How to Get Unstuck When Speaking English - Advanced English Listening Practice - 73

hi there I'm drew badger of the world's

number one english fluency guide and it

is a pleasure to welcome you to another

advanced listening practice lesson in

this video i wanted to talk about

something that's actually one of the

most important questions are one of the

biggest or most commonly asked questions

I receive from learners and this is how

can I continue to speak fluently without

getting stuck now the reason people get

stuck there and I like to kind of go

through the the source of things you can

understand what's really happening

because there are two ways to solve

something one is like the kind of

putting a band-aid over the problem

right now and we can kind of help you do

that in this video a short-term solution

that will help you a little bit but

really the important long-term solution

and i'll talk about the long-term

solution first is really going back to

the source of why you struggle when you

speak so let's talk about that first

now the problem that people have is and

this even happens to me sometimes when

i'm trying to speak Japanese and i'll be

seeing something and maybe I can't quite

think of something it's like maybe I'd

even practice the word before so I

learned the word and then in the

conversations god I can't remember what

it was

so it could be there's again many

reasons why it can happen and this is

why it's important to think about what's

happening in that time is it a word you

know that you just forgot or is it a

word that you didn't learn before or is

it something that you just actually it's

like a like a phrase or a whole idea

that you just don't know how to explain

because you never learned how to do that

thing so it could be again something you

learn before and you forgot it or you

never learned it in the first place and

the reason why people often get stuck

is it could be again one of those

reasons or maybe you're thinking it

could be about using the grammar for

that particular phrase so you might know

how to say something but the grammar

becomes maybe the kind of sticking point

or the thing that stops you from being

able to communicate or it could be

thinking about your pronunciation or

anything else but people get stuck in

conversations for a number of reasons

and typically the reason why that

happens if we're going from the

conversation back to the source of the

problem it's because of how

we learned and when people are going

from the kind of traditional way that

people would learn English and they're

coming to my way of learning English

it's much more thinking about developing

habits as opposed to learning specific

things and obviously learn like all of

the ways of expressing yourself the

maybe particular phrases and expressions

like slang and ATMs you learn all those

things as you learn with me but you

learn them through the native way of

learning and you do that by developing

the right English fluency habits so

instead of just trying to learn all

these different pieces of information

and then think you will magically put

them together in a conversation in your

head it doesn't work that way so that's

why you have you know people that can

learn all this information but then when

they get in the actual conversation like

they run out of things to say so they

lose their words or they get stuck they

feel I I just don't know what to say for

the next thing so always try to go back

the real long-term solution to this is

actually to develop the habits that let

you speak effortlessly they let you

speak automatically that let you let you

speak fluently and continuously so all

of these things come from developing the

correct English fluency habits and

that's why these are so important to

develop but the kind of short-term

thinking if we want to get into that

because i know people want to know right

now how can I like start speaking more

and just not really worried so much

about that really the two things that

you can do number one you can relax more

in a conversation because really the

nervousness that appears in the

conversation really is the main

contributor especially when people know

the information already but they forget

it in conversation so maybe you were

practicing something but then the

opportunity arises in a conversation to

use that and you're feeling nervous and

it just doesn't come to your mind at

that time so the more you can relax and

the best way to relax really is just to

remember he like

so what if I make a mistake it's okay

like I'm just speaking with people or as

i mentioned in a previous video in this

series you can actually admit you're

feeling a little bit nervous and that's

ok so if you admit that and you just

talk about how you're feeling nervous

what kind of at the beginning of the

conversation like you know just talked

about maybe your feelings like today I'm

feeling a little bit i'm feeling a

little bit nervous and maybe it's about

this

conversation or something else but you

know if I forget something like this

probably the reason for it

so when you're feeling more relaxed and

conversations and you don't try to force

the language like even right now as I'm

speaking i have a general topic I'd like

to talk about but I'm not reading

anything for these lessons I don't have

any particular order in which i'd like

to say things I'm just naturally

speaking now typically my mind is

slightly ahead of what i'm trying to say

but generally I really just have kind of

a general idea of what i like to say and

then I let the words just come out and

this is what I'm trying to train you to

do as you're listening to these lessons

and in lessons like master English

conversation where we show you how the

language works and then how people

actually start using it such that you

can answer things in conversations or

just speak about whatever you like in

affluent way so again the relaxing thing

like I'm very relaxed when I do this I

really love helping people learn and I

like even getting to speak in front of

groups of people i remember not that

long ago I was giving a speech in

japanese and english at a friend of

Mines wedding and it was like I could

feel like the nervousness come up for me

but I was like excited about that

because i was really happy to get out

and speak and maybe like tell a few

jokes and make some people enjoy their

meal and their evening much more so i

was really happy to do that even if I

felt nervous or even if you feel nervous

in a particular situation you don't let

that stop you from you know actually

trying to trying to speak you you make

note of that you let people know about

the nervousness that you're feeling or

you make it clear for yourself and then

that helps you relax more in

conversations so again make it clear

number one or just remember like okay so

what if I make a mistake it's ok the

other thing you can do really the second

kind of tactical thing you can do to

improve the way you speak in your

fluency is if you kind of use your

fluency in the way that I'm speaking

right now you think about it as water

that's moving down like a mountainside

something like that so water is very

lazy and water is trying to move in like

maybe a particular way or another we're

another place and if it gets to a

particular location where it stops then

maybe the water

pools up like you've got a river and

then the water moves down over something

else but water doesn't go uphill it

doesn't go anywhere else where it would

have to require any effort it's really

just taking the laziest path and that's

what I'm really doing when I'm speaking

like this so i don't have again a clear

path about where i want to go i'm just

letting the the flow of my words come

out in a natural way

so let's say I wanted to talk about

penguins like right now I'm just

thinking about this idea of talking

about penguins now I have no idea I have

no plan talk about penguins but maybe I

can envision a penguin in my mind I'm

thinking about where they live and i

began to just get associations about ok

we have a story of a penguin and he's

walking he's on the snow and he's

hopping around and talking to other

penguins and again this is just a silly

example but it's a way a kind of kind of

way of practicing where you just think

of something and then get the visual

idea of it in your mind and then let

your mind i'll create the words that

come from that so if you can relax and

then maybe you don't know exactly how to

express something so maybe I don't know

how to express something I want to say

in Japanese I have a general idea i just

relax and maybe let the expression come

out in a slightly different way and then

if i'm speaking with someone i'll say

hey is this a good way to say it or if

they laugh at me and say oh like I guess

I didn't pronounce that correctly or I

didn't say that correctly what would be

a better way to say that

so if I'm if I'm open and honest with my

own mistakes than other people relax

more as well and they're happy to tell

me about how you shouldn't say it that

way you should stay in a different way

now if you're speaking with people and

they're nervous about trying to correct

you or something because you you have to

take that opportunity first to say hey

like I want to improve or if they laugh

at you just say all like what was funny

about that like you really want to know

so you're not angry you're not

frustrated you're just you're like

excited all like here's an opportunity

for me to learn something and so the

more you're getting excited about that

the more you're able to help other

people kind of enjoy the conversation

with you so the whole conversation

becomes better so in the short term

think about relaxing and think about how

you can just say kind of what you want

to say and I've given this example

before about phrasal verbs specifically

so let's say I have this

this bottle of water right here and

maybe you don't know exactly the way to

talk about like doing this action and

i'm going to let water come out of the

bottle into my hand now maybe you don't

know exactly how to say that but you

could say like turn the bottle and water

falls out of the bottle something like

that so that's a good way to express it

but if you're talking with a native

speaker they might say oh you tip over

or tip the bottle so you tip the bottle

and you pour out the water so it's a

similar way of expressing it but it's

more natural in native way that native

speakers would use and these are the

kinds of things that you develop in a

conversation the actual conversation is

where you develop your fluency and this

is where a lot of students miss the

whole point of being able to develop

fluency because they think fluency is

built outside of the conversation they

think okay I'm learning all of these

words and phrases and then like all use

them when i get into the conversation

like no no it doesn't work that way it

works as a thing that you develop in the

conversation itself so this is how you

develop conversational fluency and this

is why we call it conversational fluency

as opposed to like book-learning fluency

so it's not about ok i remembered all

these words and i can use them all when

I'm just talking to myself but I when I

get into a real conversation i forget

what i want to say for the words you

know they escaped my mind or you know I

get stuck whatever way you want to

express it

so in the conversation itself again the

more you can relax the more you let your

words flow like water much the more easy

it is for you to become a more confident

speaker because you're not worrying

about things and you're actually giving

the other person the opportunity to

improve with you and to have better

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