How to Overcome Fear When Speaking English - Advanced English Listening Practice - 71

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hi there I'm drew badger the world's
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number one english fluency guide and it
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is a pleasure to welcome you to another
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advanced listening practice lesson I
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hope you're excited for this one this
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should be an interesting lesson well I
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try to make them all interesting but
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this video in particular and I guess I
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say that all the time too i'm trying to
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make everything interesting and fun and
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hopefully you learn a lot from these
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lessons
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incidentally if there are any things or
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any s anything anything's if there are
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other things you'd like to learn or
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anything specifically maybe you need
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help with you can just comment down
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questions I was also thinking about
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is but if you're interested in something
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like that I might have a live lesson
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here on youtube if you'd be interested
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do let me know in the comments section
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below and all think about doing that so
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it might be like a chance for just you
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asking questions like a question/answer
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kind of thing or anything else if you
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have a particular things that you like
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to know more about anyway in this lesson
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what I wanted to talk about was the
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emotions that you feel this is really
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more of a lesson for people that feel
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nervous about speaking for whatever
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reason and fluency is such an
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interesting thing really for me because
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it's like a tangled web a tangled knot
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of many different things that come
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together like being able to use grammar
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correctly or having good pronunciation
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being able to understand native speakers
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being able to use correct vocabulary or
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native sounding vocabulary when you
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speak so you don't have that kind of
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textbook robotic kind of way of speech
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speaking i should say so all these
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things these are the seven fluency
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habits that come together and as you
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develop them they all improve each other
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and help you become a more confident
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speaker but what's interesting is that
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you can also think about the emotional
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side of how you learn when you're
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speaking and if you're aware of this
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thing what what kind of typically people
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will do they get into a situation like
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myself i had the same problem so when I
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was first starting to speak Japanese and
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I was really bad at it
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and i would go into conversations and I
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wouldn't want to say anything so people
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would kind of you know maybe like a
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group of people standing around maybe
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some other foreigners they also spoke
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much better than I did and also we've
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got some Japanese people so maybe just
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imagine a party and there's a group of
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people standing there I'm kind of
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listening and not really understanding
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everything but being also a little bit
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shy so I don't want anybody to look at
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me and say hey what do you think about
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this and I'm like I i can't speak about
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that because i can't speak Japanese very
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well so i could feel very nervous in
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those situations and a lot of times i
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would see a group of people standing
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there and I really i would kind of sit
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and listen just to practice my listening
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a little bit but i would be really
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nervous about trying to get into that
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situation so even just standing in front
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of a group of people or with a group of
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people was intimidating for me and I
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think it's important that I understand
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and I try to help you understand now
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with this video that you should really
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embrace so to embrace to welcome this
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feeling the kind of negative emotions
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are the things that you feel that fear
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that appears when you're in a situation
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where you have to speak or if in kind of
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any situation where maybe you're
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listening to something you don't quite
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understand something the more you
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embrace the fear the more you welcome
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that and you're honest with that
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especially when you're mentioning that
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to other people and that's more of what
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I started doing as I became fluent so
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when I was first doing it the kind of
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natural reaction is you feel fear about
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okay i don't wanna say anything wrong so
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I'm not going to speak I don't want to
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miss pronounce a word or show that i'm
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making a mistake so I'm just not going
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to say anything so this is the path it
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stops you because there's no way you can
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make progress unless you actually say
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something so you have to it's it's a
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thing you train like getting into the
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gym and build muscle or learning to
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practice an instrument learning to play
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an instrument so you actually you
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actually have to play the instrument or
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get into the gym and train if you want
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to get muscles or develop fluency in an
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instrument so in my case the first step
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was kind of just feeling really nervous
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about
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wanted to speak and so I wanted to
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express myself and I think well in
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english i'm like a very smart person I
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guess I have things to say in like maybe
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I can say something interesting in the
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conversation but in Japanese when i was
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first trying to speak I couldn't say
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anything so I was just like I don't
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really know what to do and I was just
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feeling nervous about that but the
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second phase is recognizing ok like let
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me think about this and like the the
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real confidence comes from it meeting
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that you do feel nervous because
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everybody does so the one person that
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can say all like you have my Japanese is
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not very good but I'd like to try to say
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something anyway so like I'm feeling
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nervous or you can even say you know if
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somebody else like let's say you're
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talking with them and maybe you might
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think you're being annoying by trying to
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talk with somebody else i know i felt
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that way especially like Japanese
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speakers like they couldn't quite
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understand what I was saying but I was
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trying to express myself anyway and so I
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i might say to them like I know like I'm
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getting the feeling that maybe you're
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you're feeling like a little bit annoyed
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by me so I'm sorry about that I'm guess
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I'm not apologizing for my language I'm
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just saying my intention is not to make
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you feel nervous so I mean I'm trying to
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express this in Japanese but the point
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is either i'm thinking about my own
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emotions and just trying to be honest
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about them or be honest about my
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emotions for myself and then tell that
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to other people so i might say oh I'm
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I'm a little bit nervous so I was just
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practicing that like oh I'm I'm nervous
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but I like I own that nervousness
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oh WN to own that so i feel kind of a
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sense of pride because I by admitting
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that I'm nervous I'm able to take the
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next step and it's a hard thing to do
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now the reason that you should do this
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is because everybody knows you're
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nervous already it's easy to see and you
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recognize it so by not seeing anything
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you're not really hiding anything from
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other people so you might as well do the
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opposite you might as well say oh I'm
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sorry I'm feeling a little bit nervous
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right now so you don't have to complain
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about your language or apologize for
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your language ability to say oh I'm
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feeling a little bit nervous or again
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the opposite
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that I was just talking about where
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you're describing maybe the emotion that
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the other person is feeling so we easily
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recognize these emotions in each other
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and if we again we can be honest about
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that either for the other person or for
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ourselves then it's much easier to
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explain to that thing or kind of open up
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the conversation make it much more
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relaxing and comfortable situation in
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which speak so in my case when again
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that the first step was I was too
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nervous to say anything anything but
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everybody knew I was nervous anyway so I
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wasn't hiding from anything I'm just
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standing there like AB feeling nervous
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and I don't want to speak but then the
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next step is ok i'm going to just I'm
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going to own that nervousness and if I
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communicate that to other people then
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it's going to help me speak much more
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confidently and then that's exactly what
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happened so after a while I became more
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confident about speaking so I feel like
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the nervousness I I recognize it as just
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a physical sensation in my body okay
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like I'm feeling maybe like my chest or
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my stomach and I'm feelin myself getting
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a little bit nervous and I would just
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tell that people say hey I'm feeling a
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little bit nervous right now but I'm
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excited to be in this conversation into
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practice my English or practice my
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japanese in that case so you can do the
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exact same thing especially if you're
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feeling nervous about either what you're
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feeling or what you think other people
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are feeling so be honest about that and
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and try to bring it up as part of the
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conversation again either admitting how
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you feeling to say hey I'm feeling
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nervous or you're talking to other
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people and saying oh I feel that maybe
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you're you're like annoyed by me i'm not
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trying to do that I'm just trying to
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communicate with you because I feel I
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could like help you do something or i'd
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like to learn from you or something like
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that and then you'll watch magically how
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the conversation changes and how you
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feel like much more relaxed it's like
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you you're it's like you're carrying a
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bunch of bricks and then you put them
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down and you can finally enjoy the
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conversation much more so when you're
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thinking about your conversations if
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you're the kind of person that does get
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nervous you want to say something but
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you don't then owned that nervousness
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you because it's not it's not going to
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go away until you admit that
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it's there and then you can see oh hello
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nervousness like there you are ok we'll
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buy you know so youyou kind of admit
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that the nervousness is there and then
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you you make that a point of the
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conversation and you can even talk about
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that like you can ask the other person
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like hey have you ever been nervous
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about you know something like that as
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well like how did you eliminate the
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nervousness and then you can talk about
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that actual thing but then it becomes
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like not you but your kind of talking
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about
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it's like you're removing it for you
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from yourself and discussing it like
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it's a separate thing and then you say
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bye to that thing anyway uh think about
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that and try to apply that in your own
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life so again either for your own
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emotions or when you're getting a
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certain feeling from someone else about
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how they maybe you're thinking or
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feeling then you can talk about that be
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honest about that and you'll be
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surprised at how quickly the
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conversation changes and how quickly and
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got gets more confident you feel when
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you're in conversations with people
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well that's the end of this lesson I
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hope you have enjoyed it to apply what
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you're learning in this and the other
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videos in this series as well as
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everything else I've tried to I think I
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give too much information actually you
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can let me know in the comments below if
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I'm trying to like teach you too much
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try to help you learn too much for me
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I'm always trying to learn something new
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always trying to improve and if you
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apply that same philosophy to your own
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life you will notice amazing improvement
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and not only your fluency but everything
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else in your life will have a gig great
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day to enjoy your day do you own any of
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the negative feelings of fear or
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nervousness or embarrassment you might
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have owned those make it a part of the
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conversation and you will feel your
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confidence growing much more quickly
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have a fantastic day and I will see you
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in the next video bye-bye to continue
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This site will introduce you to YouTube videos that are useful for learning English. You will see English lessons taught by top-notch teachers from around the world. Double-click on the English subtitles displayed on each video page to play the video from there. The subtitles scroll in sync with the video playback. If you have any comments or requests, please contact us using this contact form.

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