ์žฌ์ƒ๋ฉ๋‹ˆ๋‹ค. ๋ฒˆ์—ญ๋œ ์ž๋ง‰์€ ๊ธฐ๊ณ„ ๋ฒˆ์—ญ๋ฉ๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.

00:00
Hi, there. My name's Ronnie.
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์•ˆ๋…•ํ•˜์„ธ์š”. ์ œ ์ด๋ฆ„์€ ๋กœ๋‹ˆ์ž…๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.
00:02
Maybe you're watching www.engvid.com or maybe you're watching
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www.engvid.com์„ ๋ณด๊ณ  ์žˆ๊ฑฐ๋‚˜
00:06
me on YouTube. Thanks. Awesome.
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YouTube์—์„œ ์ €๋ฅผ ๋ณด๊ณ  ์žˆ์„ ์ˆ˜๋„ ์žˆ์Šต๋‹ˆ๋‹ค. ๊ฐ์‚ฌํ•ด์š”. ์—„์ฒญ๋‚œ.
00:11
I have a question for you, though. How old are you? Yeah? Okay.
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ํ•˜์ง€๋งŒ ์งˆ๋ฌธ์ด ์žˆ์Šต๋‹ˆ๋‹ค. ๋ช‡ ์‚ด์ด์—์š”? ์‘? ์ข‹์•„์š”.
00:17
Are you married? No. Do you have a problem with this? Because I know before I got married,
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๊ฒฐํ˜ผํ•˜์…จ๋‚˜์š”? ์•„๋‹ˆ์š”. ๋ฌธ์ œ๊ฐ€ ์žˆ์Šต๋‹ˆ๊นŒ ? ๊ฒฐํ˜ผํ•˜๊ธฐ ์ „์— ์•Œ๊ธฐ ๋•Œ๋ฌธ์—
00:27
I had no problem not being married, but other people did. For example, my friends who were married,
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๋‚˜๋Š” ๊ฒฐํ˜ผํ•˜์ง€ ์•Š๋Š” ๋ฐ ๋ฌธ์ œ๊ฐ€ ์—†์—ˆ์ง€๋งŒ ๋‹ค๋ฅธ ์‚ฌ๋žŒ๋“ค์€ ๊ฒฐํ˜ผ ํ–ˆ์Šต๋‹ˆ๋‹ค. ์˜ˆ๋ฅผ ๋“ค์–ด, ๊ฒฐํ˜ผํ•œ ์นœ๊ตฌ๋“ค,
00:37
maybe they were jealous, other people who I worked with, and people who I generally
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์งˆํˆฌํ–ˆ์„ ์ˆ˜๋„ ์žˆ๊ณ , ๊ฐ™์ด ์ผํ–ˆ๋˜ ๋‹ค๋ฅธ ์‚ฌ๋žŒ๋“ค,
00:42
met from day to day.
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ํ‰์†Œ์— ๋งŒ๋‚˜๋Š” ์‚ฌ๋žŒ๋“ค.
00:45
So, today I've got a special lesson for you people who are not married. This lesson is called:
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๊ทธ๋ž˜์„œ ์˜ค๋Š˜์€ ๊ฒฐํ˜ผํ•˜์ง€ ์•Š์€ ์—ฌ๋Ÿฌ๋ถ„์„ ์œ„ํ•œ ํŠน๋ณ„ํ•œ ๊ตํ›ˆ์„ ๊ฐ€์ง€๊ณ  ์™”์Šต๋‹ˆ๋‹ค . ์ด ์ˆ˜์—…์˜ ์ด๋ฆ„์€
00:52
"Oh My Gawd, You're Not Married Yet? What's Wrong With Her? What's Wrong With Him?"
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"์˜ค ๋งˆ์ด ๊ฐ“, ์•„์ง ๊ฒฐํ˜ผํ•˜์ง€ ์•Š์•˜๋‚˜์š”? ๊ทธ๋…€์—๊ฒŒ ๋ฌด์Šจ ์ผ์ด ์žˆ๋‚˜์š”? ๊ทธ์—๊ฒŒ ๋ฌด์Šจ ์ผ์ด ์žˆ๋‚˜์š”?"
00:59
So, people automatically assume that if you're over the ripe age of 30 and you're not married,
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๊ทธ๋ž˜์„œ ์‚ฌ๋žŒ๋“ค์€ ์ž๋™์ ์œผ๋กœ ๋‹น์‹ ์ด 30์„ธ๊ฐ€ ๋„˜์—ˆ๊ณ  ๊ฒฐํ˜ผํ•˜์ง€ ์•Š์•˜๋‹ค๋ฉด
01:08
there's something wrong with you. Maybe there's something wrong with the other people who
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๋‹น์‹ ์—๊ฒŒ ๋ฌธ์ œ๊ฐ€ ์žˆ๋‹ค๊ณ  ์ƒ๊ฐํ•ฉ๋‹ˆ๋‹ค. ์–ด์ฉŒ๋ฉด
01:14
want to tell you their opinion of how you should live your life. That's what I think.
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๋‹น์‹ ์ด ์–ด๋–ป๊ฒŒ ์‚ด์•„์•ผ ํ•˜๋Š”์ง€์— ๋Œ€ํ•œ ๊ทธ๋“ค์˜ ์˜๊ฒฌ์„ ๋งํ•˜๊ณ  ์‹ถ์–ดํ•˜๋Š” ๋‹ค๋ฅธ ์‚ฌ๋žŒ๋“ค์—๊ฒŒ ๋ญ”๊ฐ€ ์ž˜๋ชป๋œ ๊ฒƒ์ด ์žˆ์„ ์ˆ˜๋„ ์žˆ์Šต๋‹ˆ๋‹ค . ๊ทธ๊ฒŒ ๋‚ด๊ฐ€ ์ƒ๊ฐํ•˜๋Š”๊ฑฐ์•ผ.
01:19
So, I'm going to go through some terms, some of them slang, some of them more traditional,
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๊ทธ๋ž˜์„œ ์ €๋Š” ๋ช‡ ๊ฐ€์ง€ ์šฉ์–ด, ๊ทธ ์ค‘ ์ผ๋ถ€๋Š” ์†์–ด, ์ผ๋ถ€๋Š” ์ข€ ๋” ์ „ํ†ต์ ์ธ ์šฉ์–ด
01:26
and reasons why you can give people why you're not married yet. And it's none of their business,
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์™€ ์•„์ง ๊ฒฐํ˜ผํ•˜์ง€ ์•Š์€ ์ด์œ ๋ฅผ ์„ค๋ช…ํ•  ์ˆ˜ ์žˆ๋Š” ์ด์œ ๋ฅผ ์‚ดํŽด๋ณด๊ฒ ์Šต๋‹ˆ๋‹ค . ๊ทธ๋ฆฌ๊ณ  ๊ทธ๊ฒƒ์€ ๊ทธ๋“ค์˜ ์‚ฌ์—…์ด
01:33
really. I was fortunate enough to have a mom who didn't push me to get married. Thanks,
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์•„๋‹™๋‹ˆ๋‹ค. ๊ฒฐํ˜ผํ•˜๋ผ๊ณ  ๊ฐ•์š”ํ•˜์ง€ ์•Š๋Š” ์—„๋งˆ๊ฐ€ ์žˆ์–ด์„œ ๋‹คํ–‰์ด์—ˆ๋‹ค. ๊ณ ๋งˆ์›Œ์š”,
01:38
mom. Does your mom push you to get married? -"Come on, get married, get married."
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์—„๋งˆ. ์—„๋งˆ๊ฐ€ ๊ฒฐํ˜ผํ•˜๋ผ๊ณ  ๊ฐ•์š”ํ•˜์‹œ๋‚˜์š”? -"์ž, ๊ฒฐํ˜ผํ•ด, ๊ฒฐํ˜ผํ•ด."
01:44
-"Find me a handsome guy, mom, who's not a dick. Maybe I'll do that."
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-"์—„๋งˆ, ๊ฑฐ์‹œ๊ธฐ๊ฐ€ ์•„๋‹Œ ์ž˜์ƒ๊ธด ๋‚จ์ž๋ฅผ ์ฐพ์•„์ค˜ . ์•„๋งˆ ๋‚ด๊ฐ€ ํ• ๊ฒŒ."
01:48
So, first of all, people are going to say behind your back, which means not in front
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๊ทธ๋ž˜์„œ ์šฐ์„ , ์‚ฌ๋žŒ๋“ค์€ ๋‹น์‹ ์˜ ๋“ฑ ๋’ค์—์„œ ๋งํ•  ๊ฒƒ์ž…๋‹ˆ๋‹ค. ๊ทธ๊ฒƒ์€
01:55
of you: "What's wrong with him?" Most of the time people will say: "He must be gay." Because
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๋‹น์‹  ์•ž์—์„œ๊ฐ€ ์•„๋‹ˆ๋ผ "๊ทธ์—๊ฒŒ ๋ฌด์Šจ ๋ฌธ์ œ๊ฐ€ ์žˆ์Šต๋‹ˆ๊นŒ? "๋ผ๊ณ  ๋งํ•  ๊ฒƒ์ž…๋‹ˆ๋‹ค. ๋Œ€๋ถ€๋ถ„์˜ ๊ฒฝ์šฐ ์‚ฌ๋žŒ๋“ค์€ "๊ทธ๋Š” ๊ฒŒ์ด์ž„์— ํ‹€๋ฆผ์—†์–ด"๋ผ๊ณ  ๋งํ•  ๊ฒƒ์ž…๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.
02:03
every man out there who's not married just must be gay. This came from a long, long,
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๊ฒฐํ˜ผํ•˜์ง€ ์•Š์€ ๋ชจ๋“  ๋‚จ์„ฑ์€ ๊ฒŒ์ด์ผ ์ˆ˜๋ฐ–์— ์—†๊ธฐ ๋•Œ๋ฌธ์ž…๋‹ˆ๋‹ค. ์ด๊ฒƒ์€ ์˜ค๋ž˜, ์˜ค๋ž˜,
02:10
long, long time ago. There's an area of history... An era of history called the Victorian Era.
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์˜ค๋ž˜, ์˜ค๋ž˜ ์ „์— ์˜จ ๊ฒƒ์ž…๋‹ˆ๋‹ค. ์—ญ์‚ฌ์˜ ์˜์—ญ์ด ์žˆ์Šต๋‹ˆ๋‹ค... ๋น…ํ† ๋ฆฌ์•„ ์‹œ๋Œ€๋ผ๊ณ  ํ•˜๋Š” ์—ญ์‚ฌ์˜ ์‹œ๋Œ€์ž…๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.
02:17
They didn't admit to people that they were gay because that's wrong, or that was wrong
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๊ทธ๋“ค์€ ๊ทธ๊ฒƒ์ด ํ‹€๋ ธ๊ฑฐ๋‚˜ ๊ทธ ๋‹น์‹œ์—๋Š” ํ‹€๋ ธ๊ธฐ ๋•Œ๋ฌธ์— ์‚ฌ๋žŒ๋“ค์—๊ฒŒ ์ž์‹ ์ด ๊ฒŒ์ด๋ผ๋Š” ์‚ฌ์‹ค์„ ์ธ์ •ํ•˜์ง€ ์•Š์•˜์Šต๋‹ˆ๋‹ค
02:23
back then. They had this really amazing kind of sneaky word to say, a "confirmed bachelor".
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. ๊ทธ๋“ค์€ "ํ™•์ธ๋œ ์ด๊ฐ"์ด๋ผ๋Š” ์ •๋ง ๋†€๋ผ์šด ๋น„์—ดํ•œ ๋‹จ์–ด๋ฅผ ๊ฐ€์ง€๊ณ  ์žˆ์—ˆ์Šต๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.
02:32
Now, if we lived in the Victorian times and somebody told you that they were a confirmed
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์ž, ์šฐ๋ฆฌ๊ฐ€ ๋น…ํ† ๋ฆฌ์•„ ์‹œ๋Œ€์— ์‚ด๊ณ  ์žˆ๊ณ  ๋ˆ„๊ตฐ๊ฐ€๊ฐ€ ๋‹น์‹ ์—๊ฒŒ ๊ทธ๋“ค์ด ํ™•์ธ๋œ
02:38
bachelor, we would know that that means that that man is gay. Nowadays, we just go:
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์ด๊ฐ์ด๋ผ๊ณ  ๋งํ•œ๋‹ค๋ฉด ์šฐ๋ฆฌ๋Š” ๊ทธ๊ฒƒ์ด ๊ทธ ๋‚จ์ž๊ฐ€ ๊ฒŒ์ด๋ผ๋Š” ๊ฒƒ์„ ์˜๋ฏธํ•œ๋‹ค๋Š” ๊ฒƒ์„ ์•Œ ๊ฒƒ์ž…๋‹ˆ๋‹ค . ์š”์ฆ˜ ์šฐ๋ฆฌ๋Š”
02:45
"He's gay." Or if you're a gay man, you say: "I'm gay." But gay men can marry, so yeah, there's
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"๊ทธ๋Š” ๊ฒŒ์ด์•ผ." ๋˜๋Š” ๋‹น์‹ ์ด ๋™์„ฑ์• ์ž์ธ ๊ฒฝ์šฐ "๋‚˜๋Š” ๊ฒŒ์ด๋‹ค"๋ผ๊ณ  ๋งํ•ฉ๋‹ˆ๋‹ค. ํ•˜์ง€๋งŒ ๋™์„ฑ์• ์ž๋„ ๊ฒฐํ˜ผํ•  ์ˆ˜ ์žˆ์œผ๋‹ˆ
02:52
no excuse.
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๋ณ€๋ช…์˜ ์—ฌ์ง€๊ฐ€ ์—†์Šต๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.
02:53
What I'm going to teach you is the difference between men and women being married and not
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์ œ๊ฐ€ ์—ฌ๋Ÿฌ๋ถ„์—๊ฒŒ ๊ฐ€๋ฅด์น  ๊ฒƒ์€ ๋‚จ์ž์™€ ์—ฌ์ž๊ฐ€ โ€‹โ€‹๊ฒฐํ˜ผํ•˜๋Š” ๊ฒƒ๊ณผ ๊ฒฐํ˜ผํ•˜์ง€ ์•Š๋Š” ๊ฒƒ์˜ ์ฐจ์ด์ž…๋‹ˆ๋‹ค
03:00
being married. So, if you're a man who's not married, we have a word called a "bachelor".
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. ๊ทธ๋ž˜์„œ ๊ฒฐํ˜ผํ•˜์ง€ ์•Š์€ ๋‚จ์ž๋ผ๋ฉด "์ด๊ฐ"์ด๋ผ๋Š” ๋‹จ์–ด๊ฐ€ ์žˆ์Šต๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.
03:05
This is a very common, very famous TV show called The Bachelor. If you're a woman who's
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์ด๊ฒƒ์€ The Bachelor๋ผ๋Š” ๋งค์šฐ ์ผ๋ฐ˜์ ์ด๊ณ  ๋งค์šฐ ์œ ๋ช…ํ•œ TV ์‡ผ์ž…๋‹ˆ๋‹ค . ๋‹น์‹ ์ด
03:12
not married, you are a "bachelorette". If you know anything about French or if your
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๊ฒฐํ˜ผํ•˜์ง€ ์•Š์€ ์—ฌ์„ฑ์ด๋ผ๋ฉด ๋‹น์‹ ์€ "๋…์‹ "์ž…๋‹ˆ๋‹ค. ํ”„๋ž‘์Šค์–ด์— ๋Œ€ํ•ด ์•„๋Š” ๊ฒƒ์ด ์žˆ๊ฑฐ๋‚˜
03:19
language has masculine and feminine, you would understand that the "ette" part makes it a
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์–ธ์–ด์— ๋‚จ์„ฑ๊ณผ ์—ฌ์„ฑ์ด ์žˆ๋Š” ๊ฒฝ์šฐ "ette" ๋ถ€๋ถ„์ด ํ”„๋ž‘์Šค์–ด๋ฅผ ์†Œ๋…€๋กœ ๋งŒ๋“ ๋‹ค๋Š” ๊ฒƒ์„ ์ดํ•ดํ•  ๊ฒƒ์ž…๋‹ˆ๋‹ค
03:24
girl. So, we have the male is a bachelor or a confirmed bachelor, and then we have the
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. ๊ทธ๋ž˜์„œ ์šฐ๋ฆฌ๋Š” ๋‚จ์„ฑ์ด ์ด๊ฐ์ด๊ฑฐ๋‚˜ ํ™•์ธ๋œ ์ด๊ฐ์ด๊ณ 
03:30
female as a bachelorette. So, if you are a man and you're not married, everything's fine
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์—ฌ์„ฑ์ด ๋…์‹ ์ž…๋‹ˆ๋‹ค. ๋”ฐ๋ผ์„œ ๋‹น์‹ ์ด ๋‚จ์ž ์ด๊ณ  ๊ฒฐํ˜ผํ•˜์ง€ ์•Š์•˜๋‹ค๋ฉด
03:37
unless people think that you're gay. If you're gay, that's fine. The confirmed bachelor.
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์‚ฌ๋žŒ๋“ค์ด ๋‹น์‹ ์„ ๊ฒŒ์ด๋ผ๊ณ  ์ƒ๊ฐํ•˜์ง€ ์•Š๋Š” ํ•œ ๋ชจ๋“  ๊ฒƒ์ด ๊ดœ์ฐฎ์Šต๋‹ˆ๋‹ค. ๊ฒŒ์ด๋ผ๋ฉด ๊ดœ์ฐฎ์Šต๋‹ˆ๋‹ค. ํ™•์ธ ๋œ ํ•™์‚ฌ.
03:42
But if you're a woman and you're not married, we got some really bad names for you guys
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ํ•˜์ง€๋งŒ ๋‹น์‹ ์ด ์—ฌ์„ฑ์ด๊ณ  ๋ฏธํ˜ผ์ด๋ผ๋ฉด, ์˜์–ด๋กœ ๋œ ๋„ˆํฌ๋“ค์— ๋Œ€ํ•œ ์ •๋ง ๋‚˜์œ ์ด๋ฆ„์ด ๋ช‡ ๊ฐœ ์žˆ์Šต๋‹ˆ๋‹ค
03:51
in English, especially if you're old, like over 30. So, we have two names that are not
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. ํŠนํžˆ ๋‹น์‹ ์ด 30์„ธ ์ด์ƒ์ธ ๋‚˜์ด๊ฐ€ ๋งŽ๋‹ค๋ฉด ๋ง์ด์ฃ .
03:59
good that we substitute for a bachelorette, because a bachelorette should be young. We
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๋…์‹ ์˜ ๊ฒฝ์šฐ ๋…์‹ ์€ ์ Š์–ด์•ผํ•˜๊ธฐ ๋•Œ๋ฌธ์ž…๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.
04:05
have the word "old maid" and a "spinster". So, an old maid and a spinster are older women
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"๋…ธ์ฒ˜๋…€"์™€ "๋…ธ์ฒ˜๋…€"๋ผ๋Š” ๋‹จ์–ด๊ฐ€ ์žˆ์Šต๋‹ˆ๋‹ค. ๋”ฐ๋ผ์„œ ๋…ธ์ฒ˜๋…€์™€ ๋…ธ์ฒ˜๋…€๋Š”
04:13
who have not yet married or never will marry. So, this goes back to the question:
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์•„์ง ๊ฒฐํ˜ผํ•˜์ง€ ์•Š์•˜๊ฑฐ๋‚˜ ๊ฒฐํ˜ผํ•˜์ง€ ์•Š์„ ๋‚˜์ด ๋งŽ์€ ์—ฌ์„ฑ์ž…๋‹ˆ๋‹ค. ๊ทธ๋ž˜์„œ ์ด๊ฒƒ์€ ๋‹ค์‹œ ์งˆ๋ฌธ์œผ๋กœ ๋Œ์•„๊ฐ‘๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.
04:19
What's wrong with her? Why did nobody marry her? Hmm. This is what we call in English a double
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๊ทธ๋…€์—๊ฒŒ ๋ฌด์Šจ ๋ฌธ์ œ๊ฐ€ ์žˆ์Šต๋‹ˆ๊นŒ? ์™œ ์•„๋ฌด๋„ ๊ทธ๋…€์™€ ๊ฒฐํ˜ผํ•˜์ง€ ์•Š์•˜์Šต๋‹ˆ๊นŒ? ํ . ์ด๊ฒƒ์€ ์šฐ๋ฆฌ๊ฐ€ ์˜์–ด๋กœ ์ด์ค‘ ํ‘œ์ค€์ด๋ผ๊ณ  ๋ถ€๋ฅด๋Š” ๊ฒƒ์ž…๋‹ˆ๋‹ค
04:27
standard. "A double standard" means what is acceptable or in society for a man, bachelor
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. "์ด์ค‘ ์žฃ๋Œ€"๋Š” ์‚ฌํšŒ์—์„œ ๋‚จ์„ฑ์—๊ฒŒ ํ—ˆ์šฉ๋˜๋Š” ๊ฒƒ, ๋…์‹ ์ž์—๊ฒŒ ํ—ˆ์šฉ๋˜๋Š” ๊ฒƒ์„ ์˜๋ฏธํ•ฉ๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.
04:37
- it's not acceptable in society for a woman. So, a man who's over 30 hasn't met the right
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์—ฌ์„ฑ์—๊ฒŒ๋Š” ์‚ฌํšŒ์—์„œ ํ—ˆ์šฉ๋˜์ง€ ์•Š๋Š” ๊ฒƒ์ž…๋‹ˆ๋‹ค. ๊ทธ๋ž˜์„œ ์„œ๋ฅธ์ด ๋„˜์€ ๋‚จ์ž๋Š” ์•„์ง ์ œ๋Œ€๋กœ ๋œ ์—ฌ์ž๋ฅผ ๋งŒ๋‚˜์ง€ ๋ชปํ•œ
04:44
woman yet, but a woman who's over 30 and not married is a spinster or an old maid. Double
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๊ฒƒ์ด๊ณ , ์„œ๋ฅธ์ด ๋„˜๊ณ  ๊ฒฐํ˜ผํ•˜์ง€ ์•Š์€ ์—ฌ์ž๋Š” ๋…ธ์ฒ˜๋…€๋‚˜ ๋…ธ์ฒ˜๋…€๋‹ค. ์ด์ค‘
04:52
standards are not cool at all.
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ํ‘œ์ค€์€ ์ „ํ˜€ ๋ฉ‹์ง€์ง€ ์•Š์Šต๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.
04:55
Then some people, tragically, have lost their husband or wife. This is a very bad thing,
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๊ทธ๋Ÿฐ ๋‹ค์Œ ์ผ๋ถ€ ์‚ฌ๋žŒ๋“ค์€ ๋น„๊ทน์ ์œผ๋กœ ๋‚จํŽธ์ด๋‚˜ ์•„๋‚ด๋ฅผ ์žƒ์—ˆ์Šต๋‹ˆ๋‹ค. ์ด๊ฒƒ์€ ๋งค์šฐ ๋‚˜์œ ์ผ
05:03
but we actually have a name for it. Now, the one for women are... Is most common that you
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์ด์ง€๋งŒ ์‹ค์ œ๋กœ๋Š” ์ด๋ฆ„์ด ์žˆ์Šต๋‹ˆ๋‹ค. ์ž, ์—ฌ์„ฑ์šฉ์€... ์•„์‹œ๋‹ค์‹œํ”ผ ๊ฐ€์žฅ ์ผ๋ฐ˜์ ์ž…๋‹ˆ๋‹ค
05:08
know. If a woman has lost her husband, she's called a "widow". Be careful. Not a window.
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. ์—ฌ์ž๊ฐ€ ๋‚จํŽธ์„ ์žƒ์œผ๋ฉด "๊ณผ๋ถ€"๋ผ๊ณ  ๋ถˆ๋ฆฝ๋‹ˆ๋‹ค. ์กฐ์‹ฌํ•˜์„ธ์š”. ์ฐฝ๋ฌธ์ด ์•„๋‹™๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.
05:18
"My mom's a window." Your mom's a window? "Widow", "widow", there's no "n". Okay? So,
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"์šฐ๋ฆฌ ์—„๋งˆ๋Š” ์ฐฝ๋ฌธ์ด์•ผ." ์—„๋งˆ๊ฐ€ ์ฐฝ๋ฌธ์ด์•ผ? "๊ณผ๋ถ€", "๊ณผ๋ถ€", "n"์ด ์—†์Šต๋‹ˆ๋‹ค. ์ข‹์•„์š”? ๊ทธ๋ž˜์„œ
05:23
"widow". And if you're a man who's lost his wife, you're called a "widower". I think that
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"๊ณผ๋ถ€". ๊ทธ๋ฆฌ๊ณ  ๋‹น์‹ ์ด ์•„๋‚ด๋ฅผ ์žƒ์€ ๋‚จ์ž๋ผ๋ฉด ๋‹น์‹ ์„ "ํ™€์•„๋น„"๋ผ๊ณ  ๋ถ€๋ฆ…๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.
05:33
you guys probably have heard of "widow", but not "widower" because in the history of war
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์ „์Ÿ
05:43
and health problems, women seem to live longer than men, so widows are more common than widowers,
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๊ณผ ๊ฑด๊ฐ• ๋ฌธ์ œ์˜ ์—ญ์‚ฌ์—์„œ ์—ฌ์„ฑ์ด ๋‚จ์„ฑ๋ณด๋‹ค ์˜ค๋ž˜ ์‚ฌ๋Š” ๊ฒƒ ๊ฐ™์•„์„œ ๊ณผ๋ถ€๊ฐ€ ํ™€์•„๋น„๋ณด๋‹ค ๋” ํ”ํ•˜๊ธฐ ๋•Œ๋ฌธ์— "๊ณผ๋ถ€"๋Š” ๋“ค์–ด๋ดค์ง€๋งŒ "๊ณผ๋ถ€"๋Š” ๋“ค์–ด๋ณธ ์ ์ด ์—†์„ ๊ฒƒ์ž…๋‹ˆ๋‹ค
05:51
but they do happen.
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.
05:53
Another reason why maybe you're not married is maybe you were married, but your marriage
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๋‹น์‹ ์ด ๊ฒฐํ˜ผํ•˜์ง€ ์•Š์€ ๋˜ ๋‹ค๋ฅธ ์ด์œ ๋Š” ์•„๋งˆ๋„ ๋‹น์‹ ์ด ๊ฒฐํ˜ผํ–ˆ์ง€๋งŒ ๋‹น์‹ ์˜ ๊ฒฐํ˜ผ ์ƒํ™œ์€
06:00
was not so good in the end and you got divorced. So, if you got divorced, you would be called
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๊ฒฐ๊ตญ ๊ทธ๋ ‡๊ฒŒ ์ข‹์ง€ ์•Š์•˜๊ณ  ๋‹น์‹ ์€ ์ดํ˜ผํ–ˆ์Šต๋‹ˆ๋‹ค. ๋”ฐ๋ผ์„œ ์ดํ˜ผ์„ ํ–ˆ๋‹ค๋ฉด
06:10
a "divorcee". This is a noun. All of these words, here, I have put a "n", it means a
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"์ดํ˜ผ์ž"๋ผ๊ณ  ๋ถ€๋ฅผ ๊ฒƒ์ž…๋‹ˆ๋‹ค. ์ด๊ฒƒ์€ ๋ช…์‚ฌ์ž…๋‹ˆ๋‹ค. ์—ฌ๊ธฐ ์ด ๋ชจ๋“  ๋‹จ์–ด์— "n"์„ ๋„ฃ์—ˆ์Šต๋‹ˆ๋‹ค. ๋ช…์‚ฌ๋ฅผ ์˜๋ฏธํ•ฉ๋‹ˆ๋‹ค
06:16
noun. So, a divorcee is a man or a woman who has been divorced. Are you divorced? No? Me
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. ๋”ฐ๋ผ์„œ ์ดํ˜ผ๋…€๋Š” ์ดํ˜ผํ•œ ๋‚จ์ž ๋˜๋Š” ์—ฌ์ž์ž…๋‹ˆ๋‹ค . ๋‹น์‹  ์ดํ˜ผ ํ–ˆ์–ด์š”? ์•„๋‹ˆ์š”?
06:27
neither. And we're back to our double standards for women. A woman who has been divorced would
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๋‚˜๋„. ๊ทธ๋ฆฌ๊ณ  ์šฐ๋ฆฌ๋Š” ์—ฌ์„ฑ์— ๋Œ€ํ•œ ์ด์ค‘ ๊ธฐ์ค€์œผ๋กœ ๋Œ์•„์™”์Šต๋‹ˆ๋‹ค . ์ดํ˜ผํ•œ ์—ฌ์ž๋Š”
06:36
go to a bar, have a good time, maybe find a young boy to amuse her. If this happens,
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์ˆ ์ง‘์— ๊ฐ€์„œ ์ฆ๊ฑฐ์šด ์‹œ๊ฐ„์„ ๋ณด๋‚ด๊ณ , ์•„๋งˆ๋„ ๊ทธ๋…€๋ฅผ ์ฆ๊ฒ๊ฒŒ ํ•ด์ค„ ์–ด๋ฆฐ ์†Œ๋…„์„ ์ฐพ์„ ๊ฒƒ์ž…๋‹ˆ๋‹ค. ์ด๋Ÿฐ ์ผ์ด ์ƒ๊ธฐ๋ฉด
06:45
this lovely lady is called a "Cougar". A cougar is slang for a usually divorced lady who likes
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์ด ์‚ฌ๋ž‘์Šค๋Ÿฌ์šด ์—ฌ์ธ์€ "์ฟ ๊ฑฐ"๋ผ๊ณ  ๋ถˆ๋ฆฝ๋‹ˆ๋‹ค. cougar๋Š” ๋ฐ”์—์„œ
06:56
to enjoy herself after a couple refreshments at the bar, and have some fun with younger
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๋ช‡ ์ž”์˜ ๋‹ค๊ณผ๋ฅผ ์ฆ๊ธฐ๋ฉฐ ์ Š์€ ๋‚จ์ž๋“ค๊ณผ ์ฆ๊ฑฐ์šด ์‹œ๊ฐ„์„ ๋ณด๋‚ด๋Š” ๊ฒƒ์„ ์ข‹์•„ํ•˜๋Š” ๋ณดํ†ต ์ดํ˜ผํ•œ ์—ฌ์„ฑ์„ ๊ฐ€๋ฆฌํ‚ค๋Š” ์†์–ด์ž…๋‹ˆ๋‹ค
07:02
men. As a man, though, we do not have a cougar counterpart, because in our society, unfortunately,
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. ํ•˜์ง€๋งŒ ๋‚จ์ž๋กœ์„œ ์šฐ๋ฆฌ์—๊ฒŒ๋Š” ์ฟ ๊ฑฐ ์ƒ๋Œ€๊ฐ€ ์—†์Šต๋‹ˆ๋‹ค. ์™œ๋ƒํ•˜๋ฉด ์šฐ๋ฆฌ ์‚ฌํšŒ์—์„œ๋Š” ๋ถˆํ–‰ํ•˜๊ฒŒ๋„
07:15
it's quite normal that men would find a younger lady to amuse him if he's divorced, or married,
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๋‚จ์ž๊ฐ€ ์ดํ˜ผํ–ˆ๊ฑฐ๋‚˜ ๊ฒฐํ˜ผํ–ˆ๊ฑฐ๋‚˜ ๋…์‹ ์ผ ๋•Œ ๊ทธ๋ฅผ ์ฆ๊ฒ๊ฒŒ ํ•ด์ค„ ์ Š์€ ์—ฌ์ž๋ฅผ ์ฐพ๋Š” ๊ฒƒ์ด ๊ฝค ์ •์ƒ์ ์ด๊ธฐ ๋•Œ๋ฌธ์ž…๋‹ˆ๋‹ค
07:26
or single. So, this double standard exists I think a bit too much.
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. ๊ทธ๋ž˜์„œ, ์ด ์ด์ค‘ ์žฃ๋Œ€๋Š” ์กด์žฌํ•ฉ๋‹ˆ๋‹ค. ์ œ ์ƒ๊ฐ์—๋Š” ์ข€ ์ง€๋‚˜์นœ ๊ฒƒ ๊ฐ™์Šต๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.
07:31
On to the adjectives. So, we have some adjectives... Adjectives to describe your situation. You're
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ํ˜•์šฉ์‚ฌ์—. ํ˜•์šฉ์‚ฌ๊ฐ€ ์žˆ์Šต๋‹ˆ๋‹ค... ์ƒํ™ฉ์„ ์„ค๋ช…ํ•˜๋Š” ํ˜•์šฉ์‚ฌ. ๋‹น์‹ ์€
07:40
not married. Oh my gawd. So, you can tell the person: "I'm divorced." This means, once
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๊ฒฐํ˜ผํ•˜์ง€ ์•Š์•˜์Šต๋‹ˆ๋‹ค. ์˜ค ๋งˆ์ด ๊ฐ“. ๋”ฐ๋ผ์„œ "๋‚˜๋Š” ์ดํ˜ผํ–ˆ์Šต๋‹ˆ๋‹ค. "๋ผ๊ณ  ๋งํ•  ์ˆ˜ ์žˆ์Šต๋‹ˆ๋‹ค. ์ด๊ฒƒ์€ ๋‹ค์‹œ ํ•œ๋ฒˆ
07:47
again, your marriage has finished. Bye-bye. You can say: "I'm happily divorced", which
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๋‹น์‹ ์˜ ๊ฒฐํ˜ผ์ด ๋๋‚ฌ๋‹ค๋Š” ๊ฒƒ์„ ์˜๋ฏธํ•ฉ๋‹ˆ๋‹ค. ์•ˆ๋…•. "๋‚˜๋Š” ํ–‰๋ณตํ•˜๊ฒŒ ์ดํ˜ผํ–ˆ์–ด์š”"๋ผ๊ณ  ๋งํ•  ์ˆ˜ ์žˆ์Šต๋‹ˆ๋‹ค. ์ด๊ฒƒ์€
07:53
means this was a good thing for you. Bye-bye. You can say you're recently divorced, this
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์ด๊ฒƒ์ด ๋‹น์‹ ์—๊ฒŒ ์ข‹์€ ์ผ์ด์—ˆ๋‹ค๋Š” ๊ฒƒ์„ ์˜๋ฏธํ•ฉ๋‹ˆ๋‹ค. ์•ˆ๋…•. ์ตœ๊ทผ์— ์ดํ˜ผํ–ˆ๋‹ค๊ณ  ๋งํ•  ์ˆ˜ ์žˆ์Šต๋‹ˆ๋‹ค. ์ด๊ฒƒ์€
08:01
means it happened not too long ago. It's not telling if it's a good thing or a bad thing,
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์–ผ๋งˆ ์ „์— ์ผ์–ด๋‚œ ์ผ์„ ์˜๋ฏธํ•ฉ๋‹ˆ๋‹ค. ์ข‹์€ ์ผ์ธ์ง€ ๋‚˜์œ ์ผ์ธ์ง€ ์•Œ๋ ค์ฃผ๋Š” ๊ฒƒ์ด
08:09
but the person knows that it's a new situation.
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์•„๋‹ˆ๋ผ ์ƒˆ๋กœ์šด ์ƒํ™ฉ์ž„์„ ๊ทธ ์‚ฌ๋žŒ์€ ์•ˆ๋‹ค .
08:14
People can also be separated. Now, "separated" is one step away from being divorced. So,
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์‚ฌ๋žŒ๋„ ํ—ค์–ด์งˆ ์ˆ˜ ์žˆ์Šต๋‹ˆ๋‹ค. ์ด์ œ "๋ณ„๊ฑฐ"๋Š” ์ดํ˜ผ์—์„œ ํ•œ ๋ฐœ์ง ๋” ๋‚˜์•„๊ฐ€๋Š” ๊ฒƒ์ž…๋‹ˆ๋‹ค. ๊ทธ๋ž˜์„œ
08:22
let's say that you and your husband or you and your wife were fighting a lot, not really
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๋‹น์‹ ๊ณผ ๋‹น์‹ ์˜ ๋‚จํŽธ ๋˜๋Š” ๋‹น์‹ ๊ณผ ๋‹น์‹ ์˜ ์•„๋‚ด๊ฐ€ ๋งŽ์ด ์‹ธ์šฐ๊ณ  ์žˆ๊ณ 
08:28
having a happy marriage, a lot of people choose to separate. So this means they live in different
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ํ–‰๋ณตํ•œ ๊ฒฐํ˜ผ ์ƒํ™œ์„ ํ•˜์ง€ ๋ชปํ•˜๊ณ  ๋งŽ์€ ์‚ฌ๋žŒ๋“ค์ด ๋ณ„๊ฑฐ๋ฅผ ์„ ํƒํ•œ๋‹ค๊ณ  ๊ฐ€์ •ํ•ด ๋ด…์‹œ๋‹ค. ๊ทธ๋ž˜์„œ ์ด๊ฒƒ์€ ๊ทธ๋“ค์ด ๋‹ค๋ฅธ
08:37
rooms, different houses, different cities, and they try to continue their relationship.
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๋ฐฉ, ๋‹ค๋ฅธ ์ง‘, ๋‹ค๋ฅธ ๋„์‹œ์— ์‚ด๋ฉฐ ๊ทธ๋“ค์˜ ๊ด€๊ณ„๋ฅผ ๊ณ„์†ํ•˜๋ ค๊ณ  ํ•œ๋‹ค๋Š” ๊ฒƒ์„ ์˜๋ฏธํ•ฉ๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.
08:44
So, they're not yet divorced, but they're separated.
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๊ทธ๋ž˜์„œ ๊ทธ๋“ค์€ ์•„์ง ์ดํ˜ผํ•˜์ง€ ์•Š์•˜์ง€๋งŒ ๋ณ„๊ฑฐ ์ค‘์ž…๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.
08:50
Of course, if you've never been married and you aren't married, you would be single. I'm
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๋ฌผ๋ก  ๊ฒฐํ˜ผํ•œ ์ ์ด ์—†๊ณ  ๊ฒฐํ˜ผํ•˜์ง€ ์•Š์•˜๋‹ค๋ฉด ๋ฏธํ˜ผ์ผ ๊ฒƒ์ž…๋‹ˆ๋‹ค. ๋‚˜๋Š”
08:57
single. Okay. And there's another term that we use a lot for maybe tax purposes or to
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๋…์‹ ์ด๋‹ค. ์ข‹์•„์š”. ๊ทธ๋ฆฌ๊ณ  ์šฐ๋ฆฌ๊ฐ€ ์„ธ๊ธˆ ๋ชฉ์ ์œผ๋กœ ๋˜๋Š”
09:07
help us explain to people what's happening, although you never have to, we have an expression
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๋ฌด์Šจ ์ผ์ด ์ผ์–ด๋‚˜๊ณ  ์žˆ๋Š”์ง€ ์‚ฌ๋žŒ๋“ค์—๊ฒŒ ์„ค๋ช…ํ•˜๋Š” ๋ฐ ๋„์›€์ด ๋˜๋„๋ก ๋งŽ์ด ์‚ฌ์šฉํ•˜๋Š” ๋˜ ๋‹ค๋ฅธ ์šฉ์–ด๊ฐ€ ์žˆ์Šต๋‹ˆ๋‹ค. ๊ผญ ๊ทธ๋Ÿด ํ•„์š”๋Š” ์—†์ง€๋งŒ
09:14
in a lot of countries called "common-law". So it says: "We are common-law." Common-law
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๋งŽ์€ ๊ตญ๊ฐ€์—์„œ "๊ด€์Šต๋ฒ•"์ด๋ผ๋Š” ํ‘œํ˜„์„ ์‚ฌ์šฉํ•ฉ๋‹ˆ๋‹ค. ๊ทธ๋ž˜์„œ "์šฐ๋ฆฌ๋Š” ๊ด€์Šต๋ฒ•์ž…๋‹ˆ๋‹ค."๋ผ๊ณ  ๋งํ•ฉ๋‹ˆ๋‹ค. ์‚ฌ์‹คํ˜ผ์ด๋ž€ ๋™๊ฑฐ๋ฅผ ํ•˜๊ณ 
09:21
means that you live together, you're in a relationship, and you're been living together
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, ์—ฐ์• ๋ฅผ ํ•˜๊ณ , ๋™๊ฑฐ๋ฅผ ๊ฝค
09:26
for quite a while. I think, legally, it's six months, but it could be six months to
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์˜ค๋ž˜ ํ–ˆ๋‹ค๋Š” ๋œป์ž…๋‹ˆ๋‹ค. ์ œ ์ƒ๊ฐ์—๋Š” ๋ฒ•์ ์œผ๋กœ๋Š” 6๊ฐœ์›”์ด์ง€๋งŒ 6๊ฐœ์›”์—์„œ 1๋…„์ด ๋  ์ˆ˜๋„ ์žˆ์Šต๋‹ˆ๋‹ค
09:33
a year. So, be careful, maybe you have a boyfriend or a girlfriend and you've been living with
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. ๊ทธ๋Ÿฌ๋‹ˆ ์กฐ์‹ฌํ•˜์„ธ์š”. ๋‚จ์ž ์นœ๊ตฌ ๋‚˜ ์—ฌ์ž ์นœ๊ตฌ๊ฐ€ ์žˆ๊ณ 
09:41
them for six months. So, under the government's eyes-dunh-dunh-dunh-dunh-and they are brutal,
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๊ทธ๋“ค๊ณผ 6๊ฐœ์›” ๋™์•ˆ ๋™๊ฑฐํ–ˆ์„ ์ˆ˜๋„ ์žˆ์Šต๋‹ˆ๋‹ค. ๊ทธ๋ž˜์„œ, ์ •๋ถ€์˜ ๋ˆˆ(dunh-dunh-dunh-dunh) ์•„๋ž˜์„œ ๊ทธ๋“ค์€ ์ž”์ธํ•˜๊ณ ,
09:50
you will become what's known as common-law.
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๋‹น์‹ ์€ ๊ด€์Šต๋ฒ•์œผ๋กœ ์•Œ๋ ค์ง„ ๊ฒƒ์ด ๋  ๊ฒƒ์ž…๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.
09:56
I've also seen one thing here that again, Ronnie-hello-has made a spelling mistake.
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๋‚˜๋Š” ๋˜ํ•œ ์—ฌ๊ธฐ์—์„œ Ronnie-hello-๊ฐ€ ์ฒ ์ž ์‹ค์ˆ˜๋ฅผ ์ €์งˆ๋ €๋‹ค๋Š” ๊ฒƒ์„ ๋‹ค์‹œ ํ•œ ๋ฒˆ ๋ณด์•˜์Šต๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.
10:03
Do you make spelling mistakes? I do. Let me just change something, here. This word: "seperated"
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์ฒ ์ž ์‹ค์ˆ˜๋ฅผ ํ•ฉ๋‹ˆ๊นŒ? ๊ทธ๋ž˜์š”. ์—ฌ๊ธฐ์„œ ๋ญ”๊ฐ€๋ฅผ ๋ฐ”๊พธ๊ฒ ์Šต๋‹ˆ๋‹ค. ์ด ๋‹จ์–ด: "separated"๋Š”
10:11
actually is spelt s-e-p-a-r-a-t-e-d, so always check your spelling, Ronnie.
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์‹ค์ œ๋กœ ์ฒ ์ž๊ฐ€ s-e-p-a-r-a-t-e-d์ด๋ฏ€๋กœ ํ•ญ์ƒ ์ฒ ์ž๋ฅผ ํ™•์ธํ•˜์„ธ์š”, Ronnie. ์ด๊ฒƒ์—
10:23
If you have questions about this, you could ask people.
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๋Œ€ํ•ด ๊ถ๊ธˆํ•œ ์ ์ด ์žˆ์œผ๋ฉด ์‚ฌ๋žŒ๋“ค์—๊ฒŒ ๋ฌผ์–ด๋ณผ ์ˆ˜ ์žˆ์Šต๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.
10:27
But remember: What somebody does behind closed doors is their own business.
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๊ทธ๋Ÿฌ๋‚˜ ๊ธฐ์–ตํ•˜์‹ญ์‹œ์˜ค: ๋ˆ„๊ตฐ๊ฐ€๊ฐ€ ๋‹ซํžŒ ๋ฌธ ๋’ค์—์„œ ํ•˜๋Š” ์ผ์€ ๊ทธ๋“ค ์ž์‹ ์˜ ์ผ์ž…๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.
10:34
And if you're really wondering why that person isn't married, why don't you think about it before asking them?
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๊ทธ๋ฆฌ๊ณ  ๊ทธ ์‚ฌ๋žŒ์ด ์™œ ๊ฒฐํ˜ผํ•˜์ง€ ์•Š์•˜๋Š”์ง€ ์ •๋ง๋กœ ๊ถ๊ธˆํ•˜๋‹ค๋ฉด ๋ฌผ์–ด๋ณด๊ธฐ ์ „์— ์ƒ๊ฐํ•ด ๋ณด๋Š” ๊ฒƒ์ด ์–ด๋–ป์Šต๋‹ˆ๊นŒ?
10:40
Maybe it'll make your life a little bit better.
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์–ด์ฉŒ๋ฉด ๊ทธ๊ฒƒ์€ ๋‹น์‹ ์˜ ์‚ถ์„ ์กฐ๊ธˆ ๋” ์ข‹๊ฒŒ ๋งŒ๋“ค ๊ฒƒ์ž…๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.
10:43
Toodles.
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์ด ์›น์‚ฌ์ดํŠธ ์ •๋ณด

์ด ์‚ฌ์ดํŠธ๋Š” ์˜์–ด ํ•™์Šต์— ์œ ์šฉํ•œ YouTube ๋™์˜์ƒ์„ ์†Œ๊ฐœํ•ฉ๋‹ˆ๋‹ค. ์ „ ์„ธ๊ณ„ ์ตœ๊ณ ์˜ ์„ ์ƒ๋‹˜๋“ค์ด ๊ฐ€๋ฅด์น˜๋Š” ์˜์–ด ์ˆ˜์—…์„ ๋ณด๊ฒŒ ๋  ๊ฒƒ์ž…๋‹ˆ๋‹ค. ๊ฐ ๋™์˜์ƒ ํŽ˜์ด์ง€์— ํ‘œ์‹œ๋˜๋Š” ์˜์–ด ์ž๋ง‰์„ ๋”๋ธ” ํด๋ฆญํ•˜๋ฉด ๊ทธ๊ณณ์—์„œ ๋™์˜์ƒ์ด ์žฌ์ƒ๋ฉ๋‹ˆ๋‹ค. ๋น„๋””์˜ค ์žฌ์ƒ์— ๋งž์ถฐ ์ž๋ง‰์ด ์Šคํฌ๋กค๋ฉ๋‹ˆ๋‹ค. ์˜๊ฒฌ์ด๋‚˜ ์š”์ฒญ์ด ์žˆ๋Š” ๊ฒฝ์šฐ ์ด ๋ฌธ์˜ ์–‘์‹์„ ์‚ฌ์šฉํ•˜์—ฌ ๋ฌธ์˜ํ•˜์‹ญ์‹œ์˜ค.

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