So you're NOT having a baby...

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Hi there.
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I'm Ronnie.
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I've got something to share with you and it's quite personal,
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but it's just the kind of gal I am.
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I am infertile, so that means I cannot have children.
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You're thinking: "Maybe that's a good thing",
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or you're devastated that there'll be no baby
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Ronnies running around.
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Enh, at first I was devastated, but then I came to terms with it and I figured it was
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for the best.
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But there's these other things called other people, and they like a lot to
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ask me questions about it.
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So this lesson is from me, and I'd also like to put a dedication out to this to Melanie.
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This is for you.
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You gave me the inspiration for this video.
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Love you, girl.
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So, in a normal life process people are born, they get a boyfriend, they get a girlfriend,
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they get married, and then-ba, ba, ba, bom-they have a baby.
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But sometimes you don't get the baby.
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So, this lesson is entitled: "You Are Not Pregnant."
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And this is a really big issue with women around the world.
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Every country has different ways of helping or not helping women, so if you're going through
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this, there is lots of help available.
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Stay strong.
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You can do it.
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We have a slang term for the word "pregnant", we say "preggers".
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So, you might hear somebody say: "Oh my god, my best friend is preggers."
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And you say: "Preggers? Is that a person's name?"
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They're just meaning pregnant.
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Okay?
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We also have slang terms to say: "I have a bun in the oven."
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Oh, well, that would be delicious.
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Or: "One in the oven", that means that they are pregnant.
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But this is for everyone who is not pregnant.
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So, we're going to start with a very, very common term.
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Someone might say: "She lost the baby."
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And you think: "How could she lose a baby?
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They're...
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They're going to cry...
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It was...
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How can someone lose a baby?
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They're just... They're babies. How can you lose them?"
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They don't mean that they physically misplaced the baby.
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It means there was a problem, and the problems might be that somebody...
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She, obviously, had a miscarriage.
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"Having a miscarriage" means that after a few months into your pregnancy the baby doesn't survive.
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So it could be...
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We...
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We normally say in Canada that after three months of knowing that you're pregnant, three
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months is pretty much a safe time to let people know that you're going to have a baby.
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But that is no guarantee.
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Sometimes we'll have a miscarriage after three months, god forbid, but if somebody had a
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miscarriage it means that the baby wasn't strong enough to survive and the baby died.
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But it probably wasn't formed yet.
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Even more traumatizing than this is if the baby came to term, so maybe you went past
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the three months, four months, five months, six months, seven months, and what happens
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is you deliver the baby or you have the baby, but the baby's dead.
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This is called a "still birth".
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So the still birth means that the baby survives for the nine weeks up until you're going to
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go into labour and have a baby, but something happens and the baby dies.
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And this is...
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I couldn't imagine.
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Something really heartfelt and tragic.
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There are reasons why people cannot have a baby.
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As I said, I am infertile, this means that there is something wrong with my eggs and
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they're not strong enough to do their magic and their cell reproduction and actually make a baby.
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So I had to go to what's called a "fertility clinic".
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Now, "infertile" is an adjective, and in slang you can say: "She's barren" or some people
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might say: "She's dried up".
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Now, these terms: "barren" and "dried up", you guys must understand that these are slang
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and probably not really cool to say to the person who is infertile.
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If you want to talk to them about it, cool, but it's better to just say they're infertile.
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"Barren" or "dried up" we would make jokes with.
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What happens when you go to a fertility clinic is many different things, but the first thing
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that they do is they put you on fertility drugs.
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Now, these are pills or some kind of drugs that you can take to help you in whatever
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your problem is.
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There could be a problem with your eggs, there could be a problem with the inside of your
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body.
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What happens after that if that doesn't work is they will inseminate you, so they will
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take a sperm and an egg, and they'll put it inside your body and you will grow a beautiful baby.
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Now, for me, I wasn't having any of this.
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So I went to a fertility clinic, and they said: "Take these drugs",
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and I said: "No thank you", so I don't have any baby Ronnies.
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To the extreme, some people get pregnant and they don't want the baby.
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Now, millions of people have arguments and wars...
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Not wars. Arguments and really, really heated debates over this word called "abortion".
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Now, "abortion" means that the mother chooses or somebody chooses to actually not have the
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baby, so what they do is they kill the baby.
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It's the person's choice.
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So people like to give other people their opinion on what they think the pregnant girl
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should do with the baby.
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So, for example, somebody might say:
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"Abortion is wrong and bad. You should not get an abortion."
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Or: "You should get an abortion, that's terrible."
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If you're pregnant, it is your decision.
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You have to remember that it's your life and you do what you want to do.
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If you want to have an abortion, have an abortion.
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If you want to keep it, keep your baby.
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In slang, you might hear your friends say this who are boys: "She took care of it."
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So, when they say: "She took care of it", this is slang to mean that she had an abortion.
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And if you say: "She took care of what?"
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that's when you realize: "Oh, yeah, okay, she had an abortion."
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In Canada abortion is legal up until a certain time period.
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I don't know when it is.
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Probably, I don't know, three months, two months, I'm not too sure.
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So once again, it's a really, really, really hot topic, which means people get really upset
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about it and have really strong views.
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So my word of advice to you is: Let people do what they want to do.
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You have an opinion on abortion, I have an opinion on abortion.
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Keep it to yourself, because you cannot tell other people what to do with their life.
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On the man's side, sometimes there's a problem with the boy.
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Hmm, yay.
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It's not only the girl.
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Sometimes the guy has a problem.
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So what happens with a guy is he...
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He's got or he has...
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You can say that.
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He has a low sperm count.
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Now, "sperm", if you didn't know are...
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They're not fish.
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They...
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Sperm are little things that come out of the boy's penis.
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Look at me being a sex ed teacher again.
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So, sperm are what the males produce to have a baby.
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So the magic of childbirth is the man has the sperm, and through magic of sex the sperm
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find their way up and they find the woman's egg.
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Yay.
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And if the sperm and the egg are strong enough, they will form together and they will make
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a baby.
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Magic.
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But sometimes the sperm are lazy or there's a low sperm count, which means the sperm aren't
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strong enough to reach the egg, or they reach the egg but they're not strong enough to reproduce.
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So, in medical terms we say: "He has" or "He's got a low sperm count".
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Now, as you guys probably know, guys love to joke about their sperm count.
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Maybe they don't.
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So we have words like: "He's shooting blanks."
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Bam-bam.
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So, if somebody's shooting blanks it means that they have a low sperm count or their
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sperm can't reproduce.
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We also say something like: "He's got slow swimmers."
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So, the sperm, we say that they swim to the egg.
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Hmm, I guess his sperm are a wee bit lazy, and if they're slow swimmers they die before
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they get to the egg.
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If you're dealing with any of these issues or any of these problems,
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please talk to someone about it, and you're not alone in this.
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If you have any questions, ask people who know.
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People will help you.
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That's all for now.
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See ya later. I'm Ronnie.
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